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wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

When I first moved out in August to get away from the craziness of my AH I went to my parents house. I was so homesick but I worked my way through it. I moved into my own apartment in January and was so excited to have my own little place in the world. Fast forward, 3-4 months later and I am so lonely. It is drivin...

Pipper · Pipper

Just realizing I'm back to step I again powerless over alcohol I keep forgetting that. My ah keeps flip flopping on our relationship doesn't know what he wants I'm tired of it I am still looking for the sober man he was before he relapsed after 20years sobriety we are married 29 years.Im always falling...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone: Well, the AH again said he will go to AA, really work on his issues, and if he is willing to do this, can he continue to live in the house, even as a tenant?? I say..we had talked about a June 1 moveout anyway, I have no problem with you staying here until then, so by all means I hope AA is right for yo...

forestfairy · forestfairy

Hard day today, a month since I walked out with my child and went to a shelter. Now we are back home and my ex has moved to an apt. But I was so angry today at him. Trying hard to keep it in. I am stuck with a huge workload and he came by for his golf clubs. He's got lots of free time because he's out of work. I am s...

rehprof · rehprof

just talking to my exSIL on FB...and letting her know, in a gentle way, that her brother (my exA) is in the wrong... of course her reaction is that "you are both bitter and angry..." Why does her saying that make me want to scream? He hasn't worked in 3 years, is angry and abusive, does NOTHING...

John · John

I'd Love to But....-I want to spend more time with my blender.-The man on television told me to say tuned.-It wouldn't be fair to the other Beautiful People.-I'm building a pig from a kit.-I did my own thing and now I've got to undo it.-There's a disturbance in the Force.-I have to check the freshness da...

hotrod · Senior Member

katfshh Senior Member Status: OfflinePosts: 245Date: 2h, 46m ago I'm back.ReplyQuoteMore Edit PostDelete PostBan IPReport Spam Hi everyone, I have been such a bad member lately. But, I am back. I have had so many positive things happen in the last 10 months since my AF left! It really is almosst cre...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I have faced the fact that my marriage of 26 years is broken beyond repair because he doesn't want or doesn't have the willpower to stick to a treatment/abstinence program. I quit a horrible job last month and don't have any prospects of anything on the horizon. I went to the beach last week and there are...

blondie99 · blondie99

XAH came by the house yesterday morning to pick up the rest of his belongings, and my BFF took me to a notary yesterday afternoon to sign the divorce papers. Wow. I never would have thought that 10 years ago when we met that this is where I'd be. I was going to take the papers to the courthouse yesterday, bu...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

I'm slowly learning to focus on myself, to make myself a better person..I'm learning to improve my self confidence. I'm spending time with friends.and I'm laughing again, really laughing and I haven't done that in a long time. I'm learning to surrender the person who my A used to be, and I'm taking car...

souljoy · souljoy

do we wake up and then decide to take back our self respect? I do pretty well most of the time but today has been frustrating and I feel like my energy is drained. Dealing with my AH in any way does not work. I can say hello and it is wrong. If I am kind if I am confrontive if I am compassionate or whatever it doe...

imom · imom

I want to start a a new law that allows people to get restraining orders based on emotional abuse. I don't understand why someone needs to be assaulted or threatened to be protected. I know that I have the right to leave, but my children have begged me not to leave our house and our pets. He is in our hous...

Cam0612 · Cam0612

Hi there, I'm new and feel so lost. My husband admitted to being an alcoholic about six months ago. He was actively involved in AA but then started drinking again. I made him leave the house. we have an 8 year did daughter I am trying to protect. He ended up in detox and was doing well for about six weeks. I r...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

My mom asked me if I could receive personal mail at work. Translation: "I have some hate mail I want to send you that I don't want your AH to read." She's really good at that. Every 2 years or so she writes me a hateful letter, threatens to write me out of her will (I've told her I don't want her $...

wildrosejmj · wildrosejmj

Hi, Where to start. My husband has been an alcoholic since 1994. Well, I'm sure he was before that but in the 4 years I knew him before that he wasn't. He didn't start drinking inappropriately until after our oldest child was born in Jan. of that year. I knew nothing about alcoholism or what it looke...

Aloha · Aloha

This morning I got a phone call from what I'm pretty sure was a collections agency looking for my ex. After almost three years of being divorced, I'm still getting these phone calls. It really surprised me because I hadn't received any in probably over a year, year-and-a-half. Thus far I've just maint...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

My AH passed away a few months ago and left me with nothing but his business debt. We lost our home and savings due to his poor business decisions that were made in the cloud of his alcoholism. I had taken out a small life insurance policy through my work, which covered the burial costs and paid a few bills,...

Alea · Alea

Hello - This is my first post in this group. My husband of 10 years is a RAH- he started trying a few years back, had some relapses, but is finally going to AA and appears to be getting something from it- I am relieved and I feel blessed that he is doing this- We have a 2 and 3 year old and they deserve a whole fami...

hope4ever · hope4ever

Last night I was at a meeting and afterwards I was talking to my sponsor - who to be perfectly honest... I really didn't enjoy as a sponsor and we are done with all the steps- I don't really call her because she feels very cold to me and I feel like she has no heart connection and I am very heart centered...not...

Jerry F · Jerry F

made it into Hilo and we get together for a late lunch and memories and "get to know you" conversation. Her husband is a delight to talk with and she found my wife delightful also. It was very very nice because she is one of the first foundation stones in my recovery in the program. I am not a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi All: Welcoming ESH: I am all ears, here is the latest on my end: early this week AH declares 'Good News! Ready for AA' after a night on the town where he ends up sleeping in car; my reaction is anger, but I do my best to give polite but distanced support ('that sounds very positive for you, I hope you get som...

rehprof · rehprof

The exA was supposed to pick up both kids today...when i arrived home from work, he was walking out the door with only the younger one...saying that the teenager was being difficult so he could just stay home. The exA was ticked off. when I walked in the house, I could see the hurt in the 16yo's eyes. Ever...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

So, maybe I shouldn't be so excited or maybe I should? My sister is here & I am so happy! She is so laid back & so not CA! I am so glad that I can see how easy it is to talk to her & that I shouldn't be worried about what I say or think. She "is" my sister after all! What am I worried about; wel...

bellaswan · bellaswan

My husband of 13 years has just realized within the past year he is an alcoholic. I have a ton of questions and don't really have anyone to talk to about this. I've tried to go to a local meeting here but it never works out with my work schedule and our kids. We've been together for 22 years and have two won...

Pushka · Pushka

Lots of good stuff happening over the past few weekends, .. got to go to a lovely event last weekend that was through the community and some very dear friends. VERY excited to share a lot of memories and be included into something that I wouldn't be doing had the past year not happened. This weekend is m...

blondie99 · blondie99

Well, today went as well as can be expected. STBXAH came by the house late this afternoon with the signed divorce papers and a little $ to start paying me back. It was incredibly hard to see him. He gave mea hug but I just couldn't go there. When he hugged me I just couldn't reciprocate. I heard and felt a so...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My thinking is a relationship with my 20 year partner ( never been married )shouldn't be brought up in this forum but now time has past and as I'm learning more and more about me I find I'm not happy here. When we first got together he was bankrupt, lost his home and wife and no job. Well Cathy came along, f...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Just a quick note guys since 2 posts had me wanting to share the same info. If you are looking for a therapist for yourself it does help to ask if they have 12 step knowledge and alanon knowledge. All therapists basically will say they have "expertise" in addictions because that is one of th...

rookie95 · rookie95

My boyfriend is an alcoholic. He has been for a long time. He's been to rehab before (before we met) and it hasn't helped. He decided the other day that he wanted to go again. Said that he is serious this time. I am really hoping that he means it. Have so many questions. What do I do when he comes home?...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, This past week has been a rough week. My alcoholic has been going non-stop. He has even considered buying into the local bar he frequents, which is a topic of another thread. I was doing so well before that. Going to meetings, speaking, being serene. This news suddenly brought up a bunch of...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning All I got my every two week text from my son asking about his job he was to start last week asking me if I heard anything. I said NOPE. He then came back with that was not nice so I texted back... I'm sorry...no I haven't heard anything. I told him he should call them again and he said he would...

Rinn · Rinn

Today I am frustrated. I am having a hard time figuring out what I need and how to get it, or state it. I am at a very confused grumpy place... Husband took off last night in middle of night, woke up at 4am he wasn't here. He went to ex wifes. (no not cheating... she works nights and we are friends she gave...

bmoore07 · bmoore07

I am 21 and my SO is 31 i have been with him almost 5 years. I didn't really realize his drinking problem until after I got pregnant with our first. I left him a month after I found out. He promised he would stop and a few weeks later he had to stop and get some when we had no money. At the time I didn't understand a...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I'm realizing, now that my focus and attention (obsession) is slowly moving away from my AH and all his crazy behavior, I can spend my time focusing on me and all of MY issues. This sounds simple and obvious, but it was really a revelation for me today. I spent my whole lunch hour today thinking about ME, n...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

ok having a hard time dealling with my AH sober 5 moths. i have no privacy . he insecure . im very angry. last year he cheated but it wasnt him it was the bottle and beer. well after a year of having the affair with promises and gifts to go with it, and the add on the family plan cell phone because it was costi...

shyrose · shyrose

Hi all, I'm sure some of you have experience with this. I want to support my alcholic in being active in AA. I do this by supporting her going to five meetings a week and trying to be supportive of meetings with AA friends, her sponsor, and sponsees, even when there isn't a lot of of time for 'us'. Lately...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

This may seem like a dumb question to ask, but has anyone dealt with alcoholism with more than one person in their immediate family? I dealt with my brother who was an A and a drug addict for years. He's now been clean for 4 years! :) That was very hard to deal with..but now I have my mom who's an A and it's even...

blondie99 · blondie99

Over the last several months, I've been getting the runaround from my STBXAH regarding the divorce papers. It finally came to a head yesterday in several phone calls. I finally had the "come to Jesus" talk with him because I was tired of his shenanigans. He said that he felt like he was being...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I am embarrassed to tell you, that my guy is so sick, says he is at the bottom. I walked away. I will not allow myself to be dragged down from his situation. He can stay in his pit along with all his addicts and coda is that right? Children of an addict? His coda children and make his grandchildren like his ow...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a gratful member of al-anon family groups. The alcoholic that qualifies me for al-anon is my father. I just spoke with him on the phone. Over the last little while he has been frequenting a local watering hole and is a regular. He has even become friends with the...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Just needed to vent. I'm tired of hearing: I love you, I want to grow old with you. I'm done drinking. I'm changing. I want to be in God's will. I know I've done wrong and I have to make up for it and I want our marriage to make it. Only to realize that it's all leading me to believe he's changing when in reali...

Sincerely · Sincerely

HP is right on time with this one! My anxiety has been rising in reference to when my Husband was going to go back to work and continue Intensive Outpatient Treatment. I prayed and did my best to let go and let HP handle that situation and never brought it up to my Husband. Husband knows what he has to do,...

Jozie · Jozie

It Truly Saddens me at times the Powerless I Feel over Life! Not Just Mine but those I Love... Thank God for My Program, and the TRUE People that Support me in my Journey! It Seems know matter how much I learn about the Disease, it still doesn't change the Sickness! There are Times I Feel Life comes at me wit...

jhhess · jhhess

I'm new to these boards and I wanted to introduce myself and explain how I got here. This is not my first time in Al Anon. I was married to an alcoholic for 20 years and that marriage ended (much to my relief) about 12 years ago. I struggled greatly with all the issues that alcoholism brings. My own and his....

HappyToBe · HappyToBe

Hi all. Pretty much new to be posting here and haven't done so for few weeks now, but I keep coming back almost every evening to read your stories for support and encouragment. So much resonates in me, I just cannot stop :) (careful: this will be a very long rant) So, to the topic of this share. 5 days ago I f...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Not even 24 hrs ago I posted about my progress. I really felt proud of myself yesterday. Tonight, I am here alone, no idea where AH is. He lied again, I figured out the deception and confronted him this morning, angry and scolding, how can you keep doing this, I screamed. I left for work and havent heard...

PP · PP

I am feeling very heavy hearted today as I consider the path I will be walking with my elderly parents. My father has been in the undiagnosed stages of perhaps dementia/alzheimers and my mom has done what she has always done; denying the obvious and dancing through life, which has served her wonderfu...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi everyone I'm in a RUT and I can't get out of it. I can't seem to get motivated to do anything but sit and think. I spent all weekend doing nothing but clean my house and watch TV. No meetings for the last week and very little reading. I'm somewhat depressed and worry is setting in. My eating is gett...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I get very conflicted in my head and start wondering why and then WHAM, oh yeah I not only stopped working my program, but I decided I could run the show again. I have veered pretty far of course of who I want to be and act the way I know to act. I am not expecting perfection from myself, but whenever my exAH co...

dponlyme · dponlyme

I have been suffering over the things AW said to me the other day... see the last post I made. I have suffered from depression and anxiety since the 7th grade and when my parents got divorced I took a serious nosedive from an already low place (this when I was in college). I managed to graduate but after gra...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

AH is having good days and bad days. He is going to a meeting everyday, seeing a new counselor, reconnecting with old (sober) friends, those things are good. He is also still drinking, hardly at all, but I know he is and he knows I know. But the difference today is I feel so much more detached, I love him,...

Pink · Pink

My son is sitting in a bar, on his second pitcher of beer and is recovering from Shoulder surgery and has no driverl license, but rides his bike everywhere. He would not accept a ride from me. The surgical Dr. said no bike riding yet, and if he fall and reinjures his rotator cuff, he will not be able to fix...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone: Thank you again for all the responses to my post from a few days ago...interestingly, since I finally got the courage to give a date for moveout for my AH, have started talking to my family seriously about it and getting support--guess what? The night of my post AH goes out and doesn't come...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

I've been thinking lately about my family dynamics and my AH's family dynamics and one thing rings pretty clear on both sides: everyone sits in judgment of everyone else. There is constant bickering on my side, and constant bickering on his side. And I don't mean between families, I mean within fa...

Renea · Renea

I have a 4 month old baby and my husband smokes weed. He stopped until she was a couple months old and now its everyday again. I have tried to talk to him but it seems not to matter. The problem is apparently he has smoked since high school. I dont want my daughter at risk for something to happen while in his ca...

stephaniej · stephaniej

During my period of unemployment from November-February, I volunteered at my son's daycare so he would be able to continue to attend for free, and we would not have to be in the house with my AH during the day. I spent most of my time in the infant room, where there is a lead teacher and an assistant teache...

dponlyme · dponlyme

AW was already drinking and found out had plans to get more. I didn't exactly stop her but registered my displeasure to step d when I found out she was going to purchase more for her. She gave the money to me my wife had given her and left leaving my wife with w options... walking or not drinking anymore. She...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have been doing the same things over & over expecting different results: insanity in case you were wondering. I am sane today but tomorrow...I am expecting to be on here soon w/ good news! My sister who I was wondering before if we were estranged is coming to visit for a week starting Weds. I am so ex...

Rinn · Rinn

My husband is and addict. It has contributed to a huge finacial problem. These problems have really affected my family and my extended family. My mom and grandma have been helping us get by, and my mom is now my landlord. Once again I don't have any rent money for her. As much as my AH promises he is goi...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm going through the first year of grieving my mother who died late last year. Her birthday was last week. Hp brought a snowstorm on that day. Imagine a snowstorm here in mid April not just that day but another after that as well... a fun kind of unpredictability for a change. :) So, I was able to work f...

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	Ugh!! Loneliness and Mad At HP (Preview) When I first moved out in August to get away from the craziness of my AH I went to my parents house. I was so homesick but I worked my way through it. I moved into my own apartment in January and was so excited to have my own little place in the world. Fast forward, 3-4 months later and I am so lonely. It is drivin...	wornoutmrsfixit	24	744	Apr 29, 2013 by katfshh
	Back to step one (Preview) Just realizing I'm back to step I again powerless over alcohol I keep forgetting that. My ah keeps flip flopping on our relationship doesn't know what he wants I'm tired of it I am still looking for the sober man he was before he relapsed after 20years sobriety we are married 29 years.Im always falling...	Pipper	4	303	Apr 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	made it through the weekend (Preview) Hi Everyone: Well, the AH again said he will go to AA, really work on his issues, and if he is willing to do this, can he continue to live in the house, even as a tenant?? I say..we had talked about a June 1 moveout anyway, I have no problem with you staying here until then, so by all means I hope AA is right for yo...	yanksfan51	5	409	Apr 29, 2013 by pinkchip
	Letting go of anger (Preview) Hard day today, a month since I walked out with my child and went to a shelter. Now we are back home and my ex has moved to an apt. But I was so angry today at him. Trying hard to keep it in. I am stuck with a huge workload and he came by for his golf clubs. He's got lots of free time because he's out of work. I am s...	forestfairy	9	639	Apr 29, 2013 by Breakingfree
	I screwed up -- what is this about? (Preview) just talking to my exSIL on FB...and letting her know, in a gentle way, that her brother (my exA) is in the wrong... of course her reaction is that "you are both bitter and angry..." Why does her saying that make me want to scream? He hasn't worked in 3 years, is angry and abusive, does NOTHING...	rehprof	18	587	Apr 29, 2013 by Pushka
	Just funny! (Preview) I'd Love to But....-I want to spend more time with my blender.-The man on television told me to say tuned.-It wouldn't be fair to the other Beautiful People.-I'm building a pig from a kit.-I did my own thing and now I've got to undo it.-There's a disturbance in the Force.-I have to check the freshness da...	John	2	314	Apr 29, 2013 by milkwood
	katfshh message from the mystery board (Preview) katfshh Senior Member Status: OfflinePosts: 245Date: 2h, 46m ago I'm back.ReplyQuoteMore Edit PostDelete PostBan IPReport Spam Hi everyone, I have been such a bad member lately. But, I am back. I have had so many positive things happen in the last 10 months since my AF left! It really is almosst cre...	hotrod	7	513	Apr 29, 2013 by katfshh
	Thinking of Making Some Huge Changes (Preview) I have faced the fact that my marriage of 26 years is broken beyond repair because he doesn't want or doesn't have the willpower to stick to a treatment/abstinence program. I quit a horrible job last month and don't have any prospects of anything on the horizon. I went to the beach last week and there are...	wornoutmrsfixit	17	642	Apr 29, 2013 by Pushka
	signed and gone - from STBXAH to XAH (Preview) XAH came by the house yesterday morning to pick up the rest of his belongings, and my BFF took me to a notary yesterday afternoon to sign the divorce papers. Wow. I never would have thought that 10 years ago when we met that this is where I'd be. I was going to take the papers to the courthouse yesterday, bu...	blondie99	5	507	Apr 29, 2013 by Pushka
	Learning to focus on myself (Preview) I'm slowly learning to focus on myself, to make myself a better person..I'm learning to improve my self confidence. I'm spending time with friends.and I'm laughing again, really laughing and I haven't done that in a long time. I'm learning to surrender the person who my A used to be, and I'm taking car...	phoenixmagicgirl	3	335	Apr 29, 2013 by ilovedogs
	At What point (Preview) do we wake up and then decide to take back our self respect? I do pretty well most of the time but today has been frustrating and I feel like my energy is drained. Dealing with my AH in any way does not work. I can say hello and it is wrong. If I am kind if I am confrontive if I am compassionate or whatever it doe...	souljoy	3	405	Apr 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	Abuse (Preview) I want to start a a new law that allows people to get restraining orders based on emotional abuse. I don't understand why someone needs to be assaulted or threatened to be protected. I know that I have the right to leave, but my children have begged me not to leave our house and our pets. He is in our hous...	imom	5	604	Apr 29, 2013 by pinkchip
	New to Al-anon. Losing mind with alcoholic pot smoking husband...supposedly "sober". (Preview) Hi there, I'm new and feel so lost. My husband admitted to being an alcoholic about six months ago. He was actively involved in AA but then started drinking again. I made him leave the house. we have an 8 year did daughter I am trying to protect. He ended up in detox and was doing well for about six weeks. I r...	Cam0612	4	693	Apr 28, 2013 by Auntyaya
	Hate Mail (Preview) My mom asked me if I could receive personal mail at work. Translation: "I have some hate mail I want to send you that I don't want your AH to read." She's really good at that. Every 2 years or so she writes me a hateful letter, threatens to write me out of her will (I've told her I don't want her $...	NicoleDiver	8	511	Apr 28, 2013 by likemyheart
	New here but not to Al-anon. Need an ear (Preview) Hi, Where to start. My husband has been an alcoholic since 1994. Well, I'm sure he was before that but in the 4 years I knew him before that he wasn't. He didn't start drinking inappropriately until after our oldest child was born in Jan. of that year. I knew nothing about alcoholism or what it looke...	wildrosejmj	4	487	Apr 28, 2013 by wildrosejmj
	Principals... (Preview) This morning I got a phone call from what I'm pretty sure was a collections agency looking for my ex. After almost three years of being divorced, I'm still getting these phone calls. It really surprised me because I hadn't received any in probably over a year, year-and-a-half. Thus far I've just maint...	Aloha	5	289	Apr 28, 2013 by likemyheart
	Miracles Do Happen! (Preview) My AH passed away a few months ago and left me with nothing but his business debt. We lost our home and savings due to his poor business decisions that were made in the cloud of his alcoholism. I had taken out a small life insurance policy through my work, which covered the burial costs and paid a few bills,...	Green Eyes	20	575	Apr 28, 2013 by katfshh
	How do I deal with my anger and resentment? Anger Resentment (Preview) Hello - This is my first post in this group. My husband of 10 years is a RAH- he started trying a few years back, had some relapses, but is finally going to AA and appears to be getting something from it- I am relieved and I feel blessed that he is doing this- We have a 2 and 3 year old and they deserve a whole fami...	Alea	4	9642	Apr 28, 2013 by Jerry F
	an issue that came up, need your thoughts (Preview) Last night I was at a meeting and afterwards I was talking to my sponsor - who to be perfectly honest... I really didn't enjoy as a sponsor and we are done with all the steps- I don't really call her because she feels very cold to me and I feel like she has no heart connection and I am very heart centered...not...	hope4ever	7	536	Apr 28, 2013 by Jerry F
	Former Sponsor (Preview) made it into Hilo and we get together for a late lunch and memories and "get to know you" conversation. Her husband is a delight to talk with and she found my wife delightful also. It was very very nice because she is one of the first foundation stones in my recovery in the program. I am not a...	Jerry F	2	356	Apr 27, 2013 by PP
	update (Preview) Hi All: Welcoming ESH: I am all ears, here is the latest on my end: early this week AH declares 'Good News! Ready for AA' after a night on the town where he ends up sleeping in car; my reaction is anger, but I do my best to give polite but distanced support ('that sounds very positive for you, I hope you get som...	yanksfan51	6	429	Apr 27, 2013 by el-cee
	Conditional Love (Preview) The exA was supposed to pick up both kids today...when i arrived home from work, he was walking out the door with only the younger one...saying that the teenager was being difficult so he could just stay home. The exA was ticked off. when I walked in the house, I could see the hurt in the 16yo's eyes. Ever...	rehprof	5	297	Apr 27, 2013 by norasq
	exciting Post: it is working! (Preview) So, maybe I shouldn't be so excited or maybe I should? My sister is here & I am so happy! She is so laid back & so not CA! I am so glad that I can see how easy it is to talk to her & that I shouldn't be worried about what I say or think. She "is" my sister after all! What am I worried about; wel...	Hoot Nanny	4	312	Apr 27, 2013 by John
	I'm new and need support for sure!! (Preview) My husband of 13 years has just realized within the past year he is an alcoholic. I have a ton of questions and don't really have anyone to talk to about this. I've tried to go to a local meeting here but it never works out with my work schedule and our kids. We've been together for 22 years and have two won...	bellaswan	3	261	Apr 27, 2013 by DavidG
	Exciting weekend :) (Preview) Lots of good stuff happening over the past few weekends, .. got to go to a lovely event last weekend that was through the community and some very dear friends. VERY excited to share a lot of memories and be included into something that I wouldn't be doing had the past year not happened. This weekend is m...	Pushka	2	297	Apr 27, 2013 by hotrod
	Thank you for your prayers - a rough night (Preview) Well, today went as well as can be expected. STBXAH came by the house late this afternoon with the signed divorce papers and a little $ to start paying me back. It was incredibly hard to see him. He gave mea hug but I just couldn't go there. When he hugged me I just couldn't reciprocate. I heard and felt a so...	blondie99	5	468	Apr 26, 2013 by blondie99
	New problem and decisions to make (Preview) My thinking is a relationship with my 20 year partner ( never been married )shouldn't be brought up in this forum but now time has past and as I'm learning more and more about me I find I'm not happy here. When we first got together he was bankrupt, lost his home and wife and no job. Well Cathy came along, f...	Cathyinaz	17	596	Apr 26, 2013 by likemyheart
	Therapists (Preview) Just a quick note guys since 2 posts had me wanting to share the same info. If you are looking for a therapist for yourself it does help to ask if they have 12 step knowledge and alanon knowledge. All therapists basically will say they have "expertise" in addictions because that is one of th...	pinkchip	2	309	Apr 26, 2013 by bud
	Boyfriend in Rehab - have some questions (Preview) My boyfriend is an alcoholic. He has been for a long time. He's been to rehab before (before we met) and it hasn't helped. He decided the other day that he wanted to go again. Said that he is serious this time. I am really hoping that he means it. Have so many questions. What do I do when he comes home?...	rookie95	5	1956	Apr 26, 2013 by PP
	I am seeking some professional help (Preview) Hi everyone, This past week has been a rough week. My alcoholic has been going non-stop. He has even considered buying into the local bar he frequents, which is a topic of another thread. I was doing so well before that. Going to meetings, speaking, being serene. This news suddenly brought up a bunch of...	slogan_jim	6	308	Apr 26, 2013 by pinkchip
	It's not easy (Preview) Good Morning All I got my every two week text from my son asking about his job he was to start last week asking me if I heard anything. I said NOPE. He then came back with that was not nice so I texted back... I'm sorry...no I haven't heard anything. I told him he should call them again and he said he would...	Cathyinaz	5	384	Apr 26, 2013 by milkwood
	hard time taking care of me... ugh (Preview) Today I am frustrated. I am having a hard time figuring out what I need and how to get it, or state it. I am at a very confused grumpy place... Husband took off last night in middle of night, woke up at 4am he wasn't here. He went to ex wifes. (no not cheating... she works nights and we are friends she gave...	Rinn	2	361	Apr 26, 2013 by forestfairy
	Hi I am new..and don't know what todo. (Preview) I am 21 and my SO is 31 i have been with him almost 5 years. I didn't really realize his drinking problem until after I got pregnant with our first. I left him a month after I found out. He promised he would stop and a few weeks later he had to stop and get some when we had no money. At the time I didn't understand a...	bmoore07	5	545	Apr 26, 2013 by hotrod
	Pros and Cons (Preview) I'm realizing, now that my focus and attention (obsession) is slowly moving away from my AH and all his crazy behavior, I can spend my time focusing on me and all of MY issues. This sounds simple and obvious, but it was really a revelation for me today. I spent my whole lunch hour today thinking about ME, n...	ParisMemories	4	1245	Apr 26, 2013 by ParisMemories
	CONTROLL needs to stop (Preview) ok having a hard time dealling with my AH sober 5 moths. i have no privacy . he insecure . im very angry. last year he cheated but it wasnt him it was the bottle and beer. well after a year of having the affair with promises and gifts to go with it, and the add on the family plan cell phone because it was costi...	Ms co-dependent	3	466	Apr 26, 2013 by Jerry F
	AA friends or a date? (Preview) Hi all, I'm sure some of you have experience with this. I want to support my alcholic in being active in AA. I do this by supporting her going to five meetings a week and trying to be supportive of meetings with AA friends, her sponsor, and sponsees, even when there isn't a lot of of time for 'us'. Lately...	shyrose	5	440	Apr 25, 2013 by shyrose
	Has anyone dealt with alcoholism more than once? (Preview) This may seem like a dumb question to ask, but has anyone dealt with alcoholism with more than one person in their immediate family? I dealt with my brother who was an A and a drug addict for years. He's now been clean for 4 years! :) That was very hard to deal with..but now I have my mom who's an A and it's even...	phoenixmagicgirl	10	505	Apr 25, 2013 by diamond
	A "come to Jesus" meeting (Preview) Over the last several months, I've been getting the runaround from my STBXAH regarding the divorce papers. It finally came to a head yesterday in several phone calls. I finally had the "come to Jesus" talk with him because I was tired of his shenanigans. He said that he felt like he was being...	blondie99	8	366	Apr 25, 2013 by hotrod
	He chooses to stay in the pit, I walked away (Preview) I am embarrassed to tell you, that my guy is so sick, says he is at the bottom. I walked away. I will not allow myself to be dragged down from his situation. He can stay in his pit along with all his addicts and coda is that right? Children of an addict? His coda children and make his grandchildren like his ow...	Debilyn	17	717	Apr 25, 2013 by bud
	So....he's looking at buying into a bar... (Preview) Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a gratful member of al-anon family groups. The alcoholic that qualifies me for al-anon is my father. I just spoke with him on the phone. Over the last little while he has been frequenting a local watering hole and is a regular. He has even become friends with the...	slogan_jim	8	490	Apr 25, 2013 by bud
	So tired of the same ole, same ole (Preview) Just needed to vent. I'm tired of hearing: I love you, I want to grow old with you. I'm done drinking. I'm changing. I want to be in God's will. I know I've done wrong and I have to make up for it and I want our marriage to make it. Only to realize that it's all leading me to believe he's changing when in reali...	ilovedogs	14	557	Apr 25, 2013 by Mattie
	Thank you HP! (Preview) HP is right on time with this one! My anxiety has been rising in reference to when my Husband was going to go back to work and continue Intensive Outpatient Treatment. I prayed and did my best to let go and let HP handle that situation and never brought it up to my Husband. Husband knows what he has to do,...	Sincerely	2	261	Apr 25, 2013 by el-cee
	I Can't, HP Can... I Need to Let Him... (Preview) It Truly Saddens me at times the Powerless I Feel over Life! Not Just Mine but those I Love... Thank God for My Program, and the TRUE People that Support me in my Journey! It Seems know matter how much I learn about the Disease, it still doesn't change the Sickness! There are Times I Feel Life comes at me wit...	Jozie	6	453	Apr 25, 2013 by ilovedogs
	An Introduction...and a mother of an alcoholic daughter. (Preview) I'm new to these boards and I wanted to introduce myself and explain how I got here. This is not my first time in Al Anon. I was married to an alcoholic for 20 years and that marriage ended (much to my relief) about 12 years ago. I struggled greatly with all the issues that alcoholism brings. My own and his....	jhhess	14	552	Apr 25, 2013 by jhhess
	Asked ex-AB for money back/ after effects (Preview) Hi all. Pretty much new to be posting here and haven't done so for few weeks now, but I keep coming back almost every evening to read your stories for support and encouragment. So much resonates in me, I just cannot stop :) (careful: this will be a very long rant) So, to the topic of this share. 5 days ago I f...	HappyToBe	5	463	Apr 25, 2013 by maryjane
	24 hours ago (Preview) Not even 24 hrs ago I posted about my progress. I really felt proud of myself yesterday. Tonight, I am here alone, no idea where AH is. He lied again, I figured out the deception and confronted him this morning, angry and scolding, how can you keep doing this, I screamed. I left for work and havent heard...	ParisMemories	10	498	Apr 25, 2013 by Jerry F
	A heavy heart today (Preview) I am feeling very heavy hearted today as I consider the path I will be walking with my elderly parents. My father has been in the undiagnosed stages of perhaps dementia/alzheimers and my mom has done what she has always done; denying the obvious and dancing through life, which has served her wonderfu...	PP	12	538	Apr 25, 2013 by tiredtonite
	In a Rut (Preview) Hi everyone I'm in a RUT and I can't get out of it. I can't seem to get motivated to do anything but sit and think. I spent all weekend doing nothing but clean my house and watch TV. No meetings for the last week and very little reading. I'm somewhat depressed and worry is setting in. My eating is gett...	Cathyinaz	12	541	Apr 25, 2013 by el-cee
	Slippage, oops I did it again. (Preview) I get very conflicted in my head and start wondering why and then WHAM, oh yeah I not only stopped working my program, but I decided I could run the show again. I have veered pretty far of course of who I want to be and act the way I know to act. I am not expecting perfection from myself, but whenever my exAH co...	Breakingfree	5	553	Apr 24, 2013 by Jozie
	The whole story (Preview) I have been suffering over the things AW said to me the other day... see the last post I made. I have suffered from depression and anxiety since the 7th grade and when my parents got divorced I took a serious nosedive from an already low place (this when I was in college). I managed to graduate but after gra...	dponlyme	10	445	Apr 24, 2013 by PP
	Learning to let go (Preview) AH is having good days and bad days. He is going to a meeting everyday, seeing a new counselor, reconnecting with old (sober) friends, those things are good. He is also still drinking, hardly at all, but I know he is and he knows I know. But the difference today is I feel so much more detached, I love him,...	ParisMemories	6	276	Apr 24, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Son is drunk, mentally and physically disabled. Please advise! (Preview) My son is sitting in a bar, on his second pitcher of beer and is recovering from Shoulder surgery and has no driverl license, but rides his bike everywhere. He would not accept a ride from me. The surgical Dr. said no bike riding yet, and if he fall and reinjures his rotator cuff, he will not be able to fix...	Pink	9	557	Apr 24, 2013 by grateful2be
	and now there's AA (Preview) Hi Everyone: Thank you again for all the responses to my post from a few days ago...interestingly, since I finally got the courage to give a date for moveout for my AH, have started talking to my family seriously about it and getting support--guess what? The night of my post AH goes out and doesn't come...	yanksfan51	9	433	Apr 24, 2013 by ParisMemories
	Family Dynamics (Preview) I've been thinking lately about my family dynamics and my AH's family dynamics and one thing rings pretty clear on both sides: everyone sits in judgment of everyone else. There is constant bickering on my side, and constant bickering on his side. And I don't mean between families, I mean within fa...	NicoleDiver	7	617	Apr 23, 2013 by PP
	Same ole Same ole (Preview) I have a 4 month old baby and my husband smokes weed. He stopped until she was a couple months old and now its everyday again. I have tried to talk to him but it seems not to matter. The problem is apparently he has smoked since high school. I dont want my daughter at risk for something to happen while in his ca...	Renea	4	284	Apr 23, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Very sad weekend; addiction is such a scourge (Preview) During my period of unemployment from November-February, I volunteered at my son's daycare so he would be able to continue to attend for free, and we would not have to be in the house with my AH during the day. I spent most of my time in the infant room, where there is a lead teacher and an assistant teache...	stephaniej	4	320	Apr 23, 2013 by stephaniej
	aw angry: I thwarted her drinking plans (Preview) AW was already drinking and found out had plans to get more. I didn't exactly stop her but registered my displeasure to step d when I found out she was going to purchase more for her. She gave the money to me my wife had given her and left leaving my wife with w options... walking or not drinking anymore. She...	dponlyme	3	375	Apr 23, 2013 by pinkchip
	doing the same thing over & over! (Preview) I have been doing the same things over & over expecting different results: insanity in case you were wondering. I am sane today but tomorrow...I am expecting to be on here soon w/ good news! My sister who I was wondering before if we were estranged is coming to visit for a week starting Weds. I am so ex...	Hoot Nanny	1	368	Apr 23, 2013 by Jerry F
	Outing my AH? Need some imput... (Preview) My husband is and addict. It has contributed to a huge finacial problem. These problems have really affected my family and my extended family. My mom and grandma have been helping us get by, and my mom is now my landlord. Once again I don't have any rent money for her. As much as my AH promises he is goi...	Rinn	10	555	Apr 23, 2013 by Rinn
	Getting there (Preview) I'm going through the first year of grieving my mother who died late last year. Her birthday was last week. Hp brought a snowstorm on that day. Imagine a snowstorm here in mid April not just that day but another after that as well... a fun kind of unpredictability for a change. :) So, I was able to work f...	tiredtonite	10	457	Apr 23, 2013 by tiredtonite
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