Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

sas · sas

I have been coming to this board for a little while now. I read a lot and post a little. I just returned from my f2f meeting today which was on the 5th step. Having just begun to work the steps I usually just listen when I go to meetings. I feel like I want to say something and I get re...

Barbara · Barbara

OMG! I cant believe the lazy ass called in sick again today! He may be sick but the mornings after he's been drinking if he doesnt feel well I have a very hard time feeling any sympathy. Please tell me everything you know about Detachment. I need to get a firmer grasp on it! Thank you

sweetums · sweetums

OK so my A has been out of the house since Jan31. He called me from time to time and I knew he was drinking with his friends he is staying with. He was calling to tell me how he hates staying there with them, and how he misses me and the kids. He is starting a business and setting up a shop during all of this, and al...

flintfeet · flintfeet

anyone have loved ones that are just too far gone mentally? my dad is just "not all there", even when he's sober! i have not talked to him for a while now b/c it justs upsets me. but looking back, i feel that its amazing that he was following a conversation. he has the attention span of a 6yr old--that's be...

nycbt · nycbt

Wow I have to take a step back an look at my self and look at progress. When I first came in the program I would call my husband all the time. I couldn't wait to see if he was home. I would follow him around I would wait up to see if he would come back Panick when I didn't know where he was. Always worr...

rtexas · rtexas

Well... Saturday was my birthday, but my company didn't help me out any. We had a major project going this weekend that had me up from friday night a 4am til saturday 9am. Needless to say, between the chaos here and work I was wasted. She had said last week that she and the kids wanted to go out to eat on f...

kitty · kitty

I have said I'm an oinion, I know there's a bright diamond inside but I still am finding layers to peel off. I used to feel like I could sleep for a year 7 that I was having PTSD from my childhood or being pushed, prodded, worked too hard, emotionally neglected, too many responsibilities, in hono...

Nettie · Nettie

I remember feeling this empty before. It was how I felt consistently for months, maybe even years, before he dt'd in the hospital then went through treatment. I hated him, every ounce of him. I couldn't stand the way he looked or smelled. I dispised him, yet loved him. ...

Jayda · Jayda

Last night I tried chatting in the Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room I thought it would be nice to talk to some people in real time. My experience turned out to be pretty negative though. I voiced some things that had happened recently in my life that were bothering me and I feel as I was attacked by o...

ditto · ditto

His drinking is so out of control that he is never sober. Lately his eyes are always red and watery and he has trouble thinking clearly. I've been subjected to his drunken rages and his drunken clinging. He can't seem to hit a normal emotional position. So last night he was accusi...

iamdlm · iamdlm

I know that there is questionaire about "if you answer yes to any of these questions, you may have a drinking problem." If anyone knows where I can find this information online it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much!!!

kitty · kitty

Thinking about my mother & all I did for her over these passed 6 months briging me to Decemeber, than things went to hell in hand basket... I neglected my 3 cats, my condo & myself all that ime & at the expense of myself was there everyday of December... yet it was n...

gudheartedguy · gudheartedguy

Hi all..... this is my first post on this forum. i have been mistakenly, but acceptingly posting on the aa forum and being a newbie, didn't know about all the various sub forums connected to alcohol problems. so, here's mine if someone wants to listen. i had this same pr...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, My dermatologist said that I have pre-cancerous cells on my face. She has prescribed a 3-4 week long treatment that will turn my face red, itch, bleed, be painful, and scab over. I will look pretty ugly. I will share this with my students so I won't shock them but also to let them know that...

seachange · seachange

Quote | ReplyBack from my sister's funeral Hello everyone! I'm back from the UK where I went to be with all the family gathered for my sister's funeral. It was an amazing week--I saw more family together than I've seen in several years. Lots of laughter and reminiscences as well as...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: I just wanted to share a story of an experience I had this past week that shook me to the core. I work for an agency that houses persons who suffer from either mental illness or chemical abuse or both. I deal with over 96 households who are suffering in some capacity.&n...

mel123 · mel123

We gave our 19 year old son until Wednesday this past week to find a place to live. I had packed up all of his things last weekend. He has been uable to follow our house rules, which are that he remain clean and sober,stay in recovery and home by curfew, unless prior arrangements have b...

kitty · kitty

Aside from learning to apply self-love, as a sick ACOA & codie which took me over 37 yrs to be ready & willing to understand & apply to me, truly everything happens in God’s time & there are no coincidences. I have found nothing in this Program of spirituality has been more p...

whitie · whitie

As I mentally planned to leave my A husband in Oct. I didn't talk about it with anyone but two very trusted friends and Ala-non friends. I told family when the time came very close for me to make my move. My siblings were all behind me and helped me move. On the other hand my cousin who lives on the east co...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, My husband and I had a talk tonight and as usual he threw all blame to me. He is back at his Mothers. I have tried being compassionate, I have tried to giv ehim leeway and be understanding. I have tried to not get angry when he is always over doing things at her house. I understand that she needs the he...

kitty · kitty

I am missing my mother very much but I cannot force her to want to share herself with me or know me. She raised me single handedly & was my best friend for many years, as long as I did as she wanted. I have worked hard to break this co-die relationship w/ her since Spetmember. After her ye...

roxannejharris · roxannejharris

I guess I am not really sure where to start out. I just need some advice. I am 24 years old and have a 6 month old daughter. My daughters father and I have been together for 3 years on and off because of his drinking. His drinking has gotten better from drinking every night now down to usually 2 nights a week. ...

bobump · bobump

Well, yesterday my A went out w/ my 15yo to look for a new dog. As a sidebar, we already have two, money is tight, they aren't licensed they don't always get heartworm meds, etc. Makes no sense to add another one. This gave me a chance to tell my 9yo that someone was coming to the house an...

bobump · bobump

Well today was interesting. Friday, my son told the his school counselor that he was afraid of his mom. That triggered her to call dyfs to let them know. I met w/ her and my son. I don't think he is afraid of physical harm but only anger, but then again he came home to see that my A had brok...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I got a "Delivery Confirmation" letter in the mail today to my oldest son (15) Inside was a letter to him and the other letter was to my other 3 kids. He basically wrote in both of them how sorry he was for what he's done, but he has a terrible disease which makes him do bad things and that it's no...

Barbara · Barbara

not sure what the outcome will be. He'll be brought to the courthouse on Mon night - he's already asked my mother to release him on bail. He's suppose to appear in front of the judge Tues morn. From there he'll either be let go (back to my mother's house), sent to a hospital for rehab/psychiatric care or se...

mamasan · mamasan

Hello everyone, I have been pretty busy lately in another group, one for prison moms thru Yahoo. Next week my son, my A, is coming home to me. He has been gone a yr now. Actually for the last three yrs he has been in jail more than out. The times he has been home have been p...

tea2 · tea2

Hello all, I am having issues with my mirc -lol it’s not agreeing w/ me… My registered nick won’t stick, however other nicks do when I need to re-connect. I was wondering if the cause is my version of mirc is 5.81 ??? I was told there is a newer one that many are using (6.16). Also wondering if because...

iona54 · iona54

The Affirmations: As I Change My Mind, I Change My Life All things work together for good for me today. I am supremely happy right here, right now, within my self, right where I am today. I am a happy, healthy, wholesome, beautiful, positive, prosperous person. &nbs...

Christy · Christy

Just thought I'd bring everyone up to date. Hubby came home yesterday afternoon and so far so good. He is still very weak and on about a gazillion meds. No kidding!! I went and picked up 14 prscriptions last night and another today. We had to go get a couple of those week long pill boxes to keep them all st...

Barbara · Barbara

do you feel like a hypocrit? Granted we can control our drinking, alot less frequent, doesnt interfere with life, etc. But do you find yourself not being able to enjoy an alcoholic drink once you realize your spouse is an alcoholic?

Becky1 · Becky1

My A husband of 5 years left Monday night screaming at me. Sent an email that he wants a divorce. Have not heard from him since. I am unable to go to work, and am stressed about my job being there when I get back. Hub was court ordered into counseling which ins. will not pay for, and he can't afford the house pm...

Lindy · Lindy

My alcoholic husband was actually doing okay for a couple of weeks. He was drinking, but he was not drunk or rude to me. Of course I could see the small changes last night and the cycle starting all over again. He must have been sitting in a bar for awhile yesterday while I was working. He's still laid off an...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - February 22 I found a carrot and two lumps of coal on my sidewalk and wondered what they were doing there. I thought it odd. Suddenly remembering that a snowman once stood on that place, I chuckled at my own suspicious thoughts. Even so, I had an eerie feeling of something st...

codependentme · codependentme

Hi everyone. I am just wondering if this is the right place for me. I will try to be brief. I am not with an alcoholic or addict, but with a mentally ill/personality disordered person, who used to use cocaine and alcohol but has not in many years. I am codependent and grew up with an abusive alcoholi...

leo · leo

Just wanted to thank everyone for their prayers and to let you know that there is definitely a higher power. My friend is still with us for the time being and now has her husband by her side in the city. I spoke to him today and told him how much is wife loved him and that I knew he loved her just as...

kitty · kitty

All I can do, is focus on me, control me & change me. Sad for this to be so difficult & guilt laden for us but it still takes me some work & hard focus some days, to just allow myself to consider my wants, needs & desires. It gets easier with practise, just like forgiveness. ...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: Yesterday my A had an appoinment with the gastoenterologist to get the results of his Hep C blood work. While he was in treatment he was given an antibody test that came back positive. Upon the confirmatory it was found to be NEGATIVE. Whic hwas great news. He wi...

doxie · doxie

Someone in chat the other day said that they knew of a good group for Moms/families of prisoners. Does anyone remember who that was, or does anyone have any websites or groups they could recommend? Today is proving to be challenging. Thanks, Doxie

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I just wanted to say it is so nice to see so many new names here on the board and in chat. If you have questions here or there personal or technical don't be afraid to ask ask. You can ask them privately by clicking on any of our names and you will have the option to speak one on one. once aga...

Barbara · Barbara

Ok I really dont mind my son being home for school vacation. Dont need to get out the door 2.5hrs earlier than I leave for work to get him to the bus. However when I come downstairs and A husband is hungover in bed (we sleep separately) it really grinds on me! He calls in sick alot on Fridays. I cant get in ther...

marcie301 · marcie301

A couple of days ago I posted about my A relapsing. We have 2 small children (1&3) and I know one time for sure he came with beer after picking our son up from preschool. Two of the bottles were empty but he swore he poured them out on the way home because he felt bad for even buying it...

bobump · bobump

I heard that those in chat at somepoint yesterday said a group prayer for me and my family. All I can say is I heard about this while the caseworker was still at my house and couldn't even think about it anymore because I didn't want to be crying as soon as I talked to the caseworker. Thank you all so much...

Powerless · Powerless

My house is finally finished. The landscapers finished today and the painters finished yesterday. My cabinets have been installed, the front door and interior doors have been replaced. I am too exhausted to enjoy it. My mother-in-law has kep the baby for two weeks while...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

The weekend is coming up, which means I will be going to my boyfriends'. He had recently quit drinking at the insistance of his father, whom he lives with. His father goes away sometimes on weekends and I stay at my bf's. Now that his father is away, I know he will want to get a bottle of...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

This past week things have been coming to a head here. I discovered the 17 year old stepdaughter is smoking and had a bottle of vodka (big size) hidden in her drawer - her 21 year old sister has been buying the cigarettes for her, my 23 year old son bought one pack for her. The 17 year old is visi...

starangel · starangel

Last April my husband let me in on his secret problem with oxycontin and cocaine abuse. I knew something was up since so much money was missing. Although I didn't notice the symptoms of abuse since he always uses while drinking. I always thought he was drunk. Well it has been...

Jill · Jill

I've known my a for 7 years. Right before the New Year, I told him all the time I've known you, the focus has been on you. It's going to be 7 years of the Year of Jill starting Jan 20056. He agreed (easy cuz nothing changes if...). Nearly the end of February, and it hit me, the focus is still on him. I have rece...

Picowitch · Picowitch

Well, after a 6 month separation, and a lot of soul searching and taking care of me I decided to take the risk and see how it goes, and told hubby on Friday that he could come home. As soon as I said it I thought oh god what have I set myself up for - I can see changes in him and as far as I am aware he has only had 1 sl...

flintfeet · flintfeet

today is a bad day for me. no reason in paticular, but i just am worrying about my dad. i love him sooooo much!! i know that he loves me, too. but his drinking hurts me so much that i have detached myself from him. i refuse to support him and hold his hand while his life goes to sh*t. i wish i could jus...

hudsond · hudsond

Well I got a couple of the Getting Them Sober books--the first and fourth ones. I have been reading on them for the past few days. I ordered them a couple of weeks ago. Anyway--after a few more yucky days, he has decided again that he is through with the drugs--the last time "was enoug...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Suddenly Life is again a seed I am slipping further and further away from you For I do not know what else to do I am always feeling persistently blue Surrounded by darkness yearning for the light There is a tunnel ahead It calls my name It is time for me to go It is not you to blame ...

Becky1 · Becky1

This is a song by Carrie Underwood, and the lyrics fit so well what we alanon members need to do.....so here it is..I've been thinking about this song lately due to my current situation..I am powerless.... She was driving last Friday on her way to Cincinnati On a snow white Christmas Eve Going ho...

figaro · figaro

My sister in law advised me that my brother has threatened suicide three times this month, including today. She is scared and wants me to talk to him. I spoke with him regarding her concern. He told me that she violated confidentiality and that I should not worry. He told me t...

leo · leo

Hi everyone, My very good friend is at the moment going through the final stages of her life as it is on this earth with cancer. She is in a lot of pain and now 1300kms away in the city away from family and friends. This lady lives with her husband (a drinker) who is not able to be by her side bec...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

I have heard much talk about slogans, but where do you find them/learn them? Anyone have any favorites?

sweetums · sweetums

Well I noticed the funniest thing. When he calls me or texts me, I feel like a kind of justification and like I am really 'doing' something here for myself. When he doesn't I feel lonely and like 'what's the point?' Why the heck does what I am doing here in my own house have to hinge upon what he...

terascot · terascot

My husband is a recovering addict/alcoholic. He also struggles with chronic pain, and sometimes overuses his pain meds (in my opinion.) I try to "detach" from his slogged demeanor on those occassions, but it really bothers me to see him that way. It reminds me of when I was young and my dad was drunk. I f...

marmare · marmare

Has anybody heard from Dolphin? Hugs Mary

rtexas · rtexas

This is a pamphalet handed to me today at my first f2f meeting ever. I nearly burst into tears as I read this booklet written 4 years after I was born about what is happening in my life today. To all of you who kept saying get ye to a meeting.... THANK YOU! It was a steps meeting, but all I cou...

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	Warning!! Hazardous Spill...could be toxic (Preview) I have been coming to this board for a little while now. I read a lot and post a little. I just returned from my f2f meeting today which was on the 5th step. Having just begun to work the steps I usually just listen when I go to meetings. I feel like I want to say something and I get re...	sas	4	409	Feb 28, 2006 by Barbara
	He called in sick AGAIN today! Please tell me everything you know about Detachment! (Preview) OMG! I cant believe the lazy ass called in sick again today! He may be sick but the mornings after he's been drinking if he doesnt feel well I have a very hard time feeling any sympathy. Please tell me everything you know about Detachment. I need to get a firmer grasp on it! Thank you	Barbara	7	839	Feb 28, 2006 by debilyn
	Need some insight, please... (Preview) OK so my A has been out of the house since Jan31. He called me from time to time and I knew he was drinking with his friends he is staying with. He was calling to tell me how he hates staying there with them, and how he misses me and the kids. He is starting a business and setting up a shop during all of this, and al...	sweetums	2	399	Feb 27, 2006 by lin0606
	too far gone... (Preview) anyone have loved ones that are just too far gone mentally? my dad is just "not all there", even when he's sober! i have not talked to him for a while now b/c it justs upsets me. but looking back, i feel that its amazing that he was following a conversation. he has the attention span of a 6yr old--that's be...	flintfeet	3	369	Feb 27, 2006 by lin0606
	taking a step (Preview) Wow I have to take a step back an look at my self and look at progress. When I first came in the program I would call my husband all the time. I couldn't wait to see if he was home. I would follow him around I would wait up to see if he would come back Panick when I didn't know where he was. Always worr...	nycbt	3	266	Feb 27, 2006 by Andrea12
	Happy birthday to me... right (Preview) Well... Saturday was my birthday, but my company didn't help me out any. We had a major project going this weekend that had me up from friday night a 4am til saturday 9am. Needless to say, between the chaos here and work I was wasted. She had said last week that she and the kids wanted to go out to eat on f...	rtexas	5	269	Feb 27, 2006 by RamzDear
	grieving for my life - healing my life (Preview) I have said I'm an oinion, I know there's a bright diamond inside but I still am finding layers to peel off. I used to feel like I could sleep for a year 7 that I was having PTSD from my childhood or being pushed, prodded, worked too hard, emotionally neglected, too many responsibilities, in hono...	kitty	3	298	Feb 27, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Empty (Preview) I remember feeling this empty before. It was how I felt consistently for months, maybe even years, before he dt'd in the hospital then went through treatment. I hated him, every ounce of him. I couldn't stand the way he looked or smelled. I dispised him, yet loved him. ...	Nettie	2	264	Feb 27, 2006 by lildee
	trouble in the chat room (Preview) Last night I tried chatting in the Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room I thought it would be nice to talk to some people in real time. My experience turned out to be pretty negative though. I voiced some things that had happened recently in my life that were bothering me and I feel as I was attacked by o...	Jayda	9	467	Feb 27, 2006 by Picowitch
	I think the alcohol is making him crazy (Preview) His drinking is so out of control that he is never sober. Lately his eyes are always red and watery and he has trouble thinking clearly. I've been subjected to his drunken rages and his drunken clinging. He can't seem to hit a normal emotional position. So last night he was accusi...	ditto	3	571	Feb 27, 2006 by Lindy
	Need Information Please! (Preview) I know that there is questionaire about "if you answer yes to any of these questions, you may have a drinking problem." If anyone knows where I can find this information online it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much!!!	iamdlm	3	450	Feb 27, 2006 by nycbt
	bad weekend (Preview) Thinking about my mother & all I did for her over these passed 6 months briging me to Decemeber, than things went to hell in hand basket... I neglected my 3 cats, my condo & myself all that ime & at the expense of myself was there everyday of December... yet it was n...	kitty	2	278	Feb 27, 2006 by kitty
	monster in wife returns (Preview) Hi all..... this is my first post on this forum. i have been mistakenly, but acceptingly posting on the aa forum and being a newbie, didn't know about all the various sub forums connected to alcohol problems. so, here's mine if someone wants to listen. i had this same pr...	gudheartedguy	6	579	Feb 27, 2006 by paintthinnr
	Starting a pre-cancerous skin treatment (Preview) Hi all, My dermatologist said that I have pre-cancerous cells on my face. She has prescribed a 3-4 week long treatment that will turn my face red, itch, bleed, be painful, and scab over. I will look pretty ugly. I will share this with my students so I won't shock them but also to let them know that...	nmike	2	295	Feb 27, 2006 by rtexas
	Back from my sister's funeral (Preview) Quote \| ReplyBack from my sister's funeral Hello everyone! I'm back from the UK where I went to be with all the family gathered for my sister's funeral. It was an amazing week--I saw more family together than I've seen in several years. Lots of laughter and reminiscences as well as...	seachange	6	374	Feb 27, 2006 by seachange
	death of an A (Preview) Hello all: I just wanted to share a story of an experience I had this past week that shook me to the core. I work for an agency that houses persons who suffer from either mental illness or chemical abuse or both. I deal with over 96 households who are suffering in some capacity.&n...	Kim	6	463	Feb 27, 2006 by bobump
	Our dilemma.... (Preview) We gave our 19 year old son until Wednesday this past week to find a place to live. I had packed up all of his things last weekend. He has been uable to follow our house rules, which are that he remain clean and sober,stay in recovery and home by curfew, unless prior arrangements have b...	mel123	8	362	Feb 27, 2006 by mel123
	forgiveness (Preview) Aside from learning to apply self-love, as a sick ACOA & codie which took me over 37 yrs to be ready & willing to understand & apply to me, truly everything happens in God’s time & there are no coincidences. I have found nothing in this Program of spirituality has been more p...	kitty	2	307	Feb 26, 2006 by Maria123
	With family like this who needs enemies?? (Preview) As I mentally planned to leave my A husband in Oct. I didn't talk about it with anyone but two very trusted friends and Ala-non friends. I told family when the time came very close for me to make my move. My siblings were all behind me and helped me move. On the other hand my cousin who lives on the east co...	whitie	7	383	Feb 26, 2006 by lin0606
	Am I too Anal? (Preview) Hi, My husband and I had a talk tonight and as usual he threw all blame to me. He is back at his Mothers. I have tried being compassionate, I have tried to giv ehim leeway and be understanding. I have tried to not get angry when he is always over doing things at her house. I understand that she needs the he...	Jeannie	12	561	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	I miss what I thought I had (Preview) I am missing my mother very much but I cannot force her to want to share herself with me or know me. She raised me single handedly & was my best friend for many years, as long as I did as she wanted. I have worked hard to break this co-die relationship w/ her since Spetmember. After her ye...	kitty	3	361	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	What do you think? NEED HELP! (Preview) I guess I am not really sure where to start out. I just need some advice. I am 24 years old and have a 6 month old daughter. My daughters father and I have been together for 3 years on and off because of his drinking. His drinking has gotten better from drinking every night now down to usually 2 nights a week. ...	roxannejharris	9	391	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	dyfs update - THANK YOU ALL ! (Preview) Well, yesterday my A went out w/ my 15yo to look for a new dog. As a sidebar, we already have two, money is tight, they aren't licensed they don't always get heartworm meds, etc. Makes no sense to add another one. This gave me a chance to tell my 9yo that someone was coming to the house an...	bobump	11	578	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	update for today (Preview) Well today was interesting. Friday, my son told the his school counselor that he was afraid of his mom. That triggered her to call dyfs to let them know. I met w/ her and my son. I don't think he is afraid of physical harm but only anger, but then again he came home to see that my A had brok...	bobump	7	445	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	I can't deal with his blaming me (Preview) I got a "Delivery Confirmation" letter in the mail today to my oldest son (15) Inside was a letter to him and the other letter was to my other 3 kids. He basically wrote in both of them how sorry he was for what he's done, but he has a terrible disease which makes him do bad things and that it's no...	sdisnie	8	535	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	Brother being released from Bridgewater prison this Tues (Preview) not sure what the outcome will be. He'll be brought to the courthouse on Mon night - he's already asked my mother to release him on bail. He's suppose to appear in front of the judge Tues morn. From there he'll either be let go (back to my mother's house), sent to a hospital for rehab/psychiatric care or se...	Barbara	2	333	Feb 26, 2006 by tea2
	My "A" is coming home from jail next week (Preview) Hello everyone, I have been pretty busy lately in another group, one for prison moms thru Yahoo. Next week my son, my A, is coming home to me. He has been gone a yr now. Actually for the last three yrs he has been in jail more than out. The times he has been home have been p...	mamasan	4	395	Feb 26, 2006 by mamasan
	registered nick/mirc troubles (Preview) Hello all, I am having issues with my mirc -lol it’s not agreeing w/ me… My registered nick won’t stick, however other nicks do when I need to re-connect. I was wondering if the cause is my version of mirc is 5.81 ??? I was told there is a newer one that many are using (6.16). Also wondering if because...	tea2	0	265	Feb 26, 2006 by tea2
	affirmations (Preview) The Affirmations: As I Change My Mind, I Change My Life All things work together for good for me today. I am supremely happy right here, right now, within my self, right where I am today. I am a happy, healthy, wholesome, beautiful, positive, prosperous person. &nbs...	iona54	3	407	Feb 26, 2006 by tea2
	Hubby is home... (Preview) Just thought I'd bring everyone up to date. Hubby came home yesterday afternoon and so far so good. He is still very weak and on about a gazillion meds. No kidding!! I went and picked up 14 prscriptions last night and another today. We had to go get a couple of those week long pill boxes to keep them all st...	Christy	11	404	Feb 26, 2006 by chris52
	how do you handle your own biyearly drinking once your realize your spouse is an Alcoholic? (Preview) do you feel like a hypocrit? Granted we can control our drinking, alot less frequent, doesnt interfere with life, etc. But do you find yourself not being able to enjoy an alcoholic drink once you realize your spouse is an alcoholic?	Barbara	11	607	Feb 26, 2006 by roygbiv
	Confused and Hurting (Preview) My A husband of 5 years left Monday night screaming at me. Sent an email that he wants a divorce. Have not heard from him since. I am unable to go to work, and am stressed about my job being there when I get back. Hub was court ordered into counseling which ins. will not pay for, and he can't afford the house pm...	Becky1	7	402	Feb 25, 2006 by iona54
	Little hints of cut downs last night (Preview) My alcoholic husband was actually doing okay for a couple of weeks. He was drinking, but he was not drunk or rude to me. Of course I could see the small changes last night and the cycle starting all over again. He must have been sitting in a bar for awhile yesterday while I was working. He's still laid off an...	Lindy	5	465	Feb 25, 2006 by maresie
	feeling crappy can be GOOD!!!! (Preview) Hope for Today - February 22 I found a carrot and two lumps of coal on my sidewalk and wondered what they were doing there. I thought it odd. Suddenly remembering that a snowman once stood on that place, I chuckled at my own suspicious thoughts. Even so, I had an eerie feeling of something st...	rosie light shines	6	274	Feb 25, 2006 by Robinks
	new, is this the place for me? Please read. (Preview) Hi everyone. I am just wondering if this is the right place for me. I will try to be brief. I am not with an alcoholic or addict, but with a mentally ill/personality disordered person, who used to use cocaine and alcohol but has not in many years. I am codependent and grew up with an abusive alcoholi...	codependentme	12	446	Feb 25, 2006 by Jayda
	prayer update (Preview) Just wanted to thank everyone for their prayers and to let you know that there is definitely a higher power. My friend is still with us for the time being and now has her husband by her side in the city. I spoke to him today and told him how much is wife loved him and that I knew he loved her just as...	leo	7	351	Feb 25, 2006 by leo
	Surrender (Preview) All I can do, is focus on me, control me & change me. Sad for this to be so difficult & guilt laden for us but it still takes me some work & hard focus some days, to just allow myself to consider my wants, needs & desires. It gets easier with practise, just like forgiveness. ...	kitty	4	433	Feb 25, 2006 by jrtjosey
	good news and a lesson from HP (Preview) Hello all: Yesterday my A had an appoinment with the gastoenterologist to get the results of his Hep C blood work. While he was in treatment he was given an antibody test that came back positive. Upon the confirmatory it was found to be NEGATIVE. Whic hwas great news. He wi...	Kim	1	333	Feb 25, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Prison (Preview) Someone in chat the other day said that they knew of a good group for Moms/families of prisoners. Does anyone remember who that was, or does anyone have any websites or groups they could recommend? Today is proving to be challenging. Thanks, Doxie	doxie	4	453	Feb 25, 2006 by Andrea12
	Welcome newcomers (Preview) I just wanted to say it is so nice to see so many new names here on the board and in chat. If you have questions here or there personal or technical don't be afraid to ask ask. You can ask them privately by clicking on any of our names and you will have the option to speak one on one. once aga...	jrtjosey	0	261	Feb 25, 2006 by jrtjosey
	hard to get into that morning routine when A husband is laying in bed hungover (Preview) Ok I really dont mind my son being home for school vacation. Dont need to get out the door 2.5hrs earlier than I leave for work to get him to the bus. However when I come downstairs and A husband is hungover in bed (we sleep separately) it really grinds on me! He calls in sick alot on Fridays. I cant get in ther...	Barbara	6	547	Feb 25, 2006 by Jeannie
	what would you do? (Preview) A couple of days ago I posted about my A relapsing. We have 2 small children (1&3) and I know one time for sure he came with beer after picking our son up from preschool. Two of the bottles were empty but he swore he poured them out on the way home because he felt bad for even buying it...	marcie301	6	452	Feb 25, 2006 by Jeannie
	chat room prayer (Preview) I heard that those in chat at somepoint yesterday said a group prayer for me and my family. All I can say is I heard about this while the caseworker was still at my house and couldn't even think about it anymore because I didn't want to be crying as soon as I talked to the caseworker. Thank you all so much...	bobump	4	2186	Feb 25, 2006 by mastiff
	Busy week (Preview) My house is finally finished. The landscapers finished today and the painters finished yesterday. My cabinets have been installed, the front door and interior doors have been replaced. I am too exhausted to enjoy it. My mother-in-law has kep the baby for two weeks while...	Powerless	4	291	Feb 25, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Not sure what to do - Advice? (Preview) The weekend is coming up, which means I will be going to my boyfriends'. He had recently quit drinking at the insistance of his father, whom he lives with. His father goes away sometimes on weekends and I stay at my bf's. Now that his father is away, I know he will want to get a bottle of...	paintthinnr	9	423	Feb 25, 2006 by maresie
	Nervous Breakdown - Self Care (Preview) This past week things have been coming to a head here. I discovered the 17 year old stepdaughter is smoking and had a bottle of vodka (big size) hidden in her drawer - her 21 year old sister has been buying the cigarettes for her, my 23 year old son bought one pack for her. The 17 year old is visi...	kismetstrand	13	710	Feb 25, 2006 by maresie
	I guess I just need some opinions..... (Preview) Last April my husband let me in on his secret problem with oxycontin and cocaine abuse. I knew something was up since so much money was missing. Although I didn't notice the symptoms of abuse since he always uses while drinking. I always thought he was drunk. Well it has been...	starangel	8	609	Feb 25, 2006 by Diva
	The Year of Me (Preview) I've known my a for 7 years. Right before the New Year, I told him all the time I've known you, the focus has been on you. It's going to be 7 years of the Year of Jill starting Jan 20056. He agreed (easy cuz nothing changes if...). Nearly the end of February, and it hit me, the focus is still on him. I have rece...	Jill	6	386	Feb 25, 2006 by Jill
	I took the risk (Preview) Well, after a 6 month separation, and a lot of soul searching and taking care of me I decided to take the risk and see how it goes, and told hubby on Friday that he could come home. As soon as I said it I thought oh god what have I set myself up for - I can see changes in him and as far as I am aware he has only had 1 sl...	Picowitch	7	369	Feb 25, 2006 by sandie123
	is this weird? (Preview) today is a bad day for me. no reason in paticular, but i just am worrying about my dad. i love him sooooo much!! i know that he loves me, too. but his drinking hurts me so much that i have detached myself from him. i refuse to support him and hold his hand while his life goes to sh*t. i wish i could jus...	flintfeet	3	424	Feb 25, 2006 by lin0606
	found book I was reading (Preview) Well I got a couple of the Getting Them Sober books--the first and fourth ones. I have been reading on them for the past few days. I ordered them a couple of weeks ago. Anyway--after a few more yucky days, he has decided again that he is through with the drugs--the last time "was enoug...	hudsond	3	414	Feb 24, 2006 by Christy
	Suddenly Life is again a seed (Preview) Suddenly Life is again a seed I am slipping further and further away from you For I do not know what else to do I am always feeling persistently blue Surrounded by darkness yearning for the light There is a tunnel ahead It calls my name It is time for me to go It is not you to blame ...	Lauren ashley	4	363	Feb 24, 2006 by Becky1
	Jesus Take the Wheel (Preview) This is a song by Carrie Underwood, and the lyrics fit so well what we alanon members need to do.....so here it is..I've been thinking about this song lately due to my current situation..I am powerless.... She was driving last Friday on her way to Cincinnati On a snow white Christmas Eve Going ho...	Becky1	5	430	Feb 24, 2006 by Becky1
	suicide worries and AA (Preview) My sister in law advised me that my brother has threatened suicide three times this month, including today. She is scared and wants me to talk to him. I spoke with him regarding her concern. He told me that she violated confidentiality and that I should not worry. He told me t...	figaro	8	612	Feb 24, 2006 by Jeannie
	prayers please (Preview) Hi everyone, My very good friend is at the moment going through the final stages of her life as it is on this earth with cancer. She is in a lot of pain and now 1300kms away in the city away from family and friends. This lady lives with her husband (a drinker) who is not able to be by her side bec...	leo	7	558	Feb 24, 2006 by Jeannie
	Slogans? (Preview) I have heard much talk about slogans, but where do you find them/learn them? Anyone have any favorites?	paintthinnr	4	413	Feb 24, 2006 by kitty
	addicted to my A? (Preview) Well I noticed the funniest thing. When he calls me or texts me, I feel like a kind of justification and like I am really 'doing' something here for myself. When he doesn't I feel lonely and like 'what's the point?' Why the heck does what I am doing here in my own house have to hinge upon what he...	sweetums	3	392	Feb 24, 2006 by ashraven
	Detaching and Getting a Life (Preview) My husband is a recovering addict/alcoholic. He also struggles with chronic pain, and sometimes overuses his pain meds (in my opinion.) I try to "detach" from his slogged demeanor on those occassions, but it really bothers me to see him that way. It reminds me of when I was young and my dad was drunk. I f...	terascot	5	424	Feb 24, 2006 by ashraven
	Dolphin123 (Preview) Has anybody heard from Dolphin? Hugs Mary	marmare	0	286	Feb 24, 2006 by marmare
	Alcoholism, a merry-go-round named denial... (Preview) This is a pamphalet handed to me today at my first f2f meeting ever. I nearly burst into tears as I read this booklet written 4 years after I was born about what is happening in my life today. To all of you who kept saying get ye to a meeting.... THANK YOU! It was a steps meeting, but all I cou...	rtexas	3	2891	Feb 24, 2006 by kitty
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