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tkyater2003 · tkyater2003

how does evevryone go on and live and all how do the ones that have signifant other stay with thier partners how do we do it go on day after day day after day yes i knew when i got with him he drank and all but how does one go on

Hopeless · Hopeless

In previous post I've explained the situation with my daughter having seizures, hospital visits and doctors appts... I've had to take a lot of time off of work (we just merged with another company so I have to apply for my position again).. Of course when it rains it pours - My daughters sitter h...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

Thank you all for giving me the encouragement I need right now. My AS has been gone for several days and that can only mean one thing, I don't know where he is but my HP does, I pray I can keep that in my thoughts so that I can go on and do the things that I need to do for my family and myself. My other son that has Au...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi Family, AGO's thread on the hardware store really got me thinking. Which is sometimes a scary thing. Right before lunch I had an IM from a friend who is in AA and struggling. He has had a few relapses and is sitting at about a week without drinking and working his steps again. I sometimes struggle with w...

lindadianne · lindadianne

Hi I ave just joined this site and I'm having difficulties with boundries of where my responsibiliy to help ends ,and how to know how much to give to others time energy and money wise? It seems such a hard thing for me to work out. I come from a family of 12 and my father was either a very heavy drinker or an...

AGO · AGO

So I go to The Hardware Store.....I walk in...look around, the place is HUGE, I am in Heaven!!!!. They have plants, tools, every kitchen appliance known to man, sodas, candy bars....I wander around for hours like a kid in a candy store, this place has everything I will ever need. I walk up to the teller,...

RandomSparkles · RandomSparkles

I need to ask how do you move on from the anger and heartache? My husband was sober for almost 2 decades and then fell off the wagon for 18 months. He now has over 100 days sober. His drinking and legal problems which were brought on by his behaviour while drinking has cost us so much emotionally and finan...

FuzzyLogic · FuzzyLogic

Sorry this is so long and may contain TMI. I am so damn sick of being told that everything I do is wrong. The entire time we have been together I have been mean to him. All the millions of little things he seeks out to justify attacking me or putting me down. My sanity is beyond questionable at this point. The...

RLC · RLC

I just found out this morning that I may have two Alcoholics in my home. I have known about the human A for 18 years now. But this morning I found two Natural Lite beer cans (my wifes drink of choice) chewed up in the computer room. My one year old Black Lab Ellie it seems has become addicted. I found all t...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

How do you know when it's time to leave your alcoholic loved one and begin a new life? When is enough enough? I've read that only you can know and it's different for every person, but it's something I've been thinking about for the last few weeks. I'm so burned out over my fiance's alcoholism, especia...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

It's been a while since I posted. I've been working my program and steps as has the Abf-sober and we've been doing pretty well. bumps in the road here and there but who doesn't have them? My doc recently put me on Zoloft due to some mega job related stress and mild depression plus he feels I may have PMDD i...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I'm grateful for it; the program, and the people in it and for the recovery and growth. At times I'm even grateful for the hard work and as I remembered this morning before going to make my apology my early sponsor reminding me "liking it is optional". I don't like it when others come after m...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So I saw my AH on thursday at his mom's birthday party and we agreed he couls come over to my house the next day. Once again he started talking about us getting back together, and finally I gave in. I say I gave in cause in the past I told him there was no chance in hell I would get back together with him until he...

reese7968 · reese7968

Hi everyone, I'm new to the board and I'm not sure how this works. I have been to face to face meetings before, but never online meetings or step work on a message board. Someone kindly referred me here and said that my father's brother would be Robert. lol So, would someone here mind pointing me to Robert...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I just wantit to go away = ( I'm so overwhelmed with the kids (my daughter being sick getting my son ready for a camping trip and taking the puppy to training classes) and the constant thought the whole time is the A is having a great old time, can come and go as he pleases and I have no help at all... BUT...

sirpher · sirpher

Here is the story, been with my AW for 15yrs, have two daughters 13 and 11. Her alcoholism started about 6yrs ago just after her gastric bypass. In this process, learned that she just swapped her addiction from food to alcohol. In the past two years, she has been in 3 different rehab places, 5 months in a h...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, Hmmmmm let's see if this thread turns out the way the subject makes it sound . I have stepped out of my comfort zone and volunteered to be the Al-anon co-chair for an AA function coming up in my area in September. It is an AA function with Al-anon participation. You want humor in your life....do...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I no longer want to be around people any longer. I can't handle the the "small things" that seems to be so important to other people, if their food order isn't just right, if the pens they ordered were blue instead of black, who left the light on in the room, my child got a "B" in chem...

Jozie · Jozie

ya know, its funny how HP can guide, and steer me thru life... I have been living in "Insanity" so long that at times it starts to feel normal all over again... I have learned some very valuable lessons here of late, and apparently HP felt the need to give me not one but Many lessons on Acceptanc...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I was writing on a post yesterday. Aparently I did everything right and got good responses Today, however I acted really fast on a thought that came to me. I texted my ex-alcoholic girlfriend to ask if we could get back together... What I wrote: "Good day. I know I'm not supposed to, but I had to sa...

angelbreeze127 · angelbreeze127

Fri nite, I stupidly drank MYSELF to try to get some intimacy after over a year from my ah... I guess I drank to forget he is a loser.. it didn't work and I got pissed and told him his 11 yr old son hates him.. whcih he has told me... so now, instead of addressing the issue of his inability to perform or WHY his s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am doing better! I did Ok on Sat. not so good on Sunday. Oh well...I will survive & yes, I am reaching out to others & still giving it away even though it sounds like it's "all about me" these days! sleep will always been an issue for me I have grown to accept. I really can't blame my hus...

Sgt_Pepper · Sgt_Pepper

I'm assuming every first post starts with a description of a messy situation so here is mine. My wife of almost 9 years is an binge alcoholic. Her rollercoaster ride has included a revolving door in and out of AA, 2 rehabs,6 weeks of weekend jail, a breathalyzer on our car for 2 years, 3 DUIs in MD, 2 DUI...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I've posted yesterday how my A is threatened by al anon by saying he thinks it is brainwashing me, etc... I get a text this morning telling me the person he is staying with got drunk last night and came after him.... 2 things came to mind 1) now you know how I feel and 2) your really trying hard to get my a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Duh!! ...It's a compulsion of the mind dang it!! Repeat that 1000 times and practice it twice that amount. Oh I had wonderful aim and I knew it was gonna hurt and be a mangled mess but I was compulsed to do it and stay in it until he (an alcoholic with a personality bent) got it!! I tried. I gave him all t...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Went to a funeral yesterday. He was one of my AH's best friends through high school. He would come to our house often to party but once my 2 children were like 6 and 3, I told my AH that it was him or us. I couldn't have that going on all the time with two small children. After that, we didn't see him much. At th...

shay57 · shay57

Have been looking in here for a bit and on the chat line. Seems there are not very many male members with alcoholic wives. Have been looking at what strategies and tools there are to deal with situations like this. Exasperated at the moment!!!!!

Bluelady · Bluelady

You were here for my very lowest so I want too share with you some good news. My daughter will get her Masters on June 6 and did it with straight A's. The most important thing I have to tell you she is still sober. She knows you can't dwell on the past yet you can't forget where you have been, just want you too kn...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi As I have written about earlier the contact is broken between me and my ex-girlfriend. I am feeling very down these days but have managed to not contact her. I have had countless times I almost sent her a text, an e-mail or phoned her. But I am more aware of my actions now, and I can see that every time it ha...

Criket · Criket

Hello everyone,I'm Criket and I really struggling with obsessing about my daughter who is an alcoholic. She is 33 and never drank until 4 years ago after she had a gastric bypass and flipped addictions. Now she is a full blown alcoholic. She has almost died many times, has horrible seizures and has tem...

Loshan · Loshan

Hi, I am new here and have a boyfriend who is drinking a little more than I feel comforatable with on a regular basis... and I we have talked about it some... and he tells me that as he is not hiding any of his drinking habits from me/not doing anything in secret. He tells me that means he has no problem with al...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting as I need to be at the hospital with my 87 year old aunt. Hoping someone can step up for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri

Ness · Ness

Right now Im fed up to the back teeth with fn alcoholism, it's rearing it's ugly head in so many ways I'm drowning.......... but tomorrow is a new day.......When I lay my head on the pillow tonight (it's 1am in Scotland) I will compile a gratitude list which I hope will give me rest.........you are...

Hopeless · Hopeless

My daughter had a seizure last night she had one before but this was the first time I actually witnessed it... She has Febrile Seizures which means it's fever induced and now that she had her second it's almost a given that this will happen every time she gets a fever. The good news is they ususally g...

macintosh · macintosh

Hi guys, question 1. Are we allowed to post on the AA board if we are not A? The reason I ask is, my husband had another slip this week, even though he has started going to meetings again. When I came home from work the next day, he was in the basement, just beside himself, he says he doesn't know what's wron...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

this time i will type in small case letters. I am not angry today because I slept better & am planning to enjoy this lovely weekend we are having up here. thanks to all who posted on my post. i think that is the most posts since i got on this wonderful website. thanks for being so honest. w/ all my complai...

adonaisgirl · adonaisgirl

I just wanted to thank all of you for being here on this board. I come in and out, am up and down, commited and lax... but I COUNT ON YOU to be here for me when I get my head either out of the clouds or out of the gutter and start working on my 'stuff'. The YOU's that are active and posting at any one time may chang...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))), Today here in the US is National Armed Forces Day. I know we have MIP family members who serve as well as family members who have loved ones serving. So from the bottom of my heart I salute you all. Thank you for your service to our country. If you are serving other countries too your s...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

I rarely post, but thought I would do so today to encourage anyone who has not yet gotten the book "Getting Them Sober" to get it. I am close to my divorce being finalized. I was stewing about something last night. The book title popped into my brain and I went in search for it. I opened the b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

IT HAS BEEN OVER A WEEK SINCE I HAVE HAD A GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP! I AM JUST NOW STARTING TO NOT BLAME MY A HUSBAND. HE CAN'T HELP THE FACT THAT HE HAS DIABETES I KNOW BUT IT SEEMS LIKE EVEN WHEN HE APOLOGIZES FOR WAKING ME UP IT ISN'T ENOUGH. I FEEL BAD THAT I CAN'T GET OVER THE FACT THAT I AM MAD OVER THIS EVEN THOUG...

Hopeless · Hopeless

And it's also 1 month ago today that I left my A = ) I would just like to thank every one that has helped because today I feel like a totally different person, today is MY day (i've never had a MY day until I started working this program).... This morning while my son taught my daugther how to say Hap...

Destynee · Destynee

I wrote a few weeks ago that I had to get a PFA on him. I was so tired after 5 months of him coming home after using and not getting help and then using and trying to meet women on the internet and not paying any bills (he gave me no money) and no help with our kids, 2 girls 3 and 1. His drugs of choice were crack an...

Aloha · Aloha

My stepdaughter moved about a week or two after turning 18. I don't feel it was a well thought-out move, as she has another year of high school left before graduating, but it is what it is. Great practice for me to Let Go and Let God. There was a lot of drama and strife from AH, though, who erupted at her annou...

maybethistime · maybethistime

My recovering husband and i are thinking of moving. he has only been sober 60 days, which i have to remind myself. Our oldest daughter is entering kindergarten in the fall. I'm not thrilled with our school. my husband and i are both teachers which might be why this is such a major issue for us. there are pe...

Hopeless · Hopeless

As I posted before I'm reading "Getting Them Sober" but I have some issues, lol... The book is very oriented around "leaving the situation"... Go and leave for 1 hour, step outside and go for a walk to cool off, etc... What if you can't?!?! What if you have an infant a...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi As I have been writing about here on the forum earlier my alcoholic girlfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. We stayed in touch for a while, speaking on the phone only and it was fine. Then a couple of days ago I went over to see her. It was fine at first, but then she said she was sexually atracted t...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, I've mentioned before that I had dated a man for about a year and his drinking made me uncomfortable. We stayed friends and been of help to each other at times. 6 or 7 weeks ago he told me during a phone call, and I could tell he had been drinking he needed to talk to me about something. Next fe...

Dyinginside · Dyinginside

I've been with my RABF for over 5 yrs now and he's been sober for 2 of these. He was never a nasty drunk, but once he got sober, he became more of a "dry drunk" and a jerk. He works a good job, never in trouble, never broke, none of the real crazy addict things, but it's his emotional state that is tr...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I've been getting calls from the A saying how much he misses me or he will offer me compliments when I drop off our daughter to him, etc... I'm just sitting here wondering why 1 1/2 months before that I was a loser that would never amount to anything, I was stupid, he couldn't even stand the sight of me, and...

bluerose79 · bluerose79

I've been reading this board all morning and I feel compelled to share what is going on with my BF who has been sober for 5 years. He has been distant and removed lately and i confronted him about it last weekend. He basically said he was scared and didnt know how to feel. but we didnt break up, instead, we s...

Hopeless · Hopeless

As you all know I'm going through my own issues and my priority right now is ME (which is a tough )... One of the hardest things I need to deal with is having the "fix it" mentality, etc... I'm in a situation with my best friend of 26 years! She is 36 years old and just had a baby = ) Her hu...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I'm starting a new thread because I didn't want to hijack Priscilla83's post (titled "setback"). I LOVED what a reply post said about alcoholism mowing down whatever is in its path!! LOVED IT!!! (Thanks for that, Bettina ;) I had this image in my head of long, beautiful green grass and a...

idontknow · idontknow

Last night with the "encouragement" of someone I went to an al-anon meeting for the first time in a year and a half. I left because of disappointment in the program.. being an adult child of alcoholics, sometimes the teachings of the program feels very cruel and harsh. Strangely enough the...

maresie · maresie

I've been having a hard time with being poor, the economy, loneliness and not knowing where I am going. The best thing I could come up with praying for was the cat poop in the neighbors garden rather than in the litter box. That wasn't answered of course because she is very self conscious and contrary....

maresie · maresie

My siamest Ruby is missing a sensitivity chip much like I am. Whenever she gets hungry she goes on a riff of demands to be fed. Right now the hunger can be any time but there is something of a clock to it. When she is hungry there is no reasoning with her that 2:00 a.m. isn't the right time to be fed. When s...

Jozie · Jozie

I know what "others" say & Feel is NONE of my Business, I know that I can not make them say or do anything that seems right to me... Wether it be the "A" in my life or my Best Friend... This last week has been very tryin...To say the least... As I had stated in my Last Share, My BF (Be...

barisax · barisax

... I still find my answers in meetings. Some people say that the program is in the book, that meetings are just icing on the cake. Not for me. Without meetings, there is no AA for me. So often, I have no idea what is going on with me. I will have a feeling of unease that won't go away, and I can't find it. I'...

Hopeless · Hopeless

WOW!!!! I'm only on Chapter 8 and all I can say again is WOW! From the stomach aches to the OBGYN appts, it's amazing how much this is hitting me right now... I want to send a special thanks to Candianguy for sending me this book for FREE and I advise anyone that doesn't have to click on the thread and g...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Well, I suppose that the saying "death is all part of life" is so true, as my father died last week, at the age of 84. He was an amazing man - someone we were always so blessed to have, and he was as proud of us as we were of him. His health was pretty good until he was 82, but in the end, a combination...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everybody, Need a few prayers please. Just came home today from the hospital from an emergency, they had to remove my appendix. Glad I only have one of those things, I do not want a repeat of this experience If anybody could say a quick prayer that my professors will accomodate some extensions or...

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	have many questions (Preview) how does evevryone go on and live and all how do the ones that have signifant other stay with thier partners how do we do it go on day after day day after day yes i knew when i got with him he drank and all but how does one go on	tkyater2003	7	951	May 20, 2010 by tkyater2003
	Need to be STRONGER! (Preview) In previous post I've explained the situation with my daughter having seizures, hospital visits and doctors appts... I've had to take a lot of time off of work (we just merged with another company so I have to apply for my position again).. Of course when it rains it pours - My daughters sitter h...	Hopeless	7	946	May 19, 2010 by soxfan
	I Am So Grateful For This Board..... (Preview) Thank you all for giving me the encouragement I need right now. My AS has been gone for several days and that can only mean one thing, I don't know where he is but my HP does, I pray I can keep that in my thoughts so that I can go on and do the things that I need to do for my family and myself. My other son that has Au...	DreamsOver	7	1004	May 19, 2010 by soxfan
	I can't give what I don't have (Preview) Hi Family, AGO's thread on the hardware store really got me thinking. Which is sometimes a scary thing. Right before lunch I had an IM from a friend who is in AA and struggling. He has had a few relapses and is sitting at about a week without drinking and working his steps again. I sometimes struggle with w...	Mandy123	7	1010	May 19, 2010 by Andrea12
	Unclear boundry issues (Preview) Hi I ave just joined this site and I'm having difficulties with boundries of where my responsibiliy to help ends ,and how to know how much to give to others time energy and money wise? It seems such a hard thing for me to work out. I come from a family of 12 and my father was either a very heavy drinker or an...	lindadianne	11	1546	May 19, 2010 by lindadianne
	What is WRONG with Hardware Stores???? (Preview) So I go to The Hardware Store.....I walk in...look around, the place is HUGE, I am in Heaven!!!!. They have plants, tools, every kitchen appliance known to man, sodas, candy bars....I wander around for hours like a kid in a candy store, this place has everything I will ever need. I walk up to the teller,...	AGO	13	4175	May 19, 2010 by sirpher
	Where to start..... (Preview) I need to ask how do you move on from the anger and heartache? My husband was sober for almost 2 decades and then fell off the wagon for 18 months. He now has over 100 days sober. His drinking and legal problems which were brought on by his behaviour while drinking has cost us so much emotionally and finan...	RandomSparkles	5	985	May 19, 2010 by abbyal
	Can't do anything right. (Preview) Sorry this is so long and may contain TMI. I am so damn sick of being told that everything I do is wrong. The entire time we have been together I have been mean to him. All the millions of little things he seeks out to justify attacking me or putting me down. My sanity is beyond questionable at this point. The...	FuzzyLogic	6	1350	May 19, 2010 by FuzzyLogic
	Doggie Al-Anon ??? (Preview) I just found out this morning that I may have two Alcoholics in my home. I have known about the human A for 18 years now. But this morning I found two Natural Lite beer cans (my wifes drink of choice) chewed up in the computer room. My one year old Black Lab Ellie it seems has become addicted. I found all t...	RLC	10	1340	May 19, 2010 by aprilleaves
	How did you know when it was time to leave? (Preview) How do you know when it's time to leave your alcoholic loved one and begin a new life? When is enough enough? I've read that only you can know and it's different for every person, but it's something I've been thinking about for the last few weeks. I'm so burned out over my fiance's alcoholism, especia...	zhotdogs99	12	3973	May 19, 2010 by zhotdogs99
	Why can't emotional baggage get lost at baggage claim? (Preview) It's been a while since I posted. I've been working my program and steps as has the Abf-sober and we've been doing pretty well. bumps in the road here and there but who doesn't have them? My doc recently put me on Zoloft due to some mega job related stress and mild depression plus he feels I may have PMDD i...	lizzakiss	6	731	May 19, 2010 by blender_girl
	It's not required that you like it... (Preview) I'm grateful for it; the program, and the people in it and for the recovery and growth. At times I'm even grateful for the hard work and as I remembered this morning before going to make my apology my early sponsor reminding me "liking it is optional". I don't like it when others come after m...	Jerry F	7	1022	May 19, 2010 by blender_girl
	Doing the right thing? (Preview) So I saw my AH on thursday at his mom's birthday party and we agreed he couls come over to my house the next day. Once again he started talking about us getting back together, and finally I gave in. I say I gave in cause in the past I told him there was no chance in hell I would get back together with him until he...	Priscilla83	3	877	May 18, 2010 by Jerry F
	New To Message Board (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to the board and I'm not sure how this works. I have been to face to face meetings before, but never online meetings or step work on a message board. Someone kindly referred me here and said that my father's brother would be Robert. lol So, would someone here mind pointing me to Robert...	reese7968	4	943	May 18, 2010 by reese7968
	Have to let go of this ANGER! (Preview) I just wantit to go away = ( I'm so overwhelmed with the kids (my daughter being sick getting my son ready for a camping trip and taking the puppy to training classes) and the constant thought the whole time is the A is having a great old time, can come and go as he pleases and I have no help at all... BUT...	Hopeless	20	1148	May 18, 2010 by Hopeless
	New to the board - just needing support (Preview) Here is the story, been with my AW for 15yrs, have two daughters 13 and 11. Her alcoholism started about 6yrs ago just after her gastric bypass. In this process, learned that she just swapped her addiction from food to alcohol. In the past two years, she has been in 3 different rehab places, 5 months in a h...	sirpher	5	988	May 18, 2010 by sirpher
	Gettin Busy Al-anon Style (Preview) Hi family, Hmmmmm let's see if this thread turns out the way the subject makes it sound . I have stepped out of my comfort zone and volunteered to be the Al-anon co-chair for an AA function coming up in my area in September. It is an AA function with Al-anon participation. You want humor in your life....do...	Mandy123	7	1347	May 18, 2010 by RLC
	I Want To Withdraw From Everyday Life..... (Preview) I no longer want to be around people any longer. I can't handle the the "small things" that seems to be so important to other people, if their food order isn't just right, if the pens they ordered were blue instead of black, who left the light on in the room, my child got a "B" in chem...	DreamsOver	6	1206	May 18, 2010 by Ness
	One more time... (Preview) ya know, its funny how HP can guide, and steer me thru life... I have been living in "Insanity" so long that at times it starts to feel normal all over again... I have learned some very valuable lessons here of late, and apparently HP felt the need to give me not one but Many lessons on Acceptanc...	Jozie	4	655	May 17, 2010 by Jerry F
	Relsapse? (Preview) Hi I was writing on a post yesterday. Aparently I did everything right and got good responses Today, however I acted really fast on a thought that came to me. I texted my ex-alcoholic girlfriend to ask if we could get back together... What I wrote: "Good day. I know I'm not supposed to, but I had to sa...	Cosmos	8	595	May 17, 2010 by hotrod
	turned it around again (Preview) Fri nite, I stupidly drank MYSELF to try to get some intimacy after over a year from my ah... I guess I drank to forget he is a loser.. it didn't work and I got pissed and told him his 11 yr old son hates him.. whcih he has told me... so now, instead of addressing the issue of his inability to perform or WHY his s...	angelbreeze127	5	616	May 17, 2010 by maresie
	Update on me & my struggles (Preview) I am doing better! I did Ok on Sat. not so good on Sunday. Oh well...I will survive & yes, I am reaching out to others & still giving it away even though it sounds like it's "all about me" these days! sleep will always been an issue for me I have grown to accept. I really can't blame my hus...	Hoot Nanny	2	659	May 17, 2010 by Jerry F
	Big Big Mess... (Preview) I'm assuming every first post starts with a description of a messy situation so here is mine. My wife of almost 9 years is an binge alcoholic. Her rollercoaster ride has included a revolving door in and out of AA, 2 rehabs,6 weeks of weekend jail, a breathalyzer on our car for 2 years, 3 DUIs in MD, 2 DUI...	Sgt_Pepper	9	868	May 17, 2010 by sirpher
	Threatened by Al Anon... (Preview) I've posted yesterday how my A is threatened by al anon by saying he thinks it is brainwashing me, etc... I get a text this morning telling me the person he is staying with got drunk last night and came after him.... 2 things came to mind 1) now you know how I feel and 2) your really trying hard to get my a...	Hopeless	7	971	May 17, 2010 by Jozie
	So when it was done I'd blown my foot off!! (Preview) Duh!! ...It's a compulsion of the mind dang it!! Repeat that 1000 times and practice it twice that amount. Oh I had wonderful aim and I knew it was gonna hurt and be a mangled mess but I was compulsed to do it and stay in it until he (an alcoholic with a personality bent) got it!! I tried. I gave him all t...	Jerry F	11	956	May 17, 2010 by Jozie
	The reality of alcoholism (Preview) Went to a funeral yesterday. He was one of my AH's best friends through high school. He would come to our house often to party but once my 2 children were like 6 and 3, I told my AH that it was him or us. I couldn't have that going on all the time with two small children. After that, we didn't see him much. At th...	Sweet Stanley	5	1327	May 17, 2010 by mikeco
	Alcohilic Wife (Preview) Have been looking in here for a bit and on the chat line. Seems there are not very many male members with alcoholic wives. Have been looking at what strategies and tools there are to deal with situations like this. Exasperated at the moment!!!!!	shay57	11	1389	May 16, 2010 by LG
	update on my daughter (Preview) You were here for my very lowest so I want too share with you some good news. My daughter will get her Masters on June 6 and did it with straight A's. The most important thing I have to tell you she is still sober. She knows you can't dwell on the past yet you can't forget where you have been, just want you too kn...	Bluelady	6	734	May 16, 2010 by DreamsOver
	Nervous about meeting today (Preview) Hi As I have written about earlier the contact is broken between me and my ex-girlfriend. I am feeling very down these days but have managed to not contact her. I have had countless times I almost sent her a text, an e-mail or phoned her. But I am more aware of my actions now, and I can see that every time it ha...	Cosmos	7	1228	May 16, 2010 by hotrod
	Pretty New to this need help! (Preview) Hello everyone,I'm Criket and I really struggling with obsessing about my daughter who is an alcoholic. She is 33 and never drank until 4 years ago after she had a gastric bypass and flipped addictions. Now she is a full blown alcoholic. She has almost died many times, has horrible seizures and has tem...	Criket	8	1036	May 16, 2010 by xeno59
	boyfriend says he has no problem with alcohol ... but I am concerned... how do I know if there is a real problem? (Preview) Hi, I am new here and have a boyfriend who is drinking a little more than I feel comforatable with on a regular basis... and I we have talked about it some... and he tells me that as he is not hiding any of his drinking habits from me/not doing anything in secret. He tells me that means he has no problem with al...	Loshan	14	1174	May 16, 2010 by xeno59
	MONDAY A.M. MEETING (Preview) I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting as I need to be at the hospital with my 87 year old aunt. Hoping someone can step up for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	0	303	May 16, 2010 by shimo
	New day (Preview) Right now Im fed up to the back teeth with fn alcoholism, it's rearing it's ugly head in so many ways I'm drowning.......... but tomorrow is a new day.......When I lay my head on the pillow tonight (it's 1am in Scotland) I will compile a gratitude list which I hope will give me rest.........you are...	Ness	5	683	May 16, 2010 by Ness
	Really down right now... (Preview) My daughter had a seizure last night she had one before but this was the first time I actually witnessed it... She has Febrile Seizures which means it's fever induced and now that she had her second it's almost a given that this will happen every time she gets a fever. The good news is they ususally g...	Hopeless	13	1254	May 16, 2010 by MissyPoo
	posting threads on another board (Preview) Hi guys, question 1. Are we allowed to post on the AA board if we are not A? The reason I ask is, my husband had another slip this week, even though he has started going to meetings again. When I came home from work the next day, he was in the basement, just beside himself, he says he doesn't know what's wron...	macintosh	8	1241	May 16, 2010 by Mandy123
	Not too bad! (Preview) this time i will type in small case letters. I am not angry today because I slept better & am planning to enjoy this lovely weekend we are having up here. thanks to all who posted on my post. i think that is the most posts since i got on this wonderful website. thanks for being so honest. w/ all my complai...	Hoot Nanny	2	690	May 15, 2010 by Jerry F
	Thanks for Being Here.... (Preview) I just wanted to thank all of you for being here on this board. I come in and out, am up and down, commited and lax... but I COUNT ON YOU to be here for me when I get my head either out of the clouds or out of the gutter and start working on my 'stuff'. The YOU's that are active and posting at any one time may chang...	adonaisgirl	3	692	May 15, 2010 by Jerry F
	Armed Forces Day (Preview) (((((Family)))), Today here in the US is National Armed Forces Day. I know we have MIP family members who serve as well as family members who have loved ones serving. So from the bottom of my heart I salute you all. Thank you for your service to our country. If you are serving other countries too your s...	Karilynn	4	748	May 15, 2010 by RLC
	The Book (Preview) I rarely post, but thought I would do so today to encourage anyone who has not yet gotten the book "Getting Them Sober" to get it. I am close to my divorce being finalized. I was stewing about something last night. The book title popped into my brain and I went in search for it. I opened the b...	GailMichelle	0	492	May 15, 2010 by GailMichelle
	It has been over a week! (Preview) IT HAS BEEN OVER A WEEK SINCE I HAVE HAD A GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP! I AM JUST NOW STARTING TO NOT BLAME MY A HUSBAND. HE CAN'T HELP THE FACT THAT HE HAS DIABETES I KNOW BUT IT SEEMS LIKE EVEN WHEN HE APOLOGIZES FOR WAKING ME UP IT ISN'T ENOUGH. I FEEL BAD THAT I CAN'T GET OVER THE FACT THAT I AM MAD OVER THIS EVEN THOUG...	Hoot Nanny	7	1093	May 15, 2010 by xeno59
	Today is my Birthday = ) (Preview) And it's also 1 month ago today that I left my A = ) I would just like to thank every one that has helped because today I feel like a totally different person, today is MY day (i've never had a MY day until I started working this program).... This morning while my son taught my daugther how to say Hap...	Hopeless	19	1098	May 15, 2010 by Karilynn
	I guess I was abandoned by my H (Preview) I wrote a few weeks ago that I had to get a PFA on him. I was so tired after 5 months of him coming home after using and not getting help and then using and trying to meet women on the internet and not paying any bills (he gave me no money) and no help with our kids, 2 girls 3 and 1. His drugs of choice were crack an...	Destynee	6	1163	May 15, 2010 by Mattie
	Grateful I can Mind My Own Business! (Preview) My stepdaughter moved about a week or two after turning 18. I don't feel it was a well thought-out move, as she has another year of high school left before graduating, but it is what it is. Great practice for me to Let Go and Let God. There was a lot of drama and strife from AH, though, who erupted at her annou...	Aloha	4	873	May 14, 2010 by Aloha
	moving, decision making...ughhh! (Preview) My recovering husband and i are thinking of moving. he has only been sober 60 days, which i have to remind myself. Our oldest daughter is entering kindergarten in the fall. I'm not thrilled with our school. my husband and i are both teachers which might be why this is such a major issue for us. there are pe...	maybethistime	6	912	May 14, 2010 by wp
	The Book... (Preview) As I posted before I'm reading "Getting Them Sober" but I have some issues, lol... The book is very oriented around "leaving the situation"... Go and leave for 1 hour, step outside and go for a walk to cool off, etc... What if you can't?!?! What if you have an infant a...	Hopeless	8	706	May 14, 2010 by Hopeless
	From bad to worse (Preview) Hi As I have been writing about here on the forum earlier my alcoholic girlfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. We stayed in touch for a while, speaking on the phone only and it was fine. Then a couple of days ago I went over to see her. It was fine at first, but then she said she was sexually atracted t...	Cosmos	10	1113	May 14, 2010 by Bella333
	crossed boundaries lead to endings (Preview) Hello everyone, I've mentioned before that I had dated a man for about a year and his drinking made me uncomfortable. We stayed friends and been of help to each other at times. 6 or 7 weeks ago he told me during a phone call, and I could tell he had been drinking he needed to talk to me about something. Next fe...	Jennifer	6	891	May 13, 2010 by kitty
	I want to leave, but I want to stay (Preview) I've been with my RABF for over 5 yrs now and he's been sober for 2 of these. He was never a nasty drunk, but once he got sober, he became more of a "dry drunk" and a jerk. He works a good job, never in trouble, never broke, none of the real crazy addict things, but it's his emotional state that is tr...	Dyinginside	13	927	May 13, 2010 by Dyinginside
	Wondering... (Preview) I've been getting calls from the A saying how much he misses me or he will offer me compliments when I drop off our daughter to him, etc... I'm just sitting here wondering why 1 1/2 months before that I was a loser that would never amount to anything, I was stupid, he couldn't even stand the sight of me, and...	Hopeless	18	1042	May 13, 2010 by Hopeless
	Relationship Advice- am I doing this to myself? love relationships fear cheating sober (Preview) I've been reading this board all morning and I feel compelled to share what is going on with my BF who has been sober for 5 years. He has been distant and removed lately and i confronted him about it last weekend. He basically said he was scared and didnt know how to feel. but we didnt break up, instead, we s...	bluerose79	11	10684	May 12, 2010 by soxfan
	Little Guidance... (Preview) As you all know I'm going through my own issues and my priority right now is ME (which is a tough )... One of the hardest things I need to deal with is having the "fix it" mentality, etc... I'm in a situation with my best friend of 26 years! She is 36 years old and just had a baby = ) Her hu...	Hopeless	10	1513	May 12, 2010 by soxfan
	Rogue Mower ;) (Preview) I'm starting a new thread because I didn't want to hijack Priscilla83's post (titled "setback"). I LOVED what a reply post said about alcoholism mowing down whatever is in its path!! LOVED IT!!! (Thanks for that, Bettina ;) I had this image in my head of long, beautiful green grass and a...	White Rabbit	6	952	May 12, 2010 by soxfan
	run by to-do lists (Preview) Last night with the "encouragement" of someone I went to an al-anon meeting for the first time in a year and a half. I left because of disappointment in the program.. being an adult child of alcoholics, sometimes the teachings of the program feels very cruel and harsh. Strangely enough the...	idontknow	7	1015	May 12, 2010 by idontknow
	Making the dog biscuits. (Preview) I've been having a hard time with being poor, the economy, loneliness and not knowing where I am going. The best thing I could come up with praying for was the cat poop in the neighbors garden rather than in the litter box. That wasn't answered of course because she is very self conscious and contrary....	maresie	6	1154	May 12, 2010 by maresie
	Sensitivy chip. (Preview) My siamest Ruby is missing a sensitivity chip much like I am. Whenever she gets hungry she goes on a riff of demands to be fed. Right now the hunger can be any time but there is something of a clock to it. When she is hungry there is no reasoning with her that 2:00 a.m. isn't the right time to be fed. When s...	maresie	3	854	May 12, 2010 by maresie
	Struggling with "Others" Lack of Compassion (Preview) I know what "others" say & Feel is NONE of my Business, I know that I can not make them say or do anything that seems right to me... Wether it be the "A" in my life or my Best Friend... This last week has been very tryin...To say the least... As I had stated in my Last Share, My BF (Be...	Jozie	9	932	May 12, 2010 by hotrod
	Even If I Don't Know The Question (Preview) ... I still find my answers in meetings. Some people say that the program is in the book, that meetings are just icing on the cake. Not for me. Without meetings, there is no AA for me. So often, I have no idea what is going on with me. I will have a feeling of unease that won't go away, and I can't find it. I'...	barisax	9	846	May 11, 2010 by tlcate
	Getting Them Sober (Preview) WOW!!!! I'm only on Chapter 8 and all I can say again is WOW! From the stomach aches to the OBGYN appts, it's amazing how much this is hitting me right now... I want to send a special thanks to Candianguy for sending me this book for FREE and I advise anyone that doesn't have to click on the thread and g...	Hopeless	8	2919	May 11, 2010 by tlcate
	Celebration of life... (Preview) Well, I suppose that the saying "death is all part of life" is so true, as my father died last week, at the age of 84. He was an amazing man - someone we were always so blessed to have, and he was as proud of us as we were of him. His health was pretty good until he was 82, but in the end, a combination...	canadianguy	17	957	May 11, 2010 by tlcate
	Need a few prayers (Preview) Hello Everybody, Need a few prayers please. Just came home today from the hospital from an emergency, they had to remove my appendix. Glad I only have one of those things, I do not want a repeat of this experience If anybody could say a quick prayer that my professors will accomodate some extensions or...	Jennifer	12	752	May 11, 2010 by wp
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