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John · John

I got a pressure washing job yesterday that included doing the roof. It was in really bad shape with mold and mildew all over it. The chemical I use allows me to wash a roof with very low pressure so as to not damage the shingles, but it also makes the mold and mildew real slippery. I have all the equipmen...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I am on vacation in FL so I should be in a great mood. I'm not. I am away from AH for 2 weeks and I am enjoying my time away, but right now I dread going home. I'm having a hard time just enjoying the 'moments' on vacation. And, you know what's funny? I won't be going home to a drunk or even abusiveness. My...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

just a quick feel good post. . my ah is out for evening. . it was planned so my anxiety is quite low, my daught is staying w nana and papa. . im alone. the heatwave broke tonight so i have every window in the house open. , ahhh, fresh air. . and in the moment i am taking the time to be serene and hear the night sound...

megaroni5 · megaroni5

Hi, I am new to Al Anon, and this message board. Things have gotten to a point where I can't take it anymore, and I am so sick of the cycle that my AH and I are in. I have realized that I am a sick, sick person and I have been allowing myself to be miserable for years. My AH and I have been together for 8 years, and we...

neshema2 · neshema2

for the past two weeks, daughter #2 has actually been calling me........of COURSE...She is do to give birth Has NOTHING to do w/me otherwise.......Last summer when I had pneumonia she never walked next door to check up on me just left me to suffer fast forward to Monday....She calls me, Oh and its &qu...

In The Forest · In The Forest

I've been thinking a lot lately about what kind of boundaries I want to set for myself. Like a lot of people here I am struggling to learn what kind of behaviors are enabling and what behaviors are detachment. I am getting better at it but still have a ways to go. I am trying to figure out where driving for th...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

Just a quick update on my last post regarding the gun and my safety. I talked to the mental health/substance abuse authorities and they couldn't do much but make a report unless he was threatening suicide. I did talk to his therapist who gave me some encouraging news. My AH has to go to court at the end of t...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t54330879/alanon-step-8/?page=last#lastPostAnchor

FAITH1988 · FAITH1988

Hi, my name is Faith1988, I became an Al anon member in 1990 when my husband at the time was struggling with alcoholism. Al anon was a lifesaver to me it gave me the courage to grab my 3 babies and leave the very abusive alcoholic I was married to. It was easier than this crisis, I had to protect my children fr...

grateful2be · grateful2be

"Unwearied ceaseless effort is the price that must be paid for turning faith into a rich infallible experience." Mahatma Ghandi Sometimes I must ask myself when life's light grows dim and I feel low - "Where I have I placed my faith? In disaster? In darkness? In myself or my resou...

KSwiss · KSwiss

My sober AH talked to his sister about his issues with how is treated in his family. A lot of stuff came out and I was amazed at how he handled it. She accused our 15 yr old son of ignoring her at a party and he said that our kids are old enough to make up their own minds about family especially how they have been i...

likemyheart · likemyheart

But I suspect they don't really exist, amazing what can be done with computer graphics. Hope it works, its quite fun to watch. http://www.youtube.com/embed/XlyCLbt3Thk?rel=0> -- Edited by likemyheart on Thursday...

pinkchip · pinkchip

So a whole lot in my life has changed in the 5 years that I have been sober and also been out of a relationship with another drunk. I recall that when I was in that position, my whole life revolved around alcoholism/addiction and I had no choices. All I ever did was complain about my life and I was a giant vi...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Good Morning everyone, beautiful day in southern ontario. I want to talk about some insecurity I have. It seems like every time the weekend roles around I get a strong sense of dread. A sense of 'uggghh here we go again. More lonely days sitting by myself running errands, with nothing to do.It's funny b...

HAshby · HAshby

Am I an idiot for being in this relationship? I have been dating a man that is everything I have ever wanted minus an addiction. I think from things hes said that he is ready to admit he has a problem. We havent really talked about it. He is on day 9 totally clean. Not by choice but because he abused his prescr...

John · John

Pushka · Pushka

I think it's really important to remember and I know this is true for me .. I can put myself in a worse spin and be just as sick as I was the first day I walked into Alanon .. it's why I'm grateful that this is a program of progress not perfection .. those old feelings can come roaring back and even though my tool...

Gaholfer · Gaholfer

Hi all, My AW of 7+ years has been sober for about 7 months now. We have 2 children together, 7 & 2yrs old. She was sober for both their pregnancies and for a while after, but eventually started drinking again. We've certainly had our problems. A few years ago, she cheated on me emotionally, which...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I got some information last night that I think I should act on but I'm not sure what to do with it or if I will even be listened to. I have known for some time that my AH (separated since August) could be threatening but he has been staying away from my apartment since I told him to and since I changed my phone #...

Venera · Venera

Time goes so slow, my AH is coming back from his vacation tomorrow. Not sure at what condition, drunk or dry, and I cant stop thinking about it. I have tried to read a lot, detach, not think much about him, do my things, something nice everyday for myself, but nothing really works.. This is the first time i...

grateful2be · grateful2be

My (Lord) God, I have no idea where I am going. I do not see the road ahead of me. I cannot know for certain where it will end. Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so. But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact plea...

needhope · needhope

Hi all, I am new here. I have been spouse to an in denial high functioning alcoholic and substance abuser for 25 years. This man has emotionally abused me the entire time. He is very clever and was very, very good at blaming me for his bad behavior. He is truly Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde. Really good at putting...

sandydv · sandydv

Having a down day. Had bad night last night. It started out okay, did my own thing, went for a run, worked out, felt good. H came home slept woke up and drank beer, typical... Was having conversation with my teenage daughter, she was frustrated looking for work. H decides to interupt, to disagree wit...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I am anxious and would appreciate some calming energy. I know my worries are just my own bad habits, but why cant I shake them? There is a flutter in my chest and my mind keeps racing, foxused on what ifs. I look forward to the day when this disease ( his and mine) is not the primary focus of my attention. I rea...

grateful2be · grateful2be

"Seeing the Holy in the Ordinary" is a subtitle to a book, A Tree Full of Angels, written by Macrina Wiederkehr. This morning, after reading the MIP board - part of my daily Program work now - I went outdoors to put some bill payments into my mailbox. No one was outdoors. No mowers running. ...

alexmaui · alexmaui

So, when do I achieve perfection? I left my AH 2 1/2 years ago after 8 years of chaos and pain.... I left, rented a sweet little house and found serenity. I kept going to my f2f meeting and was recovering. My husband is a sweet man, who is damaged by this escalating disease. So, I tried to maintain a connecti...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I made a discovery about recovery last night. I took my A bf on a wonderful weekend getaway July 4th and paid for everything. Bed and Breakfast, tennis, beach, and relaxing. We truly had a wonderful time. Of course, before this trip we barely have seen each other the last two months as I have been less to...

Rinn · Rinn

i am having a hard time. For those who don't know the back story in brief husband started using meth seven months ago. He has been out of home for a few months. I filed for separation back in may. Today I got the order by default because he refused to respond. I also got a restraining order to prevent hi...

Bettina · Bettina

Came across this in my morning readings, hope this is inspirational as you go thru your own storms. "Everything has profound meaning. There is no need whatsoever to vacillate between elation and despair at each turn of events. There is no such thing as a storm that will continue blowing , wreak...

Lyne · Lyne

Well I haven't wanted to "know" this but my son has pot addiction even though he isn't using at the moment, and he has developed dependence on pain meds from two back surgeries. I don't know whether it's the guilt from leaving his father years ago, or I have been too dependent on him for emoti...

Bettina · Bettina

"The very best thing you can do for the world is to make the most of yourself." unk

John · John

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just another day! I guess I am grateful. I am not angry. I am not hungry, well maybe. I am not tired. I am not lonely. So, why am I bored? I am going through a time of reflection again. Crazy as it seems, I had a dream that my older sister was dying & that in her pain & suffering she didn't want anything t...

Bettina · Bettina

" Embrace the beauty of imperfection". unk -- Edited by Bettina on Tuesday 9th of July 2013 02:21:14 PM

Gaby · Gaby

Let me start from the beginning: when my A son relapsed after being sober for 3 years he went straight to the hard core drug.. After I thought I was teaching him tough love he went on a week run. I was looking for him every where in our small town and one of his A friends at the fourth day found him came to my door...

neshema2 · neshema2

I am a very good swimmer, so summer and its pool season is my time of year When I am cutting through the water, over hand stroke, swimming effortlessly I have no soft tissue issues in my left lower back that even hurts my upper leg...I have no worries b/c its just the water and me...I have no age b/c I am at one...

phly1001 · phly1001

Hello, I am new to these boards - but I have been considering joining Al-anon for quite some time. My husband and I have been married for almost 8 years. We have an 18 month old daughter. Our lives are pretty much perfect except (what for it), my husband is an alcoholic. He has admitted that he has a pro...

Leoko · Leoko

I am a mother of a 37yr old Ah. who has had liver failure twice already. The doctors ssay a few more months of drinking and she will die. I told her she had to leave my home and is now living in the streets drinking up a storm. She told me she will kill herself by drinking. But I noticed there are 12 steps here so...

Tina L · Tina L

I went to visit my husband in the mental hospital today. he is on the road to recovery. i just started to talk to u guys who care enough to read my blog. i don't know where to start but from the people i have been reading from going to meetings will be my first priority. i never have time for me but if i don't st...

neshema2 · neshema2

Bettina · Bettina

I went to the hospital today to see my X, was there two weeks ago and he looked better than today The nurse talked to me and told me that all organs have failed and the liver is shutting down. They also told me he had pnuemononia, which when I called they never told me he had it. But he over came it. They also pe...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

Thank u all for ur posts. I read and re-read them over and over and just let everything sink in. I was that frog being boiled. Now that I reflect on it, it was a push here and their and verbal abuse was continuous. And I just stayed in the pot hoping it would cool down. I would love to post pics but If I post anyth...

Heidi H · Heidi H

Hello all, Hi, I am Heidi and I live with my AH--married since 2010, sober since November 29, 2011. I am new to these boards but not to the concept. I joined several message boards to help me cope through a very difficult pregnancy loss in 2003, and I found the rapport and fellowship so helpful. I am hopin...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

It has been very sad for me these last couple of days. My face and body have bruises it is a constant reminder that I need to get better for me. My husband does not recall beating me he said he doesn't even remember getting home. He was not remorseful nor did he take responsibility for what he did. He said IF I...

In The Forest · In The Forest

I KNOW I need to attend a face to face meeting but I am very nervous and could use some encouragement. I have never been to one before. I am never comfortable doing new things in new places with people I don't know and that makes me nervous. Luckily the meetings are in the church I grew up going to which will b...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

First attempt to make my prayer candles. They are far from perfect but it's practice not perfection isn't it Thank you MIP and Thank you Path to Serenity.

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Even though I knew it was going to happen, when I saw my grandson yesterday at a family gatering, he came with my son who he trying to "squat" at his 1 br apt. Anyway seeing him looking so sad and troubled, I couldn't take it and had to leave early, my brother walked me out to my car and I couldn't...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I don't know about you, but I get tired of tv and internet coverage of "famous people." It truly doesn't matter to me who scores the highest, is the prettiest or most handsome, is having a meltdown, a baby or a haircut in Hollywood, Royalty or the world of competition. Some of the folks who ar...

In The Forest · In The Forest

This is my first time posting here but I have been reading a lot and trying to learn. It has provided me a lot of knowledge and comfort. I am still just trying to accept the reality of my situation. I have never been to a face to face meeting but I am trying to get brave enough to do that. I am here because my husb...

Gaby · Gaby

Right now at this moment.. I am thinking about my son.. I just can't seem to keep the focus on my and my recovery. I spoke with him on Sunday and he sounds great and is so in touch with his higher power.. And I told him I have fears!! He responded that he has to work on him and he can't control how I feel and I need t...

gorby928 · gorby928

Well had my first meeting in 4 weeks about 2 hours ago & it was well needed. Was good to talk to the group & it has cleared my head for now. Even when I come home to my AW whos on a roll and a bottle and a half up & offering me scotchs,hey ho.

Tina L · Tina L

Hi i am new her My name is Tina l. I have had the roughest month in my life. I had to put my husband in a mental hospital because he was so messed up on drugs and alcohol that he tried to kill himself by od-ing. they found him mentally incompetent and he has bipolar 1. i have to go see him today and i feel very alone...

Gaby · Gaby

I have not been on here since my last visit with my son. I am working on my recovery in healing, but i am having a hard time on letting go.. I stop and think (PROJECTION) what is it going to be like when he comes home. If not home just back in the town he ran a muck.. I see my son so spiritual so close to his god and be...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am supposed to be getting ready for work, but after checking my email and reading one from the exAH, that and checking my bank account I have just lost my motivation. I need to shake it off rub some al-anon on it and get my perky self out the door. Sometimes for what seems like no reason I let myself do the po...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone: Just want to share some thoughts of gratefulness today: Grateful for: --this board, where I have read in others' posts descriptions of my own life, and have learned so much from all of you about the true nature of human strength --my three kids, all thriving, beautiful, smart and percept...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I heard something at a meeting this week thtat has stuck with me. Feelings are not good or bad, right or wrong. They are just feelings. It is how I choose to react to the feeling that is important. I can still feel sad, angry, frustrated, happy, anxious...whatever. The hard part is choosing how to act on t...

grateful2be · grateful2be

"Bear witness to the situation and have faith that the right thing to do will emerge." Jeff Bridges Loved this message as it came through it's messenger this morning. Thought I'd share it.

neshema2 · neshema2

ONE day at a time I am trying to fill a vacancy (need to work 2 ams per week and need 2 more days to equal that) So, here I am projecting and wondering "OMG, what if this happens or that happens????" the usual what ifs fear based garbage so....ONE day at a time TODAY my needs are met no set backs...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Sorry Paula, I love fireworks, spent a hundred on them but I went to a place where tons of people all gather to light them, the local volunteer fire dept patrols and puts out fires, its a hoot for pyromaniacs. We were there a bit when my daughter announced she had lost an earring, one of those expensive thi...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

It's so hard not to cry about what we can't fix and the feelings are strong within. I often say WHY WHY is this still happening after all he has been through. I want so hard to just go away and never come back to watch the one my love destroy himself. I get the text and am asked for comments and I don't answer...

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	God on a roof top... (Preview) I got a pressure washing job yesterday that included doing the roof. It was in really bad shape with mold and mildew all over it. The chemical I use allows me to wash a roof with very low pressure so as to not damage the shingles, but it also makes the mold and mildew real slippery. I have all the equipmen...	John	6	529	Jul 13, 2013 by wp
	Confused and depressed (Preview) I am on vacation in FL so I should be in a great mood. I'm not. I am away from AH for 2 weeks and I am enjoying my time away, but right now I dread going home. I'm having a hard time just enjoying the 'moments' on vacation. And, you know what's funny? I won't be going home to a drunk or even abusiveness. My...	ilovedogs	16	494	Jul 13, 2013 by stephaniej
	in the moment :-) (Preview) just a quick feel good post. . my ah is out for evening. . it was planned so my anxiety is quite low, my daught is staying w nana and papa. . im alone. the heatwave broke tonight so i have every window in the house open. , ahhh, fresh air. . and in the moment i am taking the time to be serene and hear the night sound...	Theoceancalls	4	291	Jul 12, 2013 by neshema2
	New to Message Board (Preview) Hi, I am new to Al Anon, and this message board. Things have gotten to a point where I can't take it anymore, and I am so sick of the cycle that my AH and I are in. I have realized that I am a sick, sick person and I have been allowing myself to be miserable for years. My AH and I have been together for 8 years, and we...	megaroni5	5	845	Jul 12, 2013 by neshema2
	She only wants me when she needs me (Preview) for the past two weeks, daughter #2 has actually been calling me........of COURSE...She is do to give birth Has NOTHING to do w/me otherwise.......Last summer when I had pneumonia she never walked next door to check up on me just left me to suffer fast forward to Monday....She calls me, Oh and its &qu...	neshema2	11	415	Jul 12, 2013 by neshema2
	Drunk Driving??? (Preview) I've been thinking a lot lately about what kind of boundaries I want to set for myself. Like a lot of people here I am struggling to learn what kind of behaviors are enabling and what behaviors are detachment. I am getting better at it but still have a ways to go. I am trying to figure out where driving for th...	In The Forest	6	289	Jul 12, 2013 by In The Forest
	Update on Worn Out Mrs. Fix It's Life (Preview) Just a quick update on my last post regarding the gun and my safety. I talked to the mental health/substance abuse authorities and they couldn't do much but make a report unless he was threatening suicide. I did talk to his therapist who gave me some encouraging news. My AH has to go to court at the end of t...	wornoutmrsfixit	11	437	Jul 12, 2013 by Pushka
	Step 8 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t54330879/alanon-step-8/?page=last#lastPostAnchor	hotrod	0	709	Jul 12, 2013 by hotrod
	My 2nd Journey this one much harder (Preview) Hi, my name is Faith1988, I became an Al anon member in 1990 when my husband at the time was struggling with alcoholism. Al anon was a lifesaver to me it gave me the courage to grab my 3 babies and leave the very abusive alcoholic I was married to. It was easier than this crisis, I had to protect my children fr...	FAITH1988	26	699	Jul 12, 2013 by grateful2be
	Ghandi, Faith and the Benefits of It (Preview) "Unwearied ceaseless effort is the price that must be paid for turning faith into a rich infallible experience." Mahatma Ghandi Sometimes I must ask myself when life's light grows dim and I feel low - "Where I have I placed my faith? In disaster? In darkness? In myself or my resou...	grateful2be	7	495	Jul 12, 2013 by grateful2be
	Have that yucky feeling (Preview) My sober AH talked to his sister about his issues with how is treated in his family. A lot of stuff came out and I was amazed at how he handled it. She accused our 15 yr old son of ignoring her at a party and he said that our kids are old enough to make up their own minds about family especially how they have been i...	KSwiss	4	366	Jul 12, 2013 by neshema2
	I want one! (Preview) But I suspect they don't really exist, amazing what can be done with computer graphics. Hope it works, its quite fun to watch. http://www.youtube.com/embed/XlyCLbt3Thk?rel=0> -- Edited by likemyheart on Thursday...	likemyheart	3	214	Jul 12, 2013 by grateful2be
	Freedom to make choices / self-doubt. (Preview) So a whole lot in my life has changed in the 5 years that I have been sober and also been out of a relationship with another drunk. I recall that when I was in that position, my whole life revolved around alcoholism/addiction and I had no choices. All I ever did was complain about my life and I was a giant vi...	pinkchip	16	943	Jul 11, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Insecure come weekend time (Preview) Good Morning everyone, beautiful day in southern ontario. I want to talk about some insecurity I have. It seems like every time the weekend roles around I get a strong sense of dread. A sense of 'uggghh here we go again. More lonely days sitting by myself running errands, with nothing to do.It's funny b...	slogan_jim	8	330	Jul 11, 2013 by Jerry F
	What am I doing? (Preview) Am I an idiot for being in this relationship? I have been dating a man that is everything I have ever wanted minus an addiction. I think from things hes said that he is ready to admit he has a problem. We havent really talked about it. He is on day 9 totally clean. Not by choice but because he abused his prescr...	HAshby	13	396	Jul 11, 2013 by neshema2
	Showing my "stuff" off... an ad I created to gain more work... :) (Preview)	John	4	229	Jul 11, 2013 by neshema2
	Sometimes .. (Preview) I think it's really important to remember and I know this is true for me .. I can put myself in a worse spin and be just as sick as I was the first day I walked into Alanon .. it's why I'm grateful that this is a program of progress not perfection .. those old feelings can come roaring back and even though my tool...	Pushka	7	324	Jul 11, 2013 by stephaniej
	AW sober for 7 months wants divorce (Preview) Hi all, My AW of 7+ years has been sober for about 7 months now. We have 2 children together, 7 & 2yrs old. She was sober for both their pregnancies and for a while after, but eventually started drinking again. We've certainly had our problems. A few years ago, she cheated on me emotionally, which...	Gaholfer	8	662	Jul 11, 2013 by John
	Not Sure How To Handle This ??? (Preview) I got some information last night that I think I should act on but I'm not sure what to do with it or if I will even be listened to. I have known for some time that my AH (separated since August) could be threatening but he has been staying away from my apartment since I told him to and since I changed my phone #...	wornoutmrsfixit	13	543	Jul 11, 2013 by wornoutmrsfixit
	Feeling Sad (Preview) Time goes so slow, my AH is coming back from his vacation tomorrow. Not sure at what condition, drunk or dry, and I cant stop thinking about it. I have tried to read a lot, detach, not think much about him, do my things, something nice everyday for myself, but nothing really works.. This is the first time i...	Venera	15	485	Jul 11, 2013 by giraffe13
	A prayer of Merton's inre seeking knowledge of God's will (Preview) My (Lord) God, I have no idea where I am going. I do not see the road ahead of me. I cannot know for certain where it will end. Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so. But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact plea...	grateful2be	7	287	Jul 11, 2013 by Breakingfree
	new and need help (Preview) Hi all, I am new here. I have been spouse to an in denial high functioning alcoholic and substance abuser for 25 years. This man has emotionally abused me the entire time. He is very clever and was very, very good at blaming me for his bad behavior. He is truly Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde. Really good at putting...	needhope	6	380	Jul 11, 2013 by grateful2be
	a down day (Preview) Having a down day. Had bad night last night. It started out okay, did my own thing, went for a run, worked out, felt good. H came home slept woke up and drank beer, typical... Was having conversation with my teenage daughter, she was frustrated looking for work. H decides to interupt, to disagree wit...	sandydv	4	373	Jul 11, 2013 by Debilyn
	Anxiety (Preview) I am anxious and would appreciate some calming energy. I know my worries are just my own bad habits, but why cant I shake them? There is a flutter in my chest and my mind keeps racing, foxused on what ifs. I look forward to the day when this disease ( his and mine) is not the primary focus of my attention. I rea...	ParisMemories	12	271	Jul 11, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	"Seeing the Holy in the Ordinary" (Preview) "Seeing the Holy in the Ordinary" is a subtitle to a book, A Tree Full of Angels, written by Macrina Wiederkehr. This morning, after reading the MIP board - part of my daily Program work now - I went outdoors to put some bill payments into my mailbox. No one was outdoors. No mowers running. ...	grateful2be	17	516	Jul 11, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Progress not perfection (Preview) So, when do I achieve perfection? I left my AH 2 1/2 years ago after 8 years of chaos and pain.... I left, rented a sweet little house and found serenity. I kept going to my f2f meeting and was recovering. My husband is a sweet man, who is damaged by this escalating disease. So, I tried to maintain a connecti...	alexmaui	7	317	Jul 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	frustrated, and wanting to be further along than I am in recovery ** (Preview) I made a discovery about recovery last night. I took my A bf on a wonderful weekend getaway July 4th and paid for everything. Bed and Breakfast, tennis, beach, and relaxing. We truly had a wonderful time. Of course, before this trip we barely have seen each other the last two months as I have been less to...	giraffe13	7	372	Jul 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	feeling guilt, and missing him. (Preview) i am having a hard time. For those who don't know the back story in brief husband started using meth seven months ago. He has been out of home for a few months. I filed for separation back in may. Today I got the order by default because he refused to respond. I also got a restraining order to prevent hi...	Rinn	8	627	Jul 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	Hope thru the Storm! (Preview) Came across this in my morning readings, hope this is inspirational as you go thru your own storms. "Everything has profound meaning. There is no need whatsoever to vacillate between elation and despair at each turn of events. There is no such thing as a storm that will continue blowing , wreak...	Bettina	5	272	Jul 10, 2013 by PP
	sad reality about son (Preview) Well I haven't wanted to "know" this but my son has pot addiction even though he isn't using at the moment, and he has developed dependence on pain meds from two back surgeries. I don't know whether it's the guilt from leaving his father years ago, or I have been too dependent on him for emoti...	Lyne	3	320	Jul 10, 2013 by hotrod
	Thoughts! (Preview) "The very best thing you can do for the world is to make the most of yourself." unk	Bettina	2	188	Jul 10, 2013 by hotrod
	My dysFUNCTIONAL Family... (Preview)	John	7	521	Jul 10, 2013 by neshema2
	just another day(real quick) (Preview) Just another day! I guess I am grateful. I am not angry. I am not hungry, well maybe. I am not tired. I am not lonely. So, why am I bored? I am going through a time of reflection again. Crazy as it seems, I had a dream that my older sister was dying & that in her pain & suffering she didn't want anything t...	Hoot Nanny	1	227	Jul 9, 2013 by neshema2
	good thoughts (Preview) " Embrace the beauty of imperfection". unk -- Edited by Bettina on Tuesday 9th of July 2013 02:21:14 PM	Bettina	1	160	Jul 9, 2013 by neshema2
	Just thinking!!! Uggggg (Preview) Let me start from the beginning: when my A son relapsed after being sober for 3 years he went straight to the hard core drug.. After I thought I was teaching him tough love he went on a week run. I was looking for him every where in our small town and one of his A friends at the fourth day found him came to my door...	Gaby	4	316	Jul 9, 2013 by Jerry F
	Pools...Peace....and maybe a bit of Progress?? (Preview) I am a very good swimmer, so summer and its pool season is my time of year When I am cutting through the water, over hand stroke, swimming effortlessly I have no soft tissue issues in my left lower back that even hurts my upper leg...I have no worries b/c its just the water and me...I have no age b/c I am at one...	neshema2	10	369	Jul 9, 2013 by neshema2
	Just need to talk to someone (Preview) Hello, I am new to these boards - but I have been considering joining Al-anon for quite some time. My husband and I have been married for almost 8 years. We have an 18 month old daughter. Our lives are pretty much perfect except (what for it), my husband is an alcoholic. He has admitted that he has a pro...	phly1001	3	401	Jul 9, 2013 by sick_lupie
	Am I in the wrong place? (Preview) I am a mother of a 37yr old Ah. who has had liver failure twice already. The doctors ssay a few more months of drinking and she will die. I told her she had to leave my home and is now living in the streets drinking up a storm. She told me she will kill herself by drinking. But I noticed there are 12 steps here so...	Leoko	6	459	Jul 9, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Visiting (Preview) I went to visit my husband in the mental hospital today. he is on the road to recovery. i just started to talk to u guys who care enough to read my blog. i don't know where to start but from the people i have been reading from going to meetings will be my first priority. i never have time for me but if i don't st...	Tina L	12	507	Jul 9, 2013 by Tina L
	another "sorta" ten things we can do to more forward (Preview)	neshema2	3	219	Jul 9, 2013 by Breakingfree
	emotions I haven't felt in a long time. (Preview) I went to the hospital today to see my X, was there two weeks ago and he looked better than today The nurse talked to me and told me that all organs have failed and the liver is shutting down. They also told me he had pnuemononia, which when I called they never told me he had it. But he over came it. They also pe...	Bettina	11	556	Jul 8, 2013 by neshema2
	thank you for all the support (((hugs))) (Preview) Thank u all for ur posts. I read and re-read them over and over and just let everything sink in. I was that frog being boiled. Now that I reflect on it, it was a push here and their and verbal abuse was continuous. And I just stayed in the pot hoping it would cool down. I would love to post pics but If I post anyth...	newgirl17	9	404	Jul 9, 2013 by neshema2
	Lost and worried (Preview) Hello all, Hi, I am Heidi and I live with my AH--married since 2010, sober since November 29, 2011. I am new to these boards but not to the concept. I joined several message boards to help me cope through a very difficult pregnancy loss in 2003, and I found the rapport and fellowship so helpful. I am hopin...	Heidi H	9	436	Jul 9, 2013 by Lyne
	getting through... (Preview) It has been very sad for me these last couple of days. My face and body have bruises it is a constant reminder that I need to get better for me. My husband does not recall beating me he said he doesn't even remember getting home. He was not remorseful nor did he take responsibility for what he did. He said IF I...	newgirl17	25	389	Jul 9, 2013 by orchidlover
	Need Encouragement About Attending Face To Face Meeting (Preview) I KNOW I need to attend a face to face meeting but I am very nervous and could use some encouragement. I have never been to one before. I am never comfortable doing new things in new places with people I don't know and that makes me nervous. Luckily the meetings are in the church I grew up going to which will b...	In The Forest	10	717	Jul 9, 2013 by In The Forest
	Prayer candles (Preview) First attempt to make my prayer candles. They are far from perfect but it's practice not perfection isn't it Thank you MIP and Thank you Path to Serenity.	Cathyinaz	14	297	Jul 8, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Grandson is homeless! Grandma had a meltdown! (Preview) Even though I knew it was going to happen, when I saw my grandson yesterday at a family gatering, he came with my son who he trying to "squat" at his 1 br apt. Anyway seeing him looking so sad and troubled, I couldn't take it and had to leave early, my brother walked me out to my car and I couldn't...	Highlyfavored	8	404	Jul 8, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	People and occupations of value (Preview) I don't know about you, but I get tired of tv and internet coverage of "famous people." It truly doesn't matter to me who scores the highest, is the prettiest or most handsome, is having a meltdown, a baby or a haircut in Hollywood, Royalty or the world of competition. Some of the folks who ar...	grateful2be	4	329	Jul 8, 2013 by grateful2be
	Family Dinners With The In-Laws Create Anxiety (Preview) This is my first time posting here but I have been reading a lot and trying to learn. It has provided me a lot of knowledge and comfort. I am still just trying to accept the reality of my situation. I have never been to a face to face meeting but I am trying to get brave enough to do that. I am here because my husb...	In The Forest	19	802	Jul 8, 2013 by In The Forest
	My feelings and emotions!!!! Ugg (Preview) Right now at this moment.. I am thinking about my son.. I just can't seem to keep the focus on my and my recovery. I spoke with him on Sunday and he sounds great and is so in touch with his higher power.. And I told him I have fears!! He responded that he has to work on him and he can't control how I feel and I need t...	Gaby	7	512	Jul 8, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	First meeting in 4 weeks (Preview) Well had my first meeting in 4 weeks about 2 hours ago & it was well needed. Was good to talk to the group & it has cleared my head for now. Even when I come home to my AW whos on a roll and a bottle and a half up & offering me scotchs,hey ho.	gorby928	6	310	Jul 8, 2013 by Breakingfree
	LOST (Preview) Hi i am new her My name is Tina l. I have had the roughest month in my life. I had to put my husband in a mental hospital because he was so messed up on drugs and alcohol that he tried to kill himself by od-ing. they found him mentally incompetent and he has bipolar 1. i have to go see him today and i feel very alone...	Tina L	15	405	Jul 8, 2013 by Tina L
	Fear ;( (Preview) I have not been on here since my last visit with my son. I am working on my recovery in healing, but i am having a hard time on letting go.. I stop and think (PROJECTION) what is it going to be like when he comes home. If not home just back in the town he ran a muck.. I see my son so spiritual so close to his god and be...	Gaby	6	535	Jul 8, 2013 by Gaby
	Am I going to have a great Sunday or not? (Preview) I am supposed to be getting ready for work, but after checking my email and reading one from the exAH, that and checking my bank account I have just lost my motivation. I need to shake it off rub some al-anon on it and get my perky self out the door. Sometimes for what seems like no reason I let myself do the po...	Breakingfree	10	368	Jul 8, 2013 by Pushka
	grateful (Preview) Hi Everyone: Just want to share some thoughts of gratefulness today: Grateful for: --this board, where I have read in others' posts descriptions of my own life, and have learned so much from all of you about the true nature of human strength --my three kids, all thriving, beautiful, smart and percept...	yanksfan51	6	253	Jul 7, 2013 by PP
	Feelings are ok (Preview) I heard something at a meeting this week thtat has stuck with me. Feelings are not good or bad, right or wrong. They are just feelings. It is how I choose to react to the feeling that is important. I can still feel sad, angry, frustrated, happy, anxious...whatever. The hard part is choosing how to act on t...	ParisMemories	7	323	Jul 7, 2013 by Tina L
	Perhaps a bit of wisdom from Hollywood? (Preview) "Bear witness to the situation and have faith that the right thing to do will emerge." Jeff Bridges Loved this message as it came through it's messenger this morning. Thought I'd share it.	grateful2be	1	224	Jul 7, 2013 by Debilyn
	What slogan am I working today (Preview) ONE day at a time I am trying to fill a vacancy (need to work 2 ams per week and need 2 more days to equal that) So, here I am projecting and wondering "OMG, what if this happens or that happens????" the usual what ifs fear based garbage so....ONE day at a time TODAY my needs are met no set backs...	neshema2	2	219	Jul 7, 2013 by grateful2be
	Response to Jerry's thread, tonights fireworks, life (Preview) Sorry Paula, I love fireworks, spent a hundred on them but I went to a place where tons of people all gather to light them, the local volunteer fire dept patrols and puts out fires, its a hoot for pyromaniacs. We were there a bit when my daughter announced she had lost an earring, one of those expensive thi...	likemyheart	8	359	Jul 7, 2013 by FAITH1988
	My son (Preview) It's so hard not to cry about what we can't fix and the feelings are strong within. I often say WHY WHY is this still happening after all he has been through. I want so hard to just go away and never come back to watch the one my love destroy himself. I get the text and am asked for comments and I don't answer...	Cathyinaz	21	656	Jul 7, 2013 by Breakingfree
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