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HAguirre · HAguirre

So my A has been sober for over a year and i am still myserable. I dont know why. He is happy and okay and i am back to the begging of despair again. I still dont know how to let go of all the bad things he did in the past i never got a appology or acknowladgement of what he did or didnt do. I am struggling to allow him...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

There's been some odd awakening, well not odd but interesting awakening in my A friend since we saw Flight. He has had a bazillion questions and is like some little toddler just waking up. While I think it's good I called it quits today. He says he's in contact with his sponsor and has been talking to hi...

Lyne · Lyne

So I've just spent my entire weekend being depressed about my A plus (plus other addictions), and now today I am so ANGRY. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. I am usually a very NICE person and I don't think I can do it tonight. I'm not going to fight; I just feel like I don't want to smile or make &...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Good morning, I am writing this from my phone on the commute to work. I am really struggling right now with my routine. I am getting very impatient with the progress of certain things and am having a hard time judt letting it go. There are certain things I want out of my life and continually doing the same s...

katfshh · katfshh

Hi everyone, Life has had so many changes since my exAF moved away July 16th. I was doing so well. But, last week during the big Hurricane on the East Coast, I started to worry about my exAF. He lives on the Jersey Shore now. We have had only a few texts the entire time he has been gone, no phone or email conv...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

I'm able to detach enough from this that I can make pretty good decisions. I am not alone in my experience with the family courts in CA. I'm broke after more than 10k in lawyers who were able to do nothing. Precisely because the mediation services CA requires you to go through will not allow lawyers an...

Maxine12stepper · Maxine12stepper

Hello all my MIP family, Im really needing some advice, I have been with my A for nearly 5 years now, we parted for 7 months when he became a dry drunk and I (didnt realize at the time, I was a sick as a dog too) but we are back together and both working our own program's and getting on better than we ever have, n...

Jozie · Jozie

You Know I am So Grateful For Al-Anon/ACOA its not even Funny! I know I Say this alot, but its True non the Less... This Morning I get one of those LOVELY Calls from my ASis, who is in Complete & Total "Whirling" Mode, Trying to Control Others, (Except Herself) Trying to Force Solutions th...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just real quick: I have been having pretty good days! I guess I am finally turning things over! I can tell when I don't have a lot of anxiety. I am glad that I don't believe me! Kathleen

tortuga · tortuga

Hello MiP family, I just came back from a solo trip to the mountains....literally just 'walking the path of detachment'. Initially the plan was that I do that 2 weeks trip with friends, but HP decided otherwise and let me go alone. I felt a bit strange at first, because I was scared to spend so much time wi...

pineapple · pineapple

It's been a little over two months since my A left. I was on this site every day before then. I am quite serious when I say that MIP helped to restore my sanity. I've dropped in a few times in the last two months. Right now I'm spending all of my energy on taking care of me. I know how important this place and all...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

I have one of those lives that's difficult to work around. But I just kept working on it, took me nearly a year but got there. I went on my lunch break (I do a lot on my lunch breaks due to my schedule) and it was great to go. The only drawback is it appears to be a 1.5 hour meeting and I can only be there for 1 hou...

Sam813 · Sam813

Hi everyone, My A brother has called me like 7 times tonight. I was out to dinner with my best friend, trying to take care of myself. My mother called and said he is trying to get into rehab while asking for a ride or a place to stay before hand. I haven't answered or called back as I'm trying to go about my lif...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'd like to ask you to keep my mom and family in your thoughts and prayers. I got a call from my brother that my mother appears to have had a stroke this morning. He's with her and they are waiting for an ambulance while in the area of the storm. He's prepared to make necessary decisions. He assured me it h...

uscgmomma1028 · uscgmomma1028

broken....i am a child of an alcohlic was married to alcohlic and have been involved with alcohlic for the past 6 years. i love my boyfriend but we were living disfunctional. and last weekend it errupted into an explosive argrument and my shoulder was broken. i have to say that evening i was drinking a...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Losing my job last week really knocked me sideways. I always knew it was a temporary gig, but I was still shocked at the timing of everything, and the way it was handled. It left me with a huge laundry list of worries and challenges. I am working hard to keep everything separate, and avoid feeling tota...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

So my 14 year old is interested in boys and wants to be able to date. She is a freshmen and our rule even after the divorce has been at 16 she can start dating in groups. So I find out she kind of has a boyfriend and they are hand holding. What do I do or say? Her dad is ready to cave and try to set boundaries for her d...

Roothy · Roothy

He's supposedly in recovery, but he drinks. I know it's not my problem. BUT THIS IS KILLING ME. I came home unexpectedly from work an hour ago, he wasn't here. I figured he was out drinking, and resisted the urge to text him. To help me, I looked up this forum. He just showed up, said, "I'm actu...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

So, off I go w/ thinking positively. I am not going to let circumstance & other things control or ruin my day! I am so proud of my husband for admitting he was wrong yesterday--no need for details. Now I have to follow this w/ trying to be more apologetic towards him on most occasions. He deserves to be...

UK Jane · UK Jane

Hi everyone, I'm looking for some ES&H. I've been thinking about trust lately, specifically in relation to my HP. That lead me on to thinking about faith. I'm praying at the moment for a deepening of my trust & faith in my HP and I always pray to remain willing. Do any of you have anything to s...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Just letting you all know that I am still lurking around out here. I don't post often, but I read a lot of your posts for ESH and lessons that I can use in my life. Things are still going very well for me. I still attend and will probably, ALWAYS attend Alanon in my town. My local group is part of my family now a...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hey everyone, Last night me and a co-worker/friend went to go see the the new Denzel Washington movie, Flight. I bring this up because the movie tackles alcoholism and how it can rip someone's life apart. The alcoholic in the movie gets caught up in their lies and for me, it was some pretty heavy duty stu...

Pushka · Pushka

Well, STBAX's mom is home and I was able to take my eldest to go and visit with her. The visit was ok. Youngest is at his other grandma's (STBAX's ex s/mom). In fact the kids were there almost all weekend and had a great time with their cousin who is 5 visiting from out of town. I figured he saw her Thursda...

Sam813 · Sam813

I pray until I fall asleep, when I sleep...It's a good day. I have given this situation to my higher power and have faith in his healing. Today has been hard. I haven't seen my only sibling, my baby brother, in 3 months; when I hear from him, he makes no sense. He is a homeless addict. He has become manip...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

My AW has seen me depressed this morning. Her alcohol problem is not as extreme as some others. People have asked me what I feel the problem is and other than some of the drinking indicators itself nothing in her other behaivor really bothers me. One of her symptoms is her drinking first thing in the m...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I was shopping Home Depot the other day and bumped into my cousin who has been missing for a year and a half. She was working for Home Depot when she disappeared and then she was gone. She is a mysteriously discovered relative from my natural family on the natural father's side. This is one of the al...

shadow78 · shadow78

I am here because reading these posts help me see that I am not alone. I really don't even know where to start. I will start with where I am at today. I am lost. I have made so many decisions based on fear, fear of making my situation worse, fear of what the A might do if I cut off contact, fear of what he wil...

stephaniej · stephaniej

It's dark times over here. Bring on your inspirational quotes! I would LOVE a feel-better thread that I can access and easily see some of your uplifting sayings in one place!

gyzer02 · gyzer02

The adventure continues with a new low. My AW just received a reply from our son that he will not allow his mother to baby sit his children. This brought about a binge and a new attempt to get sober. I read in a post on this site describing the attempt as a white knuckle event. Without any support group o...

jorjorjor · jorjorjor

Hey all, I'm trying to take it one day at a time and trust that my higher power is looking out for me, but I'm finding myself stressing hard over money! I'm working right now and making just enough to pay my rent, my food stamps haven't come in yet and its been difficult to get in touch with my food stamps work...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

Have been in to read and will start to post but so many changes going on and scattered feelings I don't even know how to start. So, I'll just start typing. I have traded in my car so no more car payment which has been a huge load off of my shoulders. I have removed my name from the utility accounts and told ...

Lyne · Lyne

Greetings~The song by Paul Simon keeps sounding in my head lately. I think I've "accepted" my spouse's addictions, yes plural, and then yesterday I'm wondering why there is no change. There is no change because she doesn't want to change! It is I who wants her to change. Yep, still cra...

rehprof · rehprof

Hi everyone -- YES - I too have received spam messages (PM) from this board. I suspect it is because of our recent thread on relationships. There are people out there who troll boards and dating sites to find lonely people to exploit...and get them to send money etc. My PM message said it was from Senegal...

hope4today · hope4today

Long story short, my husband is an alcoholic and he just got a DUI last week. Problem is, this isn't his first, and he could possiby face some time in jail. We have three kids, 8,7 and 4 and I'm trying to keep our life as normal as possible for as long as I can. Luckily, I have a fabulous support system in both o...

willowtree · willowtree

Here are a few things that are going on for me and I really need some ESandH. I started the steps with a sponsor and I am on step 4 now. My sponsor said that we do a step a week. So I immediately felt rushed from the get go. I was having trouble finding my HP and she told me that she was surprised that i was havi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just gotta do it! I have so much to say that I am so excited that I am having a hard time typing as usual. I am so blessed w/ a better outlook on life along w/ less pain. The doctor gave me some medicine that might actually be working. It makes me feel so much more positive & gives me a better attitude. I hav...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

Is anyone getting spam private messages from someone with no posts wanting to be a friend?

rellik · rellik

So my AW relapsed two nights ago. Program worked for about half of the situation. I was able to rein in my actions, no belittleing no berating no isolation or coldness. That was the good part, the emotions not so good. In any case I have chose not to drink, in support of her recovery. So I haven't drank in a m...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I was trying to post & the computer went off-line here at the library in my small town. I had a slew of wonderful things to say but I guess they weren't meant to be. I am grateful that the computer came back on. So, what I was saying basically was about recovery espcially mine. I have come a long way &...

Elizabeth10 · Elizabeth10

Ever since I was young, the A in my life (father) has been up high on a pedestal. I always assumed when he wasn't drunk that he was always right and how could anyone ever dislike him? I've carried this into my adult life and it is so hard to stop. He has always been a nagger/criticizer and still is. It really d...

Grateful Member of Al-Anon :) · Jozie

Well I have Survived the Storm of Hurricane Sandy, and Thank God above for Every bit of the Blessings I Recieved During it! My Thoughts and Prayers are with All that Had it worse then I, Mine was Minimal at Least, Little Water in Basement, flickerin lights, but Nothing Worth Complainin about after watc...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Do you guys ever get any spam private mesages? I got one today, related to a post I made and got to admit it's kind of creepy. Does anyone else get these?

Pushka · Pushka

My STBAX's mom whom he is living with is in the hospital. She is gravely ill. She is an alcoholic as well as a smoker. She has cut way back on the drinking (at one point years ago had stopped completely after many years of hard drinking unfortunately started again when her spouse passed away) and she ha...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I lost my job today

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t51399472/step-2-alanon/

Zimmy · Zimmy

I have truly seen how insane my thinking is! The last week or so I can see I have started shutting down and slipping into old behaviours. Isolating and not communicating. I'm not even sure why. But I saw my insantity last night so I think that is progress. I ended taking my 4 year old out with me to avoid...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi MIP Family I live in downtown Manhattan on the 10 th floor and have been without Internet, electricity, heat, hot water, etc. since Monday. A very kind friend just drove to my apartment and brought me to their home where there is all the comforts of home. Internet, heat, hot water for a bath and TV. A...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, my name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Lately, a lot of my shares have been about relationships, companionship and loneliness. I know it sounds like complaining and self-pity but finding a life partner is something that is very dear to me and I want to use the rooms of t...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

For the first time in a LONG time I am actually NOT dreading the weekend and the looming possibility that the wife will crack open the wine. Things seem to be going better and while I am still very cautious when it comes to her drinking I choose to remain optimistic for ME! Every time I start to think that...

Umutlu · Umutlu

I have the opportunity to go to a fun and formal ball next month with my husband and friends. Dinner and free drinks. I want to go, but I'm anxious about my husband drinking too much. The last time we went to a party like this he got really drunk (so did a lot of other people mind you). Part of me says I should go...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

Wanted to get some input from others here. I have been toying with this question over the last couple of weeks. My AW's drinking from what I see has gotten much better. I'm not nieve enough to think she has completely stopped but I don't see nearly as much of it like I once did. She has never been the dri...

willowtree · willowtree

I go to alanon and am really getting help from it and was recently talking to an old timer in AA who told me that he thinks I am an alcoholic. I haven't drank in 10 years and don't ever have any desire to. I did party when I was younger and could get pretty wild and do stupid stuff at times but I have a family now...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

I hope everyone follows suit! I'm going home tonight, going to relax, hand out candy, watch TV and veg :) The boys are with dad this year, I'll see them when they get home about 9pm tonight. On a side note, tagged onto the post last night - he apparently left the VA sometime after 11:30pm. He's at his home...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I will not play into his moods, I will not fall prey to the alcoholics 'emotion' of the moment. I will let him be miserable if he needs to be and not worry about whether I'm at fault for this negative attitude. I will work my program, say the serenity prayer, and then go do something for myself. LIKE GO FO...

Misst1976 · Misst1976

Hi My mum came out of rehab 6 days ago, and I think started drinking the day after. She was so positve in rehab and it was her decision to go in the first place, she spent the last of her savings on going. But is now back on the drink hard and fast. Drinking from 7.00am right through the day, and is back to not was...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Like growing up in any type of home, we develop patterns. Patterns of thinking, doing and reacting. The Al-anon program has allowed me to work on breaking some of those patterns. Through my sharing and service work, I have been able to gain the confidence and self-esteem that I always wanted. Howeve...

Aimee · Aimee

Hello! I'm in a kind weird situation right now with a woman I'm bringing through the 12 steps and I'm not sure how to proceed. I met with her last night to give her the instructions on her 4th step inventory and she told me she has decided she is an alcoholic. Now I believe alcoholism is a self-diagnosed co...

aprilla · aprilla

Hi everyone I'm new And I'm very happy to say there is a AL Anon group near me and I am attending my first session next week. Finally, A working programme that will bring some sanity and structure to my life after a long time of uncomfortable feelings and urges that swallowed me up and not knowing why. Fro...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I seem to be in the darkest, most despair filled place I've been in recent memory. My ex-husband (who is not my qualifier) has been piling on the crap, and I'm having a really hard time coping. He and his attorney pulled a fast one in court earlier this month and had an order entered against me, the resul...

Maxine12stepper · Maxine12stepper

Hello Everyone, My name is Maxine and I would say Im a 'non' alcoholic, I dont crave drink drugs or food, but I certainly have something wrong with me where I need to fill that emtpy hole i have in me, with something, I have drank, i have taken drugs before, but I can put them down, lucky me eh, bu...

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	Still confused after a year (Preview) So my A has been sober for over a year and i am still myserable. I dont know why. He is happy and okay and i am back to the begging of despair again. I still dont know how to let go of all the bad things he did in the past i never got a appology or acknowladgement of what he did or didnt do. I am struggling to allow him...	HAguirre	6	572	Nov 8, 2012 by maryjane
	The depths of denial (Preview) There's been some odd awakening, well not odd but interesting awakening in my A friend since we saw Flight. He has had a bazillion questions and is like some little toddler just waking up. While I think it's good I called it quits today. He says he's in contact with his sponsor and has been talking to hi...	AStrongerMe	1	361	Nov 8, 2012 by Jerry F
	Let go, let God~not working (Preview) So I've just spent my entire weekend being depressed about my A plus (plus other addictions), and now today I am so ANGRY. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. I am usually a very NICE person and I don't think I can do it tonight. I'm not going to fight; I just feel like I don't want to smile or make &...	Lyne	5	528	Nov 7, 2012 by Lyne
	I'm struggling with patience/let go and let god (Preview) Good morning, I am writing this from my phone on the commute to work. I am really struggling right now with my routine. I am getting very impatient with the progress of certain things and am having a hard time judt letting it go. There are certain things I want out of my life and continually doing the same s...	slogan_jim	4	488	Nov 7, 2012 by pinkchip
	Missed you and need you, and moments of weakness :( (Preview) Hi everyone, Life has had so many changes since my exAF moved away July 16th. I was doing so well. But, last week during the big Hurricane on the East Coast, I started to worry about my exAF. He lives on the Jersey Shore now. We have had only a few texts the entire time he has been gone, no phone or email conv...	katfshh	9	528	Nov 7, 2012 by pinkchip
	My reality (Preview) I'm able to detach enough from this that I can make pretty good decisions. I am not alone in my experience with the family courts in CA. I'm broke after more than 10k in lawyers who were able to do nothing. Precisely because the mediation services CA requires you to go through will not allow lawyers an...	AStrongerMe	3	492	Nov 7, 2012 by katfshh
	cant shake this resentment :( (Preview) Hello all my MIP family, Im really needing some advice, I have been with my A for nearly 5 years now, we parted for 7 months when he became a dry drunk and I (didnt realize at the time, I was a sick as a dog too) but we are back together and both working our own program's and getting on better than we ever have, n...	Maxine12stepper	8	542	Nov 7, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	The Whirling of My Family Disease... (Preview) You Know I am So Grateful For Al-Anon/ACOA its not even Funny! I know I Say this alot, but its True non the Less... This Morning I get one of those LOVELY Calls from my ASis, who is in Complete & Total "Whirling" Mode, Trying to Control Others, (Except Herself) Trying to Force Solutions th...	Jozie	2	507	Nov 7, 2012 by hotrod
	2 good days in a row--so far! (Preview) Just real quick: I have been having pretty good days! I guess I am finally turning things over! I can tell when I don't have a lot of anxiety. I am glad that I don't believe me! Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	2	320	Nov 7, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	weather forecast: LESS FOGGY!----an update! (Preview) Hello MiP family, I just came back from a solo trip to the mountains....literally just 'walking the path of detachment'. Initially the plan was that I do that 2 weeks trip with friends, but HP decided otherwise and let me go alone. I felt a bit strange at first, because I was scared to spend so much time wi...	tortuga	3	496	Nov 7, 2012 by hotrod
	Taking a break (Preview) It's been a little over two months since my A left. I was on this site every day before then. I am quite serious when I say that MIP helped to restore my sanity. I've dropped in a few times in the last two months. Right now I'm spending all of my energy on taking care of me. I know how important this place and all...	pineapple	8	450	Nov 7, 2012 by hotrod
	Finally got to a F2F meeting (Preview) I have one of those lives that's difficult to work around. But I just kept working on it, took me nearly a year but got there. I went on my lunch break (I do a lot on my lunch breaks due to my schedule) and it was great to go. The only drawback is it appears to be a 1.5 hour meeting and I can only be there for 1 hou...	AStrongerMe	4	415	Nov 7, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	What to do (Preview) Hi everyone, My A brother has called me like 7 times tonight. I was out to dinner with my best friend, trying to take care of myself. My mother called and said he is trying to get into rehab while asking for a ride or a place to stay before hand. I haven't answered or called back as I'm trying to go about my lif...	Sam813	4	354	Nov 6, 2012 by Mattie
	Prayers needed (Preview) I'd like to ask you to keep my mom and family in your thoughts and prayers. I got a call from my brother that my mother appears to have had a stroke this morning. He's with her and they are waiting for an ambulance while in the area of the storm. He's prepared to make necessary decisions. He assured me it h...	tiredtonite	19	489	Nov 6, 2012 by tiredtonite
	broken (Preview) broken....i am a child of an alcohlic was married to alcohlic and have been involved with alcohlic for the past 6 years. i love my boyfriend but we were living disfunctional. and last weekend it errupted into an explosive argrument and my shoulder was broken. i have to say that evening i was drinking a...	uscgmomma1028	5	506	Nov 6, 2012 by uscgmomma1028
	Baby steps in the right direction (Preview) Losing my job last week really knocked me sideways. I always knew it was a temporary gig, but I was still shocked at the timing of everything, and the way it was handled. It left me with a huge laundry list of worries and challenges. I am working hard to keep everything separate, and avoid feeling tota...	stephaniej	5	419	Nov 6, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	fear and control taking over within me (Preview) So my 14 year old is interested in boys and wants to be able to date. She is a freshmen and our rule even after the divorce has been at 16 she can start dating in groups. So I find out she kind of has a boyfriend and they are hand holding. What do I do or say? Her dad is ready to cave and try to set boundaries for her d...	Breakingfree	5	569	Nov 6, 2012 by Debilyn
	boyfriend just went to the VFW... ugh (Preview) He's supposedly in recovery, but he drinks. I know it's not my problem. BUT THIS IS KILLING ME. I came home unexpectedly from work an hour ago, he wasn't here. I figured he was out drinking, and resisted the urge to text him. To help me, I looked up this forum. He just showed up, said, "I'm actu...	Roothy	4	447	Nov 6, 2012 by pinkchip
	untitled (Preview) So, off I go w/ thinking positively. I am not going to let circumstance & other things control or ruin my day! I am so proud of my husband for admitting he was wrong yesterday--no need for details. Now I have to follow this w/ trying to be more apologetic towards him on most occasions. He deserves to be...	Hoot Nanny	1	341	Nov 6, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Trust & Faith, we all need it. (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm looking for some ES&H. I've been thinking about trust lately, specifically in relation to my HP. That lead me on to thinking about faith. I'm praying at the moment for a deepening of my trust & faith in my HP and I always pray to remain willing. Do any of you have anything to s...	UK Jane	6	590	Nov 6, 2012 by UK Jane
	Hi all! (Preview) Just letting you all know that I am still lurking around out here. I don't post often, but I read a lot of your posts for ESH and lessons that I can use in my life. Things are still going very well for me. I still attend and will probably, ALWAYS attend Alanon in my town. My local group is part of my family now a...	Sweet Stanley	1	313	Nov 6, 2012 by Zimmy
	Flight (Movie with Denzel) (no spoilers :) (Preview) Hey everyone, Last night me and a co-worker/friend went to go see the the new Denzel Washington movie, Flight. I bring this up because the movie tackles alcoholism and how it can rip someone's life apart. The alcoholic in the movie gets caught up in their lies and for me, it was some pretty heavy duty stu...	slogan_jim	7	542	Nov 6, 2012 by Hoot Nanny
	Update (Preview) Well, STBAX's mom is home and I was able to take my eldest to go and visit with her. The visit was ok. Youngest is at his other grandma's (STBAX's ex s/mom). In fact the kids were there almost all weekend and had a great time with their cousin who is 5 visiting from out of town. I figured he saw her Thursda...	Pushka	5	375	Nov 5, 2012 by amills4294
	I'm worn (Preview) I pray until I fall asleep, when I sleep...It's a good day. I have given this situation to my higher power and have faith in his healing. Today has been hard. I haven't seen my only sibling, my baby brother, in 3 months; when I hear from him, he makes no sense. He is a homeless addict. He has become manip...	Sam813	4	558	Nov 5, 2012 by Jozie
	Should I tell her? (Preview) My AW has seen me depressed this morning. Her alcohol problem is not as extreme as some others. People have asked me what I feel the problem is and other than some of the drinking indicators itself nothing in her other behaivor really bothers me. One of her symptoms is her drinking first thing in the m...	hdftby100	7	496	Nov 5, 2012 by Jozie
	A family disease...more evidence (Preview) I was shopping Home Depot the other day and bumped into my cousin who has been missing for a year and a half. She was working for Home Depot when she disappeared and then she was gone. She is a mysteriously discovered relative from my natural family on the natural father's side. This is one of the al...	Jerry F	3	449	Nov 5, 2012 by Jozie
	I fear i have only made the situation worse (Preview) I am here because reading these posts help me see that I am not alone. I really don't even know where to start. I will start with where I am at today. I am lost. I have made so many decisions based on fear, fear of making my situation worse, fear of what the A might do if I cut off contact, fear of what he wil...	shadow78	8	626	Nov 5, 2012 by Sam813
	Bring on the Inspirational Quotes! (Preview) It's dark times over here. Bring on your inspirational quotes! I would LOVE a feel-better thread that I can access and easily see some of your uplifting sayings in one place!	stephaniej	12	619	Nov 5, 2012 by Sam813
	A New Low (Preview) The adventure continues with a new low. My AW just received a reply from our son that he will not allow his mother to baby sit his children. This brought about a binge and a new attempt to get sober. I read in a post on this site describing the attempt as a white knuckle event. Without any support group o...	gyzer02	5	457	Nov 5, 2012 by Jerry F
	trying to trust (Preview) Hey all, I'm trying to take it one day at a time and trust that my higher power is looking out for me, but I'm finding myself stressing hard over money! I'm working right now and making just enough to pay my rent, my food stamps haven't come in yet and its been difficult to get in touch with my food stamps work...	jorjorjor	2	475	Nov 5, 2012 by Jerry F
	Quick Update (Preview) Have been in to read and will start to post but so many changes going on and scattered feelings I don't even know how to start. So, I'll just start typing. I have traded in my car so no more car payment which has been a huge load off of my shoulders. I have removed my name from the utility accounts and told ...	WornOutMrsFixIt	4	370	Nov 5, 2012 by Breakingfree
	still crazy after all these years (Preview) Greetings~The song by Paul Simon keeps sounding in my head lately. I think I've "accepted" my spouse's addictions, yes plural, and then yesterday I'm wondering why there is no change. There is no change because she doesn't want to change! It is I who wants her to change. Yep, still cra...	Lyne	4	389	Nov 5, 2012 by Lyne
	Spam Messages TOO!! (Preview) Hi everyone -- YES - I too have received spam messages (PM) from this board. I suspect it is because of our recent thread on relationships. There are people out there who troll boards and dating sites to find lonely people to exploit...and get them to send money etc. My PM message said it was from Senegal...	rehprof	5	372	Nov 5, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Scared to death, but holding it together... (Preview) Long story short, my husband is an alcoholic and he just got a DUI last week. Problem is, this isn't his first, and he could possiby face some time in jail. We have three kids, 8,7 and 4 and I'm trying to keep our life as normal as possible for as long as I can. Luckily, I have a fabulous support system in both o...	hope4today	5	553	Nov 5, 2012 by Jerry F
	Question about the steps (Preview) Here are a few things that are going on for me and I really need some ESandH. I started the steps with a sponsor and I am on step 4 now. My sponsor said that we do a step a week. So I immediately felt rushed from the get go. I was having trouble finding my HP and she told me that she was surprised that i was havi...	willowtree	7	540	Nov 4, 2012 by willowtree
	I gotta do it! (Preview) I just gotta do it! I have so much to say that I am so excited that I am having a hard time typing as usual. I am so blessed w/ a better outlook on life along w/ less pain. The doctor gave me some medicine that might actually be working. It makes me feel so much more positive & gives me a better attitude. I hav...	Hoot Nanny	5	404	Nov 4, 2012 by hotrod
	Spam (Preview) Is anyone getting spam private messages from someone with no posts wanting to be a friend?	hdftby100	1	270	Nov 4, 2012 by rehprof
	Drinking for me??? (Preview) So my AW relapsed two nights ago. Program worked for about half of the situation. I was able to rein in my actions, no belittleing no berating no isolation or coldness. That was the good part, the emotions not so good. In any case I have chose not to drink, in support of her recovery. So I haven't drank in a m...	rellik	10	537	Nov 3, 2012 by maryjane
	I dunno; what do I know? (Preview) I was trying to post & the computer went off-line here at the library in my small town. I had a slew of wonderful things to say but I guess they weren't meant to be. I am grateful that the computer came back on. So, what I was saying basically was about recovery espcially mine. I have come a long way &...	Hoot Nanny	2	344	Nov 3, 2012 by UK Jane
	Putting the A on a pedestal (Preview) Ever since I was young, the A in my life (father) has been up high on a pedestal. I always assumed when he wasn't drunk that he was always right and how could anyone ever dislike him? I've carried this into my adult life and it is so hard to stop. He has always been a nagger/criticizer and still is. It really d...	Elizabeth10	3	736	Nov 3, 2012 by pinkchip
	Grateful Member of Al-Anon :) (Preview) Well I have Survived the Storm of Hurricane Sandy, and Thank God above for Every bit of the Blessings I Recieved During it! My Thoughts and Prayers are with All that Had it worse then I, Mine was Minimal at Least, Little Water in Basement, flickerin lights, but Nothing Worth Complainin about after watc...	Jozie	5	422	Nov 3, 2012 by DavidG
	Off Topic: Spam messages (Preview) Do you guys ever get any spam private mesages? I got one today, related to a post I made and got to admit it's kind of creepy. Does anyone else get these?	slogan_jim	7	444	Nov 3, 2012 by DavidG
	Argh .. Prayers please (Preview) My STBAX's mom whom he is living with is in the hospital. She is gravely ill. She is an alcoholic as well as a smoker. She has cut way back on the drinking (at one point years ago had stopped completely after many years of hard drinking unfortunately started again when her spouse passed away) and she ha...	Pushka	6	407	Nov 3, 2012 by Breakingfree
	And, just when you think things can't get any worse (Preview) I lost my job today	stephaniej	10	472	Nov 3, 2012 by Breakingfree
	2ND STEP POSTED TO THE STEP WORK BOARD (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t51399472/step-2-alanon/	hotrod	1	322	Nov 3, 2012 by Breakingfree
	3 steps forward....3 steps back (Preview) I have truly seen how insane my thinking is! The last week or so I can see I have started shutting down and slipping into old behaviours. Isolating and not communicating. I'm not even sure why. But I saw my insantity last night so I think that is progress. I ended taking my 4 year old out with me to avoid...	Zimmy	4	537	Nov 3, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Grateful (Preview) Hi MIP Family I live in downtown Manhattan on the 10 th floor and have been without Internet, electricity, heat, hot water, etc. since Monday. A very kind friend just drove to my apartment and brought me to their home where there is all the comforts of home. Internet, heat, hot water for a bath and TV. A...	hotrod	15	757	Nov 3, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Relationships (share) (Preview) Hi everyone, my name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Lately, a lot of my shares have been about relationships, companionship and loneliness. I know it sounds like complaining and self-pity but finding a life partner is something that is very dear to me and I want to use the rooms of t...	slogan_jim	5	443	Nov 2, 2012 by DavidG
	Positive weekend... (Preview) For the first time in a LONG time I am actually NOT dreading the weekend and the looming possibility that the wife will crack open the wine. Things seem to be going better and while I am still very cautious when it comes to her drinking I choose to remain optimistic for ME! Every time I start to think that...	hdftby100	3	308	Nov 2, 2012 by Jerry F
	Go to party or not? (Preview) I have the opportunity to go to a fun and formal ball next month with my husband and friends. Dinner and free drinks. I want to go, but I'm anxious about my husband drinking too much. The last time we went to a party like this he got really drunk (so did a lot of other people mind you). Part of me says I should go...	Umutlu	5	395	Nov 2, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Looking for opinions... (Preview) Wanted to get some input from others here. I have been toying with this question over the last couple of weeks. My AW's drinking from what I see has gotten much better. I'm not nieve enough to think she has completely stopped but I don't see nearly as much of it like I once did. She has never been the dri...	hdftby100	6	548	Nov 2, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	someone really upset me (Preview) I go to alanon and am really getting help from it and was recently talking to an old timer in AA who told me that he thinks I am an alcoholic. I haven't drank in 10 years and don't ever have any desire to. I did party when I was younger and could get pretty wild and do stupid stuff at times but I have a family now...	willowtree	14	785	Nov 2, 2012 by UK Jane
	I'm going to have a Happy Halloween (Preview) I hope everyone follows suit! I'm going home tonight, going to relax, hand out candy, watch TV and veg :) The boys are with dad this year, I'll see them when they get home about 9pm tonight. On a side note, tagged onto the post last night - he apparently left the VA sometime after 11:30pm. He's at his home...	AStrongerMe	4	395	Nov 1, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Ignoring their moods (Preview) I will not play into his moods, I will not fall prey to the alcoholics 'emotion' of the moment. I will let him be miserable if he needs to be and not worry about whether I'm at fault for this negative attitude. I will work my program, say the serenity prayer, and then go do something for myself. LIKE GO FO...	ilovedogs	7	587	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	Relapsed straight from Rehab (Preview) Hi My mum came out of rehab 6 days ago, and I think started drinking the day after. She was so positve in rehab and it was her decision to go in the first place, she spent the last of her savings on going. But is now back on the drink hard and fast. Drinking from 7.00am right through the day, and is back to not was...	Misst1976	4	467	Nov 1, 2012 by shelbylisa
	Breaking patterns (share) (Preview) Like growing up in any type of home, we develop patterns. Patterns of thinking, doing and reacting. The Al-anon program has allowed me to work on breaking some of those patterns. Through my sharing and service work, I have been able to gain the confidence and self-esteem that I always wanted. Howeve...	slogan_jim	2	550	Nov 1, 2012 by aprilla
	Sponsoring an alcoholic? (Preview) Hello! I'm in a kind weird situation right now with a woman I'm bringing through the 12 steps and I'm not sure how to proceed. I met with her last night to give her the instructions on her 4th step inventory and she told me she has decided she is an alcoholic. Now I believe alcoholism is a self-diagnosed co...	Aimee	8	693	Nov 1, 2012 by glad lee
	Newbie, In need of your support (Preview) Hi everyone I'm new And I'm very happy to say there is a AL Anon group near me and I am attending my first session next week. Finally, A working programme that will bring some sanity and structure to my life after a long time of uncomfortable feelings and urges that swallowed me up and not knowing why. Fro...	aprilla	4	510	Nov 1, 2012 by rellik
	Hopeful that my MIP family can lift me up today (Preview) I seem to be in the darkest, most despair filled place I've been in recent memory. My ex-husband (who is not my qualifier) has been piling on the crap, and I'm having a really hard time coping. He and his attorney pulled a fast one in court earlier this month and had an order entered against me, the resul...	stephaniej	10	569	Nov 1, 2012 by rellik
	Hi everyone, newcomer here xxx (Preview) Hello Everyone, My name is Maxine and I would say Im a 'non' alcoholic, I dont crave drink drugs or food, but I certainly have something wrong with me where I need to fill that emtpy hole i have in me, with something, I have drank, i have taken drugs before, but I can put them down, lucky me eh, bu...	Maxine12stepper	8	746	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
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