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~*Service Worker*~

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From start to now- in Alanon...


Hi y'all...

              A journey begins- with the first step... ...may seem like a cliche... but it is true for me.

First meeting- this member stabs the air with her finger... when you are point the finger- there are three pointing right back at you... biggrin ...

also from the same person- she had a battered ODAT in her possession- the spine was falling off the the pages falling out. I thought- that is someone working the programme!

And thirdly- at that same meeting was talk about emotions. This word left an indelible impression- it still does... biggrin ...



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Hi David you hve a great memory I was probably in too much distress to remember anything about my first meeting--- except that when I left I felt better.aww

Emotions are tricky and  often difficult to handle. i am sure you have many after your loss .

Please share your emotions as that is how we grow



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I recall my first meeting - I was not open, I did not want to be there, and as such - ignored the kindness, messages, etc. I returned to try and control, change, cure the chaos in my life for a bit before I got the gift of great desperation and returned to a different group.

I have no doubt the first group was kind, gentle, loving and welcoming....I just didn't 'see' it that way with my own ego/self-serving attitude of the time. I am grateful for a patient, gentle sponsor who gently nudged me to go again, and possibly try a different meeting!

I so agree that emotions are tricky and at times, for me, hard to identify. My go to is 'self-righteous anger' - the only emotion I knew before recovery. Today, when I feel the rise in my body, I do all that I can to pause and consider what am I really feeling. More often than not, it's disappointment, sadness, regret, etc. and not anger at all.

Take good care of you - grieve as you need to and know you are not alone!

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