Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

jitsuka · jitsuka

I've been laid up in bed basically all day, this morning when I woke up I was getting worrying dizzy spells - like a swimming sensation. I've no idea what it was, bit of a headache too. I've felt exhausted, tired, really wiped out, no appetite either. Just been drinking water. Got up around 7pm to make s...

Mcat54 · Mcat54

Money is a big issue for me. I'm blessed to have a good job and have no concerns for my financial well-being. However, as I consider leaving my A, I know the division of property and assets will be a factor. We've been married six years, and we kept our money separate. I've saved a lot in company 401k, and in...

Cornwell13 · Cornwell13

Hello, I have have been dating my boyfriend for around 6 m koonths. I knew from the beginning he is an alcoholic and that he had been sober for just under a year. He recently had a relapse and told his family and I he could reel it back in with just going to meetings. It didn't work and he asked me to take him to...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for August 27 speaks about our expectations upon entering our first Al-Anon meeting .. The reading suggests that most of us thought that we would be given tools to stop the alcoholic from drinking and were disappointed .Instead,It was suggested that we were powerless over alc...

joker · joker

I have been in deep thought about my relationship with the abf. We have a house together and I went and got an apartment, as a plan B. I still have not moved any of my belongings into the apartment from the house. What am I waiting for? He has now been sober for 10 plus days and says this time, he is really done w...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

How do I change my username? My AH might recognize mine if he sees this site (if I don't close the browser).

Lovejailed · Lovejailed

So I posted here last summer. I also sat in on chat room sessions. This website opened me up to realizing what i was going to have to do to start keeping my sanity. It has helped. I went to a face to face and got to hear how people focused and remembered themselves. Boundaries are not something that was shown...

DanielleB · DanielleB

Hi, I am new. I have not started attending meetings yet but have found one in my town that I want to try. I just want to introduce myself. Long story short, I was married to a guy named Alan in 1999. He had a history of alcoholism and went through periods of severe drinking when we were married. He sober...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

"We can pave the way for calm, reasonable communication only if we first find healthy outlets for our own negative feelings." ~ The Dilemma of the Alcoholic MarriageTodays reading features an AlAnon member reflecting on the unpleasant change anger brought upon their character. The author had mad...

seahorselady · seahorselady

Hi all, quick question. i have been talking to my AS lately. I have been trying to work my program and not enable, mother or manage. I am seeing my patterns in the way I interact with him and i am becoming more thoughtful before doing or saying something that may be old behavior. So after my conversation wi...

jocelgp · jocelgp

When I came to Al-anon my morning prayers has included the Serenity Prayer, The Surrender Prayer and Just for Today. I like the Just for Today because of its similarity to the Decalogue of Pope John XXIII. This morning I was struck by this part: Just for today, I will adjust myself to what is, and not tr...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about looking back and reproaching ourselves for not knowing what we did not know. As I type that, I remember wondering and now - I see how silly it seems to me to be in 'black and white'. How of course could we know what is not revealed to us? We see when looking back that this diseas...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

I have never asked for prayers for myself (that I can recall), but today I am asking all who will to please pray for me. I, myself, can only ask "Thy Will Be Done" because I don't believe in praying for myself in such a situation. It feels selfish to me. Today is my birthday (late 40's) and I meet with my new (f...

Bee22 · Bee22

I am new to Al Anon and I am new to this forum. The A in my life is my adult sister (who I live with). She is not sober but she is trying (I am thankful for this). When she drinks, she becomes very emotional and very angry/irate specifically towards me. I know that it is the disease talking and my mother (who als...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

The other day I heard from my attorney and we are another step closer to having things pushed through court. The last court appearance hopefully ever .. however .. LOL .. time will tell. I'm waiting for things to seriously blow up on my X in regards to money with the wife. You know it doesn't matter and...

shejon · shejon

my addict husband of 26 years just got a job and he thinks that I am not happy for him, I am happy for us both because he hasn't had a stable job in 5 Years. He just recently got out of a mental health facility because he was so depressed that he wanted to kill himself because he says that not having a job makes h...

Coloradogold · Coloradogold

New to the page. I am married to a recovered acholic that is at it again. Just done with it all.

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading in Courage to Change compares our emotional awareness and growth in recovery to a music student learning how to play the piano. When first starting, the student learns just a few keys, playable with one hand. Similar, in early recovery, we begin to feel our feelings and as we grow in...

joker · joker

I am so grateful today. The ABF remains sober and its almost 2 weeks. He may have hit his bottom. I had left while he was in full fledged active drinking and just let him be. He was a complete mess after 5 days of heavy, heavy drinking. We took the empty's back for refund and there was 460 empty's. That was in a...

gabigail · gabigail

Hi everyone- As you know my AS has been in and out of the hospital all summer wirh health issues associated with alcoholism, and it has been pretty progressive. So today was the follow-up after the hospital stay. My spouse had a bad feeling about things. So, her numbers aren't good. She will need a bloo...

littlewing88 · littlewing88

Hi guys, I have posted here before when things were not great but still okay. My SO has relapsed again and I have not spoken to him since the beginning of this month, when he called to tell me that he relapsed. We spoke for about an hour, I was mostly confused and he said that he struggles with opening up to t...

jocelgp · jocelgp

Yesterday i forgot to do an errand for my mother, and I really forgot to do it in good faith. And this morning at breakfast I felt so attacked by sarcasm from my mother and my AH. As shared before, my mom is the controlling and manipulative type. Many times my AH and my mom are at odds with each other and I am...

andromeda · andromeda

I often forget how much my past affects how I react to others today. I often feel slighted, I fear abandonment, and I tend to take things personally but I know I've made progress because I can see other people's perspectives first now before I fly off the handle, lol. This past weekend, I saw that my bf h...

jojo8466 · jojo8466

So Sunday my A lover / bff and I are talking on the phone and out of the blue he asks is he can see me that day. Needless to say shock and questions flew out of my mouth - "why? what for? are you going to break my heart? is this a goodbye meeting?" He tells me "no he just wants to see me and spend time with me - he sa...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Ok...so while I am thinner and taking good care of myself. I noticed today, my hair is significantly graying up the sideburns and now into the rest of my hair and a large streak in my beard. Top that off, I can see some wrinkles. Some of you may laugh, but I was just looking in the mirror thinking "What the he...

Aerin · Aerin

As some of you know from my thread last Friday it hasnt been an easy week. Finally heard from the abf who states he is "very sorry for the things he said and did" Then proceeds to say "he is confused about what to do about our relationship. That its obvious we both arent getting what we want" All along my only...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Today's reading is about the special and powerful bond between sponsor and sponsee. I began working with my sponsor about three years ago, and the relationship has profoundly affected my life and strengthened my commitment to recovery. I am blessed to have a sponsor that se...

unbroken13 · unbroken13

Hey all, Well hard to believe a year has gone by and I am still alive and well..lol..... To all of my beautiful friends even consider you all family here a great big THANK YOU!!! I honestly believe to this day if I had not found you I would not be alive today...A year ago I was ready to just lay down, call it qu...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

I am hoping that my AH will not drink tomorrow but I will try not to let it ruin my day. I can't control his drinking and after reading posts here for the last week, I am doing better at letting go. I have even said to him, in response to a question or statement from him, that he is in charge of his drinking. My...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Todays c2c speaks about becoming aware of what motivates our actions. In so many cases, what drives us in the beginning is fear. Many of us are afraid to show our true emotions and hide behind a fake smile. By trusting our HP and remembering such slogans as 'Let go and let HP" and 'I came to believe" we can f...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

Why does it continue to surprise me when my AH lies????? Alcoholics are liars, plain and simple. They lie and will always lie. Does my AH think I am an idiot?? Doesn't he know that after almost 7 years I can tell when he has been drinking?? I am so sick of the lies! So instead of going out to the living r...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

Do the A's in our lives think we are stupid? I went into the bathroom this afternoon and it looked as if someone had vomited in the sink and hadn't done a great job cleaning it up. I came out and asked my husband if he had been sick earlier in the day. He said no, why? I told him what it looked like to me. He s...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

My AH of ten asks if I am mad at him. In context, right now he is trying to quit but continues to drink (only a relatively small amount). He just asked if I am mad at him. What do you think the best response is? I said no. I am mad because he said he would quit and he hasn't yet. I am doing a great job of lettin...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I need to take note when times are good. Work is good. I like my job, coworkers, my bosses and my employees. I just got a killer job evaluation and we kicked butt through a DCF audit this week. In 6 months, bosses have gone from saying, ouy of the 3 sites the company has, that we were the "short bus" center to n...

Nightingale · Nightingale

I think something has finally shifted in me. Finally. All the things that have been tarring me up inside for the past four years...my paralyzing insecurities surrounding my relationship...it's all changing. I'm not sure why or how but I am finally finding some relief. Like most of these relationsh...

Anonymouskb · Anonymouskb

Are there any meetings in Austin that I can bring my 6 month old to? Not babysitting but I want to have her in the meeting with me. My husband alcoholic left last night. I know it's not likely to find one of these meetings today but I had to ask.

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for August 21 speaks about some of the confusion that we feel prior to entering program . It points out that implementing slogans such as"Live and Let Live" and "Mind Your Own Business" helps to lift the confusion.. If we think about it., Al-Anon shows us how to live by using the tools...

andromeda · andromeda

Ok, I have been battling my fear of starting a new career as a financial advisor. AND, the worst part is, I'm getting resentful at my bf because he's the one pushing me to interview. I sent my resume, and dammit, they called for an interview which is scheduled for next week. Honestly, I am not sure I am c...

jojo8466 · jojo8466

So I send a text last night to my A lover telling him I had been reading about detaching with love - I told him I loved him, how sorry I was that he had this disease and I hoped he got well soon and he had my number if he ever wanted to talk. I felt good about sending it - felt a relief - that lasted for a couple hours...

seahorselady · seahorselady

Hi All, I came on this board a week or two ago asking for support. I had come to the realization that my enabling was helping to cripple my adult son in life. I had a feeling he was alcoholic, but was not certain. He has lived outside of my house more than he has lived in it since he was 19. He will be turning 27 t...

stepbystep78 · stepbystep78

Hello all- This is my first time on here. I decided last night that I needed help, to deal with my mother's alcoholism. My mother has been an alcoholic since I was born, but she was in sobriety for nearly 20 years, when I was 2-21 years old. I am now almost 26, and have been dealing with this for about 5 yea...

Miller0582 · Miller0582

My father is an alcoholic. I have known this for a long time and it was never more real than two years ago when he was hospitalized. Diagnosed with cirrhosis and varicies were causing nearly fatal GI bleeds. He had to have the TIPS procedure to reduce the portal hypertension. He spent four weeks in the ho...

lgnutah · lgnutah

A boundary I have set to protect my own sanity is to not answer phone calls from my 36 yr old AD between 8 pm-8 am (ringers are turned to silent). She lives 100 miles away, so our communication is primarily via the phone but every couple of months, her sobriety allowing, we meet at a point halfway between ou...

jojo8466 · jojo8466

What exactly does that mean? Does that mean I no longer call or text my alcoholic friend? Should I not answer their texts or calls if they contact me? Do I cut off all communication with them? I want to do what I can to help them get better.....but as I read that I remember "I didn't cause it, I can't cont...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha MIP family and thank you for the gift of your ESH. I woke up this morning and just as I did noticed that a message was coming over my cell. It was from my wife who is still in Central Valley CA. for a little bit. She sent her best wishes and congratulations on our 22 year of marriage...22 years!! th...

jojo8466 · jojo8466

My alcoholic lover text me this afternoon that he "needs me to stay away from him physically because he is getting ready to detox soon. But he wants to stay in touch with me daily to let me know how he is doing and where he is at". Well guess what ???....THAT doesn't work for me!!! WHY is it ALWAYS about the...

joker · joker

i have been reading on line and thought about all the al-anon tools: 1. Do not react 2, Detach and let them be 3. Have a plan B,C,D, when the active alcoholism gets bad and you have to leave for your sanity, either to a friends, a hotel, family, shelter, anywhere safe 4. Do not JADE Justify, Argue, Defend...

milkwood · milkwood

I just overheard my husband talking to someone about me. It is a conversation that I should not have heard but I am pleased that I did. Now I know how AH represents me to others, how his mind works and how utterly hopeless it is to expect any change in that. I think that I just lost the last grain of respect...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for August 20 speaks about the black-and-white thinking that many of us depended upon when entering program . The reading points out that thanks to Al-Anon's principles and tools, we can learn to view situations in a more objective manner and, while keeping an open mind, learn to...

gabigail · gabigail

Hi everyone On my way to work this morning I heard this new medical study that they did on the effects of marriage and problem drinkers. It was by Dr. Sanjay Gupta and I thought when I heard it it was a bunch of bs. Basically what it said was that if you were married the chances are 70% less likely that som...

Hopeful925 · Hopeful925

I haven't been on the Board for the past few years, luckily, as my AB has been sober since 11.22.13! Working his program, doing well. What I'm struggling with is Hypervigilance....watching him like a Hawk...looking for signs of a slip. At times it abates, but at other times he looks and acts "differe...

lookingup · lookingup

goodmorning to all my alanon family,has anybody have any info as to what,where and when the mip meetings are??or are they just being postponed for now????.........thank you all.......hugs lu

a4l · a4l

I've come to realise I'm not a city girl unless I'm free of encumberances such as domesticity and small children. An opportunity has arisen to leave seeedney and its sparkling harbours which I have not managed to enjoy in almost four years of living here. I felt attached to this city the moment I firs...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Things are still in a tangle here. I let x sis in law help with tax situation and because of XAH's refusal to cooperate, things arent getting done. Werid feeling, having xsis in law describe all his behaviors and all the yelling, drinking and other horrible behavior xah has. Dejavu for me and new for her...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about brutal honesty with ourselves and awareness of reality. So often those of us affected by this disease struggle to 'see' reality as our views, attitudes and values have been distorted by reacting to the disease. The writer discusses the process of realizing that he/sh...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Good morning all As I don't have to put my Superwoman outfit on today to run the world, I thought I would take a ride into town. Have a nice little wander about. The sales are on do I might spot a lovely bargain for myself. I am wearing my smart yet comfortable shoes. Love love love comfortable shoes. Having...

jocelgp · jocelgp

I have posted before that my AH and I lives in my 83 year old mom's house. Because of family circumstances I feel I am morally obliged to stay with my aging mom. It has always been that I find myself caught between my AH and my mom's wanting to control some situations in our life. Where I live there is a cult...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Really. My Higher Power loves to bless me...thinks up the times and places and methods and just knows I have lots of gratitude to show for it and then pass it on to others. I was early for the morning meeting and I think it is because I am getting older as the reason and not the I am being manipulated by my...

Spotster · Spotster

As I sit here, my alcoholic husband is out looking at an apartment. He says we no longer have a relationship. This, after 45 years of marriage and one-and-a-half years of sobriety. I was looking for advice when I came across this site and saw James letter about how AA ruined his life and felt compelle...

Desperateinnyc · Desperateinnyc

Hi, I have found enormous support and faith on this board, so I feel comfortable in sharing this..anyway, my fiancé, is an alcoholic, and it's gotten pretty difficult. He knows he needs help, as do I..and we are slowly getting there. Anyway, I have in the past shared with his ex wife, my concerns, and sh...

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	Selfish A's (Preview) I've been laid up in bed basically all day, this morning when I woke up I was getting worrying dizzy spells - like a swimming sensation. I've no idea what it was, bit of a headache too. I've felt exhausted, tired, really wiped out, no appetite either. Just been drinking water. Got up around 7pm to make s...	jitsuka	11	739	Aug 28, 2016 by jitsuka
	Financial perspective needed (Preview) Money is a big issue for me. I'm blessed to have a good job and have no concerns for my financial well-being. However, as I consider leaving my A, I know the division of property and assets will be a factor. We've been married six years, and we kept our money separate. I've saved a lot in company 401k, and in...	Mcat54	3	391	Aug 27, 2016 by Jerry F
	Newbie and need advice! (Preview) Hello, I have have been dating my boyfriend for around 6 m koonths. I knew from the beginning he is an alcoholic and that he had been sober for just under a year. He recently had a relapse and told his family and I he could reel it back in with just going to meetings. It didn't work and he asked me to take him to...	Cornwell13	2	264	Aug 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C August 27-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for August 27 speaks about our expectations upon entering our first Al-Anon meeting .. The reading suggests that most of us thought that we would be given tools to stop the alcoholic from drinking and were disappointed .Instead,It was suggested that we were powerless over alc...	hotrod	1	334	Aug 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	what is wrong with me and why can I not leave the abf (Preview) I have been in deep thought about my relationship with the abf. We have a house together and I went and got an apartment, as a plan B. I still have not moved any of my belongings into the apartment from the house. What am I waiting for? He has now been sober for 10 plus days and says this time, he is really done w...	joker	17	585	Aug 27, 2016 by CyndiODAT
	technical question (Preview) How do I change my username? My AH might recognize mine if he sees this site (if I don't close the browser).	laxplayer24	4	275	Aug 27, 2016 by hotrod
	The sad slow awakening to walking away. (Preview) So I posted here last summer. I also sat in on chat room sessions. This website opened me up to realizing what i was going to have to do to start keeping my sanity. It has helped. I went to a face to face and got to hear how people focused and remembered themselves. Boundaries are not something that was shown...	Lovejailed	2	448	Aug 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	introduction (Preview) Hi, I am new. I have not started attending meetings yet but have found one in my town that I want to try. I just want to introduce myself. Long story short, I was married to a guy named Alan in 1999. He had a history of alcoholism and went through periods of severe drinking when we were married. He sober...	DanielleB	4	455	Aug 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C 8/24 Anger - Let it Begin With Me (Preview) "We can pave the way for calm, reasonable communication only if we first find healthy outlets for our own negative feelings." ~ The Dilemma of the Alcoholic MarriageTodays reading features an AlAnon member reflecting on the unpleasant change anger brought upon their character. The author had mad...	Enigmatic	6	951	Aug 26, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	a quick question (Preview) Hi all, quick question. i have been talking to my AS lately. I have been trying to work my program and not enable, mother or manage. I am seeing my patterns in the way I interact with him and i am becoming more thoughtful before doing or saying something that may be old behavior. So after my conversation wi...	seahorselady	8	384	Aug 26, 2016 by seahorselady
	Another JUST FOR TODAY (Preview) When I came to Al-anon my morning prayers has included the Serenity Prayer, The Surrender Prayer and Just for Today. I like the Just for Today because of its similarity to the Decalogue of Pope John XXIII. This morning I was struck by this part: Just for today, I will adjust myself to what is, and not tr...	jocelgp	5	388	Aug 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/26/16 (Preview) Today's reading talks about looking back and reproaching ourselves for not knowing what we did not know. As I type that, I remember wondering and now - I see how silly it seems to me to be in 'black and white'. How of course could we know what is not revealed to us? We see when looking back that this diseas...	Iamhere	1	344	Aug 26, 2016 by hotrod
	Asking for prayers from those who pray (Preview) I have never asked for prayers for myself (that I can recall), but today I am asking all who will to please pray for me. I, myself, can only ask "Thy Will Be Done" because I don't believe in praying for myself in such a situation. It feels selfish to me. Today is my birthday (late 40's) and I meet with my new (f...	Doingmybest	13	526	Aug 25, 2016 by tiredtonite
	Taking the verbal abuse personally (Preview) I am new to Al Anon and I am new to this forum. The A in my life is my adult sister (who I live with). She is not sober but she is trying (I am thankful for this). When she drinks, she becomes very emotional and very angry/irate specifically towards me. I know that it is the disease talking and my mother (who als...	Bee22	3	442	Aug 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	Another step closer to being done .. (Preview) The other day I heard from my attorney and we are another step closer to having things pushed through court. The last court appearance hopefully ever .. however .. LOL .. time will tell. I'm waiting for things to seriously blow up on my X in regards to money with the wife. You know it doesn't matter and...	SerenityRUS	5	494	Aug 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	feeling frustrated (Preview) my addict husband of 26 years just got a job and he thinks that I am not happy for him, I am happy for us both because he hasn't had a stable job in 5 Years. He just recently got out of a mental health facility because he was so depressed that he wanted to kill himself because he says that not having a job makes h...	shejon	6	502	Aug 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	How do I handle it all?? (Preview) New to the page. I am married to a recovered acholic that is at it again. Just done with it all.	Coloradogold	4	474	Aug 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/25/16 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change compares our emotional awareness and growth in recovery to a music student learning how to play the piano. When first starting, the student learns just a few keys, playable with one hand. Similar, in early recovery, we begin to feel our feelings and as we grow in...	Iamhere	4	412	Aug 25, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	progress (Preview) I am so grateful today. The ABF remains sober and its almost 2 weeks. He may have hit his bottom. I had left while he was in full fledged active drinking and just let him be. He was a complete mess after 5 days of heavy, heavy drinking. We took the empty's back for refund and there was 460 empty's. That was in a...	joker	4	323	Aug 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	Bad news (Preview) Hi everyone- As you know my AS has been in and out of the hospital all summer wirh health issues associated with alcoholism, and it has been pretty progressive. So today was the follow-up after the hospital stay. My spouse had a bad feeling about things. So, her numbers aren't good. She will need a bloo...	gabigail	13	443	Aug 25, 2016 by Doingmybest
	ABF silent/avoiding me on social media and messenger (Preview) Hi guys, I have posted here before when things were not great but still okay. My SO has relapsed again and I have not spoken to him since the beginning of this month, when he called to tell me that he relapsed. We spoke for about an hour, I was mostly confused and he said that he struggles with opening up to t...	littlewing88	9	495	Aug 25, 2016 by Doingmybest
	Just for today, ... I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it (Preview) Yesterday i forgot to do an errand for my mother, and I really forgot to do it in good faith. And this morning at breakfast I felt so attacked by sarcasm from my mother and my AH. As shared before, my mom is the controlling and manipulative type. Many times my AH and my mom are at odds with each other and I am...	jocelgp	11	600	Aug 25, 2016 by Doingmybest
	How's that for a lesson in recovery? (Preview) I often forget how much my past affects how I react to others today. I often feel slighted, I fear abandonment, and I tend to take things personally but I know I've made progress because I can see other people's perspectives first now before I fly off the handle, lol. This past weekend, I saw that my bf h...	andromeda	4	474	Aug 25, 2016 by Doingmybest
	Update (Preview) So Sunday my A lover / bff and I are talking on the phone and out of the blue he asks is he can see me that day. Needless to say shock and questions flew out of my mouth - "why? what for? are you going to break my heart? is this a goodbye meeting?" He tells me "no he just wants to see me and spend time with me - he sa...	jojo8466	8	432	Aug 23, 2016 by hotrod
	Gray hairs (Preview) Ok...so while I am thinner and taking good care of myself. I noticed today, my hair is significantly graying up the sideburns and now into the rest of my hair and a large streak in my beard. Top that off, I can see some wrinkles. Some of you may laugh, but I was just looking in the mirror thinking "What the he...	pinkchip	18	613	Aug 23, 2016 by jitsuka
	And now comes the apology with the twist.. (Preview) As some of you know from my thread last Friday it hasnt been an easy week. Finally heard from the abf who states he is "very sorry for the things he said and did" Then proceeds to say "he is confused about what to do about our relationship. That its obvious we both arent getting what we want" All along my only...	Aerin	14	639	Aug 23, 2016 by CyndiODAT
	Hope for Today Aug 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Today's reading is about the special and powerful bond between sponsor and sponsee. I began working with my sponsor about three years ago, and the relationship has profoundly affected my life and strengthened my commitment to recovery. I am blessed to have a sponsor that se...	yanksfan51	2	365	Aug 23, 2016 by Iamhere
	August 20th~A year later (Preview) Hey all, Well hard to believe a year has gone by and I am still alive and well..lol..... To all of my beautiful friends even consider you all family here a great big THANK YOU!!! I honestly believe to this day if I had not found you I would not be alive today...A year ago I was ready to just lay down, call it qu...	unbroken13	7	432	Aug 23, 2016 by milkwood
	tomorrow is my birthday (Preview) I am hoping that my AH will not drink tomorrow but I will try not to let it ruin my day. I can't control his drinking and after reading posts here for the last week, I am doing better at letting go. I have even said to him, in response to a question or statement from him, that he is in charge of his drinking. My...	laxplayer24	11	463	Aug 22, 2016 by laxplayer24
	Courage to Change 22/8 (Preview) Todays c2c speaks about becoming aware of what motivates our actions. In so many cases, what drives us in the beginning is fear. Many of us are afraid to show our true emotions and hide behind a fake smile. By trusting our HP and remembering such slogans as 'Let go and let HP" and 'I came to believe" we can f...	missmeliss	3	370	Aug 22, 2016 by Jerry F
	I really need to vent..... (Preview) Why does it continue to surprise me when my AH lies????? Alcoholics are liars, plain and simple. They lie and will always lie. Does my AH think I am an idiot?? Doesn't he know that after almost 7 years I can tell when he has been drinking?? I am so sick of the lies! So instead of going out to the living r...	laxplayer24	7	533	Aug 22, 2016 by El
	more lies..... (Preview) Do the A's in our lives think we are stupid? I went into the bathroom this afternoon and it looked as if someone had vomited in the sink and hadn't done a great job cleaning it up. I came out and asked my husband if he had been sick earlier in the day. He said no, why? I told him what it looked like to me. He s...	laxplayer24	11	591	Aug 22, 2016 by Jazzie18
	how do i answer this one.... (Preview) My AH of ten asks if I am mad at him. In context, right now he is trying to quit but continues to drink (only a relatively small amount). He just asked if I am mad at him. What do you think the best response is? I said no. I am mad because he said he would quit and he hasn't yet. I am doing a great job of lettin...	laxplayer24	4	436	Aug 22, 2016 by el-cee
	Self-care improved (Preview) I need to take note when times are good. Work is good. I like my job, coworkers, my bosses and my employees. I just got a killer job evaluation and we kicked butt through a DCF audit this week. In 6 months, bosses have gone from saying, ouy of the 3 sites the company has, that we were the "short bus" center to n...	pinkchip	9	569	Aug 22, 2016 by el-cee
	Feeling a Shift (Preview) I think something has finally shifted in me. Finally. All the things that have been tarring me up inside for the past four years...my paralyzing insecurities surrounding my relationship...it's all changing. I'm not sure why or how but I am finally finding some relief. Like most of these relationsh...	Nightingale	3	380	Aug 22, 2016 by milkwood
	Searching for a meeting (Preview) Are there any meetings in Austin that I can bring my 6 month old to? Not babysitting but I want to have her in the meeting with me. My husband alcoholic left last night. I know it's not likely to find one of these meetings today but I had to ask.	Anonymouskb	5	338	Aug 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change Reading 8-21-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for August 21 speaks about some of the confusion that we feel prior to entering program . It points out that implementing slogans such as"Live and Let Live" and "Mind Your Own Business" helps to lift the confusion.. If we think about it., Al-Anon shows us how to live by using the tools...	hotrod	4	551	Aug 21, 2016 by seahorselady
	FEAR of a new careeer (Preview) Ok, I have been battling my fear of starting a new career as a financial advisor. AND, the worst part is, I'm getting resentful at my bf because he's the one pushing me to interview. I sent my resume, and dammit, they called for an interview which is scheduled for next week. Honestly, I am not sure I am c...	andromeda	10	526	Aug 21, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Lost control again - ugh (Preview) So I send a text last night to my A lover telling him I had been reading about detaching with love - I told him I loved him, how sorry I was that he had this disease and I hoped he got well soon and he had my number if he ever wanted to talk. I felt good about sending it - felt a relief - that lasted for a couple hours...	jojo8466	3	342	Aug 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Practicing the tools...baby steps big time (Preview) Hi All, I came on this board a week or two ago asking for support. I had come to the realization that my enabling was helping to cripple my adult son in life. I had a feeling he was alcoholic, but was not certain. He has lived outside of my house more than he has lived in it since he was 19. He will be turning 27 t...	seahorselady	8	473	Aug 20, 2016 by seahorselady
	New to this, Hello everyone (Preview) Hello all- This is my first time on here. I decided last night that I needed help, to deal with my mother's alcoholism. My mother has been an alcoholic since I was born, but she was in sobriety for nearly 20 years, when I was 2-21 years old. I am now almost 26, and have been dealing with this for about 5 yea...	stepbystep78	7	489	Aug 20, 2016 by Miller0582
	Learning To Cope (Preview) My father is an alcoholic. I have known this for a long time and it was never more real than two years ago when he was hospitalized. Diagnosed with cirrhosis and varicies were causing nearly fatal GI bleeds. He had to have the TIPS procedure to reduce the portal hypertension. He spent four weeks in the ho...	Miller0582	3	456	Aug 20, 2016 by Miller0582
	Phonecall when AD is drunk-how to better succeed at ending it quickly? (Preview) A boundary I have set to protect my own sanity is to not answer phone calls from my 36 yr old AD between 8 pm-8 am (ringers are turned to silent). She lives 100 miles away, so our communication is primarily via the phone but every couple of months, her sobriety allowing, we meet at a point halfway between ou...	lgnutah	7	429	Aug 20, 2016 by lgnutah
	Question about "detaching with love" (Preview) What exactly does that mean? Does that mean I no longer call or text my alcoholic friend? Should I not answer their texts or calls if they contact me? Do I cut off all communication with them? I want to do what I can to help them get better.....but as I read that I remember "I didn't cause it, I can't cont...	jojo8466	9	620	Aug 20, 2016 by Sandy408
	This works when ...you work it. (Preview) Aloha MIP family and thank you for the gift of your ESH. I woke up this morning and just as I did noticed that a message was coming over my cell. It was from my wife who is still in Central Valley CA. for a little bit. She sent her best wishes and congratulations on our 22 year of marriage...22 years!! th...	Jerry F	4	425	Aug 20, 2016 by Iamhere
	WHY???? (Preview) My alcoholic lover text me this afternoon that he "needs me to stay away from him physically because he is getting ready to detox soon. But he wants to stay in touch with me daily to let me know how he is doing and where he is at". Well guess what ???....THAT doesn't work for me!!! WHY is it ALWAYS about the...	jojo8466	13	525	Aug 20, 2016 by Iamhere
	al-anon tools (Preview) i have been reading on line and thought about all the al-anon tools: 1. Do not react 2, Detach and let them be 3. Have a plan B,C,D, when the active alcoholism gets bad and you have to leave for your sanity, either to a friends, a hotel, family, shelter, anywhere safe 4. Do not JADE Justify, Argue, Defend...	joker	4	1830	Aug 20, 2016 by tiredtonite
	More will be revealed... (Preview) I just overheard my husband talking to someone about me. It is a conversation that I should not have heard but I am pleased that I did. Now I know how AH represents me to others, how his mind works and how utterly hopeless it is to expect any change in that. I think that I just lost the last grain of respect...	milkwood	19	552	Aug 20, 2016 by milkwood
	Courage to Change reading 8-20-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for August 20 speaks about the black-and-white thinking that many of us depended upon when entering program . The reading points out that thanks to Al-Anon's principles and tools, we can learn to view situations in a more objective manner and, while keeping an open mind, learn to...	hotrod	3	391	Aug 20, 2016 by Iamhere
	Heard about this new medical study -I don't buy it! (Preview) Hi everyone On my way to work this morning I heard this new medical study that they did on the effects of marriage and problem drinkers. It was by Dr. Sanjay Gupta and I thought when I heard it it was a bunch of bs. Basically what it said was that if you were married the chances are 70% less likely that som...	gabigail	7	450	Aug 20, 2016 by gabigail
	Hypervigilance...is this ever going to subside? (Preview) I haven't been on the Board for the past few years, luckily, as my AB has been sober since 11.22.13! Working his program, doing well. What I'm struggling with is Hypervigilance....watching him like a Hawk...looking for signs of a slip. At times it abates, but at other times he looks and acts "differe...	Hopeful925	5	521	Aug 19, 2016 by Jerry F
	Meetings (Preview) goodmorning to all my alanon family,has anybody have any info as to what,where and when the mip meetings are??or are they just being postponed for now????.........thank you all.......hugs lu	lookingup	2	287	Aug 19, 2016 by lookingup
	eureka....city life is not for me yet. (Preview) I've come to realise I'm not a city girl unless I'm free of encumberances such as domesticity and small children. An opportunity has arisen to leave seeedney and its sparkling harbours which I have not managed to enjoy in almost four years of living here. I felt attached to this city the moment I firs...	a4l	4	349	Aug 19, 2016 by hotrod
	Sis in law [XAH's sis} (Preview) Things are still in a tangle here. I let x sis in law help with tax situation and because of XAH's refusal to cooperate, things arent getting done. Werid feeling, having xsis in law describe all his behaviors and all the yelling, drinking and other horrible behavior xah has. Dejavu for me and new for her...	YARNCRAZY	2	296	Aug 19, 2016 by hotrod
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/19/16 (Preview) Today's reading talks about brutal honesty with ourselves and awareness of reality. So often those of us affected by this disease struggle to 'see' reality as our views, attitudes and values have been distorted by reacting to the disease. The writer discusses the process of realizing that he/sh...	Iamhere	7	391	Aug 19, 2016 by hotrod
	Plans for the day (Preview) Good morning all As I don't have to put my Superwoman outfit on today to run the world, I thought I would take a ride into town. Have a nice little wander about. The sales are on do I might spot a lovely bargain for myself. I am wearing my smart yet comfortable shoes. Love love love comfortable shoes. Having...	Calm Lady	11	714	Aug 19, 2016 by Calm Lady
	AH and my manipulative and controlling mom, how do i deal with this? (Preview) I have posted before that my AH and I lives in my 83 year old mom's house. Because of family circumstances I feel I am morally obliged to stay with my aging mom. It has always been that I find myself caught between my AH and my mom's wanting to control some situations in our life. Where I live there is a cult...	jocelgp	4	2267	Aug 19, 2016 by jocelgp
	Letting my self get blessed... (Preview) Really. My Higher Power loves to bless me...thinks up the times and places and methods and just knows I have lots of gratitude to show for it and then pass it on to others. I was early for the morning meeting and I think it is because I am getting older as the reason and not the I am being manipulated by my...	Jerry F	7	429	Aug 19, 2016 by Iamhere
	AA ruining my family ... has ruined my family (Preview) As I sit here, my alcoholic husband is out looking at an apartment. He says we no longer have a relationship. This, after 45 years of marriage and one-and-a-half years of sobriety. I was looking for advice when I came across this site and saw James letter about how AA ruined his life and felt compelle...	Spotster	36	7720	Aug 19, 2016 by Iamhere
	If anyone can relate, I am dumbfounded (Preview) Hi, I have found enormous support and faith on this board, so I feel comfortable in sharing this..anyway, my fiancé, is an alcoholic, and it's gotten pretty difficult. He knows he needs help, as do I..and we are slowly getting there. Anyway, I have in the past shared with his ex wife, my concerns, and sh...	Desperateinnyc	5	428	Aug 19, 2016 by Iamhere
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