Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My first eye appt. for surgery is tomorrow--I am nervous & excited! It seems there are possibilities that there will be complications possibly. I just hope that I will have faith that it won't go wrong. The date of the surgery is not yet set. I am anxious about setting a date. Also, out of 3 possibili...

jitsuka · jitsuka

How do people deal with the issue of sex? My partner is an A. She drinks secretly upstairs in the bedroom - even though I know and she knows. I find the empties hidden away. Vodka/ wine. Sometimes she approaches me sexually. I cringe and just sit there. She sits awkwardly and then goes back to bed. I feel vi...

SoberGirl · SoberGirl

I have made the decision to cut off contact with my alcoholic and meth-addicted father. He is lost in paranoid, meth-psychosis delusions of persecution, and only wants to talk about those. Every time we speak on the phone, we get into an argument and he verbally abuses me because I do not believe his fa...

Pushka · Pushka

This isn't an AA deal however it was interesting to watch, .. very honestly I had NO idea how Celebrate Recovery works. That part was pretty educational, .. I really enjoyed learning something new. What I really liked about the movie is the depiction of alcoholism as a disease and the victim mentali...

PP · PP

Thank you all for your support. We had our mediation today at the courthouse. After much reflection, I was comfortable in my discomfort (regarding this type of conflict...or any conflict) that there would be nothing for us to mediate. We were dealing with pride, greed and one angry man (former t...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

It is a lovely day today in my part of the world. The trees and flowers are blooming. The sun is shining. The birds are singing. I took my sweet dog for a big long walk this morning and enjoyed seeing the ducks and geese swimming at the nearby pond. AH is on Day 8 of sobriety, I am working my program, trying ver...

Rutabaga · Rutabaga

hi all i'm new(ish) here and could really use some support. my (sober) alcoholic met my parents for the first time this weekend, and in two conversations casually let slip that she's planning/considering moving out of state. this was news to me, and something that is happening because i told her i wa...

rehprof · rehprof

I've been wrestling with something this morning....sometimes I teach an extra course in May so I can make ends meet. This time the course didn't have enough students in it...so it will be cancelled. So far, I've been able to scrape through financially. ExA is buying guns, bought the 10 yo a crossbow an...

Lay · Lay

Hello again, everyone! I want to thank you for your warm welcomes! I have found some Al-Anon meeting places, and plan to attend my first one Friday afternoon! I am looking forward to it very much. In the mean time, my counselor gave me some workbooks on codependency for me to work through. I got to a secti...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi~I've told my spouse I cannot exist in our relationship any longer unless she goes to recovery herself. I'm trying to find a list of live meetings for her and I just keep finding rehabs and other related topics. What do I search to find local meetings where I live? Thanks, Lyne

Jewel1 · Jewel1

My husband is bipolar and over the 25 years of our marriage has amused cocaine and crack to "self medicate". That is what my two boys grew up in the middle of. The three of us shared the hurt, pain, anger and financial crisis that are part of the reality of growing up with an addict. He has been st...

ryanhearted · ryanhearted

I am coming back to Al-anon and hope to get to some f2f meetings in the near future. I am currently looking for support with my 8 year old daughter. My problem is setting boundaries with my AH when he is in charge of the care of my daughter. He was sober for 14 years, and for the last year and a half, has been ste...

HappyToBe · HappyToBe

For last 3 days I have been feeling rather drained to the very last drop of energy. I am so tired I could cry at any given moment if I see a suitable shoulder. I have short focus span and I am acting out on my addictions or feel very prone to do so. I've spent whole afternoon in lovely company of my friends, yet...

Pushka · Pushka

The post about the whole obsessivness of it all .. boy did that get me thinking this AM. I really have to bring myself into the present and remember if I am so focused on what he is or isn't doing I'm not paying attention to my own needs and what I need to be doing. I will be soooo very happy to get this divorce...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Today I woke up with hope and trust and accept that I can't changed what my Ah 5 months recovery has done to me. My life has been messed up since is recovery , after all the lies and fights and cheating and betrayal and isolation . All that comes with a sober person . I still find it hard and can't understand wh...

Lay · Lay

Hello, everyone! I'm Lacy, and I have an alcoholic husband. We have been married for three years- no children. We are currently separated, and I am currently considering divorce. He has been through two detoxes, but he was not serious about either one. His health is declining rapidly I tried and tri...

momofrockstaraddict · momofrockstaraddict

My son is in treatment and on probation. Residing at our home. 18. Has continued to use througout this treatment episode. First treatment. This was confronted last Monday in treatment. Started attending NA meetings last Tuesday. Used again after treatment Friday. He doesn't want me to t...

shimo · shimo

For personal reasons I will no longer be chairing the Monday morning Al-Anon meetings. My scheduled day to chair is now Wednesday mornings beginning on May 8, 2013. Love in recovery, Shimo/aka Jeri

rookie95 · rookie95

So I decided to tell my mother that my ABF is in rehab. I knew I should have kept my mouth shut! She really laid into me over the phone. She called him a loser and kept asking me why I felt the need to stay in this relationship and support him, etc. She kept telling me about all of the bad decisions that I've...

Jewel1 · Jewel1

igym I am at the gym cooling down on the exercise bike and reading magazines. One if the headlines jumped out at me. It said "stop faking it!" It literally stopped me in my tracks. Not for the reasons that were in the article. I don't think. I didn't actually read it. It stopped me because that...

blondie99 · blondie99

Hi dear MIP family! I am currently 30k feet up, guessing I'm somewhere over Louisiana, heading westbound. Did you know they have WiFi on planes now? I'm on my way home to my Southwest desert from my sister's wedding and I couldn't wait to share with my brothers and sisters on MIP that it was just a really l...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I took 17 credits this semester which was a bit much and I would never do it again. The extra class made me struggle with one of my grades I need to be a B or higher to get into my program this coming Fall. My finals are this week and I have fear, some of it real not just imagined. I know if I don't pass this final a...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I know being self centered is part of alcoholism but I have reached my limit of my stbxah whining about poor, poor him. Life is so hard for him. No one understands how hard is life is and how he suffers. Never mind the fact that I got laid of from my job and now can't pay my rent because he spent all our savings....

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

This may sound like a silly ?, can I be sad and maybe even tearful and not be in serenity? An alanon member tpld me that if I'm tearful that mean I'm hurting and in pain and not feeling peace and serenity. Gettingitright!!

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53585995/step-3-alanon/

Jackie Z · Jackie Z

Today I am taken with the realization of alcoholism in my life. My circle of family and friends are either in recovery (AA or Al-Anon) and now I am seeing the next generation of those affected by alcoholism. In my Al-Anon meeting we always take a moment of silence for all those affected by alcoholism.....

flinn66 · flinn66

For some time now, apart from the many useful Al-Anon slogans I have been using this one from AA as a kind of 'check in with myself' tool. When feeling low I need to ask myself whether I am, Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired and then address whatever need might be causing my feelings. Like everything in our sp...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Ok I'm frustrated and not going to al Alon . My AH sober 5 months final came clean to me last night.. He not only sick and twisted.. I have no more remorse for him at all.. I gave and gave and got nothing back in return that was good.. I was wondering why I was never getting responses back from family or friends...

keohone · keohone

On the 10th of April my alcoholic daughter 43year old married with 2 teenage childern daughter 16 son 15 was that drunk that she did not know what she was doing this was regular behaviuor. Her two kids had just stopped her from driving the car (she was out of booze)and put her to bed. She threatened to...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I'm going through a lot of resentment. Don't even know where to start. I'm 61 years old and thought I would be looking forward to retirement and a happy peaceful life until I die. Today all I can think about i: Is my son alive? Why is he distroying my life and his.... I can't have him in my life because of...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Twice I tried to talk to my sober husband about something that was worrying me. 1st attempt, he walked away while I was talking to wash his hands. 2nd attempt, he responded, i have to go to the store for soap, you need anything. Well, I blew up! What am I suppose to do? Live in a bubble and only smile and tal...

LiveLaughLove · LiveLaughLove

The last couple of months have been very difficult and I am in need of a bit of guidance. I know that there is a suggestion in AA, although not in the Big Book, and Al-Anon to not make any major life changes within one year of our A getting sober, with two of those suggestions being to not get married/sta...

el-cee · el-cee

Today my son turned 20. On today's c2c is a reading that was just for me. My hp is telling me this is the right thing.x

rookie95 · rookie95

I went to my first F2F meeting this morning. It's been hard to find a meeting that fits into my schedule. I'm not sure I'll be able to make it back to this particular one next week, but am still looking. When I first left the meeting, I thought I didn't really get anything out of it, but on my way home I broke...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi everyone: My H is putting in an application for an apt opening June 1; I have asked for this, knowing deep down I can no longer live with the ups and downs of active alcoholism. Last night he looked at me and said'well I guess I am going to put that deposit down tomorrow'; he is waiting for me to stop him.....

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes I take life to seriously so I am trying to lighten up a bit! I could complain about just about anything but I refuse to today. I have not had a major incident today either. I am grateful for days like these because tomorrow might be different & maybe difficult. I just have to hold on to the now...

Pushka · Pushka

What a wonderful week it has been I can't begin to tell everyone how much work I have gotten done around here. I have had some tremendous help, I think I posted some pictures eons ago that had to do with some wood the tree service brought in .. THAT is all being taken care of right now. I'm thrilled!! I hav...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Hi Folks Last October I went in to see my longtime asthma doctor at the hospital all my care had been at for 8 years. I was sick - and scared because I didn't know what was wrong with me. I had left this doc a voice mail saying I wasn't sure if he was the right doctor for me to see given my symptoms and that I needed...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I have a lot of things happening right now that involve tremendous change. It's the wave of uncertainty about outcomes that always does me in. I need to go back to some of the basics I've been taught through life lessons and use these tools. First I need to separate out the facts from disasterous t...

ec4245 · ec4245

My AH has been sober since November. Apparently, he decided to start drinking the last couple weeks. I cannot believe I missed it, but that is beside the point. Today his boss called him out on it at work and I am pretty sure he is going to get fired tomorrow. I am so scared about how we are going to get by...

John · John

I have not been posting or replying to post lately, mainly because I'm in a bad funk. I read some of the stuff here and on a few of the other boards on MIP and I get overwhelmed, like I have nothing to contribute that could possibly help anyone else, and I don't want to dump my "stuff" here when so many others...

Sincerely · Sincerely

OMG! Smack in the face by the past, at least hope in the past. Hubby and I were seperated 18 months. After 45 days of inpatient treatment, we are livinging together again. He's about 90 days clean and presently at intensive outpatient treatment as we speak. Well, my intentions were to make room for his...

pennyprincipal · pennyprincipal

My 34 year old alcoholic stepson has recently moved in to live with my husband of 20 years and myself. Although he showed huge promise as a youth, alcohol has robbed him of everything. He has no education, no skills, no friends, no family (divorced), no job, no drivers' license, no possessions other...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

It's only Wednesday and so far . . . My AH showed up to a counseling session with his therapist and his son with a BAC of .14 at 9:30 am. He ran into a car in the parking lot. His therapist had seen it happen and waited to see if he would mention it and when he didn't he confronted him and made him take a breathalyz...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Hi! My computer has been down for a few weeks, but the disease is still alive and well. My grandson, who receives a ss check due a learning disability, turned 18 in March. His a/a mother have been living off these funds for the past 8 yrs. and taking care of her young a/abf with her foodstamps and sec8 h...

Burses · Burses

I know I probably should take some time to lurk a while or read a few stickies so I apologize in advance for jumping the gun. I really need to get some of this out. First of all, I'm a recovering alcoholic. I've never been to an Al-Anon meeting but I have considered it. I met someone in AA and we hit it off great...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I guess sometimes I have to have a moment. Yesterday I was on the radio after answering a question right. I tried only 8 times & got through. They said my name & where I am from. I guess what I am trying to say is that anyone who knows me who heard it now know my full name--first & last. But, anyhow...

falconfan00 · falconfan00

I am new to the boards here, and i am seeking help and advice. I have a family member who is abusing alcohol and perscription drugs. This person just left their second stint at rehab, this time this person was 'kicked out' of the rehab facility. They lasted less than two weeks. The rehab facility sa...

iviedoodle · iviedoodle

Well, I'm 26 years old and am a child of an alcoholic. Actually, it's more like I'm the parent (And I know that's typical for child-adult alcoholic relationships). My parents divorced when I was 4 due to my father's drug/alcohol abuse. My mother's father was an alcoholic (vodka killed him), so my mot...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I know I need to turn my son(he's 14) over to God. I know that I've only done the best that I can do as a parent. I 'know' these things but still I have fear for his future. He recently overheard some of my conversation with my AH where I told my AH I was tired of his lies and the continued drinking and driving...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I am learning to detach worrywart care of myself. In doing this I am coming off as a "not nice person" . I don't have the patience for drunk neediness and chaos. And I tend to walk away and busy myself a lot. My 7 and 21 yr old see me as cold. I'm trying to learn to detach with love. But obviously am no...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I showed up late and I tried to ask who was chairing and got no response in the room. Everyone chatting at once like it was a chatroom of sorts? Maybe this is how it goes now unsure. Thanks

rookie95 · rookie95

Hello all - since I'm still new here, can someone please fill me in on what all the abreviations are? I assume that A = alcoholic, and AH might be alcoholic husband...but after that I'm totally lost. Thanks!!!

1976love · 1976love

Without getting into specifics, I not only have a recovering AH, but other family members that get me "crazy" to my very core. Today my phone rang (which was totally predictable because the other person has a responsibility that is always pushed off on someone else) and I didn't answer it...

rookie95 · rookie95

Hi all! I'm still pretty new here, and am wondering how do I manage my expectations? I seem to be having a difficult time with that. My BF has been in rehab since last Wed. He called me for a quick second (from his counselor's office) last Friday, to tell me that he was allowed to have visitors on Sunday....

blondie99 · blondie99

I had a really amazing revelation today in my Al Anon meeting. I was sharing about how I handled the situation with my XAH (still trying to get used to the "STBX" part being gone from my vernacular). I don't have children, except for my furry doggie one, so I've never quite gotten the grasp of t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: I don't know a lot about the stages of grief, but I remember denial, anger and acceptance and I think that's the correct order? AH has been moving through the 3 of them, and I can only believe that because I am not wavering he is being gently nudged toward acceptance. Yesterday he looked a...

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

My precious 19 year old son has suffered the effects of his addiction and now the problems are snowballing. He asked for help today (wants to work with me again, especially since his misdomeaner keeps him from getting hired) and he said aid I will help him get his car/suspended license issue worked out...

willowtree · willowtree

I hope it is okay to post this here. I am struggling in alanon with a person I really do not click with. She is a long timer and everyone looks up to her. I live in a small area so I can't just switch meetings. I feel like I have tried everything to be able to be her friend. I have asked God, I have really been...

sweeetr · sweeetr

Everything I read says not to try to control or get in the way of his disease. My ah has gone to a doc that prescribed meds to not lose temper etc. but he continues to drink (a lot) So if I try to reinforce the boundary of drinking at home etc I'm wrong. He's gonna drink and I know it. Weather I see it or not. I do my...

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	eye appt. tomorrow (Preview) My first eye appt. for surgery is tomorrow--I am nervous & excited! It seems there are possibilities that there will be complications possibly. I just hope that I will have faith that it won't go wrong. The date of the surgery is not yet set. I am anxious about setting a date. Also, out of 3 possibili...	Hoot Nanny	3	409	May 7, 2013 by Jerry F
	A question of sex. (Preview) How do people deal with the issue of sex? My partner is an A. She drinks secretly upstairs in the bedroom - even though I know and she knows. I find the empties hidden away. Vodka/ wine. Sometimes she approaches me sexually. I cringe and just sit there. She sits awkwardly and then goes back to bed. I feel vi...	jitsuka	14	1170	May 7, 2013 by Halo
	Need advice--"loving detachment" from father (Preview) I have made the decision to cut off contact with my alcoholic and meth-addicted father. He is lost in paranoid, meth-psychosis delusions of persecution, and only wants to talk about those. Every time we speak on the phone, we get into an argument and he verbally abuses me because I do not believe his fa...	SoberGirl	8	660	May 7, 2013 by grateful2be
	Home Run - Movie (Preview) This isn't an AA deal however it was interesting to watch, .. very honestly I had NO idea how Celebrate Recovery works. That part was pretty educational, .. I really enjoyed learning something new. What I really liked about the movie is the depiction of alcoholism as a disease and the victim mentali...	Pushka	3	404	May 7, 2013 by Tracey C
	One Step at a Time (Preview) Thank you all for your support. We had our mediation today at the courthouse. After much reflection, I was comfortable in my discomfort (regarding this type of conflict...or any conflict) that there would be nothing for us to mediate. We were dealing with pride, greed and one angry man (former t...	PP	2	494	May 7, 2013 by Sincerely
	A Beautiful Spring Day (Preview) It is a lovely day today in my part of the world. The trees and flowers are blooming. The sun is shining. The birds are singing. I took my sweet dog for a big long walk this morning and enjoyed seeing the ducks and geese swimming at the nearby pond. AH is on Day 8 of sobriety, I am working my program, trying ver...	ParisMemories	2	324	May 7, 2013 by hotrod
	Need some support (Preview) hi all i'm new(ish) here and could really use some support. my (sober) alcoholic met my parents for the first time this weekend, and in two conversations casually let slip that she's planning/considering moving out of state. this was news to me, and something that is happening because i told her i wa...	Rutabaga	2	372	May 7, 2013 by PP
	Do I or Don't I? (Preview) I've been wrestling with something this morning....sometimes I teach an extra course in May so I can make ends meet. This time the course didn't have enough students in it...so it will be cancelled. So far, I've been able to scrape through financially. ExA is buying guns, bought the 10 yo a crossbow an...	rehprof	7	513	May 6, 2013 by el-cee
	Thank you! (Preview) Hello again, everyone! I want to thank you for your warm welcomes! I have found some Al-Anon meeting places, and plan to attend my first one Friday afternoon! I am looking forward to it very much. In the mean time, my counselor gave me some workbooks on codependency for me to work through. I got to a secti...	Lay	3	361	May 6, 2013 by el-cee
	finding live meetings in local area (Preview) Hi~I've told my spouse I cannot exist in our relationship any longer unless she goes to recovery herself. I'm trying to find a list of live meetings for her and I just keep finding rehabs and other related topics. What do I search to find local meetings where I live? Thanks, Lyne	Lyne	3	376	May 6, 2013 by el-cee
	My worst nightmare came true. Child opiates anger bipolar family (Preview) My husband is bipolar and over the 25 years of our marriage has amused cocaine and crack to "self medicate". That is what my two boys grew up in the middle of. The three of us shared the hurt, pain, anger and financial crisis that are part of the reality of growing up with an addict. He has been st...	Jewel1	9	9414	May 6, 2013 by Highlyfavored
	Newly "back" to Al-anon, needing help/support regarding boundaries/discussion with a child (Preview) I am coming back to Al-anon and hope to get to some f2f meetings in the near future. I am currently looking for support with my 8 year old daughter. My problem is setting boundaries with my AH when he is in charge of the care of my daughter. He was sober for 14 years, and for the last year and a half, has been ste...	ryanhearted	3	382	May 6, 2013 by ryanhearted
	emotional hangover (Preview) For last 3 days I have been feeling rather drained to the very last drop of energy. I am so tired I could cry at any given moment if I see a suitable shoulder. I have short focus span and I am acting out on my addictions or feel very prone to do so. I've spent whole afternoon in lovely company of my friends, yet...	HappyToBe	2	394	May 6, 2013 by HappyToBe
	Hanging in there .. (Preview) The post about the whole obsessivness of it all .. boy did that get me thinking this AM. I really have to bring myself into the present and remember if I am so focused on what he is or isn't doing I'm not paying attention to my own needs and what I need to be doing. I will be soooo very happy to get this divorce...	Pushka	9	421	May 6, 2013 by Pushka
	Still forgiving am i crazy (Preview) Today I woke up with hope and trust and accept that I can't changed what my Ah 5 months recovery has done to me. My life has been messed up since is recovery , after all the lies and fights and cheating and betrayal and isolation . All that comes with a sober person . I still find it hard and can't understand wh...	Ms co-dependent	8	885	May 6, 2013 by Pushka
	Introduction (Preview) Hello, everyone! I'm Lacy, and I have an alcoholic husband. We have been married for three years- no children. We are currently separated, and I am currently considering divorce. He has been through two detoxes, but he was not serious about either one. His health is declining rapidly I tried and tri...	Lay	6	537	May 6, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	To tell or not to tell (Preview) My son is in treatment and on probation. Residing at our home. 18. Has continued to use througout this treatment episode. First treatment. This was confronted last Monday in treatment. Started attending NA meetings last Tuesday. Used again after treatment Friday. He doesn't want me to t...	momofrockstaraddict	13	537	May 6, 2013 by grateful2be
	SCHEDULED CHAIR CHANGE (Preview) For personal reasons I will no longer be chairing the Monday morning Al-Anon meetings. My scheduled day to chair is now Wednesday mornings beginning on May 8, 2013. Love in recovery, Shimo/aka Jeri	shimo	0	312	May 5, 2013 by shimo
	Feeling Angry - Need Some Assistance (Preview) So I decided to tell my mother that my ABF is in rehab. I knew I should have kept my mouth shut! She really laid into me over the phone. She called him a loser and kept asking me why I felt the need to stay in this relationship and support him, etc. She kept telling me about all of the bad decisions that I've...	rookie95	2	522	May 6, 2013 by hotrod
	Stop faking it (Preview) igym I am at the gym cooling down on the exercise bike and reading magazines. One if the headlines jumped out at me. It said "stop faking it!" It literally stopped me in my tracks. Not for the reasons that were in the article. I don't think. I didn't actually read it. It stopped me because that...	Jewel1	3	386	May 6, 2013 by oldergal
	Peaceful at 30,000 feet (Preview) Hi dear MIP family! I am currently 30k feet up, guessing I'm somewhere over Louisiana, heading westbound. Did you know they have WiFi on planes now? I'm on my way home to my Southwest desert from my sister's wedding and I couldn't wait to share with my brothers and sisters on MIP that it was just a really l...	blondie99	6	429	May 5, 2013 by el-cee
	Stressing (Preview) I took 17 credits this semester which was a bit much and I would never do it again. The extra class made me struggle with one of my grades I need to be a B or higher to get into my program this coming Fall. My finals are this week and I have fear, some of it real not just imagined. I know if I don't pass this final a...	Breakingfree	4	286	May 5, 2013 by likemyheart
	so tired of the selfishness and self pity (Preview) I know being self centered is part of alcoholism but I have reached my limit of my stbxah whining about poor, poor him. Life is so hard for him. No one understands how hard is life is and how he suffers. Never mind the fact that I got laid of from my job and now can't pay my rent because he spent all our savings....	scaredandconfused	14	874	May 5, 2013 by likemyheart
	What does peace and serenity feel like? (Preview) This may sound like a silly ?, can I be sad and maybe even tearful and not be in serenity? An alanon member tpld me that if I'm tearful that mean I'm hurting and in pain and not feeling peace and serenity. Gettingitright!!	Highlyfavored	9	3173	May 5, 2013 by flinn66
	Step 3 Step Work Board (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53585995/step-3-alanon/	hotrod	4	426	May 5, 2013 by hotrod
	Gratitude and Love (Preview) Today I am taken with the realization of alcoholism in my life. My circle of family and friends are either in recovery (AA or Al-Anon) and now I am seeing the next generation of those affected by alcoholism. In my Al-Anon meeting we always take a moment of silence for all those affected by alcoholism.....	Jackie Z	5	745	May 5, 2013 by Pushka
	HALT (Preview) For some time now, apart from the many useful Al-Anon slogans I have been using this one from AA as a kind of 'check in with myself' tool. When feeling low I need to ask myself whether I am, Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired and then address whatever need might be causing my feelings. Like everything in our sp...	flinn66	7	503	May 5, 2013 by Pushka
	Just when u think inventory was done (Preview) Ok I'm frustrated and not going to al Alon . My AH sober 5 months final came clean to me last night.. He not only sick and twisted.. I have no more remorse for him at all.. I gave and gave and got nothing back in return that was good.. I was wondering why I was never getting responses back from family or friends...	Ms co-dependent	5	657	May 4, 2013 by Sincerely
	suicide (Preview) On the 10th of April my alcoholic daughter 43year old married with 2 teenage childern daughter 16 son 15 was that drunk that she did not know what she was doing this was regular behaviuor. Her two kids had just stopped her from driving the car (she was out of booze)and put her to bed. She threatened to...	keohone	22	1287	May 4, 2013 by hotrod
	Resentment (Preview) I'm going through a lot of resentment. Don't even know where to start. I'm 61 years old and thought I would be looking forward to retirement and a happy peaceful life until I die. Today all I can think about i: Is my son alive? Why is he distroying my life and his.... I can't have him in my life because of...	Cathyinaz	16	1100	May 4, 2013 by flinn66
	Should I just keep my feelings/thoughts to myself? (Preview) Twice I tried to talk to my sober husband about something that was worrying me. 1st attempt, he walked away while I was talking to wash his hands. 2nd attempt, he responded, i have to go to the store for soap, you need anything. Well, I blew up! What am I suppose to do? Live in a bubble and only smile and tal...	Sincerely	7	441	May 4, 2013 by el-cee
	The One Year Rule (or suggestion) (Preview) The last couple of months have been very difficult and I am in need of a bit of guidance. I know that there is a suggestion in AA, although not in the Big Book, and Al-Anon to not make any major life changes within one year of our A getting sober, with two of those suggestions being to not get married/sta...	LiveLaughLove	12	695	May 4, 2013 by LiveLaughLove
	hp talking to me (Preview) Today my son turned 20. On today's c2c is a reading that was just for me. My hp is telling me this is the right thing.x	el-cee	3	411	May 4, 2013 by Pushka
	First F2F Meeting (Preview) I went to my first F2F meeting this morning. It's been hard to find a meeting that fits into my schedule. I'm not sure I'll be able to make it back to this particular one next week, but am still looking. When I first left the meeting, I thought I didn't really get anything out of it, but on my way home I broke...	rookie95	4	489	May 4, 2013 by el-cee
	needing support today (Preview) Hi everyone: My H is putting in an application for an apt opening June 1; I have asked for this, knowing deep down I can no longer live with the ups and downs of active alcoholism. Last night he looked at me and said'well I guess I am going to put that deposit down tomorrow'; he is waiting for me to stop him.....	yanksfan51	8	490	May 4, 2013 by el-cee
	don't take life too seriously... (Preview) Sometimes I take life to seriously so I am trying to lighten up a bit! I could complain about just about anything but I refuse to today. I have not had a major incident today either. I am grateful for days like these because tomorrow might be different & maybe difficult. I just have to hold on to the now...	Hoot Nanny	2	593	May 4, 2013 by el-cee
	It's FRIDAY!!! :) (Preview) What a wonderful week it has been I can't begin to tell everyone how much work I have gotten done around here. I have had some tremendous help, I think I posted some pictures eons ago that had to do with some wood the tree service brought in .. THAT is all being taken care of right now. I'm thrilled!! I hav...	Pushka	3	287	May 3, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Boundaries (Preview) Hi Folks Last October I went in to see my longtime asthma doctor at the hospital all my care had been at for 8 years. I was sick - and scared because I didn't know what was wrong with me. I had left this doc a voice mail saying I wasn't sure if he was the right doctor for me to see given my symptoms and that I needed...	WorkingThroughIt	6	473	May 3, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Trying not to Obsess Trying to Let Go and Let God (Preview) I have a lot of things happening right now that involve tremendous change. It's the wave of uncertainty about outcomes that always does me in. I need to go back to some of the basics I've been taught through life lessons and use these tools. First I need to separate out the facts from disasterous t...	tiredtonite	6	361	May 3, 2013 by tiredtonite
	New here and need some prayers/thoughts.... (Preview) My AH has been sober since November. Apparently, he decided to start drinking the last couple weeks. I cannot believe I missed it, but that is beside the point. Today his boss called him out on it at work and I am pretty sure he is going to get fired tomorrow. I am so scared about how we are going to get by...	ec4245	5	443	May 3, 2013 by Pushka
	In a Funk and I hate it! (Preview) I have not been posting or replying to post lately, mainly because I'm in a bad funk. I read some of the stuff here and on a few of the other boards on MIP and I get overwhelmed, like I have nothing to contribute that could possibly help anyone else, and I don't want to dump my "stuff" here when so many others...	John	14	673	May 3, 2013 by Katy
	My intentions were good! Got my feelings hurt! (Preview) OMG! Smack in the face by the past, at least hope in the past. Hubby and I were seperated 18 months. After 45 days of inpatient treatment, we are livinging together again. He's about 90 days clean and presently at intensive outpatient treatment as we speak. Well, my intentions were to make room for his...	Sincerely	3	2688	May 3, 2013 by ryanhearted
	The precarious position of a step-parent (Preview) My 34 year old alcoholic stepson has recently moved in to live with my husband of 20 years and myself. Although he showed huge promise as a youth, alcohol has robbed him of everything. He has no education, no skills, no friends, no family (divorced), no job, no drivers' license, no possessions other...	pennyprincipal	7	572	May 3, 2013 by Jerry F
	A Week of Insanity (Preview) It's only Wednesday and so far . . . My AH showed up to a counseling session with his therapist and his son with a BAC of .14 at 9:30 am. He ran into a car in the parking lot. His therapist had seen it happen and waited to see if he would mention it and when he didn't he confronted him and made him take a breathalyz...	wornoutmrsfixit	12	512	May 3, 2013 by AngieP
	Hating this disease more and more each day!! (Preview) Hi! My computer has been down for a few weeks, but the disease is still alive and well. My grandson, who receives a ss check due a learning disability, turned 18 in March. His a/a mother have been living off these funds for the past 8 yrs. and taking care of her young a/abf with her foodstamps and sec8 h...	Highlyfavored	2	296	May 3, 2013 by Pushka
	So sick of my AGF's chaos (Preview) I know I probably should take some time to lurk a while or read a few stickies so I apologize in advance for jumping the gun. I really need to get some of this out. First of all, I'm a recovering alcoholic. I've never been to an Al-Anon meeting but I have considered it. I met someone in AA and we hit it off great...	Burses	8	674	May 2, 2013 by hotrod
	talk about breaking my anonymity(funny please read) (Preview) I guess sometimes I have to have a moment. Yesterday I was on the radio after answering a question right. I tried only 8 times & got through. They said my name & where I am from. I guess what I am trying to say is that anyone who knows me who heard it now know my full name--first & last. But, anyhow...	Hoot Nanny	1	339	May 3, 2013 by slogan_jim
	Help with boundaries! Children... (Preview) I am new to the boards here, and i am seeking help and advice. I have a family member who is abusing alcohol and perscription drugs. This person just left their second stint at rehab, this time this person was 'kicked out' of the rehab facility. They lasted less than two weeks. The rehab facility sa...	falconfan00	9	562	May 3, 2013 by Mattie
	Set my boundaries, now what? Adult child dad boundaries help (Preview) Well, I'm 26 years old and am a child of an alcoholic. Actually, it's more like I'm the parent (And I know that's typical for child-adult alcoholic relationships). My parents divorced when I was 4 due to my father's drug/alcohol abuse. My mother's father was an alcoholic (vodka killed him), so my mot...	iviedoodle	2	5207	May 2, 2013 by Mattie
	Overwhelming fear for my son (Preview) I know I need to turn my son(he's 14) over to God. I know that I've only done the best that I can do as a parent. I 'know' these things but still I have fear for his future. He recently overheard some of my conversation with my AH where I told my AH I was tired of his lies and the continued drinking and driving...	ilovedogs	14	601	May 2, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Am a really heartless?? (Preview) I am learning to detach worrywart care of myself. In doing this I am coming off as a "not nice person" . I don't have the patience for drunk neediness and chaos. And I tend to walk away and busy myself a lot. My 7 and 21 yr old see me as cold. I'm trying to learn to detach with love. But obviously am no...	sweeetr	5	504	May 2, 2013 by grateful2be
	Is anyone chairing the al-anon meeting tonight at 9pm? (Preview) I showed up late and I tried to ask who was chairing and got no response in the room. Everyone chatting at once like it was a chatroom of sorts? Maybe this is how it goes now unsure. Thanks	Breakingfree	2	261	May 2, 2013 by Breakingfree
	abreviations (Preview) Hello all - since I'm still new here, can someone please fill me in on what all the abreviations are? I assume that A = alcoholic, and AH might be alcoholic husband...but after that I'm totally lost. Thanks!!!	rookie95	3	536	May 2, 2013 by hotrod
	I did it. (Preview) Without getting into specifics, I not only have a recovering AH, but other family members that get me "crazy" to my very core. Today my phone rang (which was totally predictable because the other person has a responsibility that is always pushed off on someone else) and I didn't answer it...	1976love	9	417	May 2, 2013 by Pushka
	Expectations (Preview) Hi all! I'm still pretty new here, and am wondering how do I manage my expectations? I seem to be having a difficult time with that. My BF has been in rehab since last Wed. He called me for a quick second (from his counselor's office) last Friday, to tell me that he was allowed to have visitors on Sunday....	rookie95	6	481	May 2, 2013 by rookie95
	Mama Bear (Preview) I had a really amazing revelation today in my Al Anon meeting. I was sharing about how I handled the situation with my XAH (still trying to get used to the "STBX" part being gone from my vernacular). I don't have children, except for my furry doggie one, so I've never quite gotten the grasp of t...	blondie99	4	346	May 1, 2013 by LeenieBeanie
	the stages of grief (Preview) Hi Everybody: I don't know a lot about the stages of grief, but I remember denial, anger and acceptance and I think that's the correct order? AH has been moving through the 3 of them, and I can only believe that because I am not wavering he is being gently nudged toward acceptance. Yesterday he looked a...	yanksfan51	4	693	May 1, 2013 by DavidG
	Helping vs enabling (Preview) My precious 19 year old son has suffered the effects of his addiction and now the problems are snowballing. He asked for help today (wants to work with me again, especially since his misdomeaner keeps him from getting hired) and he said aid I will help him get his car/suspended license issue worked out...	Katytexasmom	12	851	May 1, 2013 by oldergal
	Not sure what to do (Preview) I hope it is okay to post this here. I am struggling in alanon with a person I really do not click with. She is a long timer and everyone looks up to her. I live in a small area so I can't just switch meetings. I feel like I have tried everything to be able to be her friend. I have asked God, I have really been...	willowtree	5	510	May 1, 2013 by afglin
	Not understanding (Preview) Everything I read says not to try to control or get in the way of his disease. My ah has gone to a doc that prescribed meds to not lose temper etc. but he continues to drink (a lot) So if I try to reinforce the boundary of drinking at home etc I'm wrong. He's gonna drink and I know it. Weather I see it or not. I do my...	sweeetr	5	312	May 1, 2013 by HappyToBe
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