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Tammy · Tammy

I thought I was doing okay lately. At least the last few days. Since my husband and i split up about 7 weeks ago I have had a lot of ups and downs to say the least. We talk several times a day and I see him nearly everyday. Our talks were long in fact we have talked more in the last 7 weeks then we did in the last 6 m... >>>>

Barbara · Barbara

A check was enclosed and I want to rip it up and throw it out! I did that with an anniversary check she just sent us a few weeks ago. I want nothing to do with anyone in my family!

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, I am in a rage this morning.....as most of you know, hub stole two of my check books and wrote checkes all over the place.....I have been getting letters from magistrates for days now......he is well aware of this situation....I was feeling a little bad about pressing charges and s...

Barbara · Barbara

anyone sign up yet? Its at the SeaCrest in No Falmouth and they are starting to take reservations

laurab · laurab

Yesterday morning, at 7:00, my 29 yr old A son, called because his shoulder had popped out of it's socket. This is an old sports injury that happens once in awhile and usually he can push it back in. Of course it required PT when it first happened 3 years ago, but he never followed through and now all the mus...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Well went to the Da to presss charges, told me had to file with the police first, went to three different police stations they all kept telling me to go back to the other one...it was awful.....finally contacted an attorney.....she is going to take care of this for me....it is just a...

Rita G · Rita G

"a Housewarming Party without a House" Well this is what I wrote almost a week and half ago. The day after the contractor delivered the dirt for the slab, our area received 10-12 inches of rain. Lots of flooding. We have not heard from our contractor since then. T...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

So much has been going on this past week. My mother has really let go, w/ the help of one of the physical therapist my father allowed us to admit her to the hospital. She has been there for four days and is being moved to a nursing home for two weeks. Then she'll be back home. I hate...

kabbie · kabbie

HELLO ALL - ANY THOUGHTS ON MY LIST? I'M SURE I'VE MISSED SOME THINGS.. THANKS, Kabbie CONTRACT (Begins the day you return home from rehab) Daily AA meetings and weekly counseling a must to stay at home. No rides except to daily AA meetings and job interviews, not on bus or train r...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) This is a topic that has come up since my AW and I have seperated. She showed great panic in the fact that the house looks great, that I cook and provide just fine for myself and our son, and life goes on if she's not there. It really threw her for a loop coming over to the hou...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to wish all of you who celebrate Halloween or all Saints Day: HAPPY HALLOWEEN! May you and your little goblins have an extra fun and safe day. Enjoy your trick or treating. Remember a black kitty is only bad if it's a panther!

W...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Got a sponsor last nite at the f2f meeting

Then I got home and was chatting on yahoo late into the night and ran into this very interesting guy and of course he asks if I am single, married, etc. and I say seperated. Then we get into a deep discussion and he challenges me... He as...

Lexie · Lexie

((((((((friends)))))))))) I just heard from my son after coming out of his sentencing hearing. It really could not have gone any better. He will have to serve probation concurrent to what he is all ready serving....24 months. He has no additional fine! He will have a re...

Violeta · Violeta

Hi guys! I need to know what kind of activities you do with your A's. I'm tired of spending the whole weekend watching movies and would like to suggest something fun. I live in Costa Rica and almost every activity is associated with alcohol. Also I think my boyfriend is really bored with me, I guess he m...

marmare · marmare

So I put a call back for the job shadow I did last week. Said a prayer to my HP to guide me. Got online this morning looking for other opportunities when I got a phone call from a candy company that I applied at a couple weeks ago. I AM SO EXCITED. It's locally owned and it's a custom...

maresie2 · maresie2

I would really like to tell you all that the A is the only issue in my life. I have issues with all authority figures, anyone who doesn't behave humanely and anyone who is really not seeing life from my point of view. Right now I am dealing with a regional manager at work (who thankfull...

akristab · akristab

I used to believe that my AH really meant it when he said he was sorry and that he now knows that he cannot “socially” drink and party after no-showing at work, turning off his cell phone, driving our new truck under the influence and not resurfacing for days for the umpteenth time this decade. In the past...

hersh · hersh

Well.... Things have been spinning, spinning out of control for all of this year. How many bottoms can the AH hit? I always expected the worst, always expected him to be drunk. When he wasn't it was pleasant, but hated the making of plans and them being ruined because he was drunk...

maresie2 · maresie2

I signed up for benefits at one of the jobs I am at. I will not get the card for another month. When I do I will be able to get anti depressants which I badly need. I will also have a window to get dental work which I also badly need. This is huge for me in terms of self care. ...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The a showed up a few mins ago to pick up the kids and take them to get pumpkins for carving. First thing upon entering the house he runs upstairs and brushes his teeth with my toothbrush mind you. Then he comes down. I notice the aroma of alcohol eminating from him. He swears he hasn't been drinking, then g...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, What a long three weeks this has been, and I want to thank you all for your support and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I got the results this week and the lump was benign. It was fatty tissue, a bit of something that was maybe the beginning of a fibroid, and an old hemmorahage. So all in all, a b...

laurab · laurab

I had a really nice day Sunday. I went to a talk and then out to dinner with friends. I hardly thought about my A son. Then, in the car, on the way home I had an attack of guilt. Where was he while I was having a good time? Was he drunk and cold? Did he have money for food? Has he lost his job and has reg...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((My Family)))))) I found this today... I know I have read it before, but I really like it and wanted to share it with you. Take care of you! Life is attitude We create our reality through our perceptions and our way of being. I found a text which reflects perfectly what I believe abou...

kabbie · kabbie

I posted earlier about how I struggle with my financial enabling to my daughter in rehab. Thanks for all the HONEST responses, I needed to hear it. Daughter called from rehab about an hour ago. Wanted me to either take her to and from her facility this weekend (200 miles away) for a Sat eve home visit OR...

evey · evey

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG???????????????

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

My Ason had been clean and sober as far as I knew for 5 months. I got a call from his girlfriend on Saturday telling me that he is drinking at least 12 quarts of beer a night, has become abusive again and she fears he is now dealing drugs. My heart is broken. I found myself in the throws o...

dot · dot

Reminder to all members Group Business Meeting Wed Nov 1st at 7pm ET Agenda Old business - Newcomers Meeting - Schedule - Meeting Topics Review New Business - Change Group meeting to Sun Hope to see you there - Dot

kabbie · kabbie

Since my daughter has been in rehab, I've been trying hard to be a good listener. Sometimes I say things that don't make sense to her, and she calls me on it..thought I'd share - I took alot away from it. When my mom and I were visiting with her on Sat, we each told her that "you don't have to drink to h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

In one of my buddist medatatives, the teacher challenges his students, "If one says incorrect things about our practices, the correct path is to take each idea and unravel it. Say 'This, this, is incorrect based on this reality.' Say, 'This, this is correct based on this reality.' Take each st...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am very proud. I told him that he was not going to stay here this weekend because I didn't feel comfortable about the lying in regard to stealing my son's codiene cough syrup and putting in lemon water instead. Then he showed up smelling like alcohol.... It was hard it's in the 30's tonight and the o...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))), I posted a couple of months ago about the serenity I felt in the woods with hubby. I hadn't felt that way in so long. I'm feeling that same way today. I am on vacation this week and even got an extra hour of it thanks to the time change. Hubby woke me up early this...

kabbie · kabbie

My daughter is 22 and in inpatient rehab - been there almost 30 days now. I visit it her on the weekends. I'm starting to resent having to take her out during my visits for personal supplies etc. She has no money, and is relying right now on my husband and I for financial support. I'm in Alanon, and I know I ha...

albertarose · albertarose

Hello, I'm new to this forum as well as Alanon. I have attended 4 meetings in my home home town and I find it very interesting. After the first meeting that I went to I realized I should have been going for years but I was too shy and scared. I am married to an Alcoholic and I have found my life turned upside dow...

hersh · hersh

(((Rtexas))) Just wondering how you are coping. Always sending prayers your way, and hope you had a good weekend... keep us posted on your life.... HeidiXXXX

Phil · Phil

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I was up last night thinking alot about things in my life. I faced a fear this weekend one that made me feel fear, anxiety, hurt, unworthiness. I knew it was time to face what I was feeling inside but had to get to the point of wanting to do it for me. I am glad I did. I am more at peace with myself today. I am relax...

jeeves · jeeves

Good morning everyone, I have considered a trial separation from the a wife. All she wants is a place to drink and smoke without any intrusion. Her efforts at getting a job are less than sincere and she refuses to go back to detox, rehab. She is certainly in the final stages of al...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family)))))))))), Good morning! I just received my daily reading from the Hazelden Foundation (www.hazelden.org) this morning and it's a perfect way to start off my vacation. Wanted to share it with you. "Miracles are instantaneuos. They cannot be summoned, b...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, It is my birthday today. I am 57. I made decision to have a good birth day. I am realizing that I have a choice to suffer or not. And I have made alot of progress in my recovery program but I am not quite there. So, I decided that I would take the Alanon slogan of fake it until you make it or act as i...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

Hi everyone! I thank God everyday for sending my guardian angel as a comforting angel as well. See he (my angel) was there for me when I had to deal with my mothers drinking. When I had to deal with being estranged cause she wants to spend her life drinking. He helped me to realize th...

ella · ella

i have a home-group but never signed in for the online group. its very early, and i have non one to call. i am realizing that i am married (for 20 years) to someone who cannot be there for me emotionaly. i just gave up hope that it will get better. he is coming up on his one year clean, and he has a sponser, but...

peewee · peewee

I liked that gratitude alphabet, as usual :) a animals and attitudes b bats and beatitudes c cats and courage d dogs and delights e elephants and esh f frogs and fresh air g gorillas and gumption h hamsters and hello's i ...

ragingchild · ragingchild

Well, hubby and I had a nice vacation paid for by my dad (an anniversary/birthday gift) except for food and whatever we wanted to do down there. We went to Myrtle Beach and had lots of fun. We had our 8th anniversary together (married), been together for 11 yrs, and I am now 26 yrs old!...

maresie2 · maresie2

I come home today from one job to go to another job. I will only have a few hours to rest. I will be working all night long at a very very stressful job. I am tired, I am cranky I am worn out. I do not need to have another plateful of stress. The A has crashed so many cars. He has two ca...

Mindy · Mindy

Today in the chatroom we were talking about the progression of the disease and where our A's are on it. So i thought I would post it here to shar with everyone

http://www.gannett.com/go/difference/greatfalls/pages/part2/progression.html

debilyn · debilyn

I went out to, well cannot remember now. But was in my tshirt as usual. thru on my sweatshirt though. The horse were in rare form. All this food is paying off! Elgin would pretent to bite Glaes, Glaes would pretend to kick Elgin. this went on and on, then Glaes would paw at Elgin...

Phil · Phil

As a recovering alcoholic and a grateful member of Alanon...I have one question.. Are you going to stay stuck? With hope that things will change? We all know that unless the practicing alcoholic hits a bottom or realization, of some kind, that absolutely nothing is going to change.. Yet we h...

laurab · laurab

Today has been a long long lonely day. My husband is away for 11 days. My 3 older children are busy with their families and far from here, the weather is cold and rainy, I have eaten way too much and I am trying so hard to understand detach with love from my A son. How will he know I love him, if I stay far a...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) Downs ... (I'd rather end on a up note) My birthday was earlier this week it started with this ... I found out I am a prostitute according to my A to his friends, am disowned from a second family in one lifetime, and sold the short sale negoitating rights to my house for 10....

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, I was just sitting here thinking this morning about how we just follow along in life sometimes....how easy it is to get so caught up in making everything seem perfect that you can't see what is right in front of you.....get so use to just going along.....we forget how to get on wi...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

I am still greiving over the loss of my friend who "ditched me". I could feel the pain of my mother becoming a drunk and dropping our dear friendship/mother and daughter relationship. As I was crying and asking the Lord why this was happening to me. When I ask Him why my friend deserted me li...

Maria123 · Maria123

Having a Higher Power in our life is like being a pumpkin.

He lifts you up, takes you in, and washes all the dirt off of you. He opens you up, touches you deep inside and scoops out all the yucky stuff-- including the seeds of doubt, hate, greed, etc. Then He carves you a new smiling face and pu...

bob6502 · bob6502

Can I just say that today is a good day.

I don't have an active alcoholic in my life, and I am not dealing with any adversity. Of course I have my whiney complaints, my life isn't perfect, but HP and this program have given me the gift of some wonderful friends, and the ability to recogn...

hersh · hersh

(((Good morning everyone))) From snowy Colorado. It is pretty. I just wanted to see if anyone had some ESH on the Alcoholic playing the victim, or if that is what this is.... I have been going out almost every night, to an Alanon or AA meeting, because I HAVE to for my sanity. I do...

gardengal · gardengal

For years,,,when the insanity of my husbands drinking was progressing, I wanted friends and family to feel sorry for me. Oh woe is me! Sitting on the pity pot waiting for something good to happen. Somebody do something,,somebody stop all of this, somebody help me,,,,,etc,,,etc. Even when I started...

arty · arty

I went away with my a this past weekend to a beach house. just the two of us. He knows when we do things like that there is no point in him drinking, coz if he does there is no point in us having a romantic weekend. And it was beautiful. He used to drink all the time, thinking it was his only enjoyment. These...

maresie2 · maresie2

Well it looks like my plans for the holidays are on hold. I am not working enough to take time off so I will probably be working at the hotel. That will give me some respite. I will go out on the evening of New Years Eve to not have to deal with the fireworks. The bangs and the bombs and what...

greta · greta

An old Arab, whose tent was pitched next to a company of whirling dervishes was asked, "Don't they bother you?" "No!" was his answer. "What do you do about them?" "I let them whirl." Wouldn't that be easier? Instead of trying to control a whirlwind? Probably any one of us can get along with pe...

Becky1 · Becky1

In Jan. of 2004, my drunk AH and I were in our home, he became belligerant, and gesturing his arms around wildly, and hit me in the nose. What followed is greater than my greatest nightmare ever was. I already have PTSSD, so everything was magnified. I wtnt o his mother's who took m...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Hey (((((((((Josey)))))))))) Happy Birthday! Hope you have a wonderful wonderful day!! Luv ya!! Kis

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	Making myself CRAZY (Preview) I thought I was doing okay lately. At least the last few days. Since my husband and i split up about 7 weeks ago I have had a lot of ups and downs to say the least. We talk several times a day and I see him nearly everyday. Our talks were long in fact we have talked more in the last 7 weeks then we did in the last 6 m... >>>>	Tammy	7	424	Nov 1, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	Birthday card from my mother and (Preview) A check was enclosed and I want to rip it up and throw it out! I did that with an anniversary check she just sent us a few weeks ago. I want nothing to do with anyone in my family!	Barbara	3	406	Nov 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Going the Da to press charges (Preview) Hello Friends, I am in a rage this morning.....as most of you know, hub stole two of my check books and wrote checkes all over the place.....I have been getting letters from magistrates for days now......he is well aware of this situation....I was feeling a little bad about pressing charges and s...	Andrea12	11	659	Nov 1, 2006 by carolinagirl
	MA AlAnon convention Apr 13-15 (Preview) anyone sign up yet? Its at the SeaCrest in No Falmouth and they are starting to take reservations	Barbara	0	335	Nov 1, 2006 by Barbara
	a little bit stronger (Preview) Yesterday morning, at 7:00, my 29 yr old A son, called because his shoulder had popped out of it's socket. This is an old sports injury that happens once in awhile and usually he can push it back in. Of course it required PT when it first happened 3 years ago, but he never followed through and now all the mus...	laurab	4	378	Nov 1, 2006 by hersh
	Update And A Little Venting (Preview) Hello Friends, Well went to the Da to presss charges, told me had to file with the police first, went to three different police stations they all kept telling me to go back to the other one...it was awful.....finally contacted an attorney.....she is going to take care of this for me....it is just a...	Andrea12	9	606	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Rescheduling that Party (Preview) "a Housewarming Party without a House" Well this is what I wrote almost a week and half ago. The day after the contractor delivered the dirt for the slab, our area received 10-12 inches of rain. Lots of flooding. We have not heard from our contractor since then. T...	Rita G	3	494	Nov 1, 2006 by maresie2
	Praying for a better day (Preview) So much has been going on this past week. My mother has really let go, w/ the help of one of the physical therapist my father allowed us to admit her to the hospital. She has been there for four days and is being moved to a nursing home for two weeks. Then she'll be back home. I hate...	Lunamoth	4	408	Nov 1, 2006 by Jennifer
	Boundaries for daughter's return home after rehab (Preview) HELLO ALL - ANY THOUGHTS ON MY LIST? I'M SURE I'VE MISSED SOME THINGS.. THANKS, Kabbie CONTRACT (Begins the day you return home from rehab) Daily AA meetings and weekly counseling a must to stay at home. No rides except to daily AA meetings and job interviews, not on bus or train r...	kabbie	12	5018	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Don't NEED the A (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) This is a topic that has come up since my AW and I have seperated. She showed great panic in the fact that the house looks great, that I cook and provide just fine for myself and our son, and life goes on if she's not there. It really threw her for a loop coming over to the hou...	rtexas	13	648	Nov 1, 2006 by kicky
	Happy Halloween (Preview) ((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to wish all of you who celebrate Halloween or all Saints Day: HAPPY HALLOWEEN! May you and your little goblins have an extra fun and safe day. Enjoy your trick or treating. Remember a black kitty is only bad if it's a panther! W...	Karilynn	8	470	Nov 1, 2006 by peewee
	Struggling (Preview) Got a sponsor last nite at the f2f meeting Then I got home and was chatting on yahoo late into the night and ran into this very interesting guy and of course he asks if I am single, married, etc. and I say seperated. Then we get into a deep discussion and he challenges me... He as...	carolinagirl	13	471	Oct 31, 2006 by albertarose
	answered prayer (Preview) ((((((((friends)))))))))) I just heard from my son after coming out of his sentencing hearing. It really could not have gone any better. He will have to serve probation concurrent to what he is all ready serving....24 months. He has no additional fine! He will have a re...	Lexie	9	406	Oct 31, 2006 by twinkie
	Sober activities (Preview) Hi guys! I need to know what kind of activities you do with your A's. I'm tired of spending the whole weekend watching movies and would like to suggest something fun. I live in Costa Rica and almost every activity is associated with alcohol. Also I think my boyfriend is really bored with me, I guess he m...	Violeta	8	612	Oct 31, 2006 by Karilynn
	Another Interview! ! ! (Preview) So I put a call back for the job shadow I did last week. Said a prayer to my HP to guide me. Got online this morning looking for other opportunities when I got a phone call from a candy company that I applied at a couple weeks ago. I AM SO EXCITED. It's locally owned and it's a custom...	marmare	6	373	Oct 31, 2006 by Tammy
	authoirity figures (Preview) I would really like to tell you all that the A is the only issue in my life. I have issues with all authority figures, anyone who doesn't behave humanely and anyone who is really not seeing life from my point of view. Right now I am dealing with a regional manager at work (who thankfull...	maresie2	8	399	Oct 31, 2006 by carolinagirl
	When is enough really enough? (Preview) I used to believe that my AH really meant it when he said he was sorry and that he now knows that he cannot “socially” drink and party after no-showing at work, turning off his cell phone, driving our new truck under the influence and not resurfacing for days for the umpteenth time this decade. In the past...	akristab	5	488	Oct 31, 2006 by carolinagirl
	DUI - message from HP???? (Preview) Well.... Things have been spinning, spinning out of control for all of this year. How many bottoms can the AH hit? I always expected the worst, always expected him to be drunk. When he wasn't it was pleasant, but hated the making of plans and them being ruined because he was drunk...	hersh	8	586	Oct 31, 2006 by athena12
	self care (Preview) I signed up for benefits at one of the jobs I am at. I will not get the card for another month. When I do I will be able to get anti depressants which I badly need. I will also have a window to get dental work which I also badly need. This is huge for me in terms of self care. ...	maresie2	6	384	Oct 31, 2006 by maresie2
	why do I have to care? (Preview) The a showed up a few mins ago to pick up the kids and take them to get pumpkins for carving. First thing upon entering the house he runs upstairs and brushes his teeth with my toothbrush mind you. Then he comes down. I notice the aroma of alcohol eminating from him. He swears he hasn't been drinking, then g...	carolinagirl	7	628	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Biopsy Results (Preview) Hi all, What a long three weeks this has been, and I want to thank you all for your support and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I got the results this week and the lump was benign. It was fatty tissue, a bit of something that was maybe the beginning of a fibroid, and an old hemmorahage. So all in all, a b...	Dolphin123	25	571	Oct 31, 2006 by Noni
	I know guilt is non productive..but (Preview) I had a really nice day Sunday. I went to a talk and then out to dinner with friends. I hardly thought about my A son. Then, in the car, on the way home I had an attack of guilt. Where was he while I was having a good time? Was he drunk and cold? Did he have money for food? Has he lost his job and has reg...	laurab	5	439	Oct 31, 2006 by Noni
	A small gift... (Preview) ((((((My Family)))))) I found this today... I know I have read it before, but I really like it and wanted to share it with you. Take care of you! Life is attitude We create our reality through our perceptions and our way of being. I found a text which reflects perfectly what I believe abou...	rtexas	7	541	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	I did it - I had NO to money (Preview) I posted earlier about how I struggle with my financial enabling to my daughter in rehab. Thanks for all the HONEST responses, I needed to hear it. Daughter called from rehab about an hour ago. Wanted me to either take her to and from her facility this weekend (200 miles away) for a Sat eve home visit OR...	kabbie	6	452	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	fake it til you make it??? (Preview) AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG???????????????	evey	9	883	Oct 31, 2006 by AndiLynn
	Fast track back behind step 1 (Preview) My Ason had been clean and sober as far as I knew for 5 months. I got a call from his girlfriend on Saturday telling me that he is drinking at least 12 quarts of beer a night, has become abusive again and she fears he is now dealing drugs. My heart is broken. I found myself in the throws o...	Mobirdie	6	614	Oct 31, 2006 by Christy
	Group Business Meet'g (Preview) Reminder to all members Group Business Meeting Wed Nov 1st at 7pm ET Agenda Old business - Newcomers Meeting - Schedule - Meeting Topics Review New Business - Change Group meeting to Sun Hope to see you there - Dot	dot	0	305	Oct 30, 2006 by dot
	Saying the right thing (Preview) Since my daughter has been in rehab, I've been trying hard to be a good listener. Sometimes I say things that don't make sense to her, and she calls me on it..thought I'd share - I took alot away from it. When my mom and I were visiting with her on Sat, we each told her that "you don't have to drink to h...	kabbie	4	409	Oct 30, 2006 by maresie2
	"Unraveling Incorrect Ideas" (Preview) In one of my buddist medatatives, the teacher challenges his students, "If one says incorrect things about our practices, the correct path is to take each idea and unravel it. Say 'This, this, is incorrect based on this reality.' Say, 'This, this is correct based on this reality.' Take each st...	Tiger2006	2	572	Oct 30, 2006 by hudsond
	I made him go home (Preview) I am very proud. I told him that he was not going to stay here this weekend because I didn't feel comfortable about the lying in regard to stealing my son's codiene cough syrup and putting in lemon water instead. Then he showed up smelling like alcohol.... It was hard it's in the 30's tonight and the o...	carolinagirl	5	411	Oct 30, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Serenity II (Preview) ((((((Family))))), I posted a couple of months ago about the serenity I felt in the woods with hubby. I hadn't felt that way in so long. I'm feeling that same way today. I am on vacation this week and even got an extra hour of it thanks to the time change. Hubby woke me up early this...	Karilynn	5	366	Oct 30, 2006 by chris52
	Mom is angry about money (Preview) My daughter is 22 and in inpatient rehab - been there almost 30 days now. I visit it her on the weekends. I'm starting to resent having to take her out during my visits for personal supplies etc. She has no money, and is relying right now on my husband and I for financial support. I'm in Alanon, and I know I ha...	kabbie	2	444	Oct 30, 2006 by Tiger2006
	New to forum (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this forum as well as Alanon. I have attended 4 meetings in my home home town and I find it very interesting. After the first meeting that I went to I realized I should have been going for years but I was too shy and scared. I am married to an Alcoholic and I have found my life turned upside dow...	albertarose	6	557	Oct 30, 2006 by shadow1
	RTexas??? (Preview) (((Rtexas))) Just wondering how you are coping. Always sending prayers your way, and hope you had a good weekend... keep us posted on your life.... HeidiXXXX	hersh	1	346	Oct 30, 2006 by rtexas
	Letting Go Takes Love... (Preview) To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...	Phil	7	481	Oct 30, 2006 by kabbie
	Serenity (Preview) I was up last night thinking alot about things in my life. I faced a fear this weekend one that made me feel fear, anxiety, hurt, unworthiness. I knew it was time to face what I was feeling inside but had to get to the point of wanting to do it for me. I am glad I did. I am more at peace with myself today. I am relax...	DoN4me	1	318	Oct 30, 2006 by Karilynn
	Should she stay or should she go? (Preview) Good morning everyone, I have considered a trial separation from the a wife. All she wants is a place to drink and smoke without any intrusion. Her efforts at getting a job are less than sincere and she refuses to go back to detox, rehab. She is certainly in the final stages of al...	jeeves	6	554	Oct 30, 2006 by Noni
	Grateful for recovery (Preview) ((((((((Family)))))))))), Good morning! I just received my daily reading from the Hazelden Foundation (www.hazelden.org) this morning and it's a perfect way to start off my vacation. Wanted to share it with you. *"Miracles are instantaneuos. They cannot be summoned, b...*	Karilynn	1	440	Oct 30, 2006 by Andrea12
	I am acting as if today.... (Preview) Hi Alanoners, It is my birthday today. I am 57. I made decision to have a good birth day. I am realizing that I have a choice to suffer or not. And I have made alot of progress in my recovery program but I am not quite there. So, I decided that I would take the Alanon slogan of fake it until you make it or act as i...	nmike	9	678	Oct 30, 2006 by Barbara
	My guardian angels was there to help me!! (Preview) Hi everyone! I thank God everyday for sending my guardian angel as a comforting angel as well. See he (my angel) was there for me when I had to deal with my mothers drinking. When I had to deal with being estranged cause she wants to spend her life drinking. He helped me to realize th...	sensitive1	3	628	Oct 30, 2006 by Jerry F
	new to onlinealaon (Preview) i have a home-group but never signed in for the online group. its very early, and i have non one to call. i am realizing that i am married (for 20 years) to someone who cannot be there for me emotionaly. i just gave up hope that it will get better. he is coming up on his one year clean, and he has a sponser, but...	ella	4	425	Oct 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Gratitude fever (Preview) I liked that gratitude alphabet, as usual :) a animals and attitudes b bats and beatitudes c cats and courage d dogs and delights e elephants and esh f frogs and fresh air g gorillas and gumption h hamsters and hello's i ...	peewee	4	461	Oct 29, 2006 by peewee
	Long Rough Week (Preview) Well, hubby and I had a nice vacation paid for by my dad (an anniversary/birthday gift) except for food and whatever we wanted to do down there. We went to Myrtle Beach and had lots of fun. We had our 8th anniversary together (married), been together for 11 yrs, and I am now 26 yrs old!...	ragingchild	4	429	Oct 29, 2006 by ragingchild
	totally worn out from stress (Preview) I come home today from one job to go to another job. I will only have a few hours to rest. I will be working all night long at a very very stressful job. I am tired, I am cranky I am worn out. I do not need to have another plateful of stress. The A has crashed so many cars. He has two ca...	maresie2	6	487	Oct 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Disease Progession Diagram of alcoholics (Preview) Today in the chatroom we were talking about the progression of the disease and where our A's are on it. So i thought I would post it here to shar with everyone http://www.gannett.com/go/difference/greatfalls/pages/part2/progression.html	Mindy	0	454	Oct 29, 2006 by Mindy
	frosty and fiesty at Eden (Preview) I went out to, well cannot remember now. But was in my tshirt as usual. thru on my sweatshirt though. The horse were in rare form. All this food is paying off! Elgin would pretent to bite Glaes, Glaes would pretend to kick Elgin. this went on and on, then Glaes would paw at Elgin...	debilyn	3	384	Oct 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	Life Is Short (Preview) As a recovering alcoholic and a grateful member of Alanon...I have one question.. Are you going to stay stuck? With hope that things will change? We all know that unless the practicing alcoholic hits a bottom or realization, of some kind, that absolutely nothing is going to change.. Yet we h...	Phil	10	600	Oct 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	must get a life (Preview) Today has been a long long lonely day. My husband is away for 11 days. My 3 older children are busy with their families and far from here, the weather is cold and rainy, I have eaten way too much and I am trying so hard to understand detach with love from my A son. How will he know I love him, if I stay far a...	laurab	5	448	Oct 29, 2006 by danz123
	Ups & Downs (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) Downs ... (I'd rather end on a up note) My birthday was earlier this week it started with this ... I found out I am a prostitute according to my A to his friends, am disowned from a second family in one lifetime, and sold the short sale negoitating rights to my house for 10....	Jennifer	3	487	Oct 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	A Ray of Hope (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, I was just sitting here thinking this morning about how we just follow along in life sometimes....how easy it is to get so caught up in making everything seem perfect that you can't see what is right in front of you.....get so use to just going along.....we forget how to get on wi...	Andrea12	6	367	Oct 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Cried really hard tonight! (Preview) I am still greiving over the loss of my friend who "ditched me". I could feel the pain of my mother becoming a drunk and dropping our dear friendship/mother and daughter relationship. As I was crying and asking the Lord why this was happening to me. When I ask Him why my friend deserted me li...	sensitive1	4	419	Oct 28, 2006 by maresie2
	Happy Autumn (Preview) Having a Higher Power in our life is like being a pumpkin. He lifts you up, takes you in, and washes all the dirt off of you. He opens you up, touches you deep inside and scoops out all the yucky stuff-- including the seeds of doubt, hate, greed, etc. Then He carves you a new smiling face and pu...	Maria123	7	396	Oct 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Today is a good day (Preview) Can I just say that today is a good day. I don't have an active alcoholic in my life, and I am not dealing with any adversity. Of course I have my whiney complaints, my life isn't perfect, but HP and this program have given me the gift of some wonderful friends, and the ability to recogn...	bob6502	4	342	Oct 28, 2006 by Maria123
	Playing the Victim??? (Preview) (((Good morning everyone))) From snowy Colorado. It is pretty. I just wanted to see if anyone had some ESH on the Alcoholic playing the victim, or if that is what this is.... I have been going out almost every night, to an Alanon or AA meeting, because I HAVE to for my sanity. I do...	hersh	8	621	Oct 28, 2006 by Karilynn
	DO YOU STEER CLEAR OF GETTING OTHERS TO FEEL SORRY FOR YOU? (Preview) For years,,,when the insanity of my husbands drinking was progressing, I wanted friends and family to feel sorry for me. Oh woe is me! Sitting on the pity pot waiting for something good to happen. Somebody do something,,somebody stop all of this, somebody help me,,,,,etc,,,etc. Even when I started...	gardengal	5	1124	Oct 28, 2006 by Karilynn
	does it always get worse? (Preview) I went away with my a this past weekend to a beach house. just the two of us. He knows when we do things like that there is no point in him drinking, coz if he does there is no point in us having a romantic weekend. And it was beautiful. He used to drink all the time, thinking it was his only enjoyment. These...	arty	6	507	Oct 28, 2006 by arty
	When will it be my party (Preview) Well it looks like my plans for the holidays are on hold. I am not working enough to take time off so I will probably be working at the hotel. That will give me some respite. I will go out on the evening of New Years Eve to not have to deal with the fireworks. The bangs and the bombs and what...	maresie2	2	488	Oct 28, 2006 by Andrea12
	Let 'em whirl! (Preview) An old Arab, whose tent was pitched next to a company of whirling dervishes was asked, "Don't they bother you?" "No!" was his answer. "What do you do about them?" "I let them whirl." Wouldn't that be easier? Instead of trying to control a whirlwind? Probably any one of us can get along with pe...	greta	4	4873	Oct 28, 2006 by twinkie
	I Want to Let Go, He Won't (Preview) In Jan. of 2004, my drunk AH and I were in our home, he became belligerant, and gesturing his arms around wildly, and hit me in the nose. What followed is greater than my greatest nightmare ever was. I already have PTSSD, so everything was magnified. I wtnt o his mother's who took m...	Becky1	11	424	Oct 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Happy Birthday JrtJosey!! (Preview) Hey (((((((((Josey)))))))))) Happy Birthday! Hope you have a wonderful wonderful day!! Luv ya!! Kis	kismetstrand	12	538	Oct 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
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