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In The Forest · In The Forest

I KNOW I need to attend a face to face meeting but I am very nervous and could use some encouragement. I have never been to one before. I am never comfortable doing new things in new places with people I don't know and that makes me nervous. Luckily the meetings are in the church I grew up going to which will b...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

First attempt to make my prayer candles. They are far from perfect but it's practice not perfection isn't it Thank you MIP and Thank you Path to Serenity.

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Even though I knew it was going to happen, when I saw my grandson yesterday at a family gatering, he came with my son who he trying to "squat" at his 1 br apt. Anyway seeing him looking so sad and troubled, I couldn't take it and had to leave early, my brother walked me out to my car and I couldn't...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I don't know about you, but I get tired of tv and internet coverage of "famous people." It truly doesn't matter to me who scores the highest, is the prettiest or most handsome, is having a meltdown, a baby or a haircut in Hollywood, Royalty or the world of competition. Some of the folks who ar...

In The Forest · In The Forest

This is my first time posting here but I have been reading a lot and trying to learn. It has provided me a lot of knowledge and comfort. I am still just trying to accept the reality of my situation. I have never been to a face to face meeting but I am trying to get brave enough to do that. I am here because my husb...

Gaby · Gaby

Right now at this moment.. I am thinking about my son.. I just can't seem to keep the focus on my and my recovery. I spoke with him on Sunday and he sounds great and is so in touch with his higher power.. And I told him I have fears!! He responded that he has to work on him and he can't control how I feel and I need t...

gorby928 · gorby928

Well had my first meeting in 4 weeks about 2 hours ago & it was well needed. Was good to talk to the group & it has cleared my head for now. Even when I come home to my AW whos on a roll and a bottle and a half up & offering me scotchs,hey ho.

Tina L · Tina L

Hi i am new her My name is Tina l. I have had the roughest month in my life. I had to put my husband in a mental hospital because he was so messed up on drugs and alcohol that he tried to kill himself by od-ing. they found him mentally incompetent and he has bipolar 1. i have to go see him today and i feel very alone...

Gaby · Gaby

I have not been on here since my last visit with my son. I am working on my recovery in healing, but i am having a hard time on letting go.. I stop and think (PROJECTION) what is it going to be like when he comes home. If not home just back in the town he ran a muck.. I see my son so spiritual so close to his god and be...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am supposed to be getting ready for work, but after checking my email and reading one from the exAH, that and checking my bank account I have just lost my motivation. I need to shake it off rub some al-anon on it and get my perky self out the door. Sometimes for what seems like no reason I let myself do the po...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone: Just want to share some thoughts of gratefulness today: Grateful for: --this board, where I have read in others' posts descriptions of my own life, and have learned so much from all of you about the true nature of human strength --my three kids, all thriving, beautiful, smart and percept...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I heard something at a meeting this week thtat has stuck with me. Feelings are not good or bad, right or wrong. They are just feelings. It is how I choose to react to the feeling that is important. I can still feel sad, angry, frustrated, happy, anxious...whatever. The hard part is choosing how to act on t...

grateful2be · grateful2be

"Bear witness to the situation and have faith that the right thing to do will emerge." Jeff Bridges Loved this message as it came through it's messenger this morning. Thought I'd share it.

neshema2 · neshema2

ONE day at a time I am trying to fill a vacancy (need to work 2 ams per week and need 2 more days to equal that) So, here I am projecting and wondering "OMG, what if this happens or that happens????" the usual what ifs fear based garbage so....ONE day at a time TODAY my needs are met no set backs...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Sorry Paula, I love fireworks, spent a hundred on them but I went to a place where tons of people all gather to light them, the local volunteer fire dept patrols and puts out fires, its a hoot for pyromaniacs. We were there a bit when my daughter announced she had lost an earring, one of those expensive thi...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

It's so hard not to cry about what we can't fix and the feelings are strong within. I often say WHY WHY is this still happening after all he has been through. I want so hard to just go away and never come back to watch the one my love destroy himself. I get the text and am asked for comments and I don't answer...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

So everything is OK but not great yet! Still struggling w/ recovery from surgery. My eyes seem to be OK but I am still nervous about them--my next appt. is on the 23rd--month post-op on the second surgery. I still feel like I want to touch them when they bother me. I also am struggling w/ washing my hair in t...

callmemara · callmemara

I realize that if I leave it needs to be because I am at my wits end and can't take it anymore and not to try to manipulate or control his behavior. That being said though, part of me thinking about leaving is hoping it does give him incentive. He is often on the cusp, knowing he has a problem then denying it. I...

KLotus · KLotus

I went to pick up my daughter from a supervised evening visit with her (A) father, at his parent's house. With a protection order in place, he is supposed to stay away from me, though I am able to drive to their house to pick up my daughter - so he stays in the house. Last night, he was standing in the drivew...

DavidG · DavidG

the past... my attitudes... one day at a time. I think I came into this forum from another MIP programme... I think mebbe I have some sort of leadership there... I come here for support- and to sort out my loyalty with Alanon. My loyalty has grown a lot... and so has my peace of mind... Lately I went to see...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Went to the Credit Union today after posting on anger. There have been several issues there (and there is no other where the same thing doesn't happen in one way or another in our City) since I became a member that tend to set my teeth on edge as I breathe, feel, wait and practice. My tongue wants out, out...

neshema2 · neshema2

I guess this ??? was just too dumb to get answers... I think I will continue shunning her ------ I remember 4 letters J A D E -- Edited by neshema2 on Friday 5th of July 2013 04:00:16 PM -- Edited by neshema2 on Friday 5th of July 2013 04:01:34 PM

Overcome · Overcome

Sorry I didn't put this on the Chat Room board, but for some reason it won't recognize my password. My laptop is in the shop, which is what holds my scripts, and also how I work around mom's unpredictable Alzheimer's behavior (I am more mobile). I have a desktop in the basement, but if mom is up, I can't log...

Pushka · Pushka

I've been doing pretty good for the most part .. I can tell I missed meetings this week and I am going to look at getting into one tonight, being the 4th I don't know if I will be able to or not. Meaning .. if the meeting is going on being the 4th and all. I have totally kicked my program out of the window at the...

likemyheart · likemyheart

So, I said in a previous post that I lost my keys at the free-for-all fireworks fun last night. What strikes me as amazing is, upon hearing that I couldn't find my keys, my daughter dug in her purse, found a copy of my car key and proclaimed that we could make it home. During the ride home she remarked that ma...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Hi Friends When I try to view this site on a blackberry or on a Nook, I am unable to read the text. It looks like the color scheme for the mobile version has changed, and the text is very light grey on a white background. Has anyone else had this problem?

Pushka · Pushka

Well yesterday pretty much didn't go according to plan on any level. The kids and I made the most of it as we always do. Life is what it is .. with the disappointments can come great joy .. looking for it is part of the gift I want to give my kids. See the good out of the bad and let go of the bad. Today I though...

rehprof · rehprof

Hi MIPers... You know, anger is a normal reaction to being betrayed, lied to, stolen from, etc. Sometimes when folks vent on the board...I sense, just sometimes, people being condescending, as if somehow if you are angry you are not very far along in recovery. I don't think anger is inconsistent with...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My exAH had a lot of the normal A things going on, but he was so good at telling me I had a natural beauty without all the make up and hair do's put on. I am now dating a guy that has let me know he prefers when I am all done up. The funny thing is, he doesn't dress up much and is super casual and it makes me down grade m...

Pushka · Pushka

I'm REALLY excited for Monday (I have court nothing special or new .. LOL) .. I AM excited though as I just found out one of the RA's I know his daughter is starting an Alateen group here in town every Monday night .. I'm over the MOON!!! VERY excited!! My daughter is having a fit about going and I just laugh...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I'm sitting here at my 'puter reading bleary eyed with my left index finger bandaged and stitched. I posted H.A.L.T. earlier before going to work and made it to work without incident. After I got there I got incident. I was too Angry and Tired and miscued a cut I was doing to some detached ginger sta...

neshema2 · neshema2

Here is wishing that ALL my alanoners, MIP family have a GR8 and fun filled 4th of July Daughter dysfunctional is not speaking to me b/c I won't be mired in her drama and passive aggression, so I'll mosey down a 2 mile drive to the public pool which is lovely and nice people and have some fun and chat w/the...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

My name is Paris and I am a grateful member of Al-anon . The past few weeks I've really been leaning on my HP, and he is guiding me in the right direction. I have been going to many meetings, have talked with my sponsor, and been able to (mostly) control my reactions and take much better care of myself. AH has...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Last Nights topic at the Wednesday Night Turning Point AFG. Wish you all were there. It was a hummer and I am grateful for it cause HP kept prodding me on the important points to listen to with an open mind. It isn't only the poor me feelings. It can be and has been demonstrated thru anger and rage. I...

Venera · Venera

Hello again! Is there a hope that small kids will grow up normal without any dependencies and issues if one parent is normal? My kids are 6 and 8 now, I am starting to work on my co-dependency. We are still living with my AH and we have good times and sometimes my AH locks himself in the room for a few days and d...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I left my AH a week and a half ago. It was more than the alcohol...but I still hope for him a chance at recovery. I understand that I cannot control what he does, it is not my responsibility. I don't want to coerce him into going to AA, but I do want to try to make it easier to reach out. I just don't know...I was...

sportychick · sportychick

Last August we moved from Vancouver Canada back to my home country of Sydney Australia. My qualifier is Canadian. This week my qualifier Husband has had a really bad eye infection. Turns out he has viral conjunctivitis. I have had a hard time showing him compassion because the way he carries on you wo...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

I should be happy, its July 4th and I'm at work. I got to spend time with my nephew today which is always fun..he's 1. However all I can think about today are the 'what if my A starts drinking again today?' etc. I've had bad experiences with holidays of any kind many times in the past and as good as the last 4 ye...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

My husband got home drunk. He collapsed in the back room it looked like he wasn't breathing. I got close to him and asked if he was ok i got no response from him. I got concerned and kind of shook him to see if he was conscious or not. He rolled over and slapped me. I said please don't hit me but then he went into a...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I had a good afternoon and evening with my daughter and grandson today. Just a normal day with a trip to a movie, then home to TRY to grill hamburgers (they wouldn't cook up - guess the overpriced pre-lighted charcoals have taught me a lesson) and then TRY to broil them in the oven. It must have taken an h...

Venera · Venera

My AH has been drinking in average one week every 1-2 months. I am due to deliver our third baby in 3 months and need start making plans who is going to come with me and pick me up from the hospital. He wants this baby and when sober is a good husband, unfortunately I have no idea when his next drinking period i...

Venera · Venera

Hi, please share your opinions. I am still new to this and dont know al the answers. I know I need to take care of my own recovery, but some questions come up about the AH as we go. He is in Mexico with his A friend for a week, the excuse to go is to "take care of the house", we are building a house over t...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Last night, I called my son at the place where he's been paroled to stay on tether at the time set by the state to the phone he's been issued that allows only incoming calls. Phone rang 4 times. Picked up. Hung up. Since it is a strange phone system, I called again. He picked up. His words were slurre...

neshema2 · neshema2

I am looking at my happy 4th of July post and I am thinking....OK Yea, I was codep. but I know in my heart I was a good mom....THAT is probably the ONE thing I did NOT screw up on... However, that said, I still presented the program by example to my girls...The older one glommed on to it like a pro...Just tucke...

neshema2 · neshema2

Didn't think I would want to show my face..But I see the handsome and pretty smiling faces at me when I read...Not ashamed of who they are and even proud to be who they are So..Here is a pic of me and my bunny buddy last month...I was in the bathroom, LOL when I took this I am sooo bad taking pics, as a child my si...

Lyne · Lyne

I have heard people say over the years that they think people in recovery get addicted to their meetings. Addiction implies a behavior that is negative that someone repeats over and over again with the same results. So last night in my F2F I shared that I felt alanon is not an addiction for me, but a li...

chamoisdog · chamoisdog

My AH has been blind siding me with his toxic, hateful, ugly verbal darts for over 7 yrs now! AND I have had it! These attacks are a result of his evening drinking and can come out of no where. He will often be angry or agitated at something/someone else and lash out at me! I do my best to not engage or fight ba...

nancymom4 · nancymom4

My husband has been sober 17 years until last week. He went to a concert with a friend. I suspected his friend was a pot smoker the night he left. Later I found on the computer topics googled that looked like he was trying to figure out how to pass a drug test after smoking pot. So I confronted him. I asked i...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

I'm over whelmed . My ah will not stop talking. Boundarys are not working I'm fed up . In drained!! My heart is on overdrive . 8 months sober he his . Again in still on step3 . Please stop tossing extra chores for me to do. He not well still and proved it over and over. Then he wants to start reading about the Bou...

orchidlover · orchidlover

Currently I have a woman in my life who just dropped in there in March of this year. I had no idea she was going to be so important. There are so many levels to relating to her. In so many ways she is such a gift because I really do not want to believe I have any character defects. Everyone else has. I don't. To...

deacon · deacon

From what I am hearing, I have to change myself before there will be any solution to my husband's drinking. He had a major drinking problem over thirty years ago and solved it by just quitting drinking altogether. For thirty years, he did not drink at all. About five years ago, he decided that he could dr...

Venera · Venera

How does that happened? Everybody writes here that it is useless to talk to them, untill they are ready they wont do anything. But I am just curious, for those who were ready, how did that happened?

Bettina · Bettina

The famous poet Shelly said, " If Winter comes, can Spring be far behind? No matter how long and bitter winter may be, spring always follows. This is the law of the universe, the joyful law of life. Here's to a joyful and hopeful day! Bettina

Jerry F · Jerry F

for this fixer who couldn't fix himself other than to turn himself over to those who could and would; is the realization of what happens when I turn myself over without fear, anxiety, projection and the other "fear" tools I use to have. While others were trying and doing their part to &qu...

Bettina · Bettina

"It is easy to mistake control and dependency for love. The truth of love, however , is found in our sincerity to act for the happiness and freedom of others." Shin Yatomi

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

When an alcoholic detoxes and has a brief time of not drinking, why do they start again without giving someone the opportunity to help them? Is it because they really don't want to be stopped? On the show Addictions, the host is a former addict and I have heard her say that when you start to use again after...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

The reality of my life is that my husband is an alcoholic and I enabled him all these years. The reality is that he cheated and probably continues to cheat. The reality is that he doesn't love me anymore he probably never did. The reality is in the future we are probably getting divorced. All this is too mu...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

The other day a woman my age in my neigjborhood saw me reading my Alanon book. She asked me about myself, if i am in Alanon. I told her yes. She clearly wanted to talk. Shes had problems. Says she is so social drinker and many times people have said she should go toAlanon . Lost a brother and her ex is a drinker...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

My A/D is so angry and trying to make me the bad guy for her situation. When I got home from my f/f meeting today I had a couple of threatening voice mail messages and my grandson had a real serious one on his cell phone. Her MO is to make threatening and terrorist threats when she is angry, I've never know...

neshema2 · neshema2

Today I had a nice talk with my A brother and did not get enmeshed w/him when I saw the signs that he was drinking while on the phone w/me..I said there was someone at the door and we had a loving "see ya later" I did a workout with my weights and my aerobic ball b/c it was a bit too cool to go in the pool...

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	Need Encouragement About Attending Face To Face Meeting (Preview) I KNOW I need to attend a face to face meeting but I am very nervous and could use some encouragement. I have never been to one before. I am never comfortable doing new things in new places with people I don't know and that makes me nervous. Luckily the meetings are in the church I grew up going to which will b...	In The Forest	10	758	Jul 9, 2013 by In The Forest
	Prayer candles (Preview) First attempt to make my prayer candles. They are far from perfect but it's practice not perfection isn't it Thank you MIP and Thank you Path to Serenity.	Cathyinaz	14	330	Jul 8, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Grandson is homeless! Grandma had a meltdown! (Preview) Even though I knew it was going to happen, when I saw my grandson yesterday at a family gatering, he came with my son who he trying to "squat" at his 1 br apt. Anyway seeing him looking so sad and troubled, I couldn't take it and had to leave early, my brother walked me out to my car and I couldn't...	Highlyfavored	8	439	Jul 8, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	People and occupations of value (Preview) I don't know about you, but I get tired of tv and internet coverage of "famous people." It truly doesn't matter to me who scores the highest, is the prettiest or most handsome, is having a meltdown, a baby or a haircut in Hollywood, Royalty or the world of competition. Some of the folks who ar...	grateful2be	4	370	Jul 8, 2013 by grateful2be
	Family Dinners With The In-Laws Create Anxiety (Preview) This is my first time posting here but I have been reading a lot and trying to learn. It has provided me a lot of knowledge and comfort. I am still just trying to accept the reality of my situation. I have never been to a face to face meeting but I am trying to get brave enough to do that. I am here because my husb...	In The Forest	19	841	Jul 8, 2013 by In The Forest
	My feelings and emotions!!!! Ugg (Preview) Right now at this moment.. I am thinking about my son.. I just can't seem to keep the focus on my and my recovery. I spoke with him on Sunday and he sounds great and is so in touch with his higher power.. And I told him I have fears!! He responded that he has to work on him and he can't control how I feel and I need t...	Gaby	7	549	Jul 8, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	First meeting in 4 weeks (Preview) Well had my first meeting in 4 weeks about 2 hours ago & it was well needed. Was good to talk to the group & it has cleared my head for now. Even when I come home to my AW whos on a roll and a bottle and a half up & offering me scotchs,hey ho.	gorby928	6	342	Jul 8, 2013 by Breakingfree
	LOST (Preview) Hi i am new her My name is Tina l. I have had the roughest month in my life. I had to put my husband in a mental hospital because he was so messed up on drugs and alcohol that he tried to kill himself by od-ing. they found him mentally incompetent and he has bipolar 1. i have to go see him today and i feel very alone...	Tina L	15	445	Jul 8, 2013 by Tina L
	Fear ;( (Preview) I have not been on here since my last visit with my son. I am working on my recovery in healing, but i am having a hard time on letting go.. I stop and think (PROJECTION) what is it going to be like when he comes home. If not home just back in the town he ran a muck.. I see my son so spiritual so close to his god and be...	Gaby	6	573	Jul 8, 2013 by Gaby
	Am I going to have a great Sunday or not? (Preview) I am supposed to be getting ready for work, but after checking my email and reading one from the exAH, that and checking my bank account I have just lost my motivation. I need to shake it off rub some al-anon on it and get my perky self out the door. Sometimes for what seems like no reason I let myself do the po...	Breakingfree	10	404	Jul 8, 2013 by Pushka
	grateful (Preview) Hi Everyone: Just want to share some thoughts of gratefulness today: Grateful for: --this board, where I have read in others' posts descriptions of my own life, and have learned so much from all of you about the true nature of human strength --my three kids, all thriving, beautiful, smart and percept...	yanksfan51	6	284	Jul 7, 2013 by PP
	Feelings are ok (Preview) I heard something at a meeting this week thtat has stuck with me. Feelings are not good or bad, right or wrong. They are just feelings. It is how I choose to react to the feeling that is important. I can still feel sad, angry, frustrated, happy, anxious...whatever. The hard part is choosing how to act on t...	ParisMemories	7	361	Jul 7, 2013 by Tina L
	Perhaps a bit of wisdom from Hollywood? (Preview) "Bear witness to the situation and have faith that the right thing to do will emerge." Jeff Bridges Loved this message as it came through it's messenger this morning. Thought I'd share it.	grateful2be	1	256	Jul 7, 2013 by Debilyn
	What slogan am I working today (Preview) ONE day at a time I am trying to fill a vacancy (need to work 2 ams per week and need 2 more days to equal that) So, here I am projecting and wondering "OMG, what if this happens or that happens????" the usual what ifs fear based garbage so....ONE day at a time TODAY my needs are met no set backs...	neshema2	2	252	Jul 7, 2013 by grateful2be
	Response to Jerry's thread, tonights fireworks, life (Preview) Sorry Paula, I love fireworks, spent a hundred on them but I went to a place where tons of people all gather to light them, the local volunteer fire dept patrols and puts out fires, its a hoot for pyromaniacs. We were there a bit when my daughter announced she had lost an earring, one of those expensive thi...	likemyheart	8	391	Jul 7, 2013 by FAITH1988
	My son (Preview) It's so hard not to cry about what we can't fix and the feelings are strong within. I often say WHY WHY is this still happening after all he has been through. I want so hard to just go away and never come back to watch the one my love destroy himself. I get the text and am asked for comments and I don't answer...	Cathyinaz	21	707	Jul 7, 2013 by Breakingfree
	everything is OK (Preview) So everything is OK but not great yet! Still struggling w/ recovery from surgery. My eyes seem to be OK but I am still nervous about them--my next appt. is on the 23rd--month post-op on the second surgery. I still feel like I want to touch them when they bother me. I also am struggling w/ washing my hair in t...	Hoot Nanny	4	388	Jul 7, 2013 by neshema2
	Should I stay or should I go now? (Preview) I realize that if I leave it needs to be because I am at my wits end and can't take it anymore and not to try to manipulate or control his behavior. That being said though, part of me thinking about leaving is hoping it does give him incentive. He is often on the cusp, knowing he has a problem then denying it. I...	callmemara	10	536	Jul 7, 2013 by neshema2
	Sighting (Preview) I went to pick up my daughter from a supervised evening visit with her (A) father, at his parent's house. With a protection order in place, he is supposed to stay away from me, though I am able to drive to their house to pick up my daughter - so he stays in the house. Last night, he was standing in the drivew...	KLotus	14	392	Jul 7, 2013 by KLotus
	The things I cannot change... (Preview) the past... my attitudes... one day at a time. I think I came into this forum from another MIP programme... I think mebbe I have some sort of leadership there... I come here for support- and to sort out my loyalty with Alanon. My loyalty has grown a lot... and so has my peace of mind... Lately I went to see...	DavidG	13	588	Jul 6, 2013 by DavidG
	Customer service, lies, patience and practice (Preview) Went to the Credit Union today after posting on anger. There have been several issues there (and there is no other where the same thing doesn't happen in one way or another in our City) since I became a member that tend to set my teeth on edge as I breathe, feel, wait and practice. My tongue wants out, out...	grateful2be	12	407	Jul 6, 2013 by grateful2be
	my post and ?? was too dumb....I deleted it (Preview) I guess this ??? was just too dumb to get answers... I think I will continue shunning her ------ I remember 4 letters J A D E -- Edited by neshema2 on Friday 5th of July 2013 04:00:16 PM -- Edited by neshema2 on Friday 5th of July 2013 04:01:34 PM	neshema2	11	455	Jul 6, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Need Sunday chair substitute (Preview) Sorry I didn't put this on the Chat Room board, but for some reason it won't recognize my password. My laptop is in the shop, which is what holds my scripts, and also how I work around mom's unpredictable Alzheimer's behavior (I am more mobile). I have a desktop in the basement, but if mom is up, I can't log...	Overcome	1	252	Jul 6, 2013 by grateful2be
	And so it begins (vent) (Preview) I've been doing pretty good for the most part .. I can tell I missed meetings this week and I am going to look at getting into one tonight, being the 4th I don't know if I will be able to or not. Meaning .. if the meeting is going on being the 4th and all. I have totally kicked my program out of the window at the...	Pushka	12	2255	Jul 6, 2013 by Pushka
	lost keys and Zen thinking (Preview) So, I said in a previous post that I lost my keys at the free-for-all fireworks fun last night. What strikes me as amazing is, upon hearing that I couldn't find my keys, my daughter dug in her purse, found a copy of my car key and proclaimed that we could make it home. During the ride home she remarked that ma...	likemyheart	2	349	Jul 6, 2013 by hotrod
	Mobile Site Question (Preview) Hi Friends When I try to view this site on a blackberry or on a Nook, I am unable to read the text. It looks like the color scheme for the mobile version has changed, and the text is very light grey on a white background. Has anyone else had this problem?	ParisMemories	6	265	Jul 6, 2013 by Pushka
	My weekend plans (Preview) Well yesterday pretty much didn't go according to plan on any level. The kids and I made the most of it as we always do. Life is what it is .. with the disappointments can come great joy .. looking for it is part of the gift I want to give my kids. See the good out of the bad and let go of the bad. Today I though...	Pushka	1	310	Jul 6, 2013 by neshema2
	Anger is Normal (Preview) Hi MIPers... You know, anger is a normal reaction to being betrayed, lied to, stolen from, etc. Sometimes when folks vent on the board...I sense, just sometimes, people being condescending, as if somehow if you are angry you are not very far along in recovery. I don't think anger is inconsistent with...	rehprof	17	502	Jul 6, 2013 by Lyne
	No make up or up do and I am still beautiful (Preview) My exAH had a lot of the normal A things going on, but he was so good at telling me I had a natural beauty without all the make up and hair do's put on. I am now dating a guy that has let me know he prefers when I am all done up. The funny thing is, he doesn't dress up much and is super casual and it makes me down grade m...	Breakingfree	15	526	Jul 6, 2013 by neshema2
	Kids :) (Preview) I'm REALLY excited for Monday (I have court nothing special or new .. LOL) .. I AM excited though as I just found out one of the RA's I know his daughter is starting an Alateen group here in town every Monday night .. I'm over the MOON!!! VERY excited!! My daughter is having a fit about going and I just laugh...	Pushka	4	283	Jul 6, 2013 by hotrod
	OK...H.A.L.T...reviewed... (Preview) I'm sitting here at my 'puter reading bleary eyed with my left index finger bandaged and stitched. I posted H.A.L.T. earlier before going to work and made it to work without incident. After I got there I got incident. I was too Angry and Tired and miscued a cut I was doing to some detached ginger sta...	Jerry F	9	484	Jul 5, 2013 by ParisMemories
	HAPPY 4TH OF JULY MY ALANONERS........ (Preview) Here is wishing that ALL my alanoners, MIP family have a GR8 and fun filled 4th of July Daughter dysfunctional is not speaking to me b/c I won't be mired in her drama and passive aggression, so I'll mosey down a 2 mile drive to the public pool which is lovely and nice people and have some fun and chat w/the...	neshema2	4	332	Jul 5, 2013 by waveofhealing
	Recovery a day at a time (Preview) My name is Paris and I am a grateful member of Al-anon . The past few weeks I've really been leaning on my HP, and he is guiding me in the right direction. I have been going to many meetings, have talked with my sponsor, and been able to (mostly) control my reactions and take much better care of myself. AH has...	ParisMemories	2	314	Jul 5, 2013 by wornoutmrsfixit
	Self Pity ... (Preview) Last Nights topic at the Wednesday Night Turning Point AFG. Wish you all were there. It was a hummer and I am grateful for it cause HP kept prodding me on the important points to listen to with an open mind. It isn't only the poor me feelings. It can be and has been demonstrated thru anger and rage. I...	Jerry F	8	552	Jul 5, 2013 by canadianguy
	Small children (Preview) Hello again! Is there a hope that small kids will grow up normal without any dependencies and issues if one parent is normal? My kids are 6 and 8 now, I am starting to work on my co-dependency. We are still living with my AH and we have good times and sometimes my AH locks himself in the room for a few days and d...	Venera	15	925	Jul 5, 2013 by unsureoffuture
	I left but I hope for help for my AH (Preview) I left my AH a week and a half ago. It was more than the alcohol...but I still hope for him a chance at recovery. I understand that I cannot control what he does, it is not my responsibility. I don't want to coerce him into going to AA, but I do want to try to make it easier to reach out. I just don't know...I was...	sadsusie	12	515	Jul 5, 2013 by grateful2be
	The family disease. (Preview) Last August we moved from Vancouver Canada back to my home country of Sydney Australia. My qualifier is Canadian. This week my qualifier Husband has had a really bad eye infection. Turns out he has viral conjunctivitis. I have had a hard time showing him compassion because the way he carries on you wo...	sportychick	4	417	Jul 5, 2013 by sportychick
	In a bad head space right now (Preview) I should be happy, its July 4th and I'm at work. I got to spend time with my nephew today which is always fun..he's 1. However all I can think about today are the 'what if my A starts drinking again today?' etc. I've had bad experiences with holidays of any kind many times in the past and as good as the last 4 ye...	phoenixmagicgirl	4	359	Jul 5, 2013 by Jerry F
	I had to leave... (Preview) My husband got home drunk. He collapsed in the back room it looked like he wasn't breathing. I got close to him and asked if he was ok i got no response from him. I got concerned and kind of shook him to see if he was conscious or not. He rolled over and slapped me. I said please don't hit me but then he went into a...	newgirl17	16	625	Jul 5, 2013 by sadsusie
	My day. My learnings. My gratitude. (Preview) I had a good afternoon and evening with my daughter and grandson today. Just a normal day with a trip to a movie, then home to TRY to grill hamburgers (they wouldn't cook up - guess the overpriced pre-lighted charcoals have taught me a lesson) and then TRY to broil them in the oven. It must have taken an h...	grateful2be	4	289	Jul 4, 2013 by grateful2be
	How to plan for delivery of a new baby? (Preview) My AH has been drinking in average one week every 1-2 months. I am due to deliver our third baby in 3 months and need start making plans who is going to come with me and pick me up from the hospital. He wants this baby and when sober is a good husband, unfortunately I have no idea when his next drinking period i...	Venera	11	415	Jul 5, 2013 by Jerry F
	Confront or ignore? (Preview) Hi, please share your opinions. I am still new to this and dont know al the answers. I know I need to take care of my own recovery, but some questions come up about the AH as we go. He is in Mexico with his A friend for a week, the excuse to go is to "take care of the house", we are building a house over t...	Venera	17	874	Jul 5, 2013 by neshema2
	Nature, my son, and poetry rephrased (Preview) Last night, I called my son at the place where he's been paroled to stay on tether at the time set by the state to the phone he's been issued that allows only incoming calls. Phone rang 4 times. Picked up. Hung up. Since it is a strange phone system, I called again. He picked up. His words were slurre...	grateful2be	5	437	Jul 5, 2013 by grateful2be
	Alanon and our children (Preview) I am looking at my happy 4th of July post and I am thinking....OK Yea, I was codep. but I know in my heart I was a good mom....THAT is probably the ONE thing I did NOT screw up on... However, that said, I still presented the program by example to my girls...The older one glommed on to it like a pro...Just tucke...	neshema2	4	339	Jul 4, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Never thought I would do THIS---But you guys inspire me (Preview) Didn't think I would want to show my face..But I see the handsome and pretty smiling faces at me when I read...Not ashamed of who they are and even proud to be who they are So..Here is a pic of me and my bunny buddy last month...I was in the bathroom, LOL when I took this I am sooo bad taking pics, as a child my si...	neshema2	4	315	Jul 4, 2013 by hotrod
	addicted to alanon? (Preview) I have heard people say over the years that they think people in recovery get addicted to their meetings. Addiction implies a behavior that is negative that someone repeats over and over again with the same results. So last night in my F2F I shared that I felt alanon is not an addiction for me, but a li...	Lyne	6	911	Jul 4, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Stopping the verbal abuse!! (Preview) My AH has been blind siding me with his toxic, hateful, ugly verbal darts for over 7 yrs now! AND I have had it! These attacks are a result of his evening drinking and can come out of no where. He will often be angry or agitated at something/someone else and lash out at me! I do my best to not engage or fight ba...	chamoisdog	11	476	Jul 4, 2013 by Breakingfree
	husband sober 17yrs relapse (Preview) My husband has been sober 17 years until last week. He went to a concert with a friend. I suspected his friend was a pot smoker the night he left. Later I found on the computer topics googled that looked like he was trying to figure out how to pass a drug test after smoking pot. So I confronted him. I asked i...	nancymom4	17	582	Jul 4, 2013 by grateful2be
	Melt down to much expectations (Preview) I'm over whelmed . My ah will not stop talking. Boundarys are not working I'm fed up . In drained!! My heart is on overdrive . 8 months sober he his . Again in still on step3 . Please stop tossing extra chores for me to do. He not well still and proved it over and over. Then he wants to start reading about the Bou...	Ms co-dependent	6	447	Jul 4, 2013 by grateful2be
	Blaming others (Preview) Currently I have a woman in my life who just dropped in there in March of this year. I had no idea she was going to be so important. There are so many levels to relating to her. In so many ways she is such a gift because I really do not want to believe I have any character defects. Everyone else has. I don't. To...	orchidlover	10	463	Jul 4, 2013 by Debilyn
	I've been to several al anon meetings now but I am really confused (Preview) From what I am hearing, I have to change myself before there will be any solution to my husband's drinking. He had a major drinking problem over thirty years ago and solved it by just quitting drinking altogether. For thirty years, he did not drink at all. About five years ago, he decided that he could dr...	deacon	9	609	Jul 4, 2013 by Debilyn
	Did your A start AA? Or any kind of treatment? (Preview) How does that happened? Everybody writes here that it is useless to talk to them, untill they are ready they wont do anything. But I am just curious, for those who were ready, how did that happened?	Venera	5	450	Jul 4, 2013 by neshema2
	If Winter comes (Preview) The famous poet Shelly said, " If Winter comes, can Spring be far behind? No matter how long and bitter winter may be, spring always follows. This is the law of the universe, the joyful law of life. Here's to a joyful and hopeful day! Bettina	Bettina	4	315	Jul 4, 2013 by Jerry F
	Only one huge consequence... (Preview) for this fixer who couldn't fix himself other than to turn himself over to those who could and would; is the realization of what happens when I turn myself over without fear, anxiety, projection and the other "fear" tools I use to have. While others were trying and doing their part to &qu...	Jerry F	4	307	Jul 4, 2013 by Pushka
	Mistaken for Love! (Preview) "It is easy to mistake control and dependency for love. The truth of love, however , is found in our sincerity to act for the happiness and freedom of others." Shin Yatomi	Bettina	7	585	Jul 4, 2013 by orchidlover
	Opinions Wanted (Preview) When an alcoholic detoxes and has a brief time of not drinking, why do they start again without giving someone the opportunity to help them? Is it because they really don't want to be stopped? On the show Addictions, the host is a former addict and I have heard her say that when you start to use again after...	wornoutmrsfixit	13	443	Jul 3, 2013 by Bettina
	the reality :( (Preview) The reality of my life is that my husband is an alcoholic and I enabled him all these years. The reality is that he cheated and probably continues to cheat. The reality is that he doesn't love me anymore he probably never did. The reality is in the future we are probably getting divorced. All this is too mu...	newgirl17	4	492	Jul 3, 2013 by newgirl17
	Comments welcome about this dilemma! (Preview) The other day a woman my age in my neigjborhood saw me reading my Alanon book. She asked me about myself, if i am in Alanon. I told her yes. She clearly wanted to talk. Shes had problems. Says she is so social drinker and many times people have said she should go toAlanon . Lost a brother and her ex is a drinker...	WorkingThroughIt	11	519	Jul 3, 2013 by pinkchip
	A/D is threatening me and her son! (Preview) My A/D is so angry and trying to make me the bad guy for her situation. When I got home from my f/f meeting today I had a couple of threatening voice mail messages and my grandson had a real serious one on his cell phone. Her MO is to make threatening and terrorist threats when she is angry, I've never know...	Highlyfavored	4	348	Jul 3, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	What did I do to take care of me today??? (Preview) Today I had a nice talk with my A brother and did not get enmeshed w/him when I saw the signs that he was drinking while on the phone w/me..I said there was someone at the door and we had a loving "see ya later" I did a workout with my weights and my aerobic ball b/c it was a bit too cool to go in the pool...	neshema2	4	579	Jul 3, 2013 by ilovedogs
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