Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

MarciaP · MarciaP

I just received this workbook and I love it and can not wait to get started. Should I wait until I have a sponsor to start this? There are 4 people in my group that might be potential sponsors for me but I am still having trouble with courage to ask. Thanks!

jojo8466 · jojo8466

This whole detaching with love thing would be a lot easier if we didn't live in the electronic age of cell phones, emails, texts, face times, facebook etc.......it's hard to stick to your boundaries when the person constantly on your mind is just a push of a button away from contact -

easterjane · easterjane

Hi everyone. This is my first time on the forums. I have been attending al anon for the past few months and it has helped me immensely. My husband had been in recovery for 7 months, 3 of these in intense residential rehab, he is now living in supported accommodation and attends aftercare with the same pro...

Charlotte22 · Charlotte22

I am going to need to go to TONS of meetings to handle what is going on in my life. I am very ashamed to share this but my ex husband was arrested for some "billing" issue in 2010. we both thought it was a mistake and the government will not let go of it! They will NOT settle and we have a 13 year old son. My hus...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Yesterday in our F2F meeting, we were talking about Acceptance. As a double-winner, I have the pleasure of tons of literature from both sides of the table. This popped into my head and I promised to bring it back to the group next week. I've modified it just a bit to remove one line for As - it's conside...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about Step 1 - "We admitted we are powerless over alcohol and our lives have become unmanageable." The writer suggests that one word describes this step for them - that word is Grief. They had a friend who rapidly progressed through the disease from reasonable health and apparen...

jojo8466 · jojo8466

I don't understand why somedays I feel so strong and other days so week - I've done really well not contacting him for a couple of days and then last night and this morning I sent texts and called him. UGH. I just make myself a nervous wreck and sick by trying to contact him and then anxious on whether he wi...

A new member at my home group · e_i_m

I was at my home group meeting tonight -- great meeting, as it always is. I feel very comfortable there, and I have been wanting to make friends with people from al-anon outside of the meetings, but it has never happened. I've called a couple of people and they never called me back, and I've hung around ho...

abc3613 · abc3613

Hello. This is my first post to this board so please bear with me if I make a mistake or ramble too much. I have been married to my alcoholic husband for 14 years and a total together of 18 years. We have 3 boys ages 13,9, and 3. His drinking progressively became out of control over the last 3 years, coming to a...

Mcat54 · Mcat54

My AH suggested inviting my mom for dinner Saturday and offered to call. We spent morning and early afternoon apart. He texts me that my mom accepted. Great. I get home, and we talk about dinner with mom. He has red wine stains on his mouth. Off balance. I say I'm going to have a nap. He says he will nap wi...

jojo8466 · jojo8466

So I'm at work today and I get a text from my ABF stating that "ok I'm doing it again...going into detox...please don't text or call me...they will have my phone....I'll text and call when I can....I'm so very sorry I'm doing this again." - to which I replied "that's OK babe...just get well". Thanks to fi...

Lori62 · Lori62

Hello, This is so painfully hard to see what happened in the last week. My son, was charged w/ a DUI and it's been a nightmare. He's really a great son who made a bad choice. he wasn't driving, but the engine was on. He fell asleep, he had plucked over on a side street to eat and fell asleep, that's when the...

jojo8466 · jojo8466

Just curious - how long does it take for the alcohol and effects from it to leave an alcoholics brain and their true personality is finally revealed? I read two years somewhere but don't know if that's true.

joker · joker

I am not sure what has happened but the alcoholic bf remains sober-2 weeks since his last bender and went back to work. He has money too and has not run to the liquor store. Its a blessing for today! The home is so much saner now and calmer. How long will this last, I am not certain. But for today, its calm. For...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses the Second Tradition and how each group through the group conscience can modify, evolve and change to benefit those in search of support because of Alcoholism. The writer suggests their home group meetings had became stale, and membership was primarily status quo with...

Bri23 · Bri23

Hello all, I've never been on here before, or even posted on a forum before. I am basically willing to try anything at this point though. I am in a newer relationship with someone who has completed the 12 step program and was sober for a couple years. He started drinking again though (a while before we sta...

Fedora · Fedora

I have a general question about forgiving people. I saw that there was another thread related to this topic but I didn't want to hijack that person's thread as my question is kind of general. I've heard it often said that "forgiving is not forgetting", and that forgiving involves letting go of hurts/...

hotrod · hotrod

.http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t62596671/alanon-step-1-sept-1-2016/

e_i_m · e_i_m

I'm coming to the realization that I have smothered my authentic self and don't know myself all that well, and now I want the real me to come blooming out. I am feeling very energized and excited about really knowing myself and starting to express my likes and dislikes, my preferences, and what I care ab...

lookingup · lookingup

This is a tough one for me bounderies,setting them and how to verblly say them with consequences to follow?? My story today is after all my drama and chaos of getting my qualifiers out of my home last night night my ex addict boyfriend kept texting my ph,im very much over him though he stole my billfold an...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them to fit our own image. ~ Thomas MertonTodays reading addresses the tendency to try to change other people. The author admitted they regularly attempted this to ensure they got what they wanted out of a relationsh...

pinksurvivor · pinksurvivor

So I finally stood up for myself and actually called the police this time. Why is it that I am blamed for everything wrong in his life? He was an alcoholic before I met him and he's still an alcoholic now. The alcoholic in question has a huge support group of enablers-his boss, his sister, his co-workers,...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Im so grateful to be out of the insanity, the whirling dervish that was my life 8 mths ago. XAH has of course relapsed after his 4-5 mth stay in rehab and now down the slippery slope to death by bottle of vodka[ many bottles of vodka] Me, Im unemployed still, money running low but Im happier then Ive been ev...

alanonfan · alanonfan

I've spend the best part of the day on step 4 and it's emotionally exhausting and will take me months but I'm loving it and it's making me think very carefully about my behaviour. They should teach this in school :)

CH_Husband_Dad · CH_Husband_Dad

I went to my first meeting yesterday. I will go back but I'm just not sure. One issue is that my hearing is not good enough and I missed so much. When you don't know what's going on to begin with that makes it difficult. I didn't research it before I went. I was kind of hoping for a two way conversation typ...

laxplayer24 · laxplayer24

I have tried meetings in the past and heard how you have to not let his drinking affect you......live your own life etc. How is that possible?? If you are married or live together then you can't just live your own life. Bills need to be paid. I am married to a binge drinker alcoholic. He can stay drunk f...

Desperateinnyc · Desperateinnyc

I wrote a lot, always did. In some ways it helps me get rid of some stuff, leave it on the page so to speak, and I also like to go back to it, after some time and see how I've grown..I wrote this tonight, just because I was angry, and I wanted to get it out and pit somewhere..it felt good. No id never show my BF, or h...

alanonfan · alanonfan

Hello fellow alanoners. I've been hanging out here and going to meetings for quite some time and suddenly I've seen the light. I woke up this morning to a barrage of abuse from my A who was using words like 'scumbag' 'utter b***d' 'piece of filth' and of course turning everything around to blame me. I hav...

shimo · shimo

Al-Anon meeting in the chat room begins in approximately 20 minutes. Come on in and join us!

likemyheart · likemyheart

Reading Serenity's recent post about what she doesn't miss - I can echo that sentiment, I do NOT miss the craziness of being part of an alcohol-fueled relationship. But it gets me thinkin, something I'm accused of over-doing (but brain doesn't have an off switch right Serenity?); anyway, thinking a...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

So had a nice day, been working and loving my program. Pleasant light hearted banter between AH and myself. We were cleaning the kitchen together. I jokingly pointed out the ring of crumbs on the floor when AH stands to have his midnight feast each night. In an instant, he turned nasty. This is what I do...

Rebrose8 · Rebrose8

HI there I'm new and need help I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and when I meet him I thought he was the greats guy and still is when he don't drink. Latter I found out he has a past with DUIs and has a record. I looked past the cuse we all have a past. I fell in love with him and still im. The thing is that w...

Doyouseeme · Doyouseeme

My husband is a crack addict. He has hurt me physically and emotionally. He is mean anne has no control over hours anger. Married for 4 hellush years I feel under stupid. My mom and dad where drug/alcohol addicts. Help

Searchingforpeace · Searchingforpeace

Hi, I just found this board today. After reading a few of the posts, I think this is where I need to be. I have two qualifiers, my father (who doesn't drink much anymore, but still retains the personality) & my husband (a binge drinker). I can't control anything anymore, and I need to learn how to set b...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Today's c2c talks about guilt and shame, and the tendency we have to relive all of our poor behaviours over and over and allow them to weigh us down. In step 8, when we list persons we have harmed and become willing to make amends, these terrible burdens can become more managable and the thought of settin...

Samantha4073 · Samantha4073

Hello everyone. I am new here and this is my first time reaching out. My husband is an alcoholic-a very high functioning one. His family and coworkers would never in a million years guess he has a problem. My family loves him and thinks he is the 'nicest guy' as well. He has maybe one friend and he doe...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

This is definitely one of my character defects. For me, putting things off is usually tied into some sort of fear - fear of financial insecurity, fear of change, failure, embarrassment etc. These things can be subtle at times because I don't live with a lot of drama and chaos anymore. Inaction doesn't...

Dlove · Dlove

I haven't been on here in a long time. My AH went from bad to worse, hit rock bottom and got sober. Yay! Right? He hasn't gone to any AA meetings or counseling but has been going to church with me twice a week. We have been very happy. It's like I got my best friend back! When he hit rock bottom he opened up about...

Desperateinnyc · Desperateinnyc

I realize this has probably been addressed here before. And that the response is that it's different for everyone. But I am struggling to know, when do I give up, when do I say, that's it, good luck, but I'm out, and when do I say no, I'm not going to leave, because everything about u that I hate is because yo...

seahorselady · seahorselady

I have stopped all enabling with my AS couple weeks ago knowing that he, as far as I know, is still without means, brings me to tears. I have to keep my head in recovery every day to remind myself why I'm doing this. The last couple of conversations via messenger we've had have been frank ones. He admitted...

Wilady8 · Wilady8

When I first meet, my now fiancé, I had little knowledge or understanding of alcoholism. I was oblivious to the fact that my father suffered from alcoholism and drug addicted which lead to his recent death. Since it is a huge part of his life/my life I started reading researching about it. I have been to...

Crau · Crau

Sometimes life likes to remind you to stay alert and be on the lookout for icebergs/roadblocks/wrecking balls/etc. I missed my weekly meeting tonight for a fantasy football draft--it's my favorite time of year so definitely made it a priority today. That being said, a meeting a would have been ni...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is about taking the time to cherish those small moments of our lives that mean so much. The program and my faith in my Hp help me to stop and soak in the wonder of a sunrise or sunset. When I hear my kids laughing together, or have just had a connection in conversation...

Hopeful2112 · Hopeful2112

Hi folks, I've been missing meetings, isolating and feeling generally pretty rubbish, basically running off my own self will and blocking my HP from every aspect of my life. Finally reconnected with my sponsor and attended a meeting..... The meeting I thought was crap, but my HP always tries... I l...

pinkchip · pinkchip

It dawned on me a few years into recovery that I had no internal voice that looked after me, rooted for me, said nice things to me, validated me, assured me, and cheered me on. I had no inner cheerleader. Rather, I had inner voices telling me I was weak, couldn't make it on my own, didn't deserve good things...

Theotis5555 · Theotis5555

Will set a little context. My ex-wife has been active on and off for the past 11 years. Long story short. Two kids, age 14. She's had three major relapses/events. Episode one (Kids age 4): A few bottles of wine, pills, razor and bathtub. Kids find her. Hospital. Three day hold. ---a whole lot of...

deacon · deacon

We were at a social gathering yesterday. Some people we know well, others are acquaintances and neighbours. Two women beside me started talking about another woman 'throwing her daughter out of the house' and how unfeeling she was. And went on to say that they would never do such a thing to their child...

Charlotte22 · Charlotte22

hi Everyone! I recently started back in al anon (after going for 10 years from 30-40 years old) and in my town there is cross talk and gossip so I prefer PHONE MEETINGS that I just discovered. I am recently separated but having a VERy tough time as my parents are elderly and I also have a 13 year old to rais...

Wendy8 · Wendy8

Please help me figure out what is best to do. My 24 year old AS lives with us. He is drinking more and more. I cry all the time go to alanon but feel so sad. My husband his father is done. We have tried everything to help him but it's not worked so far. Setting boundaries is scarey for me. I want someone to tell me...

oceanpine · oceanpine

Hello all- I haven't posted in a long while, but I read and learn every day. I'm feeling really sad today. And also, confused. I'm getting more and more confused about enabling. I moved out over a year ago, when I couldn't stand my AH's secret drinking, lying about it, and the ensuing verbal abuse. I'...

e_i_m · e_i_m

One of the things I often do is isolate myself and then complain and feel sorry for myself that no one loves me (which to me equals pays attention to me). As I am going through this process, I realize more every day how much I have made attention from others my source of validation and my definition of love....

Momforever · Momforever

Hello! I awoke this morning exhausted and wanting to hear from someone who is or has gone through my situation. My adult son has severe alcoholic induced liver cirrhosis, non-viral hepatitis, and Ascites. He has been in the hospital more than not since March 2016. He is 39, divorced, unable to work,...

oceanpine · oceanpine

My separated AH and I are having an in-depth counseling weekend in 3 weeks. In the meantime, our counselor has asked us to avoid processing, until she gets there. My AH is very impulsive, and tries to process the past, present and future every time we are on the phone together. It's exhausting, and Wic...

madowl86 · madowl86

Since my last post here I feel like I, myself, have gotten worse. As of June, I had moved out and set boundaries that my ABF would not be around me drinking, come to my house drunk or drinking, etc. But after finding out that he was drinking behind my back, he wanted to show me that he could handle drinking...

jocelgp · jocelgp

Hi everyone! I hope you all had a good day and will have a good day :) So it's been a week or so that my AH was true to his word that he'll no longer drink after the bad accident. But I am sensing the desire when he mentioned yesterday after going to church that he saw some beer bottles near the convent and co...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Hope everyone is jamming a good Sunday. I was just laughing. I caught myself plotting and planning a most complicated plan or more accurately, a manipulation! An issue that was none of my business. Luckily I realised. Laughed. Stopped myself before any damage done. Having nice cup of tea instead and...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife is now in the air...returning home from her home in Central Valley CA. I admire her courage, determination and commitment in our life. I asked Akua; my Higher Power for it's attention to her safe flight which I am assured Akua will do and still I hold my breath a bit as she covers the 2600 miles...

baht114 · baht114

Not sure what I'm looking for. Help, advice, suggestions, or anything at this point. My husband has been sober now for about 6 months. He was addicted to opiates and I never had a clue! About two weeks before he finally admitted to me that he was addicted to drugs the sh*t hit the fan. No Money, pawned ever...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I wonder sometimes does alcohol just make the brain not process information, like the pathway to rationality is diverted or something? Yesterday there was an engagement party for my son and his fiance (given by the bride to be's family, so our two families and the wedding party could meet). My 36 AD w...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change reading for August 28 speaks about sponsorship, in Al-Anon and how important it is to our recovery. By having a sponsor we find someone that we can trust and who will be there for us when we reach out. When we first ask someone to be our sponsor, it is a difficult procedure...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Reaching For Personal Freedom (Preview) I just received this workbook and I love it and can not wait to get started. Should I wait until I have a sponsor to start this? There are 4 people in my group that might be potential sponsors for me but I am still having trouble with courage to ask. Thanks!	MarciaP	1	1923	Sep 3, 2016 by Iamhere
	Cell phones, emails, texts, ugh (Preview) This whole detaching with love thing would be a lot easier if we didn't live in the electronic age of cell phones, emails, texts, face times, facebook etc.......it's hard to stick to your boundaries when the person constantly on your mind is just a push of a button away from contact -	jojo8466	14	659	Sep 3, 2016 by jojo8466
	Is it wrong for my husband to discuss his recovery with me? (Preview) Hi everyone. This is my first time on the forums. I have been attending al anon for the past few months and it has helped me immensely. My husband had been in recovery for 7 months, 3 of these in intense residential rehab, he is now living in supported accommodation and attends aftercare with the same pro...	easterjane	6	529	Sep 3, 2016 by Taraxacum
	Obsession about Husbands Legal issues (Preview) I am going to need to go to TONS of meetings to handle what is going on in my life. I am very ashamed to share this but my ex husband was arrested for some "billing" issue in 2010. we both thought it was a mistake and the government will not let go of it! They will NOT settle and we have a 13 year old son. My hus...	Charlotte22	4	471	Sep 2, 2016 by pinkchip
	Acceptance - P 449 (modified from Big Book) (Preview) Yesterday in our F2F meeting, we were talking about Acceptance. As a double-winner, I have the pleasure of tons of literature from both sides of the table. This popped into my head and I promised to bring it back to the group next week. I've modified it just a bit to remove one line for As - it's conside...	Iamhere	14	5344	Sep 2, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 9/2/16 (Preview) Today's reading is about Step 1 - "We admitted we are powerless over alcohol and our lives have become unmanageable." The writer suggests that one word describes this step for them - that word is Grief. They had a friend who rapidly progressed through the disease from reasonable health and apparen...	Iamhere	5	495	Sep 2, 2016 by Iamhere
	Walking away is not easy..... (Preview) I don't understand why somedays I feel so strong and other days so week - I've done really well not contacting him for a couple of days and then last night and this morning I sent texts and called him. UGH. I just make myself a nervous wreck and sick by trying to contact him and then anxious on whether he wi...	jojo8466	15	669	Sep 2, 2016 by alanonfan
	A new member at my home group (Preview) I was at my home group meeting tonight -- great meeting, as it always is. I feel very comfortable there, and I have been wanting to make friends with people from al-anon outside of the meetings, but it has never happened. I've called a couple of people and they never called me back, and I've hung around ho...	e_i_m	5	572	Sep 2, 2016 by tired of it
	Confused and need feedback please (Preview) Hello. This is my first post to this board so please bear with me if I make a mistake or ramble too much. I have been married to my alcoholic husband for 14 years and a total together of 18 years. We have 3 boys ages 13,9, and 3. His drinking progressively became out of control over the last 3 years, coming to a...	abc3613	11	831	Sep 2, 2016 by Jerry F
	Twilight zone (Preview) My AH suggested inviting my mom for dinner Saturday and offered to call. We spent morning and early afternoon apart. He texts me that my mom accepted. Great. I get home, and we talk about dinner with mom. He has red wine stains on his mouth. Off balance. I say I'm going to have a nap. He says he will nap wi...	Mcat54	10	807	Sep 2, 2016 by Iamhere
	Detoxing....AGAIN (Preview) So I'm at work today and I get a text from my ABF stating that "ok I'm doing it again...going into detox...please don't text or call me...they will have my phone....I'll text and call when I can....I'm so very sorry I'm doing this again." - to which I replied "that's OK babe...just get well". Thanks to fi...	jojo8466	5	814	Sep 2, 2016 by Iamhere
	Son charged w/ DUI (Preview) Hello, This is so painfully hard to see what happened in the last week. My son, was charged w/ a DUI and it's been a nightmare. He's really a great son who made a bad choice. he wasn't driving, but the engine was on. He fell asleep, he had plucked over on a side street to eat and fell asleep, that's when the...	Lori62	6	678	Sep 2, 2016 by el-cee
	Recovery question about alcoholism... (Preview) Just curious - how long does it take for the alcohol and effects from it to leave an alcoholics brain and their true personality is finally revealed? I read two years somewhere but don't know if that's true.	jojo8466	6	594	Sep 1, 2016 by Helpangel
	Grateful today (Preview) I am not sure what has happened but the alcoholic bf remains sober-2 weeks since his last bender and went back to work. He has money too and has not run to the liquor store. Its a blessing for today! The home is so much saner now and calmer. How long will this last, I am not certain. But for today, its calm. For...	joker	4	487	Sep 1, 2016 by andromeda
	Courage to Change (C2C) 9/1/16 (Preview) Today's reading discusses the Second Tradition and how each group through the group conscience can modify, evolve and change to benefit those in search of support because of Alcoholism. The writer suggests their home group meetings had became stale, and membership was primarily status quo with...	Iamhere	3	525	Sep 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	Feeling low... (Preview) Hello all, I've never been on here before, or even posted on a forum before. I am basically willing to try anything at this point though. I am in a newer relationship with someone who has completed the 12 step program and was sober for a couple years. He started drinking again though (a while before we sta...	Bri23	13	678	Sep 1, 2016 by maryjane
	question about forgiving (Preview) I have a general question about forgiving people. I saw that there was another thread related to this topic but I didn't want to hijack that person's thread as my question is kind of general. I've heard it often said that "forgiving is not forgetting", and that forgiving involves letting go of hurts/...	Fedora	21	676	Sep 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	Step One posted to the Step Board (Preview) .http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t62596671/alanon-step-1-sept-1-2016/	hotrod	1	447	Sep 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	Getting to know myself (Preview) I'm coming to the realization that I have smothered my authentic self and don't know myself all that well, and now I want the real me to come blooming out. I am feeling very energized and excited about really knowing myself and starting to express my likes and dislikes, my preferences, and what I care ab...	e_i_m	4	529	Sep 1, 2016 by milkwood
	Setting boundaries !!! (Preview) This is a tough one for me bounderies,setting them and how to verblly say them with consequences to follow?? My story today is after all my drama and chaos of getting my qualifiers out of my home last night night my ex addict boyfriend kept texting my ph,im very much over him though he stole my billfold an...	lookingup	7	618	Aug 31, 2016 by lookingup
	C2C 8/31 Trying to Change Others (Preview) The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them to fit our own image. ~ Thomas MertonTodays reading addresses the tendency to try to change other people. The author admitted they regularly attempted this to ensure they got what they wanted out of a relationsh...	Enigmatic	5	654	Aug 31, 2016 by Enigmatic
	Blame-why does every alcoholic blame all their misfortunes on someone else? His friends are threatening me (Preview) So I finally stood up for myself and actually called the police this time. Why is it that I am blamed for everything wrong in his life? He was an alcoholic before I met him and he's still an alcoholic now. The alcoholic in question has a huge support group of enablers-his boss, his sister, his co-workers,...	pinksurvivor	1	531	Aug 31, 2016 by hotrod
	Grateful (Preview) Im so grateful to be out of the insanity, the whirling dervish that was my life 8 mths ago. XAH has of course relapsed after his 4-5 mth stay in rehab and now down the slippery slope to death by bottle of vodka[ many bottles of vodka] Me, Im unemployed still, money running low but Im happier then Ive been ev...	YARNCRAZY	4	491	Aug 31, 2016 by hotrod
	Step 4 (Preview) I've spend the best part of the day on step 4 and it's emotionally exhausting and will take me months but I'm loving it and it's making me think very carefully about my behaviour. They should teach this in school :)	alanonfan	2	421	Aug 31, 2016 by hotrod
	Went to first meeting yesterday. Not sure. (Preview) I went to my first meeting yesterday. I will go back but I'm just not sure. One issue is that my hearing is not good enough and I missed so much. When you don't know what's going on to begin with that makes it difficult. I didn't research it before I went. I was kind of hoping for a two way conversation typ...	CH_Husband_Dad	4	517	Aug 31, 2016 by Iamhere
	living with a binge drinker (Preview) I have tried meetings in the past and heard how you have to not let his drinking affect you......live your own life etc. How is that possible?? If you are married or live together then you can't just live your own life. Bills need to be paid. I am married to a binge drinker alcoholic. He can stay drunk f...	laxplayer24	13	2619	Aug 31, 2016 by geems
	Writing is so cathartic for me..pls read when you have time (Preview) I wrote a lot, always did. In some ways it helps me get rid of some stuff, leave it on the page so to speak, and I also like to go back to it, after some time and see how I've grown..I wrote this tonight, just because I was angry, and I wanted to get it out and pit somewhere..it felt good. No id never show my BF, or h...	Desperateinnyc	8	561	Aug 31, 2016 by savingmyself
	Some verbal abuse has done me a great favour. (Preview) Hello fellow alanoners. I've been hanging out here and going to meetings for quite some time and suddenly I've seen the light. I woke up this morning to a barrage of abuse from my A who was using words like 'scumbag' 'utter b***d' 'piece of filth' and of course turning everything around to blame me. I hav...	alanonfan	18	739	Aug 31, 2016 by Iamhere
	AL-ANON MEETING 9:00 A.M. EST - WEDNESDAY (Preview) Al-Anon meeting in the chat room begins in approximately 20 minutes. Come on in and join us!	shimo	1	370	Aug 31, 2016 by hotrod
	Other Ism's (Preview) Reading Serenity's recent post about what she doesn't miss - I can echo that sentiment, I do NOT miss the craziness of being part of an alcohol-fueled relationship. But it gets me thinkin, something I'm accused of over-doing (but brain doesn't have an off switch right Serenity?); anyway, thinking a...	likemyheart	4	820	Aug 31, 2016 by hotrod
	Arghhhhhh (Preview) So had a nice day, been working and loving my program. Pleasant light hearted banter between AH and myself. We were cleaning the kitchen together. I jokingly pointed out the ring of crumbs on the floor when AH stands to have his midnight feast each night. In an instant, he turned nasty. This is what I do...	Calm Lady	12	546	Aug 31, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Can you be with someone that alcoholic and you still drink socially. Advice please. (Preview) HI there I'm new and need help I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and when I meet him I thought he was the greats guy and still is when he don't drink. Latter I found out he has a past with DUIs and has a record. I looked past the cuse we all have a past. I fell in love with him and still im. The thing is that w...	Rebrose8	6	614	Aug 31, 2016 by el-cee
	Divorce? (Preview) My husband is a crack addict. He has hurt me physically and emotionally. He is mean anne has no control over hours anger. Married for 4 hellush years I feel under stupid. My mom and dad where drug/alcohol addicts. Help	Doyouseeme	7	637	Aug 31, 2016 by milkwood
	New here (Preview) Hi, I just found this board today. After reading a few of the posts, I think this is where I need to be. I have two qualifiers, my father (who doesn't drink much anymore, but still retains the personality) & my husband (a binge drinker). I can't control anything anymore, and I need to learn how to set b...	Searchingforpeace	6	510	Aug 30, 2016 by Searchingforpeace
	Courage to Change 29/8 (Preview) Today's c2c talks about guilt and shame, and the tendency we have to relive all of our poor behaviours over and over and allow them to weigh us down. In step 8, when we list persons we have harmed and become willing to make amends, these terrible burdens can become more managable and the thought of settin...	missmeliss	3	901	Aug 30, 2016 by LedfootJenny
	Newbie venting (Preview) Hello everyone. I am new here and this is my first time reaching out. My husband is an alcoholic-a very high functioning one. His family and coworkers would never in a million years guess he has a problem. My family loves him and thinks he is the 'nicest guy' as well. He has maybe one friend and he doe...	Samantha4073	11	687	Aug 30, 2016 by Maresie
	Working on Decision Making (Preview) This is definitely one of my character defects. For me, putting things off is usually tied into some sort of fear - fear of financial insecurity, fear of change, failure, embarrassment etc. These things can be subtle at times because I don't live with a lot of drama and chaos anymore. Inaction doesn't...	tiredtonite	5	721	Aug 30, 2016 by LedfootJenny
	Trying to forgive (Preview) I haven't been on here in a long time. My AH went from bad to worse, hit rock bottom and got sober. Yay! Right? He hasn't gone to any AA meetings or counseling but has been going to church with me twice a week. We have been very happy. It's like I got my best friend back! When he hit rock bottom he opened up about...	Dlove	12	831	Aug 30, 2016 by Crau
	How do I know when it's time to leave? (Preview) I realize this has probably been addressed here before. And that the response is that it's different for everyone. But I am struggling to know, when do I give up, when do I say, that's it, good luck, but I'm out, and when do I say no, I'm not going to leave, because everything about u that I hate is because yo...	Desperateinnyc	16	781	Aug 30, 2016 by Crau
	My consequences (Preview) I have stopped all enabling with my AS couple weeks ago knowing that he, as far as I know, is still without means, brings me to tears. I have to keep my head in recovery every day to remind myself why I'm doing this. The last couple of conversations via messenger we've had have been frank ones. He admitted...	seahorselady	6	519	Aug 30, 2016 by seahorselady
	Engaged to a 10 year sober alcoholic (Preview) When I first meet, my now fiancé, I had little knowledge or understanding of alcoholism. I was oblivious to the fact that my father suffered from alcoholism and drug addicted which lead to his recent death. Since it is a huge part of his life/my life I started reading researching about it. I have been to...	Wilady8	3	536	Aug 30, 2016 by Mattie
	Just when you think it's easy sailing.... (Preview) Sometimes life likes to remind you to stay alert and be on the lookout for icebergs/roadblocks/wrecking balls/etc. I missed my weekly meeting tonight for a fantasy football draft--it's my favorite time of year so definitely made it a priority today. That being said, a meeting a would have been ni...	Crau	4	544	Aug 30, 2016 by Jazzie18
	Hope for Today August 30 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is about taking the time to cherish those small moments of our lives that mean so much. The program and my faith in my Hp help me to stop and soak in the wonder of a sunrise or sunset. When I hear my kids laughing together, or have just had a connection in conversation...	yanksfan51	7	519	Aug 30, 2016 by serenity47
	Prayer (Preview) Hi folks, I've been missing meetings, isolating and feeling generally pretty rubbish, basically running off my own self will and blocking my HP from every aspect of my life. Finally reconnected with my sponsor and attended a meeting..... The meeting I thought was crap, but my HP always tries... I l...	Hopeful2112	4	650	Aug 30, 2016 by helldell
	Inner cheerleader (Preview) It dawned on me a few years into recovery that I had no internal voice that looked after me, rooted for me, said nice things to me, validated me, assured me, and cheered me on. I had no inner cheerleader. Rather, I had inner voices telling me I was weak, couldn't make it on my own, didn't deserve good things...	pinkchip	26	801	Aug 30, 2016 by milkwood
	When and how to reunite the kids (Preview) Will set a little context. My ex-wife has been active on and off for the past 11 years. Long story short. Two kids, age 14. She's had three major relapses/events. Episode one (Kids age 4): A few bottles of wine, pills, razor and bathtub. Kids find her. Hospital. Three day hold. ---a whole lot of...	Theotis5555	6	690	Aug 30, 2016 by Jerry F
	Courage and understanding (Preview) We were at a social gathering yesterday. Some people we know well, others are acquaintances and neighbours. Two women beside me started talking about another woman 'throwing her daughter out of the house' and how unfeeling she was. And went on to say that they would never do such a thing to their child...	deacon	6	649	Aug 29, 2016 by pinkchip
	Feeling like "hole in the doughnut" and need to connect! (Preview) hi Everyone! I recently started back in al anon (after going for 10 years from 30-40 years old) and in my town there is cross talk and gossip so I prefer PHONE MEETINGS that I just discovered. I am recently separated but having a VERy tough time as my parents are elderly and I also have a 13 year old to rais...	Charlotte22	4	724	Aug 29, 2016 by hotrod
	Help (Preview) Please help me figure out what is best to do. My 24 year old AS lives with us. He is drinking more and more. I cry all the time go to alanon but feel so sad. My husband his father is done. We have tried everything to help him but it's not worked so far. Setting boundaries is scarey for me. I want someone to tell me...	Wendy8	7	588	Aug 29, 2016 by el-cee
	Enabling (Preview) Hello all- I haven't posted in a long while, but I read and learn every day. I'm feeling really sad today. And also, confused. I'm getting more and more confused about enabling. I moved out over a year ago, when I couldn't stand my AH's secret drinking, lying about it, and the ensuing verbal abuse. I'...	oceanpine	8	833	Aug 29, 2016 by el-cee
	Reaching out (Preview) One of the things I often do is isolate myself and then complain and feel sorry for myself that no one loves me (which to me equals pays attention to me). As I am going through this process, I realize more every day how much I have made attention from others my source of validation and my definition of love....	e_i_m	5	640	Aug 29, 2016 by el-cee
	Hello! Newbie here having trouble reading posts and replies on Ascites (Preview) Hello! I awoke this morning exhausted and wanting to hear from someone who is or has gone through my situation. My adult son has severe alcoholic induced liver cirrhosis, non-viral hepatitis, and Ascites. He has been in the hospital more than not since March 2016. He is 39, divorced, unable to work,...	Momforever	8	641	Aug 28, 2016 by unbroken13
	I want to avoid lying (Preview) My separated AH and I are having an in-depth counseling weekend in 3 weeks. In the meantime, our counselor has asked us to avoid processing, until she gets there. My AH is very impulsive, and tries to process the past, present and future every time we are on the phone together. It's exhausting, and Wic...	oceanpine	5	552	Aug 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	Accepting the alcoholic's drinking (Preview) Since my last post here I feel like I, myself, have gotten worse. As of June, I had moved out and set boundaries that my ABF would not be around me drinking, come to my house drunk or drinking, etc. But after finding out that he was drinking behind my back, he wanted to show me that he could handle drinking...	madowl86	12	905	Aug 28, 2016 by hotrod
	dealing with eggshells and grouchy mornings (Preview) Hi everyone! I hope you all had a good day and will have a good day :) So it's been a week or so that my AH was true to his word that he'll no longer drink after the bad accident. But I am sensing the desire when he mentioned yesterday after going to church that he saw some beer bottles near the convent and co...	jocelgp	5	599	Aug 28, 2016 by likemyheart
	Caught myself (Preview) Hope everyone is jamming a good Sunday. I was just laughing. I caught myself plotting and planning a most complicated plan or more accurately, a manipulation! An issue that was none of my business. Luckily I realised. Laughed. Stopped myself before any damage done. Having nice cup of tea instead and...	Calm Lady	3	477	Aug 28, 2016 by Calm Lady
	wifelessness (Preview) My wife is now in the air...returning home from her home in Central Valley CA. I admire her courage, determination and commitment in our life. I asked Akua; my Higher Power for it's attention to her safe flight which I am assured Akua will do and still I hold my breath a bit as she covers the 2600 miles...	Jerry F	10	665	Aug 28, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	I'm new to this.. #new #help #advice (Preview) Not sure what I'm looking for. Help, advice, suggestions, or anything at this point. My husband has been sober now for about 6 months. He was addicted to opiates and I never had a clue! About two weeks before he finally admitted to me that he was addicted to drugs the sh*t hit the fan. No Money, pawned ever...	baht114	3	500	Aug 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	Alcoholism=altered brain function? (Preview) I wonder sometimes does alcohol just make the brain not process information, like the pathway to rationality is diverted or something? Yesterday there was an engagement party for my son and his fiance (given by the bride to be's family, so our two families and the wedding party could meet). My 36 AD w...	lgnutah	1	2251	Aug 28, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	C2C reading 8-28-2016 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for August 28 speaks about sponsorship, in Al-Anon and how important it is to our recovery. By having a sponsor we find someone that we can trust and who will be there for us when we reach out. When we first ask someone to be our sponsor, it is a difficult procedure...	hotrod	1	449	Aug 28, 2016 by Iamhere
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