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Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I can't seem to sleep in to well these days! I guess when I get up at around 4:30 am I have a little trouble getting back to sleep--technically I get enough sleep--to bed by 11 & up before 9 most days. Just having to get up early on Thursdys too kind of throws off my week. I go to TOPS on Thurs. mornings as I h...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

I don't want to wake up my sponsor. I know I should. But I don't want to. So, I'm writing here to keep my head from exploding. Part of my disease, my addiciton, my co-dependency is obsessively checking up on my AH. I took all the power out of his HP's hands and decided I was going to run the show. The obsession...

sookie · sookie

My estranged AH showed up drunk to take our kids trick or treating at a local festival with me last night. He blamed his relapse on having seen me out with friends earlier having a glass of wine (on my birthday--happy freaking birthday). I am SOOOO tired of being his reason to drink or the pressure of bein...

nyc018 · nyc018

I just need to vent as it's a snowy Saturday night in NYC and any feelings of tranquility during the day have been sapped. Yes, it is my qualifier (AH) who caused this all. But I have another battle, with my family, whose need to control, bully, threaten and strongarm me into banishing him from my lif...

Mlkiss75 · Mlkiss75

I just finished reading "Marriage on the Rocks: Learning to Live with Yourself and an Alcoholic" by Janet Geringer Woititz, Ed.D. I HIGHLY recommend this book! It is only 194 pages and makes PERFECT sense. And I don't even remember mention of higher power - it points out clearly and logica...

Pushka · Pushka

I've got an amazing friend who I love dearly and we probably know each other better than anyone else. They are really truly amazing. I'm having challenges trying to remind them I am more than my AH's issues. They are getting stuck in their own past at the moment and there is a part of me that wants to sho...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

I'm at work, trying so hard to focus because I have so much to do. I'm so beyond aggravated and I just want to scream. I'm repeating to myself that I can't control this, that I can only do what I can do. That my AH has a disease. We had a conversation last night, I found out the previous evening (while AH was dru...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

HI all This weekend I had pizza for dinner and watched a movie on Friday night. Saturday I did a few jobs around the place and visited a friend and picked some mangoes from her back yard trees. I did a bit of Christmas shopping. I looked around the boards a bit. Sat night I relaxed and watched soem TV. T...

Debilyn · Debilyn

For me it is not that we don't say anything, hold it in, feel frustrated. It's not about the A asking me what is wrong. It's more it is none of my business, it is his life, his disease is his own. I love him, I am glad he is home, I am sad he is so sick. But I choose to live with him as is.If he is not ready to go into re...

rara avis · rara avis

Hello everyone, Just an update since I haven't been on here much and don't want to be rude by just disappearing! My RA has access to his storage and stuff, getting him there was a comedy of nuisance. The only concern now is that I have his plants, so getting them back to him at some point could be problem...

mdkm0726 · mdkm0726

My daughter has 3 small children living with her. She is an active addict and is barely functioning. She has had no electric for about 10 days..and her and her children have been staying elsewhere unknown. DFS and a police officer has been looking for her and the children. She has sent an occasiona...

Tracy · Tracy

I have been learning how much I have lived in denial. I lived in a bubblw were I could only see the nice in the world and people. I must of developed this as a reaction to my childhood. It wasnt to long ago that I allowed myself to face the reality that my childhood was not perfect. All my life I have only all...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

Hi, well I have a problem and it may be a little off topic but is still caused by the AH. Here is the story: He wasn't happy at his job, he took a job in another state even though it wasn't what I wanted at all. So now he's renting a room there, our house hasn't sold, although its only been a month and a half. But I r...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

Amazing young woman! This changed the outlook of my day! I am no longer letting anyone abuse or misuse me! I am no longer choosing to be a vicitm and suffer for it!changes..www.youtube.com

mychem · mychem

omg I am so happy to have found this place. My spouse is the a in my life. It sucks cause I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it . His issue is making the entire house toxic. I don't think he is so bad to where he would need a medical detox so he can't use that as an excuse. It sucks cause some days he's nice and...

orchidlover · orchidlover

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cM5A1K6TxxM I know when I left the ex A I felt that I had nothing. No money, no home, no truck, no health, no job, no friends (he had made sure he isolated me well). I started over. I got back up again. Now I am making twice what I made last year (still isn't enough but i...

Becki67 · Becki67

Well, that didn't work. I've been doing so good just going on and not letting things bother me. But, I just went off on him on the phone and hung up on him. The entire day yesterday I never heard from the ABF while he was on the road. He typically calls several times a day. The night before he had told me t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Don't have a lot to say today! I just want to share the LOVE I find on this forum. I am doing rather well. I still feel the blessings that I am showered w/ every day. I am so fortunate to be a SURVIVOR! I have survived a lot of difficult times but today I feel like I am over a hump that I thought I would never get ove...

Mlkiss75 · Mlkiss75

My AH's father returned from a 6 month stay in his native Hungary last weekend. My husband has been struggling big time with his recovery - he and his dad work together and as soon as his dad returned, he expected my AH to jump right back into work again. I'm not blaming his dad - my husband needs to take ca...

amills4294 · amills4294

OK, I know it never goes away, but I've done a fairly good job detaching myself from her disease. But, I'm not perfect and there are times that it just hits me in the face again. She went in for surgery for a blocked carotid artery. My father told me the night before she went in, she went out and bought 4 la...

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Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Hi I have been pondering.. as I do... What are examples of boundaries that people have? Particularly those of you in Al Anon long term (lets say over a year or so for the sake of it), and living with the active user. Other comments naturally appreciated also. Where do you draw the line? If you know the pe...

_heather_ · _heather_

Alcoholism is brand new to me. So is my marriage. My husband is an alcoholic. I knew he had trouble with alcohol before we got married but I never knew how bad it really was. After our wedding, it was terrible. He was hiding bottles everywhere and lying to me about the amount that he drank. About two...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

What a week it's been! My toddler goes to a home childcare provider's house while I'm at work. Last week, one of the other toddlers had a stomach virus, and the mother brought him back before he was completely well. By the next day, (Thursday), all the other kids and the provider had the virus. I got t...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi all - I posted this in response to another post a few weeks ago, and thought it might be an interesting "self-reflection" exercise, to see where we think we "fit" in our respective recoveries..... (Remember the immortal words of my sponsor - "it is okay to use self-refl...

Becki67 · Becki67

Good morning everyone, I'd like to get your opinion on something. After this previous weekend (the proverbial "last straw"), I decided to seriously get some help dealing with this monster. I've spent the entire week on here and attended my first meeting on Tuesday. I told the ABF what I...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Some of you know that my issues with alcoholics/alcohol abusers isn't just directly related to my AH, my dad was originally my source of pain. He slowly and gradually fell down the slippery slope of alcohol abuse and he said some VERY painful things to me while I was in college. He told me I should have...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

HI again.... I am a bit bored at work today.. I am sitting here pondering .. again... about my Tai Chi class last night. One of the concepts discussed was 'grounding'. Basically, he showed how we can stay stable and grounded when someone pushes us, and we do this by relaxing. We do not push back. We rem...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

I wanted to post about good things I have been feeling pretty low the last few weeks, I am still feeling pretty flat but I am trying to crawl out of it. There has been lots of bad thoughts in my head. I don't know why.... so I thought I would do a 'gratitude' type list. The things that are good right now are; I...

PH · PH

I'm new to Al-anon. My 27 year old son is an alcoholic. He got a DUI back in February and was devastated...Said he would never drink again...but about a week later.... it was back at it. He lives with us...He's started back to school and is doing well...but drinks a 12 pack every night. He doesn't work and...

glad · glad

slipping and sliding as if on ice today,, my mind is all messed up, I'm feeling yuky, my brain knows better but my feelings are all yuk... I wonder if "junkies" miss their drug of choice at the same time are well aware of how using only caused them pain... I feel sick tonight for sure! Good thin...

Becki67 · Becki67

It seems like since I decided to join some support groups and actually go through this entire process, my brain has been just going on overtime. I've done a lot of soulsearching lately and reading these posts makes things stand out to me. I'm an extremely independent person. I've lived alone a lot an...

belle_TU · belle_TU

I have a good enough but unsatisfying job. I've started the process of going back to school for the career I would really like, so I'm addressing the unsatisfying part, but in the meantime, I've got about a year left. Like a lot of Al-Anon folk, I am HYPER COMPETENT. This can make me a very good worker, but...

Kvothe · Kvothe

Hey people. My girlfriend of 5 years and mother of my children is an addict and we have been put through the ringer in the last year or so. She's been using then getting caught and saying she's clean many times over that time. The last time she got caught was about a month ago and now she's in outpatient and t...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Well, AH and I are back from our week in Nevis, West Indies. It was a wonderful vacation and I didn't 'see' him drink during the vacation. There was one day where he went golfing without me and he came back very 'happy' and snored like crazy that night and I suspected that he drank that night, but I didn't...

lostinspace · lostinspace

Hello everyone!!! I just found this site today and am already encouraged by what I have read so far. My story: I have been married for almost 5 years. I live with my husband and his teenage son. My husband is an alcoholic and has been before I met him. I'm at the point right now in our marriage where I am ready...

nmike · nmike

We are still married. He still threatens divorce. We have lived apart for six years. We have less and less contact. My question is: how do you stay away from them/avoid them because it is just too uncomfortable to be around him. He talks about his great life, other women, and how happy he is without me. I d...

Hot Chicka · Hot Chicka

I feel stuck. AH has stopped going to AA, and decided it is OK for him to drink casually again. I'm not stressing out about it because I now have boundaries, and understand I have options. Our marriage is actually doing better than it has in a long time. We communicate better, and fight less. I don't d...

KeepingFaith · KeepingFaith

I talked with my ex Abf yesterday and we agreed to meet up tonight before I came into work. He flat out stood me up. No call. No text. No response to me. I left a voice mail. This time stating i couldn't talk to him anymore. Told him I would like him to come find me when he gets himself back. I then sent one la...

Ingwe · Ingwe

He is 26 and went through rehab in February. I was definitely the person who always rescued him previously and have learned a lot since then. He just moved into his own apartment after staying in an Oxford House for 4 months after rehab. I am beginning to see the red flags again and I don't know what to do...

Jenny29 · Jenny29

Hello all, I joined here last night, I am really impressed at the quality of the replies and that its a great resource for people that need it-like me I suppose. The alcoholic in my life is my 40 year old brother, I will be 29 in a few days and I am just so worn out trying to fix other people and getting nowhere I...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

Tonight is the night for my first F2F meeting. While I'm nervous and unsure I'm also ready. I got the book Getting Them Sober by Toby Rice Drews from the library yesterday, I'm a little over half way through. I'm so glad y'all recommended it. While reading I can see where I've already taken proper steps....

Doozy · Doozy

So....about a month ago my on-again-off-again exboyfriend came back to me begging to get back together. We had more than 3 years together and a lot of good times. I really loved him and I (mistakenly) thought we could have a future together. Anyway, he's the main qualifier that got me into Alanon tho...

coffeegrounds · coffeegrounds

Well my bipolar AH went into detox today. He will have what I believe is a solid recovery program when he gets out. AA, outpatient rehab program and a psychosocial rehab specialist. So why don't I feel relief? He has been to a 30 day live in rehab program last June was sober for 10months, then decide...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

If it keeps getting & better I don't know what I am going to do! I just keep remembering that it has gotten so bad over the years that I have to focus on TODAY! I am still reminiscing on the past too much. Just the other day, I was trying to remember something from the Past w/ my ex-AH. I just wanted to reliv...

NaomiMarie · NaomiMarie

I finally got mad at him. it always seemed like I would be mad while he was gone for the week of drinking but as soon as he was home again I couldn't stay mad. I always said I understood and made excuses, lied to myself and let him continue lying to me and himself. what finally tipped me over was he came to my fat...

Tracy · Tracy

I ended my relationship with my ABf a couple of weeks ago after he broke a boundary went missingfor days partin with other girls. I told him I could not have contact as it hurts. He sent odd text about silly stuff but I stuck to guns need to move on. Then when I never heard from him for a couple of days I star...

Becki67 · Becki67

I'm going to apologize up front for the length of this post. I've been living with an alcoholic for about 6 years now. He was my first crush when I was 13...we got together 20 years later. I love him but I don't like him much anymore. We have a home together and he has two kids (50% of the time) and I have c...

Pushka · Pushka

to say that everything is so good why bother going to alanon. I could easily pretend that everything is going to be fine and I can stop and take a break. After all I'm cured and he's cured .. (you all can stop laughing now ) This is me and my defunct thinking. Knowing my defunct thinking is sitting at the s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just want to say that isn't it funny how memories can bring us to a different place. I just recently got a new FB friend that picked on me in Jr. High. She probably doesn't even remember bullying me. I don't even remember why she did! I just think it is funny that we can be friends even though sometimes the fr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Occasionally I vent on this forum. Today I just want to say that it is a good day & I don't need to vent after a pretty good weekend! My husband & I got a lot accomplished. It seems like when we work together we can get a lot done! What a concept! My mom & I also enjoyed the weekend together--every...

kris10 · kris10

My god! Up until now... Im going to be really honest right here and say that I really didn't think I was a part of the problem.. I've honestly always thought... I'm right, of course I'M right because I'M NOT the one with the problem....If they would just LISTEN to me and do things MY WAY, the way I WANT it (th...

amills4294 · amills4294

I haven't posted in a few days. My husband and I are trying a trial back together in our home for 30 days. I will admit that the emotional tug of war is nice to have stopped but I still feel a lot of anger inside. He seems very happy and content to be back in our home. I have to admit I miss my space. I walk int...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

IT TOOK ME 27 YEARS. I WAS RAISED CATHOLIC AND HAVE ALWAYS WORRIED AND FELT BAD ABOUT NOT FEELING IT.. NOT FEELING RELIGION IN GENERAL. I HAVE ALWAYS BELIEVED IN GOD I JUST NEVER FELT A TRUE CONNECTION TO IT.. UNTIL NOW. I HAVE REALLY LET GO.. AND AM LETTING GO MORE AND MORE EVERY DAY, LITERALY SAYING OU...

rehprof · rehprof

My AH and I are divorcing. long story short we still have a joint checking account to pay loans that are joint (autopay)...inclyuding the mortgage (which I have paid ALONE since june) and a snowmobile loan. In february,( we had been separated for 3 months then) I asked him for his debit card because he...

Sponge6819 · Sponge6819

Hi. I am new to this forum and am a little nervous and embarrassed to post here. I've been going to ala non meetings for quite a while and feel like I keep getting sucked back into my babies fathers negative alcoholic mess. I seem to be strong for a few HOURS and then lose it again. I fall back into defending m...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I have learned so much through my Alanon weekly meetings, my sponsor, Alanon literature, and my counselor; and I am so thankful for the tools I have gained these past couple of years. Just to catch you up again, I moved out of our home a little over 6 months ago so that I could both mentally AND physically d...

Becki67 · Becki67

I have so much to talk about...I may post 50 times today...just kidding. I just asked this question to someone who emailed me on here and I wanted to ask you guys. Is it possible to live with an alcoholic and be fulfilled or am I just postponing the inevitable? Half of me asks myself...is this really how y...

Diva · Diva

It is true I haven't been here for several months....Doesn't mean I haven't had all of you in my positive thoughts and prayers. Doesn't mean I haven't wanted to tell some of you what I think...good or bad...I send great love and caring all around, and when this move is complete, I'll be back to get the pl...

helpmeplease · helpmeplease

help me please. My husband is in complete and absolute denial that he has a problem with drinking. He is blaming me and my anger for his reason to drink. He states that he just wants to enjoy life, but my life is being affected by him choosing alcohol over his wife and his son. He has said he would stop dr...

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	very tired... (Preview) I can't seem to sleep in to well these days! I guess when I get up at around 4:30 am I have a little trouble getting back to sleep--technically I get enough sleep--to bed by 11 & up before 9 most days. Just having to get up early on Thursdys too kind of throws off my week. I go to TOPS on Thurs. mornings as I h...	Hoot Nanny	3	461	Oct 31, 2011 by tommyecat
	Writing here so my head doesn't explode (Preview) I don't want to wake up my sponsor. I know I should. But I don't want to. So, I'm writing here to keep my head from exploding. Part of my disease, my addiciton, my co-dependency is obsessively checking up on my AH. I took all the power out of his HP's hands and decided I was going to run the show. The obsession...	Very Very Tired	8	628	Oct 31, 2011 by tommyecat
	trying to get off the insanity roller coaster (again) (Preview) My estranged AH showed up drunk to take our kids trick or treating at a local festival with me last night. He blamed his relapse on having seen me out with friends earlier having a glass of wine (on my birthday--happy freaking birthday). I am SOOOO tired of being his reason to drink or the pressure of bein...	sookie	6	501	Oct 30, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Stuck in the middle again (Preview) I just need to vent as it's a snowy Saturday night in NYC and any feelings of tranquility during the day have been sapped. Yes, it is my qualifier (AH) who caused this all. But I have another battle, with my family, whose need to control, bully, threaten and strongarm me into banishing him from my lif...	nyc018	5	607	Oct 30, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Grateful! (Preview) I just finished reading "Marriage on the Rocks: Learning to Live with Yourself and an Alcoholic" by Janet Geringer Woititz, Ed.D. I HIGHLY recommend this book! It is only 194 pages and makes PERFECT sense. And I don't even remember mention of higher power - it points out clearly and logica...	Mlkiss75	6	517	Oct 30, 2011 by never going back
	More than my AH's issues (Preview) I've got an amazing friend who I love dearly and we probably know each other better than anyone else. They are really truly amazing. I'm having challenges trying to remind them I am more than my AH's issues. They are getting stuck in their own past at the moment and there is a part of me that wants to sho...	Pushka	11	586	Oct 30, 2011 by angelchar375
	In order to focus (Preview) I'm at work, trying so hard to focus because I have so much to do. I'm so beyond aggravated and I just want to scream. I'm repeating to myself that I can't control this, that I can only do what I can do. That my AH has a disease. We had a conversation last night, I found out the previous evening (while AH was dru...	Jackie11	7	639	Oct 30, 2011 by angelchar375
	I worked the program this weekend, for real I think (Preview) HI all This weekend I had pizza for dinner and watched a movie on Friday night. Saturday I did a few jobs around the place and visited a friend and picked some mangoes from her back yard trees. I did a bit of Christmas shopping. I looked around the boards a bit. Sat night I relaxed and watched soem TV. T...	Lindaoakford	9	675	Oct 30, 2011 by Cupcake
	Well do you love them????? (Preview) For me it is not that we don't say anything, hold it in, feel frustrated. It's not about the A asking me what is wrong. It's more it is none of my business, it is his life, his disease is his own. I love him, I am glad he is home, I am sad he is so sick. But I choose to live with him as is.If he is not ready to go into re...	Debilyn	10	658	Oct 30, 2011 by hotrod
	Update (Preview) Hello everyone, Just an update since I haven't been on here much and don't want to be rude by just disappearing! My RA has access to his storage and stuff, getting him there was a comedy of nuisance. The only concern now is that I have his plants, so getting them back to him at some point could be problem...	rara avis	7	358	Oct 30, 2011 by Pushka
	Addict Daughter with 3 young children My anxiety level is soo high (Preview) My daughter has 3 small children living with her. She is an active addict and is barely functioning. She has had no electric for about 10 days..and her and her children have been staying elsewhere unknown. DFS and a police officer has been looking for her and the children. She has sent an occasiona...	mdkm0726	4	376	Oct 29, 2011 by mdkm0726
	trust myself (Preview) I have been learning how much I have lived in denial. I lived in a bubblw were I could only see the nice in the world and people. I must of developed this as a reaction to my childhood. It wasnt to long ago that I allowed myself to face the reality that my childhood was not perfect. All my life I have only all...	Tracy	4	490	Oct 29, 2011 by flopadopilus
	your thoughts on my problem please. (Preview) Hi, well I have a problem and it may be a little off topic but is still caused by the AH. Here is the story: He wasn't happy at his job, he took a job in another state even though it wasn't what I wanted at all. So now he's renting a room there, our house hasn't sold, although its only been a month and a half. But I r...	GreenerGrass	10	540	Oct 29, 2011 by flopadopilus
	I think this is a must watch!!!! (Preview) Amazing young woman! This changed the outlook of my day! I am no longer letting anyone abuse or misuse me! I am no longer choosing to be a vicitm and suffer for it!changes..www.youtube.com	flopadopilus	2	522	Oct 29, 2011 by Pushka
	new and frustraited (Preview) omg I am so happy to have found this place. My spouse is the a in my life. It sucks cause I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it . His issue is making the entire house toxic. I don't think he is so bad to where he would need a medical detox so he can't use that as an excuse. It sucks cause some days he's nice and...	mychem	5	429	Oct 29, 2011 by never going back
	Getting back up (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cM5A1K6TxxM I know when I left the ex A I felt that I had nothing. No money, no home, no truck, no health, no job, no friends (he had made sure he isolated me well). I started over. I got back up again. Now I am making twice what I made last year (still isn't enough but i...	orchidlover	10	377	Oct 29, 2011 by never going back
	So much for detachment (Preview) Well, that didn't work. I've been doing so good just going on and not letting things bother me. But, I just went off on him on the phone and hung up on him. The entire day yesterday I never heard from the ABF while he was on the road. He typically calls several times a day. The night before he had told me t...	Becki67	6	585	Oct 29, 2011 by Jerry F
	not much to say but I will post anyway! (Preview) Don't have a lot to say today! I just want to share the LOVE I find on this forum. I am doing rather well. I still feel the blessings that I am showered w/ every day. I am so fortunate to be a SURVIVOR! I have survived a lot of difficult times but today I feel like I am over a hump that I thought I would never get ove...	Hoot Nanny	3	420	Oct 29, 2011 by Jerry F
	Plugging along (Preview) My AH's father returned from a 6 month stay in his native Hungary last weekend. My husband has been struggling big time with his recovery - he and his dad work together and as soon as his dad returned, he expected my AH to jump right back into work again. I'm not blaming his dad - my husband needs to take ca...	Mlkiss75	12	503	Oct 28, 2011 by Debilyn
	facing my mom's alcoholism - again... thankful for alanon (Preview) OK, I know it never goes away, but I've done a fairly good job detaching myself from her disease. But, I'm not perfect and there are times that it just hits me in the face again. She went in for surgery for a blocked carotid artery. My father told me the night before she went in, she went out and bought 4 la...	amills4294	2	387	Oct 28, 2011 by Debilyn
	Before the Morning... (Preview) [video=]	John	0	298	Oct 28, 2011 by John
	what are your boundaries (Preview) Hi I have been pondering.. as I do... What are examples of boundaries that people have? Particularly those of you in Al Anon long term (lets say over a year or so for the sake of it), and living with the active user. Other comments naturally appreciated also. Where do you draw the line? If you know the pe...	Lindaoakford	18	656	Oct 28, 2011 by White Rabbit
	Just beginning to understand the disease (Preview) Alcoholism is brand new to me. So is my marriage. My husband is an alcoholic. I knew he had trouble with alcohol before we got married but I never knew how bad it really was. After our wedding, it was terrible. He was hiding bottles everywhere and lying to me about the amount that he drank. About two...	_heather_	6	584	Oct 28, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Tired, and trying to remember to take care of myself first (Preview) What a week it's been! My toddler goes to a home childcare provider's house while I'm at work. Last week, one of the other toddlers had a stomach virus, and the mother brought him back before he was completely well. By the next day, (Thursday), all the other kids and the provider had the virus. I got t...	White Rabbit	8	579	Oct 28, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Where am I in my own recovery?? (Preview) Hi all - I posted this in response to another post a few weeks ago, and thought it might be an interesting "self-reflection" exercise, to see where we think we "fit" in our respective recoveries..... (Remember the immortal words of my sponsor - "it is okay to use self-refl...	canadianguy	18	1412	Oct 28, 2011 by flopadopilus
	No Big Thang! (Preview) Good morning everyone, I'd like to get your opinion on something. After this previous weekend (the proverbial "last straw"), I decided to seriously get some help dealing with this monster. I've spent the entire week on here and attended my first meeting on Tuesday. I told the ABF what I...	Becki67	14	887	Oct 28, 2011 by Hot Chicka
	Forgiving my father (Preview) Some of you know that my issues with alcoholics/alcohol abusers isn't just directly related to my AH, my dad was originally my source of pain. He slowly and gradually fell down the slippery slope of alcohol abuse and he said some VERY painful things to me while I was in college. He told me I should have...	ilovedogs	5	526	Oct 27, 2011 by Pushka
	Tai Chi (Preview) HI again.... I am a bit bored at work today.. I am sitting here pondering .. again... about my Tai Chi class last night. One of the concepts discussed was 'grounding'. Basically, he showed how we can stay stable and grounded when someone pushes us, and we do this by relaxing. We do not push back. We rem...	Lindaoakford	8	506	Oct 27, 2011 by jitsuka
	good things (Preview) I wanted to post about good things I have been feeling pretty low the last few weeks, I am still feeling pretty flat but I am trying to crawl out of it. There has been lots of bad thoughts in my head. I don't know why.... so I thought I would do a 'gratitude' type list. The things that are good right now are; I...	Lindaoakford	3	371	Oct 27, 2011 by youfoundme
	I'm new to al-anon (Preview) I'm new to Al-anon. My 27 year old son is an alcoholic. He got a DUI back in February and was devastated...Said he would never drink again...but about a week later.... it was back at it. He lives with us...He's started back to school and is doing well...but drinks a 12 pack every night. He doesn't work and...	PH	6	447	Oct 27, 2011 by Ingwe
	slipping and sliding!! (Preview) slipping and sliding as if on ice today,, my mind is all messed up, I'm feeling yuky, my brain knows better but my feelings are all yuk... I wonder if "junkies" miss their drug of choice at the same time are well aware of how using only caused them pain... I feel sick tonight for sure! Good thin...	glad	5	490	Oct 27, 2011 by Jules1011
	Lightbulb going off!!! (Preview) It seems like since I decided to join some support groups and actually go through this entire process, my brain has been just going on overtime. I've done a lot of soulsearching lately and reading these posts makes things stand out to me. I'm an extremely independent person. I've lived alone a lot an...	Becki67	23	591	Oct 27, 2011 by Becki67
	Work rage rage work coworkers (Preview) I have a good enough but unsatisfying job. I've started the process of going back to school for the career I would really like, so I'm addressing the unsatisfying part, but in the meantime, I've got about a year left. Like a lot of Al-Anon folk, I am HYPER COMPETENT. This can make me a very good worker, but...	belle_TU	4	9045	Oct 26, 2011 by Debilyn
	New to this board. Going through some tough stuff. (Preview) Hey people. My girlfriend of 5 years and mother of my children is an addict and we have been put through the ringer in the last year or so. She's been using then getting caught and saying she's clean many times over that time. The last time she got caught was about a month ago and now she's in outpatient and t...	Kvothe	13	560	Oct 26, 2011 by pinkchip
	Darn proud of myself! (Preview) Well, AH and I are back from our week in Nevis, West Indies. It was a wonderful vacation and I didn't 'see' him drink during the vacation. There was one day where he went golfing without me and he came back very 'happy' and snored like crazy that night and I suspected that he drank that night, but I didn't...	ilovedogs	8	555	Oct 26, 2011 by pinkchip
	In Need of Serious Help (Preview) Hello everyone!!! I just found this site today and am already encouraged by what I have read so far. My story: I have been married for almost 5 years. I live with my husband and his teenage son. My husband is an alcoholic and has been before I met him. I'm at the point right now in our marriage where I am ready...	lostinspace	12	634	Oct 26, 2011 by lostinspace
	Staying Away From Your Ex (Preview) We are still married. He still threatens divorce. We have lived apart for six years. We have less and less contact. My question is: how do you stay away from them/avoid them because it is just too uncomfortable to be around him. He talks about his great life, other women, and how happy he is without me. I d...	nmike	2	437	Oct 26, 2011 by flopadopilus
	I Feel Stuck (Preview) I feel stuck. AH has stopped going to AA, and decided it is OK for him to drink casually again. I'm not stressing out about it because I now have boundaries, and understand I have options. Our marriage is actually doing better than it has in a long time. We communicate better, and fight less. I don't d...	Hot Chicka	10	802	Oct 26, 2011 by orchidlover
	Sucke right back in... (Preview) I talked with my ex Abf yesterday and we agreed to meet up tonight before I came into work. He flat out stood me up. No call. No text. No response to me. I left a voice mail. This time stating i couldn't talk to him anymore. Told him I would like him to come find me when he gets himself back. I then sent one la...	KeepingFaith	5	567	Oct 26, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Hello everyone. New member, my son is an alcoholic.... (Preview) He is 26 and went through rehab in February. I was definitely the person who always rescued him previously and have learned a lot since then. He just moved into his own apartment after staying in an Oxford House for 4 months after rehab. I am beginning to see the red flags again and I don't know what to do...	Ingwe	8	770	Oct 26, 2011 by Ingwe
	Need advice please... (Preview) Hello all, I joined here last night, I am really impressed at the quality of the replies and that its a great resource for people that need it-like me I suppose. The alcoholic in my life is my 40 year old brother, I will be 29 in a few days and I am just so worn out trying to fix other people and getting nowhere I...	Jenny29	8	559	Oct 26, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Tonight is the night (Preview) Tonight is the night for my first F2F meeting. While I'm nervous and unsure I'm also ready. I got the book Getting Them Sober by Toby Rice Drews from the library yesterday, I'm a little over half way through. I'm so glad y'all recommended it. While reading I can see where I've already taken proper steps....	Jackie11	10	433	Oct 26, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Feels like he chose the booze... (Preview) So....about a month ago my on-again-off-again exboyfriend came back to me begging to get back together. We had more than 3 years together and a lot of good times. I really loved him and I (mistakenly) thought we could have a future together. Anyway, he's the main qualifier that got me into Alanon tho...	Doozy	12	637	Oct 26, 2011 by Pushka
	AH went to detox today,need to vent (Preview) Well my bipolar AH went into detox today. He will have what I believe is a solid recovery program when he gets out. AA, outpatient rehab program and a psychosocial rehab specialist. So why don't I feel relief? He has been to a 30 day live in rehab program last June was sober for 10months, then decide...	coffeegrounds	14	671	Oct 26, 2011 by pinkchip
	If it keeps getting better & better! (Preview) If it keeps getting & better I don't know what I am going to do! I just keep remembering that it has gotten so bad over the years that I have to focus on TODAY! I am still reminiscing on the past too much. Just the other day, I was trying to remember something from the Past w/ my ex-AH. I just wanted to reliv...	Hoot Nanny	3	467	Oct 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	I finally got mad... (Preview) I finally got mad at him. it always seemed like I would be mad while he was gone for the week of drinking but as soon as he was home again I couldn't stay mad. I always said I understood and made excuses, lied to myself and let him continue lying to me and himself. what finally tipped me over was he came to my fat...	NaomiMarie	9	488	Oct 25, 2011 by Pushka
	seperate recoveries (Preview) I ended my relationship with my ABf a couple of weeks ago after he broke a boundary went missingfor days partin with other girls. I told him I could not have contact as it hurts. He sent odd text about silly stuff but I stuck to guns need to move on. Then when I never heard from him for a couple of days I star...	Tracy	3	429	Oct 25, 2011 by DadtoCandE
	Newbie here...so confused (Preview) I'm going to apologize up front for the length of this post. I've been living with an alcoholic for about 6 years now. He was my first crush when I was 13...we got together 20 years later. I love him but I don't like him much anymore. We have a home together and he has two kids (50% of the time) and I have c...	Becki67	12	639	Oct 25, 2011 by flopadopilus
	It would be so easy .. (Preview) to say that everything is so good why bother going to alanon. I could easily pretend that everything is going to be fine and I can stop and take a break. After all I'm cured and he's cured .. (you all can stop laughing now ) This is me and my defunct thinking. Knowing my defunct thinking is sitting at the s...	Pushka	5	546	Oct 25, 2011 by Jennifer
	Isn't it funny... (Preview) Just want to say that isn't it funny how memories can bring us to a different place. I just recently got a new FB friend that picked on me in Jr. High. She probably doesn't even remember bullying me. I don't even remember why she did! I just think it is funny that we can be friends even though sometimes the fr...	Hoot Nanny	4	423	Oct 25, 2011 by Debilyn
	glad to have this to vent! (Preview) Occasionally I vent on this forum. Today I just want to say that it is a good day & I don't need to vent after a pretty good weekend! My husband & I got a lot accomplished. It seems like when we work together we can get a lot done! What a concept! My mom & I also enjoyed the weekend together--every...	Hoot Nanny	2	358	Oct 25, 2011 by Debilyn
	5th step troubles (Preview) My god! Up until now... Im going to be really honest right here and say that I really didn't think I was a part of the problem.. I've honestly always thought... I'm right, of course I'M right because I'M NOT the one with the problem....If they would just LISTEN to me and do things MY WAY, the way I WANT it (th...	kris10	14	1114	Oct 25, 2011 by Michelle814
	struggling a bit (Preview) I haven't posted in a few days. My husband and I are trying a trial back together in our home for 30 days. I will admit that the emotional tug of war is nice to have stopped but I still feel a lot of anger inside. He seems very happy and content to be back in our home. I have to admit I miss my space. I walk int...	amills4294	5	518	Oct 25, 2011 by Pushka
	I AM FINALLY FINDING FAITH LET GO AND LET GOD (Preview) IT TOOK ME 27 YEARS. I WAS RAISED CATHOLIC AND HAVE ALWAYS WORRIED AND FELT BAD ABOUT NOT FEELING IT.. NOT FEELING RELIGION IN GENERAL. I HAVE ALWAYS BELIEVED IN GOD I JUST NEVER FELT A TRUE CONNECTION TO IT.. UNTIL NOW. I HAVE REALLY LET GO.. AND AM LETTING GO MORE AND MORE EVERY DAY, LITERALY SAYING OU...	Michelle814	6	1805	Oct 25, 2011 by Michelle814
	Will it ever be done? (Preview) My AH and I are divorcing. long story short we still have a joint checking account to pay loans that are joint (autopay)...inclyuding the mortgage (which I have paid ALONE since june) and a snowmobile loan. In february,( we had been separated for 3 months then) I asked him for his debit card because he...	rehprof	11	666	Oct 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	Feel like iwill never escape this (Preview) Hi. I am new to this forum and am a little nervous and embarrassed to post here. I've been going to ala non meetings for quite a while and feel like I keep getting sucked back into my babies fathers negative alcoholic mess. I seem to be strong for a few HOURS and then lose it again. I fall back into defending m...	Sponge6819	9	567	Oct 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	I Visited Crazytown Last Night- Thank God I Decided Not to Stay! Crazytown detachment (Preview) I have learned so much through my Alanon weekly meetings, my sponsor, Alanon literature, and my counselor; and I am so thankful for the tools I have gained these past couple of years. Just to catch you up again, I moved out of our home a little over 6 months ago so that I could both mentally AND physically d...	Green Eyes	19	10496	Oct 25, 2011 by tommyecat
	Bet you're sorry you told me to keep posting! LOL (Preview) I have so much to talk about...I may post 50 times today...just kidding. I just asked this question to someone who emailed me on here and I wanted to ask you guys. Is it possible to live with an alcoholic and be fulfilled or am I just postponing the inevitable? Half of me asks myself...is this really how y...	Becki67	18	687	Oct 25, 2011 by maryjane
	Hello All! (Preview) It is true I haven't been here for several months....Doesn't mean I haven't had all of you in my positive thoughts and prayers. Doesn't mean I haven't wanted to tell some of you what I think...good or bad...I send great love and caring all around, and when this move is complete, I'll be back to get the pl...	Diva	6	390	Oct 25, 2011 by Jennifer
	husband in complete denial (Preview) help me please. My husband is in complete and absolute denial that he has a problem with drinking. He is blaming me and my anger for his reason to drink. He states that he just wants to enjoy life, but my life is being affected by him choosing alcohol over his wife and his son. He has said he would stop dr...	helpmeplease	8	379	Oct 24, 2011 by Hot Chicka
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