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New member needs help · pondlady

My husband has been a functional alcoholic in denial for >30 years. One month ago he suffered a seizure which the dr's said was due to alcoholism. He was in the hospital for 2 weeks and went through the physical withdrawal there. We have been home now for 2 weeks. His cogni...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear (((((Alanoners))))), A few weeks ago, I realized how fully and completely I was struggling with my concept of my HP. I realized that part of the reason I was having trouble staying connected to my HP was that I still have this image of my HP as a punishing, vengeful God. Interestingly enough my imag...

confused · confused

What does it mean " we can be happy whether the alcoholic is drinking or not" How do you do that? I know the company lines.... Detach, detach, detach... Keep the focus on me Do the next right thing.... I guess the real thing I need to look at is acceptance, what am I willing to accept??? ...

abbyal · abbyal

I found this today while rooting around in a cupboard , it is something my mother planted awhile ago , I find them occasionally. She was very optomistic and religious and was always putting liitle notes in places where I would eventually find them . hehe My mother passed away a yr ago, so I consider thi...

EarthAngel · EarthAngel

My husband went out drinking with his friend and left me alone. We had a long talk and he is threatening to leave me and divorce me unless I found a new house for us to live in by January 3rd. Im so sick of this rollercoaster of blaming and threats. I am thinking of packing up all of HIS stuff and throwing it ou...

carolena · carolena

This will seem minor to many of you, but this is where I am today. My AH who is a controller moves my things. I've wasted my time looking for my large tape player because I found a tape I wanted to play. I have looked everywhere that I think it could be. When I can't...

nycbt · nycbt

He is doing great today. The drug is really helping, he seems much more better then today. The doctor will be called if he gets worse. But right now he is doing great. YOu would never know he was withdrawing. The med he is on is supposed to help the withdraw it says it in the brochure. The name of the drug subo...

nycbt · nycbt

Right now he can't stay still he goes from one room to another back and forth. He has been in bed or he goes to lay on the floor. The med he is taking is suboxone. He is going to my med doctor who is a great doctor. I have told my husband to call the doctor if he gets worse. I would never go get the drug again. It...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((Family)))))))), Just wanted to let you know that I'm back to the living, sort of! I haven't forgotten about you all. I've missed you all. The computer crashed.

So we were struggling with finding the money to get it fixed. We found some, but will definitely have to get...

kissers · kissers

Are you in love with him/her or are you in love with the person you want him/her to be? I remember hearing this question and thinking, Oh my goodness! I always hope things will work out really well without looking for who they really are. My ex was wonderful in the beginning then his head started spinning...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I have no idea how any of you will feel about this, but I am not too keen up on calling the cops on my A when things get bad because I. as you know, suffer from a lot of illness. I use manijuana to help with pain, nausea, anxiety, etc. I have done a whole lot of research on this and I am very much for medical M...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((PEOPLE))))))))))))))))))) I saw this and thought some of you might like to read it. An old Native American Grandfather told his grandson, "There are two wolves fighting inside all of us-- The wolf of fear and hate, and the wolf of love and peace. "The grandson liste...

babysteps · babysteps

Well - after completely losing it with my AH the other day, I have renewed hope that he is making progress. Keep in mind that my screenname is babysteps for a reason! A quick recap of my story: AH went to rehab for a month in July 2005, relapsed 5 days after getting home. Has spent the past 1.5 yrs making half...

nycbt · nycbt

On Wednesday my husband told me he was doing herion and he has been doing it for a while. A I was in shock because I couldn't believe I didn't know he was using. Usally when he using he is very nasty, and he wasn''t at all, he was great to be around. We have been getting along very well it been...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband went to the med doctor he hadn't done and herion yesterday, so i was hoping he didn't suffer from the withdraw. Well so he didn't have bad withdraw he brought me to buy more herion, not very happy camper, and i didn't think that was right and alot of you are going to d...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, I'm just struggling with a lot of things lately, job-wise and other stuff. Business is very, very slow right now for both me and my A, and I'm trying to use my wits and business experience to decide on whether to begin a new journey or not. As some of ya know, both my A...

debilyn · debilyn

I have lost everyone in my family except my daughter. don't see her as she lives far away. a very very wonderful woman adopted me. she was my mom. she was everything to me and I to her. I won't be here for awhile. I may read but cannot respond for awhile. not real jazzed about living right now. but the c...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I remember some guy asked me in a chat session a while back how I could not know what I want. I said I didn't know if I was done or not with the A. And he said "well do you want more of the same?". That has stuck with me even now. No, I don't want more of the same and I have been thru this en...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Our transmission isn't working right. In June we were away from home and had to install a new one, it cost $$$$$ and we put it on credit. Three months ago my AH had problems with the transmission and he said "somewhere around here is the reciept for the transmission" like it was just fl...

Feather · Feather

My A is currently sharing his house with a friend, also an A, whose marriage broke up 4 months ago. My A is trying to be a supportive friend, easing his friend through his heartbreak and trying to help him start his life again. My A is a binge drinker, the friend drinks daily until he is drunk. While my A ...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Ok I am sitting here this morning kindof mad,kindof sad, and kindof like "How Importain Is It".. Lastnight my A sister sent my daughter of a picture of herself on airplane (she looked dorkey) there was no words like How are you, how school, or anything just this dorkey picture... At f...

eMiLy · eMiLy

Can You Help Me Do That? I Have Hated My Dad Ever Since I Was Seven. I Am Thirteen. I Want To Love Him. He Always Says He Is Proud Of Me....I Feel Guilty When He Does. I Started Hateing Him When I Witnessed Him Beating And Stranggleing My Mom. What Do I Do? I Have A Sponser But I Am Not Sure What She Will Think Of Me...

maire rua · maire rua

At present my ex-A is staying with me, a couple of black moods but up and down as usual, he goes out every night and before I would have gone mad about this, I do not now. He is acting perfect, cooking, paying his share, this is unusual behaviour and I do everything that I would do if he was not there and am cour...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

My daughter came over for a while tonight and just wanted some time with her. All I wanted. But he took it all wrong. I have docs appts tomorrow and am supposed to pick up my meds and stuff. He got his ride out, promptly grabbbed his check ( shoudn't have but he had close to $300 in his wallet befor...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((((Everyone)))))) Often we can sink into all the crap that is going on in our lives that it overcomes us. It can steal our focus, consume our day and rob us of our joy. So I'm here to challenge you to step out of the yuck, the obsession, and step into your awareness. Every day we are give...

nycbt · nycbt

I am writing this post to tell people with help from people you will be able to make it in life, you can't make it by your self. You need to call or go online with people. You need people to worry about you, show that they care. When you are hurting that is the one time that is very important to be abl...

jewely · jewely

went to another face to face meeting tonight. my higher power is moving in mysterious ways. yesterday i sat down at my desk, and, wrote out step three, my thoughts, my hopes my prayers. tonight when i arrived at the meeting...., it was step three. the drive back was beautiful. if i want to go to a meeting m...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

We had a bad ice storm this past weekend and our power went out on Sunday evening. There were only two hotel/motel rooms in the entire city left and they wanted $90 each for them. Hubby and I decided to let them stay empty and called my sister to see if they had power and room. Fortunate...

Miranda · Miranda

I'm having a hard time. Yesterday was my sixteenth birthday and...I don't know where I am. I don't even know WHO I am anymore. This was my first birthday without my father around, and while that's what I've always wanted, it still really hurt. The kids all gathered around with one of my friends and sang H...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Hi! I haven't posted in a little while because I have been at a standstill. But I did two baby steps today that work toward the wholer me. 1. I opened savings accounts for both my daughters. I have talked about doing this since they were babies. I always dropped coins in a jar that took years to fill. My...

maresie2 · maresie2

For the last year the wall I've had with the a has been grief, anger and surliness. Admittedly much of that was genuine. I had tremendous feelings of grief anger and sheer frustration with him. Right now I am trying to erect a wall of pleasant. I am trying to be as pleasant as poss...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

So this woman wakes up with only three hairs on her head. She says, today I think I'll braid my hair, and she did. She went on to have a beautiful day. Next day, woman wakes up with two hairs on her head. She says, today I think I'll part my hair down the middle, and she did. She had anoth...

moms3 · moms3

Hi- This may be a silly question, but when and how does a " newbie" become a member of MIP?? I am just curious, because I have belonged to MIP for some time now, and I still have " newbie" under my name.......Just wondering.....Maybe I missed something...

wbfox58 · wbfox58

Greetings, all. This is my very first post, and I need some help with some issues I'm having. My wife is in rehab, and today was our first visitation. During the presentation, the speaker started outlining all the responsibilities that will fall on me and my kids. Here's the problem: I don't thi...

kerry5 · kerry5

Once upon a time there was a rich King who had four wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adored her with rich robes and treated her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. &nb...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Sometimes I feel like all I do is add drama to the board. All of us, I feel have enough drama in our lives. You don't need mine to add to it. Other times, I feel like if I don't say anything, I'm going to explode. I mean, it meant alot to me when people were authentic in their recovery: however hea...

jewely · jewely

he has been gone for days. i got a call from him yesterday, he said he would be home today.......he is not. i decided to go to a face to face meeting tonight. it was nice. but, something really peculiar happened just as i was getting ready to leave. he called. i went outside to start my veh...

kissers · kissers

Hi Alanonies! My father (the original A) would not help with college after I graduated from high school many moons ago. He could claim me on his taxes though and brag about how much money he had! I remember as a kid I played on campus at a nearby Ivy League college and thought to myself, "One day I am going...

arty · arty

Afew months ago my A was in aa meetings and it was working great for him for a little while, then my brothers bucks night came up, and it was the best reason my A could think of to have a drink. So the next day, he told me he didnt think he had a problem, and would wish i would lighten up a little, and let him make...

maresie2 · maresie2

Well I did get paid but the problem is that whenever I have money I encounter yet another bill related to the A. I made the terrible mistake of getting a truck with the A. He has tremendous issues with driving. As long as he drives it I really should have better insurance than I do now. H...

Rebecca · Rebecca

((((((((((hey family)))))))))) well... im exhausted from work.. doin on average 48-52 hrs per week in my job and reaping the rewards financially... i got my tattoo done last saturday :D dead proud of myself there. i booked 2 holidays.. one with the girls in july and one family holiday in oct.....

babysteps · babysteps

I have been trying to use the tools of al-anon to deal with my AH and his irresponsibility, but I just unloaded about a year's worth of built up resentment on him. A year and a half ago he went into renal failure due to a double blockage of his kidneys brought on by dehydration (alcohol was his only drink)...

jewely · jewely

i was just walking out to my vehicle......., when the thought occured to me......., maybe........., higher power told ken to call me last night before i left to the meeting. maybe higher power wanted to 'test' me to strenghten me to break that old pattern of stopping what ever i am doin...

sunny123 · sunny123

I wanted to share my success story! Well, I haven't been here in months, but I do think of you all often and feel so thankful for all of support that I received here. I was posting under sunny123 and logged in as Little Bit in the chat room. Like most here, there were times when I couldn'...

Klynn · Klynn

Well this is kind of a HOHum week. I feel like I am dealing well with the issues at hand and hubby is going to meetings 2 and 3 times a day and has a sponsor and is taking a much more active role in really wanting to beat this thing!! However he is having a hard time with the fact that he has missed so...

annmarie · annmarie

(((Hi Everyone))), I have just been thinking lately and wanted to share a bit with you. I spent years, many years not knowing what was wrong with me. Why was I different to other people in some respects. I was able to keep a job and a home and appeared sensible to the outside world. Yet, somethi...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone))) It has been a strange couple of weeks. We found out December 27 that my stepchildren's mother was found (we thought murdered initially) in a trash bag on the side of a highway out of state. We talked to the detectives (who did not s...

jaja · jaja

Yeah. Right. I called my A's cell phone this morning and left him the message that I was just calling to see if he was okay, that we were sorry about what happened to him (the relapse), and were concerned about his being sicker than could be expected. That...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I just wanted to share some good news. My A decided that he was going to pay me a little support last weekend out of his check from his new job. I sure was glad to get something. I took the kids to see him and we went out to eat at a local game place where the kids could play. We had a goo...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Something I read in the ODAT reader the other day that maybe I just didn't understand or didn't know was the A'ism is the not the cause of the personality flaws, but its the personality flaws that cause the A'ism. The topic for that day was just because someone gets sober doesn't mean the A or the sp...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hi I am sorry. I was so sleepy last night that I just guess I forgot to finish the post. What I was wondering was if anyone had the book pathways to change they wouldn't mind getting rid of. Extra copy, anything. Sorry for scaring you all with my strange blank post. Can anyone help?

Michigan · Michigan

Hi. I am very new to all of this. My husband is an alcoholic, and he very recently started to address it. Just before Christmas, he went to Home Depot to pick up a part for our water heater, and never came home until the next morning at 7 AM. I was leaving for work. He was terrified, had been hang...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

Hi John, You do not know me. But you have saved my family, my wife, and probably my life. This forum was my last hope late at night one night at the end of 2006, when I thought life was no longer worth living. My my, the friends I have made here. The answers and encouragement I have...

Fifi · Fifi

Hello everyone....I hope you all know how much power our collective ESH has! This board (I can't seem to get into chat room...I can't make f2f schedules) has been a huge part of my life this past month. After my breakdown the other night(thanks for the kindness),I feel I went to a new level of re...

Cilla · Cilla

Its been a very perplexing couple of years in dealing wth yet another view of the affects of the disease of alcoholism within the family. It has been four years since my ah and I have separated yet during the course of that time our 13 yo son has picked up where his father has left off. Even arm...

jaja · jaja

He started this past Friday late afternoon an hour after he told me he was feeling sick, couldn't eat dinner with me and daughter, and was going to go home to his place to lay down. And he said his phone wouldn't be on that night because it needed to b...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP Friends))) No sugar coating it, my weekend was aweful. Just when I begin to feel secure in my relationship and homelife, my AH turns into a raving lunatic!! This weekend he spent most of the weekend bashing me because he's sick and tired of me talking down to him, talking to...

Gailey · Gailey

I have felt very controlling the last couple of days. I want the people in my life to make the decisions that I want for them. I want to control how they spend their money and what they do with their day. It is very hard to take care of me when I am still trying to control issues that are not mine to control....

maresie2 · maresie2

The A's mother paid a visit. As some of you will recall I had a lot of feelings around her up and running off in a marriage. The A spent days cleaning and organizing and gearing up for her visit. I did very little in terms of talking to him about it. I used to totally obsess about her and ef...

babysteps · babysteps

This is such a great place for us to learn how to handle life and work on our own self-improvement. Sometimes, however, I find it hard to remember all of the tools we have at our disposal thanks to this program. This is especially important for newcomers who don't know much about al-anon. I thought it wou...

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	New member needs help (Preview) My husband has been a functional alcoholic in denial for >30 years. One month ago he suffered a seizure which the dr's said was due to alcoholism. He was in the hospital for 2 weeks and went through the physical withdrawal there. We have been home now for 2 weeks. His cogni...	pondlady	8	595	Jan 21, 2007 by lilliput
	Redefining My HP (Preview) Dear (((((Alanoners))))), A few weeks ago, I realized how fully and completely I was struggling with my concept of my HP. I realized that part of the reason I was having trouble staying connected to my HP was that I still have this image of my HP as a punishing, vengeful God. Interestingly enough my imag...	BlueCloud	2	503	Jan 21, 2007 by Jerry F
	how can you be happy whether the alcoholic is drinking or not (Preview) What does it mean " we can be happy whether the alcoholic is drinking or not" How do you do that? I know the company lines.... Detach, detach, detach... Keep the focus on me Do the next right thing.... I guess the real thing I need to look at is acceptance, what am I willing to accept??? ...	confused	9	618	Jan 21, 2007 by Karilynn
	THIS IS FOR YOU KERRY (Preview) I found this today while rooting around in a cupboard , it is something my mother planted awhile ago , I find them occasionally. She was very optomistic and religious and was always putting liitle notes in places where I would eventually find them . hehe My mother passed away a yr ago, so I consider thi...	abbyal	1	454	Jan 21, 2007 by kerry5
	Constant Threats (Preview) My husband went out drinking with his friend and left me alone. We had a long talk and he is threatening to leave me and divorce me unless I found a new house for us to live in by January 3rd. Im so sick of this rollercoaster of blaming and threats. I am thinking of packing up all of HIS stuff and throwing it ou...	EarthAngel	8	526	Jan 21, 2007 by carolena
	Does anyone else have this problem?? (Preview) This will seem minor to many of you, but this is where I am today. My AH who is a controller moves my things. I've wasted my time looking for my large tape player because I found a tape I wanted to play. I have looked everywhere that I think it could be. When I can't...	carolena	4	406	Jan 21, 2007 by carolena
	it helping (Preview) He is doing great today. The drug is really helping, he seems much more better then today. The doctor will be called if he gets worse. But right now he is doing great. YOu would never know he was withdrawing. The med he is on is supposed to help the withdraw it says it in the brochure. The name of the drug subo...	nycbt	1	326	Jan 21, 2007 by debilyn
	the medi (Preview) Right now he can't stay still he goes from one room to another back and forth. He has been in bed or he goes to lay on the floor. The med he is taking is suboxone. He is going to my med doctor who is a great doctor. I have told my husband to call the doctor if he gets worse. I would never go get the drug again. It...	nycbt	5	563	Jan 21, 2007 by gardengal
	I'm back! (Preview) ((((((((((Family)))))))), Just wanted to let you know that I'm back to the living, sort of! I haven't forgotten about you all. I've missed you all. The computer crashed. So we were struggling with finding the money to get it fixed. We found some, but will definitely have to get...	Karilynn	7	347	Jan 21, 2007 by Andrea12
	An Enlightening Question (Preview) Are you in love with him/her or are you in love with the person you want him/her to be? I remember hearing this question and thinking, Oh my goodness! I always hope things will work out really well without looking for who they really are. My ex was wonderful in the beginning then his head started spinning...	kissers	4	371	Jan 21, 2007 by oliveoil
	I have a reason for being afraid to call the cops on my A (Preview) I have no idea how any of you will feel about this, but I am not too keen up on calling the cops on my A when things get bad because I. as you know, suffer from a lot of illness. I use manijuana to help with pain, nausea, anxiety, etc. I have done a whole lot of research on this and I am very much for medical M...	hippietrippiechick	8	590	Jan 20, 2007 by moms3
	A GOOD REMINDER (Preview) ((((((((((((((PEOPLE))))))))))))))))))) I saw this and thought some of you might like to read it. An old Native American Grandfather told his grandson, "There are two wolves fighting inside all of us-- The wolf of fear and hate, and the wolf of love and peace. "The grandson liste...	ally	2	345	Jan 20, 2007 by Maria123
	AH got a sponsor (Preview) Well - after completely losing it with my AH the other day, I have renewed hope that he is making progress. Keep in mind that my screenname is babysteps for a reason! A quick recap of my story: AH went to rehab for a month in July 2005, relapsed 5 days after getting home. Has spent the past 1.5 yrs making half...	babysteps	3	293	Jan 20, 2007 by Maria123
	husband using (Preview) On Wednesday my husband told me he was doing herion and he has been doing it for a while. A I was in shock because I couldn't believe I didn't know he was using. Usally when he using he is very nasty, and he wasn''t at all, he was great to be around. We have been getting along very well it been...	nycbt	7	336	Jan 20, 2007 by Maria123
	don't do this (Preview) Yesterday my husband went to the med doctor he hadn't done and herion yesterday, so i was hoping he didn't suffer from the withdraw. Well so he didn't have bad withdraw he brought me to buy more herion, not very happy camper, and i didn't think that was right and alot of you are going to d...	nycbt	6	363	Jan 20, 2007 by nycbt
	Prayer request for ME... (Preview) Hi all, I'm just struggling with a lot of things lately, job-wise and other stuff. Business is very, very slow right now for both me and my A, and I'm trying to use my wits and business experience to decide on whether to begin a new journey or not. As some of ya know, both my A...	lmt123	12	439	Jan 20, 2007 by Karilynn
	mom died ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I have lost everyone in my family except my daughter. don't see her as she lives far away. a very very wonderful woman adopted me. she was my mom. she was everything to me and I to her. I won't be here for awhile. I may read but cannot respond for awhile. not real jazzed about living right now. but the c...	debilyn	46	1334	Jan 20, 2007 by Karilynn
	I remember this guy asked me... (Preview) I remember some guy asked me in a chat session a while back how I could not know what I want. I said I didn't know if I was done or not with the A. And he said "well do you want more of the same?". That has stuck with me even now. No, I don't want more of the same and I have been thru this en...	carolinagirl	6	554	Jan 20, 2007 by jewely
	And Anyway!! (Preview) Our transmission isn't working right. In June we were away from home and had to install a new one, it cost $$$$$ and we put it on credit. Three months ago my AH had problems with the transmission and he said "somewhere around here is the reciept for the transmission" like it was just fl...	RainyJamie	1	266	Jan 20, 2007 by lin0606
	How ironic!! (Preview) My A is currently sharing his house with a friend, also an A, whose marriage broke up 4 months ago. My A is trying to be a supportive friend, easing his friend through his heartbreak and trying to help him start his life again. My A is a binge drinker, the friend drinks daily until he is drunk. While my A ...	Feather	2	304	Jan 19, 2007 by CJ
	What shall I do? (Preview) Ok I am sitting here this morning kindof mad,kindof sad, and kindof like "How Importain Is It".. Lastnight my A sister sent my daughter of a picture of herself on airplane (she looked dorkey) there was no words like How are you, how school, or anything just this dorkey picture... At f...	bubbles1990	2	287	Jan 19, 2007 by Maria123
	I need to stop hateing Dad (Preview) Can You Help Me Do That? I Have Hated My Dad Ever Since I Was Seven. I Am Thirteen. I Want To Love Him. He Always Says He Is Proud Of Me....I Feel Guilty When He Does. I Started Hateing Him When I Witnessed Him Beating And Stranggleing My Mom. What Do I Do? I Have A Sponser But I Am Not Sure What She Will Think Of Me...	eMiLy	7	658	Jan 19, 2007 by ally
	Trying to keep detachment going (Preview) At present my ex-A is staying with me, a couple of black moods but up and down as usual, he goes out every night and before I would have gone mad about this, I do not now. He is acting perfect, cooking, paying his share, this is unusual behaviour and I do everything that I would do if he was not there and am cour...	maire rua	3	412	Jan 19, 2007 by maresie2
	Asked to have some private time with my child---he toook all the money he promised and said __ you. (Preview) My daughter came over for a while tonight and just wanted some time with her. All I wanted. But he took it all wrong. I have docs appts tomorrow and am supposed to pick up my meds and stuff. He got his ride out, promptly grabbbed his check ( shoudn't have but he had close to $300 in his wallet befor...	hippietrippiechick	10	666	Jan 19, 2007 by maresie2
	I Challenge you...are you up for it?? (Preview) (((((Everyone)))))) Often we can sink into all the crap that is going on in our lives that it overcomes us. It can steal our focus, consume our day and rob us of our joy. So I'm here to challenge you to step out of the yuck, the obsession, and step into your awareness. Every day we are give...	Lunamoth	18	622	Jan 19, 2007 by EarthAngel
	get help (Preview) I am writing this post to tell people with help from people you will be able to make it in life, you can't make it by your self. You need to call or go online with people. You need people to worry about you, show that they care. When you are hurting that is the one time that is very important to be abl...	nycbt	3	405	Jan 19, 2007 by Rebecca
	went to another face to face tonight (Preview) went to another face to face meeting tonight. my higher power is moving in mysterious ways. yesterday i sat down at my desk, and, wrote out step three, my thoughts, my hopes my prayers. tonight when i arrived at the meeting...., it was step three. the drive back was beautiful. if i want to go to a meeting m...	jewely	3	275	Jan 19, 2007 by jewely
	A little vent (Preview) We had a bad ice storm this past weekend and our power went out on Sunday evening. There were only two hotel/motel rooms in the entire city left and they wanted $90 each for them. Hubby and I decided to let them stay empty and called my sister to see if they had power and room. Fortunate...	Mobirdie	4	430	Jan 19, 2007 by carolena
	Confusion (Preview) I'm having a hard time. Yesterday was my sixteenth birthday and...I don't know where I am. I don't even know WHO I am anymore. This was my first birthday without my father around, and while that's what I've always wanted, it still really hurt. The kids all gathered around with one of my friends and sang H...	Miranda	5	415	Jan 19, 2007 by carolena
	Baby Steps (Preview) Hi! I haven't posted in a little while because I have been at a standstill. But I did two baby steps today that work toward the wholer me. 1. I opened savings accounts for both my daughters. I have talked about doing this since they were babies. I always dropped coins in a jar that took years to fill. My...	RainyJamie	9	415	Jan 19, 2007 by hudsond
	trying to erect the wall of pleasant (Preview) For the last year the wall I've had with the a has been grief, anger and surliness. Admittedly much of that was genuine. I had tremendous feelings of grief anger and sheer frustration with him. Right now I am trying to erect a wall of pleasant. I am trying to be as pleasant as poss...	maresie2	2	404	Jan 19, 2007 by Jennifer
	Attitude is everything.... (Preview) So this woman wakes up with only three hairs on her head. She says, today I think I'll braid my hair, and she did. She went on to have a beautiful day. Next day, woman wakes up with two hairs on her head. She says, today I think I'll part my hair down the middle, and she did. She had anoth...	Peggy7	2	353	Jan 19, 2007 by bubbles1990
	When and How does a " Newbie" become a " Member" (Preview) Hi- This may be a silly question, but when and how does a " newbie" become a member of MIP?? I am just curious, because I have belonged to MIP for some time now, and I still have " newbie" under my name.......Just wondering.....Maybe I missed something...	moms3	1	384	Jan 19, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	A newbie with a big question (Preview) Greetings, all. This is my very first post, and I need some help with some issues I'm having. My wife is in rehab, and today was our first visitation. During the presentation, the speaker started outlining all the responsibilities that will fall on me and my kids. Here's the problem: I don't thi...	wbfox58	28	1133	Jan 19, 2007 by moms3
	Nice to think about (Preview) Once upon a time there was a rich King who had four wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adored her with rich robes and treated her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. &nb...	kerry5	1	311	Jan 18, 2007 by Andrea12
	New day! (So why am I still feeling like, ahem?) (Preview) Sometimes I feel like all I do is add drama to the board. All of us, I feel have enough drama in our lives. You don't need mine to add to it. Other times, I feel like if I don't say anything, I'm going to explode. I mean, it meant alot to me when people were authentic in their recovery: however hea...	Tiger2006	8	401	Jan 18, 2007 by maresie2
	he said he would be home.....he is not (Preview) he has been gone for days. i got a call from him yesterday, he said he would be home today.......he is not. i decided to go to a face to face meeting tonight. it was nice. but, something really peculiar happened just as i was getting ready to leave. he called. i went outside to start my veh...	jewely	7	585	Jan 18, 2007 by maresie2
	HP is giving me signs (Preview) Hi Alanonies! My father (the original A) would not help with college after I graduated from high school many moons ago. He could claim me on his taxes though and brag about how much money he had! I remember as a kid I played on campus at a nearby Ivy League college and thought to myself, "One day I am going...	kissers	6	382	Jan 18, 2007 by maresie2
	Im sick of the rollercoaster ride. (Preview) Afew months ago my A was in aa meetings and it was working great for him for a little while, then my brothers bucks night came up, and it was the best reason my A could think of to have a drink. So the next day, he told me he didnt think he had a problem, and would wish i would lighten up a little, and let him make...	arty	5	481	Jan 18, 2007 by maresie2
	getting paid and other issues (Preview) Well I did get paid but the problem is that whenever I have money I encounter yet another bill related to the A. I made the terrible mistake of getting a truck with the A. He has tremendous issues with driving. As long as he drives it I really should have better insurance than I do now. H...	maresie2	3	380	Jan 18, 2007 by maresie2
	my progress report (Preview) ((((((((((hey family)))))))))) well... im exhausted from work.. doin on average 48-52 hrs per week in my job and reaping the rewards financially... i got my tattoo done last saturday :D dead proud of myself there. i booked 2 holidays.. one with the girls in july and one family holiday in oct.....	Rebecca	3	281	Jan 18, 2007 by hudsond
	I just completely lost it (Preview) I have been trying to use the tools of al-anon to deal with my AH and his irresponsibility, but I just unloaded about a year's worth of built up resentment on him. A year and a half ago he went into renal failure due to a double blockage of his kidneys brought on by dehydration (alcohol was his only drink)...	babysteps	3	519	Jan 18, 2007 by carolinagirl
	another "oh Wow" moment (Preview) i was just walking out to my vehicle......., when the thought occured to me......., maybe........., higher power told ken to call me last night before i left to the meeting. maybe higher power wanted to 'test' me to strenghten me to break that old pattern of stopping what ever i am doin...	jewely	1	358	Jan 18, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Phoenix Rising (Preview) I wanted to share my success story! Well, I haven't been here in months, but I do think of you all often and feel so thankful for all of support that I received here. I was posting under sunny123 and logged in as Little Bit in the chat room. Like most here, there were times when I couldn'...	sunny123	9	2811	Jan 18, 2007 by lmt123
	hohum week (Preview) Well this is kind of a HOHum week. I feel like I am dealing well with the issues at hand and hubby is going to meetings 2 and 3 times a day and has a sponsor and is taking a much more active role in really wanting to beat this thing!! However he is having a hard time with the fact that he has missed so...	Klynn	4	325	Jan 18, 2007 by lmt123
	where I got to at last (Preview) (((Hi Everyone))), I have just been thinking lately and wanted to share a bit with you. I spent years, many years not knowing what was wrong with me. Why was I different to other people in some respects. I was able to keep a job and a home and appeared sensible to the outside world. Yet, somethi...	annmarie	1	269	Jan 18, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	This gift of LIFE.... (Preview) (((Hi everyone))) It has been a strange couple of weeks. We found out December 27 that my stepchildren's mother was found (we thought murdered initially) in a trash bag on the side of a highway out of state. We talked to the detectives (who did not s...	hersh	5	308	Jan 18, 2007 by annmarie
	A cold is making him sick, not the aftermath of a binge (Preview) Yeah. Right. I called my A's cell phone this morning and left him the message that I was just calling to see if he was okay, that we were sorry about what happened to him (the relapse), and were concerned about his being sicker than could be expected. That...	jaja	4	441	Jan 18, 2007 by CJ
	Good news for once (Preview) I just wanted to share some good news. My A decided that he was going to pay me a little support last weekend out of his check from his new job. I sure was glad to get something. I took the kids to see him and we went out to eat at a local game place where the kids could play. We had a goo...	carolinagirl	3	306	Jan 17, 2007 by CJ
	Personality Flaws and A'ism... A couple questions (Preview) Something I read in the ODAT reader the other day that maybe I just didn't understand or didn't know was the A'ism is the not the cause of the personality flaws, but its the personality flaws that cause the A'ism. The topic for that day was just because someone gets sober doesn't mean the A or the sp...	twinmom2	6	821	Jan 17, 2007 by sunny123
	Just wondering #2 (Preview) Hi I am sorry. I was so sleepy last night that I just guess I forgot to finish the post. What I was wondering was if anyone had the book pathways to change they wouldn't mind getting rid of. Extra copy, anything. Sorry for scaring you all with my strange blank post. Can anyone help?	hippietrippiechick	1	331	Jan 17, 2007 by confused
	Husband slipped (Preview) Hi. I am very new to all of this. My husband is an alcoholic, and he very recently started to address it. Just before Christmas, he went to Home Depot to pick up a part for our water heater, and never came home until the next morning at 7 AM. I was leaving for work. He was terrified, had been hang...	Michigan	2	466	Jan 17, 2007 by confused
	Open Note to John (Preview) Hi John, You do not know me. But you have saved my family, my wife, and probably my life. This forum was my last hope late at night one night at the end of 2006, when I thought life was no longer worth living. My my, the friends I have made here. The answers and encouragement I have...	Cucamonga	12	952	Jan 17, 2007 by jewely
	I feel different....and here he comes (Preview) Hello everyone....I hope you all know how much power our collective ESH has! This board (I can't seem to get into chat room...I can't make f2f schedules) has been a huge part of my life this past month. After my breakdown the other night(thanks for the kindness),I feel I went to a new level of re...	Fifi	2	565	Jan 17, 2007 by jewely
	Insights (Preview) Its been a very perplexing couple of years in dealing wth yet another view of the affects of the disease of alcoholism within the family. It has been four years since my ah and I have separated yet during the course of that time our 13 yo son has picked up where his father has left off. Even arm...	Cilla	2	310	Jan 17, 2007 by fluffy
	he's drinking again and I slipped,too (Preview) He started this past Friday late afternoon an hour after he told me he was feeling sick, couldn't eat dinner with me and daughter, and was going to go home to his place to lay down. And he said his phone wouldn't be on that night because it needed to b...	jaja	7	448	Jan 17, 2007 by jewely
	Had a terrible weekend (Preview) (((Hello MIP Friends))) No sugar coating it, my weekend was aweful. Just when I begin to feel secure in my relationship and homelife, my AH turns into a raving lunatic!! This weekend he spent most of the weekend bashing me because he's sick and tired of me talking down to him, talking to...	twinmom2	6	449	Jan 17, 2007 by hersh
	controlling others decisions (Preview) I have felt very controlling the last couple of days. I want the people in my life to make the decisions that I want for them. I want to control how they spend their money and what they do with their day. It is very hard to take care of me when I am still trying to control issues that are not mine to control....	Gailey	3	430	Jan 17, 2007 by hersh
	Progress not perfection (Preview) The A's mother paid a visit. As some of you will recall I had a lot of feelings around her up and running off in a marriage. The A spent days cleaning and organizing and gearing up for her visit. I did very little in terms of talking to him about it. I used to totally obsess about her and ef...	maresie2	3	394	Jan 17, 2007 by hersh
	What tools do you use? (Preview) This is such a great place for us to learn how to handle life and work on our own self-improvement. Sometimes, however, I find it hard to remember all of the tools we have at our disposal thanks to this program. This is especially important for newcomers who don't know much about al-anon. I thought it wou...	babysteps	8	632	Jan 17, 2007 by carolinagirl
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