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I have been harboring a great deal of anger these past couple of weeks due to increasing financial challenges that are a big issue with my pending divorce with my AH. I had a session with my therapist this week and asked her if using a "punching bag" or trying kick-boxing were really viable options for relieving my anger. Interestingly enough, she shared with me that research shows that these methods actually prolong anger and don't aleve it.
Her suggestions were meditation, prayer, and physical activities such as walking, running, swimming or working out in the gym. I've now started to up my walking time from 30 to 60 minutes a day. It seems to be helping a bit.
One of the suggestions on this board for dealing with anger was to create a gratitude list. I've taken that idea a bit further: this week I started writing and sending at least one thank you card each day. I've forgotten how good it feels to share gratitude in the written word, and it seems like thank you cards have become a lost art these days; I especially noticed this with my daughters' generation. It makes me feel good to share my gratitude in writing for things both big and small. And it is much better than thinking about my anger and fears, even if it's for just brief period on time during my day.
Thanks for letting me share!
-- Edited by Green Eyes on Thursday 17th of May 2012 11:14:20 PM
Have you read the book about the guy who sent 365 thank you cards?? If you haven't you should try and find it .. I've heard wonderful things about that book!!
I imagine that it is hard to get past all of that .. and I love the quote that is anger and resentment is like taking poison waiting for the other person to die.
I've been reading a Joyce Meyer book her latest called Do Yourself a Favor and Forgive, it's got a lot of things in there about anger and I liked what she has had to say. What she's been through her life and managed to move forward .. hey I will try anything at this point .. let me get a spotted chicken out and wave it over my head if I thought that would work I would be in the yard trying it!!
You work a wonderful program, thanks for sharing!!
Hugs p :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
