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maresie2 · maresie2

I signed up for benefits at one of the jobs I am at. I will not get the card for another month. When I do I will be able to get anti depressants which I badly need. I will also have a window to get dental work which I also badly need. This is huge for me in terms of self care. ...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The a showed up a few mins ago to pick up the kids and take them to get pumpkins for carving. First thing upon entering the house he runs upstairs and brushes his teeth with my toothbrush mind you. Then he comes down. I notice the aroma of alcohol eminating from him. He swears he hasn't been drinking, then g...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, What a long three weeks this has been, and I want to thank you all for your support and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I got the results this week and the lump was benign. It was fatty tissue, a bit of something that was maybe the beginning of a fibroid, and an old hemmorahage. So all in all, a b...

laurab · laurab

I had a really nice day Sunday. I went to a talk and then out to dinner with friends. I hardly thought about my A son. Then, in the car, on the way home I had an attack of guilt. Where was he while I was having a good time? Was he drunk and cold? Did he have money for food? Has he lost his job and has reg...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((My Family)))))) I found this today... I know I have read it before, but I really like it and wanted to share it with you. Take care of you! Life is attitude We create our reality through our perceptions and our way of being. I found a text which reflects perfectly what I believe abou...

kabbie · kabbie

I posted earlier about how I struggle with my financial enabling to my daughter in rehab. Thanks for all the HONEST responses, I needed to hear it. Daughter called from rehab about an hour ago. Wanted me to either take her to and from her facility this weekend (200 miles away) for a Sat eve home visit OR...

evey · evey

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG???????????????

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

My Ason had been clean and sober as far as I knew for 5 months. I got a call from his girlfriend on Saturday telling me that he is drinking at least 12 quarts of beer a night, has become abusive again and she fears he is now dealing drugs. My heart is broken. I found myself in the throws o...

dot · dot

Reminder to all members Group Business Meeting Wed Nov 1st at 7pm ET Agenda Old business - Newcomers Meeting - Schedule - Meeting Topics Review New Business - Change Group meeting to Sun Hope to see you there - Dot

kabbie · kabbie

Since my daughter has been in rehab, I've been trying hard to be a good listener. Sometimes I say things that don't make sense to her, and she calls me on it..thought I'd share - I took alot away from it. When my mom and I were visiting with her on Sat, we each told her that "you don't have to drink to h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

In one of my buddist medatatives, the teacher challenges his students, "If one says incorrect things about our practices, the correct path is to take each idea and unravel it. Say 'This, this, is incorrect based on this reality.' Say, 'This, this is correct based on this reality.' Take each st...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am very proud. I told him that he was not going to stay here this weekend because I didn't feel comfortable about the lying in regard to stealing my son's codiene cough syrup and putting in lemon water instead. Then he showed up smelling like alcohol.... It was hard it's in the 30's tonight and the o...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))), I posted a couple of months ago about the serenity I felt in the woods with hubby. I hadn't felt that way in so long. I'm feeling that same way today. I am on vacation this week and even got an extra hour of it thanks to the time change. Hubby woke me up early this...

kabbie · kabbie

My daughter is 22 and in inpatient rehab - been there almost 30 days now. I visit it her on the weekends. I'm starting to resent having to take her out during my visits for personal supplies etc. She has no money, and is relying right now on my husband and I for financial support. I'm in Alanon, and I know I ha...

albertarose · albertarose

Hello, I'm new to this forum as well as Alanon. I have attended 4 meetings in my home home town and I find it very interesting. After the first meeting that I went to I realized I should have been going for years but I was too shy and scared. I am married to an Alcoholic and I have found my life turned upside dow...

hersh · hersh

(((Rtexas))) Just wondering how you are coping. Always sending prayers your way, and hope you had a good weekend... keep us posted on your life.... HeidiXXXX

Phil · Phil

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I was up last night thinking alot about things in my life. I faced a fear this weekend one that made me feel fear, anxiety, hurt, unworthiness. I knew it was time to face what I was feeling inside but had to get to the point of wanting to do it for me. I am glad I did. I am more at peace with myself today. I am relax...

jeeves · jeeves

Good morning everyone, I have considered a trial separation from the a wife. All she wants is a place to drink and smoke without any intrusion. Her efforts at getting a job are less than sincere and she refuses to go back to detox, rehab. She is certainly in the final stages of al...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family)))))))))), Good morning! I just received my daily reading from the Hazelden Foundation (www.hazelden.org) this morning and it's a perfect way to start off my vacation. Wanted to share it with you. "Miracles are instantaneuos. They cannot be summoned, b...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, It is my birthday today. I am 57. I made decision to have a good birth day. I am realizing that I have a choice to suffer or not. And I have made alot of progress in my recovery program but I am not quite there. So, I decided that I would take the Alanon slogan of fake it until you make it or act as i...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

Hi everyone! I thank God everyday for sending my guardian angel as a comforting angel as well. See he (my angel) was there for me when I had to deal with my mothers drinking. When I had to deal with being estranged cause she wants to spend her life drinking. He helped me to realize th...

ella · ella

i have a home-group but never signed in for the online group. its very early, and i have non one to call. i am realizing that i am married (for 20 years) to someone who cannot be there for me emotionaly. i just gave up hope that it will get better. he is coming up on his one year clean, and he has a sponser, but...

peewee · peewee

I liked that gratitude alphabet, as usual :) a animals and attitudes b bats and beatitudes c cats and courage d dogs and delights e elephants and esh f frogs and fresh air g gorillas and gumption h hamsters and hello's i ...

ragingchild · ragingchild

Well, hubby and I had a nice vacation paid for by my dad (an anniversary/birthday gift) except for food and whatever we wanted to do down there. We went to Myrtle Beach and had lots of fun. We had our 8th anniversary together (married), been together for 11 yrs, and I am now 26 yrs old!...

maresie2 · maresie2

I come home today from one job to go to another job. I will only have a few hours to rest. I will be working all night long at a very very stressful job. I am tired, I am cranky I am worn out. I do not need to have another plateful of stress. The A has crashed so many cars. He has two ca...

Mindy · Mindy

Today in the chatroom we were talking about the progression of the disease and where our A's are on it. So i thought I would post it here to shar with everyone

http://www.gannett.com/go/difference/greatfalls/pages/part2/progression.html

debilyn · debilyn

I went out to, well cannot remember now. But was in my tshirt as usual. thru on my sweatshirt though. The horse were in rare form. All this food is paying off! Elgin would pretent to bite Glaes, Glaes would pretend to kick Elgin. this went on and on, then Glaes would paw at Elgin...

Phil · Phil

As a recovering alcoholic and a grateful member of Alanon...I have one question.. Are you going to stay stuck? With hope that things will change? We all know that unless the practicing alcoholic hits a bottom or realization, of some kind, that absolutely nothing is going to change.. Yet we h...

laurab · laurab

Today has been a long long lonely day. My husband is away for 11 days. My 3 older children are busy with their families and far from here, the weather is cold and rainy, I have eaten way too much and I am trying so hard to understand detach with love from my A son. How will he know I love him, if I stay far a...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) Downs ... (I'd rather end on a up note) My birthday was earlier this week it started with this ... I found out I am a prostitute according to my A to his friends, am disowned from a second family in one lifetime, and sold the short sale negoitating rights to my house for 10....

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, I was just sitting here thinking this morning about how we just follow along in life sometimes....how easy it is to get so caught up in making everything seem perfect that you can't see what is right in front of you.....get so use to just going along.....we forget how to get on wi...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

I am still greiving over the loss of my friend who "ditched me". I could feel the pain of my mother becoming a drunk and dropping our dear friendship/mother and daughter relationship. As I was crying and asking the Lord why this was happening to me. When I ask Him why my friend deserted me li...

Maria123 · Maria123

Having a Higher Power in our life is like being a pumpkin.

He lifts you up, takes you in, and washes all the dirt off of you. He opens you up, touches you deep inside and scoops out all the yucky stuff-- including the seeds of doubt, hate, greed, etc. Then He carves you a new smiling face and pu...

bob6502 · bob6502

Can I just say that today is a good day.

I don't have an active alcoholic in my life, and I am not dealing with any adversity. Of course I have my whiney complaints, my life isn't perfect, but HP and this program have given me the gift of some wonderful friends, and the ability to recogn...

hersh · hersh

(((Good morning everyone))) From snowy Colorado. It is pretty. I just wanted to see if anyone had some ESH on the Alcoholic playing the victim, or if that is what this is.... I have been going out almost every night, to an Alanon or AA meeting, because I HAVE to for my sanity. I do...

gardengal · gardengal

For years,,,when the insanity of my husbands drinking was progressing, I wanted friends and family to feel sorry for me. Oh woe is me! Sitting on the pity pot waiting for something good to happen. Somebody do something,,somebody stop all of this, somebody help me,,,,,etc,,,etc. Even when I started...

arty · arty

I went away with my a this past weekend to a beach house. just the two of us. He knows when we do things like that there is no point in him drinking, coz if he does there is no point in us having a romantic weekend. And it was beautiful. He used to drink all the time, thinking it was his only enjoyment. These...

maresie2 · maresie2

Well it looks like my plans for the holidays are on hold. I am not working enough to take time off so I will probably be working at the hotel. That will give me some respite. I will go out on the evening of New Years Eve to not have to deal with the fireworks. The bangs and the bombs and what...

greta · greta

An old Arab, whose tent was pitched next to a company of whirling dervishes was asked, "Don't they bother you?" "No!" was his answer. "What do you do about them?" "I let them whirl." Wouldn't that be easier? Instead of trying to control a whirlwind? Probably any one of us can get along with pe...

Becky1 · Becky1

In Jan. of 2004, my drunk AH and I were in our home, he became belligerant, and gesturing his arms around wildly, and hit me in the nose. What followed is greater than my greatest nightmare ever was. I already have PTSSD, so everything was magnified. I wtnt o his mother's who took m...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Hey (((((((((Josey)))))))))) Happy Birthday! Hope you have a wonderful wonderful day!! Luv ya!! Kis

sparkette · sparkette

Today is another new day. For a really long time I was focused on new beginnings needing to be some grand large change or shift. I am in the middle of a divorce right now and my daughters and I moved into our new apt on Wednesday. That is a big change, a big shift. What occurs to me that through these past few mo...

twinkie · twinkie

I don't understand all the lies - why? Not lies to cover up drinking - he is not actively drinking right now - but lies about so many other things - whether he is going to AA meetings, if he called - we started out the relationship with deceit - he told me so many things which were untrue - broke the trus...

Noni · Noni

Is there a way already, or would it be possible, to include a feature on the board where any user can see only the posts that they have posted (authored or posted within)? Thanks.

Becky1 · Becky1

Just got home from walmart. Poor me! (I LOVE Walmart!) Hubby is in his usual place, across the street, helping decorate for a Halloween party tomorrow night. His friends. I'm going to my friends party while he goes to his. This is different for us, we usually go together w...

twinkie · twinkie

I have to bite my tongue and need some detachment. My A just had a major relapse a few months ago - he went on a 12 day binge - his mother rescued him, took him to the hospital, cleaned up his apartment, etc etc. (enabler!) I moved out. As a result of his relapse his son's mother filed a cus...

laurab · laurab

I haven't spoken to my son in over 24 hours. I don't know where he is, if he still has his job, or if he is sober today. I know the 3 Cs. I know that if I call him and all I hear is terrible stuff, I will be miserable all night. I know what I have to do for myself, meetings, detach etc. But all I want is to know that he is...

hersh · hersh

((((Happy Friday))) Everyone... Thought I would share a gratitude list - a lady at a meeting the other night said that she recited one in her head from A-Z so she could sleep at night... what a great idea! I did it last night and it actually worked. A- Alanon and AA B - Birds, breathing C - Co...

purplebutterfly · purplebutterfly

I went to the mall with my daughter today . My dry A got mad I spent money on as my A says " junk". I bought her a necklace a pencil holder that had 4 things in it. and 2 lip glossess. We had a nice time together. Im having trouble letting go of guilt i dont deserve. Then my dry A says when home then im g...

Becky1 · Becky1

I posted earlier about how my husband burned his camo sweatshirt jacket that I had worn. I used to always try to be nice about things, and try to smooth things over with him, but ever since I went off my antidepressants, I have just cut loose. It may be a good thing, or not. Hard to say. B...

athena12 · athena12

I have severe nearsightedness. Several years before my father died, he offered me $6000 to have the operation to get my eyes fixed. I was surprised by the offer, but declined it right away. Anyway, I was sort of touched by my fath...

purplebutterfly · purplebutterfly

I'm proably asking a crazy question. Why is that my dry A has all these wild things that I may be doing and im not doing it. I dont like being accused of things i havent done. ie--- said saw me sneak "my money" to my daughter. (which didnt happen) saying i sent someone pics i didn't Its driv...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Talked to the A just now and he was happy and calm and I caught myself getting a little upset. I was so stressed out last night in large part because of his words and now today it's like nothing ever happened. He is better and I am still holding a grudge. ERRRRRRR!!!! I would like to tu...

kabbie · kabbie

My mom is here, visiting from out of town. She's making me my favorite dinner tonight. She and I will go tommorrow to visit my daughter at her rehab facility. Daughter is off restriction so we will see a matinee, have dinner, pretty good chance we'll end up at Walmart. I have really leaned on my m...

marmare · marmare

Well I went on my ride along yesterday. It seems as the job will fit me very nicely. I can only find one draw back and that is the time I would be done. I got home around 8:30. Of course my A and 15 yr old had an argument before I was home and the 15 yr old called my cell phone. On m...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

Hi everyone! As some of you know I am new to here! I am also new to this. First I would like to express how I got here. Well I am seeing a counselor bout self esteem issues. On my second session she advised me to check out Al anon groups here locally. Well I do have to admit I am very shy to that so I thought I woul...

laurab · laurab

I went to my first AlAnon meeting last night. It was very kind and loving and gracious and welcoming. But, I felt like my life is a nightmare of waiting for the next phone call police car jail blackout coke deal loss tears etc, while everyone there was so calm and optimistic. I of course realize tha...

kabbie · kabbie

Just wanted to take a minute and speak to the positive side of recovery. At 37 days sober, my daughter is saying please and thank you, asking about family members, telling me to drive carefully in bad weather, hugging and holding hands with her dad and I, taking NO for an answer, sharing her feelings....

debilyn · debilyn

the photo page? we have one don't we? thanks love,debilyn

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	self care (Preview) I signed up for benefits at one of the jobs I am at. I will not get the card for another month. When I do I will be able to get anti depressants which I badly need. I will also have a window to get dental work which I also badly need. This is huge for me in terms of self care. ...	maresie2	6	330	Oct 31, 2006 by maresie2
	why do I have to care? (Preview) The a showed up a few mins ago to pick up the kids and take them to get pumpkins for carving. First thing upon entering the house he runs upstairs and brushes his teeth with my toothbrush mind you. Then he comes down. I notice the aroma of alcohol eminating from him. He swears he hasn't been drinking, then g...	carolinagirl	7	580	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Biopsy Results (Preview) Hi all, What a long three weeks this has been, and I want to thank you all for your support and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I got the results this week and the lump was benign. It was fatty tissue, a bit of something that was maybe the beginning of a fibroid, and an old hemmorahage. So all in all, a b...	Dolphin123	25	520	Oct 31, 2006 by Noni
	I know guilt is non productive..but (Preview) I had a really nice day Sunday. I went to a talk and then out to dinner with friends. I hardly thought about my A son. Then, in the car, on the way home I had an attack of guilt. Where was he while I was having a good time? Was he drunk and cold? Did he have money for food? Has he lost his job and has reg...	laurab	5	392	Oct 31, 2006 by Noni
	A small gift... (Preview) ((((((My Family)))))) I found this today... I know I have read it before, but I really like it and wanted to share it with you. Take care of you! Life is attitude We create our reality through our perceptions and our way of being. I found a text which reflects perfectly what I believe abou...	rtexas	7	496	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	I did it - I had NO to money (Preview) I posted earlier about how I struggle with my financial enabling to my daughter in rehab. Thanks for all the HONEST responses, I needed to hear it. Daughter called from rehab about an hour ago. Wanted me to either take her to and from her facility this weekend (200 miles away) for a Sat eve home visit OR...	kabbie	6	405	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	fake it til you make it??? (Preview) AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG???????????????	evey	9	837	Oct 31, 2006 by AndiLynn
	Fast track back behind step 1 (Preview) My Ason had been clean and sober as far as I knew for 5 months. I got a call from his girlfriend on Saturday telling me that he is drinking at least 12 quarts of beer a night, has become abusive again and she fears he is now dealing drugs. My heart is broken. I found myself in the throws o...	Mobirdie	6	565	Oct 31, 2006 by Christy
	Group Business Meet'g (Preview) Reminder to all members Group Business Meeting Wed Nov 1st at 7pm ET Agenda Old business - Newcomers Meeting - Schedule - Meeting Topics Review New Business - Change Group meeting to Sun Hope to see you there - Dot	dot	0	257	Oct 30, 2006 by dot
	Saying the right thing (Preview) Since my daughter has been in rehab, I've been trying hard to be a good listener. Sometimes I say things that don't make sense to her, and she calls me on it..thought I'd share - I took alot away from it. When my mom and I were visiting with her on Sat, we each told her that "you don't have to drink to h...	kabbie	4	359	Oct 30, 2006 by maresie2
	"Unraveling Incorrect Ideas" (Preview) In one of my buddist medatatives, the teacher challenges his students, "If one says incorrect things about our practices, the correct path is to take each idea and unravel it. Say 'This, this, is incorrect based on this reality.' Say, 'This, this is correct based on this reality.' Take each st...	Tiger2006	2	503	Oct 30, 2006 by hudsond
	I made him go home (Preview) I am very proud. I told him that he was not going to stay here this weekend because I didn't feel comfortable about the lying in regard to stealing my son's codiene cough syrup and putting in lemon water instead. Then he showed up smelling like alcohol.... It was hard it's in the 30's tonight and the o...	carolinagirl	5	362	Oct 30, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Serenity II (Preview) ((((((Family))))), I posted a couple of months ago about the serenity I felt in the woods with hubby. I hadn't felt that way in so long. I'm feeling that same way today. I am on vacation this week and even got an extra hour of it thanks to the time change. Hubby woke me up early this...	Karilynn	5	315	Oct 30, 2006 by chris52
	Mom is angry about money (Preview) My daughter is 22 and in inpatient rehab - been there almost 30 days now. I visit it her on the weekends. I'm starting to resent having to take her out during my visits for personal supplies etc. She has no money, and is relying right now on my husband and I for financial support. I'm in Alanon, and I know I ha...	kabbie	2	395	Oct 30, 2006 by Tiger2006
	New to forum (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this forum as well as Alanon. I have attended 4 meetings in my home home town and I find it very interesting. After the first meeting that I went to I realized I should have been going for years but I was too shy and scared. I am married to an Alcoholic and I have found my life turned upside dow...	albertarose	6	509	Oct 30, 2006 by shadow1
	RTexas??? (Preview) (((Rtexas))) Just wondering how you are coping. Always sending prayers your way, and hope you had a good weekend... keep us posted on your life.... HeidiXXXX	hersh	1	270	Oct 30, 2006 by rtexas
	Letting Go Takes Love... (Preview) To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...	Phil	7	433	Oct 30, 2006 by kabbie
	Serenity (Preview) I was up last night thinking alot about things in my life. I faced a fear this weekend one that made me feel fear, anxiety, hurt, unworthiness. I knew it was time to face what I was feeling inside but had to get to the point of wanting to do it for me. I am glad I did. I am more at peace with myself today. I am relax...	DoN4me	1	243	Oct 30, 2006 by Karilynn
	Should she stay or should she go? (Preview) Good morning everyone, I have considered a trial separation from the a wife. All she wants is a place to drink and smoke without any intrusion. Her efforts at getting a job are less than sincere and she refuses to go back to detox, rehab. She is certainly in the final stages of al...	jeeves	6	501	Oct 30, 2006 by Noni
	Grateful for recovery (Preview) ((((((((Family)))))))))), Good morning! I just received my daily reading from the Hazelden Foundation (www.hazelden.org) this morning and it's a perfect way to start off my vacation. Wanted to share it with you. *"Miracles are instantaneuos. They cannot be summoned, b...*	Karilynn	1	389	Oct 30, 2006 by Andrea12
	I am acting as if today.... (Preview) Hi Alanoners, It is my birthday today. I am 57. I made decision to have a good birth day. I am realizing that I have a choice to suffer or not. And I have made alot of progress in my recovery program but I am not quite there. So, I decided that I would take the Alanon slogan of fake it until you make it or act as i...	nmike	9	630	Oct 30, 2006 by Barbara
	My guardian angels was there to help me!! (Preview) Hi everyone! I thank God everyday for sending my guardian angel as a comforting angel as well. See he (my angel) was there for me when I had to deal with my mothers drinking. When I had to deal with being estranged cause she wants to spend her life drinking. He helped me to realize th...	sensitive1	3	582	Oct 30, 2006 by Jerry F
	new to onlinealaon (Preview) i have a home-group but never signed in for the online group. its very early, and i have non one to call. i am realizing that i am married (for 20 years) to someone who cannot be there for me emotionaly. i just gave up hope that it will get better. he is coming up on his one year clean, and he has a sponser, but...	ella	4	383	Oct 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Gratitude fever (Preview) I liked that gratitude alphabet, as usual :) a animals and attitudes b bats and beatitudes c cats and courage d dogs and delights e elephants and esh f frogs and fresh air g gorillas and gumption h hamsters and hello's i ...	peewee	4	412	Oct 29, 2006 by peewee
	Long Rough Week (Preview) Well, hubby and I had a nice vacation paid for by my dad (an anniversary/birthday gift) except for food and whatever we wanted to do down there. We went to Myrtle Beach and had lots of fun. We had our 8th anniversary together (married), been together for 11 yrs, and I am now 26 yrs old!...	ragingchild	4	381	Oct 29, 2006 by ragingchild
	totally worn out from stress (Preview) I come home today from one job to go to another job. I will only have a few hours to rest. I will be working all night long at a very very stressful job. I am tired, I am cranky I am worn out. I do not need to have another plateful of stress. The A has crashed so many cars. He has two ca...	maresie2	6	444	Oct 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Disease Progession Diagram of alcoholics (Preview) Today in the chatroom we were talking about the progression of the disease and where our A's are on it. So i thought I would post it here to shar with everyone http://www.gannett.com/go/difference/greatfalls/pages/part2/progression.html	Mindy	0	396	Oct 29, 2006 by Mindy
	frosty and fiesty at Eden (Preview) I went out to, well cannot remember now. But was in my tshirt as usual. thru on my sweatshirt though. The horse were in rare form. All this food is paying off! Elgin would pretent to bite Glaes, Glaes would pretend to kick Elgin. this went on and on, then Glaes would paw at Elgin...	debilyn	3	337	Oct 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	Life Is Short (Preview) As a recovering alcoholic and a grateful member of Alanon...I have one question.. Are you going to stay stuck? With hope that things will change? We all know that unless the practicing alcoholic hits a bottom or realization, of some kind, that absolutely nothing is going to change.. Yet we h...	Phil	10	546	Oct 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	must get a life (Preview) Today has been a long long lonely day. My husband is away for 11 days. My 3 older children are busy with their families and far from here, the weather is cold and rainy, I have eaten way too much and I am trying so hard to understand detach with love from my A son. How will he know I love him, if I stay far a...	laurab	5	397	Oct 29, 2006 by danz123
	Ups & Downs (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) Downs ... (I'd rather end on a up note) My birthday was earlier this week it started with this ... I found out I am a prostitute according to my A to his friends, am disowned from a second family in one lifetime, and sold the short sale negoitating rights to my house for 10....	Jennifer	3	395	Oct 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	A Ray of Hope (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, I was just sitting here thinking this morning about how we just follow along in life sometimes....how easy it is to get so caught up in making everything seem perfect that you can't see what is right in front of you.....get so use to just going along.....we forget how to get on wi...	Andrea12	6	318	Oct 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Cried really hard tonight! (Preview) I am still greiving over the loss of my friend who "ditched me". I could feel the pain of my mother becoming a drunk and dropping our dear friendship/mother and daughter relationship. As I was crying and asking the Lord why this was happening to me. When I ask Him why my friend deserted me li...	sensitive1	4	371	Oct 28, 2006 by maresie2
	Happy Autumn (Preview) Having a Higher Power in our life is like being a pumpkin. He lifts you up, takes you in, and washes all the dirt off of you. He opens you up, touches you deep inside and scoops out all the yucky stuff-- including the seeds of doubt, hate, greed, etc. Then He carves you a new smiling face and pu...	Maria123	7	344	Oct 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Today is a good day (Preview) Can I just say that today is a good day. I don't have an active alcoholic in my life, and I am not dealing with any adversity. Of course I have my whiney complaints, my life isn't perfect, but HP and this program have given me the gift of some wonderful friends, and the ability to recogn...	bob6502	4	298	Oct 28, 2006 by Maria123
	Playing the Victim??? (Preview) (((Good morning everyone))) From snowy Colorado. It is pretty. I just wanted to see if anyone had some ESH on the Alcoholic playing the victim, or if that is what this is.... I have been going out almost every night, to an Alanon or AA meeting, because I HAVE to for my sanity. I do...	hersh	8	575	Oct 28, 2006 by Karilynn
	DO YOU STEER CLEAR OF GETTING OTHERS TO FEEL SORRY FOR YOU? (Preview) For years,,,when the insanity of my husbands drinking was progressing, I wanted friends and family to feel sorry for me. Oh woe is me! Sitting on the pity pot waiting for something good to happen. Somebody do something,,somebody stop all of this, somebody help me,,,,,etc,,,etc. Even when I started...	gardengal	5	1079	Oct 28, 2006 by Karilynn
	does it always get worse? (Preview) I went away with my a this past weekend to a beach house. just the two of us. He knows when we do things like that there is no point in him drinking, coz if he does there is no point in us having a romantic weekend. And it was beautiful. He used to drink all the time, thinking it was his only enjoyment. These...	arty	6	446	Oct 28, 2006 by arty
	When will it be my party (Preview) Well it looks like my plans for the holidays are on hold. I am not working enough to take time off so I will probably be working at the hotel. That will give me some respite. I will go out on the evening of New Years Eve to not have to deal with the fireworks. The bangs and the bombs and what...	maresie2	2	440	Oct 28, 2006 by Andrea12
	Let 'em whirl! (Preview) An old Arab, whose tent was pitched next to a company of whirling dervishes was asked, "Don't they bother you?" "No!" was his answer. "What do you do about them?" "I let them whirl." Wouldn't that be easier? Instead of trying to control a whirlwind? Probably any one of us can get along with pe...	greta	4	4616	Oct 28, 2006 by twinkie
	I Want to Let Go, He Won't (Preview) In Jan. of 2004, my drunk AH and I were in our home, he became belligerant, and gesturing his arms around wildly, and hit me in the nose. What followed is greater than my greatest nightmare ever was. I already have PTSSD, so everything was magnified. I wtnt o his mother's who took m...	Becky1	11	378	Oct 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Happy Birthday JrtJosey!! (Preview) Hey (((((((((Josey)))))))))) Happy Birthday! Hope you have a wonderful wonderful day!! Luv ya!! Kis	kismetstrand	12	486	Oct 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	a new beginning (lovette) (Preview) Today is another new day. For a really long time I was focused on new beginnings needing to be some grand large change or shift. I am in the middle of a divorce right now and my daughters and I moved into our new apt on Wednesday. That is a big change, a big shift. What occurs to me that through these past few mo...	sparkette	5	453	Oct 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	lies! so much lying...why? (Preview) I don't understand all the lies - why? Not lies to cover up drinking - he is not actively drinking right now - but lies about so many other things - whether he is going to AA meetings, if he called - we started out the relationship with deceit - he told me so many things which were untrue - broke the trus...	twinkie	5	491	Oct 28, 2006 by twinkie
	MIP Board Technical Question (Preview) Is there a way already, or would it be possible, to include a feature on the board where any user can see only the posts that they have posted (authored or posted within)? Thanks.	Noni	1	328	Oct 28, 2006 by Jennifer
	Tiring and Weird Week (Preview) Just got home from walmart. Poor me! (I LOVE Walmart!) Hubby is in his usual place, across the street, helping decorate for a Halloween party tomorrow night. His friends. I'm going to my friends party while he goes to his. This is different for us, we usually go together w...	Becky1	1	279	Oct 28, 2006 by lin0606
	so hard to detach (Preview) I have to bite my tongue and need some detachment. My A just had a major relapse a few months ago - he went on a 12 day binge - his mother rescued him, took him to the hospital, cleaned up his apartment, etc etc. (enabler!) I moved out. As a result of his relapse his son's mother filed a cus...	twinkie	2	372	Oct 28, 2006 by nmike
	I haven't phoned in 24 hours (Preview) I haven't spoken to my son in over 24 hours. I don't know where he is, if he still has his job, or if he is sober today. I know the 3 Cs. I know that if I call him and all I hear is terrible stuff, I will be miserable all night. I know what I have to do for myself, meetings, detach etc. But all I want is to know that he is...	laurab	3	405	Oct 28, 2006 by nmike
	Friday Gratitude List.... (Preview) ((((Happy Friday))) Everyone... Thought I would share a gratitude list - a lady at a meeting the other night said that she recited one in her head from A-Z so she could sleep at night... what a great idea! I did it last night and it actually worked. A- Alanon and AA B - Birds, breathing C - Co...	hersh	6	324	Oct 27, 2006 by peewee
	feeling guilt from a mall trip (Preview) I went to the mall with my daughter today . My dry A got mad I spent money on as my A says " junk". I bought her a necklace a pencil holder that had 4 things in it. and 2 lip glossess. We had a nice time together. Im having trouble letting go of guilt i dont deserve. Then my dry A says when home then im g...	purplebutterfly	3	314	Oct 27, 2006 by peewee
	Raging about Alcohol (Preview) I posted earlier about how my husband burned his camo sweatshirt jacket that I had worn. I used to always try to be nice about things, and try to smooth things over with him, but ever since I went off my antidepressants, I have just cut loose. It may be a good thing, or not. Hard to say. B...	Becky1	5	404	Oct 27, 2006 by Becky1
	IRRATIONAL THINKING NOT SOLELY A CHARACTERISTIC OF ALCOHOLICS (Preview) I have severe nearsightedness. Several years before my father died, he offered me $6000 to have the operation to get my eyes fixed. I was surprised by the offer, but declined it right away. Anyway, I was sort of touched by my fath...	athena12	3	397	Oct 27, 2006 by Tiger2006
	dry A craziness (Preview) I'm proably asking a crazy question. Why is that my dry A has all these wild things that I may be doing and im not doing it. I dont like being accused of things i havent done. ie--- said saw me sneak "my money" to my daughter. (which didnt happen) saying i sent someone pics i didn't Its driv...	purplebutterfly	5	404	Oct 27, 2006 by purplebutterfly
	On from here with optimism (Preview) Talked to the A just now and he was happy and calm and I caught myself getting a little upset. I was so stressed out last night in large part because of his words and now today it's like nothing ever happened. He is better and I am still holding a grudge. ERRRRRRR!!!! I would like to tu...	carolinagirl	1	401	Oct 27, 2006 by Tiger2006
	My mom is visiting (Preview) My mom is here, visiting from out of town. She's making me my favorite dinner tonight. She and I will go tommorrow to visit my daughter at her rehab facility. Daughter is off restriction so we will see a matinee, have dinner, pretty good chance we'll end up at Walmart. I have really leaned on my m...	kabbie	2	253	Oct 27, 2006 by hersh
	New Job? (Preview) Well I went on my ride along yesterday. It seems as the job will fit me very nicely. I can only find one draw back and that is the time I would be done. I got home around 8:30. Of course my A and 15 yr old had an argument before I was home and the 15 yr old called my cell phone. On m...	marmare	4	253	Oct 27, 2006 by isabela40
	Feeling worthless! (Preview) Hi everyone! As some of you know I am new to here! I am also new to this. First I would like to express how I got here. Well I am seeing a counselor bout self esteem issues. On my second session she advised me to check out Al anon groups here locally. Well I do have to admit I am very shy to that so I thought I woul...	sensitive1	7	500	Oct 27, 2006 by isabela40
	I went to an AlAnon meeting (Preview) I went to my first AlAnon meeting last night. It was very kind and loving and gracious and welcoming. But, I felt like my life is a nightmare of waiting for the next phone call police car jail blackout coke deal loss tears etc, while everyone there was so calm and optimistic. I of course realize tha...	laurab	7	384	Oct 27, 2006 by Rita G
	Grateful (Preview) Just wanted to take a minute and speak to the positive side of recovery. At 37 days sober, my daughter is saying please and thank you, asking about family members, telling me to drive carefully in bad weather, hugging and holding hands with her dad and I, taking NO for an answer, sharing her feelings....	kabbie	3	249	Oct 27, 2006 by Rita G
	Where is (Preview) the photo page? we have one don't we? thanks love,debilyn	debilyn	2	348	Oct 27, 2006 by Lauren ashley
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