Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

For so long I have come to the rescue of my son. He would call all hours and beg for me to help him.I would rush to his side and scoop him up and bring him to the ER.I would sit for hours waiting if they were going to keep him or transfer him to detox. If they kept him, I'd give him a hug, tell him I would be back in...

taurus86 · taurus86

Need help with all the resentment i have towards the recovering alcholic in my life. he has drank 3 times that i know of in 3.5 months as he is recovering i encouraged him to enroll in college to persue his dreams as i do not drink to support his sobriety. but i am seriously at my witts end i have been with him f...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I have a few interviews scheduled for next week. It's been a while since I have had to go on one and I am now remembering how nervous these type of situations make me even though I am confident in my ability to handle the job itself and usually do much better at these type of things than I envision. It just tak...

dponlyme · dponlyme

Trolling around and reading posts... I am lost. don't know what else to say.

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

My stbxah just called to tell me that he has been losing the sight in his right eye and he thinks he will be dead within 3 years. He wanted me to know that he is keeping me as the benficiary of his life insurance. I have so many different emotions going on right now. Part of me feels like he is being manipulativ...

atheos · atheos

I tried a new meeting this afternoon, and arrived late due to trouble finding the building. They'd already finished the reading and started sharing. I tried to signal to the woman running the meeting to please pass me the daily reader they were using, but she wouldn't. Which would have been fine, if th...

lbegcgpg · lbegcgpg

I am new to this site but needing support, comfort and advice...I have been in a relationship with a addict now for 3 years... he is currently in a IP rehab.. he was clean for the first two years that we were together but relapsed 7 months ago... i snooped and found out that he had been cheating, lying, stea...

Halo · Halo

Hello all, I never thought I would find myself here. But alas I am sure none of us did. My AH is in Rehab for 22 days, both of our first times dealing with this, and I am almost not sure what to do with myself?! I work full time, have a great career, finances are all caught up (now), the house is spotless. I have...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

PP · PP

Asking for prayers and support for today as we go to court to face a man who believes we owe him money. I engaged in many attempts to reason with him until I realized the efforts were futile..I told him to go ahead and do what he needed to do. I am in gratitude for the tools of al anon and recognize that I am of...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi MiP Family 5-6-7 The month, the day and the year that my son lost his battle with alcoholism . Thank God for alanon and the tools. I would not have survived otherwise. Stephen always in my heart

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Today and more recently in the past week or so, I've been getting more frustrated, angry and tired of dealing with the constant craziness that is living with my AM. I'm short tempered with my family members, especially my AM. I'm going to meetings, my dad and I went to one last night. :). I'm remembering...

Agressive Family Member · heredia1

Hi I have a brother who has a drink problem. Himself and his family come to stay with us a few times a year for upto 10 days or so a time. Hes a binge drinker and is quite agressive by nature. We had a big argument the other night and he started to get physical with me. I didnt react to the provocation, not physic...

norasq · norasq

I separated from my AH (still drinking, denying there's a problem) 3 months ago. We have a 17 year old daughter. Yesterday I emailed him to check on some August dates when I have the opportunity to travel for work for a 2 week period. (It's a great opportunity, something i'm excited about, and it would...

beginnow · beginnow

I am new to this site and looking for connection. I just had my 3rd year anniversary in Alanon. I am almost done with Blueprint for Progress. I have learned so much about myself from the 4th step and am truly grateful for it! I have a great sponsor that is willing to keep working with me even though she h...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

At Easter this year I was given a last minute second-hand invitation to my brother's house (out of state) and could not get everything together in time to go, nor was I going to accept it. So I stayed home. They all knew how hurt I was but I was really not surprised - I have known for a few years that I've been t...

shimo · shimo

MONDAY MORNING MEETING 9AM (EST) - TOPICS: The 3 C's (I didn't cause it, I cannot cure it,I cannot control it), etc. Meeting scheduled in the Al-Anon chat room. TOPICS: The 3 C's (I didn't cause it, I cannot cure it, I cannot control it) Changed attitudes can aid recovery ...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi All: I have a few friends who suggested that instead of giving AH a moveout date (June 1),said to tell him to stay somewhere else until he had his own apt. Now I can see why! I have been trying to do this the civil way, and at this point our kids are not aware of what's happening so that is on the brain as wel...

Bondjamesbond · Bondjamesbond

After at least three years of unresolved anger, which resulted in consistent nagging and anger towards me for not seeing her point of view on nearly everything or being just like her, my wife of 15 years at my urging and her own acceptance rejoined Al-anon after an absecence of at least a decade, got a sp...

alanonnewbiew · alanonnewbiew

Hi everyone, I'm writing this to reach out to others and seek any advice/helpful words/support/book recommendations. Like many others here, I grew up with an alcoholic parent. My father would try to hide his drinking from the family by drinking in the garage. But even as a child, I knew what he was doi...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

My dad and I still have 2 more meetings to go until we get to 6...but I wanted to know when can you ask to have a sponser and how do I go about doing this? Thanks

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Please give me my high power back I had him for one day to get me by and it seams now I'm walking down a empty path . This morning a back rub leads to yada yada . When ah sober no I don't want to.. He is selfish and thinks of his needs. Just when he said he change work on the controlling behaviors and god if you could...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I have been going to a Counciler (for me!) he is wonderful. He's like my face to face and I intend on bringing my son. I'm trying to learn how to parent better being married to active ah. And also my son has strong addiction running on both sides of his biological parents and I want him to have help learning t...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

My son's graduation from high school is in a month, today I thought, well I should be sending out invitations to friends and we should have a dinner at my house after the graduation at 1 p.m. don't know how long it will be. I will have my new furniture by then and have a few friends I would like to invite over....

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

Since my last posting, I really had no choice but to leave.....again.....for the 5th time in 7 years. However, what's done had to have been done, and for that I am proud. I love the guy, but finally filed for divorce. No matter how much he is against the divorce, I can only protect the babies, myself, and f...

Sincerely · Sincerely

WOW! 11 years married today. My husband and I have spent most of our 11 years of marriage seperated (i'm pretty sure). Most of the 11 years has been more bad times than good times. Today, its good. He's sober and actively working the program. Will it be always? I dunno. But today I am grateful we are ha...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My first eye appt. for surgery is tomorrow--I am nervous & excited! It seems there are possibilities that there will be complications possibly. I just hope that I will have faith that it won't go wrong. The date of the surgery is not yet set. I am anxious about setting a date. Also, out of 3 possibili...

jitsuka · jitsuka

How do people deal with the issue of sex? My partner is an A. She drinks secretly upstairs in the bedroom - even though I know and she knows. I find the empties hidden away. Vodka/ wine. Sometimes she approaches me sexually. I cringe and just sit there. She sits awkwardly and then goes back to bed. I feel vi...

SoberGirl · SoberGirl

I have made the decision to cut off contact with my alcoholic and meth-addicted father. He is lost in paranoid, meth-psychosis delusions of persecution, and only wants to talk about those. Every time we speak on the phone, we get into an argument and he verbally abuses me because I do not believe his fa...

Pushka · Pushka

This isn't an AA deal however it was interesting to watch, .. very honestly I had NO idea how Celebrate Recovery works. That part was pretty educational, .. I really enjoyed learning something new. What I really liked about the movie is the depiction of alcoholism as a disease and the victim mentali...

PP · PP

Thank you all for your support. We had our mediation today at the courthouse. After much reflection, I was comfortable in my discomfort (regarding this type of conflict...or any conflict) that there would be nothing for us to mediate. We were dealing with pride, greed and one angry man (former t...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

It is a lovely day today in my part of the world. The trees and flowers are blooming. The sun is shining. The birds are singing. I took my sweet dog for a big long walk this morning and enjoyed seeing the ducks and geese swimming at the nearby pond. AH is on Day 8 of sobriety, I am working my program, trying ver...

Rutabaga · Rutabaga

hi all i'm new(ish) here and could really use some support. my (sober) alcoholic met my parents for the first time this weekend, and in two conversations casually let slip that she's planning/considering moving out of state. this was news to me, and something that is happening because i told her i wa...

rehprof · rehprof

I've been wrestling with something this morning....sometimes I teach an extra course in May so I can make ends meet. This time the course didn't have enough students in it...so it will be cancelled. So far, I've been able to scrape through financially. ExA is buying guns, bought the 10 yo a crossbow an...

Lay · Lay

Hello again, everyone! I want to thank you for your warm welcomes! I have found some Al-Anon meeting places, and plan to attend my first one Friday afternoon! I am looking forward to it very much. In the mean time, my counselor gave me some workbooks on codependency for me to work through. I got to a secti...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi~I've told my spouse I cannot exist in our relationship any longer unless she goes to recovery herself. I'm trying to find a list of live meetings for her and I just keep finding rehabs and other related topics. What do I search to find local meetings where I live? Thanks, Lyne

Jewel1 · Jewel1

My husband is bipolar and over the 25 years of our marriage has amused cocaine and crack to "self medicate". That is what my two boys grew up in the middle of. The three of us shared the hurt, pain, anger and financial crisis that are part of the reality of growing up with an addict. He has been st...

ryanhearted · ryanhearted

I am coming back to Al-anon and hope to get to some f2f meetings in the near future. I am currently looking for support with my 8 year old daughter. My problem is setting boundaries with my AH when he is in charge of the care of my daughter. He was sober for 14 years, and for the last year and a half, has been ste...

HappyToBe · HappyToBe

For last 3 days I have been feeling rather drained to the very last drop of energy. I am so tired I could cry at any given moment if I see a suitable shoulder. I have short focus span and I am acting out on my addictions or feel very prone to do so. I've spent whole afternoon in lovely company of my friends, yet...

Pushka · Pushka

The post about the whole obsessivness of it all .. boy did that get me thinking this AM. I really have to bring myself into the present and remember if I am so focused on what he is or isn't doing I'm not paying attention to my own needs and what I need to be doing. I will be soooo very happy to get this divorce...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Today I woke up with hope and trust and accept that I can't changed what my Ah 5 months recovery has done to me. My life has been messed up since is recovery , after all the lies and fights and cheating and betrayal and isolation . All that comes with a sober person . I still find it hard and can't understand wh...

Lay · Lay

Hello, everyone! I'm Lacy, and I have an alcoholic husband. We have been married for three years- no children. We are currently separated, and I am currently considering divorce. He has been through two detoxes, but he was not serious about either one. His health is declining rapidly I tried and tri...

momofrockstaraddict · momofrockstaraddict

My son is in treatment and on probation. Residing at our home. 18. Has continued to use througout this treatment episode. First treatment. This was confronted last Monday in treatment. Started attending NA meetings last Tuesday. Used again after treatment Friday. He doesn't want me to t...

shimo · shimo

For personal reasons I will no longer be chairing the Monday morning Al-Anon meetings. My scheduled day to chair is now Wednesday mornings beginning on May 8, 2013. Love in recovery, Shimo/aka Jeri

rookie95 · rookie95

So I decided to tell my mother that my ABF is in rehab. I knew I should have kept my mouth shut! She really laid into me over the phone. She called him a loser and kept asking me why I felt the need to stay in this relationship and support him, etc. She kept telling me about all of the bad decisions that I've...

Jewel1 · Jewel1

igym I am at the gym cooling down on the exercise bike and reading magazines. One if the headlines jumped out at me. It said "stop faking it!" It literally stopped me in my tracks. Not for the reasons that were in the article. I don't think. I didn't actually read it. It stopped me because that...

blondie99 · blondie99

Hi dear MIP family! I am currently 30k feet up, guessing I'm somewhere over Louisiana, heading westbound. Did you know they have WiFi on planes now? I'm on my way home to my Southwest desert from my sister's wedding and I couldn't wait to share with my brothers and sisters on MIP that it was just a really l...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I took 17 credits this semester which was a bit much and I would never do it again. The extra class made me struggle with one of my grades I need to be a B or higher to get into my program this coming Fall. My finals are this week and I have fear, some of it real not just imagined. I know if I don't pass this final a...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I know being self centered is part of alcoholism but I have reached my limit of my stbxah whining about poor, poor him. Life is so hard for him. No one understands how hard is life is and how he suffers. Never mind the fact that I got laid of from my job and now can't pay my rent because he spent all our savings....

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

This may sound like a silly ?, can I be sad and maybe even tearful and not be in serenity? An alanon member tpld me that if I'm tearful that mean I'm hurting and in pain and not feeling peace and serenity. Gettingitright!!

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53585995/step-3-alanon/

Jackie Z · Jackie Z

Today I am taken with the realization of alcoholism in my life. My circle of family and friends are either in recovery (AA or Al-Anon) and now I am seeing the next generation of those affected by alcoholism. In my Al-Anon meeting we always take a moment of silence for all those affected by alcoholism.....

flinn66 · flinn66

For some time now, apart from the many useful Al-Anon slogans I have been using this one from AA as a kind of 'check in with myself' tool. When feeling low I need to ask myself whether I am, Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired and then address whatever need might be causing my feelings. Like everything in our sp...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Ok I'm frustrated and not going to al Alon . My AH sober 5 months final came clean to me last night.. He not only sick and twisted.. I have no more remorse for him at all.. I gave and gave and got nothing back in return that was good.. I was wondering why I was never getting responses back from family or friends...

keohone · keohone

On the 10th of April my alcoholic daughter 43year old married with 2 teenage childern daughter 16 son 15 was that drunk that she did not know what she was doing this was regular behaviuor. Her two kids had just stopped her from driving the car (she was out of booze)and put her to bed. She threatened to...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I'm going through a lot of resentment. Don't even know where to start. I'm 61 years old and thought I would be looking forward to retirement and a happy peaceful life until I die. Today all I can think about i: Is my son alive? Why is he distroying my life and his.... I can't have him in my life because of...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Twice I tried to talk to my sober husband about something that was worrying me. 1st attempt, he walked away while I was talking to wash his hands. 2nd attempt, he responded, i have to go to the store for soap, you need anything. Well, I blew up! What am I suppose to do? Live in a bubble and only smile and tal...

LiveLaughLove · LiveLaughLove

The last couple of months have been very difficult and I am in need of a bit of guidance. I know that there is a suggestion in AA, although not in the Big Book, and Al-Anon to not make any major life changes within one year of our A getting sober, with two of those suggestions being to not get married/sta...

el-cee · el-cee

Today my son turned 20. On today's c2c is a reading that was just for me. My hp is telling me this is the right thing.x

rookie95 · rookie95

I went to my first F2F meeting this morning. It's been hard to find a meeting that fits into my schedule. I'm not sure I'll be able to make it back to this particular one next week, but am still looking. When I first left the meeting, I thought I didn't really get anything out of it, but on my way home I broke...

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	What I did (Preview) For so long I have come to the rescue of my son. He would call all hours and beg for me to help him.I would rush to his side and scoop him up and bring him to the ER.I would sit for hours waiting if they were going to keep him or transfer him to detox. If they kept him, I'd give him a hug, tell him I would be back in...	Cathyinaz	14	609	May 10, 2013 by John
	How to deal with resentment when they are abusive when your partner relapses??? (Preview) Need help with all the resentment i have towards the recovering alcholic in my life. he has drank 3 times that i know of in 3.5 months as he is recovering i encouraged him to enroll in college to persue his dreams as i do not drink to support his sobriety. but i am seriously at my witts end i have been with him f...	taurus86	2	429	May 10, 2013 by PP
	Job Interviews (Preview) I have a few interviews scheduled for next week. It's been a while since I have had to go on one and I am now remembering how nervous these type of situations make me even though I am confident in my ability to handle the job itself and usually do much better at these type of things than I envision. It just tak...	wornoutmrsfixit	13	414	May 10, 2013 by Jerry F
	Still here (Preview) Trolling around and reading posts... I am lost. don't know what else to say.	dponlyme	10	304	May 9, 2013 by Jerry F
	feeling really conflicted (Preview) My stbxah just called to tell me that he has been losing the sight in his right eye and he thinks he will be dead within 3 years. He wanted me to know that he is keeping me as the benficiary of his life insurance. I have so many different emotions going on right now. Part of me feels like he is being manipulativ...	scaredandconfused	5	439	May 10, 2013 by Jerry F
	OK... that wasn't a good meeting... (Preview) I tried a new meeting this afternoon, and arrived late due to trouble finding the building. They'd already finished the reading and started sharing. I tried to signal to the woman running the meeting to please pass me the daily reader they were using, but she wouldn't. Which would have been fine, if th...	atheos	5	525	May 10, 2013 by Jerry F
	just really not sure which way to turn (Preview) I am new to this site but needing support, comfort and advice...I have been in a relationship with a addict now for 3 years... he is currently in a IP rehab.. he was clean for the first two years that we were together but relapsed 7 months ago... i snooped and found out that he had been cheating, lying, stea...	lbegcgpg	3	484	May 10, 2013 by Pushka
	First time AFG- first post- first AH rehab, killing time? (Preview) Hello all, I never thought I would find myself here. But alas I am sure none of us did. My AH is in Rehab for 22 days, both of our first times dealing with this, and I am almost not sure what to do with myself?! I work full time, have a great career, finances are all caught up (now), the house is spotless. I have...	Halo	9	472	May 10, 2013 by Pushka
	I WON'T BE ABLE TO CHAIR THE MEETING THIS MORNING THURSDAY (Preview)	mercedes1959	0	176	May 9, 2013 by mercedes1959
	Prayers and Support, please (Preview) Asking for prayers and support for today as we go to court to face a man who believes we owe him money. I engaged in many attempts to reason with him until I realized the efforts were futile..I told him to go ahead and do what he needed to do. I am in gratitude for the tools of al anon and recognize that I am of...	PP	9	478	May 9, 2013 by Lyne
	Stephen (Preview) Hi MiP Family 5-6-7 The month, the day and the year that my son lost his battle with alcoholism . Thank God for alanon and the tools. I would not have survived otherwise. Stephen always in my heart	hotrod	28	588	May 9, 2013 by Lyne
	Frustrated, angry and tired (Preview) Today and more recently in the past week or so, I've been getting more frustrated, angry and tired of dealing with the constant craziness that is living with my AM. I'm short tempered with my family members, especially my AM. I'm going to meetings, my dad and I went to one last night. :). I'm remembering...	phoenixmagicgirl	6	610	May 9, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Agressive Family Member (Preview) Hi I have a brother who has a drink problem. Himself and his family come to stay with us a few times a year for upto 10 days or so a time. Hes a binge drinker and is quite agressive by nature. We had a big argument the other night and he started to get physical with me. I didnt react to the provocation, not physic...	heredia1	6	520	May 9, 2013 by Jerry F
	Hard to stop stewing (Preview) I separated from my AH (still drinking, denying there's a problem) 3 months ago. We have a 17 year old daughter. Yesterday I emailed him to check on some August dates when I have the opportunity to travel for work for a 2 week period. (It's a great opportunity, something i'm excited about, and it would...	norasq	7	488	May 9, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Feeling hopeless about obsessive thoughts (Preview) I am new to this site and looking for connection. I just had my 3rd year anniversary in Alanon. I am almost done with Blueprint for Progress. I have learned so much about myself from the 4th step and am truly grateful for it! I have a great sponsor that is willing to keep working with me even though she h...	beginnow	16	1733	May 9, 2013 by orchidlover
	Threats/coercion (Preview) At Easter this year I was given a last minute second-hand invitation to my brother's house (out of state) and could not get everything together in time to go, nor was I going to accept it. So I stayed home. They all knew how hurt I was but I was really not surprised - I have known for a few years that I've been t...	WorkingThroughIt	17	676	May 9, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	MONDAY MORNING MEETING 9AM (EST) - TOPICS: The 3 C's (I didn't cause it, I cannot cure it,I cannot control it), etc. (Preview) MONDAY MORNING MEETING 9AM (EST) - TOPICS: The 3 C's (I didn't cause it, I cannot cure it,I cannot control it), etc. Meeting scheduled in the Al-Anon chat room. TOPICS: The 3 C's (I didn't cause it, I cannot cure it, I cannot control it) Changed attitudes can aid recovery ...	shimo	0	231	May 8, 2013 by shimo
	fun stuff at home...not! (Preview) Hi All: I have a few friends who suggested that instead of giving AH a moveout date (June 1),said to tell him to stay somewhere else until he had his own apt. Now I can see why! I have been trying to do this the civil way, and at this point our kids are not aware of what's happening so that is on the brain as wel...	yanksfan51	3	385	May 8, 2013 by pinkchip
	Sexual intimacy in Al-anon recovery (Preview) After at least three years of unresolved anger, which resulted in consistent nagging and anger towards me for not seeing her point of view on nearly everything or being just like her, my wife of 15 years at my urging and her own acceptance rejoined Al-anon after an absecence of at least a decade, got a sp...	Bondjamesbond	10	2469	May 8, 2013 by maryjane
	how to detach from alcoholic ex/father of my toddler? (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm writing this to reach out to others and seek any advice/helpful words/support/book recommendations. Like many others here, I grew up with an alcoholic parent. My father would try to hide his drinking from the family by drinking in the garage. But even as a child, I knew what he was doi...	alanonnewbiew	4	558	May 8, 2013 by maryjane
	When can you ask to have a sponser? (Preview) My dad and I still have 2 more meetings to go until we get to 6...but I wanted to know when can you ask to have a sponser and how do I go about doing this? Thanks	phoenixmagicgirl	2	350	May 8, 2013 by pinkchip
	I take back my forgivness nothing is changing (Preview) Please give me my high power back I had him for one day to get me by and it seams now I'm walking down a empty path . This morning a back rub leads to yada yada . When ah sober no I don't want to.. He is selfish and thinks of his needs. Just when he said he change work on the controlling behaviors and god if you could...	Ms co-dependent	6	445	May 8, 2013 by maryjane
	Counciling for me (Preview) I have been going to a Counciler (for me!) he is wonderful. He's like my face to face and I intend on bringing my son. I'm trying to learn how to parent better being married to active ah. And also my son has strong addiction running on both sides of his biological parents and I want him to have help learning t...	sweeetr	4	392	May 8, 2013 by maryjane
	Need some Experience Strength and Hope (Preview) My son's graduation from high school is in a month, today I thought, well I should be sending out invitations to friends and we should have a dinner at my house after the graduation at 1 p.m. don't know how long it will be. I will have my new furniture by then and have a few friends I would like to invite over....	mercedes1959	16	744	May 8, 2013 by grateful2be
	Taking care of "me" (Preview) Since my last posting, I really had no choice but to leave.....again.....for the 5th time in 7 years. However, what's done had to have been done, and for that I am proud. I love the guy, but finally filed for divorce. No matter how much he is against the divorce, I can only protect the babies, myself, and f...	RoseODAT	3	360	May 7, 2013 by maryjane
	Married 11 Years Today (Preview) WOW! 11 years married today. My husband and I have spent most of our 11 years of marriage seperated (i'm pretty sure). Most of the 11 years has been more bad times than good times. Today, its good. He's sober and actively working the program. Will it be always? I dunno. But today I am grateful we are ha...	Sincerely	8	396	May 7, 2013 by Jerry F
	eye appt. tomorrow (Preview) My first eye appt. for surgery is tomorrow--I am nervous & excited! It seems there are possibilities that there will be complications possibly. I just hope that I will have faith that it won't go wrong. The date of the surgery is not yet set. I am anxious about setting a date. Also, out of 3 possibili...	Hoot Nanny	3	355	May 7, 2013 by Jerry F
	A question of sex. (Preview) How do people deal with the issue of sex? My partner is an A. She drinks secretly upstairs in the bedroom - even though I know and she knows. I find the empties hidden away. Vodka/ wine. Sometimes she approaches me sexually. I cringe and just sit there. She sits awkwardly and then goes back to bed. I feel vi...	jitsuka	14	1116	May 7, 2013 by Halo
	Need advice--"loving detachment" from father (Preview) I have made the decision to cut off contact with my alcoholic and meth-addicted father. He is lost in paranoid, meth-psychosis delusions of persecution, and only wants to talk about those. Every time we speak on the phone, we get into an argument and he verbally abuses me because I do not believe his fa...	SoberGirl	8	599	May 7, 2013 by grateful2be
	Home Run - Movie (Preview) This isn't an AA deal however it was interesting to watch, .. very honestly I had NO idea how Celebrate Recovery works. That part was pretty educational, .. I really enjoyed learning something new. What I really liked about the movie is the depiction of alcoholism as a disease and the victim mentali...	Pushka	3	355	May 7, 2013 by Tracey C
	One Step at a Time (Preview) Thank you all for your support. We had our mediation today at the courthouse. After much reflection, I was comfortable in my discomfort (regarding this type of conflict...or any conflict) that there would be nothing for us to mediate. We were dealing with pride, greed and one angry man (former t...	PP	2	443	May 7, 2013 by Sincerely
	A Beautiful Spring Day (Preview) It is a lovely day today in my part of the world. The trees and flowers are blooming. The sun is shining. The birds are singing. I took my sweet dog for a big long walk this morning and enjoyed seeing the ducks and geese swimming at the nearby pond. AH is on Day 8 of sobriety, I am working my program, trying ver...	ParisMemories	2	272	May 7, 2013 by hotrod
	Need some support (Preview) hi all i'm new(ish) here and could really use some support. my (sober) alcoholic met my parents for the first time this weekend, and in two conversations casually let slip that she's planning/considering moving out of state. this was news to me, and something that is happening because i told her i wa...	Rutabaga	2	322	May 7, 2013 by PP
	Do I or Don't I? (Preview) I've been wrestling with something this morning....sometimes I teach an extra course in May so I can make ends meet. This time the course didn't have enough students in it...so it will be cancelled. So far, I've been able to scrape through financially. ExA is buying guns, bought the 10 yo a crossbow an...	rehprof	7	463	May 6, 2013 by el-cee
	Thank you! (Preview) Hello again, everyone! I want to thank you for your warm welcomes! I have found some Al-Anon meeting places, and plan to attend my first one Friday afternoon! I am looking forward to it very much. In the mean time, my counselor gave me some workbooks on codependency for me to work through. I got to a secti...	Lay	3	310	May 6, 2013 by el-cee
	finding live meetings in local area (Preview) Hi~I've told my spouse I cannot exist in our relationship any longer unless she goes to recovery herself. I'm trying to find a list of live meetings for her and I just keep finding rehabs and other related topics. What do I search to find local meetings where I live? Thanks, Lyne	Lyne	3	318	May 6, 2013 by el-cee
	My worst nightmare came true. Child opiates anger bipolar family (Preview) My husband is bipolar and over the 25 years of our marriage has amused cocaine and crack to "self medicate". That is what my two boys grew up in the middle of. The three of us shared the hurt, pain, anger and financial crisis that are part of the reality of growing up with an addict. He has been st...	Jewel1	9	8148	May 6, 2013 by Highlyfavored
	Newly "back" to Al-anon, needing help/support regarding boundaries/discussion with a child (Preview) I am coming back to Al-anon and hope to get to some f2f meetings in the near future. I am currently looking for support with my 8 year old daughter. My problem is setting boundaries with my AH when he is in charge of the care of my daughter. He was sober for 14 years, and for the last year and a half, has been ste...	ryanhearted	3	336	May 6, 2013 by ryanhearted
	emotional hangover (Preview) For last 3 days I have been feeling rather drained to the very last drop of energy. I am so tired I could cry at any given moment if I see a suitable shoulder. I have short focus span and I am acting out on my addictions or feel very prone to do so. I've spent whole afternoon in lovely company of my friends, yet...	HappyToBe	2	344	May 6, 2013 by HappyToBe
	Hanging in there .. (Preview) The post about the whole obsessivness of it all .. boy did that get me thinking this AM. I really have to bring myself into the present and remember if I am so focused on what he is or isn't doing I'm not paying attention to my own needs and what I need to be doing. I will be soooo very happy to get this divorce...	Pushka	9	354	May 6, 2013 by Pushka
	Still forgiving am i crazy (Preview) Today I woke up with hope and trust and accept that I can't changed what my Ah 5 months recovery has done to me. My life has been messed up since is recovery , after all the lies and fights and cheating and betrayal and isolation . All that comes with a sober person . I still find it hard and can't understand wh...	Ms co-dependent	8	807	May 6, 2013 by Pushka
	Introduction (Preview) Hello, everyone! I'm Lacy, and I have an alcoholic husband. We have been married for three years- no children. We are currently separated, and I am currently considering divorce. He has been through two detoxes, but he was not serious about either one. His health is declining rapidly I tried and tri...	Lay	6	486	May 6, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	To tell or not to tell (Preview) My son is in treatment and on probation. Residing at our home. 18. Has continued to use througout this treatment episode. First treatment. This was confronted last Monday in treatment. Started attending NA meetings last Tuesday. Used again after treatment Friday. He doesn't want me to t...	momofrockstaraddict	13	490	May 6, 2013 by grateful2be
	SCHEDULED CHAIR CHANGE (Preview) For personal reasons I will no longer be chairing the Monday morning Al-Anon meetings. My scheduled day to chair is now Wednesday mornings beginning on May 8, 2013. Love in recovery, Shimo/aka Jeri	shimo	0	257	May 5, 2013 by shimo
	Feeling Angry - Need Some Assistance (Preview) So I decided to tell my mother that my ABF is in rehab. I knew I should have kept my mouth shut! She really laid into me over the phone. She called him a loser and kept asking me why I felt the need to stay in this relationship and support him, etc. She kept telling me about all of the bad decisions that I've...	rookie95	2	474	May 6, 2013 by hotrod
	Stop faking it (Preview) igym I am at the gym cooling down on the exercise bike and reading magazines. One if the headlines jumped out at me. It said "stop faking it!" It literally stopped me in my tracks. Not for the reasons that were in the article. I don't think. I didn't actually read it. It stopped me because that...	Jewel1	3	336	May 6, 2013 by oldergal
	Peaceful at 30,000 feet (Preview) Hi dear MIP family! I am currently 30k feet up, guessing I'm somewhere over Louisiana, heading westbound. Did you know they have WiFi on planes now? I'm on my way home to my Southwest desert from my sister's wedding and I couldn't wait to share with my brothers and sisters on MIP that it was just a really l...	blondie99	6	371	May 5, 2013 by el-cee
	Stressing (Preview) I took 17 credits this semester which was a bit much and I would never do it again. The extra class made me struggle with one of my grades I need to be a B or higher to get into my program this coming Fall. My finals are this week and I have fear, some of it real not just imagined. I know if I don't pass this final a...	Breakingfree	4	238	May 5, 2013 by likemyheart
	so tired of the selfishness and self pity (Preview) I know being self centered is part of alcoholism but I have reached my limit of my stbxah whining about poor, poor him. Life is so hard for him. No one understands how hard is life is and how he suffers. Never mind the fact that I got laid of from my job and now can't pay my rent because he spent all our savings....	scaredandconfused	14	787	May 5, 2013 by likemyheart
	What does peace and serenity feel like? (Preview) This may sound like a silly ?, can I be sad and maybe even tearful and not be in serenity? An alanon member tpld me that if I'm tearful that mean I'm hurting and in pain and not feeling peace and serenity. Gettingitright!!	Highlyfavored	9	2912	May 5, 2013 by flinn66
	Step 3 Step Work Board (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53585995/step-3-alanon/	hotrod	4	375	May 5, 2013 by hotrod
	Gratitude and Love (Preview) Today I am taken with the realization of alcoholism in my life. My circle of family and friends are either in recovery (AA or Al-Anon) and now I am seeing the next generation of those affected by alcoholism. In my Al-Anon meeting we always take a moment of silence for all those affected by alcoholism.....	Jackie Z	5	696	May 5, 2013 by Pushka
	HALT (Preview) For some time now, apart from the many useful Al-Anon slogans I have been using this one from AA as a kind of 'check in with myself' tool. When feeling low I need to ask myself whether I am, Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired and then address whatever need might be causing my feelings. Like everything in our sp...	flinn66	7	446	May 5, 2013 by Pushka
	Just when u think inventory was done (Preview) Ok I'm frustrated and not going to al Alon . My AH sober 5 months final came clean to me last night.. He not only sick and twisted.. I have no more remorse for him at all.. I gave and gave and got nothing back in return that was good.. I was wondering why I was never getting responses back from family or friends...	Ms co-dependent	5	604	May 4, 2013 by Sincerely
	suicide (Preview) On the 10th of April my alcoholic daughter 43year old married with 2 teenage childern daughter 16 son 15 was that drunk that she did not know what she was doing this was regular behaviuor. Her two kids had just stopped her from driving the car (she was out of booze)and put her to bed. She threatened to...	keohone	22	1214	May 4, 2013 by hotrod
	Resentment (Preview) I'm going through a lot of resentment. Don't even know where to start. I'm 61 years old and thought I would be looking forward to retirement and a happy peaceful life until I die. Today all I can think about i: Is my son alive? Why is he distroying my life and his.... I can't have him in my life because of...	Cathyinaz	16	1049	May 4, 2013 by flinn66
	Should I just keep my feelings/thoughts to myself? (Preview) Twice I tried to talk to my sober husband about something that was worrying me. 1st attempt, he walked away while I was talking to wash his hands. 2nd attempt, he responded, i have to go to the store for soap, you need anything. Well, I blew up! What am I suppose to do? Live in a bubble and only smile and tal...	Sincerely	7	386	May 4, 2013 by el-cee
	The One Year Rule (or suggestion) (Preview) The last couple of months have been very difficult and I am in need of a bit of guidance. I know that there is a suggestion in AA, although not in the Big Book, and Al-Anon to not make any major life changes within one year of our A getting sober, with two of those suggestions being to not get married/sta...	LiveLaughLove	12	637	May 4, 2013 by LiveLaughLove
	hp talking to me (Preview) Today my son turned 20. On today's c2c is a reading that was just for me. My hp is telling me this is the right thing.x	el-cee	3	363	May 4, 2013 by Pushka
	First F2F Meeting (Preview) I went to my first F2F meeting this morning. It's been hard to find a meeting that fits into my schedule. I'm not sure I'll be able to make it back to this particular one next week, but am still looking. When I first left the meeting, I thought I didn't really get anything out of it, but on my way home I broke...	rookie95	4	440	May 4, 2013 by el-cee
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