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never going back · never going back

After 2 weeks of procrastinating, I finally made it to my first F2F meeting last night. It was okay, the people were pretty nice, but I'm just not sure this is going to be for me. They meet once a week and suggest that you try to make at least 6 meetings before you decide for or against continuing, so that's w...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Something has been bothering me for a long time and I am hoping that if I put this "out there" maybe I can get over it. Been married to AH for many years and had tons of "friends", our house was always full of people. I seldom ever shared a drink with any of them, but truly enjoyed their...

Simba · Simba

Can anyone help me find an AL-ANON meeting in Sarajevo? I have spent hours searching the web with no luck.... I did find an AA meeting here and asked a member about AL-ANON but no luck. I don't know If I could handle being in an AA meeting right now. I am stressed enough with one AH.

Bettina · Bettina

Friends, A week ago, I think I told you the XAH almost bled to death he had a bleeding ulcer and he ruptured his esophagus . He had 7 blood transfusions. Took two days to get him stable where he wasnt loosing blood. Well, he is being released tomorrow as good as new. Dr. told him he cannot have one more drink...

miss_carol · miss_carol

We are behind on everything and my A has now decided I should be the one talking to them. I really just want to tell them this: I am not working, my husband is not reliable and I don't know when or if you will ever get your money. Thank you and have a nice day. (or come and get the truck). We just moved but it is mo...

abbyal · abbyal

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xter · xter

i'm thinking of going to a CODA meeting tonight. i'm in a new-ish relationship with a man who doesn't need fixing (well, there are plenty of things i can find to fix if i start thinking that way) who doesn't need caretaking (except that i want to take care of his every imagined need and help him overcome s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I hope this finds everyone well & with some sense of serenity! I am struggling still but it seems to be a little better! I will make it brief: living ODAT & going to some meetings! Got some issues but they seem to always work out somehow! Sometimes even the worse problems I have aren't as bad as I ma...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

So I'm finally learning to let go of the AH..........I love him enough to let him go, because my life has been unmanagable for the past 5 years..... I know I cannot be in control, but I know that I do want a managable, PRODUCTIVE life...I want to be healthy in mind for my children,....I know I'm not perfect...

never going back · never going back

My AH and I finally talked a bit last night after a week of being civil but distant (mostly on my part). He says he has quit drinking again. ( I just found out Monday that he had been drinking again for about 4 months after a year and a half of sobriety. this following successful surgery for prostate cancer...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I'm looking forward to leaving my supposedly sober *special AH*........only not too much...... this is the millionth time my heart hurts to leave...... He's more than an addict.....I'm beleiving strongly got an antisocial type personality disorder because even though they might be sober, they...

miss_carol · miss_carol

I don't know why it takes so much courage to help myself sometimes. I am so glad I went. They were all so wonderful. It felt good to know I am not crazy and I am not alone. I always hope for quick answers and easy fixes. I don't think this is one of those times. Thanks, this site helped me get the courage to go t...

never going back · never going back

Just wanted to share a good experience, because since I've been on here, all I've related are the bad. Actually, since I've been on here, that's all I've HAD to relate! I just found out a week ago tha my AH of 30 years was drinking again after a year and a half of AA and sobriety (after a lifetime of being an al...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

And I am feeling it not only mentally, but now very physically. I can't eat without stomach pains, my mouth is so dry I have to keep gum so that my mouth will not blister. I feel like I could throw up any minute. I want my life back, I can remember when I loved getting up in the morning, I kissed my children an...

RJMorgan · RJMorgan

I've been reduced to a ball of tears within the last few hours and can't seem to stop crying. The hurt of abandonment is so great and powerful it's so overcoming. My A went off to treatment about an hour away and after about 30 days we discussed it would be more beneficial if we moved to that area and to get a...

Karilynn · Karilynn

It's our Rita's birthday today! WOOHOO! So let's send out as many pink birthday wishes to her. HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET RITA! Hope it is extra pink and special just like you. Remember calories don't count on your birthday week. So go ahead, have your and eat it too! Pipers is out looking for a pink mous...

jewel91 · jewel91

I feel sick, anxious, and depressed. I don't know why everytime we get into an arguement I feel this way. Is it because I know that the first thing he'll do is try to get a drink? Hopefully he doesn't still have any change left over after running to the store for me yesterday... but then again he probably we...

Mynameismom · Mynameismom

I am really confused with the volume of meetings. Are they different kinds of meetings or simply chaired by different people? Can anybody point me towards one until I have navigated around this site for a while? Thanks in advance for your help.

belle1 · belle1

wp =sweet lady celebrates a birthday this week xxxx

Daisychain · Daisychain

I'm not sure why I am writing here. I know you cannot tell me what to do. My 43year old alcoholic sister has completed ruined her life. I thought, through al-anon I was making big steps in allowing her from ruining mine any further. But at the moment I feel worse by not going to her than I did when I was con...

moonunit · moonunit

This is the very first time I have ever reached out beyond arms reach for a little help if only to keep my sanity. Someone had suggested I go to a support meeting, and thought it was a good idea, but my hours I work could not support it. So hear I am on message board to start with and I have to say I almost feel be...

Mynameismom · Mynameismom

I am brand new to this Forum and wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of 4 grown children and 6 grandchildren. My daughter has been a functional alcoholic for years. She is on Day 7 of sobriety and the journey scares the living hell out of me although not as bad as the last few years with her worseni...

kitty · kitty

So, my mom emailed me this list of rules to live by and I thought it was fantastic and wanted to share with all of you. Words to Live By Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland,Ohio "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the mos...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Hi, MIP family ... I haven't been around the last couple of days. On Thursday morning, I had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room. This is the 4th seizure I've had in my life - have never been diagnosed with epilepsy or anything, and the tests that were run in the hospital showed nothing. I'm...

maresie · maresie

This weekend I had the opportuity to be around my roommates while they partied and got really seriously drunk. They were lurcing around sluring their words and slumping around. One of them had his children come over who were running through the house. I know I felt incredibly uncomfortable and ho...

smartkat · smartkat

I am still fuming a weekl later. My SIL called my mother a 'xxxx' (Screaming it in public.) And just because my mother was not willing to watch her child all day Saturday after watching her over 40 hours that week. She then chased her in the car and rammed the back of her car (just enough to cause a small...

never going back · never going back

It has only been 2 days since I found this site (is that possible??? seems like much longer!). I don"t know how I"ve made it this long without it. I have read through your posts, visited the chat room, attended 2 of the on-line meetings, written several posts of my own(I guess its normal to pos...

CatherineR · CatherineR

I am very worried about my son. He is 23 and drinks every day. He has been drunk four times this week already. He lives with me, he has a full time job. He is rude when he drinks. I don't want to enable him, but I don't really want to kick him out. He has lost his license for drinking and driving, and been charged...

chauri · chauri

Hi all, I'm Chauri. I haven't been posting message in a long time. Today, I'm in a fix. It's probably my fault. I need to make amends and don't know how. Well to make the story ahort, my A hasn't been drinking in a while. But instead of alcohol, he is into pain meds. which is the same thing ,as far as I'm concer...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I haven't been on here in a long time....but thank my HP for this forrum for I needed to share and listen to others as well ASAP.... I have two little ones, quit my job to go to school full-time as I was doing both......and the last thing I want to worry about is AH. When the insanity comes and goes for almost s...

malady · malady

What is serenity? I don't think I ever =eally knew or experienced serenity. It wasn't part of my vocabulary and it =ertainly wasn't part of my daily life. Until I found al-anon =nd all it had to offer me. Before al-anon my idea of serenity was making sure =veryone was happy. A people pleaser who put ever...

shimo · shimo

I regret that I am, once again, unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting. My 87 year old aunt is having medical issues relating to her pacemaker and I need to be at the hospital with her all day. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Happy Fathers Day to all of you wonderful father's out there. May you day be filled with joy, love and happiness....Have a wonderful day you deserve it. With Love, Andrea

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish all you Dads a very Happy Father's Day. I hope it is happy, joyous and perfect in every way for you. On this day I think of both my Dad & my beloved Tim whom I lost on the same day 10 years apart. I know they are looking down on me, along with my grandd...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

samantha and kendra birthday number 2

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is still rough, but I am pulling through the no sleep, crying period! I really do need to remember to be grateful & not so damn pissed off! I just need a break & it seems like every time I do, another issue disturbs my sleep. I was really pissed off this morning! Now that I am sitting here @ this...

kerling · kerling

Hi, all. I am not quite new in online AA groups, I joined first many years ago, but since the U.S.A. can be so different to where I used to live, I somehow didn't feel comfortable. Anyway, I am an alcoholic, free from Baccus for 8 years now (before, in 1991 I had 3-4 years sober). I have been living with an alc...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

So much is going on & I feel somewhat overwhelmed! My mind has been somewhat absent & my emotions are on my sleeve lately! I need a long bath & a break! Unfortunately, I have no bath tub to sit in--cracks on the tub... what can I do? accept the things I cannot change. so, I go for a walk, get on t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am having a really bad day today! Since the beginning of this week I have had a bunch of reasons to cry & I do mean cry! I am losing my serenity & don't know what to do! So much is going on that I feel trapped in my head & can't get out! This week has been pretty difficult because the plumber calle...

Gailey · Gailey

My son's ex-wife has decided to let my A son pick his daughters up today and bring them to my house. I am feeling a little angst about this but am trying to turn it over. She has a boundary in place which is a good thing. The only way he is allowed to take them in the car is if she is the one who sees him when he pick...

mavis · mavis

This board is so full of perspective and kindness, maybe you can help. My husband who had been sober on and off for five years, is drinking again. For months, he had been "hiding" his drinking which is pretty pitiful since he was falling down drunk on several occassions. But I didn't real...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have just been to see my councillor this morning. She gave me a book that she might think will help me to read in this week. It's called "Codependency No More" by Melody Beattie. I have already started absorbing the book at it seems to describe me and how I feel like I have never seen before....

arizona · arizona

My mom is in AA and is something like 4 months sober, and honestly, this is the first step I've taken to trying to understand everything. Right now, my mom and I aren't speaking. But here's some history - sorry if it's long, I'll try to only hit the important points. Growing up, she would be what I would pro...

TampaGirl · TampaGirl

Okay. So, I joined last week. So glad I did. Also went to my first f2f meeting on Saturday. My A was released from rehab on Friday, June 11. I picked him up from the airport on Saturday, June 12. He was drunk. We spent Sunday together. I told him people make mistakes, and he said he was going to make his 90 in 90...

Ness · Ness

My son is still waiting on bedspace becoming available in the detox unit. Yes, due to cutbacks, there are only so many beds in one unit to cover a radius of around 200 miles where alcoholism is probably the major disease. Anyway I am powerless over that, he is top of the list and hopefully next week.All is...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Jerry F · Jerry F

The new mother board is installed...obviously and the computer is computing so from my own desk I'm back in the MIP room with family. I didn't cause it, couldn't control it and couldn't cure it. I had to have other people in my life to do for me what I could not and would not do for myself. Isn't that a les...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Have just returned from hospital appointment with AH. Consultant said that the condition of AH's liver would not in itself cause the constant diarrhoea and vomiting which he has been experiencing over last 2 months or so. He thinks "there's something else going on" and wanted to admit hi...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have been writing here on this forum many times about my alcoholic ex-girlfriend and the fact that we are not supposed to have any contact while she does the steps in AA. She called me yesterday. And unlike last time, there was no crisis this time. Last time she asked me to help her out with money for he...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((((Friends)))))))))), Been a while since I have posted. So much has been going on....son finally graduated high school. Hip Hip Horrah....lol....I have started school...oh lord it is hard, but I am getting the hang of it....I am taking classes for medical billiing and Medical Coding o...

Jozie · Jozie

So I did as I stated... I went to my F2F on Friday :) Seen alot of faces I don't get to see at my Sunday night, that & the room was full so it was wonderful... ESH all over the place ;) Even Made a Joke at the meeting that I was thinking about finding a Way to Stick The Serenity Prayer to my Dash for the trip (thi...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So it's been quite a while since I have been here and wanted to give a little update on my life... Oldest daughter remains unmarried and it looks like that is not going to happen. I got her a cell phone which has been an excellent enforcement tool and she has become much easier to live with. I have stopped...

Clear4 · Clear4

I have been in Alan-on inconsistently since early 80's. Sometimes comfortable and sometimes not. What's the deal with the Lord's prayer as "Alan-on is not allied with any sect, DENOMINATION, political affiliation institution or organization". It was recently brought up in mee...

never going back · never going back

Another sleepless night. I confronted my AH laast evening with the fact that I know he's drinking again, after a year and a half of sobriety. His response? Of COURSE he's drinking again, after all he's been through, who wouldn't? He feels that if I really want to help him, I will support him (not his drin...

never going back · never going back

Can anyone recommend some books that you found particularly helpful on the subject of dealing with an alcoholic spouse? I am going to be in St. Louis tomorrow and would like to pick up some books to try to help me sort things out. I know I've heard the title "Getting Them Sober" mentioned seve...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

I feel like I have nothing left to give. Maybe that's been part of my sickness - giving too much of myself - but after this past year of focusing on myself and working on ME with my Alanon group, I just feel like I'm ready to go. I'm ready to let my AF live his own life and be free to make his own decisions. I'm...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO POSTS WHEN THEY ARE ABLE! I HAVE GOTTEN SO MANY GOOD RESPONSES FROM SO MANY PEOPLE. LYNDEBI: THANKS FOR MENTIONING THE JOURNALING IDEA! I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DO THAT EVERY DAY BUT ONLY GET THE CHANCE ONCE IN A WHILE. SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT I AM TOO DEEP! I GET SO CAUGHT UP IN MY HEAD! TO...

Shawn412 · Shawn412

Very frustrated here in Steeler Town and for once, it's not because of Big Ben. My wife (who just finished her 2nd month-long rehab a few weeks ago) and I had our 11th anniversary yesterday. Our plan was for her to take antabuse once a week per prescription with me to administer it every Sunday. Sh...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have been feeling better and better since I came into Al-Anon. It's been ups and downs, but the trend is that it's getting better. I have even managed to be happy about little things in Life. I miss my alcoholic ex-girlfriend still. I have no contact with her and have been able to stop looking into her...

never going back · never going back

I am new here, but after reading through others experiences, it seems that maybe this is where I need to be. My husband has been an alcoholic for 40 years. Things got so far out of control 3 years ago that he finally began trying to get help. When I finally went through with my threats to leave him, he joined...

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	My first F2F (Preview) After 2 weeks of procrastinating, I finally made it to my first F2F meeting last night. It was okay, the people were pretty nice, but I'm just not sure this is going to be for me. They meet once a week and suggest that you try to make at least 6 meetings before you decide for or against continuing, so that's w...	never going back	13	916	Jun 26, 2010 by canadianguy
	friends???? (Preview) Something has been bothering me for a long time and I am hoping that if I put this "out there" maybe I can get over it. Been married to AH for many years and had tons of "friends", our house was always full of people. I seldom ever shared a drink with any of them, but truly enjoyed their...	Sweet Stanley	12	969	Jun 26, 2010 by canadianguy
	Al-ANON in Sarajevo, Bosnia? (Preview) Can anyone help me find an AL-ANON meeting in Sarajevo? I have spent hours searching the web with no luck.... I did find an AA meeting here and asked a member about AL-ANON but no luck. I don't know If I could handle being in an AA meeting right now. I am stressed enough with one AH.	Simba	6	1582	Jun 26, 2010 by Andrea12
	The Universe is not done with the XAH (Preview) Friends, A week ago, I think I told you the XAH almost bled to death he had a bleeding ulcer and he ruptured his esophagus . He had 7 blood transfusions. Took two days to get him stable where he wasnt loosing blood. Well, he is being released tomorrow as good as new. Dr. told him he cannot have one more drink...	Bettina	10	861	Jun 26, 2010 by Ness
	What do I tell our creditors? (Preview) We are behind on everything and my A has now decided I should be the one talking to them. I really just want to tell them this: I am not working, my husband is not reliable and I don't know when or if you will ever get your money. Thank you and have a nice day. (or come and get the truck). We just moved but it is mo...	miss_carol	11	947	Jun 25, 2010 by Andrea12
	THIS IS JUST FOR ME = WELL MAYBE A FEW OTHERS TOO . (Preview) *------------------------------------------------------------*	abbyal	8	1180	Jun 25, 2010 by Andrea12
	CODA anyone? (Preview) i'm thinking of going to a CODA meeting tonight. i'm in a new-ish relationship with a man who doesn't need fixing (well, there are plenty of things i can find to fix if i start thinking that way) who doesn't need caretaking (except that i want to take care of his every imagined need and help him overcome s...	xter	4	1191	Jun 25, 2010 by kablisnow
	another day...it seems to be getting better! (Preview) I hope this finds everyone well & with some sense of serenity! I am struggling still but it seems to be a little better! I will make it brief: living ODAT & going to some meetings! Got some issues but they seem to always work out somehow! Sometimes even the worse problems I have aren't as bad as I ma...	Hoot Nanny	2	660	Jun 25, 2010 by never going back
	wow....no nagging today :) (Preview) So I'm finally learning to let go of the AH..........I love him enough to let him go, because my life has been unmanagable for the past 5 years..... I know I cannot be in control, but I know that I do want a managable, PRODUCTIVE life...I want to be healthy in mind for my children,....I know I'm not perfect...	RoseODAT	5	620	Jun 24, 2010 by White Rabbit
	He sure knows how to push my buttons (Preview) My AH and I finally talked a bit last night after a week of being civil but distant (mostly on my part). He says he has quit drinking again. ( I just found out Monday that he had been drinking again for about 4 months after a year and a half of sobriety. this following successful surgery for prostate cancer...	never going back	7	1452	Jun 24, 2010 by maresie
	need major STRENGTH to leave.....momentum please.... (Preview) I'm looking forward to leaving my supposedly sober special AH........only not too much...... this is the millionth time my heart hurts to leave...... He's more than an addict.....I'm beleiving strongly got an antisocial type personality disorder because even though they might be sober, they...	RoseODAT	12	1147	Jun 24, 2010 by Kiki52
	Went to my first alanon meeting today. (Preview) I don't know why it takes so much courage to help myself sometimes. I am so glad I went. They were all so wonderful. It felt good to know I am not crazy and I am not alone. I always hope for quick answers and easy fixes. I don't think this is one of those times. Thanks, this site helped me get the courage to go t...	miss_carol	6	914	Jun 24, 2010 by nmike
	MIP?? YES, they ARE!! (Preview) Just wanted to share a good experience, because since I've been on here, all I've related are the bad. Actually, since I've been on here, that's all I've HAD to relate! I just found out a week ago tha my AH of 30 years was drinking again after a year and a half of AA and sobriety (after a lifetime of being an al...	never going back	7	652	Jun 24, 2010 by kitty
	Tough Week.... (Preview) And I am feeling it not only mentally, but now very physically. I can't eat without stomach pains, my mouth is so dry I have to keep gum so that my mouth will not blister. I feel like I could throw up any minute. I want my life back, I can remember when I loved getting up in the morning, I kissed my children an...	DreamsOver	10	929	Jun 23, 2010 by GailMichelle
	Thrown a curve ball............... (Preview) I've been reduced to a ball of tears within the last few hours and can't seem to stop crying. The hurt of abandonment is so great and powerful it's so overcoming. My A went off to treatment about an hour away and after about 30 days we discussed it would be more beneficial if we moved to that area and to get a...	RJMorgan	5	841	Jun 23, 2010 by xeno59
	Pink Birrthday Wishes for our Rita (Preview) It's our Rita's birthday today! WOOHOO! So let's send out as many pink birthday wishes to her. HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET RITA! Hope it is extra pink and special just like you. Remember calories don't count on your birthday week. So go ahead, have your and eat it too! Pipers is out looking for a pink mous...	Karilynn	6	1166	Jun 23, 2010 by Rita G
	This is getting old (Preview) I feel sick, anxious, and depressed. I don't know why everytime we get into an arguement I feel this way. Is it because I know that the first thing he'll do is try to get a drink? Hopefully he doesn't still have any change left over after running to the store for me yesterday... but then again he probably we...	jewel91	5	862	Jun 23, 2010 by jewel91
	Meetings (Preview) I am really confused with the volume of meetings. Are they different kinds of meetings or simply chaired by different people? Can anybody point me towards one until I have navigated around this site for a while? Thanks in advance for your help.	Mynameismom	3	738	Jun 22, 2010 by lyndebi
	Happy Birthday Sweet Lady (Preview) wp =sweet lady celebrates a birthday this week xxxx	belle1	5	3842	Jun 22, 2010 by Karilynn
	Confused and despairing (Preview) I'm not sure why I am writing here. I know you cannot tell me what to do. My 43year old alcoholic sister has completed ruined her life. I thought, through al-anon I was making big steps in allowing her from ruining mine any further. But at the moment I feel worse by not going to her than I did when I was con...	Daisychain	9	937	Jun 22, 2010 by Daisychain
	My mother is an alcoholic. (Preview) This is the very first time I have ever reached out beyond arms reach for a little help if only to keep my sanity. Someone had suggested I go to a support meeting, and thought it was a good idea, but my hours I work could not support it. So hear I am on message board to start with and I have to say I almost feel be...	moonunit	9	867	Jun 22, 2010 by cuteamy7
	Hello, My Name is Mom and my daughter is an alcoholic (Preview) I am brand new to this Forum and wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of 4 grown children and 6 grandchildren. My daughter has been a functional alcoholic for years. She is on Day 7 of sobriety and the journey scares the living hell out of me although not as bad as the last few years with her worseni...	Mynameismom	14	1606	Jun 21, 2010 by never going back
	words to live by (Preview) So, my mom emailed me this list of rules to live by and I thought it was fantastic and wanted to share with all of you. Words to Live By Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland,Ohio "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the mos...	kitty	5	1664	Jun 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Update on me (Preview) Hi, MIP family ... I haven't been around the last couple of days. On Thursday morning, I had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room. This is the 4th seizure I've had in my life - have never been diagnosed with epilepsy or anything, and the tests that were run in the hospital showed nothing. I'm...	White Rabbit	7	640	Jun 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	drunkeness (Preview) This weekend I had the opportuity to be around my roommates while they partied and got really seriously drunk. They were lurcing around sluring their words and slumping around. One of them had his children come over who were running through the house. I know I felt incredibly uncomfortable and ho...	maresie	5	800	Jun 21, 2010 by hotrod
	I need help in dealing with ANGER anger verbal abuse neglect (Preview) I am still fuming a weekl later. My SIL called my mother a 'xxxx' (Screaming it in public.) And just because my mother was not willing to watch her child all day Saturday after watching her over 40 hours that week. She then chased her in the car and rammed the back of her car (just enough to cause a small...	smartkat	10	8934	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	your compassion has rocked my world (Preview) It has only been 2 days since I found this site (is that possible??? seems like much longer!). I don"t know how I"ve made it this long without it. I have read through your posts, visited the chat room, attended 2 of the on-line meetings, written several posts of my own(I guess its normal to pos...	never going back	10	976	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	New Here (Preview) I am very worried about my son. He is 23 and drinks every day. He has been drunk four times this week already. He lives with me, he has a full time job. He is rude when he drinks. I don't want to enable him, but I don't really want to kick him out. He has lost his license for drinking and driving, and been charged...	CatherineR	11	576	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	My fault ot is it? (Preview) Hi all, I'm Chauri. I haven't been posting message in a long time. Today, I'm in a fix. It's probably my fault. I need to make amends and don't know how. Well to make the story ahort, my A hasn't been drinking in a while. But instead of alcohol, he is into pain meds. which is the same thing ,as far as I'm concer...	chauri	6	842	Jun 21, 2010 by chauri
	The importance in "Keep coming back" (Preview) I haven't been on here in a long time....but thank my HP for this forrum for I needed to share and listen to others as well ASAP.... I have two little ones, quit my job to go to school full-time as I was doing both......and the last thing I want to worry about is AH. When the insanity comes and goes for almost s...	RoseODAT	4	1087	Jun 21, 2010 by barisax
	serenity and me (Preview) What is serenity? I don't think I ever =eally knew or experienced serenity. It wasn't part of my vocabulary and it =ertainly wasn't part of my daily life. Until I found al-anon =nd all it had to offer me. Before al-anon my idea of serenity was making sure =veryone was happy. A people pleaser who put ever...	malady	3	1089	Jun 21, 2010 by Bettina
	MONDAY A.M. AL-ANON MEETING (Preview) I regret that I am, once again, unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting. My 87 year old aunt is having medical issues relating to her pacemaker and I need to be at the hospital with her all day. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	0	418	Jun 20, 2010 by shimo
	Happy Fathers Day (Preview) Happy Fathers Day to all of you wonderful father's out there. May you day be filled with joy, love and happiness....Have a wonderful day you deserve it. With Love, Andrea	Andrea12	3	781	Jun 20, 2010 by RLC
	Happy Father's Day! (Preview) ((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish all you Dads a very Happy Father's Day. I hope it is happy, joyous and perfect in every way for you. On this day I think of both my Dad & my beloved Tim whom I lost on the same day 10 years apart. I know they are looking down on me, along with my grandd...	Karilynn	2	650	Jun 20, 2010 by RLC
	My beautiful girls. (Preview) samantha and kendra birthday number 2	Andrea12	6	1266	Jun 20, 2010 by Andrea12
	time will tell... (Preview) It is still rough, but I am pulling through the no sleep, crying period! I really do need to remember to be grateful & not so damn pissed off! I just need a break & it seems like every time I do, another issue disturbs my sleep. I was really pissed off this morning! Now that I am sitting here @ this...	Hoot Nanny	2	753	Jun 19, 2010 by Bettina
	DSM psychopath or just plain alcoholic? (Preview) Hi, all. I am not quite new in online AA groups, I joined first many years ago, but since the U.S.A. can be so different to where I used to live, I somehow didn't feel comfortable. Anyway, I am an alcoholic, free from Baccus for 8 years now (before, in 1991 I had 3-4 years sober). I have been living with an alc...	kerling	14	4102	Jun 19, 2010 by shebear
	what do I do with all this anxiety...? (Preview) So much is going on & I feel somewhat overwhelmed! My mind has been somewhat absent & my emotions are on my sleeve lately! I need a long bath & a break! Unfortunately, I have no bath tub to sit in--cracks on the tub... what can I do? accept the things I cannot change. so, I go for a walk, get on t...	Hoot Nanny	3	649	Jun 19, 2010 by Mobirdie
	having a bad day--can't stop crying! (Preview) I am having a really bad day today! Since the beginning of this week I have had a bunch of reasons to cry & I do mean cry! I am losing my serenity & don't know what to do! So much is going on that I feel trapped in my head & can't get out! This week has been pretty difficult because the plumber calle...	Hoot Nanny	5	1065	Jun 19, 2010 by Karilynn
	turning it over (Preview) My son's ex-wife has decided to let my A son pick his daughters up today and bring them to my house. I am feeling a little angst about this but am trying to turn it over. She has a boundary in place which is a good thing. The only way he is allowed to take them in the car is if she is the one who sees him when he pick...	Gailey	3	787	Jun 19, 2010 by Karilynn
	Dry Drunk - Drinking again...need advice. (Preview) This board is so full of perspective and kindness, maybe you can help. My husband who had been sober on and off for five years, is drinking again. For months, he had been "hiding" his drinking which is pretty pitiful since he was falling down drunk on several occassions. But I didn't real...	mavis	5	1521	Jun 19, 2010 by JimmyX
	I'm feeling better than I have done for ages! (Preview) Hi I have just been to see my councillor this morning. She gave me a book that she might think will help me to read in this week. It's called "Codependency No More" by Melody Beattie. I have already started absorbing the book at it seems to describe me and how I feel like I have never seen before....	Cosmos	3	800	Jun 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	This is where I'm starting - can you help me understand? (Preview) My mom is in AA and is something like 4 months sober, and honestly, this is the first step I've taken to trying to understand everything. Right now, my mom and I aren't speaking. But here's some history - sorry if it's long, I'll try to only hit the important points. Growing up, she would be what I would pro...	arizona	10	823	Jun 19, 2010 by abbyal
	Wow. Where to begin. I really need some guidance right now. (Preview) Okay. So, I joined last week. So glad I did. Also went to my first f2f meeting on Saturday. My A was released from rehab on Friday, June 11. I picked him up from the airport on Saturday, June 12. He was drunk. We spent Sunday together. I told him people make mistakes, and he said he was going to make his 90 in 90...	TampaGirl	7	849	Jun 19, 2010 by abbyal
	Update (Preview) My son is still waiting on bedspace becoming available in the detox unit. Yes, due to cutbacks, there are only so many beds in one unit to cover a radius of around 200 miles where alcoholism is probably the major disease. Anyway I am powerless over that, he is top of the list and hopefully next week.All is...	Ness	7	926	Jun 18, 2010 by Ness
	i THINK THEY ARE LOVELY (Preview)	Andrea12	8	856	Jun 18, 2010 by Katy
	The lesson was in acceptance... (Preview) The new mother board is installed...obviously and the computer is computing so from my own desk I'm back in the MIP room with family. I didn't cause it, couldn't control it and couldn't cure it. I had to have other people in my life to do for me what I could not and would not do for myself. Isn't that a les...	Jerry F	13	986	Jun 18, 2010 by Andrea12
	Bit of an update (Preview) Have just returned from hospital appointment with AH. Consultant said that the condition of AH's liver would not in itself cause the constant diarrhoea and vomiting which he has been experiencing over last 2 months or so. He thinks "there's something else going on" and wanted to admit hi...	Tattyhead	7	935	Jun 17, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Development? Or is there something I fail to see? (Preview) Hi I have been writing here on this forum many times about my alcoholic ex-girlfriend and the fact that we are not supposed to have any contact while she does the steps in AA. She called me yesterday. And unlike last time, there was no crisis this time. Last time she asked me to help her out with money for he...	Cosmos	7	790	Jun 17, 2010 by kitty
	LIFE BEGINS AGAIN WITH HOPE!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) (((((((((((Friends)))))))))), Been a while since I have posted. So much has been going on....son finally graduated high school. Hip Hip Horrah....lol....I have started school...oh lord it is hard, but I am getting the hang of it....I am taking classes for medical billiing and Medical Coding o...	Andrea12	11	953	Jun 17, 2010 by Karilynn
	UPDATE TRIP... (Preview) So I did as I stated... I went to my F2F on Friday :) Seen alot of faces I don't get to see at my Sunday night, that & the room was full so it was wonderful... ESH all over the place ;) Even Made a Joke at the meeting that I was thinking about finding a Way to Stick The Serenity Prayer to my Dash for the trip (thi...	Jozie	3	538	Jun 16, 2010 by Jozie
	Update :) (Preview) So it's been quite a while since I have been here and wanted to give a little update on my life... Oldest daughter remains unmarried and it looks like that is not going to happen. I got her a cell phone which has been an excellent enforcement tool and she has become much easier to live with. I have stopped...	carolinagirl	5	511	Jun 16, 2010 by maresie
	Lord's Prayer (Preview) I have been in Alan-on inconsistently since early 80's. Sometimes comfortable and sometimes not. What's the deal with the Lord's prayer as "Alan-on is not allied with any sect, DENOMINATION, political affiliation institution or organization". It was recently brought up in mee...	Clear4	8	2976	Jun 16, 2010 by Clear4
	Why am I the one who can't sleep? (Preview) Another sleepless night. I confronted my AH laast evening with the fact that I know he's drinking again, after a year and a half of sobriety. His response? Of COURSE he's drinking again, after all he's been through, who wouldn't? He feels that if I really want to help him, I will support him (not his drin...	never going back	9	1007	Jun 16, 2010 by ythannah
	book suggestions? (Preview) Can anyone recommend some books that you found particularly helpful on the subject of dealing with an alcoholic spouse? I am going to be in St. Louis tomorrow and would like to pick up some books to try to help me sort things out. I know I've heard the title "Getting Them Sober" mentioned seve...	never going back	7	1160	Jun 16, 2010 by never going back
	I just don't want to try anymore. (Preview) I feel like I have nothing left to give. Maybe that's been part of my sickness - giving too much of myself - but after this past year of focusing on myself and working on ME with my Alanon group, I just feel like I'm ready to go. I'm ready to let my AF live his own life and be free to make his own decisions. I'm...	zhotdogs99	9	1140	Jun 16, 2010 by zhotdogs99
	thanks for being here, all y'all!(SOMETHING FOR LYNDEBI) (Preview) THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO POSTS WHEN THEY ARE ABLE! I HAVE GOTTEN SO MANY GOOD RESPONSES FROM SO MANY PEOPLE. LYNDEBI: THANKS FOR MENTIONING THE JOURNALING IDEA! I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DO THAT EVERY DAY BUT ONLY GET THE CHANCE ONCE IN A WHILE. SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT I AM TOO DEEP! I GET SO CAUGHT UP IN MY HEAD! TO...	Hoot Nanny	2	779	Jun 16, 2010 by lyndebi
	My Plan Not Working (Preview) Very frustrated here in Steeler Town and for once, it's not because of Big Ben. My wife (who just finished her 2nd month-long rehab a few weeks ago) and I had our 11th anniversary yesterday. Our plan was for her to take antabuse once a week per prescription with me to administer it every Sunday. Sh...	Shawn412	9	963	Jun 15, 2010 by Shawn412
	I wish I could attend Al-Anon in my dreams as well. (Preview) Hi I have been feeling better and better since I came into Al-Anon. It's been ups and downs, but the trend is that it's getting better. I have even managed to be happy about little things in Life. I miss my alcoholic ex-girlfriend still. I have no contact with her and have been able to stop looking into her...	Cosmos	5	778	Jun 15, 2010 by Cosmos
	handling a relapse? (Preview) I am new here, but after reading through others experiences, it seems that maybe this is where I need to be. My husband has been an alcoholic for 40 years. Things got so far out of control 3 years ago that he finally began trying to get help. When I finally went through with my threats to leave him, he joined...	never going back	6	858	Jun 15, 2010 by Bettina
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