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goodbye & missing her
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To all who follow me: I did get to spend time w/ my pastor the following Tuesday. She is officially & totally gone from our area. I had a few moments of tears before she left. It of course mad her a little sad. But the thing was she wanted to tell me to take care of myself the day of her retirement luncheon....
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July 16 - C2C - Relaxation
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Today's author in Courage to Change could be described as a workaholic. They kept busy with a constant frenzy of work, projects, and obligations -- so they didn't have to to rest long enough to feel how frightening their home life was. They had no idea how to relax, and were abusing socially acceptab...
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Gratitude Friday
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I am grateful, though not feeling my best, that I have tools and exercises to do to help me get back feeling better very grateful for MIP and the constant learning and all the tidbits of knowledge that I get here to apply to my care grateful I am on the seniors program for the yard care where the city pays my l...
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Self-care Thursday
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Thursday was not the best of days but that is when I need to keep the focus on me even more. I think I think too much instead of just going with the flow and riding with the tide, my mind is chattering away over analyzing and having to ruminate on everything instead of just being quiet so my self-care Thursda...
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Gratitude Thursday
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Today I am grateful my yard is nice and manicured by my yard man as I am under the seniors yard care program where the city pays for my yard to get taken care of every other week I am grateful that my needs are met grateful that my health is good Grateful that I have the discipline to keep putting out good energ...
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Gratitude Wednesday
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What am I grateful for today? I am grateful that the weather has been pretty nice of late I am grateful that I know how to take good care of my pets I am grateful for the things I was able to do for my house and the biggest thing I am grateful for are the loving people I have in my life who love me and accept me as I am...
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Had enough of insanity...again.
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I don't know if anyone can relate, but I suspect so, it being the family disease. I feel like it sneaks up on me. Alcholism of loved ones, the cycles of dysfunction and I let my guard down and got sucked back in. My go to response to insanity has been to leave whatever country I am in and cut off everybody. ...
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7.13.21 One Day @ a Time – Alanon Guidance for Our Shares
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Our desperation brought us to Alanon, a place of recovery and hope where we draw comfort from a fellowship. We show our gratitude by accepting responsibilities by: * Studying and using Alanon principles, for our own benefit and for that of the group * Showing concern for the difficulties of others by...
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Courage to Change July 14
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Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author discusses the burden of guilt. The author shares that they had not been aware of the heavy burden that their guilt was until they made amends and let that guilt go. The author shares that facing the harm they had done in the past was something that they a...
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Expectations
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I am about to take a day of vacation in a week I have appointments set up for those days In the meantime I have to review my own set of expectations Certainly the pandemic has been very very hard going. I have worked throughout the pandemic. The vista of the pandemic included that I had to move out of my...
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Gratitude Monday
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I am grateful that my needs are met I am grateful that my dogs do not have any fleas because I use 20 Mule team Borax in their bath I am grateful I got all my little chores done I am grateful that I am learning to slow down and pay attention
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Courage to Change 7/10
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***MIP would LOVE to have a member take over the Saturday posting of a daily from one of our readers.*** If you have interest, you can post here or send me a Private Message! Today's reading discusses how we often arrive at Al-Anon with a distorted self-image brought about by our exposure to Alcoholis...
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Taking a Stand
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I am grateful to another young member for the "taking a stand" title I am riding at the moment because I have been procrastinating for 2 days on making an amends for missing care on a service position here at home. Just recently I volunteered to take care of the coffee service in my just recently restar...
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QTIP
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Oh I am so grateful for this program. I am beginning to love myself because of the positive changes I had a pool Play date for 3 PM today with this lovely married couple that I am friends with. Theyre just kids but they are wonderful and very very moral and conscientious and Just good young people. Anyway...
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C2C, 7/12, “encouraging and understanding alcoholic relatives”
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The reading for Monday, 7/12, expresses the authors confusion: are they supposed to focus on themself, or get wrapped up in the drama of others? The author felt Tradition 5 was therefore sending a contradictory message, as they either focused on themself or lost themself in others. Balance was l...
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Hope for Today July 11
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at the irony involved with feeling pain in association with the acceptance and care in recovery. The writer describes a phase of recovery in which she felt love, approval and respect immediately followed by sadness. Her sponsor suggested that exper...
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Slogan for Sunday
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I'm gonna be gone most of Sunday, (actually today) so I am posting Sunday Slogan Let it begin with me If I want change for the good..Lasting change..Real change...Positive growth and positive coming back to me, I must work on and change ME it has to begin with ME...meditating on what I learn in my recov...
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Sunday Gratitude
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What am I grateful for: this community all the love that has come to me of late my good health AND, my house big fix up jobs are DONE--Yaaay!!!! When I had unemployment coming in, I fixed up my restrooms (toilets, tub glazing, plumbing) , exterior carpentry and painting, upgraded my car, (did some work m...
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What am I grateful for today
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I thought just for fun I would put up a post about gratitude and what are we grateful for every day because for me, it has been a big game changer For me. Seems the more I give thanks, the more I get blessings to be thankful for Today I am grateful that my house renovations, the big ones are done and I can relax...
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It is time to take a stand
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https://alanon.activeboard.com/t67732896/ban-davidg/-- Edited by DM2021 on Thursday 8th of July 2021 06:36:10 PM -- Edited by DM2021 on Thursday 8th of July 2021 06:36:42 PM
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Prayers Please
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If you could offer a prayer it would be appreciated. My SO is in surgery. I'm here alone waiting.I rushed him to the ER last night. They told us mo bed for him, transferred him in midst of health difficulties. His kids stepped up to help to get me to a hospital far from home and for that Im grateful. They didn...
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Courage to Change July 7
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In today's post, the author shares that pre-alanon, they felt compelled to assign blame during every conflict. At any conflict or disagreement, they felt compelled to decide who was at fault. They would spend hours writing the evidence, becoming a chronic score keeper. Attitudes of defensivenes...
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ODAT in alanon, 7/5, how we treat the A
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I found this reading for Monday, 7/5, to be of interest. Its looking at the As treatment from the non-alcoholic, recognizing that the A is in a vulnerable position. The A is often on guard realizing they bring trouble to the family, and that also leaves the A open to criticism. The writer says the A is...
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Denial
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Another evening with AH in hospital. Being told how much his liver is damaged, to just a few hours later declaring he was told he was healthy. Denial is such a demon. But now I see it for what it truly is. A defence mechanism which if torn down would lay reality bare. And that is too much for him to handle...
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7/8/21 - Daily reading - Just for Tonight
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Instead of posting from one of the three daily readers, I thought today I would post from my current favorite Al-Anon Conference Approved literature -- the "Just For Tonight" bookmark. It has only been out for a couple of years, so some may not be aware of it. It can be purchased on the Al-Anon.org web...
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Moderator New Spam Business Board
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Can you please remove and ban isp addresses of these spammers . Another has returned with the similar solicitation. Thanks so much!
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Slogan for today
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how important is it? yesterday, my long awaited new windows for the front side of the house arrived and they did a lovely job. The workmen were very courteous and professional and they tidied up after themselves they even vacuumed my rooms on the inside where they put the windows. I was absolutely tic...
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There are two spam post on the business side
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There are two spam post on the business side Hey Iam. We got to spam post on the business board. Just thought I would tell you
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Not sure but I think it is on topic--gaslighting--a very much used tool by the alcoholic
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7 gaslighting phrases people use to silence you Has someone ever said something to you that made you question your thoughts? Or your memories? If yes, then there is no doubt that they are gaslighting you. A very common psychological abuse, gaslighting often goes unnoticed. It makes a person que...
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Moderator Please Remove Solicitation Posts on Alanon Business Board
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A brief share...
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The sun is starting to go down- over another Wednesday, here in my country. I did some pruning this afternoon. Nearly finished, and due to start on my own backyard trees. I find my higher power in the present moment these days. I manage to enjoy and to appreciate many things. I am contesting a by-elect...
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July 8, ODAT - Listen Well
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Todays reading challenges us to be discerning listeners. Listen to voices at meetings and experiment by focusing more on how they are speaking rather than what they are saying. Do we hear compassion, confidence and humility? Or do we hear anger, judgment, self-pity and/or grim determination? T...
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Hope for Today July 4
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the roles that intimacy and sexuality play in the lives of those of us affected by alcoholism. The writer describes how alcoholism created a fear of intimacy as well as a craving for it. The writer was often losing him/herself in another person, had dama...
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Group vote- on business page- new proposal.
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A vote is being held on the Business Page for members. A proposal from IAm. That we change our signature from:- The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. To:- W...
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7/6/21 ODAT – When the Drinking Stops, Perfection?
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Surprising to some, challenges remain even after the alcoholic stops drinking. The adjustments in earning and household responsibilities made by both parties may now become apparent, must be addressed and possibly reassigned. This can be very challenging.Like any situation we encounter, Ala...
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...and more...
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Thanks Debb. I wanted to share, really on a completely different tack. At the age of 70 I currently take no meds at all. I am ready and willing to do so- when I need them. 10 or 12 years ago I was waking in the night- with my mouth full of stomach acid. It was terrible. Around then my higher power told me:- t...
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Alanon Concept 3.
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Alanon Concept 3. The right of decision makes effective leadership possible. Basically in Alanon everyone just pitches in. Someone bring coffee- if we have coffee. [Or tea] Someone brings the key and opens up. At our F2F meeting we select our chair on the night, usually. In our inland valleys we r...
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Remembering John...
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It is a cold brittle Sunday here in Aotearoa-NZ... Lots going on in my life. John was more CA, or NA, than anything else. The miracle- of what became Miracles in Progress happened under a bridge in Dallas. John told me about this- when I met him and spent time with him a few years back. John had dreams an...
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Notice of Motion on Business Board.
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Anyone can take on a service role here- with this group. I have had to learn a few boundaries, over the years- to even function well... But I have pinned up a topic on the business board- and pointed the way towards a process... The emotion does need a seconder- to have even a second thought. The kaupap...
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7th tradition
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For me being self supporting has been a long haul Getting to a point where whatever barrier I have come up.I have to deal with. That is of course some barriers feel insurmountable. Nevertheless I am certainly responsible for whatever I am dealing with Therefore now more than ever there is a need to le...
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July 2 - C2C - Positive Changes
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Today's reading in Courage to Change is about changing self-destructive behaviors. The author had a habit of procrastination, but when they used Al-Anon principles to focus on their own thoughts and feelings, they realized that putting things off made them anxious. They saw the benefits of cha...
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Feeling low
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Dear MIP family.
As I have shared before I am separated from my AH and have been making progress in my own recovery.
The challenge I am now facing is that my AH is spiralling rapidly downwards and it is so, so painful to watch, even from a distance.
I am practicing detachment, keeping to my side of the...
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what Is going on.
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Hi Everybody, and I am going to say "Everybody". I have been reading most of your sharings, and I am so very, very upset and am going to be very, very honest, I am crying at what I have read. I don't understand what has happened, and I don't want to know. But what I do know is that your are tearing each other apa...
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Woopers!!
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Just got home from our first face to face group in a long time....Thank you God!! Woopers another great one. Of course MIP was there with me in my heart.
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A Saturday Share
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Through the lock-down period I have realised that I am no longer a newcomer. I think I always had a newcomer spirit. Eyes wide open. Sparkling sometimes. I think that laughter comes much easier these days. In my F 2 F group there is an older timer who has as many years in Alanon. She had a maj...
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July 1, ODAT - Attending to Myself
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"This I learned in Al-Anon, that the man I married cannot be the source of my happiness or sorrow." Todays reading explains that whatever my Alcoholic is feeling, I am not responsible and do not need to go there with him. It also reminds me that through my experience living alongside him, I should know t...
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C2C, Monday, 6/28, what other’s think
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The reading for Monday, 6/28, is about the writer feeling that their loved ones drinking was a terrible reflection on them. They worried what other people thought, and they got bounced up and down as their loved one made attempts at sobriety. What the author learned is that their well-being cannot...
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For Those That Have Left
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For those of you that have chosen to leave your relationship(for good,not temporarily),I would like some ESH on how you finally got to that place. I'm considering it. I am not expecting or wanting advice,I am just curious how you got the strength to do it. How did you get to that place where you finally...
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The things we cannot change...
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1. Lock-down and the Covid-19 pandemic. Maybe a fair bit of "bear-cave" stuff happening? In this group- we have all been through this together. A w e s o m e ... The sun has just going down over my country. After snow yesterday, today was bright and clear, for the afternoon. ...
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Courage to Change June 30
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Hello mip!
In today's reading from c2c, the author shares about an experience walking in the woods. The author heard a child's voice and followed the sound until they found the child. The child was repeating the alphabet. When the author asked what the child was doing, the child said "praying" and si...
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June 24, ODAT - Personal Inventory
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Todays reading reminds us of the work we have done in cleaning up our past-cleaning house. In Step Ten (an essential Al-Anon promise), then, we must review each day to ensure that we do not accumulate a backlog of guilt to worry about. Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promp...
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Mental health and Alanon
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I have only read one reading recently that had to do with the obsession and compulsion of the alcoholic. Are topics of mental illnesses off limits in Alanon? I can see that you would not want to replace a doctor or suggest someone's A has a mental illness. But, many people that abuse alcohol and other su...
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Can someone take Thursdays ODAT Reading
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I cannot do Thursdays readings anymore, is someone up for the task? {{HUGS}}
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6/29/21 One Day at a Time – A Characteristic We Share w/Alcoholics
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Though we may be reluctant to acknowledge it, self-deception impacts how both alcoholic and Alanon members relate their experience to others. Both unconsciously hold back details that are unflattering to self, and magnify the fault of the other.Seeing the facts objectively requires a change of...
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ODAT in alanon, 6/14, A medicine to change your entire life
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The reading for Monday, 6/14, begins like this: If someone were to say to me: Here is a medicine that can change your whole life for the better; it will put you in a state of relaxed serenity; help you overcome the nagging undercurrent of guilt for past errors, give you new insight into yourself and y...
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how do you say goodbye?
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How do you you say goodbye to someone who has been a special & spiritual wise woman that has leave? I am certain that she will be moving on w/ the best of intentions. She is retiring & moving away on July 12th. I have mentioned her before. I don't really need to give too much detail but in the last 7 ye...
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A program like the Al Anon program, but specifically for people that have a loved one with MENTAL HEALTH issues??
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Hi - I am a great believer in Al Anon's approach, and I have been active in the program for many years - I have acquired a lot of ESH over the years from face-to-face meetings, and also from you fine folks here. My adult son has very recently exhibited some sudden onset mental health issues, and while ther...
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Tradition 4.
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Alanon Tradition 4. Each group should be autonomous, except in matters affecting Alanon, or AA as a whole. Before I arrived here, and became a member of this group- there was a move to join Alanon in an official way. This information is base don information that heard. This move was turned down. Th rea...
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Hope for Today June 27
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on tradition eight which states: Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers. While the main business of al-anon is non professional and there is no monetary compensation,...
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Ultimate Goal Is To Move On From The Past
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I just love reading the C2C everyday. I start on January 1st and read two a day. I just arrived on April 8th and so wanted to share this one because I feel that the ultimate goal of Al-Anon is to help us move on from the past. The reading says that "examining the past does have great value" because to exam...
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