The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Todays c2c speaks about becoming aware of what motivates our actions. In so many cases, what drives us in the beginning is fear. Many of us are afraid to show our true emotions and hide behind a fake smile.
By trusting our HP and remembering such slogans as 'Let go and let HP" and 'I came to believe" we can face the things we are afraid of together and move forward into better ways of living.
"We turn our will and our life over to the care of God as we understand him [/her]. A higher power is like a friend who really cares about us and wants to share our problems" (Al-ateen, One Day At A Time)
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Another thing mentioned in this reading is the idea that we can be afraid of our own anger and wow can I relate to that. Discovering that I can put my faith in my HP and then proceed to honor my true feelings and trust that it will be OK has been so very liberating; now instead of spending all of my time trying to find a way to keep a lid on everything I feel and trying to gloss over the occasional explosions, I feel authentic and have so much more energy to deal with more important and beneficial things!
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Good Morning Ms. M. Thanks for posting your thoughts on this important reading. Learning how to look inward and examine my own motives was a difficult task but when I finally found the courage to do so, I found it very enlightening and rewarding.
Before program I did not even own the fact that I was fearful because I did not know how to express that fear , instead I changed all my feeling into anger and hit out at others and blamed them for my problems.
I do believe that I turned all my feelings into anger because it made me feel powerful- I could blame others for my feelings and justify my unkindness.
Upon entering program and looking back, I can remember being terrified to answer the telephone or open the mailbox. Just reciting the serenity prayer and reminding myself that I had a Higher Power gave me the courage I needed to take these simple actions .
Today I no longer deny my fear, I own it , pray about it and then act in a constructive manner. Today as the reading point out I have learned to be' authentic', explore my motives and true feelings and then" respond" in a healthy manner How great is that.
Great reminder, Miss, thank you both for your shares. Fear is such a powerful force, I too can relate. Thank goodness for the program, where I saw the first glimpses of a way to tackle the many areas that were dominated by fear.
Often it is just a sliver of program that I can call upon that is helpful, and this page is an example. Peace has been such a welcome discovery, and feels so much, much better than fear and anger. Thank you both
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
Coming to the early realization that fear was just and emotion and that it could not and would not harm or hurt me until I put it into action. Choosing the right actions and reactions is what it is about for me today. Making the choice after inventory and locating what is best for me and then doing the work. This is how it works for me today.
The Serenity Pray contains the message along with the rest of the tools.
