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CKCS · CKCS

Hi I've attended 2 Al-Anon meetings and I finally feel I've made the right decission. My situation isn't easy. My ex-partner and I split up 2 weeks ago, he's an alcoholic. He admitted cheating and I asked him to leave our home. It's very tough and I'm very confused. I miss him, I love him, he was the love o...

Inrecovery · Inrecovery

I'm never posted here before, but I've been reading here the last month or so. Have been getting so much from keeping up on this board since I can't do as many f2f mtgs as I'd like. Have been going to Alanon mtgs 4 about 4.5 yrs but during these cold winter mon it's been a challenge to get to mtgs more then one...

kickstart77 · kickstart77

I have 3 children. My oldest is almost 18, and has gone a long time without contact with his father, because his father thought our son deserved a dad. So my husband (now ex) took over. You never think the last time would be the last time. We spoke just a couple months ago. I can still hear his voice. We buri...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So my daughter and I have been having a lot of dialog over the past few years about labels. There is something about this generation that is bleeding over into other generations, however I see it most prevalent in the younger kids. Some of the catalyst was because my son came home from a sleepover and h...

Gaby · Gaby

I'm praying for strength .. I dislike this feeling of waking up feeling depressed over some one else's choices and decisions that I allow it to consume my life. I can only pray for my son.. I know gods with us all. Have a blessed day..

el-cee · el-cee

mm830 · mm830

I have been sifting through so much lately. Hold on, let go, it's hard to put into words but it's different, I feel like I have had a breakthrough in my relationship with HP. I am healing, it's through the absolute grace of HP and I could not be more grateful. It's almost on a cellular level, this is maybe cr...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Family.... I have been Going thru Some Major Hurdles Here of Late, and tho I'm still Making My Meetings, and Doing My Work, there are still Times of Great SINKING & back sliding! Thank Goodness for HP, HOPE, FAITH, & The Love of this Program... I Do ask if you have a Second this Thurs. that y...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My son texted me about stolen property. It's OK not to say anything. It's OK....... I don't want to get into anything with him now. Let go let God.....

Gaby · Gaby

Hello all.. I have not been on here for a while.. I have been a bit lost.. I have been attending cross roads and celebrating recovery. I go to church reach out to many people. I am tired of being tired. And I believe my A son just caught his second wind. I know I can not do nothing no more. It's all up to him!! I pr...

BassetHoundMommy · BassetHoundMommy

Without writing a book - Here's where I'm at My husband is an alcoholic. On January 20th, he was drunk and tried to smother me with a pillow. I put him in jail. My husband has NEVER layed a hand on me before (very verbal abusive when drinking though). He has not had a drink since that day. We went to court wher...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

You know sometimes I really miss living in a house out in the country away from the dysfunction of other people!!!!! A place that illegal things are not a normal occurrence that police have to be regular visitors around my neighboring apartments for. Just makes me want to work harder to get my dreams ac...

grateful2be · grateful2be

As I drove - okay call it slid - out of my icy neighborhood yesterday and onto the main thoroughfare edged on each side by huge piles of plowed dirty snow and ice, I saw a blue jay flying from tree to tree. Although the weather predictions for this week call for extreme cold and more snow, the winging blue j...

Turricane · Turricane

I will do my best to condense this "novel". My spouse (wife) of 30+ years has been addicted to alcohol for 15+ years, and prescription pain meds and sedatives for 5+ years. I started attending Al-Anon 15 years ago and did so for several years, but never really "got it". I am an admi...

eddieunger · eddieunger

My mother (~65 years old) is suffering from severe alcoholism and doesn't have any intentions of quitting. She is drinking vodka at all hours and recently finished a fifth in under 24 hours, extremely dangerous for someone that is 95 pounds. I am working to understand the concept of detachment, and t...

bud · bud

Thank you all for support today! First, I met with my Aunt and had an opportunity to make amends, which I did. I'm sure there is more to the dynamics than what's on the surface, but my Aunt said she felt terribly offended. What was the cause? My isolation. I guess while I was trying to survive, she too...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Spent the day testing at the COPD clinic and saw the doctor about all the tests I took. I'm at healthy as a horse ( BIG horse ) ...just can't breath that well. He said for me to ask my doctor to send me to ??? a breathing therapist, a lung clinic?? I don't know but a place where they exercise your lungs and...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I keep getting so stuck in the grief junk. I realized I have never had time from one death to another to heal. NO wonder I am mostly not happy. I kept looking back, not at today. So I changed the thought in my head, when I start to get shakey, feel off balance, my head says,"This is your life." So I l...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I heard that in a meeting last night. Sick is easy Yep, it sure it!

bud · bud

My Aunt said that my parents have been relocated to an end stage facility. They're now in separate rooms. My Aunt and Uncle are emptying their assisted living facility apartment, as my parents will not be returning. My Aunt said that my sister is there today with a truck taking things and asked me wh...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

I'm at a complete, total loss. Had given up hope AH would show a glimmer of changing, was preparing to move at end of school year (had baby in fall and under teacher contract is why the wait). We've been married 13years, the last 6 he's been drinking heavily. Things came to yet another head late November a...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I was talking to my sponsor last night about a few issues I'm having: namely the fact that my AH signed up for a dating website and how I snooped to find out about it. We talked about ME and MY behavior obviously and my responsibilities to myself, etc. She said that many years ago her sponsor had all sponse...

kwas911 · kwas911

I am new to the Al-Anon community. My wife is an alcoholic. For the past several years her drinking, while consistent and excessive, has been open and not life altering. I am not a fan of the "High Functioning Alcoholic" label, but for lack of a better description, that was my wife. She o...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Sorry I haven't been around in meetings lately however, I had to have a double bypass last Monday. Things are going as well as can be expected. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life. So my message to you all is do not let the stress get to you. Stress is a killer. Take it...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

Hiya guys and gals, I am coming off a crazy week of chaos (courtesy my AH). 1. Suicide attempt w/ booze and pills----went to ER 2. released from ER zonked out on meds (sent home in cab and then he drove----crashed his car) 3.DWI 4.released from DWI hold, threatened suicide---went to crisis center 5....

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...yes we also get to have "hangovers" and I have one now. I didn't remind myself of the outcome before we (my wife and I) listened to and talked with my grand-daughter. Her dad, my eldest son, has relapsed and pretty well nuked as many family members as he could in the proces...

Mimi3 · Mimi3

It was just there I always asked myself what was meant by " A Spiritual Awakening."I was so curious but nobody in Al-Anon could tell me about it. And then one day it happened in my life; my spiritual awakening was there! I don't know where it came from and I don't know how it came. It was just...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

I'm up again. It's after 4 am. It's been like this for a year now. I stopped my anti depressants last January, got off birth control and separated from my parents all within a span of 30 days. Some nights I would lie in bed terrified that someone was trying to kill me. In the spring I had a sleep paralysis epi...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight, an al-anon friend invited me over as we were going to go to a movie, to celebrate my birthday, which was yesterday. I got on the road and they were so slippery that my tires were spinning. It would have been an hour before I go...

AmyK · AmyK

Its been a few weeks since I've been on here, I've finally been able to get to f2f meetings but havnt been in a while since we just got back from vacation. Anyways, Last night my Husband and I got into a disagreement about finances, it did not escalate into an argument but it sure did leave him in a bad mood....

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Im tired of believing and trusting what my AH tells "Ill be back"! I know that he is not, and he knows that I hate when he lies, and he tells me every times "trust me"! I'm so tired of those words! Thursday I came home from work he was not home, and Friday morning on my way to work, I tex...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

While this is not from CAL, I think it aligns well with the spirit of Al Anon and MIP and taking care of ourselves. If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like: When loved ones come home, always run to greet them; Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride; Allow the experience of fresh air an...

Hope2000 · Hope2000

So last night I went out with friends from work. Had a great time, laughed so hard my stomach hurt a few times. I did have a few drinks. I didn't think once about what my AH was doing. He knew I wa going, I planned other arrangements for my kids since I can't depend on him. Came home, great mood, he of course had...

Snowflake74 · Snowflake74

To begin, I am dating someone who clearly has an addiction to alcohol. When we met two years ago I knew that he was a widower and he mentioned that when his wife passed away he took 6 months off from life and temporarily lost custody of his daughter. He said it wasn't like he was an alcoholic, he just self me...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Finally understood what I have been trying to do for so long, and why it didn't work. And why I have been so freaking tired and sad for so long. See, I had accepted my powerlessness over someone else's drinking, gambling, whatever. I really had. Drink, gamble, whatever buddy. Do what you like. But I rea...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Note that she now has her head OUT OF THE SAND and is standing near the water, LOL!

tortuga · tortuga

just checking in I'm walking steady. After beating myself up and reaching a very personal LOW last week, i stood up, worked hard on forgiving myself. Then I took the advice given here, and taking care of myself. Eating well, enjoying the process of cooking and tasting

. Sleeping well, enjoying the...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I dont get how some wives of AH, can say " I just deal with my AH"! It just pisses me off, when I hear that! The wife of the guy my husband spend days at time at there home, lets her AH drink every single day and spend the money he makes on booze, that they dont have cable, or internet and no car. How is t...

Lost72 · Lost72

I am new to this forum and i am trying to find online Alanon meetings that fit my time...i live in Italy, work at a military base as a teacher... My AH just returned from his second trip to rehab In the last year...he went in this second time almost a year to the day of his admission last year...this time arou...

mccr · mccr

Here's another question...I am at an interesting spot in my AH's addiction process and all these things are coming up I have not dealt with before due to the progression of his disease. How do you tell him, without causing a fight, that you hesitate to be social with old friends bc he will get drunk and em...

neshema2 · neshema2

Sorry I haven't been around much of this past few days...Called my bio mom's sister who favored me since I was born...She rescued me many times from her "sister" and her abuse, locking me in crates, My mama Aunt Helen would "free" me, change my filthy diapers, feed me, hold me an...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

I found this video on a dry drunk because I did not no if my A sober husband was this so I figure I post it for others to see http://youtu.be/hhZ2HFFuASY

barbaralewis · barbaralewis

we ( me, husband, adult A Dtr who is 6 months sober) would like to help our adult A son get into a state run rehab program. he is in denial, total denial, as his life is spiraling down the drain. no one in the family is enabling him financially. He lives in another state, and will soon be without a phone, has n...

OT71 · OT71

Is there any way to flag a topic I want to return to when I sign on again as on other sites?

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Last night, I was at work and knew that I had some things to do before I went to my therapy with my therapist at 7pm. I was talking to my one of my four doctors I work for, and have grown to be very close to him and see hime as a father figure. I have told him the struggles Im having to deal and cope with my husband al...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello today is like any other day just when I saw how happy and good my husband 1 year sober how the house had peace then 2 months ago the house became sick again , I think I had something to do with it . I have been staying away from my husband he has been not supporting me during my time of needs with other issue...

mccr · mccr

Hello, New to this forum. I have a sex question. My alcoholic husband has been pestering me and been verbally abusive about not 'performing wifely duties' regularly for a few months. Problem is, I can't bring myself to do this when he is drunk. I just disgusts me. I have told him (when sober) that this i...

lenii263 · lenii263

My youngest daughter(47) is an alcoholic. She has hidden it over the years well, but in the last few years, it is evident. I finally confronted her last summer. She still calls me and pretends. I just can't do it anymore. I am getting too old(74), and have other rather stressful things going on with othe...

hopes314 · hopes314

I was sleeping and then a nightmare woke me up. I wish my mindwasn't so active. This is when I say the senerity prayer to calm me down to sleep. I was thinking to start a gratitude thread to put healthy ideas in my head before I try to go back to bed. So thankful FOR Alnon friends and program For my wee kids wh...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of Al-Anon. I am feeling very blessed today. The other day, I was feeling very low on myself because of my inflated ego and arrogant sense of self-worth. I was upset that I could have been doing more....making more....why me? blah blah. Then,...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Yesterday, I was at my home group meeting and I left feeling very special. After the meeting concluded, one of the members had made cupcakes for my upcoming birthday. We all sat down and enjoyed them and it was truly a great feeling...

John · John

While at a meeting last night, I put my keys, phone and cup of coffee under the seat I was sitting in. A woman sitting behind me, quietly took my keys and left the meeting. No one in the meeting thought anything of it. I went outside about half way through it, not knowing my keys had been taken... walked int...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning my family I have been saying the serenity prayer for a hour now. We here at work and have a co-worker that is driving us crazy. She is good at what she does......ONLY when she does it. Most of the time she fiddle farts around until the last few hours of the day and then she is SO SO busy she can'...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

It was a mixed emotion type of weekend, alternating exhilaration over getting myself a little car, and buyer's remorse when I discovered several repairs that will not be cheap, plus the registration, emissions and insurance all due this week. There are a couple of things wrong with the car that...

Rose50 · Rose50

I haven't posted in a while - been feeling out of sorts. I'm very unhappy with my job. It's not the work - it's the micro-manager boss who loves to point out any little mistake. I am tired of her snide remarks. Being pro-active and taking my time looking for something - being careful this time so as not to ma...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am trying to sit in these terrible high chairs at the library! It is going to be hard from now on to write on this site. I am not being negative but I feel that the library is making it harder for me to sit here for the full hour they allow us daily. I have a really hard time writing on here on my tablet as I have s...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Deep inside of me , I want to write my AH a letter stating how I feel about his relaps, but another part of me tells me "NO, TAKE CARE OF YOUR EMOTIONS HE DONT CARE"!

neshema2 · neshema2

TWELVE years in recovery on Feb 15th....I looked it up, my first ever , afraid, post on this old site that is still open, but i had to ask the owner who is my dear dear friend..."hey what is my date..I know its in Feb. around the middle and he told me....he remembered b/c I came in his "room"...

Beatrice · Beatrice

"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, But on building the new." Socrates

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I really need prayers. Things have turned ugly here, so bad that I don't even want to share the details. Lets just say ABF went on a rampage. Or a bender I guess. he hurt us, terrified us. He hurt my girl. She cried in my arms, mum can we please leave him. OK. I sent her away to stay with a friend. Im missing her s...

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	I'm new (Preview) Hi I've attended 2 Al-Anon meetings and I finally feel I've made the right decission. My situation isn't easy. My ex-partner and I split up 2 weeks ago, he's an alcoholic. He admitted cheating and I asked him to leave our home. It's very tough and I'm very confused. I miss him, I love him, he was the love o...	CKCS	11	311	Feb 26, 2014 by CKCS
	New to MIP (Preview) I'm never posted here before, but I've been reading here the last month or so. Have been getting so much from keeping up on this board since I can't do as many f2f mtgs as I'd like. Have been going to Alanon mtgs 4 about 4.5 yrs but during these cold winter mon it's been a challenge to get to mtgs more then one...	Inrecovery	6	276	Feb 26, 2014 by Debilyn
	My son's father, and my children's dad (not the same person) (Preview) I have 3 children. My oldest is almost 18, and has gone a long time without contact with his father, because his father thought our son deserved a dad. So my husband (now ex) took over. You never think the last time would be the last time. We spoke just a couple months ago. I can still hear his voice. We buri...	kickstart77	2	213	Feb 26, 2014 by Tracy
	Labels and the damage they can do .. (Preview) So my daughter and I have been having a lot of dialog over the past few years about labels. There is something about this generation that is bleeding over into other generations, however I see it most prevalent in the younger kids. Some of the catalyst was because my son came home from a sleepover and h...	SerenityRUS	12	614	Feb 26, 2014 by Mari1978
	Praying !! (Preview) I'm praying for strength .. I dislike this feeling of waking up feeling depressed over some one else's choices and decisions that I allow it to consume my life. I can only pray for my son.. I know gods with us all. Have a blessed day..	Gaby	9	287	Feb 26, 2014 by ilovedogs
	Its coming soon! (Preview)	el-cee	13	705	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	Healing (Preview) I have been sifting through so much lately. Hold on, let go, it's hard to put into words but it's different, I feel like I have had a breakthrough in my relationship with HP. I am healing, it's through the absolute grace of HP and I could not be more grateful. It's almost on a cellular level, this is maybe cr...	mm830	3	270	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	Becareful what you ask HP For :) (Preview) Hello Family.... I have been Going thru Some Major Hurdles Here of Late, and tho I'm still Making My Meetings, and Doing My Work, there are still Times of Great SINKING & back sliding! Thank Goodness for HP, HOPE, FAITH, & The Love of this Program... I Do ask if you have a Second this Thurs. that y...	Jozie	2	287	Feb 25, 2014 by hotrod
	Texting (Preview) My son texted me about stolen property. It's OK not to say anything. It's OK....... I don't want to get into anything with him now. Let go let God.....	Cathyinaz	13	425	Feb 25, 2014 by Debilyn
	I have to work on me !! (Preview) Hello all.. I have not been on here for a while.. I have been a bit lost.. I have been attending cross roads and celebrating recovery. I go to church reach out to many people. I am tired of being tired. And I believe my A son just caught his second wind. I know I can not do nothing no more. It's all up to him!! I pr...	Gaby	6	501	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	New and confused (Preview) Without writing a book - Here's where I'm at My husband is an alcoholic. On January 20th, he was drunk and tried to smother me with a pillow. I put him in jail. My husband has NEVER layed a hand on me before (very verbal abusive when drinking though). He has not had a drink since that day. We went to court wher...	BassetHoundMommy	9	450	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Under age drinking next door, fighting bf and gf all hours and apartment living oh my...... (Preview) You know sometimes I really miss living in a house out in the country away from the dysfunction of other people!!!!! A place that illegal things are not a normal occurrence that police have to be regular visitors around my neighboring apartments for. Just makes me want to work harder to get my dreams ac...	Breakingfree	7	488	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Spring (Preview) As I drove - okay call it slid - out of my icy neighborhood yesterday and onto the main thoroughfare edged on each side by huge piles of plowed dirty snow and ice, I saw a blue jay flying from tree to tree. Although the weather predictions for this week call for extreme cold and more snow, the winging blue j...	grateful2be	16	313	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Very conflicted... (Preview) I will do my best to condense this "novel". My spouse (wife) of 30+ years has been addicted to alcohol for 15+ years, and prescription pain meds and sedatives for 5+ years. I started attending Al-Anon 15 years ago and did so for several years, but never really "got it". I am an admi...	Turricane	11	624	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Seeking suggestions (Preview) My mother (~65 years old) is suffering from severe alcoholism and doesn't have any intentions of quitting. She is drinking vodka at all hours and recently finished a fifth in under 24 hours, extremely dangerous for someone that is 95 pounds. I am working to understand the concept of detachment, and t...	eddieunger	13	348	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	He tried to attack me- I'm shaken, but ok (Preview) Thank you all for support today! First, I met with my Aunt and had an opportunity to make amends, which I did. I'm sure there is more to the dynamics than what's on the surface, but my Aunt said she felt terribly offended. What was the cause? My isolation. I guess while I was trying to survive, she too...	bud	23	617	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	I'm Healthy (Preview) Spent the day testing at the COPD clinic and saw the doctor about all the tests I took. I'm at healthy as a horse ( BIG horse ) ...just can't breath that well. He said for me to ask my doctor to send me to ??? a breathing therapist, a lung clinic?? I don't know but a place where they exercise your lungs and...	Cathyinaz	13	1406	Feb 24, 2014 by Tasha
	working at it....in neutral (Preview) I keep getting so stuck in the grief junk. I realized I have never had time from one death to another to heal. NO wonder I am mostly not happy. I kept looking back, not at today. So I changed the thought in my head, when I start to get shakey, feel off balance, my head says,"This is your life." So I l...	Debilyn	7	443	Feb 24, 2014 by el-cee
	Sick is easy (Preview) I heard that in a meeting last night. Sick is easy Yep, it sure it!	ilovedogs	35	800	Feb 24, 2014 by grateful2be
	Much less than the afterthought :-( (Preview) My Aunt said that my parents have been relocated to an end stage facility. They're now in separate rooms. My Aunt and Uncle are emptying their assisted living facility apartment, as my parents will not be returning. My Aunt said that my sister is there today with a truck taking things and asked me wh...	bud	25	583	Feb 24, 2014 by bud
	At a complete loss (Preview) I'm at a complete, total loss. Had given up hope AH would show a glimmer of changing, was preparing to move at end of school year (had baby in fall and under teacher contract is why the wait). We've been married 13years, the last 6 he's been drinking heavily. Things came to yet another head late November a...	Kerrymom	7	415	Feb 24, 2014 by Breakingfree
	The FIVE C's (Preview) I was talking to my sponsor last night about a few issues I'm having: namely the fact that my AH signed up for a dating website and how I snooped to find out about it. We talked about ME and MY behavior obviously and my responsibilities to myself, etc. She said that many years ago her sponsor had all sponse...	ilovedogs	6	2633	Feb 23, 2014 by Lyne
	Living with alcoholic spouse vs leaving (Preview) I am new to the Al-Anon community. My wife is an alcoholic. For the past several years her drinking, while consistent and excessive, has been open and not life altering. I am not a fan of the "High Functioning Alcoholic" label, but for lack of a better description, that was my wife. She o...	kwas911	12	3960	Feb 23, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Open Heart Surgery (Preview) Hello Friends, Sorry I haven't been around in meetings lately however, I had to have a double bypass last Monday. Things are going as well as can be expected. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life. So my message to you all is do not let the stress get to you. Stress is a killer. Take it...	Andrea12	7	290	Feb 23, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Okay that was one CRAZY week (Preview) Hiya guys and gals, I am coming off a crazy week of chaos (courtesy my AH). 1. Suicide attempt w/ booze and pills----went to ER 2. released from ER zonked out on meds (sent home in cab and then he drove----crashed his car) 3.DWI 4.released from DWI hold, threatened suicide---went to crisis center 5....	jillybean1	7	347	Feb 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	The hangover... (Preview) Aloha Family...yes we also get to have "hangovers" and I have one now. I didn't remind myself of the outcome before we (my wife and I) listened to and talked with my grand-daughter. Her dad, my eldest son, has relapsed and pretty well nuked as many family members as he could in the proces...	Jerry F	12	463	Feb 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	SUNDAY MORNING SPIRITUAL MEETING 10 A.M. (EST) TOPIC IS: WHAT UNEXPECTED BLESSINGS HAVE I RECEIVED IN AL-ANON? (Preview) It was just there I always asked myself what was meant by " A Spiritual Awakening."I was so curious but nobody in Al-Anon could tell me about it. And then one day it happened in my life; my spiritual awakening was there! I don't know where it came from and I don't know how it came. It was just...	Mimi3	0	176	Feb 23, 2014 by Mimi3
	Awake again...share (Preview) I'm up again. It's after 4 am. It's been like this for a year now. I stopped my anti depressants last January, got off birth control and separated from my parents all within a span of 30 days. Some nights I would lie in bed terrified that someone was trying to kill me. In the spring I had a sleep paralysis epi...	StargazerLily	2	363	Feb 23, 2014 by Jerry F
	I feel like such a An..... (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight, an al-anon friend invited me over as we were going to go to a movie, to celebrate my birthday, which was yesterday. I got on the road and they were so slippery that my tires were spinning. It would have been an hour before I go...	slogan_jim	16	1500	Feb 22, 2014 by wp
	Called police on husband last night now feeling conflicted. vent? (Preview) Its been a few weeks since I've been on here, I've finally been able to get to f2f meetings but havnt been in a while since we just got back from vacation. Anyways, Last night my Husband and I got into a disagreement about finances, it did not escalate into an argument but it sure did leave him in a bad mood....	AmyK	16	640	Feb 22, 2014 by AmyK
	Why do I bother to believe him! (Preview) Im tired of believing and trusting what my AH tells "Ill be back"! I know that he is not, and he knows that I hate when he lies, and he tells me every times "trust me"! I'm so tired of those words! Thursday I came home from work he was not home, and Friday morning on my way to work, I tex...	NavySealWife	10	705	Feb 22, 2014 by OT71
	What we could learn from our dogs (Preview) While this is not from CAL, I think it aligns well with the spirit of Al Anon and MIP and taking care of ourselves. If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like: When loved ones come home, always run to greet them; Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride; Allow the experience of fresh air an...	KennyFenderjazz	8	232	Feb 22, 2014 by BassetHoundMommy
	Strange (Preview) So last night I went out with friends from work. Had a great time, laughed so hard my stomach hurt a few times. I did have a few drinks. I didn't think once about what my AH was doing. He knew I wa going, I planned other arrangements for my kids since I can't depend on him. Came home, great mood, he of course had...	Hope2000	6	351	Feb 22, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Hi I'm new here and pretty confused (Preview) To begin, I am dating someone who clearly has an addiction to alcohol. When we met two years ago I knew that he was a widower and he mentioned that when his wife passed away he took 6 months off from life and temporarily lost custody of his daughter. He said it wasn't like he was an alcoholic, he just self me...	Snowflake74	8	482	Feb 21, 2014 by Snowflake74
	Ohh. That's what i wasn't seeing. (Preview) Finally understood what I have been trying to do for so long, and why it didn't work. And why I have been so freaking tired and sad for so long. See, I had accepted my powerlessness over someone else's drinking, gambling, whatever. I really had. Drink, gamble, whatever buddy. Do what you like. But I rea...	Melly1248	19	814	Feb 21, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Here's my ostrich (Preview) Note that she now has her head OUT OF THE SAND and is standing near the water, LOL!	ilovedogs	19	438	Feb 21, 2014 by grateful2be
	update.. (Preview) just checking in I'm walking steady. After beating myself up and reaching a very personal LOW last week, i stood up, worked hard on forgiving myself. Then I took the advice given here, and taking care of myself. Eating well, enjoying the process of cooking and tasting . Sleeping well, enjoying the...	tortuga	4	299	Feb 21, 2014 by Jerry F
	Relax, but annoyed! (Preview) I dont get how some wives of AH, can say " I just deal with my AH"! It just pisses me off, when I hear that! The wife of the guy my husband spend days at time at there home, lets her AH drink every single day and spend the money he makes on booze, that they dont have cable, or internet and no car. How is t...	NavySealWife	6	406	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Spinning in circles... (Preview) I am new to this forum and i am trying to find online Alanon meetings that fit my time...i live in Italy, work at a military base as a teacher... My AH just returned from his second trip to rehab In the last year...he went in this second time almost a year to the day of his admission last year...this time arou...	Lost72	3	365	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Social Settings (Preview) Here's another question...I am at an interesting spot in my AH's addiction process and all these things are coming up I have not dealt with before due to the progression of his disease. How do you tell him, without causing a fight, that you hesitate to be social with old friends bc he will get drunk and em...	mccr	4	406	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	preparing for a death of a loved one (Preview) Sorry I haven't been around much of this past few days...Called my bio mom's sister who favored me since I was born...She rescued me many times from her "sister" and her abuse, locking me in crates, My mama Aunt Helen would "free" me, change my filthy diapers, feed me, hold me an...	neshema2	12	480	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Dry drunk (Preview) I found this video on a dry drunk because I did not no if my A sober husband was this so I figure I post it for others to see http://youtu.be/hhZ2HFFuASY	Wisdom67	2	266	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Please give input on intervention (Preview) we ( me, husband, adult A Dtr who is 6 months sober) would like to help our adult A son get into a state run rehab program. he is in denial, total denial, as his life is spiraling down the drain. no one in the family is enabling him financially. He lives in another state, and will soon be without a phone, has n...	barbaralewis	12	540	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Question About Return To Site (Preview) Is there any way to flag a topic I want to return to when I sign on again as on other sites?	OT71	1	211	Feb 21, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Its it normal that I dont care if he comes home or not? (Preview) Last night, I was at work and knew that I had some things to do before I went to my therapy with my therapist at 7pm. I was talking to my one of my four doctors I work for, and have grown to be very close to him and see hime as a father figure. I have told him the struggles Im having to deal and cope with my husband al...	NavySealWife	8	607	Feb 21, 2014 by OT71
	Sad sad diease (Preview) Hello today is like any other day just when I saw how happy and good my husband 1 year sober how the house had peace then 2 months ago the house became sick again , I think I had something to do with it . I have been staying away from my husband he has been not supporting me during my time of needs with other issue...	Wisdom67	6	510	Feb 21, 2014 by PP
	INTIMACY QUESTION (Preview) Hello, New to this forum. I have a sex question. My alcoholic husband has been pestering me and been verbally abusive about not 'performing wifely duties' regularly for a few months. Problem is, I can't bring myself to do this when he is drunk. I just disgusts me. I have told him (when sober) that this i...	mccr	14	549	Feb 21, 2014 by mccr
	Can't do it anymore (Preview) My youngest daughter(47) is an alcoholic. She has hidden it over the years well, but in the last few years, it is evident. I finally confronted her last summer. She still calls me and pretends. I just can't do it anymore. I am getting too old(74), and have other rather stressful things going on with othe...	lenii263	9	406	Feb 21, 2014 by Grace7
	why oh why i cant sleep (Preview) I was sleeping and then a nightmare woke me up. I wish my mindwasn't so active. This is when I say the senerity prayer to calm me down to sleep. I was thinking to start a gratitude thread to put healthy ideas in my head before I try to go back to bed. So thankful FOR Alnon friends and program For my wee kids wh...	hopes314	5	320	Feb 20, 2014 by Beatrice
	First World Problems....feeling blessed today (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of Al-Anon. I am feeling very blessed today. The other day, I was feeling very low on myself because of my inflated ego and arrogant sense of self-worth. I was upset that I could have been doing more....making more....why me? blah blah. Then,...	slogan_jim	2	179	Feb 20, 2014 by Jerry F
	Great meeting yesterday but still feeling low. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Yesterday, I was at my home group meeting and I left feeling very special. After the meeting concluded, one of the members had made cupcakes for my upcoming birthday. We all sat down and enjoyed them and it was truly a great feeling...	slogan_jim	5	329	Feb 20, 2014 by Breakingfree
	My car stolen in a Meeting!! (Preview) While at a meeting last night, I put my keys, phone and cup of coffee under the seat I was sitting in. A woman sitting behind me, quietly took my keys and left the meeting. No one in the meeting thought anything of it. I went outside about half way through it, not knowing my keys had been taken... walked int...	John	11	645	Feb 20, 2014 by Breakingfree
	God Please help me to keep my mouth shut (Preview) Good Morning my family I have been saying the serenity prayer for a hour now. We here at work and have a co-worker that is driving us crazy. She is good at what she does......ONLY when she does it. Most of the time she fiddle farts around until the last few hours of the day and then she is SO SO busy she can'...	Cathyinaz	11	773	Feb 20, 2014 by milkwood
	darn potholes (Preview) It was a mixed emotion type of weekend, alternating exhilaration over getting myself a little car, and buyer's remorse when I discovered several repairs that will not be cheap, plus the registration, emissions and insurance all due this week. There are a couple of things wrong with the car that...	Raven Juniper	5	334	Feb 19, 2014 by ilovedogs
	Hanging in there (Preview) I haven't posted in a while - been feeling out of sorts. I'm very unhappy with my job. It's not the work - it's the micro-manager boss who loves to point out any little mistake. I am tired of her snide remarks. Being pro-active and taking my time looking for something - being careful this time so as not to ma...	Rose50	9	400	Feb 19, 2014 by el-cee
	these doggone high chairs! (Preview) I am trying to sit in these terrible high chairs at the library! It is going to be hard from now on to write on this site. I am not being negative but I feel that the library is making it harder for me to sit here for the full hour they allow us daily. I have a really hard time writing on here on my tablet as I have s...	Hoot Nanny	5	192	Feb 19, 2014 by cwya
	Deep inside of me wants me to write him a letter...... (Preview) Deep inside of me , I want to write my AH a letter stating how I feel about his relaps, but another part of me tells me "NO, TAKE CARE OF YOUR EMOTIONS HE DONT CARE"!	NavySealWife	11	376	Feb 18, 2014 by Jerry F
	Happy anniversary to me (Preview) TWELVE years in recovery on Feb 15th....I looked it up, my first ever , afraid, post on this old site that is still open, but i had to ask the owner who is my dear dear friend..."hey what is my date..I know its in Feb. around the middle and he told me....he remembered b/c I came in his "room"...	neshema2	11	860	Feb 18, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Good ole Socrates (Preview) "The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, But on building the new." Socrates	Beatrice	1	193	Feb 18, 2014 by hotrod
	Ugly stuff. (Preview) I really need prayers. Things have turned ugly here, so bad that I don't even want to share the details. Lets just say ABF went on a rampage. Or a bender I guess. he hurt us, terrified us. He hurt my girl. She cried in my arms, mum can we please leave him. OK. I sent her away to stay with a friend. Im missing her s...	Melly1248	24	672	Feb 18, 2014 by Cathyinaz
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