Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

gardendelight · gardendelight

I've looked online but I find examples of differences so I'm not sure if I understand how the meetings are formatted exactly. Our group has two married couples who attend nearly every meeting and I've been uncomfortable recently at how off-the-format things have gotten. During last night's meet...

sookie · sookie

I am baffled as I write this. My (separated) AH pretty much said he doesn't feel "support" from me while he is in recovery. We are not filing for divorce but he has his own apartment because, well I couldn't handle the lies/chaos any longer and it was pretty bad before that to build to the spli...

Julie3310 · Julie3310

Hello beautiful people, It has been almost a month since I spoke to my ex. The last post was about his trial. As far as the trial goes, I stopped talking to him and the only way I find out is through inmate search and clerk of courts. His baby mama called me again saying he called her and said he was coming out s...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

Was having a great day and then things just stopped going my way and then I go to the company bathroom and I say the serenity prayer. It helps to pray "let go and let God" too and my music.. that is helping.. jack johnson today.. as for you guys.. you guys help me so much. just getting on and readin...

Pushka · Pushka

Well, it appears that 330am is going to be my witching hour so I'm going to work hard on doing something productive with that time. I'm up and God is listening. Coffee is not ready yet so I don't know if I'm listening yet however .. it's all good. Hugs P :)

likemyheart · likemyheart

Ok, so this isn't alcohol related, though I may need some by the time i get done..... (snicker). But, I find myself thinking, ok, i have to accept this because it is the way it is.... (accept the things you cannot change). Egads has it been a frustrating day - learning and doing and trying and growling and...

1 day at a time · 1 day at a time

many of us thought that when our ah gets sober everything will just be perfect all the struggles will dissapear and we will live perfect little lives.and things are better but the struggles will not stop,but remember that anything worth having is worth fighting for.and ive read that anything we are f...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Whatever it is, it is killing me! I am not going to diagnose my condition today. But, as I sit here I can hardly type. My shoulders hurt, sometimes my back & hips hurt. I am going to a doctor on Friday but can I wait that long? I am concerned that I might have a serious condition. I am actually OK w/ being il...

Aloha · Aloha

Wednesday marked my fourth Al-Anon birthday. I was sure to attend a meeting in honor of that and was blessed with some great insights this week in how some of my perceptions have changed over the years, which indicates more growth in my spirituality and maturity. A member at the meeting was sharing abo...

respect · respect

One of the best things I love about Al-anon is people, practically strangers, hand you their phone number and tell you to call if you ever need to talk....and they mean it. How many people that you meet outside of meetings can you say that about? Yesterday I came home to find my diamond necklace missing....

pineapple · pineapple

My A fell while drinking last week and hurt himself pretty badly-stitches, IV fluids for blood loss, LOTS of pain, etc. The doctor told him he had to quit drinking. He was so miserable he said he didn't even want a drink. I was hopeful that this might be the start of something good to come out of the bad, yet...

amazinggrace · amazinggrace

Hello, I'm Rachel. I am 19 years old and attended my first Al-Anon meeting today with my older sister. Our mother has been an alcoholic for close to 7 years now. It really never sunk in that it had affected me so deeply until my sister (who has worked with recovering teen addicts in a treatment center and i...

Sreis44 · Sreis44

I'm new to all of this, so I apologize if I say, or do anything that is against the etiquette of the board. I left my husband last night after years of progressively worsening alcoholism and lying, which has become worse in the past year. We have a 6 month old and i won't allow my son to be around anyone who ca...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi, The past few days I've been really surprised to notice how much of my day is actually spent worrying about others and what they're up to. Trait 4 of the Laundry List says - We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sic...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

Does anyone else find themselves mourning the life they should have had? I went home last night, once again, to my AH who had obviously been doing something that day, he showed all the tell tell signs. I did my job and didn't say anything, pretended everything was normal. He went to bed at 6pm and even tho...

Sangyaa · Sangyaa

Hi Everyone! The members of this board have helped me through my hardest and most painful times and I'd just like to say thank you, I'm back in the rooms and so grateful. I am, however, dealing with a situation with my best friend of 15 years. We've known each other since we were children, and she was actua...

Jerry F · Jerry F

the court, the judge, the lawyer, the police, the feelings and expectations and wants and desires. That is my life yesterday which I have let go for today cause yesterday is done and I can only work on little parts of that today as they come up and as I have time. I think to myself..."I was just goin...

Pushka · Pushka

First off just let me say I am so grateful to be a member of alanon especially during this trying time. Who knows what the future holds tonight, this min I am ok. I had a few moments consider the bomb that was dropped, I still haven't decided if I'm in shock still or not. At least the first 48 hours have had...

Jozie · Jozie

Last Night i Hit a Meetin at Last Minute & Truly Needed to be there, it was basically about "Owning what is Mine" Over the Weekend I had rearranged my plans out of fear, and basically Once I Owned it, I was then able to move forward...So it was indeed a Topic that I needed to be apart of... Lon...

Sagie123 · Sagie123

Hello, I am a twenty-two year old addict with emotional problems. I am currently in recovery and sober and spent most of 2010 in two treatment centers to help with both my emotional as well as addiction issues. To make a long story short... My 66 year old father started drinking at home on a regular basi...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

I have been on this board and the ACoA board for about 6 months. For those of you who are ACoA also, come on over and say hi. When I first came here I thought I would give it a go and see how I liked it. I knew what it was about but wasn't sure if it would help me or not. I am so glad I found this. I tried to find my ver...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

When my 13 year old finishes her 8th grade year in early June I plan on moving to a bigger city. Away from my exAH and his family and near more jobs. I would love to go back to school and get off of aid. I have 3 part time jobs and sometimes 4 in the Summer in the seasonal small town where I live and it gets old. I hav...

CassieKellz · CassieKellz

I began al-anon because i didn't know how to help my A and i wanted to know how i could "cure" him. But i stay here now because I'm not in the best state of mind, I now know I NEED help to be able to not only continue a relationship with him, but to actually be able to live. Everytime I think about him m...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I am thinking how MIP people remind me that there are giving, thoughtful people out there. Not relating to people who ruin something that was beautiful. Am in the eviction process. 24 hour outragious behavior one for intentionally destroying the premesis. I knew where ever rock was,ever tree, ever...

Pushka · Pushka

and I'm really hurting right now there are so many things. I've been under the hallucination that things were on the mend between my spouse and I. I found out that no they are not. I don't know what will happen with him at this point. He's no longer living here as of today and I know there is someone else...

Pushka · Pushka

I did get some sleep it's a little early to start my day and it will be a long day based upon that. Today is a min by min day. I'm so grateful that the sleep that did come was good sleep so I feel rested. Another day begins and I have a lot to do today anyway, sooo I better get on it!! Thank you again for your pray...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I had a relapse today and ended up calling my sponsor. I asked her to help "talk me off of the ledge." An acquaintance told me a few weeks ago the my AH (we've been separated for almost 10 months now) was frequenting a neighborhood bar. I was under the impression that he was going to meetings and...

debbiems · debbiems

I made a big step with my AS today. After finding him last night passed out on the couch with a beer in his hand, I (we my husband and I) finally had enough and told him of our boundries. Should of been done 3 months ago but it took this in order for us to say anything. also 3 months going to f2f meetings. We told...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi all I am in a weird state of limbo w AH at the moment; basically I have made it clear that I give up...after 20 yrs of marriage, each one charged w the struggle of me hoping praying etc that things would change and he in the pattern of the disease, I have told him that I think we could achieve a healthier rela...

movingstillx · movingstillx

My name is Kelleigh. I am unsure of what to say in these 'first timers' posts, so I figured it'd be easiest to link you to my video telling you my story. It's very brief, so if you wouldn't mind -- please view it. Look forward to chatting with you all. Goodnight. [video=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...

Stiff5436 · Stiff5436

On Feb first I am moving into a new house. I wa supposed to be moving with my alcoholic boyfriend (now ex). We were so excited and loved each other so much, then alcohol ruined it all. We dated the first time around about a year ago when he had 3 months sober or so. He.made it to about 6 before he started drinki...

TLD · TLD

I've been getting the silent treatment from AH for almost a week now. He got upset because I didn't want to be woken up at 3:00 in the morning. Is it wrong that I'm finding it quite peaceful? I'm going about my days and taking care of me. I am not going to be the one to apologize for wanting to sleep as I hav...

ttpurtee · ttpurtee

Well when my incident first started the lies started unraveling one by one. My AH would not speak to me at all or face me even for visitation of the kids. Then when he did have communication with me it was to further hurt me. So I filed for divorce to protect my kids. He tried to kill himself in front of my d...

LostToday · LostToday

Warning: unfiltered rant ahead: I feel like a failure. My AH succeeded in sucking me into not one, but TWO big fights in the last 24 hours. I let him. I know better, but he knows me so well He knows how to suck me in. To my credit, I have been avioding this explosion all week. There are things that need...

Hopeful926 · Hopeful926

Hello everyone at MIP, I am new to this site and would love to get any help and support that you can offer. I recently moved out from my home where I resided with my AH and our son. I feel like my world has spiraled more out of control after his addiction seemed to become more active (coincidentaly after th...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I Won't Let Go (Song and lyrics by Rascal Flatts) It's like a storm That cuts a path It breaks your will It feels like that You think you're lost But you're not lost On your own You're not alone I will stand by you I will help you through When youve done all you can do And you cant cope I will dry your eyes I will f...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I know I have to trust in my HP and I know that in my heart, I really do. Unfortunately, because I've been lied to so many times recently I really have trouble believing anything my AH has to say. I feel like I just don't trust him in any matter, at all, not just relating to his drinking and hiding it. This i...

MidwesternMom · MidwesternMom

My AH and I have a hard time communicating. Sometimes it's because he's not sober. Sometimes it's because I'm mad. Either way; our relationship is not great right now. It's hard for us to have serious conversations without it becoming a fight. I've found that we do communicate well over e mail. I...

CassieKellz · CassieKellz

My boyfriend is an alcoholic, he's recognized this for years, but has a huge problem with staying sober. He's relapsed a few times since we've been together, he always bounces back and.gets sober within a day or two. He had been sober this last time for a year until a week ago and this is the worst I've see...

CassieKellz · CassieKellz

So glad I have the opportunity to share with people who understand!

MDK · MDK

I am sorry I have been absent for a while. I kind of closed myself off for the past 2 months. I am back at the hospital working. I thought I was better after my alanon retreat in the mountains and maybe I was. I did let go of a lot of anger and resentments while I was there. I went to my first alanon meeting withou...

CassieKellz · CassieKellz

My boyfriend is an alcoholic, he's recognized this for years, but has a huge problem with staying sober. He's relapsed a few times since we've been together, he always bounces back and.gets sober within a day or two. He had been sober this last time for a year until a week ago and this is the worst I've see...

Jozie · Jozie

Hi All... Sorry I haven't been "Present" ON the Board Lately, but I have had a Pretty Crappy Go of things these Last 2-3 weeks... And Tho I am Doing my Best to Patient for HP's Will, I know at times I Slip and Need to Dust off & Start again... Cant Say I like it Much at All Really, but I'm Still Mo...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

So I'm trying so hard to turn off the obssession wheel that spins in my mind .. I am tired of being tired but as from my shares, I'm getting so much .. It's so funny that when I show up at meetings I really don't have to do anything but listen .. Recovery just comes and yet I feel the work of working through the em...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

I've been going to Al Anon meetings for just over a year now. And this is really one of the most important things I've learned--if you are not happy with your life right now, in spite of all of the horrible things that may be happening, it is your problem and no one else's. It's that simple. Now, that being...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

i don't exactly remember my last share but i've been sharing in face to face meetings on feelings and recognising the inner child in me who stopped growing when she was obssessing on the alcoholics which you know woulda been like about 5 ? I love this program .. I've recognised so much through the awaren...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi, I just wanted to share that I'm starting to see my part in the relationships I have. It is not easy seeing that I have caused as much pain and suffering , as they have done to myself. It is not good. This may be time to start my inventory work. Oh my goodness, what a start. Tracey

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It was about five years ago that I first visited this board and it was a lifesaver for me. I found that in devoting all my time and energy to my then husband/addict I had no one else to talk to. This board gave me a place to come and share and learn that I wasn't alone, that everyone's story was almost the sam...

respect · respect

My husband and I are supposed to be separated. I got my own apartment in July but he has nowhere to stay so has been at my place the last week. Here I am at work. While he is home alone in my place (which makes me uncomfortable due to his past of stealing my things to sell). I am already mad because I go to work eve...

kris10 · kris10

So I usually do the online meetings here most mornings... My Abf knows I do them... Yesterday morning we got woke up by a 7am phone call from his "friend" wanting to go out for "breakfast".... I knew what it was really about, whatever, nothing I can do.. So he went and I jumped on my m...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

I had a recognition this week that I can read from the courage to change books, how alanon works, hope for today, one day at a time, 12 steps 12 traditions, etc.. over and over and always and still i hear something new .. it never siezes to amaze me .. the spiritual piece of this program .. well this week I had...

MDK · MDK

This past weekend I went to an Alanon retreat or round up. My first ever!!!! I was chosen to be a speaker and share my story. OMG!!! I started freaking!!! Not only was it my first round up it was my first time sharing my story!!!! I had RLC's books with me so I read and prayed. I felt him in the room with me when I...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I'm not here as much as I like, and only seem to be able to check in once a week or so. So many new members since I joined a few years back, and the reason I came isn't devasting my life anymore. I have come to acceptance about my ex. I never thought I'd be able to say that. My brother is an addict.. pot/pres...

nyc018 · nyc018

Surfingirl's post about mourning the life you wanted got me thinking. I've been in a low grade depression over the past few days. Ive been separated from my AH for 6 months. Last summer he was on a steep decline, culminating in a binge that drove him insane. And, after many warnings for absenteeism (a r...

whitedove · whitedove

I was married to an alcoholic for 40 years. He died two years ago and I thought that my problems with alcohol were over. I started a relationship with a recovering alcoholic just two months after I became a widow. I did not realize that just because he was not drinking that he was still an alcoholic. I co...

Kestrel57 · Kestrel57

I've become complacent recently working my program, I know I need to get back to working it dilligently. An exchange with my spouse today made me realize that I'm not as far along as I thought. Things have been going well, we're communicating nicely, we have a loving relationship. But I think I've be...

Julie3310 · Julie3310

So for most of you guys that replied to my previous post. It has been about a week and a half since I cut it off with my DA boyfriend. He has tried to get in touch with me but I ignore his 3rd party messangers. I have been happy because he has been out of sight and out of mind. I have kept telling myself there is b...

thetmdp · thetmdp

Hello, I don't really know how to start this. I'm not even sure if I should be here. But in my heart, I know there is a problem. My husband and I have been married for almost three years. When we first got together and after we got married, we would both drink, mostly socially and for fun. I obviously stoppe...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I feel filled with creativity. I have come alive. Too many coincidences have pushed me in this direction that can only be described as God showing me its okay to start... living. I am actually living. I am feeling so much. I have been watching alot of youtube videos of this band I really like and their mu...

tschanmm · tschanmm

I asked someone to be my sponsor last Sunday at my meeting. I called her on Monday at 8:00 p.m. as previously arranged, and no one answered, and so I left a message that I was hoping we could talk. She hasn't called back, and her daughter's voice was on the voice mail prompt. Her daughter said she'd ge...

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	Is there a set format for meetings? (Preview) I've looked online but I find examples of differences so I'm not sure if I understand how the meetings are formatted exactly. Our group has two married couples who attend nearly every meeting and I've been uncomfortable recently at how off-the-format things have gotten. During last night's meet...	gardendelight	3	1448	Feb 1, 2012 by danni
	Let's talk about sex (Preview) I am baffled as I write this. My (separated) AH pretty much said he doesn't feel "support" from me while he is in recovery. We are not filing for divorce but he has his own apartment because, well I couldn't handle the lies/chaos any longer and it was pretty bad before that to build to the spli...	sookie	15	719	Feb 1, 2012 by sookie
	After effects for the enabler! (Preview) Hello beautiful people, It has been almost a month since I spoke to my ex. The last post was about his trial. As far as the trial goes, I stopped talking to him and the only way I find out is through inmate search and clerk of courts. His baby mama called me again saying he called her and said he was coming out s...	Julie3310	9	738	Feb 1, 2012 by Michelle814
	New kitty, stress at work, 50 degrees and sunny (Preview) Was having a great day and then things just stopped going my way and then I go to the company bathroom and I say the serenity prayer. It helps to pray "let go and let God" too and my music.. that is helping.. jack johnson today.. as for you guys.. you guys help me so much. just getting on and readin...	Michelle814	7	462	Feb 1, 2012 by Michelle814
	Sleepless in the Midwest .. (Preview) Well, it appears that 330am is going to be my witching hour so I'm going to work hard on doing something productive with that time. I'm up and God is listening. Coffee is not ready yet so I don't know if I'm listening yet however .. it's all good. Hugs P :)	Pushka	12	461	Jan 31, 2012 by Michelle814
	Battling Quickbooks (Preview) Ok, so this isn't alcohol related, though I may need some by the time i get done..... (snicker). But, I find myself thinking, ok, i have to accept this because it is the way it is.... (accept the things you cannot change). Egads has it been a frustrating day - learning and doing and trying and growling and...	likemyheart	4	423	Jan 31, 2012 by Michelle814
	where are the blue skies and rainbows? (Preview) many of us thought that when our ah gets sober everything will just be perfect all the struggles will dissapear and we will live perfect little lives.and things are better but the struggles will not stop,but remember that anything worth having is worth fighting for.and ive read that anything we are f...	1 day at a time	4	428	Jan 31, 2012 by stefani74
	it is killing me...what could it be? (Preview) Whatever it is, it is killing me! I am not going to diagnose my condition today. But, as I sit here I can hardly type. My shoulders hurt, sometimes my back & hips hurt. I am going to a doctor on Friday but can I wait that long? I am concerned that I might have a serious condition. I am actually OK w/ being il...	Hoot Nanny	5	509	Jan 31, 2012 by Pushka
	Growth and changed perceptions (Preview) Wednesday marked my fourth Al-Anon birthday. I was sure to attend a meeting in honor of that and was blessed with some great insights this week in how some of my perceptions have changed over the years, which indicates more growth in my spirituality and maturity. A member at the meeting was sharing abo...	Aloha	4	583	Jan 31, 2012 by Pushka
	Phoned a friend (Preview) One of the best things I love about Al-anon is people, practically strangers, hand you their phone number and tell you to call if you ever need to talk....and they mean it. How many people that you meet outside of meetings can you say that about? Yesterday I came home to find my diamond necklace missing....	respect	7	520	Jan 31, 2012 by abbyal
	same old, same old... yet not (Preview) My A fell while drinking last week and hurt himself pretty badly-stitches, IV fluids for blood loss, LOTS of pain, etc. The doctor told him he had to quit drinking. He was so miserable he said he didn't even want a drink. I was hopeful that this might be the start of something good to come out of the bad, yet...	pineapple	7	452	Jan 31, 2012 by Jozie
	Brand New to Al-Anon and Looking for Literature Advice? (Preview) Hello, I'm Rachel. I am 19 years old and attended my first Al-Anon meeting today with my older sister. Our mother has been an alcoholic for close to 7 years now. It really never sunk in that it had affected me so deeply until my sister (who has worked with recovering teen addicts in a treatment center and i...	amazinggrace	5	472	Jan 31, 2012 by kitilvr
	New and unsure. (Preview) I'm new to all of this, so I apologize if I say, or do anything that is against the etiquette of the board. I left my husband last night after years of progressively worsening alcoholism and lying, which has become worse in the past year. We have a 6 month old and i won't allow my son to be around anyone who ca...	Sreis44	8	645	Jan 31, 2012 by kitilvr
	Laundry List - adult child related (Preview) Hi, The past few days I've been really surprised to notice how much of my day is actually spent worrying about others and what they're up to. Trait 4 of the Laundry List says - We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sic...	Tracey C	6	1091	Jan 31, 2012 by Lindaoakford
	Mourning the Life I Should Have Had (Preview) Does anyone else find themselves mourning the life they should have had? I went home last night, once again, to my AH who had obviously been doing something that day, he showed all the tell tell signs. I did my job and didn't say anything, pretended everything was normal. He went to bed at 6pm and even tho...	surfgirl123	17	848	Jan 31, 2012 by kitilvr
	My best friend is SO resentful! (Preview) Hi Everyone! The members of this board have helped me through my hardest and most painful times and I'd just like to say thank you, I'm back in the rooms and so grateful. I am, however, dealing with a situation with my best friend of 15 years. We've known each other since we were children, and she was actua...	Sangyaa	7	779	Jan 31, 2012 by kitilvr
	My life with the program and... (Preview) the court, the judge, the lawyer, the police, the feelings and expectations and wants and desires. That is my life yesterday which I have let go for today cause yesterday is done and I can only work on little parts of that today as they come up and as I have time. I think to myself..."I was just goin...	Jerry F	9	3519	Jan 30, 2012 by Michelle814
	Meeting tonight (Preview) First off just let me say I am so grateful to be a member of alanon especially during this trying time. Who knows what the future holds tonight, this min I am ok. I had a few moments consider the bomb that was dropped, I still haven't decided if I'm in shock still or not. At least the first 48 hours have had...	Pushka	3	338	Jan 30, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Repeated Snaggin... (Preview) Last Night i Hit a Meetin at Last Minute & Truly Needed to be there, it was basically about "Owning what is Mine" Over the Weekend I had rearranged my plans out of fear, and basically Once I Owned it, I was then able to move forward...So it was indeed a Topic that I needed to be apart of... Lon...	Jozie	4	395	Jan 30, 2012 by Jackie11
	Advice Needed (Preview) Hello, I am a twenty-two year old addict with emotional problems. I am currently in recovery and sober and spent most of 2010 in two treatment centers to help with both my emotional as well as addiction issues. To make a long story short... My 66 year old father started drinking at home on a regular basi...	Sagie123	3	476	Jan 30, 2012 by Michelle814
	6 months here (Preview) I have been on this board and the ACoA board for about 6 months. For those of you who are ACoA also, come on over and say hi. When I first came here I thought I would give it a go and see how I liked it. I knew what it was about but wasn't sure if it would help me or not. I am so glad I found this. I tried to find my ver...	Lindaoakford	4	370	Jan 30, 2012 by Jackie11
	I am moving and a bit anxious about it (Preview) When my 13 year old finishes her 8th grade year in early June I plan on moving to a bigger city. Away from my exAH and his family and near more jobs. I would love to go back to school and get off of aid. I have 3 part time jobs and sometimes 4 in the Summer in the seasonal small town where I live and it gets old. I hav...	Breakingfree	7	503	Jan 30, 2012 by GailMichelle
	Slowly, but surely. (Preview) I began al-anon because i didn't know how to help my A and i wanted to know how i could "cure" him. But i stay here now because I'm not in the best state of mind, I now know I NEED help to be able to not only continue a relationship with him, but to actually be able to live. Everytime I think about him m...	CassieKellz	6	382	Jan 30, 2012 by Pushka
	need to vent (Preview) I am thinking how MIP people remind me that there are giving, thoughtful people out there. Not relating to people who ruin something that was beautiful. Am in the eviction process. 24 hour outragious behavior one for intentionally destroying the premesis. I knew where ever rock was,ever tree, ever...	Debilyn	3	432	Jan 30, 2012 by Pushka
	I know what I know (Preview) and I'm really hurting right now there are so many things. I've been under the hallucination that things were on the mend between my spouse and I. I found out that no they are not. I don't know what will happen with him at this point. He's no longer living here as of today and I know there is someone else...	Pushka	17	608	Jan 30, 2012 by Pushka
	Some sleep (Preview) I did get some sleep it's a little early to start my day and it will be a long day based upon that. Today is a min by min day. I'm so grateful that the sleep that did come was good sleep so I feel rested. Another day begins and I have a lot to do today anyway, sooo I better get on it!! Thank you again for your pray...	Pushka	5	554	Jan 30, 2012 by Pushka
	My Sponsor "Talked me off the ledge" Today detachment sponsor (Preview) I had a relapse today and ended up calling my sponsor. I asked her to help "talk me off of the ledge." An acquaintance told me a few weeks ago the my AH (we've been separated for almost 10 months now) was frequenting a neighborhood bar. I was under the impression that he was going to meetings and...	Green Eyes	7	4884	Jan 29, 2012 by glad lee
	Big Step for me today (Preview) I made a big step with my AS today. After finding him last night passed out on the couch with a beer in his hand, I (we my husband and I) finally had enough and told him of our boundries. Should of been done 3 months ago but it took this in order for us to say anything. also 3 months going to f2f meetings. We told...	debbiems	4	442	Jan 30, 2012 by Breakingfree
	here we go again (Preview) Hi all I am in a weird state of limbo w AH at the moment; basically I have made it clear that I give up...after 20 yrs of marriage, each one charged w the struggle of me hoping praying etc that things would change and he in the pattern of the disease, I have told him that I think we could achieve a healthier rela...	yanksfan51	4	487	Jan 30, 2012 by yanksfan51
	New here. Nice to meet you all. (Preview) My name is Kelleigh. I am unsure of what to say in these 'first timers' posts, so I figured it'd be easiest to link you to my video telling you my story. It's very brief, so if you wouldn't mind -- please view it. Look forward to chatting with you all. Goodnight. [video=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...	movingstillx	6	410	Jan 30, 2012 by respect
	Did I do the right thing? Hurt, lost and confused. (Preview) On Feb first I am moving into a new house. I wa supposed to be moving with my alcoholic boyfriend (now ex). We were so excited and loved each other so much, then alcohol ruined it all. We dated the first time around about a year ago when he had 3 months sober or so. He.made it to about 6 before he started drinki...	Stiff5436	7	639	Jan 30, 2012 by Nanauq
	Silent treatment (Preview) I've been getting the silent treatment from AH for almost a week now. He got upset because I didn't want to be woken up at 3:00 in the morning. Is it wrong that I'm finding it quite peaceful? I'm going about my days and taking care of me. I am not going to be the one to apologize for wanting to sleep as I hav...	TLD	5	692	Jan 29, 2012 by Pushka
	Holding Husband responsible (Preview) Well when my incident first started the lies started unraveling one by one. My AH would not speak to me at all or face me even for visitation of the kids. Then when he did have communication with me it was to further hurt me. So I filed for divorce to protect my kids. He tried to kill himself in front of my d...	ttpurtee	6	453	Jan 29, 2012 by Pushka
	Tools Needed (Preview) Warning: unfiltered rant ahead: I feel like a failure. My AH succeeded in sucking me into not one, but TWO big fights in the last 24 hours. I let him. I know better, but he knows me so well He knows how to suck me in. To my credit, I have been avioding this explosion all week. There are things that need...	LostToday	5	579	Jan 29, 2012 by Miss ladybug
	New to MIP and returning to Al-Anon again (Preview) Hello everyone at MIP, I am new to this site and would love to get any help and support that you can offer. I recently moved out from my home where I resided with my AH and our son. I feel like my world has spiraled more out of control after his addiction seemed to become more active (coincidentaly after th...	Hopeful926	4	356	Jan 29, 2012 by nyc018
	Great Song to Remind Me of My HP Higher Power (Preview) I Won't Let Go (Song and lyrics by Rascal Flatts) It's like a storm That cuts a path It breaks your will It feels like that You think you're lost But you're not lost On your own You're not alone I will stand by you I will help you through When youve done all you can do And you cant cope I will dry your eyes I will f...	Green Eyes	2	3656	Jan 29, 2012 by hotrod
	Trust (Preview) I know I have to trust in my HP and I know that in my heart, I really do. Unfortunately, because I've been lied to so many times recently I really have trouble believing anything my AH has to say. I feel like I just don't trust him in any matter, at all, not just relating to his drinking and hiding it. This i...	ilovedogs	7	677	Jan 28, 2012 by Sreis44
	Communicating via Email (Preview) My AH and I have a hard time communicating. Sometimes it's because he's not sober. Sometimes it's because I'm mad. Either way; our relationship is not great right now. It's hard for us to have serious conversations without it becoming a fight. I've found that we do communicate well over e mail. I...	MidwesternMom	5	735	Jan 28, 2012 by Loupiness
	Need some guidance (Preview) My boyfriend is an alcoholic, he's recognized this for years, but has a huge problem with staying sober. He's relapsed a few times since we've been together, he always bounces back and.gets sober within a day or two. He had been sober this last time for a year until a week ago and this is the worst I've see...	CassieKellz	6	415	Jan 28, 2012 by CassieKellz
	Brand new to the Al-anon family (Preview) So glad I have the opportunity to share with people who understand!	CassieKellz	3	336	Jan 28, 2012 by hotrod
	Hey guys! (Preview) I am sorry I have been absent for a while. I kind of closed myself off for the past 2 months. I am back at the hospital working. I thought I was better after my alanon retreat in the mountains and maybe I was. I did let go of a lot of anger and resentments while I was there. I went to my first alanon meeting withou...	MDK	5	569	Jan 28, 2012 by ilovedogs
	Need some guidance (Preview) My boyfriend is an alcoholic, he's recognized this for years, but has a huge problem with staying sober. He's relapsed a few times since we've been together, he always bounces back and.gets sober within a day or two. He had been sober this last time for a year until a week ago and this is the worst I've see...	CassieKellz	2	338	Jan 28, 2012 by CassieKellz
	Sometimes Barely Gettin By.... (Preview) Hi All... Sorry I haven't been "Present" ON the Board Lately, but I have had a Pretty Crappy Go of things these Last 2-3 weeks... And Tho I am Doing my Best to Patient for HP's Will, I know at times I Slip and Need to Dust off & Start again... Cant Say I like it Much at All Really, but I'm Still Mo...	Jozie	3	454	Jan 28, 2012 by hotrod
	Obssession (Preview) So I'm trying so hard to turn off the obssession wheel that spins in my mind .. I am tired of being tired but as from my shares, I'm getting so much .. It's so funny that when I show up at meetings I really don't have to do anything but listen .. Recovery just comes and yet I feel the work of working through the em...	MeTwo2	3	498	Jan 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	If you're not happy, it's on you... (Preview) I've been going to Al Anon meetings for just over a year now. And this is really one of the most important things I've learned--if you are not happy with your life right now, in spite of all of the horrible things that may be happening, it is your problem and no one else's. It's that simple. Now, that being...	usedtobeanyer	6	567	Jan 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Sharing (Preview) i don't exactly remember my last share but i've been sharing in face to face meetings on feelings and recognising the inner child in me who stopped growing when she was obssessing on the alcoholics which you know woulda been like about 5 ? I love this program .. I've recognised so much through the awaren...	MeTwo2	3	476	Jan 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	My Part!!!!! (Preview) Hi, I just wanted to share that I'm starting to see my part in the relationships I have. It is not easy seeing that I have caused as much pain and suffering , as they have done to myself. It is not good. This may be time to start my inventory work. Oh my goodness, what a start. Tracey	Tracey C	4	646	Jan 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Been a long time... (Preview) It was about five years ago that I first visited this board and it was a lifesaver for me. I found that in devoting all my time and energy to my then husband/addict I had no one else to talk to. This board gave me a place to come and share and learn that I wasn't alone, that everyone's story was almost the sam...	carolinagirl	5	634	Jan 27, 2012 by Michelle814
	Husbands demands (Preview) My husband and I are supposed to be separated. I got my own apartment in July but he has nowhere to stay so has been at my place the last week. Here I am at work. While he is home alone in my place (which makes me uncomfortable due to his past of stealing my things to sell). I am already mad because I go to work eve...	respect	9	778	Jan 27, 2012 by pinkchip
	Is this ME??? (Preview) So I usually do the online meetings here most mornings... My Abf knows I do them... Yesterday morning we got woke up by a 7am phone call from his "friend" wanting to go out for "breakfast".... I knew what it was really about, whatever, nothing I can do.. So he went and I jumped on my m...	kris10	10	690	Jan 27, 2012 by kris10
	Missing my past tonight .. But then .. (Preview) I had a recognition this week that I can read from the courage to change books, how alanon works, hope for today, one day at a time, 12 steps 12 traditions, etc.. over and over and always and still i hear something new .. it never siezes to amaze me .. the spiritual piece of this program .. well this week I had...	MeTwo2	2	376	Jan 27, 2012 by lightblue2
	I hiked a mountain!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) This past weekend I went to an Alanon retreat or round up. My first ever!!!! I was chosen to be a speaker and share my story. OMG!!! I started freaking!!! Not only was it my first round up it was my first time sharing my story!!!! I had RLC's books with me so I read and prayed. I felt him in the room with me when I...	MDK	10	382	Jan 27, 2012 by MDK
	"I'm dying..." or not (Preview) I'm not here as much as I like, and only seem to be able to check in once a week or so. So many new members since I joined a few years back, and the reason I came isn't devasting my life anymore. I have come to acceptance about my ex. I never thought I'd be able to say that. My brother is an addict.. pot/pres...	Loupiness	4	529	Jan 27, 2012 by Loupiness
	Conflicting Feelings (Preview) Surfingirl's post about mourning the life you wanted got me thinking. I've been in a low grade depression over the past few days. Ive been separated from my AH for 6 months. Last summer he was on a steep decline, culminating in a binge that drove him insane. And, after many warnings for absenteeism (a r...	nyc018	9	708	Jan 27, 2012 by Jerry F
	New to Al-Anon (Preview) I was married to an alcoholic for 40 years. He died two years ago and I thought that my problems with alcohol were over. I started a relationship with a recovering alcoholic just two months after I became a widow. I did not realize that just because he was not drinking that he was still an alcoholic. I co...	whitedove	10	418	Jan 27, 2012 by Jerry F
	Back Sliding (Preview) I've become complacent recently working my program, I know I need to get back to working it dilligently. An exchange with my spouse today made me realize that I'm not as far along as I thought. Things have been going well, we're communicating nicely, we have a loving relationship. But I think I've be...	Kestrel57	5	477	Jan 27, 2012 by Kestrel57
	His trial is tomorrow, trying to keep strong (Preview) So for most of you guys that replied to my previous post. It has been about a week and a half since I cut it off with my DA boyfriend. He has tried to get in touch with me but I ignore his 3rd party messangers. I have been happy because he has been out of sight and out of mind. I have kept telling myself there is b...	Julie3310	7	576	Jan 27, 2012 by carolinagirl
	New here... (Preview) Hello, I don't really know how to start this. I'm not even sure if I should be here. But in my heart, I know there is a problem. My husband and I have been married for almost three years. When we first got together and after we got married, we would both drink, mostly socially and for fun. I obviously stoppe...	thetmdp	6	432	Jan 27, 2012 by danni
	The more I let go, the more I receive. (Preview) I feel filled with creativity. I have come alive. Too many coincidences have pushed me in this direction that can only be described as God showing me its okay to start... living. I am actually living. I am feeling so much. I have been watching alot of youtube videos of this band I really like and their mu...	Michelle814	2	622	Jan 27, 2012 by Very Very Tired
	sponsorship (Preview) I asked someone to be my sponsor last Sunday at my meeting. I called her on Monday at 8:00 p.m. as previously arranged, and no one answered, and so I left a message that I was hoping we could talk. She hasn't called back, and her daughter's voice was on the voice mail prompt. Her daughter said she'd ge...	tschanmm	9	447	Jan 26, 2012 by tschanmm
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