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pumkin26 · pumkin26

Yesterday I felt myself wallowing in self-pity and martyrdom. I was in an out of staying present and wallowing. In my truth it was ME that was struggling and although I had certain triggers from my A, it was more me- feeling sorry for myself. I was lucky enough to know a friend at my first F2F meeting and sh...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

God grant me the serenity to except the things I can not change The courage to change the the things I can And the wisdom to know the difference. My son is back in a terrible place. He can't cope with life on Life's terms so he has 3 choices....sobriety, prison or death.

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Hello All! I am where I thought I would never be again. On the Merry-go-round. Again. Even though I have a lot of venting to do, this post will be some history. Six years ago I found out my H was a meth addict. Fun. The 3 years prior was so hellish, that I was planning on leaving him with my then 10 year-old son....

lookingup · lookingup

I had gotten away from my readings of ctc and odat last several days,gotten myself way off center.im not perfect and won't be in this life I'm striving each day.i get sidetracked with other things like I get caught up with freinds shopping what not. guess I got a one track mind on one thing ,as I'm been bra...

Jubilantgirl · Jubilantgirl

Hello everyone, I'm new to this board and so happy to have found you all. Started practicing the 12 steps again, after about a 10 year hiatus. I thought I could do it all on my own and forgot about the 12 steps. This left me with 10 years of uncovered anger, rage, resentment towards both parents (who are a...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

Of someone trying to detox? My A is currently been out with a flu. He has medication for it....for some reason I started to wonder if his body was "trying" to detox. Yes I know he can not do it on his own. I'm just wondering because I know how much he normally drinks and hasn't had any in over a week. It has to be...

MissM · MissM

So I'm back with My Him. I expect this information to be met with deathly silence. Also this post is mostly about him. Sorry. My mother came to see me the other day and I told her. She was surprisingly not discouraging. She said, well, he obviously loves you Melissa, but he's uncontrollable. But you love...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone-- Today's reading is about how powerful our attitude is and where it can take us. Many of us gravitate toward the familiar, which depending on our circumstances, may not always be the healthiest for us. Any of us that either grew up in an alcoholic family, married into one, or ha...

El · El

It is 3:15 am. I woke up and immediately started replaying scenes from a family gathering yesterday which made/make me so angry. So, I have been reciting the serenity prayer like a mantra along with steps 1-3. I know I can't carry this into tomorrow, as it will be a new day. AH's siblings were over yest...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

Frustrating! Living with an active A, is to, say the least, and polietly, frustrating. I try so hard to practice the pause, before I say things I normally would. Even when he is dry, I pause before I respond to something completely stupid he has said. Like last night, we had been having a decent conversa...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading focuses on the spiritual nature of our Higher Power (HP). We are encouraged to choose a HP of our own understanding, a god as we are familiar with or simply a program concept. What gives it power as a spiritual concept is our willingness to humbly acknowledge something greater and more...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T reading for March 19 speaks about living one day at a time. It points out that Al-Anon is a 24 hour programso that by living in this manner we receive the comfort and assurance that we need in the moment and in the day and do not burden ourselves with the woes of the past or worries of the fut...

Rickbrins · Rickbrins

Today I am cleaning our house and preparing for my loves release from her 90 day program. I have hope and trust in both my HP and hers that she will return home in a much better state than when she left. I want great things for us both, I want that future that looked so bright years ago but seemed impossible on...

Rickbrins · Rickbrins

Ok, so I clearly have had far too much time to myself in that dangerous section of my mind.... I have been very happy, my AGF has been in her 90 day inpatient program and appears to be doing very well, Her release date is tentatively scheduled for Monday (More about that later) and I am thrilled that she...

Isthisreallife · Isthisreallife

This is my first time here. My husband is a high functioning alcoholic. He admits it but won't get help. We've been married almost 7 years and he's been this way for 4 1/2. We have two children and I try my hardest to keep them shielded but they're getting old enough to notice. I'm so fed up I don't know what t...

laketime · laketime

Greetings. Not really sure where to start. Husband of 19 years is an alcoholic. Hides it well, most of our friends don't have a clue....at least I don't think they do. Things have worsened as of late. We have 2 kids. I'm so tired of being "on guard" all the time and getting that sick-in-the-pit-of...

Lyne · Lyne

About two hours ago, I had the most ridiculous , circular, and unproductive discussion with my A. There is no logic, reasoning, understanding, or progress. It's almost as though I am speaking to someone who doesn't know English. The good news is that I stayed calm, didn't fight, didn't walk away,...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I had a big discussion in the past with a therapist who I truly adored .. he is a man in his 70's who speaks my language .. LOL .. he's very easy to love and he reminded me how easy I am to love .. even if I did try to wear a cactus suit from time to time. I miss our talks a great deal. He kept using the word helpless w...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T reading for March 18 speaks about how living with the disease of alcoholism our thinking truly becomes distorted and we learn to place the responsibility for our problems on the alcoholic and on others. In Al-Anon we are learning to look squarely at each difficulty not trying to blame it on ot...

Sorcha · Sorcha

Hi all. So the alcoholic in my life is sober about a week after a 5 week vodka binge. As always, it took him to death's door before he was able to stop, but that's not what this post is about, I have got that I am powerless over the drinking. I just want to share what's been going on for me since he sobered up. Thi...

el-cee · el-cee

My reaction to disappointment is improving and im becoming better at recognising my distorted thought processes and being able to see my part. I do however need time to sit with it process it discuss it with my sponsor or another alanon person and tweek out the truth of it. If I dont get this time I can be c...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning and happy St. Patrick's Day for those who celebrate! Today's reading starts by suggesting no problem lasts forever. No matter how it seems, this too shall pass. Difficult situations often bring out qualities we might not realize we have - courage, faith and need for help from others....

Iamhere · Iamhere

I made mention in the daily thread that today is my baby's birthday. He's now 23 years old. I had also mentioned that he was to come over for dinner. I did go about my day - meeting, grocery store, and then back home to cook. As it happens with us, I had a nudge most of last evening and a bit this morning abou...

Shorty77 · Shorty77

Last night my AH asked me if I had a sponsor yet? I've only been to one face to face meeating. I did call a woman I had met at the meeting in regards to what meetings she finds good. Just cause he found his sponsor the first couple of week, doesn't mean I wil. Part of me is like what's it any of your business? He is...

msjuliet · msjuliet

My entire life Ive clung to illusions that if I worked really hard, dreamed BIG, expected more of myself somehow I wouldnt end up like my family. For the last several years, my career and recovery have been my identity, not to mention the adversity Ive experienced in the midst, with the loss of the young...

lookingup · lookingup

Good morning Everybody,Beautiful Day it is, Im been wondering if mip online meetings have changed places? Or maybe slowed down due to xyz. or I'm just been missing them altogether,I dunno,plz if someone can fill me in,thank you so much in advance. reaching out with plenty of hugs ,smiles,I Love you...

Rickbrins · Rickbrins

Today is the second day of getting out and actually doing over night trips for work. I know it is easier with her still in her 90 day inpatient program, but this is just a reminder that I can do this and I can enjoy it. When she gets out next week, I will have a couple of weeks before I will have to do this again...

pumkin26 · pumkin26

So two days in a row. What struck me as I finally crawled out of my wallowing is that I think I am still sick, and I am definitely tired. So maybe that is why I've had two days of slipping right back to square 1. Tonight he wanted to see the boys (never me- yes it hurts, I am working on it) he comes over, plops down...

T_Puppington · T_Puppington

Hi everyone. I've been married to an alcoholic for 6.5 years It started to become a problem about 5.5 years ago when I got pregnant and my husband started ramping up his drinking. I don't think I can adequately convey the feelings disappointment and horror of coming home with a 6 month old in tow, seein...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have to laugh at myself I am finally feeling back to normal which I don't know good thing or not .. lol. It means I'm a whole lot more ornerier which sometimes is good and not so good in moments where my inappropriate humor comes flying through .. if I didn't have my horribly warped humor I wouldn't have m...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

My A is trying/pretending not to have drinks. It's been almost 2 weeks now, and there has been one time that I'm 99.9% sure he had drinks before he came home. At home he doesn't....there's nothing in the house....he drank it all when he went on his full drunk that lasted days. I'm finding I don't know ho...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses how hard it can be to see our progress in recovery. For those of us who have operated with high expectations, it's even more difficult. When we expect our negative attitudes and unhealthy behaviors to change fast and completely, we are going to be disappointed - progress...

Aerin · Aerin

Hi all, I'm back posting again. My ABF is now 7 months into AA. For the most part I would say he is doing very well. You can see how AA is helping. However, he has had quite a few slips, especially in the last month or so. He does jump right back into the program the next day. He use to go every day, but I kind...

pumkin26 · pumkin26

I am reeling right now. So instead of engaging and allowing my anger to bubble up and cause me to retaliate I am here, venting to you all. My AH has had the flu since the weekend. I posted earlier in the week, unsure if he was truly sick or not. I am still not sure. Might have had the flu, might actually be in wit...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page considers forgiveness...One member admitted seeing it before AlAnon as power, as a judgement passed down from a position of authority, a false display of grace intended to emphasize the other's wrong; publicly forgiving but never forgetting. A healthy perspective with the help of A...

Tannersmom · Tannersmom

I am so grateful that my HP sent me a bit of peace yesterday. It was a day of stress and drama. I prayed for his will; on my way home an eagle flew right over my car. Mind you I was in the city so sighting an eagle is very very rare. It flew low and I swear it looked at me . I was at peace, I knew right then an ther...

Bri58 · Bri58

My husband of 4 years has been an alcoholic for over 2 years now. It's such a long story but after dropping out of an impatient program he is in an iop now. We fight...... He gets nasty...... Fight in front of the kids..... Is controlling and overbearing. I coddle the kids and my ways are always wrong. I cou...

a4l · a4l

I don't always agree with society on this one. So, the kids and i remain safe and are doing our best to stay positive though the wordless anger hits me at times as we go through the system. It hits me and at the same time i mentally hit myself for being ungrateful. Lol. So my thoughts initially were, proba...

SaraLin · SaraLin

I broke up with alcoholic boyfriend about a month ago but gave him another chance after he promised to get help. I went and picked him up after we decided to reconcile and he was in bad shape after a 3 day bender. I felt so worried for him. He showed signs of improvement but then failed to follow through wi...

shrnp · shrnp

Some of you know that my ex-alcoholic boyfriend was very sick and had to go to a nursing home. He had hepatitis but the kind you can recover from. He also has cirrhosis of the liver. Anyhow, he had malnutrition from drinking and throwing up so much. That caused him to get Wernicke's encephalopathy. He...

vvv · vvv

As some of you know my ex abf and I still talk, and yet I'm not really sure why (probably because I'm still in love with the man I fell in love with). Anyways, it's getting to the point with our relationship that I have no longer accepted his inappropriate verbally abusive ( you stupid "b"***, if you cared y...

Living Free · Living Free

My ex of 25 yrs was found dead in his home with an almost empty half gal of whiskey by his side. An autopsy was not done and cause of death is going down as a heart attack. I am so confused by the rush of emotions I am feeling. Divorce is a sort of continuation. I always knew he was out there somewhere. Deat...

Ceelee · Ceelee

My AH has been sober for about 4 months. I've been working my recovery hard. We talk a lot about our relationship and trust. I've never trusted him from day one. He is a compulsive liar. He lies about every and anything. So in order to stay in this marriage trust has to be addressed. Well he stole money from...

Tannersmom · Tannersmom

Just asking for prayers today; what a roller coaster this stupid disease is. Rough roads ahead and trying to take one day at a time.Thank you!Beth

Connie Sue · Connie Sue

I recently have started hearing the terms, "Qualifier," "Codependent," and "Enabler" in my Al-Anon meetings. Are those appropriate terms to be used in Al-Anon? I know that when I had counseling before I started attending Al-Anon, I heard those terms used all the time and even read literature tha...

Marie71 · Marie71

I am currently separated from my husband of 20+ yrs due to his alcoholism, drug use, emotional and mental abuse and two affairs. I know I have many issues as a result of being in an abusive/alcoholic marriage. I can now see that even though my soon to be ex and I have been separated for two years, many of t...

Rickbrins · Rickbrins

My AGF will be home from her program for the weekend and then in 10 days she will most likely be coming home for good. Right now I am fairly relaxed, although there have been a few triggers coming from family. I am very scared of how things will be when she gets out. She seems to be in a very good mental stat...

Shorty77 · Shorty77

Last weekend my AH went with his sponsor and others to a convention. I asked him how it was? Said it was great, learned a lot, but now all he talks about is how our marriage maunt not last!! WTF! Anyone else have a partner in recovery and the marriage has lasted? We have been married for 17 years. I'm in this f...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

as usual, im in the dark as to why my HP leads me in one direction or another. Being nearly out of money,still umemployed, im moving into my boyfriend's house. what a very different direction then what i planned 1 and 1/2 yrs ago when i left XAH. Been going through a variety of emotions. on one hand, i have b...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- I hope all who are affected by the blizzard are warm, safe and have plenty of food. Today's reading is about how the 12 steps can be put into four categories: Giving up (steps 1-3 giving up the illusion that we can control the A and manage life w out the help of recovery); Owning up (...

Marie71 · Marie71

The people I live with are also considered family, we are very close. However, today the electric co. came with the final notice that winter shut off protection ends today. D said she would pay the bill tomorrow. Problem is, they have been spending money on dinners, clothes etc. I am trying to 'let i...

Tannersmom · Tannersmom

Well, AS moved back with his Dad. Dad got him a job and is driving him to work and my dad is picking him up. AS does not have a car and so many points on his license that he can't afford insurance yet. He managed to work a whole week. It has been 9 months since he last worked. He is staying apart from his AGF a...

Iamhere · Iamhere

link....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=huf1UlSh_LY

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

or lack of it .. I have been ill for the past week and today is honestly the first day at my job I feel like a real person vs a zombie watching the clock .. ugh. I have a LOT of financial responsibilities going on at the moment with birthday's, two important ones .. one is 13 and the other is 18. My daughter is g...

a4l · a4l

Just a quick reminder to myself as per the subject line. Choosing a marriage to an alcoholic kept me safe from dealing with life. Turns out life is inevitable and must eventually be confronted. However this time around, as i face life again, as life intends, i give myself permission to be excused from...

pumkin26 · pumkin26

So it has been a rough week. I wasn't able to attend online meetings or even attend the one in person meeting (my first one) last week bc I caught the flu. Awful. Anyways my active A was out of town for work and I heard from him off and on Friday, but Friday evening- nothing. All day Saturday- nothing (I didn'...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page mentions what may once have been common, everyday feelings: discomfort when our qualifiers arrive home late, concern about where they are in their program, and fear and anger that come with the assumption they've returned to drinking. Fortunately, that is not AlAnon thinking. With t...

Rickbrins · Rickbrins

Jealousy is a skin I would like to shed, acceptance and understanding is a much better look. I often read about how other Al-anoners feel jealousy with their qualifiers frequent attendance at AA, well I am starting to feel some of that now myself. Between AA meetings and her less than accepting famil...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Boardhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63332514/alanon-s...

Mikhail · Mikhail

I was listening to a recovery related podcast this afternoon and one of the speakers said [and I paraphrase] "When I try to control things in situations when I have no control, I have no energy to change the things that I can change." I hadn't thought about it that way. It makes a lot of sense. How can I be pr...

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	Being Easy on Me... (Preview) Yesterday I felt myself wallowing in self-pity and martyrdom. I was in an out of staying present and wallowing. In my truth it was ME that was struggling and although I had certain triggers from my A, it was more me- feeling sorry for myself. I was lucky enough to know a friend at my first F2F meeting and sh...	pumkin26	7	522	Mar 22, 2017 by Iamhere
	It has started again (Preview) God grant me the serenity to except the things I can not change The courage to change the the things I can And the wisdom to know the difference. My son is back in a terrible place. He can't cope with life on Life's terms so he has 3 choices....sobriety, prison or death.	Cathyinaz	17	1508	Mar 22, 2017 by Cathyinaz
	Well, I'm Back (Preview) Hello All! I am where I thought I would never be again. On the Merry-go-round. Again. Even though I have a lot of venting to do, this post will be some history. Six years ago I found out my H was a meth addict. Fun. The 3 years prior was so hellish, that I was planning on leaving him with my then 10 year-old son....	PosiesandPuppies	8	539	Mar 21, 2017 by Jerry F
	Daily readings (Preview) I had gotten away from my readings of ctc and odat last several days,gotten myself way off center.im not perfect and won't be in this life I'm striving each day.i get sidetracked with other things like I get caught up with freinds shopping what not. guess I got a one track mind on one thing ,as I'm been bra...	lookingup	3	2246	Mar 21, 2017 by lookingup
	Resentment towards alcoholic parents (Preview) Hello everyone, I'm new to this board and so happy to have found you all. Started practicing the 12 steps again, after about a 10 year hiatus. I thought I could do it all on my own and forgot about the 12 steps. This left me with 10 years of uncovered anger, rage, resentment towards both parents (who are a...	Jubilantgirl	6	865	Mar 21, 2017 by shrnp
	Curious...what the signs/symptoms (Preview) Of someone trying to detox? My A is currently been out with a flu. He has medication for it....for some reason I started to wonder if his body was "trying" to detox. Yes I know he can not do it on his own. I'm just wondering because I know how much he normally drinks and hasn't had any in over a week. It has to be...	Curlyblu	16	3074	Mar 21, 2017 by Curlyblu
	The Goldilocks Zone (Preview) So I'm back with My Him. I expect this information to be met with deathly silence. Also this post is mostly about him. Sorry. My mother came to see me the other day and I told her. She was surprisingly not discouraging. She said, well, he obviously loves you Melissa, but he's uncontrollable. But you love...	MissM	15	630	Mar 21, 2017 by likemyheart
	Hope for Today March 21 (Preview) Good morning everyone-- Today's reading is about how powerful our attitude is and where it can take us. Many of us gravitate toward the familiar, which depending on our circumstances, may not always be the healthiest for us. Any of us that either grew up in an alcoholic family, married into one, or ha...	yanksfan51	5	467	Mar 21, 2017 by Stan1
	Letting go of anger to start a new day (Preview) It is 3:15 am. I woke up and immediately started replaying scenes from a family gathering yesterday which made/make me so angry. So, I have been reciting the serenity prayer like a mantra along with steps 1-3. I know I can't carry this into tomorrow, as it will be a new day. AH's siblings were over yest...	El	8	501	Mar 21, 2017 by sunmustshine
	Needing to vent.....might sound petty....still learning to deal (Preview) Frustrating! Living with an active A, is to, say the least, and polietly, frustrating. I try so hard to practice the pause, before I say things I normally would. Even when he is dry, I pause before I respond to something completely stupid he has said. Like last night, we had been having a decent conversa...	Curlyblu	10	479	Mar 20, 2017 by Curlyblu
	3/20/17 Courage to Change (Preview) Today's reading focuses on the spiritual nature of our Higher Power (HP). We are encouraged to choose a HP of our own understanding, a god as we are familiar with or simply a program concept. What gives it power as a spiritual concept is our willingness to humbly acknowledge something greater and more...	Enigmatic	3	426	Mar 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	ODAT 3-19-2017 (Preview) The ODA T reading for March 19 speaks about living one day at a time. It points out that Al-Anon is a 24 hour programso that by living in this manner we receive the comfort and assurance that we need in the moment and in the day and do not burden ourselves with the woes of the past or worries of the fut...	hotrod	3	601	Mar 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Today I have hope (Preview) Today I am cleaning our house and preparing for my loves release from her 90 day program. I have hope and trust in both my HP and hers that she will return home in a much better state than when she left. I want great things for us both, I want that future that looked so bright years ago but seemed impossible on...	Rickbrins	5	445	Mar 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Pink Cloud? (Preview) Ok, so I clearly have had far too much time to myself in that dangerous section of my mind.... I have been very happy, my AGF has been in her 90 day inpatient program and appears to be doing very well, Her release date is tentatively scheduled for Monday (More about that later) and I am thrilled that she...	Rickbrins	8	2461	Mar 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Enough (Preview) This is my first time here. My husband is a high functioning alcoholic. He admits it but won't get help. We've been married almost 7 years and he's been this way for 4 1/2. We have two children and I try my hardest to keep them shielded but they're getting old enough to notice. I'm so fed up I don't know what t...	Isthisreallife	5	485	Mar 19, 2017 by hotrod
	not really sure where to start (Preview) Greetings. Not really sure where to start. Husband of 19 years is an alcoholic. Hides it well, most of our friends don't have a clue....at least I don't think they do. Things have worsened as of late. We have 2 kids. I'm so tired of being "on guard" all the time and getting that sick-in-the-pit-of...	laketime	8	518	Mar 19, 2017 by Rickbrins
	Talking to an A (Preview) About two hours ago, I had the most ridiculous , circular, and unproductive discussion with my A. There is no logic, reasoning, understanding, or progress. It's almost as though I am speaking to someone who doesn't know English. The good news is that I stayed calm, didn't fight, didn't walk away,...	Lyne	5	477	Mar 19, 2017 by Rickbrins
	Powerless vs Helplessness (Preview) I had a big discussion in the past with a therapist who I truly adored .. he is a man in his 70's who speaks my language .. LOL .. he's very easy to love and he reminded me how easy I am to love .. even if I did try to wear a cactus suit from time to time. I miss our talks a great deal. He kept using the word helpless w...	SerenityRUS	6	3976	Mar 19, 2017 by Jerry F
	ODAT reading for 3-18-2017 (Preview) The ODA T reading for March 18 speaks about how living with the disease of alcoholism our thinking truly becomes distorted and we learn to place the responsibility for our problems on the alcoholic and on others. In Al-Anon we are learning to look squarely at each difficulty not trying to blame it on ot...	hotrod	1	397	Mar 18, 2017 by Iamhere
	Intimacy issues! (Preview) Hi all. So the alcoholic in my life is sober about a week after a 5 week vodka binge. As always, it took him to death's door before he was able to stop, but that's not what this post is about, I have got that I am powerless over the drinking. I just want to share what's been going on for me since he sobered up. Thi...	Sorcha	9	573	Mar 18, 2017 by Rickbrins
	Expectations are premeditated resentments (Preview) My reaction to disappointment is improving and im becoming better at recognising my distorted thought processes and being able to see my part. I do however need time to sit with it process it discuss it with my sponsor or another alanon person and tweek out the truth of it. If I dont get this time I can be c...	el-cee	8	1259	Mar 17, 2017 by MissM
	Courage to Change (C2C) 3/17/17 (Preview) Good morning and happy St. Patrick's Day for those who celebrate! Today's reading starts by suggesting no problem lasts forever. No matter how it seems, this too shall pass. Difficult situations often bring out qualities we might not realize we have - courage, faith and need for help from others....	Iamhere	7	329	Mar 17, 2017 by Iamhere
	The Birthday Dinner that Wasn't (Preview) I made mention in the daily thread that today is my baby's birthday. He's now 23 years old. I had also mentioned that he was to come over for dinner. I did go about my day - meeting, grocery store, and then back home to cook. As it happens with us, I had a nudge most of last evening and a bit this morning abou...	Iamhere	23	758	Mar 17, 2017 by Iamhere
	Sponsor (Preview) Last night my AH asked me if I had a sponsor yet? I've only been to one face to face meeating. I did call a woman I had met at the meeting in regards to what meetings she finds good. Just cause he found his sponsor the first couple of week, doesn't mean I wil. Part of me is like what's it any of your business? He is...	Shorty77	4	455	Mar 17, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	Let it begin with me! (Preview) My entire life Ive clung to illusions that if I worked really hard, dreamed BIG, expected more of myself somehow I wouldnt end up like my family. For the last several years, my career and recovery have been my identity, not to mention the adversity Ive experienced in the midst, with the loss of the young...	msjuliet	3	530	Mar 17, 2017 by Rickbrins
	Meetings (Preview) Good morning Everybody,Beautiful Day it is, Im been wondering if mip online meetings have changed places? Or maybe slowed down due to xyz. or I'm just been missing them altogether,I dunno,plz if someone can fill me in,thank you so much in advance. reaching out with plenty of hugs ,smiles,I Love you...	lookingup	2	400	Mar 17, 2017 by lookingup
	Trial run, day 2 (Preview) Today is the second day of getting out and actually doing over night trips for work. I know it is easier with her still in her 90 day inpatient program, but this is just a reminder that I can do this and I can enjoy it. When she gets out next week, I will have a couple of weeks before I will have to do this again...	Rickbrins	6	436	Mar 17, 2017 by Iamhere
	feeling powerless and unmanageable (Preview) So two days in a row. What struck me as I finally crawled out of my wallowing is that I think I am still sick, and I am definitely tired. So maybe that is why I've had two days of slipping right back to square 1. Tonight he wanted to see the boys (never me- yes it hurts, I am working on it) he comes over, plops down...	pumkin26	6	2072	Mar 17, 2017 by Iamhere
	Difficulties in detaching Functioning alcoholic children detachment (Preview) Hi everyone. I've been married to an alcoholic for 6.5 years It started to become a problem about 5.5 years ago when I got pregnant and my husband started ramping up his drinking. I don't think I can adequately convey the feelings disappointment and horror of coming home with a 6 month old in tow, seein...	T_Puppington	9	6928	Mar 16, 2017 by Jerry F
	Today is not the day .. (Preview) I have to laugh at myself I am finally feeling back to normal which I don't know good thing or not .. lol. It means I'm a whole lot more ornerier which sometimes is good and not so good in moments where my inappropriate humor comes flying through .. if I didn't have my horribly warped humor I wouldn't have m...	SerenityRUS	2	410	Mar 16, 2017 by Iamhere
	This is an odd feeling.... (Preview) My A is trying/pretending not to have drinks. It's been almost 2 weeks now, and there has been one time that I'm 99.9% sure he had drinks before he came home. At home he doesn't....there's nothing in the house....he drank it all when he went on his full drunk that lasted days. I'm finding I don't know ho...	Curlyblu	17	595	Mar 16, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	Courage to Change (C2C) 3/16/17 (Preview) Today's reading discusses how hard it can be to see our progress in recovery. For those of us who have operated with high expectations, it's even more difficult. When we expect our negative attitudes and unhealthy behaviors to change fast and completely, we are going to be disappointed - progress...	Iamhere	2	889	Mar 16, 2017 by El
	QUESTION FOR ALCOHOLICS (Preview) Hi all, I'm back posting again. My ABF is now 7 months into AA. For the most part I would say he is doing very well. You can see how AA is helping. However, he has had quite a few slips, especially in the last month or so. He does jump right back into the program the next day. He use to go every day, but I kind...	Aerin	11	576	Mar 16, 2017 by a4l
	back into the insanity I go (Preview) I am reeling right now. So instead of engaging and allowing my anger to bubble up and cause me to retaliate I am here, venting to you all. My AH has had the flu since the weekend. I posted earlier in the week, unsure if he was truly sick or not. I am still not sure. Might have had the flu, might actually be in wit...	pumkin26	9	596	Mar 16, 2017 by a4l
	3/15/17 Courage to Change (Preview) Today's page considers forgiveness...One member admitted seeing it before AlAnon as power, as a judgement passed down from a position of authority, a false display of grace intended to emphasize the other's wrong; publicly forgiving but never forgetting. A healthy perspective with the help of A...	Enigmatic	10	477	Mar 15, 2017 by hotrod
	An eagle (Preview) I am so grateful that my HP sent me a bit of peace yesterday. It was a day of stress and drama. I prayed for his will; on my way home an eagle flew right over my car. Mind you I was in the city so sighting an eagle is very very rare. It flew low and I swear it looked at me . I was at peace, I knew right then an ther...	Tannersmom	4	477	Mar 15, 2017 by Iamhere
	Please help I'm so lost and confused (Preview) My husband of 4 years has been an alcoholic for over 2 years now. It's such a long story but after dropping out of an impatient program he is in an iop now. We fight...... He gets nasty...... Fight in front of the kids..... Is controlling and overbearing. I coddle the kids and my ways are always wrong. I cou...	Bri58	16	487	Mar 15, 2017 by Iamhere
	to child support or not to child support (Preview) I don't always agree with society on this one. So, the kids and i remain safe and are doing our best to stay positive though the wordless anger hits me at times as we go through the system. It hits me and at the same time i mentally hit myself for being ungrateful. Lol. So my thoughts initially were, proba...	a4l	5	438	Mar 15, 2017 by 2HP
	He watered down my gin - so angry (Preview) I broke up with alcoholic boyfriend about a month ago but gave him another chance after he promised to get help. I went and picked him up after we decided to reconcile and he was in bad shape after a 3 day bender. I felt so worried for him. He showed signs of improvement but then failed to follow through wi...	SaraLin	13	2227	Mar 15, 2017 by Jerry F
	My A is being released tomomow (Preview) Some of you know that my ex-alcoholic boyfriend was very sick and had to go to a nursing home. He had hepatitis but the kind you can recover from. He also has cirrhosis of the liver. Anyhow, he had malnutrition from drinking and throwing up so much. That caused him to get Wernicke's encephalopathy. He...	shrnp	7	516	Mar 15, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	The alcoholic's plea (Preview) As some of you know my ex abf and I still talk, and yet I'm not really sure why (probably because I'm still in love with the man I fell in love with). Anyways, it's getting to the point with our relationship that I have no longer accepted his inappropriate verbally abusive ( you stupid "b"***, if you cared y...	vvv	7	519	Mar 15, 2017 by Aerin
	My ex AH died in his sleep last week. (Preview) My ex of 25 yrs was found dead in his home with an almost empty half gal of whiskey by his side. An autopsy was not done and cause of death is going down as a heart attack. I am so confused by the rush of emotions I am feeling. Divorce is a sort of continuation. I always knew he was out there somewhere. Deat...	Living Free	10	368	Mar 15, 2017 by Living Free
	Help with setback (Preview) My AH has been sober for about 4 months. I've been working my recovery hard. We talk a lot about our relationship and trust. I've never trusted him from day one. He is a compulsive liar. He lies about every and anything. So in order to stay in this marriage trust has to be addressed. Well he stole money from...	Ceelee	7	521	Mar 15, 2017 by Ceelee
	Prayers please (Preview) Just asking for prayers today; what a roller coaster this stupid disease is. Rough roads ahead and trying to take one day at a time.Thank you!Beth	Tannersmom	6	1629	Mar 15, 2017 by Jen61
	Terms used: Qualifier, Codependent, and Enabler (Preview) I recently have started hearing the terms, "Qualifier," "Codependent," and "Enabler" in my Al-Anon meetings. Are those appropriate terms to be used in Al-Anon? I know that when I had counseling before I started attending Al-Anon, I heard those terms used all the time and even read literature tha...	Connie Sue	7	9126	Mar 14, 2017 by shrnp
	Not sure if Alanon is for me (Preview) I am currently separated from my husband of 20+ yrs due to his alcoholism, drug use, emotional and mental abuse and two affairs. I know I have many issues as a result of being in an abusive/alcoholic marriage. I can now see that even though my soon to be ex and I have been separated for two years, many of t...	Marie71	15	682	Mar 14, 2017 by Rickbrins
	Grant me the Serenity... (Preview) My AGF will be home from her program for the weekend and then in 10 days she will most likely be coming home for good. Right now I am fairly relaxed, although there have been a few triggers coming from family. I am very scared of how things will be when she gets out. She seems to be in a very good mental stat...	Rickbrins	9	395	Mar 14, 2017 by Rickbrins
	AH in recovery (Preview) Last weekend my AH went with his sponsor and others to a convention. I asked him how it was? Said it was great, learned a lot, but now all he talks about is how our marriage maunt not last!! WTF! Anyone else have a partner in recovery and the marriage has lasted? We have been married for 17 years. I'm in this f...	Shorty77	7	494	Mar 14, 2017 by Rickbrins
	different path (Preview) as usual, im in the dark as to why my HP leads me in one direction or another. Being nearly out of money,still umemployed, im moving into my boyfriend's house. what a very different direction then what i planned 1 and 1/2 yrs ago when i left XAH. Been going through a variety of emotions. on one hand, i have b...	YARNCRAZY	3	388	Mar 14, 2017 by Rickbrins
	Hope for Today Mar 14 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- I hope all who are affected by the blizzard are warm, safe and have plenty of food. Today's reading is about how the 12 steps can be put into four categories: Giving up (steps 1-3 giving up the illusion that we can control the A and manage life w out the help of recovery); Owning up (...	yanksfan51	5	451	Mar 14, 2017 by _bunny_
	Big Trigger today (Preview) The people I live with are also considered family, we are very close. However, today the electric co. came with the final notice that winter shut off protection ends today. D said she would pay the bill tomorrow. Problem is, they have been spending money on dinners, clothes etc. I am trying to 'let i...	Marie71	12	583	Mar 14, 2017 by Marie71
	It's a start (Preview) Well, AS moved back with his Dad. Dad got him a job and is driving him to work and my dad is picking him up. AS does not have a car and so many points on his license that he can't afford insurance yet. He managed to work a whole week. It has been 9 months since he last worked. He is staying apart from his AGF a...	Tannersmom	3	1417	Mar 13, 2017 by Rickbrins
	Off-Topic - Joel Osteen - Don't Rely on People (Preview) link....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=huf1UlSh_LY	Iamhere	8	2652	Mar 13, 2017 by Iamhere
	Compassion .. (Preview) or lack of it .. I have been ill for the past week and today is honestly the first day at my job I feel like a real person vs a zombie watching the clock .. ugh. I have a LOT of financial responsibilities going on at the moment with birthday's, two important ones .. one is 13 and the other is 18. My daughter is g...	SerenityRUS	2	661	Mar 13, 2017 by a4l
	keeping myself honest (Preview) Just a quick reminder to myself as per the subject line. Choosing a marriage to an alcoholic kept me safe from dealing with life. Turns out life is inevitable and must eventually be confronted. However this time around, as i face life again, as life intends, i give myself permission to be excused from...	a4l	7	337	Mar 13, 2017 by a4l
	on a rollercoaster today (Preview) So it has been a rough week. I wasn't able to attend online meetings or even attend the one in person meeting (my first one) last week bc I caught the flu. Awful. Anyways my active A was out of town for work and I heard from him off and on Friday, but Friday evening- nothing. All day Saturday- nothing (I didn'...	pumkin26	6	289	Mar 13, 2017 by pumkin26
	3/13/17 ODAT (One Day at a Time in AlAnon) (Preview) Today's page mentions what may once have been common, everyday feelings: discomfort when our qualifiers arrive home late, concern about where they are in their program, and fear and anger that come with the assumption they've returned to drinking. Fortunately, that is not AlAnon thinking. With t...	Enigmatic	3	2193	Mar 13, 2017 by Iamhere
	Jealousy (Preview) Jealousy is a skin I would like to shed, acceptance and understanding is a much better look. I often read about how other Al-anoners feel jealousy with their qualifiers frequent attendance at AA, well I am starting to feel some of that now myself. Between AA meetings and her less than accepting famil...	Rickbrins	6	386	Mar 13, 2017 by Iamhere
	Step 2 posted (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Boardhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63332514/alanon-s...	hotrod	3	228	Mar 13, 2017 by Enigmatic
	A Realization (Preview) I was listening to a recovery related podcast this afternoon and one of the speakers said [and I paraphrase] "When I try to control things in situations when I have no control, I have no energy to change the things that I can change." I hadn't thought about it that way. It makes a lot of sense. How can I be pr...	Mikhail	2	254	Mar 12, 2017 by Iamhere
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