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ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Hi all, my AH comes home from a missions trip to Haiti tomorrow. I will be picking him up from the airport late. I am working on having no expectations from this trip of his. He has contacted me via text a few times, but nothing earth shattering, LOL. I am very ready to move on with my life and I am afraid t...

Lyne · Lyne

OK, so I can't have Thanksgiving dinner with my son and his family because they are eating with his in-laws this year. I was just writing to my sponsor. Yes, I can choose to have a pity party, poor me, and a big boo hoo. Life is so unfair! And then my alanon brain kicked in and I am so lucky to have a son I am...

Mattie · Mattie

I am in a coffee shop where I often hang out. It's on the edge of a sketchy area of town and sometimes homeless people and panhandlers come in. You know what I mean -- unkempt, torn and dirty clothing, hair that hasn't been washed or combed in weeks, and so on. Just now I saw a homeless person approaching...

Tasha · Tasha

.... to screw in a light bulb????? None. They detach with love and let it screw itself.

1lostmom · 1lostmom

Hi, I'm new here, and I wanted to share my story and get some support. I was a good kid. I grew up in a very nice neighborhood, my mom stayed at home with my siblings and I, and my dad was a teacher. I could find things to complain about, but in the greater scheme that is life, I had a relatively easy childho...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It's my birthday .. goooo me! I was reflecting on the past two years today and the changes that have come either from outside forces or just because it was time. What has changed .. a LOT! What hasn't changed .. a LOT! I had to laugh to myself. Let's see this all started 2 years ago (well longer however...

Buford · Buford

Hello, i am new to this forum. I am in a long distance relationship with a recovering addict, who joined NA 6 months into our relationship. We've been together about a year and a half. Today, she told me that she is going to a "dance party" (rave) to see how it makes her feel. She says she is prepa...

Gaby · Gaby

I am hurting do much. I texted my son and he usually responds right away. I feel something is wrong. I just don't want to know. I am praying every minute for both he and I. I am falling back to my depression. I just need some support. I love my son but I can't help him if he is not ready. How after 5 months of recov...

Debilyn · Debilyn

for the loving parents of A children

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Today didn't get off to such a great start. I've been having a hard time getting myself together in the mornings, especially with the weather getting really cold where I live. I have thyroid disease and adrenal fatigue that I'm newly learning to self treat, for lack of funds and a doctor who will liste...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Frequently of an afternoon, we walk down to the local park and daughter and I sit on the swings, swinging and talking about this n that, while the dog runs around sniffing things and then peeing on them, and every few minutes he runs over to stare sideways at us for a while, because he just doesn't underst...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I had to delete my account abruptly because I think it became compromised I'm hoping that enough time, new name and new email address will do the trick. I have been a lurker and reading daily for my dose of the wise people on these boards. Things are going good .. I'm still married .. probably will be fo...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Sigh, ABF came home from work 5 hours early today and stomped off to his room "I DON'T want to talk"... I sensed something more than the usual hangover/tantrum was going on and I was right; he eventually opened up and I won't go into details but it turns out he's being bullied quite horribly at...

alexmaui · alexmaui

I have a family court order of protection against my husband. I filed citing his harassment after months of calls to my cell phone voice mail and to my work place I never felt physically threatened. But his constant calls to, my job-- up to 12 times a day--- began to affect my co-workers and how I was v...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I have read much on the subject of detachment. How much can you detach while living under the same roof. My AH is asleep snoring on the couch when I come in from work. If he wakes up he is repeating himself or telling stories that don't make sense. Like many on this board, I have been married for many yea...

John · John

Hi Everyone, I literally hate having to post this stuff but each year our bills come due again for the MIP site. The domain name registration, the web hosting, message boards, etc, cost money. If you can make a donation that will help offset some of the expense it would be gratefully appreciated. T...

oldergal · oldergal

My friend the counselor tells me he discourages addicts in recovery from setting too many goals. How do people get better, then? I wondered. He explains they create new habits by focusing on short-term outcomes they can control. The point is the process, not the finish line. My son in recovery (with...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

I am trying not to get myself concerned with what others may think. I blew it. A has not been home and apparently staying in his vehicle because I told him he couldn't stay in the home if he was still communicating with the girl he got involved with. I really am not sure of anything but can feel that nagging...

Gaby · Gaby

It is hard to except what we can not control. I wish there was something just one more thing I can do for my son. I have had to stay away from my own home so I would not look down the street to see if he is home himself. This mental break down took me to a very dark place. I hear that my son is using but I can not contro...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Today everything my AH says has made me irritated. He is not drinking, he is just being who he is. But everything has gotten on my nerves. I realize I just need to let it go. I missed my meeting yesterday, and this is the consequence. I am angry and frustrated. Full of resentment about things I thought I had...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I didn't get the meds I wanted so I'm leaving! (Hrmmm. Drug seeking behavior in rehab. Heck yeah). I can use the phone when I want so I am leaving! (God forbid you have extra focus on getting sober) I didn't come here for this! ("this" being anything other than sobriety) I thought this place...

Living in the Calm · Living in the Calm

This is my first time on here. I'm not really sure where this post will go so I will just start with my story - My wife and I have been together for 3 years - had our union in March. I always knew she had an addictive personality and I guess I just always gave excuses. "Oh we are young we are suppose to dr...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I know that we should remember to keep the focus on ourselves, that it is essential to our recovery. Very essential. It is dreadfully easy for alcoholic seems to steal away our joy, peace, and serenity. Focusing on ourselves is necessary to restore those things into our lifewe need to refill the leaky...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Today I'm not feeling up to par. I've been sick off and on for a couple of weeks now. I think it's all in my head

My son has made a couple of temps to contact me ( when in a sober state somewhat ) but I have not responded at all. I'm still weak and it would give him the opportunity to get to my weakness e...

Lyne · Lyne

So I am on steps 4-5 and find this a learning and difficult experience. I shared something I did with my sponsor that I have carried shame and regret for, for over 30 years. I have not admitted it to another human being, only to God. I'm not sure what I expected my sponsor to do-scold me, agree what I did w...

PP · PP

About a month ago I ended my relationship with my sponsor. It was a thoughtful decision after much prayer and counsel. I was clear it was the best decision for me. It was difficult for me to do but I thought I had handled it (through a phone call) in a way that was gentle, kind and clean with, what I believ...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I drive school bus and have threatened to arrange my kids, all ages, into seats that I know they won't like, if they cannot control their behavior - I'm tired of having to holler the same things over and over and careening down the freeway at 55 mph with semi's passing is no place for me to have to be discipl...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

It's amazing how far-reaching the stuff I learn here is. My ex AH (and I am for all intents and purposes his ex AW) has been in my thoughts tonight. Some years ago we went overseas to stay with his parents for a time. We ended up moving into our own flat and living there for a couple of years and during that tim...

breamanic665 · breamanic665

how can i briefly explain? probably not possible to do so, so I'll try to sum up. I knew my bf was an alcoholic from the start, but he had been working towards cutting down and living a healthier life even when we were just friends. he was one of my very best friends, and i didn't expect we would fall in love b...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello everyone , I am ok today my A found a job my dr are not charging me co pays given my health status and free samples have been provided this is for sure to know my higher power see that I'm working hard to change me and given myself over to him and return he given me my path to recovery , this is something I co...

milkwood · milkwood

I've been feeling cranky all week, reaching a point where I felt completely down in the dumps. Thanks to lots of reading, mostly here, it was at least an opportunity to see my grizzly thinking in action Then in an effort to feel a bit more positive about myself I suggested doing a lunch for a friend who i...

Medi · Medi

Where to start.... I have separated from my AH 2 months ago and trying my best to get on with my life, while caring for our 2 young girls, working, doing the household...etc. The last 2 months have been an emotional roller coaster, some days I am fine, other days I feel depressed. I feel I can manage (just)...

PP · PP

I would like prayers today for the strength to work my program while I watch my husband relapsing into his addictive thoughts. To my awareness, he has not picked up substances, but he has picked up the stinking thinking. He has his tools and I have mine. I know I cannot and will not do this alone....th...

bijela · bijela

I have been having a very difficult time. I have been having lots of flashbacks from past abuse and assaults. It has gotten to the point that I see every male as a threat to my safety. I know it's logically stupid, but I've been having nightmares really bad and not sleeping. I've blocked more people from F...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Should I keep my mouth shut? I am really feeling the need to listen these days. I think I am going through a growth period or a new cycle in my life. I don't have a lot of wisdom to share right now. I just want to say a few things & stop writing. I am not hopeless or helpless. I don't feel alone in all this stuf...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

It's not always doom and gloom - sometimes there is light. My husband and I had a really good weekend. We went out and bummed around town for a bit, we ate dinner out, and we had honest, kind conversations to each other. I had a few eye-opening moments, and I was able to explain a few of my concerns with a ve...

Mattie · Mattie

I found myself having a big reaction today and I thought, "Where the heck did that come from?" I was buying some big bags of pet food with my son, in a store that didn't have carts, and when we had pulled some out to take up to the register, my son wandered off to look at pets and I couldn't find him...

Gaby · Gaby

So as I had shared my son relapsed one week ago today.. Well since he has no longer relapsed I can honestly say for him he just never recovered. He is in such denial. Where did all the stress and worrying and fear send me to !!?? Yes the mental hospital on Wednesday all caused by those factors because I have b...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi eveyone, My name is Slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Well, after a great revelation of my own about intimacy last night, my dad got home from rehab. I saw he called today, so I phoned back. He's already slurring. Those 5 weeks he was gone felt so relaxing. My sister has decided that she w...

deacon · deacon

My husband is a caring, hardworking, giving man. I know he loves me and he professes it every day. He will go out of his way to make me comfortable and he says many times that he puts me first in our relationship.Except that he likes to drink. He knows how much I hate drinking. So he hides it in his garage and t...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

I'm supposed to be getting ready for work and here I am...Lol.. I just have to vent a tiny bit before I walk out into the living room and see the A sitting at the computer dressed in the same clothes from last week. At least he hardly perspires, so you smell the dirty clothes more than anything else. And yet I...

DavidG · DavidG

Oh my gosh! This year I had to deal with conflict inside of my group. I was a big part of that! I wasn't the cause though. I would describe it as 'growing pains'. Yesterday we had our area business meeting. It was hosted in my own community... we did have a major crisis, which I won't name, of course! But I wa...

Mattie · Mattie

I was reading about the findings of a researcher on addiction, Karen Ersche. She studies the effects of cocaine on the brain. In the report she says: "I have also become increasingly intriguied by the question of occasional drug use can turn into addiction in some people, while others seem to...

el-cee · el-cee

I'm trying to work an honest program so I thought I would share parts of myself to you, just to be honest really and to get some feedback. I love Al anon, I love the fellowship and its teaching me to be a better person, a more empathetic person, a kinder, more gentle person, but there is a part of me, (not sure...

Doozy · Doozy

Hi all! I haven't written for a long time, but I still read often and I just love this board. Alanon and MIP continue to help me change my life in HUGE ways for the better and I am so thankful. I've been going through some tough circumstances. Today and yesterday, I was rolling around some ideas in my head a...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning all I've been having these little mini panic attacks I'm calling them. They aren't that bad but the fear is real and lasts from a few seconds to a few minutes. Sometimes I can't even remember what caused them. Sometimes my son comes to mind. It's all in my head I know but having a hard time...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone Well I'm taking inventory but not my personal inventory...lol WORK . Been here since 6am and it's now 6:45pm I'M TIRED.....

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Found an arrest warrent.I wasn't snooping. As his drinking and gaming take a deeper and deeper hold on him, his efforts at "being human" subside. Now, nothing is out of bounds. Every dish in the house lives in his room, covered in slime next to his bed amongst the piles of empty bottles and ca...

Jozie · Jozie

I have resently been working with my "Sponser"/"Sponsers" in trying to rerun the steps, I have Found out Many things in my Recovery, that was right there all along, I just needed someone Outside My Head to Point them Out... I have Often been told that "My Problem" is:...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone,My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.I have been doing some thinking about intimacy and the effects of growing up in an alcoholic home. I was searching for some books I could read and maybe some psychological approaches as opposed to shares. I came across this book an...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Maybe I should not be posting today , I'm not a person that had a good wisdom way for the past several days . My life is out of my hands . I can't find my peace and be happy with myself if I don't know who is in control over my life today . Last week I know some one strong and smart and could see things for what there w...

xeno59 · xeno59

I shared at a meeting the other day that I had been so angry at myself from not living up to my own standards. Sheesh if I can't live up to my standards how can i think anyone else can. I went to bed still angry, this is the time I do my Grat list for my day. But this night I did it in a new way for me. Hoping this may be...

1976love · 1976love

Not sure even how to write this. I find writing it out is just as theraputic as the responses. No secret to the MIP family that I have an AH. It's no secret to alot of people. I am happy. I have been keeping up with me (as in meetings, haircuts, clothes, getting to the dentist, visit with friends) I act...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

This is the most absurd thing I have ever written.Had a massive step backwards yesterday. We were both having good days, we made plans to go out with friends to have dinner that night, all was well. I even felt lighter. I felt happy. When he got home, I tried to very, very nonchalantly ask him about ho...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

Little by little, day by day, I learn more and more about me. I learn that I am my own beautiful being. I am not perfect, and that's ok. I love and am loved. I'm unwrapping and some layers are painful and sting. Some wounds I covered with Band-Aids and never quite let them heal. I cry, but I listen. Shhh, its o...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t55578983/alanon-5th-step/-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 14th of November 2013 04:50:30 PM

Debilyn · Debilyn

feeling happier. Was blessed by some great fb friends who love animals too! I was wanting to say too, about Addicts stopping to use. I have a clock over my stove on the wall. Been up there fourteen or so years. I took it down a couple times but will keep looking up there to see what time it is. Since i moved my s...

sad_dog_mommy · sad_dog_mommy

My ABF has anger and depression issues and as you can imagine he gets really riled up after he has been drinking. For the last year he regularly rants about killing himself. He says self deprecating things like "I am worth more dead than I am alive" "I wish I had a gun to end all my pain...

Gaby · Gaby

I feel as I have lost my son.. I have so many emotions going through me. I just feel like hiding. I am so sick to his addiction.. It has controlled me and I have a lot of learning to do about detachment!! I have lost myself completely.. I'm so depressed.

Bettina · Bettina

re connected to computer today, and all moved into my new apt. Mom is at my brothers now and doing well. I'm withdrawing from the stress of taking care of a sick person. So, I cant say how I'm feeling yet, I know I'm tired from the move and just want to sleep. Glad to be back! Lets get busy...lol..

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	Need support (Preview) Hi all, my AH comes home from a missions trip to Haiti tomorrow. I will be picking him up from the airport late. I am working on having no expectations from this trip of his. He has contacted me via text a few times, but nothing earth shattering, LOL. I am very ready to move on with my life and I am afraid t...	ilovedogs	14	475	Nov 23, 2013 by John
	growing up in alanon (Preview) OK, so I can't have Thanksgiving dinner with my son and his family because they are eating with his in-laws this year. I was just writing to my sponsor. Yes, I can choose to have a pity party, poor me, and a big boo hoo. Life is so unfair! And then my alanon brain kicked in and I am so lucky to have a son I am...	Lyne	8	178	Nov 23, 2013 by el-cee
	They never change! (Funny) (Preview) I am in a coffee shop where I often hang out. It's on the edge of a sketchy area of town and sometimes homeless people and panhandlers come in. You know what I mean -- unkempt, torn and dirty clothing, hair that hasn't been washed or combed in weeks, and so on. Just now I saw a homeless person approaching...	Mattie	11	414	Nov 22, 2013 by flinn66
	How many alanons does it take... (Preview) .... to screw in a light bulb????? None. They detach with love and let it screw itself.	Tasha	9	639	Nov 22, 2013 by Melly1248
	New here- my story and disappointment (Preview) Hi, I'm new here, and I wanted to share my story and get some support. I was a good kid. I grew up in a very nice neighborhood, my mom stayed at home with my siblings and I, and my dad was a teacher. I could find things to complain about, but in the greater scheme that is life, I had a relatively easy childho...	1lostmom	6	443	Nov 22, 2013 by Mari1978
	Neither here nor there .. (Preview) It's my birthday .. goooo me! I was reflecting on the past two years today and the changes that have come either from outside forces or just because it was time. What has changed .. a LOT! What hasn't changed .. a LOT! I had to laugh to myself. Let's see this all started 2 years ago (well longer however...	SerenityRUS	9	305	Nov 22, 2013 by ilovedogs
	SO in recovery going to a rave (Preview) Hello, i am new to this forum. I am in a long distance relationship with a recovering addict, who joined NA 6 months into our relationship. We've been together about a year and a half. Today, she told me that she is going to a "dance party" (rave) to see how it makes her feel. She says she is prepa...	Buford	31	710	Nov 22, 2013 by grateful2be
	Not in a good place right now.. (Preview) I am hurting do much. I texted my son and he usually responds right away. I feel something is wrong. I just don't want to know. I am praying every minute for both he and I. I am falling back to my depression. I just need some support. I love my son but I can't help him if he is not ready. How after 5 months of recov...	Gaby	13	460	Nov 22, 2013 by pinkchip
	a true quote... (Preview) for the loving parents of A children	Debilyn	9	496	Nov 22, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	Guilty feelings are here again. (Preview) Today didn't get off to such a great start. I've been having a hard time getting myself together in the mornings, especially with the weather getting really cold where I live. I have thyroid disease and adrenal fatigue that I'm newly learning to self treat, for lack of funds and a doctor who will liste...	Raven Juniper	12	498	Nov 22, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	Lessons by dog. (Preview) Frequently of an afternoon, we walk down to the local park and daughter and I sit on the swings, swinging and talking about this n that, while the dog runs around sniffing things and then peeing on them, and every few minutes he runs over to stare sideways at us for a while, because he just doesn't underst...	Melly1248	7	325	Nov 22, 2013 by Tasha
	Back back back :) (Preview) I had to delete my account abruptly because I think it became compromised I'm hoping that enough time, new name and new email address will do the trick. I have been a lurker and reading daily for my dose of the wise people on these boards. Things are going good .. I'm still married .. probably will be fo...	SerenityRUS	9	570	Nov 22, 2013 by Green Eyes
	On a less happy note.. (Preview) Sigh, ABF came home from work 5 hours early today and stomped off to his room "I DON'T want to talk"... I sensed something more than the usual hangover/tantrum was going on and I was right; he eventually opened up and I won't go into details but it turns out he's being bullied quite horribly at...	Melly1248	23	663	Nov 22, 2013 by wp
	violation of an order of protection (Preview) I have a family court order of protection against my husband. I filed citing his harassment after months of calls to my cell phone voice mail and to my work place I never felt physically threatened. But his constant calls to, my job-- up to 12 times a day--- began to affect my co-workers and how I was v...	alexmaui	9	368	Nov 21, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	How Do You Detach While Living Together? (Preview) I have read much on the subject of detachment. How much can you detach while living under the same roof. My AH is asleep snoring on the couch when I come in from work. If he wakes up he is repeating himself or telling stories that don't make sense. Like many on this board, I have been married for many yea...	wifeofalcoholic	8	1041	Nov 21, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Donation/Contribution Sign is Lite Again (Preview) Hi Everyone, I literally hate having to post this stuff but each year our bills come due again for the MIP site. The domain name registration, the web hosting, message boards, etc, cost money. If you can make a donation that will help offset some of the expense it would be gratefully appreciated. T...	John	23	533	Nov 21, 2013 by Jill
	A share about creating new habits (Preview) My friend the counselor tells me he discourages addicts in recovery from setting too many goals. How do people get better, then? I wondered. He explains they create new habits by focusing on short-term outcomes they can control. The point is the process, not the finish line. My son in recovery (with...	oldergal	2	224	Nov 21, 2013 by PP
	Moment of weakness (Preview) I am trying not to get myself concerned with what others may think. I blew it. A has not been home and apparently staying in his vehicle because I told him he couldn't stay in the home if he was still communicating with the girl he got involved with. I really am not sure of anything but can feel that nagging...	Mari1978	14	534	Nov 21, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Very Emotional.. (Preview) It is hard to except what we can not control. I wish there was something just one more thing I can do for my son. I have had to stay away from my own home so I would not look down the street to see if he is home himself. This mental break down took me to a very dark place. I hear that my son is using but I can not contro...	Gaby	10	501	Nov 21, 2013 by Debilyn
	Cranky Today (Preview) Today everything my AH says has made me irritated. He is not drinking, he is just being who he is. But everything has gotten on my nerves. I realize I just need to let it go. I missed my meeting yesterday, and this is the consequence. I am angry and frustrated. Full of resentment about things I thought I had...	ParisMemories	8	334	Nov 21, 2013 by Tasha
	Most common phrases heard from clients in a rehab (Preview) I didn't get the meds I wanted so I'm leaving! (Hrmmm. Drug seeking behavior in rehab. Heck yeah). I can use the phone when I want so I am leaving! (God forbid you have extra focus on getting sober) I didn't come here for this! ("this" being anything other than sobriety) I thought this place...	pinkchip	21	613	Nov 21, 2013 by Tasha
	Acknowledging is the first step... (Preview) This is my first time on here. I'm not really sure where this post will go so I will just start with my story - My wife and I have been together for 3 years - had our union in March. I always knew she had an addictive personality and I guess I just always gave excuses. "Oh we are young we are suppose to dr...	Living in the Calm	6	562	Nov 21, 2013 by sadsusie
	The heart of an Alcoholic (Preview) I know that we should remember to keep the focus on ourselves, that it is essential to our recovery. Very essential. It is dreadfully easy for alcoholic seems to steal away our joy, peace, and serenity. Focusing on ourselves is necessary to restore those things into our lifewe need to refill the leaky...	sadsusie	10	444	Nov 21, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Today (Preview) Today I'm not feeling up to par. I've been sick off and on for a couple of weeks now. I think it's all in my head My son has made a couple of temps to contact me ( when in a sober state somewhat ) but I have not responded at all. I'm still weak and it would give him the opportunity to get to my weakness e...	Cathyinaz	21	531	Nov 20, 2013 by Tasha
	admitting my wrongs (Preview) So I am on steps 4-5 and find this a learning and difficult experience. I shared something I did with my sponsor that I have carried shame and regret for, for over 30 years. I have not admitted it to another human being, only to God. I'm not sure what I expected my sponsor to do-scold me, agree what I did w...	Lyne	4	308	Nov 20, 2013 by flinn66
	Confused (Preview) About a month ago I ended my relationship with my sponsor. It was a thoughtful decision after much prayer and counsel. I was clear it was the best decision for me. It was difficult for me to do but I thought I had handled it (through a phone call) in a way that was gentle, kind and clean with, what I believ...	PP	26	544	Nov 20, 2013 by Debilyn
	Power of Denial (Preview) I drive school bus and have threatened to arrange my kids, all ages, into seats that I know they won't like, if they cannot control their behavior - I'm tired of having to holler the same things over and over and careening down the freeway at 55 mph with semi's passing is no place for me to have to be discipl...	likemyheart	8	381	Nov 20, 2013 by grateful2be
	Compassion. (Preview) It's amazing how far-reaching the stuff I learn here is. My ex AH (and I am for all intents and purposes his ex AW) has been in my thoughts tonight. Some years ago we went overseas to stay with his parents for a time. We ended up moving into our own flat and living there for a couple of years and during that tim...	Melly1248	7	883	Nov 20, 2013 by karma13
	new to all of this, struggling (Preview) how can i briefly explain? probably not possible to do so, so I'll try to sum up. I knew my bf was an alcoholic from the start, but he had been working towards cutting down and living a healthier life even when we were just friends. he was one of my very best friends, and i didn't expect we would fall in love b...	breamanic665	15	501	Nov 20, 2013 by milkwood
	Update. I'm still working it (Preview) Hello everyone , I am ok today my A found a job my dr are not charging me co pays given my health status and free samples have been provided this is for sure to know my higher power see that I'm working hard to change me and given myself over to him and return he given me my path to recovery , this is something I co...	Wisdom67	7	325	Nov 20, 2013 by karma13
	A nice turn around (Preview) I've been feeling cranky all week, reaching a point where I felt completely down in the dumps. Thanks to lots of reading, mostly here, it was at least an opportunity to see my grizzly thinking in action Then in an effort to feel a bit more positive about myself I suggested doing a lunch for a friend who i...	milkwood	5	222	Nov 19, 2013 by PP
	Struggling (Preview) Where to start.... I have separated from my AH 2 months ago and trying my best to get on with my life, while caring for our 2 young girls, working, doing the household...etc. The last 2 months have been an emotional roller coaster, some days I am fine, other days I feel depressed. I feel I can manage (just)...	Medi	9	454	Nov 19, 2013 by Jen61
	ESH, please (Preview) I would like prayers today for the strength to work my program while I watch my husband relapsing into his addictive thoughts. To my awareness, he has not picked up substances, but he has picked up the stinking thinking. He has his tools and I have mine. I know I cannot and will not do this alone....th...	PP	24	726	Nov 19, 2013 by Green Eyes
	PTSD in overdrive (Preview) I have been having a very difficult time. I have been having lots of flashbacks from past abuse and assaults. It has gotten to the point that I see every male as a threat to my safety. I know it's logically stupid, but I've been having nightmares really bad and not sleeping. I've blocked more people from F...	bijela	8	1152	Nov 18, 2013 by Wisdom67
	really don't know what to say these days... (Preview) Should I keep my mouth shut? I am really feeling the need to listen these days. I think I am going through a growth period or a new cycle in my life. I don't have a lot of wisdom to share right now. I just want to say a few things & stop writing. I am not hopeless or helpless. I don't feel alone in all this stuf...	Hoot Nanny	4	418	Nov 18, 2013 by Wisdom67
	Good Weekend (Preview) It's not always doom and gloom - sometimes there is light. My husband and I had a really good weekend. We went out and bummed around town for a bit, we ate dinner out, and we had honest, kind conversations to each other. I had a few eye-opening moments, and I was able to explain a few of my concerns with a ve...	SpiderArcana	1	137	Nov 18, 2013 by milkwood
	Reflections on my own triggers (Preview) I found myself having a big reaction today and I thought, "Where the heck did that come from?" I was buying some big bags of pet food with my son, in a store that didn't have carts, and when we had pulled some out to take up to the register, my son wandered off to look at pets and I couldn't find him...	Mattie	8	512	Nov 18, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	Update... (Preview) So as I had shared my son relapsed one week ago today.. Well since he has no longer relapsed I can honestly say for him he just never recovered. He is in such denial. Where did all the stress and worrying and fear send me to !!?? Yes the mental hospital on Wednesday all caused by those factors because I have b...	Gaby	9	335	Nov 18, 2013 by PP
	5 weeks in rehab....2 hours to drink. (Preview) Hi eveyone, My name is Slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Well, after a great revelation of my own about intimacy last night, my dad got home from rehab. I saw he called today, so I phoned back. He's already slurring. Those 5 weeks he was gone felt so relaxing. My sister has decided that she w...	slogan_jim	8	537	Nov 18, 2013 by Tasha
	Is being a decent human being enough? (Preview) My husband is a caring, hardworking, giving man. I know he loves me and he professes it every day. He will go out of his way to make me comfortable and he says many times that he puts me first in our relationship.Except that he likes to drink. He knows how much I hate drinking. So he hides it in his garage and t...	deacon	12	520	Nov 17, 2013 by Mattie
	I'm Addicted to MIP AlAnon (Preview) I'm supposed to be getting ready for work and here I am...Lol.. I just have to vent a tiny bit before I walk out into the living room and see the A sitting at the computer dressed in the same clothes from last week. At least he hardly perspires, so you smell the dirty clothes more than anything else. And yet I...	Raven Juniper	2	322	Nov 17, 2013 by Jerry F
	Thanks Alanon... (Preview) Oh my gosh! This year I had to deal with conflict inside of my group. I was a big part of that! I wasn't the cause though. I would describe it as 'growing pains'. Yesterday we had our area business meeting. It was hosted in my own community... we did have a major crisis, which I won't name, of course! But I wa...	DavidG	4	255	Nov 17, 2013 by grateful2be
	How Addiction Starts (Preview) I was reading about the findings of a researcher on addiction, Karen Ersche. She studies the effects of cocaine on the brain. In the report she says: "I have also become increasingly intriguied by the question of occasional drug use can turn into addiction in some people, while others seem to...	Mattie	7	606	Nov 17, 2013 by DavidG
	Honest (Preview) I'm trying to work an honest program so I thought I would share parts of myself to you, just to be honest really and to get some feedback. I love Al anon, I love the fellowship and its teaching me to be a better person, a more empathetic person, a kinder, more gentle person, but there is a part of me, (not sure...	el-cee	19	545	Nov 16, 2013 by el-cee
	New realizations about weakness and strength (Preview) Hi all! I haven't written for a long time, but I still read often and I just love this board. Alanon and MIP continue to help me change my life in HUGE ways for the better and I am so thankful. I've been going through some tough circumstances. Today and yesterday, I was rolling around some ideas in my head a...	Doozy	2	423	Nov 17, 2013 by hotrod
	Panic Attacks (Preview) Good Morning all I've been having these little mini panic attacks I'm calling them. They aren't that bad but the fear is real and lasts from a few seconds to a few minutes. Sometimes I can't even remember what caused them. Sometimes my son comes to mind. It's all in my head I know but having a hard time...	Cathyinaz	14	619	Nov 17, 2013 by Debilyn
	Inventory (Preview) Hi Everyone Well I'm taking inventory but not my personal inventory...lol WORK . Been here since 6am and it's now 6:45pm I'M TIRED.....	Cathyinaz	5	831	Nov 16, 2013 by PP
	The Pantomime (Preview) Found an arrest warrent.I wasn't snooping. As his drinking and gaming take a deeper and deeper hold on him, his efforts at "being human" subside. Now, nothing is out of bounds. Every dish in the house lives in his room, covered in slime next to his bed amongst the piles of empty bottles and ca...	Melly1248	36	669	Nov 16, 2013 by Melly1248
	STILL... A Work In Progress (Preview) I have resently been working with my "Sponser"/"Sponsers" in trying to rerun the steps, I have Found out Many things in my Recovery, that was right there all along, I just needed someone Outside My Head to Point them Out... I have Often been told that "My Problem" is:...	Jozie	6	470	Nov 16, 2013 by Jerry F
	Small read on relationships and intimacy (share) (Preview) Hi Everyone,My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.I have been doing some thinking about intimacy and the effects of growing up in an alcoholic home. I was searching for some books I could read and maybe some psychological approaches as opposed to shares. I came across this book an...	slogan_jim	4	458	Nov 16, 2013 by slogan_jim
	Update , who is running my life (Preview) Maybe I should not be posting today , I'm not a person that had a good wisdom way for the past several days . My life is out of my hands . I can't find my peace and be happy with myself if I don't know who is in control over my life today . Last week I know some one strong and smart and could see things for what there w...	Wisdom67	1	506	Nov 16, 2013 by hotrod
	Having Gratitude for my Past as well as the Present (Preview) I shared at a meeting the other day that I had been so angry at myself from not living up to my own standards. Sheesh if I can't live up to my standards how can i think anyone else can. I went to bed still angry, this is the time I do my Grat list for my day. But this night I did it in a new way for me. Hoping this may be...	xeno59	4	325	Nov 15, 2013 by Peggy7
	What a HUGE elephant looks like (Preview) Not sure even how to write this. I find writing it out is just as theraputic as the responses. No secret to the MIP family that I have an AH. It's no secret to alot of people. I am happy. I have been keeping up with me (as in meetings, haircuts, clothes, getting to the dentist, visit with friends) I act...	1976love	3	407	Nov 15, 2013 by sweeetr
	Return of the crazy (Preview) This is the most absurd thing I have ever written.Had a massive step backwards yesterday. We were both having good days, we made plans to go out with friends to have dinner that night, all was well. I even felt lighter. I felt happy. When he got home, I tried to very, very nonchalantly ask him about ho...	SpiderArcana	4	343	Nov 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	Little by little (Preview) Little by little, day by day, I learn more and more about me. I learn that I am my own beautiful being. I am not perfect, and that's ok. I love and am loved. I'm unwrapping and some layers are painful and sting. Some wounds I covered with Band-Aids and never quite let them heal. I cry, but I listen. Shhh, its o...	Mari1978	6	200	Nov 15, 2013 by maryjane
	5TH STEP ON THE STEP WORK BOARD (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t55578983/alanon-5th-step/-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 14th of November 2013 04:50:30 PM	hotrod	0	200	Nov 14, 2013 by hotrod
	some did listen! (Preview) feeling happier. Was blessed by some great fb friends who love animals too! I was wanting to say too, about Addicts stopping to use. I have a clock over my stove on the wall. Been up there fourteen or so years. I took it down a couple times but will keep looking up there to see what time it is. Since i moved my s...	Debilyn	3	287	Nov 14, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	drunken ranting about suicide (Preview) My ABF has anger and depression issues and as you can imagine he gets really riled up after he has been drinking. For the last year he regularly rants about killing himself. He says self deprecating things like "I am worth more dead than I am alive" "I wish I had a gun to end all my pain...	sad_dog_mommy	8	650	Nov 14, 2013 by pinkchip
	I feel so numb still.. (Preview) I feel as I have lost my son.. I have so many emotions going through me. I just feel like hiding. I am so sick to his addiction.. It has controlled me and I have a lot of learning to do about detachment!! I have lost myself completely.. I'm so depressed.	Gaby	11	455	Nov 14, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	I'm Back (Preview) re connected to computer today, and all moved into my new apt. Mom is at my brothers now and doing well. I'm withdrawing from the stress of taking care of a sick person. So, I cant say how I'm feeling yet, I know I'm tired from the move and just want to sleep. Glad to be back! Lets get busy...lol..	Bettina	11	395	Nov 14, 2013 by Bettina
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