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pinkchip · pinkchip

It dawned on me a few years into recovery that I had no internal voice that looked after me, rooted for me, said nice things to me, validated me, assured me, and cheered me on. I had no inner cheerleader. Rather, I had inner voices telling me I was weak, couldn't make it on my own, didn't deserve good things...

Theotis5555 · Theotis5555

Will set a little context. My ex-wife has been active on and off for the past 11 years. Long story short. Two kids, age 14. She's had three major relapses/events. Episode one (Kids age 4): A few bottles of wine, pills, razor and bathtub. Kids find her. Hospital. Three day hold. ---a whole lot of...

deacon · deacon

We were at a social gathering yesterday. Some people we know well, others are acquaintances and neighbours. Two women beside me started talking about another woman 'throwing her daughter out of the house' and how unfeeling she was. And went on to say that they would never do such a thing to their child...

Charlotte22 · Charlotte22

hi Everyone! I recently started back in al anon (after going for 10 years from 30-40 years old) and in my town there is cross talk and gossip so I prefer PHONE MEETINGS that I just discovered. I am recently separated but having a VERy tough time as my parents are elderly and I also have a 13 year old to rais...

Wendy8 · Wendy8

Please help me figure out what is best to do. My 24 year old AS lives with us. He is drinking more and more. I cry all the time go to alanon but feel so sad. My husband his father is done. We have tried everything to help him but it's not worked so far. Setting boundaries is scarey for me. I want someone to tell me...

oceanpine · oceanpine

Hello all- I haven't posted in a long while, but I read and learn every day. I'm feeling really sad today. And also, confused. I'm getting more and more confused about enabling. I moved out over a year ago, when I couldn't stand my AH's secret drinking, lying about it, and the ensuing verbal abuse. I'...

e_i_m · e_i_m

One of the things I often do is isolate myself and then complain and feel sorry for myself that no one loves me (which to me equals pays attention to me). As I am going through this process, I realize more every day how much I have made attention from others my source of validation and my definition of love....

Momforever · Momforever

Hello! I awoke this morning exhausted and wanting to hear from someone who is or has gone through my situation. My adult son has severe alcoholic induced liver cirrhosis, non-viral hepatitis, and Ascites. He has been in the hospital more than not since March 2016. He is 39, divorced, unable to work,...

oceanpine · oceanpine

My separated AH and I are having an in-depth counseling weekend in 3 weeks. In the meantime, our counselor has asked us to avoid processing, until she gets there. My AH is very impulsive, and tries to process the past, present and future every time we are on the phone together. It's exhausting, and Wic...

madowl86 · madowl86

Since my last post here I feel like I, myself, have gotten worse. As of June, I had moved out and set boundaries that my ABF would not be around me drinking, come to my house drunk or drinking, etc. But after finding out that he was drinking behind my back, he wanted to show me that he could handle drinking...

jocelgp · jocelgp

Hi everyone! I hope you all had a good day and will have a good day :) So it's been a week or so that my AH was true to his word that he'll no longer drink after the bad accident. But I am sensing the desire when he mentioned yesterday after going to church that he saw some beer bottles near the convent and co...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Hope everyone is jamming a good Sunday. I was just laughing. I caught myself plotting and planning a most complicated plan or more accurately, a manipulation! An issue that was none of my business. Luckily I realised. Laughed. Stopped myself before any damage done. Having nice cup of tea instead and...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife is now in the air...returning home from her home in Central Valley CA. I admire her courage, determination and commitment in our life. I asked Akua; my Higher Power for it's attention to her safe flight which I am assured Akua will do and still I hold my breath a bit as she covers the 2600 miles...

baht114 · baht114

Not sure what I'm looking for. Help, advice, suggestions, or anything at this point. My husband has been sober now for about 6 months. He was addicted to opiates and I never had a clue! About two weeks before he finally admitted to me that he was addicted to drugs the sh*t hit the fan. No Money, pawned ever...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I wonder sometimes does alcohol just make the brain not process information, like the pathway to rationality is diverted or something? Yesterday there was an engagement party for my son and his fiance (given by the bride to be's family, so our two families and the wedding party could meet). My 36 AD w...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change reading for August 28 speaks about sponsorship, in Al-Anon and how important it is to our recovery. By having a sponsor we find someone that we can trust and who will be there for us when we reach out. When we first ask someone to be our sponsor, it is a difficult procedure...

e_i_m · e_i_m

I was first in al-anon about eight years ago for probably two years. I found tremendous serenity and made important changes in my life. When I first came into the rooms I heard about (and read about) how important it was to find a sponsor. I asked three women at three different meetings who all seemed to h...

jitsuka · jitsuka

I've been laid up in bed basically all day, this morning when I woke up I was getting worrying dizzy spells - like a swimming sensation. I've no idea what it was, bit of a headache too. I've felt exhausted, tired, really wiped out, no appetite either. Just been drinking water. Got up around 7pm to make s...

Mcat54 · Mcat54

Money is a big issue for me. I'm blessed to have a good job and have no concerns for my financial well-being. However, as I consider leaving my A, I know the division of property and assets will be a factor. We've been married six years, and we kept our money separate. I've saved a lot in company 401k, and in...

Cornwell13 · Cornwell13

Hello, I have have been dating my boyfriend for around 6 m koonths. I knew from the beginning he is an alcoholic and that he had been sober for just under a year. He recently had a relapse and told his family and I he could reel it back in with just going to meetings. It didn't work and he asked me to take him to...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for August 27 speaks about our expectations upon entering our first Al-Anon meeting .. The reading suggests that most of us thought that we would be given tools to stop the alcoholic from drinking and were disappointed .Instead,It was suggested that we were powerless over alc...

joker · joker

I have been in deep thought about my relationship with the abf. We have a house together and I went and got an apartment, as a plan B. I still have not moved any of my belongings into the apartment from the house. What am I waiting for? He has now been sober for 10 plus days and says this time, he is really done w...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

How do I change my username? My AH might recognize mine if he sees this site (if I don't close the browser).

Lovejailed · Lovejailed

So I posted here last summer. I also sat in on chat room sessions. This website opened me up to realizing what i was going to have to do to start keeping my sanity. It has helped. I went to a face to face and got to hear how people focused and remembered themselves. Boundaries are not something that was shown...

DanielleB · DanielleB

Hi, I am new. I have not started attending meetings yet but have found one in my town that I want to try. I just want to introduce myself. Long story short, I was married to a guy named Alan in 1999. He had a history of alcoholism and went through periods of severe drinking when we were married. He sober...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

"We can pave the way for calm, reasonable communication only if we first find healthy outlets for our own negative feelings." ~ The Dilemma of the Alcoholic MarriageTodays reading features an AlAnon member reflecting on the unpleasant change anger brought upon their character. The author had mad...

seahorselady · seahorselady

Hi all, quick question. i have been talking to my AS lately. I have been trying to work my program and not enable, mother or manage. I am seeing my patterns in the way I interact with him and i am becoming more thoughtful before doing or saying something that may be old behavior. So after my conversation wi...

jocelgp · jocelgp

When I came to Al-anon my morning prayers has included the Serenity Prayer, The Surrender Prayer and Just for Today. I like the Just for Today because of its similarity to the Decalogue of Pope John XXIII. This morning I was struck by this part: Just for today, I will adjust myself to what is, and not tr...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about looking back and reproaching ourselves for not knowing what we did not know. As I type that, I remember wondering and now - I see how silly it seems to me to be in 'black and white'. How of course could we know what is not revealed to us? We see when looking back that this diseas...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

I have never asked for prayers for myself (that I can recall), but today I am asking all who will to please pray for me. I, myself, can only ask "Thy Will Be Done" because I don't believe in praying for myself in such a situation. It feels selfish to me. Today is my birthday (late 40's) and I meet with my new (f...

Bee22 · Bee22

I am new to Al Anon and I am new to this forum. The A in my life is my adult sister (who I live with). She is not sober but she is trying (I am thankful for this). When she drinks, she becomes very emotional and very angry/irate specifically towards me. I know that it is the disease talking and my mother (who als...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

The other day I heard from my attorney and we are another step closer to having things pushed through court. The last court appearance hopefully ever .. however .. LOL .. time will tell. I'm waiting for things to seriously blow up on my X in regards to money with the wife. You know it doesn't matter and...

shejon · shejon

my addict husband of 26 years just got a job and he thinks that I am not happy for him, I am happy for us both because he hasn't had a stable job in 5 Years. He just recently got out of a mental health facility because he was so depressed that he wanted to kill himself because he says that not having a job makes h...

Coloradogold · Coloradogold

New to the page. I am married to a recovered acholic that is at it again. Just done with it all.

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading in Courage to Change compares our emotional awareness and growth in recovery to a music student learning how to play the piano. When first starting, the student learns just a few keys, playable with one hand. Similar, in early recovery, we begin to feel our feelings and as we grow in...

joker · joker

I am so grateful today. The ABF remains sober and its almost 2 weeks. He may have hit his bottom. I had left while he was in full fledged active drinking and just let him be. He was a complete mess after 5 days of heavy, heavy drinking. We took the empty's back for refund and there was 460 empty's. That was in a...

gabigail · gabigail

Hi everyone- As you know my AS has been in and out of the hospital all summer wirh health issues associated with alcoholism, and it has been pretty progressive. So today was the follow-up after the hospital stay. My spouse had a bad feeling about things. So, her numbers aren't good. She will need a bloo...

littlewing88 · littlewing88

Hi guys, I have posted here before when things were not great but still okay. My SO has relapsed again and I have not spoken to him since the beginning of this month, when he called to tell me that he relapsed. We spoke for about an hour, I was mostly confused and he said that he struggles with opening up to t...

jocelgp · jocelgp

Yesterday i forgot to do an errand for my mother, and I really forgot to do it in good faith. And this morning at breakfast I felt so attacked by sarcasm from my mother and my AH. As shared before, my mom is the controlling and manipulative type. Many times my AH and my mom are at odds with each other and I am...

andromeda · andromeda

I often forget how much my past affects how I react to others today. I often feel slighted, I fear abandonment, and I tend to take things personally but I know I've made progress because I can see other people's perspectives first now before I fly off the handle, lol. This past weekend, I saw that my bf h...

jojo8466 · jojo8466

So Sunday my A lover / bff and I are talking on the phone and out of the blue he asks is he can see me that day. Needless to say shock and questions flew out of my mouth - "why? what for? are you going to break my heart? is this a goodbye meeting?" He tells me "no he just wants to see me and spend time with me - he sa...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Ok...so while I am thinner and taking good care of myself. I noticed today, my hair is significantly graying up the sideburns and now into the rest of my hair and a large streak in my beard. Top that off, I can see some wrinkles. Some of you may laugh, but I was just looking in the mirror thinking "What the he...

Aerin · Aerin

As some of you know from my thread last Friday it hasnt been an easy week. Finally heard from the abf who states he is "very sorry for the things he said and did" Then proceeds to say "he is confused about what to do about our relationship. That its obvious we both arent getting what we want" All along my only...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Today's reading is about the special and powerful bond between sponsor and sponsee. I began working with my sponsor about three years ago, and the relationship has profoundly affected my life and strengthened my commitment to recovery. I am blessed to have a sponsor that se...

unbroken13 · unbroken13

Hey all, Well hard to believe a year has gone by and I am still alive and well..lol..... To all of my beautiful friends even consider you all family here a great big THANK YOU!!! I honestly believe to this day if I had not found you I would not be alive today...A year ago I was ready to just lay down, call it qu...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

I am hoping that my AH will not drink tomorrow but I will try not to let it ruin my day. I can't control his drinking and after reading posts here for the last week, I am doing better at letting go. I have even said to him, in response to a question or statement from him, that he is in charge of his drinking. My...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Todays c2c speaks about becoming aware of what motivates our actions. In so many cases, what drives us in the beginning is fear. Many of us are afraid to show our true emotions and hide behind a fake smile. By trusting our HP and remembering such slogans as 'Let go and let HP" and 'I came to believe" we can f...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

Why does it continue to surprise me when my AH lies????? Alcoholics are liars, plain and simple. They lie and will always lie. Does my AH think I am an idiot?? Doesn't he know that after almost 7 years I can tell when he has been drinking?? I am so sick of the lies! So instead of going out to the living r...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

Do the A's in our lives think we are stupid? I went into the bathroom this afternoon and it looked as if someone had vomited in the sink and hadn't done a great job cleaning it up. I came out and asked my husband if he had been sick earlier in the day. He said no, why? I told him what it looked like to me. He s...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

My AH of ten asks if I am mad at him. In context, right now he is trying to quit but continues to drink (only a relatively small amount). He just asked if I am mad at him. What do you think the best response is? I said no. I am mad because he said he would quit and he hasn't yet. I am doing a great job of lettin...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I need to take note when times are good. Work is good. I like my job, coworkers, my bosses and my employees. I just got a killer job evaluation and we kicked butt through a DCF audit this week. In 6 months, bosses have gone from saying, ouy of the 3 sites the company has, that we were the "short bus" center to n...

Nightingale · Nightingale

I think something has finally shifted in me. Finally. All the things that have been tarring me up inside for the past four years...my paralyzing insecurities surrounding my relationship...it's all changing. I'm not sure why or how but I am finally finding some relief. Like most of these relationsh...

Anonymouskb · Anonymouskb

Are there any meetings in Austin that I can bring my 6 month old to? Not babysitting but I want to have her in the meeting with me. My husband alcoholic left last night. I know it's not likely to find one of these meetings today but I had to ask.

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for August 21 speaks about some of the confusion that we feel prior to entering program . It points out that implementing slogans such as"Live and Let Live" and "Mind Your Own Business" helps to lift the confusion.. If we think about it., Al-Anon shows us how to live by using the tools...

andromeda · andromeda

Ok, I have been battling my fear of starting a new career as a financial advisor. AND, the worst part is, I'm getting resentful at my bf because he's the one pushing me to interview. I sent my resume, and dammit, they called for an interview which is scheduled for next week. Honestly, I am not sure I am c...

jojo8466 · jojo8466

So I send a text last night to my A lover telling him I had been reading about detaching with love - I told him I loved him, how sorry I was that he had this disease and I hoped he got well soon and he had my number if he ever wanted to talk. I felt good about sending it - felt a relief - that lasted for a couple hours...

seahorselady · seahorselady

Hi All, I came on this board a week or two ago asking for support. I had come to the realization that my enabling was helping to cripple my adult son in life. I had a feeling he was alcoholic, but was not certain. He has lived outside of my house more than he has lived in it since he was 19. He will be turning 27 t...

stepbystep78 · stepbystep78

Hello all- This is my first time on here. I decided last night that I needed help, to deal with my mother's alcoholism. My mother has been an alcoholic since I was born, but she was in sobriety for nearly 20 years, when I was 2-21 years old. I am now almost 26, and have been dealing with this for about 5 yea...

Miller0582 · Miller0582

My father is an alcoholic. I have known this for a long time and it was never more real than two years ago when he was hospitalized. Diagnosed with cirrhosis and varicies were causing nearly fatal GI bleeds. He had to have the TIPS procedure to reduce the portal hypertension. He spent four weeks in the ho...

lgnutah · lgnutah

A boundary I have set to protect my own sanity is to not answer phone calls from my 36 yr old AD between 8 pm-8 am (ringers are turned to silent). She lives 100 miles away, so our communication is primarily via the phone but every couple of months, her sobriety allowing, we meet at a point halfway between ou...

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	Inner cheerleader (Preview) It dawned on me a few years into recovery that I had no internal voice that looked after me, rooted for me, said nice things to me, validated me, assured me, and cheered me on. I had no inner cheerleader. Rather, I had inner voices telling me I was weak, couldn't make it on my own, didn't deserve good things...	pinkchip	26	676	Aug 30, 2016 by milkwood
	When and how to reunite the kids (Preview) Will set a little context. My ex-wife has been active on and off for the past 11 years. Long story short. Two kids, age 14. She's had three major relapses/events. Episode one (Kids age 4): A few bottles of wine, pills, razor and bathtub. Kids find her. Hospital. Three day hold. ---a whole lot of...	Theotis5555	6	545	Aug 30, 2016 by Jerry F
	Courage and understanding (Preview) We were at a social gathering yesterday. Some people we know well, others are acquaintances and neighbours. Two women beside me started talking about another woman 'throwing her daughter out of the house' and how unfeeling she was. And went on to say that they would never do such a thing to their child...	deacon	6	476	Aug 29, 2016 by pinkchip
	Feeling like "hole in the doughnut" and need to connect! (Preview) hi Everyone! I recently started back in al anon (after going for 10 years from 30-40 years old) and in my town there is cross talk and gossip so I prefer PHONE MEETINGS that I just discovered. I am recently separated but having a VERy tough time as my parents are elderly and I also have a 13 year old to rais...	Charlotte22	4	525	Aug 29, 2016 by hotrod
	Help (Preview) Please help me figure out what is best to do. My 24 year old AS lives with us. He is drinking more and more. I cry all the time go to alanon but feel so sad. My husband his father is done. We have tried everything to help him but it's not worked so far. Setting boundaries is scarey for me. I want someone to tell me...	Wendy8	7	440	Aug 29, 2016 by el-cee
	Enabling (Preview) Hello all- I haven't posted in a long while, but I read and learn every day. I'm feeling really sad today. And also, confused. I'm getting more and more confused about enabling. I moved out over a year ago, when I couldn't stand my AH's secret drinking, lying about it, and the ensuing verbal abuse. I'...	oceanpine	8	677	Aug 29, 2016 by el-cee
	Reaching out (Preview) One of the things I often do is isolate myself and then complain and feel sorry for myself that no one loves me (which to me equals pays attention to me). As I am going through this process, I realize more every day how much I have made attention from others my source of validation and my definition of love....	e_i_m	5	488	Aug 29, 2016 by el-cee
	Hello! Newbie here having trouble reading posts and replies on Ascites (Preview) Hello! I awoke this morning exhausted and wanting to hear from someone who is or has gone through my situation. My adult son has severe alcoholic induced liver cirrhosis, non-viral hepatitis, and Ascites. He has been in the hospital more than not since March 2016. He is 39, divorced, unable to work,...	Momforever	8	515	Aug 28, 2016 by unbroken13
	I want to avoid lying (Preview) My separated AH and I are having an in-depth counseling weekend in 3 weeks. In the meantime, our counselor has asked us to avoid processing, until she gets there. My AH is very impulsive, and tries to process the past, present and future every time we are on the phone together. It's exhausting, and Wic...	oceanpine	5	412	Aug 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	Accepting the alcoholic's drinking (Preview) Since my last post here I feel like I, myself, have gotten worse. As of June, I had moved out and set boundaries that my ABF would not be around me drinking, come to my house drunk or drinking, etc. But after finding out that he was drinking behind my back, he wanted to show me that he could handle drinking...	madowl86	12	756	Aug 28, 2016 by hotrod
	dealing with eggshells and grouchy mornings (Preview) Hi everyone! I hope you all had a good day and will have a good day :) So it's been a week or so that my AH was true to his word that he'll no longer drink after the bad accident. But I am sensing the desire when he mentioned yesterday after going to church that he saw some beer bottles near the convent and co...	jocelgp	5	453	Aug 28, 2016 by likemyheart
	Caught myself (Preview) Hope everyone is jamming a good Sunday. I was just laughing. I caught myself plotting and planning a most complicated plan or more accurately, a manipulation! An issue that was none of my business. Luckily I realised. Laughed. Stopped myself before any damage done. Having nice cup of tea instead and...	Calm Lady	3	341	Aug 28, 2016 by Calm Lady
	wifelessness (Preview) My wife is now in the air...returning home from her home in Central Valley CA. I admire her courage, determination and commitment in our life. I asked Akua; my Higher Power for it's attention to her safe flight which I am assured Akua will do and still I hold my breath a bit as she covers the 2600 miles...	Jerry F	10	526	Aug 28, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	I'm new to this.. #new #help #advice (Preview) Not sure what I'm looking for. Help, advice, suggestions, or anything at this point. My husband has been sober now for about 6 months. He was addicted to opiates and I never had a clue! About two weeks before he finally admitted to me that he was addicted to drugs the sh*t hit the fan. No Money, pawned ever...	baht114	3	356	Aug 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	Alcoholism=altered brain function? (Preview) I wonder sometimes does alcohol just make the brain not process information, like the pathway to rationality is diverted or something? Yesterday there was an engagement party for my son and his fiance (given by the bride to be's family, so our two families and the wedding party could meet). My 36 AD w...	lgnutah	1	1813	Aug 28, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	C2C reading 8-28-2016 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for August 28 speaks about sponsorship, in Al-Anon and how important it is to our recovery. By having a sponsor we find someone that we can trust and who will be there for us when we reach out. When we first ask someone to be our sponsor, it is a difficult procedure...	hotrod	1	293	Aug 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	Finding a sponsor (Preview) I was first in al-anon about eight years ago for probably two years. I found tremendous serenity and made important changes in my life. When I first came into the rooms I heard about (and read about) how important it was to find a sponsor. I asked three women at three different meetings who all seemed to h...	e_i_m	7	1068	Aug 28, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Selfish A's (Preview) I've been laid up in bed basically all day, this morning when I woke up I was getting worrying dizzy spells - like a swimming sensation. I've no idea what it was, bit of a headache too. I've felt exhausted, tired, really wiped out, no appetite either. Just been drinking water. Got up around 7pm to make s...	jitsuka	11	745	Aug 28, 2016 by jitsuka
	Financial perspective needed (Preview) Money is a big issue for me. I'm blessed to have a good job and have no concerns for my financial well-being. However, as I consider leaving my A, I know the division of property and assets will be a factor. We've been married six years, and we kept our money separate. I've saved a lot in company 401k, and in...	Mcat54	3	398	Aug 27, 2016 by Jerry F
	Newbie and need advice! (Preview) Hello, I have have been dating my boyfriend for around 6 m koonths. I knew from the beginning he is an alcoholic and that he had been sober for just under a year. He recently had a relapse and told his family and I he could reel it back in with just going to meetings. It didn't work and he asked me to take him to...	Cornwell13	2	265	Aug 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C August 27-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for August 27 speaks about our expectations upon entering our first Al-Anon meeting .. The reading suggests that most of us thought that we would be given tools to stop the alcoholic from drinking and were disappointed .Instead,It was suggested that we were powerless over alc...	hotrod	1	339	Aug 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	what is wrong with me and why can I not leave the abf (Preview) I have been in deep thought about my relationship with the abf. We have a house together and I went and got an apartment, as a plan B. I still have not moved any of my belongings into the apartment from the house. What am I waiting for? He has now been sober for 10 plus days and says this time, he is really done w...	joker	17	588	Aug 27, 2016 by CyndiODAT
	technical question (Preview) How do I change my username? My AH might recognize mine if he sees this site (if I don't close the browser).	laxplayer24	4	275	Aug 27, 2016 by hotrod
	The sad slow awakening to walking away. (Preview) So I posted here last summer. I also sat in on chat room sessions. This website opened me up to realizing what i was going to have to do to start keeping my sanity. It has helped. I went to a face to face and got to hear how people focused and remembered themselves. Boundaries are not something that was shown...	Lovejailed	2	451	Aug 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	introduction (Preview) Hi, I am new. I have not started attending meetings yet but have found one in my town that I want to try. I just want to introduce myself. Long story short, I was married to a guy named Alan in 1999. He had a history of alcoholism and went through periods of severe drinking when we were married. He sober...	DanielleB	4	460	Aug 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C 8/24 Anger - Let it Begin With Me (Preview) "We can pave the way for calm, reasonable communication only if we first find healthy outlets for our own negative feelings." ~ The Dilemma of the Alcoholic MarriageTodays reading features an AlAnon member reflecting on the unpleasant change anger brought upon their character. The author had mad...	Enigmatic	6	958	Aug 26, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	a quick question (Preview) Hi all, quick question. i have been talking to my AS lately. I have been trying to work my program and not enable, mother or manage. I am seeing my patterns in the way I interact with him and i am becoming more thoughtful before doing or saying something that may be old behavior. So after my conversation wi...	seahorselady	8	388	Aug 26, 2016 by seahorselady
	Another JUST FOR TODAY (Preview) When I came to Al-anon my morning prayers has included the Serenity Prayer, The Surrender Prayer and Just for Today. I like the Just for Today because of its similarity to the Decalogue of Pope John XXIII. This morning I was struck by this part: Just for today, I will adjust myself to what is, and not tr...	jocelgp	5	388	Aug 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/26/16 (Preview) Today's reading talks about looking back and reproaching ourselves for not knowing what we did not know. As I type that, I remember wondering and now - I see how silly it seems to me to be in 'black and white'. How of course could we know what is not revealed to us? We see when looking back that this diseas...	Iamhere	1	344	Aug 26, 2016 by hotrod
	Asking for prayers from those who pray (Preview) I have never asked for prayers for myself (that I can recall), but today I am asking all who will to please pray for me. I, myself, can only ask "Thy Will Be Done" because I don't believe in praying for myself in such a situation. It feels selfish to me. Today is my birthday (late 40's) and I meet with my new (f...	Doingmybest	13	526	Aug 25, 2016 by tiredtonite
	Taking the verbal abuse personally (Preview) I am new to Al Anon and I am new to this forum. The A in my life is my adult sister (who I live with). She is not sober but she is trying (I am thankful for this). When she drinks, she becomes very emotional and very angry/irate specifically towards me. I know that it is the disease talking and my mother (who als...	Bee22	3	448	Aug 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	Another step closer to being done .. (Preview) The other day I heard from my attorney and we are another step closer to having things pushed through court. The last court appearance hopefully ever .. however .. LOL .. time will tell. I'm waiting for things to seriously blow up on my X in regards to money with the wife. You know it doesn't matter and...	SerenityRUS	5	494	Aug 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	feeling frustrated (Preview) my addict husband of 26 years just got a job and he thinks that I am not happy for him, I am happy for us both because he hasn't had a stable job in 5 Years. He just recently got out of a mental health facility because he was so depressed that he wanted to kill himself because he says that not having a job makes h...	shejon	6	509	Aug 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	How do I handle it all?? (Preview) New to the page. I am married to a recovered acholic that is at it again. Just done with it all.	Coloradogold	4	474	Aug 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/25/16 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change compares our emotional awareness and growth in recovery to a music student learning how to play the piano. When first starting, the student learns just a few keys, playable with one hand. Similar, in early recovery, we begin to feel our feelings and as we grow in...	Iamhere	4	412	Aug 25, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	progress (Preview) I am so grateful today. The ABF remains sober and its almost 2 weeks. He may have hit his bottom. I had left while he was in full fledged active drinking and just let him be. He was a complete mess after 5 days of heavy, heavy drinking. We took the empty's back for refund and there was 460 empty's. That was in a...	joker	4	327	Aug 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	Bad news (Preview) Hi everyone- As you know my AS has been in and out of the hospital all summer wirh health issues associated with alcoholism, and it has been pretty progressive. So today was the follow-up after the hospital stay. My spouse had a bad feeling about things. So, her numbers aren't good. She will need a bloo...	gabigail	13	447	Aug 25, 2016 by Doingmybest
	ABF silent/avoiding me on social media and messenger (Preview) Hi guys, I have posted here before when things were not great but still okay. My SO has relapsed again and I have not spoken to him since the beginning of this month, when he called to tell me that he relapsed. We spoke for about an hour, I was mostly confused and he said that he struggles with opening up to t...	littlewing88	9	495	Aug 25, 2016 by Doingmybest
	Just for today, ... I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it (Preview) Yesterday i forgot to do an errand for my mother, and I really forgot to do it in good faith. And this morning at breakfast I felt so attacked by sarcasm from my mother and my AH. As shared before, my mom is the controlling and manipulative type. Many times my AH and my mom are at odds with each other and I am...	jocelgp	11	605	Aug 25, 2016 by Doingmybest
	How's that for a lesson in recovery? (Preview) I often forget how much my past affects how I react to others today. I often feel slighted, I fear abandonment, and I tend to take things personally but I know I've made progress because I can see other people's perspectives first now before I fly off the handle, lol. This past weekend, I saw that my bf h...	andromeda	4	477	Aug 25, 2016 by Doingmybest
	Update (Preview) So Sunday my A lover / bff and I are talking on the phone and out of the blue he asks is he can see me that day. Needless to say shock and questions flew out of my mouth - "why? what for? are you going to break my heart? is this a goodbye meeting?" He tells me "no he just wants to see me and spend time with me - he sa...	jojo8466	8	439	Aug 23, 2016 by hotrod
	Gray hairs (Preview) Ok...so while I am thinner and taking good care of myself. I noticed today, my hair is significantly graying up the sideburns and now into the rest of my hair and a large streak in my beard. Top that off, I can see some wrinkles. Some of you may laugh, but I was just looking in the mirror thinking "What the he...	pinkchip	18	624	Aug 23, 2016 by jitsuka
	And now comes the apology with the twist.. (Preview) As some of you know from my thread last Friday it hasnt been an easy week. Finally heard from the abf who states he is "very sorry for the things he said and did" Then proceeds to say "he is confused about what to do about our relationship. That its obvious we both arent getting what we want" All along my only...	Aerin	14	649	Aug 23, 2016 by CyndiODAT
	Hope for Today Aug 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Today's reading is about the special and powerful bond between sponsor and sponsee. I began working with my sponsor about three years ago, and the relationship has profoundly affected my life and strengthened my commitment to recovery. I am blessed to have a sponsor that se...	yanksfan51	2	366	Aug 23, 2016 by Iamhere
	August 20th~A year later (Preview) Hey all, Well hard to believe a year has gone by and I am still alive and well..lol..... To all of my beautiful friends even consider you all family here a great big THANK YOU!!! I honestly believe to this day if I had not found you I would not be alive today...A year ago I was ready to just lay down, call it qu...	unbroken13	7	432	Aug 23, 2016 by milkwood
	tomorrow is my birthday (Preview) I am hoping that my AH will not drink tomorrow but I will try not to let it ruin my day. I can't control his drinking and after reading posts here for the last week, I am doing better at letting go. I have even said to him, in response to a question or statement from him, that he is in charge of his drinking. My...	laxplayer24	11	464	Aug 22, 2016 by laxplayer24
	Courage to Change 22/8 (Preview) Todays c2c speaks about becoming aware of what motivates our actions. In so many cases, what drives us in the beginning is fear. Many of us are afraid to show our true emotions and hide behind a fake smile. By trusting our HP and remembering such slogans as 'Let go and let HP" and 'I came to believe" we can f...	missmeliss	3	377	Aug 22, 2016 by Jerry F
	I really need to vent..... (Preview) Why does it continue to surprise me when my AH lies????? Alcoholics are liars, plain and simple. They lie and will always lie. Does my AH think I am an idiot?? Doesn't he know that after almost 7 years I can tell when he has been drinking?? I am so sick of the lies! So instead of going out to the living r...	laxplayer24	7	533	Aug 22, 2016 by El
	more lies..... (Preview) Do the A's in our lives think we are stupid? I went into the bathroom this afternoon and it looked as if someone had vomited in the sink and hadn't done a great job cleaning it up. I came out and asked my husband if he had been sick earlier in the day. He said no, why? I told him what it looked like to me. He s...	laxplayer24	11	598	Aug 22, 2016 by Jazzie18
	how do i answer this one.... (Preview) My AH of ten asks if I am mad at him. In context, right now he is trying to quit but continues to drink (only a relatively small amount). He just asked if I am mad at him. What do you think the best response is? I said no. I am mad because he said he would quit and he hasn't yet. I am doing a great job of lettin...	laxplayer24	4	445	Aug 22, 2016 by el-cee
	Self-care improved (Preview) I need to take note when times are good. Work is good. I like my job, coworkers, my bosses and my employees. I just got a killer job evaluation and we kicked butt through a DCF audit this week. In 6 months, bosses have gone from saying, ouy of the 3 sites the company has, that we were the "short bus" center to n...	pinkchip	9	570	Aug 22, 2016 by el-cee
	Feeling a Shift (Preview) I think something has finally shifted in me. Finally. All the things that have been tarring me up inside for the past four years...my paralyzing insecurities surrounding my relationship...it's all changing. I'm not sure why or how but I am finally finding some relief. Like most of these relationsh...	Nightingale	3	386	Aug 22, 2016 by milkwood
	Searching for a meeting (Preview) Are there any meetings in Austin that I can bring my 6 month old to? Not babysitting but I want to have her in the meeting with me. My husband alcoholic left last night. I know it's not likely to find one of these meetings today but I had to ask.	Anonymouskb	5	345	Aug 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change Reading 8-21-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for August 21 speaks about some of the confusion that we feel prior to entering program . It points out that implementing slogans such as"Live and Let Live" and "Mind Your Own Business" helps to lift the confusion.. If we think about it., Al-Anon shows us how to live by using the tools...	hotrod	4	559	Aug 21, 2016 by seahorselady
	FEAR of a new careeer (Preview) Ok, I have been battling my fear of starting a new career as a financial advisor. AND, the worst part is, I'm getting resentful at my bf because he's the one pushing me to interview. I sent my resume, and dammit, they called for an interview which is scheduled for next week. Honestly, I am not sure I am c...	andromeda	10	554	Aug 21, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Lost control again - ugh (Preview) So I send a text last night to my A lover telling him I had been reading about detaching with love - I told him I loved him, how sorry I was that he had this disease and I hoped he got well soon and he had my number if he ever wanted to talk. I felt good about sending it - felt a relief - that lasted for a couple hours...	jojo8466	3	342	Aug 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Practicing the tools...baby steps big time (Preview) Hi All, I came on this board a week or two ago asking for support. I had come to the realization that my enabling was helping to cripple my adult son in life. I had a feeling he was alcoholic, but was not certain. He has lived outside of my house more than he has lived in it since he was 19. He will be turning 27 t...	seahorselady	8	474	Aug 20, 2016 by seahorselady
	New to this, Hello everyone (Preview) Hello all- This is my first time on here. I decided last night that I needed help, to deal with my mother's alcoholism. My mother has been an alcoholic since I was born, but she was in sobriety for nearly 20 years, when I was 2-21 years old. I am now almost 26, and have been dealing with this for about 5 yea...	stepbystep78	7	489	Aug 20, 2016 by Miller0582
	Learning To Cope (Preview) My father is an alcoholic. I have known this for a long time and it was never more real than two years ago when he was hospitalized. Diagnosed with cirrhosis and varicies were causing nearly fatal GI bleeds. He had to have the TIPS procedure to reduce the portal hypertension. He spent four weeks in the ho...	Miller0582	3	464	Aug 20, 2016 by Miller0582
	Phonecall when AD is drunk-how to better succeed at ending it quickly? (Preview) A boundary I have set to protect my own sanity is to not answer phone calls from my 36 yr old AD between 8 pm-8 am (ringers are turned to silent). She lives 100 miles away, so our communication is primarily via the phone but every couple of months, her sobriety allowing, we meet at a point halfway between ou...	lgnutah	7	436	Aug 20, 2016 by lgnutah
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