Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Daisychain · Daisychain

I'm not sure why I am writing here. I know you cannot tell me what to do. My 43year old alcoholic sister has completed ruined her life. I thought, through al-anon I was making big steps in allowing her from ruining mine any further. But at the moment I feel worse by not going to her than I did when I was con...

moonunit · moonunit

This is the very first time I have ever reached out beyond arms reach for a little help if only to keep my sanity. Someone had suggested I go to a support meeting, and thought it was a good idea, but my hours I work could not support it. So hear I am on message board to start with and I have to say I almost feel be...

Mynameismom · Mynameismom

I am brand new to this Forum and wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of 4 grown children and 6 grandchildren. My daughter has been a functional alcoholic for years. She is on Day 7 of sobriety and the journey scares the living hell out of me although not as bad as the last few years with her worseni...

kitty · kitty

So, my mom emailed me this list of rules to live by and I thought it was fantastic and wanted to share with all of you. Words to Live By Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland,Ohio "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the mos...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Hi, MIP family ... I haven't been around the last couple of days. On Thursday morning, I had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room. This is the 4th seizure I've had in my life - have never been diagnosed with epilepsy or anything, and the tests that were run in the hospital showed nothing. I'm...

maresie · maresie

This weekend I had the opportuity to be around my roommates while they partied and got really seriously drunk. They were lurcing around sluring their words and slumping around. One of them had his children come over who were running through the house. I know I felt incredibly uncomfortable and ho...

smartkat · smartkat

I am still fuming a weekl later. My SIL called my mother a 'xxxx' (Screaming it in public.) And just because my mother was not willing to watch her child all day Saturday after watching her over 40 hours that week. She then chased her in the car and rammed the back of her car (just enough to cause a small...

never going back · never going back

It has only been 2 days since I found this site (is that possible??? seems like much longer!). I don"t know how I"ve made it this long without it. I have read through your posts, visited the chat room, attended 2 of the on-line meetings, written several posts of my own(I guess its normal to pos...

CatherineR · CatherineR

I am very worried about my son. He is 23 and drinks every day. He has been drunk four times this week already. He lives with me, he has a full time job. He is rude when he drinks. I don't want to enable him, but I don't really want to kick him out. He has lost his license for drinking and driving, and been charged...

chauri · chauri

Hi all, I'm Chauri. I haven't been posting message in a long time. Today, I'm in a fix. It's probably my fault. I need to make amends and don't know how. Well to make the story ahort, my A hasn't been drinking in a while. But instead of alcohol, he is into pain meds. which is the same thing ,as far as I'm concer...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I haven't been on here in a long time....but thank my HP for this forrum for I needed to share and listen to others as well ASAP.... I have two little ones, quit my job to go to school full-time as I was doing both......and the last thing I want to worry about is AH. When the insanity comes and goes for almost s...

malady · malady

What is serenity? I don't think I ever =eally knew or experienced serenity. It wasn't part of my vocabulary and it =ertainly wasn't part of my daily life. Until I found al-anon =nd all it had to offer me. Before al-anon my idea of serenity was making sure =veryone was happy. A people pleaser who put ever...

shimo · shimo

I regret that I am, once again, unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting. My 87 year old aunt is having medical issues relating to her pacemaker and I need to be at the hospital with her all day. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Happy Fathers Day to all of you wonderful father's out there. May you day be filled with joy, love and happiness....Have a wonderful day you deserve it. With Love, Andrea

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish all you Dads a very Happy Father's Day. I hope it is happy, joyous and perfect in every way for you. On this day I think of both my Dad & my beloved Tim whom I lost on the same day 10 years apart. I know they are looking down on me, along with my grandd...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

samantha and kendra birthday number 2

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is still rough, but I am pulling through the no sleep, crying period! I really do need to remember to be grateful & not so damn pissed off! I just need a break & it seems like every time I do, another issue disturbs my sleep. I was really pissed off this morning! Now that I am sitting here @ this...

kerling · kerling

Hi, all. I am not quite new in online AA groups, I joined first many years ago, but since the U.S.A. can be so different to where I used to live, I somehow didn't feel comfortable. Anyway, I am an alcoholic, free from Baccus for 8 years now (before, in 1991 I had 3-4 years sober). I have been living with an alc...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

So much is going on & I feel somewhat overwhelmed! My mind has been somewhat absent & my emotions are on my sleeve lately! I need a long bath & a break! Unfortunately, I have no bath tub to sit in--cracks on the tub... what can I do? accept the things I cannot change. so, I go for a walk, get on t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am having a really bad day today! Since the beginning of this week I have had a bunch of reasons to cry & I do mean cry! I am losing my serenity & don't know what to do! So much is going on that I feel trapped in my head & can't get out! This week has been pretty difficult because the plumber calle...

Gailey · Gailey

My son's ex-wife has decided to let my A son pick his daughters up today and bring them to my house. I am feeling a little angst about this but am trying to turn it over. She has a boundary in place which is a good thing. The only way he is allowed to take them in the car is if she is the one who sees him when he pick...

mavis · mavis

This board is so full of perspective and kindness, maybe you can help. My husband who had been sober on and off for five years, is drinking again. For months, he had been "hiding" his drinking which is pretty pitiful since he was falling down drunk on several occassions. But I didn't real...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have just been to see my councillor this morning. She gave me a book that she might think will help me to read in this week. It's called "Codependency No More" by Melody Beattie. I have already started absorbing the book at it seems to describe me and how I feel like I have never seen before....

arizona · arizona

My mom is in AA and is something like 4 months sober, and honestly, this is the first step I've taken to trying to understand everything. Right now, my mom and I aren't speaking. But here's some history - sorry if it's long, I'll try to only hit the important points. Growing up, she would be what I would pro...

TampaGirl · TampaGirl

Okay. So, I joined last week. So glad I did. Also went to my first f2f meeting on Saturday. My A was released from rehab on Friday, June 11. I picked him up from the airport on Saturday, June 12. He was drunk. We spent Sunday together. I told him people make mistakes, and he said he was going to make his 90 in 90...

Ness · Ness

My son is still waiting on bedspace becoming available in the detox unit. Yes, due to cutbacks, there are only so many beds in one unit to cover a radius of around 200 miles where alcoholism is probably the major disease. Anyway I am powerless over that, he is top of the list and hopefully next week.All is...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Jerry F · Jerry F

The new mother board is installed...obviously and the computer is computing so from my own desk I'm back in the MIP room with family. I didn't cause it, couldn't control it and couldn't cure it. I had to have other people in my life to do for me what I could not and would not do for myself. Isn't that a les...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Have just returned from hospital appointment with AH. Consultant said that the condition of AH's liver would not in itself cause the constant diarrhoea and vomiting which he has been experiencing over last 2 months or so. He thinks "there's something else going on" and wanted to admit hi...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have been writing here on this forum many times about my alcoholic ex-girlfriend and the fact that we are not supposed to have any contact while she does the steps in AA. She called me yesterday. And unlike last time, there was no crisis this time. Last time she asked me to help her out with money for he...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((((Friends)))))))))), Been a while since I have posted. So much has been going on....son finally graduated high school. Hip Hip Horrah....lol....I have started school...oh lord it is hard, but I am getting the hang of it....I am taking classes for medical billiing and Medical Coding o...

Jozie · Jozie

So I did as I stated... I went to my F2F on Friday :) Seen alot of faces I don't get to see at my Sunday night, that & the room was full so it was wonderful... ESH all over the place ;) Even Made a Joke at the meeting that I was thinking about finding a Way to Stick The Serenity Prayer to my Dash for the trip (thi...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So it's been quite a while since I have been here and wanted to give a little update on my life... Oldest daughter remains unmarried and it looks like that is not going to happen. I got her a cell phone which has been an excellent enforcement tool and she has become much easier to live with. I have stopped...

Clear4 · Clear4

I have been in Alan-on inconsistently since early 80's. Sometimes comfortable and sometimes not. What's the deal with the Lord's prayer as "Alan-on is not allied with any sect, DENOMINATION, political affiliation institution or organization". It was recently brought up in mee...

never going back · never going back

Another sleepless night. I confronted my AH laast evening with the fact that I know he's drinking again, after a year and a half of sobriety. His response? Of COURSE he's drinking again, after all he's been through, who wouldn't? He feels that if I really want to help him, I will support him (not his drin...

never going back · never going back

Can anyone recommend some books that you found particularly helpful on the subject of dealing with an alcoholic spouse? I am going to be in St. Louis tomorrow and would like to pick up some books to try to help me sort things out. I know I've heard the title "Getting Them Sober" mentioned seve...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

I feel like I have nothing left to give. Maybe that's been part of my sickness - giving too much of myself - but after this past year of focusing on myself and working on ME with my Alanon group, I just feel like I'm ready to go. I'm ready to let my AF live his own life and be free to make his own decisions. I'm...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO POSTS WHEN THEY ARE ABLE! I HAVE GOTTEN SO MANY GOOD RESPONSES FROM SO MANY PEOPLE. LYNDEBI: THANKS FOR MENTIONING THE JOURNALING IDEA! I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DO THAT EVERY DAY BUT ONLY GET THE CHANCE ONCE IN A WHILE. SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT I AM TOO DEEP! I GET SO CAUGHT UP IN MY HEAD! TO...

Shawn412 · Shawn412

Very frustrated here in Steeler Town and for once, it's not because of Big Ben. My wife (who just finished her 2nd month-long rehab a few weeks ago) and I had our 11th anniversary yesterday. Our plan was for her to take antabuse once a week per prescription with me to administer it every Sunday. Sh...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have been feeling better and better since I came into Al-Anon. It's been ups and downs, but the trend is that it's getting better. I have even managed to be happy about little things in Life. I miss my alcoholic ex-girlfriend still. I have no contact with her and have been able to stop looking into her...

never going back · never going back

I am new here, but after reading through others experiences, it seems that maybe this is where I need to be. My husband has been an alcoholic for 40 years. Things got so far out of control 3 years ago that he finally began trying to get help. When I finally went through with my threats to leave him, he joined...

annmarie · annmarie

It's a long while since I've been here. I have been by myself for a long time now, since breaking up with my abf. I am now very scared of new relationships and don't know where to start. I don't have much experience of healthy relationships and am feeling overpowered. I've been working on my self esteem a...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Just how much more can one person take? I have posted before about AH - now in end stages of alcoholism with liver and kidneys affected. He spends all time in bed - doesn't eat - just drinks and smokes. I have to marvel about how much the body can physically take. He still manages to drag himself over to loca...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I know i've been questioning Al anon lately with all of my craziness BUT... This is the first time in over 3 years I'm not nervous going home on a Friday night... LOVE IT!!!!

Bettina · Bettina

Hi everyone, Today I got a phone call from my XAH, he can hardly speak and he is in pain, so I called the paramedics, they had to break down the door because he was too weak to unlock it. They took him to the ER and he is in ICU in critical condition, his blood count was dangerously low, and he has internal bleed...

Hopeless · Hopeless

When someone describes their A (whether it be a drunk or dry drunk) how much a like they all are.... When I read the majority of these post I see my A in almost every one of them, it amazes me = /

maresie · maresie

when I was subsumed in the martyr role, doing far beyond any boundary for the ex A or for my roommates (I cleaned up for a long time), I had no idea how I came across to others. I felt noble, giving and responsible. Now years into recovery I can see that I alienated many many people when I gave what I didn't h...

zen78 · zen78

It's been a while since I posted here last time. I'm so lost. I started going to the meetings, but it's so hard for me to keep my peace everytime I talk to my alcoholic/addict husband. I think that he's having a rough time right now. He's now going back to the dark days after being sober and clean for a year...

glad · glad

my A (live in for 7 years, due to my not wanting to get married until I feel I can accept alcoholism for the rest of my life or he gets sober) boyfriend has so many many issues that I don't know where the emotional abuse from is childhood blends with the Alcoholism from his childhood and his current alcoho...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

Your words and experiences has given my strength, I know it is time to let him own his bad choices. God Bless you all.

Love Always Hopes · Love Always Hopes

It's been awhile since I've been online as much is going on...I finally got the courage to leave my ABF about a month ago. I am going through counseling and he is supposedly attending church, AA & is meeting regularly with his sponsor. There have been some WONDERFUL conversations. Conversati...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Let's keep our David in our thoughts and prayers this morning as he has surgery. I'm sure all will be well and our Elvis will be back with us real soon. I'll post as soon as I know anything. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

canadianguy · canadianguy

Just go sent an interesting article of something we can look out for on tv in the coming months... Tom MILLION-SELLING "GETTING THEM SOBER" BOOK FEATURED IN FILM by NATIONAL INSTITUTES OF MENTAL HEALTH Baltimore---- June 11, 2010 SAMHSA (national offices of U.S. substance abuse...

Jennifer · Jennifer

The prgram works. To paraphrase the daily reading from Words to live by A Day At A Time; when the philsopher Jung was asked if he believed in God he replied "I do not believe I know" This is how I feel about AlAnon and everyone's HP, I don't have to believe I know because I see it every day. In peop...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

My addicted son was arrested last night for resiting arrest after a fight he had with his drug friends. He is now in jail and calling me to come get him out, the bail bondsmen just called and wanted to know when I could come and pay him the bail to have my son released. I don't want to pay this or get involved w...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Installment #2 of why cats are like addicts. For those of you who have read my post Cats are like addicts and dogs are like codependents, here's another example. True to cat/addict form: Pipers is outside focusing on one thing: Dinner, not from a can but one she can hunt. We have a gorge...

wunderbar · wunderbar

Hi all. It's been a while since I first posted, but I had a feeling I would end up coming back. Haven't (yet) made it to a face-to-face meeting, but seriously thinking about it soon. Anyway, my h is at the bar. I have no idea when he'll be home. It's almost 2am now and he has work in the morning. I'm trying hard...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the meeting Monday a.m. There is a tour of my home by the Real Estate folks and I need to vacant my home for the morning hours. Hopefully, someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks, Shimo aka Jeri

kerry5 · kerry5

Sorry again i need chair again this week. Will be back to chairing sunday next week Thanks kerry (aka kerisha)

Ness · Ness

Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns.....So I was just heading to bed Wed night when I heard the kitchen door open and a hushed discussion ensue between husb & a voice I havent heard for many months, the son I love with all my heart.....I stayed calm............a miracle o...

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	Confused and despairing (Preview) I'm not sure why I am writing here. I know you cannot tell me what to do. My 43year old alcoholic sister has completed ruined her life. I thought, through al-anon I was making big steps in allowing her from ruining mine any further. But at the moment I feel worse by not going to her than I did when I was con...	Daisychain	9	902	Jun 22, 2010 by Daisychain
	My mother is an alcoholic. (Preview) This is the very first time I have ever reached out beyond arms reach for a little help if only to keep my sanity. Someone had suggested I go to a support meeting, and thought it was a good idea, but my hours I work could not support it. So hear I am on message board to start with and I have to say I almost feel be...	moonunit	9	825	Jun 22, 2010 by cuteamy7
	Hello, My Name is Mom and my daughter is an alcoholic (Preview) I am brand new to this Forum and wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of 4 grown children and 6 grandchildren. My daughter has been a functional alcoholic for years. She is on Day 7 of sobriety and the journey scares the living hell out of me although not as bad as the last few years with her worseni...	Mynameismom	14	1563	Jun 21, 2010 by never going back
	words to live by (Preview) So, my mom emailed me this list of rules to live by and I thought it was fantastic and wanted to share with all of you. Words to Live By Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland,Ohio "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the mos...	kitty	5	1625	Jun 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Update on me (Preview) Hi, MIP family ... I haven't been around the last couple of days. On Thursday morning, I had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room. This is the 4th seizure I've had in my life - have never been diagnosed with epilepsy or anything, and the tests that were run in the hospital showed nothing. I'm...	White Rabbit	7	606	Jun 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	drunkeness (Preview) This weekend I had the opportuity to be around my roommates while they partied and got really seriously drunk. They were lurcing around sluring their words and slumping around. One of them had his children come over who were running through the house. I know I felt incredibly uncomfortable and ho...	maresie	5	766	Jun 21, 2010 by hotrod
	I need help in dealing with ANGER anger verbal abuse neglect (Preview) I am still fuming a weekl later. My SIL called my mother a 'xxxx' (Screaming it in public.) And just because my mother was not willing to watch her child all day Saturday after watching her over 40 hours that week. She then chased her in the car and rammed the back of her car (just enough to cause a small...	smartkat	10	8111	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	your compassion has rocked my world (Preview) It has only been 2 days since I found this site (is that possible??? seems like much longer!). I don"t know how I"ve made it this long without it. I have read through your posts, visited the chat room, attended 2 of the on-line meetings, written several posts of my own(I guess its normal to pos...	never going back	10	936	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	New Here (Preview) I am very worried about my son. He is 23 and drinks every day. He has been drunk four times this week already. He lives with me, he has a full time job. He is rude when he drinks. I don't want to enable him, but I don't really want to kick him out. He has lost his license for drinking and driving, and been charged...	CatherineR	11	540	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	My fault ot is it? (Preview) Hi all, I'm Chauri. I haven't been posting message in a long time. Today, I'm in a fix. It's probably my fault. I need to make amends and don't know how. Well to make the story ahort, my A hasn't been drinking in a while. But instead of alcohol, he is into pain meds. which is the same thing ,as far as I'm concer...	chauri	6	804	Jun 21, 2010 by chauri
	The importance in "Keep coming back" (Preview) I haven't been on here in a long time....but thank my HP for this forrum for I needed to share and listen to others as well ASAP.... I have two little ones, quit my job to go to school full-time as I was doing both......and the last thing I want to worry about is AH. When the insanity comes and goes for almost s...	RoseODAT	4	1014	Jun 21, 2010 by barisax
	serenity and me (Preview) What is serenity? I don't think I ever =eally knew or experienced serenity. It wasn't part of my vocabulary and it =ertainly wasn't part of my daily life. Until I found al-anon =nd all it had to offer me. Before al-anon my idea of serenity was making sure =veryone was happy. A people pleaser who put ever...	malady	3	1054	Jun 21, 2010 by Bettina
	MONDAY A.M. AL-ANON MEETING (Preview) I regret that I am, once again, unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting. My 87 year old aunt is having medical issues relating to her pacemaker and I need to be at the hospital with her all day. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	0	376	Jun 20, 2010 by shimo
	Happy Fathers Day (Preview) Happy Fathers Day to all of you wonderful father's out there. May you day be filled with joy, love and happiness....Have a wonderful day you deserve it. With Love, Andrea	Andrea12	3	746	Jun 20, 2010 by RLC
	Happy Father's Day! (Preview) ((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish all you Dads a very Happy Father's Day. I hope it is happy, joyous and perfect in every way for you. On this day I think of both my Dad & my beloved Tim whom I lost on the same day 10 years apart. I know they are looking down on me, along with my grandd...	Karilynn	2	614	Jun 20, 2010 by RLC
	My beautiful girls. (Preview) samantha and kendra birthday number 2	Andrea12	6	1229	Jun 20, 2010 by Andrea12
	time will tell... (Preview) It is still rough, but I am pulling through the no sleep, crying period! I really do need to remember to be grateful & not so damn pissed off! I just need a break & it seems like every time I do, another issue disturbs my sleep. I was really pissed off this morning! Now that I am sitting here @ this...	Hoot Nanny	2	717	Jun 19, 2010 by Bettina
	DSM psychopath or just plain alcoholic? (Preview) Hi, all. I am not quite new in online AA groups, I joined first many years ago, but since the U.S.A. can be so different to where I used to live, I somehow didn't feel comfortable. Anyway, I am an alcoholic, free from Baccus for 8 years now (before, in 1991 I had 3-4 years sober). I have been living with an alc...	kerling	14	3935	Jun 19, 2010 by shebear
	what do I do with all this anxiety...? (Preview) So much is going on & I feel somewhat overwhelmed! My mind has been somewhat absent & my emotions are on my sleeve lately! I need a long bath & a break! Unfortunately, I have no bath tub to sit in--cracks on the tub... what can I do? accept the things I cannot change. so, I go for a walk, get on t...	Hoot Nanny	3	614	Jun 19, 2010 by Mobirdie
	having a bad day--can't stop crying! (Preview) I am having a really bad day today! Since the beginning of this week I have had a bunch of reasons to cry & I do mean cry! I am losing my serenity & don't know what to do! So much is going on that I feel trapped in my head & can't get out! This week has been pretty difficult because the plumber calle...	Hoot Nanny	5	1031	Jun 19, 2010 by Karilynn
	turning it over (Preview) My son's ex-wife has decided to let my A son pick his daughters up today and bring them to my house. I am feeling a little angst about this but am trying to turn it over. She has a boundary in place which is a good thing. The only way he is allowed to take them in the car is if she is the one who sees him when he pick...	Gailey	3	752	Jun 19, 2010 by Karilynn
	Dry Drunk - Drinking again...need advice. (Preview) This board is so full of perspective and kindness, maybe you can help. My husband who had been sober on and off for five years, is drinking again. For months, he had been "hiding" his drinking which is pretty pitiful since he was falling down drunk on several occassions. But I didn't real...	mavis	5	1485	Jun 19, 2010 by JimmyX
	I'm feeling better than I have done for ages! (Preview) Hi I have just been to see my councillor this morning. She gave me a book that she might think will help me to read in this week. It's called "Codependency No More" by Melody Beattie. I have already started absorbing the book at it seems to describe me and how I feel like I have never seen before....	Cosmos	3	764	Jun 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	This is where I'm starting - can you help me understand? (Preview) My mom is in AA and is something like 4 months sober, and honestly, this is the first step I've taken to trying to understand everything. Right now, my mom and I aren't speaking. But here's some history - sorry if it's long, I'll try to only hit the important points. Growing up, she would be what I would pro...	arizona	10	786	Jun 19, 2010 by abbyal
	Wow. Where to begin. I really need some guidance right now. (Preview) Okay. So, I joined last week. So glad I did. Also went to my first f2f meeting on Saturday. My A was released from rehab on Friday, June 11. I picked him up from the airport on Saturday, June 12. He was drunk. We spent Sunday together. I told him people make mistakes, and he said he was going to make his 90 in 90...	TampaGirl	7	809	Jun 19, 2010 by abbyal
	Update (Preview) My son is still waiting on bedspace becoming available in the detox unit. Yes, due to cutbacks, there are only so many beds in one unit to cover a radius of around 200 miles where alcoholism is probably the major disease. Anyway I am powerless over that, he is top of the list and hopefully next week.All is...	Ness	7	890	Jun 18, 2010 by Ness
	i THINK THEY ARE LOVELY (Preview)	Andrea12	8	819	Jun 18, 2010 by Katy
	The lesson was in acceptance... (Preview) The new mother board is installed...obviously and the computer is computing so from my own desk I'm back in the MIP room with family. I didn't cause it, couldn't control it and couldn't cure it. I had to have other people in my life to do for me what I could not and would not do for myself. Isn't that a les...	Jerry F	13	950	Jun 18, 2010 by Andrea12
	Bit of an update (Preview) Have just returned from hospital appointment with AH. Consultant said that the condition of AH's liver would not in itself cause the constant diarrhoea and vomiting which he has been experiencing over last 2 months or so. He thinks "there's something else going on" and wanted to admit hi...	Tattyhead	7	897	Jun 17, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Development? Or is there something I fail to see? (Preview) Hi I have been writing here on this forum many times about my alcoholic ex-girlfriend and the fact that we are not supposed to have any contact while she does the steps in AA. She called me yesterday. And unlike last time, there was no crisis this time. Last time she asked me to help her out with money for he...	Cosmos	7	752	Jun 17, 2010 by kitty
	LIFE BEGINS AGAIN WITH HOPE!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) (((((((((((Friends)))))))))), Been a while since I have posted. So much has been going on....son finally graduated high school. Hip Hip Horrah....lol....I have started school...oh lord it is hard, but I am getting the hang of it....I am taking classes for medical billiing and Medical Coding o...	Andrea12	11	914	Jun 17, 2010 by Karilynn
	UPDATE TRIP... (Preview) So I did as I stated... I went to my F2F on Friday :) Seen alot of faces I don't get to see at my Sunday night, that & the room was full so it was wonderful... ESH all over the place ;) Even Made a Joke at the meeting that I was thinking about finding a Way to Stick The Serenity Prayer to my Dash for the trip (thi...	Jozie	3	503	Jun 16, 2010 by Jozie
	Update :) (Preview) So it's been quite a while since I have been here and wanted to give a little update on my life... Oldest daughter remains unmarried and it looks like that is not going to happen. I got her a cell phone which has been an excellent enforcement tool and she has become much easier to live with. I have stopped...	carolinagirl	5	475	Jun 16, 2010 by maresie
	Lord's Prayer (Preview) I have been in Alan-on inconsistently since early 80's. Sometimes comfortable and sometimes not. What's the deal with the Lord's prayer as "Alan-on is not allied with any sect, DENOMINATION, political affiliation institution or organization". It was recently brought up in mee...	Clear4	8	2934	Jun 16, 2010 by Clear4
	Why am I the one who can't sleep? (Preview) Another sleepless night. I confronted my AH laast evening with the fact that I know he's drinking again, after a year and a half of sobriety. His response? Of COURSE he's drinking again, after all he's been through, who wouldn't? He feels that if I really want to help him, I will support him (not his drin...	never going back	9	974	Jun 16, 2010 by ythannah
	book suggestions? (Preview) Can anyone recommend some books that you found particularly helpful on the subject of dealing with an alcoholic spouse? I am going to be in St. Louis tomorrow and would like to pick up some books to try to help me sort things out. I know I've heard the title "Getting Them Sober" mentioned seve...	never going back	7	1123	Jun 16, 2010 by never going back
	I just don't want to try anymore. (Preview) I feel like I have nothing left to give. Maybe that's been part of my sickness - giving too much of myself - but after this past year of focusing on myself and working on ME with my Alanon group, I just feel like I'm ready to go. I'm ready to let my AF live his own life and be free to make his own decisions. I'm...	zhotdogs99	9	1101	Jun 16, 2010 by zhotdogs99
	thanks for being here, all y'all!(SOMETHING FOR LYNDEBI) (Preview) THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO POSTS WHEN THEY ARE ABLE! I HAVE GOTTEN SO MANY GOOD RESPONSES FROM SO MANY PEOPLE. LYNDEBI: THANKS FOR MENTIONING THE JOURNALING IDEA! I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DO THAT EVERY DAY BUT ONLY GET THE CHANCE ONCE IN A WHILE. SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT I AM TOO DEEP! I GET SO CAUGHT UP IN MY HEAD! TO...	Hoot Nanny	2	748	Jun 16, 2010 by lyndebi
	My Plan Not Working (Preview) Very frustrated here in Steeler Town and for once, it's not because of Big Ben. My wife (who just finished her 2nd month-long rehab a few weeks ago) and I had our 11th anniversary yesterday. Our plan was for her to take antabuse once a week per prescription with me to administer it every Sunday. Sh...	Shawn412	9	925	Jun 15, 2010 by Shawn412
	I wish I could attend Al-Anon in my dreams as well. (Preview) Hi I have been feeling better and better since I came into Al-Anon. It's been ups and downs, but the trend is that it's getting better. I have even managed to be happy about little things in Life. I miss my alcoholic ex-girlfriend still. I have no contact with her and have been able to stop looking into her...	Cosmos	5	744	Jun 15, 2010 by Cosmos
	handling a relapse? (Preview) I am new here, but after reading through others experiences, it seems that maybe this is where I need to be. My husband has been an alcoholic for 40 years. Things got so far out of control 3 years ago that he finally began trying to get help. When I finally went through with my threats to leave him, he joined...	never going back	6	817	Jun 15, 2010 by Bettina
	scared of new relationships (Preview) It's a long while since I've been here. I have been by myself for a long time now, since breaking up with my abf. I am now very scared of new relationships and don't know where to start. I don't have much experience of healthy relationships and am feeling overpowered. I've been working on my self esteem a...	annmarie	4	1159	Jun 15, 2010 by Bettina
	Just venting (again!) (Preview) Just how much more can one person take? I have posted before about AH - now in end stages of alcoholism with liver and kidneys affected. He spends all time in bed - doesn't eat - just drinks and smokes. I have to marvel about how much the body can physically take. He still manages to drag himself over to loca...	Tattyhead	4	785	Jun 15, 2010 by Bettina
	It must be working... (Preview) I know i've been questioning Al anon lately with all of my craziness BUT... This is the first time in over 3 years I'm not nervous going home on a Friday night... LOVE IT!!!!	Hopeless	5	762	Jun 14, 2010 by never going back
	Need your prayers (Preview) Hi everyone, Today I got a phone call from my XAH, he can hardly speak and he is in pain, so I called the paramedics, they had to break down the door because he was too weak to unlock it. They took him to the ER and he is in ICU in critical condition, his blood count was dangerously low, and he has internal bleed...	Bettina	9	1313	Jun 14, 2010 by Bettina
	It's Really Sad/Interesting... (Preview) When someone describes their A (whether it be a drunk or dry drunk) how much a like they all are.... When I read the majority of these post I see my A in almost every one of them, it amazes me = /	Hopeless	5	767	Jun 14, 2010 by buick23
	Martyr role (Preview) when I was subsumed in the martyr role, doing far beyond any boundary for the ex A or for my roommates (I cleaned up for a long time), I had no idea how I came across to others. I felt noble, giving and responsible. Now years into recovery I can see that I alienated many many people when I gave what I didn't h...	maresie	7	883	Jun 14, 2010 by Ness
	I'm insane, I need help! (Preview) It's been a while since I posted here last time. I'm so lost. I started going to the meetings, but it's so hard for me to keep my peace everytime I talk to my alcoholic/addict husband. I think that he's having a rough time right now. He's now going back to the dark days after being sober and clean for a year...	zen78	5	753	Jun 14, 2010 by zen78
	Journal entry or post- about being less than valuable ( to him, not in my mind) (Preview) my A (live in for 7 years, due to my not wanting to get married until I feel I can accept alcoholism for the rest of my life or he gets sober) boyfriend has so many many issues that I don't know where the emotional abuse from is childhood blends with the Alcoholism from his childhood and his current alcoho...	glad	5	951	Jun 14, 2010 by ythannah
	Thank You All.... (Preview) Your words and experiences has given my strength, I know it is time to let him own his bad choices. God Bless you all.	DreamsOver	1	555	Jun 14, 2010 by pineapple
	What is going on??? (Preview) It's been awhile since I've been online as much is going on...I finally got the courage to leave my ABF about a month ago. I am going through counseling and he is supposedly attending church, AA & is meeting regularly with his sponsor. There have been some WONDERFUL conversations. Conversati...	Love Always Hopes	5	697	Jun 14, 2010 by lyndebi
	Prayers for David (Preview) (((Family))), Let's keep our David in our thoughts and prayers this morning as he has surgery. I'm sure all will be well and our Elvis will be back with us real soon. I'll post as soon as I know anything. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	14	933	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	All good media helps... (Preview) Just go sent an interesting article of something we can look out for on tv in the coming months... Tom MILLION-SELLING "GETTING THEM SOBER" BOOK FEATURED IN FILM by NATIONAL INSTITUTES OF MENTAL HEALTH Baltimore---- June 11, 2010 SAMHSA (national offices of U.S. substance abuse...	canadianguy	2	657	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Today I will remember ... (Preview) The prgram works. To paraphrase the daily reading from Words to live by A Day At A Time; when the philsopher Jung was asked if he believed in God he replied "I do not believe I know" This is how I feel about AlAnon and everyone's HP, I don't have to believe I know because I see it every day. In peop...	Jennifer	3	575	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Need To Ask A Question Please.... (Preview) My addicted son was arrested last night for resiting arrest after a fight he had with his drug friends. He is now in jail and calling me to come get him out, the bail bondsmen just called and wanted to know when I could come and pay him the bail to have my son released. I don't want to pay this or get involved w...	DreamsOver	4	855	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Another example of how cats are like addicts! (Preview) (((Family))), Installment #2 of why cats are like addicts. For those of you who have read my post Cats are like addicts and dogs are like codependents, here's another example. True to cat/addict form: Pipers is outside focusing on one thing: Dinner, not from a can but one she can hunt. We have a gorge...	Karilynn	12	1080	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	He's at the bar, I'm trying not to freak out. (Preview) Hi all. It's been a while since I first posted, but I had a feeling I would end up coming back. Haven't (yet) made it to a face-to-face meeting, but seriously thinking about it soon. Anyway, my h is at the bar. I have no idea when he'll be home. It's almost 2am now and he has work in the morning. I'm trying hard...	wunderbar	8	762	Jun 13, 2010 by tealexis
	MONDAY A.M. MEETING (Preview) I am unable to chair the meeting Monday a.m. There is a tour of my home by the Real Estate folks and I need to vacant my home for the morning hours. Hopefully, someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks, Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	0	320	Jun 13, 2010 by shimo
	Need Chair for Tonight June 13th 2010 (Preview) Sorry again i need chair again this week. Will be back to chairing sunday next week Thanks kerry (aka kerisha)	kerry5	0	425	Jun 13, 2010 by kerry5
	Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns..... (Preview) Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns.....So I was just heading to bed Wed night when I heard the kitchen door open and a hushed discussion ensue between husb & a voice I havent heard for many months, the son I love with all my heart.....I stayed calm............a miracle o...	Ness	3	950	Jun 13, 2010 by Ness
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