Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

likemyheart · likemyheart

A little background: A few years ago my AH was diagnosed with a heart defect, Aortic Stenosis, Mild (as opposed to acute); ever since then, even though the battery of tests they did showed no heart blockages, no reasons for any worry, hes latched onto the diagnosis whenever it has suited him to do so to g...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I have been out of town for ten days and I have got to tell you guys it is good to be home. It is such a nice feeling to be "unplugged" away from the computer and being able to burn time without worrying about being late or needing to get to "there" and stressed because I have not left &q...

Aimee · Aimee

Ok, here's my dilemma. During my AH's relapse he had 2 one-night-stands with two seperate women. Both of these women are now involved in a casual relationship with my brother-in-law (Yes, I am painfully aware how twisted this is....) So last night was the first time, since I became aware of the infede...

mslouise · mslouise

Hello all - well, it's been about 1 year since I have heard from my ex-abf. (after five years of hell). I've forgave, but not forgotten which seems to be the problem. some days are good...today is a very good day. Some days are a struggle. I suffered from severe Anxiety and Panic attacks when with th...

youfoundme · youfoundme

There is an interesting thing going on when my bf drinks. I am not sure what it is, but it has only been happening the last 7 weeks that he drinks to a certain point. He suddenly gets really red in the face, anywhere that he ever had a scar turns deep red (even old bug bite spots), and he can't breathe well. ...

Megthompson · Megthompson

Hi all, Its been a while since I have been here.Tonight is hard for me.I had to tell my 2 drinking children that they are not welcome to stay in my house with my youngest 18 year old daughter who doesn't have a drinking problem, while I am out of town attending my brothers wedding for 9 days.It was really har...

sierramorningstar · sierramorningstar

My parntner is an alchoholic, who has quit drinking. He quit about a year ago on his own accord, but since then has relapsed several times. Everytime he gets really angry he wants to, and sometimes he breaks down and does. Even though he has quit he still displays a lot of alchoholic patterns. He is very d...

Soobie · Soobie

Need encouragement. Recently filed for divorce from AH. With 3 kids (who all have busy summer schedules) and a full time job, have not found time to attend a meeting. Closest meeting is 30 miles away. I have been feeling very alone and trying to hold it together for my kids, but every free moment I ha...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

My wife has fallen into a deep hole of depression. She's been unable to get out of bed for most of the last 3 days. She's always struggled with depression and had a few depressive episodes like this in the past, however this is the first really major, debilitating one like this since we have known each oth...

hopenfaith · hopenfaith

Hello everyone, I found my husband sitting in his favorite chair in the garage again this past weekend with that same look in his eyes. "I'm sorry I am a failure to you", he said as he started sobbing. At that very moment, I knew he had been drinking. He had been drinking all day long here and the...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I found this forum a couple of weeks ago and have been "lurking" ever since. I am reposting this message that I had previously posted in response to canadianguy's post regarding "lurkers." I didn't realize that my user name could be found on search engines, so I am reposting thi...

canadianguy · canadianguy

This is a message to all the lurkers out there (and there are many of you) - who come here to read and learn, but have not yet posted your story or questions/concerns.... I wanted to say...... WELCOME! - and please feel free to stay as long as you want! This is a great site, with tons of awesome people on bo...

chinup · chinup

who in gods green earth wouldnt jump at the chance to go to england ive always wanted to go,plus my kids being there is another thing,something must be really wrong with me its gotta be mental......chinup.......odat

John · John

C'on people... Databases at Banks are hacked, Sony's database of xbox and PS3 purchasers was hacked... military and government databases are hacked... And yet, we expect we will throw our full names, addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, place of employment.. blah, blah, blah, into cybers...

Revok · Revok

Never been too good at lurking, I prefer to jump right in. So here goes. My brother started drinking when he was 14, that was 20 years ago. My parents have both been sober and in AA for over 20 years, and my methods for dealing with my brother come from what they have tought me. They moved out of state a few...

chinup · chinup

my 1st time to ever fly so, my daughter in england calls me wit saying she is getting me a ticket round trip at a fdecent price,ill get on a plane in memphis and fly out to canada,then from canada onto england my daughter has never been to canada so doesnt know how it is,we r trying to find out how big the airpo...

MDK · MDK

Hello, I am new to MIP but I have been in Alanon for 3 years. I am married to a recovering alcoholic and he completed rehab 3 years ago and has not had a drop of alcohol since then, but he has smoked pot, stole my medication (adderall), and bought pills (benzos). I have found this to become stressful althoug...

spc75 · spc75

I have been in Al-Anon for about 2 years and have decided to divorce my AH. I spent a great deal of time making sure my motives were seeking a divorce were honest and not out of frustration, spite, or control. We are still living in the same house and I have been fairly ok with everything, but for the past 2 da...

chinup · chinup

says if my depression is that bad then maybe i should go check myself into the hospital,and she came online to ask me if i could make arrangements to come,that she was ver hurt over all this i told her i was even more hurt over it,then i thought about getting some antidepressants from my dr samples so i got m...

chinup · chinup

i woke up 3am crying ,id been obsessing over and over about it and would wake up scared,but,the real reason for my not going is my depression hasnt gotten worse along with anxiety im having problems getting my right meds and daughter sprung this on me all in one min.i typed her a really long letter of reas...

Otie · Otie

I admit that for the past few days I have been wandering into the AA message board of MIP. At first I felt a little odd (guilty, I guess) as if I was evesdropping on private conversations----but, apparently we are free to do so. I know that there are some members of this board who are dual members. I alwa...

onewildflower · onewildflower

I am so sick to my stomach. Yesterday was our 6 month mark for being married. We're still newly weds. I have noticed that my husband drinks alot when he drinks. He does not think that he does, the problem is though he hides how much he drinks. He will drink wine in front of me but then hide the vodka he dr...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

A little update.... The day I told the ex that I would not take a polygraph test, the rehab's social told him that he needed to go to the sober living house after his 28-day stay. In addition, his counselor had advised him that he needs to be evaluated by a psychiatrist for his delusions. It was all too mu...

Jozie · Jozie

Well as Most know I have been Seriously struggling with Juggling everyday life here of late, and I was saying that i needed just a Small 'time out' to feel strong enough to go on... Well I ask, and I Recieved in Full This past week has been nothing short of stressful, But on the Up side of things, this past we...

Marisa · Marisa

My husband's uncle is an alcoholic. He has been in and out of rehab the past few years. He refuses to follow reccomendations and just last Friday left a treatment facility after doing 3 days of detox. He says he doesn't want to do treatment, doesn't need AA, can do it on his own, blah, blah, blah..... I'...

Samsgram · Samsgram

Well, today was a pretty stressful day.. My A brother is getting worse and worse as time goes by. He is in pretty rough shape at age 50 and my mother who has breast cancer has been crippling him forever. She babies him to no end. It is absolutely sickening to watch. I have mentioned Alanon but for her she say...

oldergal · oldergal

"I had/have a big fear of losing my compassion thru detachment. I am beginning to understand, though, that my first concepts of detachment were erroneous. It seems that it doesn't make sense (completely) until you actually start practicing it." It does seem confusing Otie, I have be...

Jozie · Jozie

Did ya Ever get so Tired ya Just forgot Who & What you were and are suppose to be heading tords? I got my Calendar out, and in the last 6 WEEKS.... there has been 2 days that I did not Have Something on the Schedule to do after, putting in my 40hr work wk... I keep thinking what can I cut? and Honestly can't c...

chinup · chinup

i need lots of encouragement on flying and being so far away from home in england and im here in mississippi.everytime i go to sleep and wake up i keep having these horible dreams about flying and everything untill i come to reality,im somewhat ok right now.but daughter has to have an answer by tomorrow...

shimo · shimo

I am having a series of tests at the hospital that began last Monday morning, June 6 and continues tomorrow morning June 13, and the morning of June 27. I am unable to chair my regularly scheduled Monday meetings for these dates. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks.

Corgi2 · Corgi2

I don't know what to do right now other then come to Al Anon friends. My ABF of 3 years has been actively drinking again and has not talked to me for the past couple days. Facebook is an awful thing because I have to see every picture he puts up of him drinking and he's also hanging out in groups where there ar...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

So my ABF and I have been taking some time apart the past few months...we were living together, but I recently moved back home and we see each other 2 or 3 times a week. In the past few weeks he has been calling less, doesn't call before bed. His phone "dies" all the time. I try to be understanding...

light blue · light blue

My ah is a functional drinker who drinks beer after work. He normally just drinks and he is pleasant .Two nights ago he drunk 3/4 of a bottle of straight JD. For some reason I brought up something in the past that was upsetting me , he then brought up an incident from the past where I was raped (I usually know...

GreenK · GreenK

Hi all, I wasn't sure how active this board is but would like some input and wasn't sure where else I should post this topic. I began attending Alanon meetings early this year and have had profound changes in my personal and work life through the program. I have a wonderful sponsor who has been in the p...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Help! What do I need to do to fix this.....a friend told me if you google my name it's showing all my posts on this Al-anon website, and sure enough, I googled my name and it shows everything I'm posting on this site! What do I need to do to fix this, anyone know? I already removed my name from the settings...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Last night was another Family Meeting Night at the rehab facility. Before the meeting, we met with his counselor privately to discusshis on-going obsession of me having a fling. We got no where with him. I did state that I would not take a polygraph. I told him that it's his job to work it out. That...

stephaniej · stephaniej

It's been awhile since I've checked in, MIPers, but I do try to come on the board periodically to see how folks are doing. Some of you may recall that my AH was working several hundred miles away, and we were seeing him about one weekend a month. While the arrangement meant I was functionally a single mot...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I was going to go see my exAH tonight, but before I got over there he has called me a few times and in each conversation he is talking down to me and not being nice at all. He is try to make me admit things that make no sense to me and trying to tell me I have never built him up or given him compliments and I am just ne...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I came home yesterday and he was already drunk. Didn't matter at that point, but my fear interjected and on the way to get the kids, he brought a glass of wine with him. When I say glass, I say a large water glass...anyway, it ended up being thrown out of the car window while I lashed out at him on the way to g...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Hello family - I will be unavailable to chair next Friday morning's meeting - I hope someone will be able to step in and run the meeting! Love you all, bg

mr5191 · mr5191

It has been a few weeks since I posted and things have improved some days and others it has not. I have been reading the Al-Anon book and have just ordered the daily reader and an Al-Ateen book for my oldest daughter. I have been following the advice and guidelines of dealing with my AW using detachment...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Just got home from the Wednesday Turning Point meeting and watching another Miracle in Progress. The chair for the meeting is a relative newbie who has been clawing for serenity from day one. Mostly she would weep and LOL had already gone thru a box or two of tissues which the meeting supplies. Toni...

coffeegrounds · coffeegrounds

Well I am back! I only posted one other time, about a year ago. But I found my way back. reading your post today I feel encouraged and know that if I work the program I too can find the serenity I so long for. My story: Well 1 year ago my AH went into rehab for a month, at that time I was so relieved that he was...

Debilyn · Debilyn

This darling cutie is my Skinny Pig, a hairless guinea pig! Her name is mazylou. I just love her! She is about 5 weeks old. feels like a sorta thicker ballon. lol When ya hold her she kinda sticks to your hands! I tell people she kept falling asleep during her photo shoot. she is very affectionate and like...

downdenise · downdenise

Hello! I believe I need Al-anon in my life but not sure how to do it at this point because I am mostly in a single parent role. I would like to discuss a lot of the hardships I have been though over the past 3 years but for now would like to discuss my most recent dailys. The man I love is an addict in so many for...

devlynn · devlynn

My f2f tonight was awesome! It wasn't a step meeting and to be honest I think a few of us were a little confused on the exact topic in the begining lol. However it seemed everyones HP had a hand in it tonight! I know mine did!! A copy of The Forum with a highlighted paragraph ended up in front of me to read. The E...

WAJess · WAJess

I do not yet have a sponsor, yet I think it is important to share my thoughts with others seeking or in recovery to gain insight from their experience, hope and strength. I just finished this journal entry after reading today's ODAT. Reasoning resentment away!? What is my motive, my reason for getti...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I am getting a divorce so I am usually angry or sad about the realtionship. I am lonesome, because I want to fastforward to a loving healthy relationship at times. I didn't get a good nights sleep and I am trying to lose weight so not eating much. So I am HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY AND TIRED. Not a good mix today...

QOD · QOD

It's been a while since I've visited this website. I've been rolling along in my life, concentrating on getting my teenage son through a court ordered drug program. Dealing w/my teenager and his legal issues is how I've spent the last few years. In the process of coping with him, I got back together...

hyacinth · hyacinth

H in inpatient rehab. He was diagnosed as bipolar I with co-morbid substance abuse issues. I have a question. He's commented that the people there are in their teens and 20's, most with court ordered rehab. He's 54. He feels as though there is no relating going on in either direction. I didn't re...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

My ex is still in rehab. Today is day 8. He stopped taking detox meds just yesterday. Today, he phoned to tell me that he feels good physically; however, he feels very depressed because he still believes that one of his brothers and I spent time together. He now wants me to take a polygraph test. He s...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

They were words said to me. Their meaning didn't hit me until the conversation ended and I was driving home. It was one of those HP lightening bolt moments. I'm struggling with control. I have a tremendous opportunity to do something I have only dreamed of doing, but it means leaving my AH alone wit...

chinup · chinup

ok, so he says how can one tell,he works 7 days a week hard labor work carpentry,roofing,concrete,jack of all trades but he works all them days and lives with his boss and his family,his past shot dilaudas alot of his life,drank vodka everyday for who kows how long drinks today every day he has got hipa...

devlynn · devlynn

Ok Im sure I shouldn't worry about tomorrow and what not but I know it's coming sobi want to be prepared. Here is my situation. When ABF went to jail his A mom blamed me, all the bs that goes with that and sent me some pretty nasty emails. Well I reacted. This of course wa before I found my program so it wasn't n...

LifesABeach · LifesABeach

Hey! I'm new to the boards but not new to AA/Alanon. I've been married to my AH for over 20 yrs. I'm at a bit of a crossroads in my life and have been praying for guidance. I think my prayers may have led me to this board because I'm truly not getting an answer as to what I should do at this point. I'm trying...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I haven't started a topic for a long time. I just wanted you to know that "yes, Tom" I am still lurking around this site. I usually read the topics and responses several times a week, read my daily meditations, and am still attending my F2F meetings weekly. Things in my life are going prett...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

Well here I am, after leaving my home town (which I Hate, very small) after a year and a half, Back in town!!! Living with my daughter, no vehicle, no job. Things were just getting worse and worse with Ab/f of nine years. Big blow up, walked out on my job and out of his life. I knew that it was what I needed to pr...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I just absolutely love your posts and your ESH. I used to have 1 when I was in high school. The picture made me laugh and wonder if my eyes were seeing this right??? I just love you!!!!! You rock!

likemyheart · likemyheart

Today I drove a bus of 8th graders over a hundred miles to a mall for a shopping experience. I went to the new pirate movie, enjoyed lunch and browsing some of the shops (and got paid for my time, egads, i love this job!). I started driving bus this last year, its fun and brings me in contact with a lot of reall...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I still struggle with the concept of aism being a family disease. My exAH's aism/addiction was convert and hidden even from me until about 48 hrs before he went to rehab. Obviously a lot of denial, coping and survival skills were in place for me. My daughter was 10 when our family blew up. Initally...

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	Am I Too detached? I don't know how I feel. (Preview) A little background: A few years ago my AH was diagnosed with a heart defect, Aortic Stenosis, Mild (as opposed to acute); ever since then, even though the battery of tests they did showed no heart blockages, no reasons for any worry, hes latched onto the diagnosis whenever it has suited him to do so to g...	likemyheart	12	734	Jun 15, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Good to be home (Preview) I have been out of town for ten days and I have got to tell you guys it is good to be home. It is such a nice feeling to be "unplugged" away from the computer and being able to burn time without worrying about being late or needing to get to "there" and stressed because I have not left &q...	tommyecat	6	374	Jun 15, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Hide or face it head on? (Preview) Ok, here's my dilemma. During my AH's relapse he had 2 one-night-stands with two seperate women. Both of these women are now involved in a casual relationship with my brother-in-law (Yes, I am painfully aware how twisted this is....) So last night was the first time, since I became aware of the infede...	Aimee	5	447	Jun 15, 2011 by clep
	Struggles with Anxiety....but it is a good day : ) (Preview) Hello all - well, it's been about 1 year since I have heard from my ex-abf. (after five years of hell). I've forgave, but not forgotten which seems to be the problem. some days are good...today is a very good day. Some days are a struggle. I suffered from severe Anxiety and Panic attacks when with th...	mslouise	5	355	Jun 15, 2011 by mslouise
	Hello all, questions and share (Preview) There is an interesting thing going on when my bf drinks. I am not sure what it is, but it has only been happening the last 7 weeks that he drinks to a certain point. He suddenly gets really red in the face, anywhere that he ever had a scar turns deep red (even old bug bite spots), and he can't breathe well. ...	youfoundme	8	587	Jun 15, 2011 by youfoundme
	parent setting boundaries and feeling the pain (Preview) Hi all, Its been a while since I have been here.Tonight is hard for me.I had to tell my 2 drinking children that they are not welcome to stay in my house with my youngest 18 year old daughter who doesn't have a drinking problem, while I am out of town attending my brothers wedding for 9 days.It was really har...	Megthompson	4	437	Jun 15, 2011 by Jerry F
	21, Pregnant, and feeling very alone and frusturated (Preview) My parntner is an alchoholic, who has quit drinking. He quit about a year ago on his own accord, but since then has relapsed several times. Everytime he gets really angry he wants to, and sometimes he breaks down and does. Even though he has quit he still displays a lot of alchoholic patterns. He is very d...	sierramorningstar	7	349	Jun 14, 2011 by sierramorningstar
	Wallowing (Preview) Need encouragement. Recently filed for divorce from AH. With 3 kids (who all have busy summer schedules) and a full time job, have not found time to attend a meeting. Closest meeting is 30 miles away. I have been feeling very alone and trying to hold it together for my kids, but every free moment I ha...	Soobie	7	449	Jun 14, 2011 by tommyecat
	Depression (Preview) My wife has fallen into a deep hole of depression. She's been unable to get out of bed for most of the last 3 days. She's always struggled with depression and had a few depressive episodes like this in the past, however this is the first really major, debilitating one like this since we have known each oth...	usedtobeanyer	8	1075	Jun 14, 2011 by surfingmaestro
	Is this really happening to me? (Preview) Hello everyone, I found my husband sitting in his favorite chair in the garage again this past weekend with that same look in his eyes. "I'm sorry I am a failure to you", he said as he started sobbing. At that very moment, I knew he had been drinking. He had been drinking all day long here and the...	hopenfaith	15	623	Jun 14, 2011 by tommyecat
	No Longer Just Lurking- Here's my Story (Preview) I found this forum a couple of weeks ago and have been "lurking" ever since. I am reposting this message that I had previously posted in response to canadianguy's post regarding "lurkers." I didn't realize that my user name could be found on search engines, so I am reposting thi...	Green Eyes	8	484	Jun 14, 2011 by tommyecat
	To all the lurkers out there.... (Preview) This is a message to all the lurkers out there (and there are many of you) - who come here to read and learn, but have not yet posted your story or questions/concerns.... I wanted to say...... WELCOME! - and please feel free to stay as long as you want! This is a great site, with tons of awesome people on bo...	canadianguy	10	674	Jun 14, 2011 by tommyecat
	i must be losing it for sure (Preview) who in gods green earth wouldnt jump at the chance to go to england ive always wanted to go,plus my kids being there is another thing,something must be really wrong with me its gotta be mental......chinup.......odat	chinup	6	521	Jun 14, 2011 by tommyecat
	Internet Anonymity???? (Preview) C'on people... Databases at Banks are hacked, Sony's database of xbox and PS3 purchasers was hacked... military and government databases are hacked... And yet, we expect we will throw our full names, addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, place of employment.. blah, blah, blah, into cybers...	John	4	690	Jun 14, 2011 by tommyecat
	About my brother (new here) (Preview) Never been too good at lurking, I prefer to jump right in. So here goes. My brother started drinking when he was 14, that was 20 years ago. My parents have both been sober and in AA for over 20 years, and my methods for dealing with my brother come from what they have tought me. They moved out of state a few...	Revok	6	363	Jun 14, 2011 by youfoundme
	anybody everflown air canada experience (Preview) my 1st time to ever fly so, my daughter in england calls me wit saying she is getting me a ticket round trip at a fdecent price,ill get on a plane in memphis and fly out to canada,then from canada onto england my daughter has never been to canada so doesnt know how it is,we r trying to find out how big the airpo...	chinup	6	322	Jun 14, 2011 by tommyecat
	Newcomer (Preview) Hello, I am new to MIP but I have been in Alanon for 3 years. I am married to a recovering alcoholic and he completed rehab 3 years ago and has not had a drop of alcohol since then, but he has smoked pot, stole my medication (adderall), and bought pills (benzos). I have found this to become stressful althoug...	MDK	9	505	Jun 14, 2011 by tommyecat
	Dealing with Guilt (Preview) I have been in Al-Anon for about 2 years and have decided to divorce my AH. I spent a great deal of time making sure my motives were seeking a divorce were honest and not out of frustration, spite, or control. We are still living in the same house and I have been fairly ok with everything, but for the past 2 da...	spc75	12	1441	Jun 14, 2011 by nat2000
	daughter giving me a hard time (Preview) says if my depression is that bad then maybe i should go check myself into the hospital,and she came online to ask me if i could make arrangements to come,that she was ver hurt over all this i told her i was even more hurt over it,then i thought about getting some antidepressants from my dr samples so i got m...	chinup	3	534	Jun 14, 2011 by chinup
	update ,of why i didnt go to england (Preview) i woke up 3am crying ,id been obsessing over and over about it and would wake up scared,but,the real reason for my not going is my depression hasnt gotten worse along with anxiety im having problems getting my right meds and daughter sprung this on me all in one min.i typed her a really long letter of reas...	chinup	4	455	Jun 14, 2011 by Debilyn
	Otie's Confession (Preview) I admit that for the past few days I have been wandering into the AA message board of MIP. At first I felt a little odd (guilty, I guess) as if I was evesdropping on private conversations----but, apparently we are free to do so. I know that there are some members of this board who are dual members. I alwa...	Otie	9	587	Jun 13, 2011 by pinkchip
	My husband is an alcoholic in denial husband hiding drinking (Preview) I am so sick to my stomach. Yesterday was our 6 month mark for being married. We're still newly weds. I have noticed that my husband drinks alot when he drinks. He does not think that he does, the problem is though he hides how much he drinks. He will drink wine in front of me but then hide the vodka he dr...	onewildflower	5	2886	Jun 13, 2011 by pinkchip
	He Seems to be "Getting It" This Time (Preview) A little update.... The day I told the ex that I would not take a polygraph test, the rehab's social told him that he needed to go to the sober living house after his 28-day stay. In addition, his counselor had advised him that he needs to be evaluated by a psychiatrist for his delusions. It was all too mu...	GailMichelle	8	379	Jun 13, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Attemping to Moving Forward... (Preview) Well as Most know I have been Seriously struggling with Juggling everyday life here of late, and I was saying that i needed just a Small 'time out' to feel strong enough to go on... Well I ask, and I Recieved in Full This past week has been nothing short of stressful, But on the Up side of things, this past we...	Jozie	3	471	Jun 13, 2011 by hotrod
	How to set boundaries when family isn't on board (Preview) My husband's uncle is an alcoholic. He has been in and out of rehab the past few years. He refuses to follow reccomendations and just last Friday left a treatment facility after doing 3 days of detox. He says he doesn't want to do treatment, doesn't need AA, can do it on his own, blah, blah, blah..... I'...	Marisa	3	953	Jun 13, 2011 by Jerry F
	Trying to Keep my head on straight.. (Preview) Well, today was a pretty stressful day.. My A brother is getting worse and worse as time goes by. He is in pretty rough shape at age 50 and my mother who has breast cancer has been crippling him forever. She babies him to no end. It is absolutely sickening to watch. I have mentioned Alanon but for her she say...	Samsgram	2	595	Jun 13, 2011 by kitty
	On Part of Otie's Post/Detachment (Preview) "I had/have a big fear of losing my compassion thru detachment. I am beginning to understand, though, that my first concepts of detachment were erroneous. It seems that it doesn't make sense (completely) until you actually start practicing it." It does seem confusing Otie, I have be...	oldergal	3	335	Jun 13, 2011 by kitty
	Just Tired... (Preview) Did ya Ever get so Tired ya Just forgot Who & What you were and are suppose to be heading tords? I got my Calendar out, and in the last 6 WEEKS.... there has been 2 days that I did not Have Something on the Schedule to do after, putting in my 40hr work wk... I keep thinking what can I cut? and Honestly can't c...	Jozie	4	413	Jun 12, 2011 by Jozie
	never flown or ever been away from home here in 30 yrs (Preview) i need lots of encouragement on flying and being so far away from home in england and im here in mississippi.everytime i go to sleep and wake up i keep having these horible dreams about flying and everything untill i come to reality,im somewhat ok right now.but daughter has to have an answer by tomorrow...	chinup	6	330	Jun 12, 2011 by Debilyn
	AL-ANON MTG JUNE 13 & JUNE 27 (Preview) I am having a series of tests at the hospital that began last Monday morning, June 6 and continues tomorrow morning June 13, and the morning of June 27. I am unable to chair my regularly scheduled Monday meetings for these dates. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks.	shimo	0	253	Jun 12, 2011 by shimo
	Heartbrokem beyond belief (Preview) I don't know what to do right now other then come to Al Anon friends. My ABF of 3 years has been actively drinking again and has not talked to me for the past couple days. Facebook is an awful thing because I have to see every picture he puts up of him drinking and he's also hanging out in groups where there ar...	Corgi2	13	564	Jun 11, 2011 by Tracy
	He doesn't want me... (Preview) So my ABF and I have been taking some time apart the past few months...we were living together, but I recently moved back home and we see each other 2 or 3 times a week. In the past few weeks he has been calling less, doesn't call before bed. His phone "dies" all the time. I try to be understanding...	Corgi2	9	614	Jun 10, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Damaged (Preview) My ah is a functional drinker who drinks beer after work. He normally just drinks and he is pleasant .Two nights ago he drunk 3/4 of a bottle of straight JD. For some reason I brought up something in the past that was upsetting me , he then brought up an incident from the past where I was raped (I usually know...	light blue	5	388	Jun 10, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Question about non CAL being brought into meetings (Preview) Hi all, I wasn't sure how active this board is but would like some input and wasn't sure where else I should post this topic. I began attending Alanon meetings early this year and have had profound changes in my personal and work life through the program. I have a wonderful sponsor who has been in the p...	GreenK	5	476	Jun 10, 2011 by Jerry F
	Google is making this board not private! (Preview) Help! What do I need to do to fix this.....a friend told me if you google my name it's showing all my posts on this Al-anon website, and sure enough, I googled my name and it shows everything I'm posting on this site! What do I need to do to fix this, anyone know? I already removed my name from the settings...	sdisnie	10	603	Jun 10, 2011 by Otie
	Reality Can Be Harsh (Preview) Last night was another Family Meeting Night at the rehab facility. Before the meeting, we met with his counselor privately to discusshis on-going obsession of me having a fling. We got no where with him. I did state that I would not take a polygraph. I told him that it's his job to work it out. That...	GailMichelle	5	627	Jun 10, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Working HARD to maintain my serenity... (Preview) It's been awhile since I've checked in, MIPers, but I do try to come on the board periodically to see how folks are doing. Some of you may recall that my AH was working several hundred miles away, and we were seeing him about one weekend a month. While the arrangement meant I was functionally a single mot...	stephaniej	1	352	Jun 10, 2011 by youfoundme
	Overwhelmed times 10! (Preview) I was going to go see my exAH tonight, but before I got over there he has called me a few times and in each conversation he is talking down to me and not being nice at all. He is try to make me admit things that make no sense to me and trying to tell me I have never built him up or given him compliments and I am just ne...	flopadopilus	8	414	Jun 10, 2011 by GailMichelle
	I lost it at 2am (Preview) I came home yesterday and he was already drunk. Didn't matter at that point, but my fear interjected and on the way to get the kids, he brought a glass of wine with him. When I say glass, I say a large water glass...anyway, it ended up being thrown out of the car window while I lashed out at him on the way to g...	youfoundme	13	615	Jun 10, 2011 by youfoundme
	Need a chair for Friday June 17 morning meeting (Preview) Hello family - I will be unavailable to chair next Friday morning's meeting - I hope someone will be able to step in and run the meeting! Love you all, bg	blender_girl	0	150	Jun 10, 2011 by blender_girl
	safety issues (Preview) It has been a few weeks since I posted and things have improved some days and others it has not. I have been reading the Al-Anon book and have just ordered the daily reader and an Al-Ateen book for my oldest daughter. I have been following the advice and guidelines of dealing with my AW using detachment...	mr5191	12	440	Jun 10, 2011 by Rora
	A Miracle in Progress (Preview) Just got home from the Wednesday Turning Point meeting and watching another Miracle in Progress. The chair for the meeting is a relative newbie who has been clawing for serenity from day one. Mostly she would weep and LOL had already gone thru a box or two of tissues which the meeting supplies. Toni...	Jerry F	9	1122	Jun 10, 2011 by Rora
	I back and ready to find my serenity! (Preview) Well I am back! I only posted one other time, about a year ago. But I found my way back. reading your post today I feel encouraged and know that if I work the program I too can find the serenity I so long for. My story: Well 1 year ago my AH went into rehab for a month, at that time I was so relieved that he was...	coffeegrounds	6	623	Jun 9, 2011 by nice4ever
	No that is a naked girl! (Preview) This darling cutie is my Skinny Pig, a hairless guinea pig! Her name is mazylou. I just love her! She is about 5 weeks old. feels like a sorta thicker ballon. lol When ya hold her she kinda sticks to your hands! I tell people she kept falling asleep during her photo shoot. she is very affectionate and like...	Debilyn	8	1194	Jun 9, 2011 by Debilyn
	So much hurt (Preview) Hello! I believe I need Al-anon in my life but not sure how to do it at this point because I am mostly in a single parent role. I would like to discuss a lot of the hardships I have been though over the past 3 years but for now would like to discuss my most recent dailys. The man I love is an addict in so many for...	downdenise	8	512	Jun 9, 2011 by parfait624
	One day at a time, another f2f under my belt and happy (Preview) My f2f tonight was awesome! It wasn't a step meeting and to be honest I think a few of us were a little confused on the exact topic in the begining lol. However it seemed everyones HP had a hand in it tonight! I know mine did!! A copy of The Forum with a highlighted paragraph ended up in front of me to read. The E...	devlynn	4	421	Jun 9, 2011 by WAJess
	Impulse to Resent (Preview) I do not yet have a sponsor, yet I think it is important to share my thoughts with others seeking or in recovery to gain insight from their experience, hope and strength. I just finished this journal entry after reading today's ODAT. Reasoning resentment away!? What is my motive, my reason for getti...	WAJess	6	529	Jun 9, 2011 by WAJess
	I am HALT (Preview) I am getting a divorce so I am usually angry or sad about the realtionship. I am lonesome, because I want to fastforward to a loving healthy relationship at times. I didn't get a good nights sleep and I am trying to lose weight so not eating much. So I am HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY AND TIRED. Not a good mix today...	flopadopilus	6	1062	Jun 9, 2011 by Crazy Frog
	The more things change, the more they stay the same. (Preview) It's been a while since I've visited this website. I've been rolling along in my life, concentrating on getting my teenage son through a court ordered drug program. Dealing w/my teenager and his legal issues is how I've spent the last few years. In the process of coping with him, I got back together...	QOD	7	539	Jun 9, 2011 by Otie
	Newbie has a question - re: bipolar and substance abuse issues (Preview) H in inpatient rehab. He was diagnosed as bipolar I with co-morbid substance abuse issues. I have a question. He's commented that the people there are in their teens and 20's, most with court ordered rehab. He's 54. He feels as though there is no relating going on in either direction. I didn't re...	hyacinth	5	598	Jun 9, 2011 by youfoundme
	Now He is Requesting I take a Polygraph Test (Preview) My ex is still in rehab. Today is day 8. He stopped taking detox meds just yesterday. Today, he phoned to tell me that he feels good physically; however, he feels very depressed because he still believes that one of his brothers and I spent time together. He now wants me to take a polygraph test. He s...	GailMichelle	16	710	Jun 9, 2011 by GailMichelle
	"Let someone else handle things for awhile..." (Preview) They were words said to me. Their meaning didn't hit me until the conversation ended and I was driving home. It was one of those HP lightening bolt moments. I'm struggling with control. I have a tremendous opportunity to do something I have only dreamed of doing, but it means leaving my AH alone wit...	Very Very Tired	3	354	Jun 8, 2011 by hotrod
	my a says he is as healthy as can be (Preview) ok, so he says how can one tell,he works 7 days a week hard labor work carpentry,roofing,concrete,jack of all trades but he works all them days and lives with his boss and his family,his past shot dilaudas alot of his life,drank vodka everyday for who kows how long drinks today every day he has got hipa...	chinup	13	437	Jun 8, 2011 by flopadopilus
	ESH please before "it" hits the fan- I'm ashamed and embarrassed (Preview) Ok Im sure I shouldn't worry about tomorrow and what not but I know it's coming sobi want to be prepared. Here is my situation. When ABF went to jail his A mom blamed me, all the bs that goes with that and sent me some pretty nasty emails. Well I reacted. This of course wa before I found my program so it wasn't n...	devlynn	12	365	Jun 8, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Newcomer here........ (Preview) Hey! I'm new to the boards but not new to AA/Alanon. I've been married to my AH for over 20 yrs. I'm at a bit of a crossroads in my life and have been praying for guidance. I think my prayers may have led me to this board because I'm truly not getting an answer as to what I should do at this point. I'm trying...	LifesABeach	7	290	Jun 8, 2011 by LifesABeach
	I am still here... (Preview) I haven't started a topic for a long time. I just wanted you to know that "yes, Tom" I am still lurking around this site. I usually read the topics and responses several times a week, read my daily meditations, and am still attending my F2F meetings weekly. Things in my life are going prett...	Sweet Stanley	2	270	Jun 8, 2011 by flopadopilus
	needing some ESH, Trying to move on..... (Preview) Well here I am, after leaving my home town (which I Hate, very small) after a year and a half, Back in town!!! Living with my daughter, no vehicle, no job. Things were just getting worse and worse with Ab/f of nine years. Big blow up, walked out on my job and out of his life. I knew that it was what I needed to pr...	sisdragonfly1957	6	459	Jun 8, 2011 by Otie
	Debilyn is that a hairless rat on your profile pic? (Preview) I just absolutely love your posts and your ESH. I used to have 1 when I was in high school. The picture made me laugh and wonder if my eyes were seeing this right??? I just love you!!!!! You rock!	flopadopilus	2	410	Jun 8, 2011 by White Rabbit
	Forgetting how good we are. (Preview) Today I drove a bus of 8th graders over a hundred miles to a mall for a shopping experience. I went to the new pirate movie, enjoyed lunch and browsing some of the shops (and got paid for my time, egads, i love this job!). I started driving bus this last year, its fun and brings me in contact with a lot of reall...	likemyheart	7	293	Jun 7, 2011 by flopadopilus
	She wants to go back :) (Preview) I still struggle with the concept of aism being a family disease. My exAH's aism/addiction was convert and hidden even from me until about 48 hrs before he went to rehab. Obviously a lot of denial, coping and survival skills were in place for me. My daughter was 10 when our family blew up. Initally...	Loupiness	4	295	Jun 7, 2011 by flopadopilus
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