Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, I'm just struggling with a lot of things lately, job-wise and other stuff. Business is very, very slow right now for both me and my A, and I'm trying to use my wits and business experience to decide on whether to begin a new journey or not. As some of ya know, both my A...

debilyn · debilyn

I have lost everyone in my family except my daughter. don't see her as she lives far away. a very very wonderful woman adopted me. she was my mom. she was everything to me and I to her. I won't be here for awhile. I may read but cannot respond for awhile. not real jazzed about living right now. but the c...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I remember some guy asked me in a chat session a while back how I could not know what I want. I said I didn't know if I was done or not with the A. And he said "well do you want more of the same?". That has stuck with me even now. No, I don't want more of the same and I have been thru this en...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Our transmission isn't working right. In June we were away from home and had to install a new one, it cost $$$$$ and we put it on credit. Three months ago my AH had problems with the transmission and he said "somewhere around here is the reciept for the transmission" like it was just fl...

Feather · Feather

My A is currently sharing his house with a friend, also an A, whose marriage broke up 4 months ago. My A is trying to be a supportive friend, easing his friend through his heartbreak and trying to help him start his life again. My A is a binge drinker, the friend drinks daily until he is drunk. While my A ...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Ok I am sitting here this morning kindof mad,kindof sad, and kindof like "How Importain Is It".. Lastnight my A sister sent my daughter of a picture of herself on airplane (she looked dorkey) there was no words like How are you, how school, or anything just this dorkey picture... At f...

eMiLy · eMiLy

Can You Help Me Do That? I Have Hated My Dad Ever Since I Was Seven. I Am Thirteen. I Want To Love Him. He Always Says He Is Proud Of Me....I Feel Guilty When He Does. I Started Hateing Him When I Witnessed Him Beating And Stranggleing My Mom. What Do I Do? I Have A Sponser But I Am Not Sure What She Will Think Of Me...

maire rua · maire rua

At present my ex-A is staying with me, a couple of black moods but up and down as usual, he goes out every night and before I would have gone mad about this, I do not now. He is acting perfect, cooking, paying his share, this is unusual behaviour and I do everything that I would do if he was not there and am cour...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

My daughter came over for a while tonight and just wanted some time with her. All I wanted. But he took it all wrong. I have docs appts tomorrow and am supposed to pick up my meds and stuff. He got his ride out, promptly grabbbed his check ( shoudn't have but he had close to $300 in his wallet befor...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((((Everyone)))))) Often we can sink into all the crap that is going on in our lives that it overcomes us. It can steal our focus, consume our day and rob us of our joy. So I'm here to challenge you to step out of the yuck, the obsession, and step into your awareness. Every day we are give...

nycbt · nycbt

I am writing this post to tell people with help from people you will be able to make it in life, you can't make it by your self. You need to call or go online with people. You need people to worry about you, show that they care. When you are hurting that is the one time that is very important to be abl...

jewely · jewely

went to another face to face meeting tonight. my higher power is moving in mysterious ways. yesterday i sat down at my desk, and, wrote out step three, my thoughts, my hopes my prayers. tonight when i arrived at the meeting...., it was step three. the drive back was beautiful. if i want to go to a meeting m...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

We had a bad ice storm this past weekend and our power went out on Sunday evening. There were only two hotel/motel rooms in the entire city left and they wanted $90 each for them. Hubby and I decided to let them stay empty and called my sister to see if they had power and room. Fortunate...

Miranda · Miranda

I'm having a hard time. Yesterday was my sixteenth birthday and...I don't know where I am. I don't even know WHO I am anymore. This was my first birthday without my father around, and while that's what I've always wanted, it still really hurt. The kids all gathered around with one of my friends and sang H...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Hi! I haven't posted in a little while because I have been at a standstill. But I did two baby steps today that work toward the wholer me. 1. I opened savings accounts for both my daughters. I have talked about doing this since they were babies. I always dropped coins in a jar that took years to fill. My...

maresie2 · maresie2

For the last year the wall I've had with the a has been grief, anger and surliness. Admittedly much of that was genuine. I had tremendous feelings of grief anger and sheer frustration with him. Right now I am trying to erect a wall of pleasant. I am trying to be as pleasant as poss...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

So this woman wakes up with only three hairs on her head. She says, today I think I'll braid my hair, and she did. She went on to have a beautiful day. Next day, woman wakes up with two hairs on her head. She says, today I think I'll part my hair down the middle, and she did. She had anoth...

moms3 · moms3

Hi- This may be a silly question, but when and how does a " newbie" become a member of MIP?? I am just curious, because I have belonged to MIP for some time now, and I still have " newbie" under my name.......Just wondering.....Maybe I missed something...

wbfox58 · wbfox58

Greetings, all. This is my very first post, and I need some help with some issues I'm having. My wife is in rehab, and today was our first visitation. During the presentation, the speaker started outlining all the responsibilities that will fall on me and my kids. Here's the problem: I don't thi...

kerry5 · kerry5

Once upon a time there was a rich King who had four wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adored her with rich robes and treated her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. &nb...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Sometimes I feel like all I do is add drama to the board. All of us, I feel have enough drama in our lives. You don't need mine to add to it. Other times, I feel like if I don't say anything, I'm going to explode. I mean, it meant alot to me when people were authentic in their recovery: however hea...

jewely · jewely

he has been gone for days. i got a call from him yesterday, he said he would be home today.......he is not. i decided to go to a face to face meeting tonight. it was nice. but, something really peculiar happened just as i was getting ready to leave. he called. i went outside to start my veh...

kissers · kissers

Hi Alanonies! My father (the original A) would not help with college after I graduated from high school many moons ago. He could claim me on his taxes though and brag about how much money he had! I remember as a kid I played on campus at a nearby Ivy League college and thought to myself, "One day I am going...

arty · arty

Afew months ago my A was in aa meetings and it was working great for him for a little while, then my brothers bucks night came up, and it was the best reason my A could think of to have a drink. So the next day, he told me he didnt think he had a problem, and would wish i would lighten up a little, and let him make...

maresie2 · maresie2

Well I did get paid but the problem is that whenever I have money I encounter yet another bill related to the A. I made the terrible mistake of getting a truck with the A. He has tremendous issues with driving. As long as he drives it I really should have better insurance than I do now. H...

Rebecca · Rebecca

((((((((((hey family)))))))))) well... im exhausted from work.. doin on average 48-52 hrs per week in my job and reaping the rewards financially... i got my tattoo done last saturday :D dead proud of myself there. i booked 2 holidays.. one with the girls in july and one family holiday in oct.....

babysteps · babysteps

I have been trying to use the tools of al-anon to deal with my AH and his irresponsibility, but I just unloaded about a year's worth of built up resentment on him. A year and a half ago he went into renal failure due to a double blockage of his kidneys brought on by dehydration (alcohol was his only drink)...

jewely · jewely

i was just walking out to my vehicle......., when the thought occured to me......., maybe........., higher power told ken to call me last night before i left to the meeting. maybe higher power wanted to 'test' me to strenghten me to break that old pattern of stopping what ever i am doin...

sunny123 · sunny123

I wanted to share my success story! Well, I haven't been here in months, but I do think of you all often and feel so thankful for all of support that I received here. I was posting under sunny123 and logged in as Little Bit in the chat room. Like most here, there were times when I couldn'...

Klynn · Klynn

Well this is kind of a HOHum week. I feel like I am dealing well with the issues at hand and hubby is going to meetings 2 and 3 times a day and has a sponsor and is taking a much more active role in really wanting to beat this thing!! However he is having a hard time with the fact that he has missed so...

annmarie · annmarie

(((Hi Everyone))), I have just been thinking lately and wanted to share a bit with you. I spent years, many years not knowing what was wrong with me. Why was I different to other people in some respects. I was able to keep a job and a home and appeared sensible to the outside world. Yet, somethi...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone))) It has been a strange couple of weeks. We found out December 27 that my stepchildren's mother was found (we thought murdered initially) in a trash bag on the side of a highway out of state. We talked to the detectives (who did not s...

jaja · jaja

Yeah. Right. I called my A's cell phone this morning and left him the message that I was just calling to see if he was okay, that we were sorry about what happened to him (the relapse), and were concerned about his being sicker than could be expected. That...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I just wanted to share some good news. My A decided that he was going to pay me a little support last weekend out of his check from his new job. I sure was glad to get something. I took the kids to see him and we went out to eat at a local game place where the kids could play. We had a goo...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Something I read in the ODAT reader the other day that maybe I just didn't understand or didn't know was the A'ism is the not the cause of the personality flaws, but its the personality flaws that cause the A'ism. The topic for that day was just because someone gets sober doesn't mean the A or the sp...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hi I am sorry. I was so sleepy last night that I just guess I forgot to finish the post. What I was wondering was if anyone had the book pathways to change they wouldn't mind getting rid of. Extra copy, anything. Sorry for scaring you all with my strange blank post. Can anyone help?

Michigan · Michigan

Hi. I am very new to all of this. My husband is an alcoholic, and he very recently started to address it. Just before Christmas, he went to Home Depot to pick up a part for our water heater, and never came home until the next morning at 7 AM. I was leaving for work. He was terrified, had been hang...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

Hi John, You do not know me. But you have saved my family, my wife, and probably my life. This forum was my last hope late at night one night at the end of 2006, when I thought life was no longer worth living. My my, the friends I have made here. The answers and encouragement I have...

Fifi · Fifi

Hello everyone....I hope you all know how much power our collective ESH has! This board (I can't seem to get into chat room...I can't make f2f schedules) has been a huge part of my life this past month. After my breakdown the other night(thanks for the kindness),I feel I went to a new level of re...

Cilla · Cilla

Its been a very perplexing couple of years in dealing wth yet another view of the affects of the disease of alcoholism within the family. It has been four years since my ah and I have separated yet during the course of that time our 13 yo son has picked up where his father has left off. Even arm...

jaja · jaja

He started this past Friday late afternoon an hour after he told me he was feeling sick, couldn't eat dinner with me and daughter, and was going to go home to his place to lay down. And he said his phone wouldn't be on that night because it needed to b...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP Friends))) No sugar coating it, my weekend was aweful. Just when I begin to feel secure in my relationship and homelife, my AH turns into a raving lunatic!! This weekend he spent most of the weekend bashing me because he's sick and tired of me talking down to him, talking to...

Gailey · Gailey

I have felt very controlling the last couple of days. I want the people in my life to make the decisions that I want for them. I want to control how they spend their money and what they do with their day. It is very hard to take care of me when I am still trying to control issues that are not mine to control....

maresie2 · maresie2

The A's mother paid a visit. As some of you will recall I had a lot of feelings around her up and running off in a marriage. The A spent days cleaning and organizing and gearing up for her visit. I did very little in terms of talking to him about it. I used to totally obsess about her and ef...

babysteps · babysteps

This is such a great place for us to learn how to handle life and work on our own self-improvement. Sometimes, however, I find it hard to remember all of the tools we have at our disposal thanks to this program. This is especially important for newcomers who don't know much about al-anon. I thought it wou...

alora_red · alora_red

Hi Everyone

I need some......stories. I know people try not to give advice, so I was wondering if any people here could tell me about their experiences living with their A's and some things they did to cope, or "live with it". I'm specificlly talking about when they've gone drinking....what did...

serendipity · serendipity

the details: my dad died in may. his house has been on the market since june. his friend/excutor has been living there and taking care of it before and since dad died. i am renting a little house and my lease is up in march. so my dad's friend has suggested that the kids and i move in there and he'll move out. b...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Well, He showed right back up about 25 minutes later, claimining that he was trying to help me deal with a nosy, snoopy neighbor who I really don't want in my house. I would not have let her in anyway, but she was acting like some kind of crackhead--strange. Charlie really does love me, but when he showed b...

fluffy · fluffy

I am back now, but as fluffy. I have family members that may run across this site and know my other name. This was not a problem before. They will not notice if they see the name fluffy. I changed my name so they don't run across my posts that are from my heart and very open. If you w...

jewely · jewely

he has been gone for days........................, and, i find my mind slipping back into old thought patterns. where is he? is he okay? in jail? got his own place? out at the campround? the other morning, it was thirty below zero. when i went out to start my vehicle the stingi...

lmt123 · lmt123

Just curious what you were just wondering...your post titled "was just wondering" doesn't have any text in it.

Kathi

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

babysteps · babysteps

Hi - I read and reply a lot, but don't start new threads often. This situation has me stumped, however. My AH went to rehab a year and a half ago. For a few months prior to going he turned yellow, his liver function tests were off the chart (in the 400's when they should be in the 40's), he was anemic due to maln...

doxie · doxie

I am in my new state/town. I just needed to touch base with someone, something familiar. It is so comforting to be able to come here and get that. It is wonderful to be with hubby again. I did miss him. I don't like being away from my boys though. But they are all on their own for a long time now and they nee...

snoopy · snoopy

I just read some information about Bill W. Frankly, I was shocked that he would do the things he did even after sobering up. What's your take on this? Do you think it is even true? He is held up as some sort of a pagan god when it sounds like he was a womanizing creep.

barisax · barisax

One of the best things to me about having a program is that no matter what is going on in my life, good, bad, or just another day, I always have someone I can talk to about it. Not looking for advice, but someone who can listen, and more importantly so I can hear myself saying what is on my mind. Of...

benedetta · benedetta

There are certain "veteran" members out there and there are very few of them, so please don't take offense to this if this doesn't apply to you. Certain people who've made mistake after mistake and have learned to twist and turn the principles of the program to fit their situation and make it okay inste...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

OMG it's been a weekend...But I want to talk to you anyway, so here goes. I swore when I left Wittenberg behind me I was gonna have a whole new life, a whole new being, a whole new thinking. A whole new...yeah. That idea? hasn't panned out. I'm finding out the more "writing intensiv...

bev · bev

he decided yesterday,that he wanted to go to rehab,but he had to get drunk first before going..he says that is the only way he can into detox is if he is drunk..him going into rehab is going to make moving back north a little harder,cause now i have a whole house to pack and figure out where i am going to put h...

hudsond · hudsond

O.k. for those who know a little of my history--you are going to say "not again", but it seems yes again. I have taken a pregnancy test and it would appear- I am yet again! I need prayers please that I can handle whatever comes. I doubt this one will "come to fruitition" I'm sorry I do...

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	Prayer request for ME... (Preview) Hi all, I'm just struggling with a lot of things lately, job-wise and other stuff. Business is very, very slow right now for both me and my A, and I'm trying to use my wits and business experience to decide on whether to begin a new journey or not. As some of ya know, both my A...	lmt123	12	425	Jan 20, 2007 by Karilynn
	mom died ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I have lost everyone in my family except my daughter. don't see her as she lives far away. a very very wonderful woman adopted me. she was my mom. she was everything to me and I to her. I won't be here for awhile. I may read but cannot respond for awhile. not real jazzed about living right now. but the c...	debilyn	46	1305	Jan 20, 2007 by Karilynn
	I remember this guy asked me... (Preview) I remember some guy asked me in a chat session a while back how I could not know what I want. I said I didn't know if I was done or not with the A. And he said "well do you want more of the same?". That has stuck with me even now. No, I don't want more of the same and I have been thru this en...	carolinagirl	6	537	Jan 20, 2007 by jewely
	And Anyway!! (Preview) Our transmission isn't working right. In June we were away from home and had to install a new one, it cost $$$$$ and we put it on credit. Three months ago my AH had problems with the transmission and he said "somewhere around here is the reciept for the transmission" like it was just fl...	RainyJamie	1	250	Jan 20, 2007 by lin0606
	How ironic!! (Preview) My A is currently sharing his house with a friend, also an A, whose marriage broke up 4 months ago. My A is trying to be a supportive friend, easing his friend through his heartbreak and trying to help him start his life again. My A is a binge drinker, the friend drinks daily until he is drunk. While my A ...	Feather	2	287	Jan 19, 2007 by CJ
	What shall I do? (Preview) Ok I am sitting here this morning kindof mad,kindof sad, and kindof like "How Importain Is It".. Lastnight my A sister sent my daughter of a picture of herself on airplane (she looked dorkey) there was no words like How are you, how school, or anything just this dorkey picture... At f...	bubbles1990	2	270	Jan 19, 2007 by Maria123
	I need to stop hateing Dad (Preview) Can You Help Me Do That? I Have Hated My Dad Ever Since I Was Seven. I Am Thirteen. I Want To Love Him. He Always Says He Is Proud Of Me....I Feel Guilty When He Does. I Started Hateing Him When I Witnessed Him Beating And Stranggleing My Mom. What Do I Do? I Have A Sponser But I Am Not Sure What She Will Think Of Me...	eMiLy	7	629	Jan 19, 2007 by ally
	Trying to keep detachment going (Preview) At present my ex-A is staying with me, a couple of black moods but up and down as usual, he goes out every night and before I would have gone mad about this, I do not now. He is acting perfect, cooking, paying his share, this is unusual behaviour and I do everything that I would do if he was not there and am cour...	maire rua	3	396	Jan 19, 2007 by maresie2
	Asked to have some private time with my child---he toook all the money he promised and said __ you. (Preview) My daughter came over for a while tonight and just wanted some time with her. All I wanted. But he took it all wrong. I have docs appts tomorrow and am supposed to pick up my meds and stuff. He got his ride out, promptly grabbbed his check ( shoudn't have but he had close to $300 in his wallet befor...	hippietrippiechick	10	646	Jan 19, 2007 by maresie2
	I Challenge you...are you up for it?? (Preview) (((((Everyone)))))) Often we can sink into all the crap that is going on in our lives that it overcomes us. It can steal our focus, consume our day and rob us of our joy. So I'm here to challenge you to step out of the yuck, the obsession, and step into your awareness. Every day we are give...	Lunamoth	18	598	Jan 19, 2007 by EarthAngel
	get help (Preview) I am writing this post to tell people with help from people you will be able to make it in life, you can't make it by your self. You need to call or go online with people. You need people to worry about you, show that they care. When you are hurting that is the one time that is very important to be abl...	nycbt	3	387	Jan 19, 2007 by Rebecca
	went to another face to face tonight (Preview) went to another face to face meeting tonight. my higher power is moving in mysterious ways. yesterday i sat down at my desk, and, wrote out step three, my thoughts, my hopes my prayers. tonight when i arrived at the meeting...., it was step three. the drive back was beautiful. if i want to go to a meeting m...	jewely	3	258	Jan 19, 2007 by jewely
	A little vent (Preview) We had a bad ice storm this past weekend and our power went out on Sunday evening. There were only two hotel/motel rooms in the entire city left and they wanted $90 each for them. Hubby and I decided to let them stay empty and called my sister to see if they had power and room. Fortunate...	Mobirdie	4	414	Jan 19, 2007 by carolena
	Confusion (Preview) I'm having a hard time. Yesterday was my sixteenth birthday and...I don't know where I am. I don't even know WHO I am anymore. This was my first birthday without my father around, and while that's what I've always wanted, it still really hurt. The kids all gathered around with one of my friends and sang H...	Miranda	5	399	Jan 19, 2007 by carolena
	Baby Steps (Preview) Hi! I haven't posted in a little while because I have been at a standstill. But I did two baby steps today that work toward the wholer me. 1. I opened savings accounts for both my daughters. I have talked about doing this since they were babies. I always dropped coins in a jar that took years to fill. My...	RainyJamie	9	397	Jan 19, 2007 by hudsond
	trying to erect the wall of pleasant (Preview) For the last year the wall I've had with the a has been grief, anger and surliness. Admittedly much of that was genuine. I had tremendous feelings of grief anger and sheer frustration with him. Right now I am trying to erect a wall of pleasant. I am trying to be as pleasant as poss...	maresie2	2	382	Jan 19, 2007 by Jennifer
	Attitude is everything.... (Preview) So this woman wakes up with only three hairs on her head. She says, today I think I'll braid my hair, and she did. She went on to have a beautiful day. Next day, woman wakes up with two hairs on her head. She says, today I think I'll part my hair down the middle, and she did. She had anoth...	Peggy7	2	335	Jan 19, 2007 by bubbles1990
	When and How does a " Newbie" become a " Member" (Preview) Hi- This may be a silly question, but when and how does a " newbie" become a member of MIP?? I am just curious, because I have belonged to MIP for some time now, and I still have " newbie" under my name.......Just wondering.....Maybe I missed something...	moms3	1	346	Jan 19, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	A newbie with a big question (Preview) Greetings, all. This is my very first post, and I need some help with some issues I'm having. My wife is in rehab, and today was our first visitation. During the presentation, the speaker started outlining all the responsibilities that will fall on me and my kids. Here's the problem: I don't thi...	wbfox58	28	1115	Jan 19, 2007 by moms3
	Nice to think about (Preview) Once upon a time there was a rich King who had four wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adored her with rich robes and treated her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. &nb...	kerry5	1	286	Jan 18, 2007 by Andrea12
	New day! (So why am I still feeling like, ahem?) (Preview) Sometimes I feel like all I do is add drama to the board. All of us, I feel have enough drama in our lives. You don't need mine to add to it. Other times, I feel like if I don't say anything, I'm going to explode. I mean, it meant alot to me when people were authentic in their recovery: however hea...	Tiger2006	8	386	Jan 18, 2007 by maresie2
	he said he would be home.....he is not (Preview) he has been gone for days. i got a call from him yesterday, he said he would be home today.......he is not. i decided to go to a face to face meeting tonight. it was nice. but, something really peculiar happened just as i was getting ready to leave. he called. i went outside to start my veh...	jewely	7	567	Jan 18, 2007 by maresie2
	HP is giving me signs (Preview) Hi Alanonies! My father (the original A) would not help with college after I graduated from high school many moons ago. He could claim me on his taxes though and brag about how much money he had! I remember as a kid I played on campus at a nearby Ivy League college and thought to myself, "One day I am going...	kissers	6	366	Jan 18, 2007 by maresie2
	Im sick of the rollercoaster ride. (Preview) Afew months ago my A was in aa meetings and it was working great for him for a little while, then my brothers bucks night came up, and it was the best reason my A could think of to have a drink. So the next day, he told me he didnt think he had a problem, and would wish i would lighten up a little, and let him make...	arty	5	463	Jan 18, 2007 by maresie2
	getting paid and other issues (Preview) Well I did get paid but the problem is that whenever I have money I encounter yet another bill related to the A. I made the terrible mistake of getting a truck with the A. He has tremendous issues with driving. As long as he drives it I really should have better insurance than I do now. H...	maresie2	3	364	Jan 18, 2007 by maresie2
	my progress report (Preview) ((((((((((hey family)))))))))) well... im exhausted from work.. doin on average 48-52 hrs per week in my job and reaping the rewards financially... i got my tattoo done last saturday :D dead proud of myself there. i booked 2 holidays.. one with the girls in july and one family holiday in oct.....	Rebecca	3	266	Jan 18, 2007 by hudsond
	I just completely lost it (Preview) I have been trying to use the tools of al-anon to deal with my AH and his irresponsibility, but I just unloaded about a year's worth of built up resentment on him. A year and a half ago he went into renal failure due to a double blockage of his kidneys brought on by dehydration (alcohol was his only drink)...	babysteps	3	497	Jan 18, 2007 by carolinagirl
	another "oh Wow" moment (Preview) i was just walking out to my vehicle......., when the thought occured to me......., maybe........., higher power told ken to call me last night before i left to the meeting. maybe higher power wanted to 'test' me to strenghten me to break that old pattern of stopping what ever i am doin...	jewely	1	331	Jan 18, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Phoenix Rising (Preview) I wanted to share my success story! Well, I haven't been here in months, but I do think of you all often and feel so thankful for all of support that I received here. I was posting under sunny123 and logged in as Little Bit in the chat room. Like most here, there were times when I couldn'...	sunny123	9	2723	Jan 18, 2007 by lmt123
	hohum week (Preview) Well this is kind of a HOHum week. I feel like I am dealing well with the issues at hand and hubby is going to meetings 2 and 3 times a day and has a sponsor and is taking a much more active role in really wanting to beat this thing!! However he is having a hard time with the fact that he has missed so...	Klynn	4	307	Jan 18, 2007 by lmt123
	where I got to at last (Preview) (((Hi Everyone))), I have just been thinking lately and wanted to share a bit with you. I spent years, many years not knowing what was wrong with me. Why was I different to other people in some respects. I was able to keep a job and a home and appeared sensible to the outside world. Yet, somethi...	annmarie	1	251	Jan 18, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	This gift of LIFE.... (Preview) (((Hi everyone))) It has been a strange couple of weeks. We found out December 27 that my stepchildren's mother was found (we thought murdered initially) in a trash bag on the side of a highway out of state. We talked to the detectives (who did not s...	hersh	5	289	Jan 18, 2007 by annmarie
	A cold is making him sick, not the aftermath of a binge (Preview) Yeah. Right. I called my A's cell phone this morning and left him the message that I was just calling to see if he was okay, that we were sorry about what happened to him (the relapse), and were concerned about his being sicker than could be expected. That...	jaja	4	425	Jan 18, 2007 by CJ
	Good news for once (Preview) I just wanted to share some good news. My A decided that he was going to pay me a little support last weekend out of his check from his new job. I sure was glad to get something. I took the kids to see him and we went out to eat at a local game place where the kids could play. We had a goo...	carolinagirl	3	290	Jan 17, 2007 by CJ
	Personality Flaws and A'ism... A couple questions (Preview) Something I read in the ODAT reader the other day that maybe I just didn't understand or didn't know was the A'ism is the not the cause of the personality flaws, but its the personality flaws that cause the A'ism. The topic for that day was just because someone gets sober doesn't mean the A or the sp...	twinmom2	6	793	Jan 17, 2007 by sunny123
	Just wondering #2 (Preview) Hi I am sorry. I was so sleepy last night that I just guess I forgot to finish the post. What I was wondering was if anyone had the book pathways to change they wouldn't mind getting rid of. Extra copy, anything. Sorry for scaring you all with my strange blank post. Can anyone help?	hippietrippiechick	1	313	Jan 17, 2007 by confused
	Husband slipped (Preview) Hi. I am very new to all of this. My husband is an alcoholic, and he very recently started to address it. Just before Christmas, he went to Home Depot to pick up a part for our water heater, and never came home until the next morning at 7 AM. I was leaving for work. He was terrified, had been hang...	Michigan	2	449	Jan 17, 2007 by confused
	Open Note to John (Preview) Hi John, You do not know me. But you have saved my family, my wife, and probably my life. This forum was my last hope late at night one night at the end of 2006, when I thought life was no longer worth living. My my, the friends I have made here. The answers and encouragement I have...	Cucamonga	12	925	Jan 17, 2007 by jewely
	I feel different....and here he comes (Preview) Hello everyone....I hope you all know how much power our collective ESH has! This board (I can't seem to get into chat room...I can't make f2f schedules) has been a huge part of my life this past month. After my breakdown the other night(thanks for the kindness),I feel I went to a new level of re...	Fifi	2	544	Jan 17, 2007 by jewely
	Insights (Preview) Its been a very perplexing couple of years in dealing wth yet another view of the affects of the disease of alcoholism within the family. It has been four years since my ah and I have separated yet during the course of that time our 13 yo son has picked up where his father has left off. Even arm...	Cilla	2	292	Jan 17, 2007 by fluffy
	he's drinking again and I slipped,too (Preview) He started this past Friday late afternoon an hour after he told me he was feeling sick, couldn't eat dinner with me and daughter, and was going to go home to his place to lay down. And he said his phone wouldn't be on that night because it needed to b...	jaja	7	433	Jan 17, 2007 by jewely
	Had a terrible weekend (Preview) (((Hello MIP Friends))) No sugar coating it, my weekend was aweful. Just when I begin to feel secure in my relationship and homelife, my AH turns into a raving lunatic!! This weekend he spent most of the weekend bashing me because he's sick and tired of me talking down to him, talking to...	twinmom2	6	429	Jan 17, 2007 by hersh
	controlling others decisions (Preview) I have felt very controlling the last couple of days. I want the people in my life to make the decisions that I want for them. I want to control how they spend their money and what they do with their day. It is very hard to take care of me when I am still trying to control issues that are not mine to control....	Gailey	3	413	Jan 17, 2007 by hersh
	Progress not perfection (Preview) The A's mother paid a visit. As some of you will recall I had a lot of feelings around her up and running off in a marriage. The A spent days cleaning and organizing and gearing up for her visit. I did very little in terms of talking to him about it. I used to totally obsess about her and ef...	maresie2	3	378	Jan 17, 2007 by hersh
	What tools do you use? (Preview) This is such a great place for us to learn how to handle life and work on our own self-improvement. Sometimes, however, I find it hard to remember all of the tools we have at our disposal thanks to this program. This is especially important for newcomers who don't know much about al-anon. I thought it wou...	babysteps	8	606	Jan 17, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Moving (With my A) and he's feeling the itch (Preview) Hi Everyone I need some......stories. I know people try not to give advice, so I was wondering if any people here could tell me about their experiences living with their A's and some things they did to cope, or "live with it". I'm specificlly talking about when they've gone drinking....what did...	alora_red	4	363	Jan 17, 2007 by carolinagirl
	decisions (Preview) the details: my dad died in may. his house has been on the market since june. his friend/excutor has been living there and taking care of it before and since dad died. i am renting a little house and my lease is up in march. so my dad's friend has suggested that the kids and i move in there and he'll move out. b...	serendipity	5	289	Jan 17, 2007 by autumn
	Chaotic twist to my A leaving which I thought was for good (Preview) Well, He showed right back up about 25 minutes later, claimining that he was trying to help me deal with a nosy, snoopy neighbor who I really don't want in my house. I would not have let her in anyway, but she was acting like some kind of crackhead--strange. Charlie really does love me, but when he showed b...	hippietrippiechick	13	575	Jan 17, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Alot of you know me :) (Preview) I am back now, but as fluffy. I have family members that may run across this site and know my other name. This was not a problem before. They will not notice if they see the name fluffy. I changed my name so they don't run across my posts that are from my heart and very open. If you w...	fluffy	13	487	Jan 17, 2007 by fluffy
	he has been gone for days (Preview) he has been gone for days........................, and, i find my mind slipping back into old thought patterns. where is he? is he okay? in jail? got his own place? out at the campround? the other morning, it was thirty below zero. when i went out to start my vehicle the stingi...	jewely	4	566	Jan 17, 2007 by jewely
	TO HIPPIETRIPPIECHICK... (Preview) Just curious what you were just wondering...your post titled "was just wondering" doesn't have any text in it. Kathi	lmt123	0	260	Jan 16, 2007 by lmt123
	WAS JUST WONDERING..... (Preview)	hippietrippiechick	0	263	Jan 16, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	ESH? (Preview) Hi - I read and reply a lot, but don't start new threads often. This situation has me stumped, however. My AH went to rehab a year and a half ago. For a few months prior to going he turned yellow, his liver function tests were off the chart (in the 400's when they should be in the 40's), he was anemic due to maln...	babysteps	7	372	Jan 16, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Just needed familiar faces (Preview) I am in my new state/town. I just needed to touch base with someone, something familiar. It is so comforting to be able to come here and get that. It is wonderful to be with hubby again. I did miss him. I don't like being away from my boys though. But they are all on their own for a long time now and they nee...	doxie	10	375	Jan 16, 2007 by doxie
	Bill W, saint or creep (Preview) I just read some information about Bill W. Frankly, I was shocked that he would do the things he did even after sobering up. What's your take on this? Do you think it is even true? He is held up as some sort of a pagan god when it sounds like he was a womanizing creep.	snoopy	30	7779	Jan 16, 2007 by snoopy
	Tools and Talk (Preview) One of the best things to me about having a program is that no matter what is going on in my life, good, bad, or just another day, I always have someone I can talk to about it. Not looking for advice, but someone who can listen, and more importantly so I can hear myself saying what is on my mind. Of...	barisax	3	373	Jan 16, 2007 by maresie2
	Those with a "strong" program (Preview) There are certain "veteran" members out there and there are very few of them, so please don't take offense to this if this doesn't apply to you. Certain people who've made mistake after mistake and have learned to twist and turn the principles of the program to fit their situation and make it okay inste...	benedetta	14	942	Jan 16, 2007 by aunitedway
	So, it'll be interesting to see how THIS posts.... (Preview) OMG it's been a weekend...But I want to talk to you anyway, so here goes. I swore when I left Wittenberg behind me I was gonna have a whole new life, a whole new being, a whole new thinking. A whole new...yeah. That idea? hasn't panned out. I'm finding out the more "writing intensiv...	Tiger2006	8	535	Jan 16, 2007 by Tiger2006
	went to rehab (Preview) he decided yesterday,that he wanted to go to rehab,but he had to get drunk first before going..he says that is the only way he can into detox is if he is drunk..him going into rehab is going to make moving back north a little harder,cause now i have a whole house to pack and figure out where i am going to put h...	bev	4	463	Jan 16, 2007 by lin0606
	Oh my--prayers please! (Preview) O.k. for those who know a little of my history--you are going to say "not again", but it seems yes again. I have taken a pregnancy test and it would appear- I am yet again! I need prayers please that I can handle whatever comes. I doubt this one will "come to fruitition" I'm sorry I do...	hudsond	7	316	Jan 16, 2007 by hudsond
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