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Debb


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QTIP: Quit. Taking. It. Personally.

When the guilt of the alcoholic explodes, I must realize that it is always aimed at those nearest, and often dearest. I want to remind myself that such outbursts only reveal the drinkers own unhappiness. I will not make the situation worse by taking seriously what the alcoholic says at such times. (One Day At a Time in Al-Anon, pg.55)

Got to admit that this Al-Anon slogan is one the best, because it enabled me to regain and retain my dignity, serenity and peace.  I can now walk away and know in my heart that there is no way I am responsible for causing the drinking, the attitude, the verbal abuse or the unhappiness.  

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Thank you Debb, I look forward to these each day

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Thank you! Great reminder for me today.

My boyfriend of 10 months, who has been sober for 9 years (and works his program daily) has been going through a tough time since his father died in January and now they are cleaning out the family home. He has been angry, distant, depressed.....surly attitude........and now needs time and space. I need to keep reminding myself it is not about me.....

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Thanks Debb  Before program, when this happened I would become angry and "react" to the situation in a dreadful fashion or shut down and walk on egg shells.

 Alanon has given me tools  to  honestly  examine my part in every situation, check my motives, own it, validate my part and make amends if necessary   It works wonders all aroundaww.



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Debb


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Broken513, this slogan/acronyms are such great tools, I enjoy them too.

Maine Girl, you are right about being reminded, just posting them is a good reminder for me as well!!

Betty, the angry/reacting and shutting down/walking on eggshells was definitely me, over a year ago.

Thank you Al-Anon!!  smile



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I love QTIP - one of my favorites because my crazy brain can remember it so easily!!!

I can relate to what everyone was said. When I start to 'feel' it's personal, I have to stop and think and then decide....

Thanks Debb & all for the great ESH!!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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It helps my scrambled brains as well Iam cause it is nice and easy!!



-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 11:29:39 AM

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Thank you Deb that is easy and helpful.

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