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LucyLynn · LucyLynn

I am new to this. Don't really know where to begin... Ive come to the realization my husband IS a alcoholic and will probably NEVER change. We are both 31, been married 7 years and have two children age 3 and 18mo. A few years ago when i was pregnant with our daughter i noticed he started to drink very heavil...

Dealiing with family members · daisy31

I am working on learning how to deal with family dynamics and I have been getting a lot better. I have been having a struggle with my Brother in law. He likes to make these comments about how I am not bubbly enough and he says I am just not fun enough. He also calls me "grandma" often when he is refe...

Hollywood · Hollywood

Where to begin... my AW suggested I seek out alanon. Having grown up with an abusive drunk father I swore I would never re-live that kind of life. Fast forward 35 years later I fall in love and marry a recovering heroine addict. 6 months in were awesome however recently she relapsed and started todo...

ashcrash · ashcrash

I'm starting to feel pretty stupid. I've known my husband for 14 years, and yes I knew he drank as a teenager. But, I guess I hoped he'd grow up. He will have one or two (or 3...) beers or glasses of wine just about nightly. But I dread the weekends. From Friday night until Saturday night he drinks. It's not...

bud · bud

Oh how denial runs deep and how easy it is to slip into a seemly easier path of least resistance by pretending. Only, it's not like being a child and playing dress up or being a favorite super-hero. I often think of the children's book, "The Velveteen Rabbit", when the rabbit asks, "...

Snowflake74 · Snowflake74

This weekend marks 16 days since by boyfriend crawled into a bottle. Last night after dropping my children off with their Dad I returned to town to pick up his teenage daughter from their house. Normally I would spend the weekend there, but not when he is like this. I went inside and he was on the couch cry...

Tan · Tan

Hi all, I have been reading many many posts, over the last several weeks- so I almost feel like I know some of you.... like in real life , I have been too shy, embarrassed, unworthy- etc etc- to share, but so many of you have such meaningful, healthy, outlooks and ideas for growth that I must ask a question t...

debhud · debhud

my 38 year old A son is definitely the "favorite" of all of the 8 grandchildren. (none who are cursed with this fatal disease) my parents do EVERYTHING for him and little for the others. he is active in his addiction and not working. my parents pay ALL of his bills. they babysit for his son...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I have been working so much, that today was the first day after few days of not being here with my family supporter. My husband relapse four weeks straight with drinking after being sober for two and half year. The last time that I think of that he has told me was the firs day he came home and retired from th...

newbie2014 · newbie2014

did I not learn anything 30 years ago? I was fortunate in that I had a clean and sober partner for a long time until the feelings of despair overcame him once again, he is also bi polar one which has been a struggle all those years. Right now he is on a downward spiral and I do not know how to help. Al anon help...

Akavanagh · Akavanagh

And looked through the trash and found what I was looking for. Empty bottles. *Sigh* It resulted in a heated "talk" between us and A doesn't understand why i make such a big deal about these things, and insists he tries to hide it BECAUSE i get so upset make such a big deal about these things. I g...

Cool82 · Cool82

I've come to the realization that my husband is a Functioning (not really) Alcoholic. After years of problem drinking, ups and downs in our relationship and what is now surfacing as financial issues, I caught him drinking secretly again last night. "Caught him" puts me in the position...

astallaslions · astallaslions

I feel I'm nearing a crossroads in my life. Yet, I still feel this sense of dread, because I know the courses of action and the decisions I must make to better my situation for ME, will inevitably leave my A behind to catch up. Within the next year I"m going back to school. I've yet to decide in state or...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Soon I will hopefully be looking at purchasing my first home. In the next few months I will be undertaking on a big project in my life. I have been preparing for it for awhile and it is a major step in a person's life. Unlike most, (ther...

tortuga · tortuga

this month was a difficult one, but I also had some little break throughs waiting for me. i tried to keep the focus on me, and it's nice to feel a bit of 'wholeness' again. I am carefully forgiving myself, and am now learning to accept the critic in me. I realized that what I criticize in others, is the part i...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

No one is worth my serenity. Know where others' stuff ends and mine begins.

likemyheart · likemyheart

There are some things that beat the sh*t out of me. My grown kid, unaffected by mr. ex's bs (because he came after her) continues to lavish praise onto her in-laws and I get no thanks for all the years I spent devoted entirely to her (how many hours I spent sitting in a car in the rain while her father went fis...

Katy · Katy

When I first came to alanon, my whole being and life was engulfed in and by my alchoholic, my mood my happiness my sence of who I was, all of it was in my mind dependent on him and his behavours, hand on my heart I did not believe alanon or anything come to that matter could show me a way to live any differently...

Gaby · Gaby

The week is early. Lots of fear.. But I pray and pray for me and my son..! I have to always say to me self he makes his own choices!! I can not control him.. I can not cure him and I am not the cause of this ugly disease !! He knows I love him but this is his addiction .. I do not have to allow it to consume my life!! It'...

lookingup · lookingup

i finally find out the truth that he had been hiding his drinking all along,I confronted him 3x then he told me he drank margerittas instead of beer but still changed his behavior when he ,he being my a b/f, came in after work,he called me from work and humbly apologized for his behavior and he went on to sa...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Hi all. Time for an update. I've come on here a few times over the last week and a half, started to write something, read over it, sighed, deleted it...who'd have thought, me with nothing to write? lol. I just haven't had much...I dunno...spirit or something. That first week was horrible. I didn't spe...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Hi Everyone. When I wake up in the morning sometimes, before I've had coffee, everything is very clear. Coffee hides my feelings. Without it it, I see so clearly that I have to clean up some things from the last several years. I'm not talking about amends (I do those too.) I'm talking about setting bound...

tortuga · tortuga

I stumbled over a movie by coincidence (or faith) last night ..'' 'Thanks for sharing' with Tim Robbins, Gwyneth Paltrow et al. very interesting to see life's stories in a movie, not overdone, not exaggerated, not minimized. I found it interesting to feel both sides of the streets in a more detached w...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I just wanted to post to you all how much I appreciate each and every one of you. My AH has been gone now since Dec. 27. It has been a LONG, bitterly cold winter here in northern Minnesota. This site has helped me so much, on so many different levels this winter. I don't always post after reading, because you...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Lots of thoughts have sprung into my mind lately...there's hasn't been much going on around here, at least not on the surface. But I've been learning everyday and for that I'm very grateful. It truly is about Progress, Not Perfection, isn't it? I started likening living with my A to being at one of t...

marieanne · marieanne

Hi all, I never thought I would join a message board for alcoholics. My 25 yr old daughter is an alcoholic. I don't know what to do. She has admitted the fact that she is an alcoholic, went to 1 meeting, and said all the people there were weird/crazy..not for her. I suggested counseling. No go. The ot...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

Just wanted to check in. Things have been shockingly quiet here. AH seems to have really taken to heart everything I've said, and has been very, very mindful about his actions. He helps with things without me asking, is trying to cook more for us and eat healthier, more exercise, etc. I truly hope i...

el-cee · el-cee

I hate the drama this disease causes. The noise and chaos, Its very difficult to find and keep serenity when it continues on and on. The manipulation used to keep it alive is draining. I think Im beginning to realise that Im no match, I cant keep one step ahead anymore and maybe I never ever was. Actually I...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

You know that addicts and alcoholics let you down, so I learned to take care of myself and not rely on them. I got on the system in order to work only part time so I can go back to school full time in order to get a career and be totally self supporting in my future. Now I am slowing school down to part time th...

Dee F · Dee F

Hello. I was recently asked to sponsor someone. This would be my first experience as a sponsor. I am thrilled and at the same time, a bit nervous. I have read the 2014-2017 Service Manual, Courage to Change and Hope For Today regarding sponsorship. Also, I have the "What Sponsorship Is and W...

jodiee34 · jodiee34

My wife is my A. We married last July after it became legal for us. I was just wondering if there were any others on here other than me. :) Would be happy to chat to just share experiences.

barbaralewis · barbaralewis

good news! my daughter starts her job today.....first "real" job in the field she used to be in (as in, not working in our family biz) since she changed her life after she unsuccessfully tried to take it 6 months ago. there is a lot to be thankful for....i'm going to quit worrying about what i...

el-cee · el-cee

Dear Alcoholism You are a thief, a taker of good and a giver of bad. You are a monster and are in nightmares. You are toxic and pollute families with fumes that poison the minds of everyone you touch. You steal peace of mind and in its place put fear. You take hold with an iron grip and don't let go. You are bl...

Inrecovery · Inrecovery

I'm new to typing. I was in the chatroom this morn at 9:00 and then all of a sudden it comes up that the MIP site is currently unavailable an I can't get in anymore. Do I have to do something that I'm unaware of or what???

hopes314 · hopes314

I started reading AA life stories. Why? I wanted to understand and I sort of have a better picture. I see how they think --unbelievable. They do not want to be alcoholics and I wish there were not either. My heart breaks to see their struggle yo overcome the urge to drink. It is insane to do something th...

CKCS · CKCS

Hi I've attended 2 Al-Anon meetings and I finally feel I've made the right decission. My situation isn't easy. My ex-partner and I split up 2 weeks ago, he's an alcoholic. He admitted cheating and I asked him to leave our home. It's very tough and I'm very confused. I miss him, I love him, he was the love o...

Inrecovery · Inrecovery

I'm never posted here before, but I've been reading here the last month or so. Have been getting so much from keeping up on this board since I can't do as many f2f mtgs as I'd like. Have been going to Alanon mtgs 4 about 4.5 yrs but during these cold winter mon it's been a challenge to get to mtgs more then one...

kickstart77 · kickstart77

I have 3 children. My oldest is almost 18, and has gone a long time without contact with his father, because his father thought our son deserved a dad. So my husband (now ex) took over. You never think the last time would be the last time. We spoke just a couple months ago. I can still hear his voice. We buri...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So my daughter and I have been having a lot of dialog over the past few years about labels. There is something about this generation that is bleeding over into other generations, however I see it most prevalent in the younger kids. Some of the catalyst was because my son came home from a sleepover and h...

Gaby · Gaby

I'm praying for strength .. I dislike this feeling of waking up feeling depressed over some one else's choices and decisions that I allow it to consume my life. I can only pray for my son.. I know gods with us all. Have a blessed day..

el-cee · el-cee

mm830 · mm830

I have been sifting through so much lately. Hold on, let go, it's hard to put into words but it's different, I feel like I have had a breakthrough in my relationship with HP. I am healing, it's through the absolute grace of HP and I could not be more grateful. It's almost on a cellular level, this is maybe cr...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Family.... I have been Going thru Some Major Hurdles Here of Late, and tho I'm still Making My Meetings, and Doing My Work, there are still Times of Great SINKING & back sliding! Thank Goodness for HP, HOPE, FAITH, & The Love of this Program... I Do ask if you have a Second this Thurs. that y...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My son texted me about stolen property. It's OK not to say anything. It's OK....... I don't want to get into anything with him now. Let go let God.....

Gaby · Gaby

Hello all.. I have not been on here for a while.. I have been a bit lost.. I have been attending cross roads and celebrating recovery. I go to church reach out to many people. I am tired of being tired. And I believe my A son just caught his second wind. I know I can not do nothing no more. It's all up to him!! I pr...

BassetHoundMommy · BassetHoundMommy

Without writing a book - Here's where I'm at My husband is an alcoholic. On January 20th, he was drunk and tried to smother me with a pillow. I put him in jail. My husband has NEVER layed a hand on me before (very verbal abusive when drinking though). He has not had a drink since that day. We went to court wher...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

You know sometimes I really miss living in a house out in the country away from the dysfunction of other people!!!!! A place that illegal things are not a normal occurrence that police have to be regular visitors around my neighboring apartments for. Just makes me want to work harder to get my dreams ac...

grateful2be · grateful2be

As I drove - okay call it slid - out of my icy neighborhood yesterday and onto the main thoroughfare edged on each side by huge piles of plowed dirty snow and ice, I saw a blue jay flying from tree to tree. Although the weather predictions for this week call for extreme cold and more snow, the winging blue j...

Turricane · Turricane

I will do my best to condense this "novel". My spouse (wife) of 30+ years has been addicted to alcohol for 15+ years, and prescription pain meds and sedatives for 5+ years. I started attending Al-Anon 15 years ago and did so for several years, but never really "got it". I am an admi...

eddieunger · eddieunger

My mother (~65 years old) is suffering from severe alcoholism and doesn't have any intentions of quitting. She is drinking vodka at all hours and recently finished a fifth in under 24 hours, extremely dangerous for someone that is 95 pounds. I am working to understand the concept of detachment, and t...

bud · bud

Thank you all for support today! First, I met with my Aunt and had an opportunity to make amends, which I did. I'm sure there is more to the dynamics than what's on the surface, but my Aunt said she felt terribly offended. What was the cause? My isolation. I guess while I was trying to survive, she too...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Spent the day testing at the COPD clinic and saw the doctor about all the tests I took. I'm at healthy as a horse ( BIG horse ) ...just can't breath that well. He said for me to ask my doctor to send me to ??? a breathing therapist, a lung clinic?? I don't know but a place where they exercise your lungs and...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I keep getting so stuck in the grief junk. I realized I have never had time from one death to another to heal. NO wonder I am mostly not happy. I kept looking back, not at today. So I changed the thought in my head, when I start to get shakey, feel off balance, my head says,"This is your life." So I l...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I heard that in a meeting last night. Sick is easy Yep, it sure it!

bud · bud

My Aunt said that my parents have been relocated to an end stage facility. They're now in separate rooms. My Aunt and Uncle are emptying their assisted living facility apartment, as my parents will not be returning. My Aunt said that my sister is there today with a truck taking things and asked me wh...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

I'm at a complete, total loss. Had given up hope AH would show a glimmer of changing, was preparing to move at end of school year (had baby in fall and under teacher contract is why the wait). We've been married 13years, the last 6 he's been drinking heavily. Things came to yet another head late November a...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I was talking to my sponsor last night about a few issues I'm having: namely the fact that my AH signed up for a dating website and how I snooped to find out about it. We talked about ME and MY behavior obviously and my responsibilities to myself, etc. She said that many years ago her sponsor had all sponse...

kwas911 · kwas911

I am new to the Al-Anon community. My wife is an alcoholic. For the past several years her drinking, while consistent and excessive, has been open and not life altering. I am not a fan of the "High Functioning Alcoholic" label, but for lack of a better description, that was my wife. She o...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Sorry I haven't been around in meetings lately however, I had to have a double bypass last Monday. Things are going as well as can be expected. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life. So my message to you all is do not let the stress get to you. Stress is a killer. Take it...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

Hiya guys and gals, I am coming off a crazy week of chaos (courtesy my AH). 1. Suicide attempt w/ booze and pills----went to ER 2. released from ER zonked out on meds (sent home in cab and then he drove----crashed his car) 3.DWI 4.released from DWI hold, threatened suicide---went to crisis center 5....

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	New...Please HELP! help alcohol husband hiding alcohol (Preview) I am new to this. Don't really know where to begin... Ive come to the realization my husband IS a alcoholic and will probably NEVER change. We are both 31, been married 7 years and have two children age 3 and 18mo. A few years ago when i was pregnant with our daughter i noticed he started to drink very heavil...	LucyLynn	11	9246	Mar 3, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Dealiing with family members (Preview) I am working on learning how to deal with family dynamics and I have been getting a lot better. I have been having a struggle with my Brother in law. He likes to make these comments about how I am not bubbly enough and he says I am just not fun enough. He also calls me "grandma" often when he is refe...	daisy31	10	586	Mar 3, 2014 by maryjane
	Male perspective dealing with AW (Preview) Where to begin... my AW suggested I seek out alanon. Having grown up with an abusive drunk father I swore I would never re-live that kind of life. Fast forward 35 years later I fall in love and marry a recovering heroine addict. 6 months in were awesome however recently she relapsed and started todo...	Hollywood	13	559	Mar 3, 2014 by milkwood
	I think my husband has a problem, but he says I'm just nagging (Preview) I'm starting to feel pretty stupid. I've known my husband for 14 years, and yes I knew he drank as a teenager. But, I guess I hoped he'd grow up. He will have one or two (or 3...) beers or glasses of wine just about nightly. But I dread the weekends. From Friday night until Saturday night he drinks. It's not...	ashcrash	5	815	Mar 2, 2014 by tortuga
	consequences of pretending (Preview) Oh how denial runs deep and how easy it is to slip into a seemly easier path of least resistance by pretending. Only, it's not like being a child and playing dress up or being a favorite super-hero. I often think of the children's book, "The Velveteen Rabbit", when the rabbit asks, "...	bud	18	692	Mar 2, 2014 by bud
	I said no (Preview) This weekend marks 16 days since by boyfriend crawled into a bottle. Last night after dropping my children off with their Dad I returned to town to pick up his teenage daughter from their house. Normally I would spend the weekend there, but not when he is like this. I went inside and he was on the couch cry...	Snowflake74	11	599	Mar 2, 2014 by MorningGlory
	10 year old asking .'s (Preview) Hi all, I have been reading many many posts, over the last several weeks- so I almost feel like I know some of you.... like in real life , I have been too shy, embarrassed, unworthy- etc etc- to share, but so many of you have such meaningful, healthy, outlooks and ideas for growth that I must ask a question t...	Tan	11	2761	Mar 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	my parents "favor" alcoholic son.... (Preview) my 38 year old A son is definitely the "favorite" of all of the 8 grandchildren. (none who are cursed with this fatal disease) my parents do EVERYTHING for him and little for the others. he is active in his addiction and not working. my parents pay ALL of his bills. they babysit for his son...	debhud	5	431	Mar 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Back to the same old thing again..... (Preview) I have been working so much, that today was the first day after few days of not being here with my family supporter. My husband relapse four weeks straight with drinking after being sober for two and half year. The last time that I think of that he has told me was the firs day he came home and retired from th...	NavySealWife	3	456	Mar 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	here I am again (Preview) did I not learn anything 30 years ago? I was fortunate in that I had a clean and sober partner for a long time until the feelings of despair overcame him once again, he is also bi polar one which has been a struggle all those years. Right now he is on a downward spiral and I do not know how to help. Al anon help...	newbie2014	6	432	Mar 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Went back to old habits... (Preview) And looked through the trash and found what I was looking for. Empty bottles. Sigh It resulted in a heated "talk" between us and A doesn't understand why i make such a big deal about these things, and insists he tries to hide it BECAUSE i get so upset make such a big deal about these things. I g...	Akavanagh	7	583	Mar 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Help? (Preview) I've come to the realization that my husband is a Functioning (not really) Alcoholic. After years of problem drinking, ups and downs in our relationship and what is now surfacing as financial issues, I caught him drinking secretly again last night. "Caught him" puts me in the position...	Cool82	10	796	Mar 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Tired (Preview) I feel I'm nearing a crossroads in my life. Yet, I still feel this sense of dread, because I know the courses of action and the decisions I must make to better my situation for ME, will inevitably leave my A behind to catch up. Within the next year I"m going back to school. I've yet to decide in state or...	astallaslions	4	371	Mar 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	I know it will work out for the best. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Soon I will hopefully be looking at purchasing my first home. In the next few months I will be undertaking on a big project in my life. I have been preparing for it for awhile and it is a major step in a person's life. Unlike most, (ther...	slogan_jim	5	482	Mar 1, 2014 by oldergal
	my disease (Preview) this month was a difficult one, but I also had some little break throughs waiting for me. i tried to keep the focus on me, and it's nice to feel a bit of 'wholeness' again. I am carefully forgiving myself, and am now learning to accept the critic in me. I realized that what I criticize in others, is the part i...	tortuga	4	486	Feb 28, 2014 by Breakingfree
	My Thought For The Day (Preview) No one is worth my serenity. Know where others' stuff ends and mine begins.	WorkingThroughIt	4	265	Feb 28, 2014 by Breakingfree
	beats me (Preview) There are some things that beat the sh*t out of me. My grown kid, unaffected by mr. ex's bs (because he came after her) continues to lavish praise onto her in-laws and I get no thanks for all the years I spent devoted entirely to her (how many hours I spent sitting in a car in the rain while her father went fis...	likemyheart	7	433	Feb 28, 2014 by grateful2be
	The Difference in me now! (Preview) When I first came to alanon, my whole being and life was engulfed in and by my alchoholic, my mood my happiness my sence of who I was, all of it was in my mind dependent on him and his behavours, hand on my heart I did not believe alanon or anything come to that matter could show me a way to live any differently...	Katy	4	582	Feb 28, 2014 by Jerry F
	I'm taking it second by second.. (Preview) The week is early. Lots of fear.. But I pray and pray for me and my son..! I have to always say to me self he makes his own choices!! I can not control him.. I can not cure him and I am not the cause of this ugly disease !! He knows I love him but this is his addiction .. I do not have to allow it to consume my life!! It'...	Gaby	9	539	Feb 28, 2014 by jillybean1
	Here I am again (Preview) i finally find out the truth that he had been hiding his drinking all along,I confronted him 3x then he told me he drank margerittas instead of beer but still changed his behavior when he ,he being my a b/f, came in after work,he called me from work and humbly apologized for his behavior and he went on to sa...	lookingup	6	516	Feb 28, 2014 by jillybean1
	Rambly update. (Preview) Hi all. Time for an update. I've come on here a few times over the last week and a half, started to write something, read over it, sighed, deleted it...who'd have thought, me with nothing to write? lol. I just haven't had much...I dunno...spirit or something. That first week was horrible. I didn't spe...	Melly1248	15	628	Feb 28, 2014 by hotrod
	Picking My Battles (Preview) Hi Everyone. When I wake up in the morning sometimes, before I've had coffee, everything is very clear. Coffee hides my feelings. Without it it, I see so clearly that I have to clean up some things from the last several years. I'm not talking about amends (I do those too.) I'm talking about setting bound...	WorkingThroughIt	10	505	Feb 28, 2014 by WorkingThroughIt
	the movie 'Thanks for sharing' (Preview) I stumbled over a movie by coincidence (or faith) last night ..'' 'Thanks for sharing' with Tim Robbins, Gwyneth Paltrow et al. very interesting to see life's stories in a movie, not overdone, not exaggerated, not minimized. I found it interesting to feel both sides of the streets in a more detached w...	tortuga	6	382	Feb 27, 2014 by tortuga
	Gratitude (Preview) I just wanted to post to you all how much I appreciate each and every one of you. My AH has been gone now since Dec. 27. It has been a LONG, bitterly cold winter here in northern Minnesota. This site has helped me so much, on so many different levels this winter. I don't always post after reading, because you...	Sweet Stanley	9	438	Feb 27, 2014 by hotrod
	I bought this ticket... (Preview) Lots of thoughts have sprung into my mind lately...there's hasn't been much going on around here, at least not on the surface. But I've been learning everyday and for that I'm very grateful. It truly is about Progress, Not Perfection, isn't it? I started likening living with my A to being at one of t...	Raven Juniper	2	436	Feb 27, 2014 by hotrod
	New here...worried about my daughter (Preview) Hi all, I never thought I would join a message board for alcoholics. My 25 yr old daughter is an alcoholic. I don't know what to do. She has admitted the fact that she is an alcoholic, went to 1 meeting, and said all the people there were weird/crazy..not for her. I suggested counseling. No go. The ot...	marieanne	12	440	Feb 27, 2014 by marieanne
	All quiet (Preview) Just wanted to check in. Things have been shockingly quiet here. AH seems to have really taken to heart everything I've said, and has been very, very mindful about his actions. He helps with things without me asking, is trying to cook more for us and eat healthier, more exercise, etc. I truly hope i...	SpiderArcana	6	327	Feb 27, 2014 by mccr
	Cant stick the drama. (Preview) I hate the drama this disease causes. The noise and chaos, Its very difficult to find and keep serenity when it continues on and on. The manipulation used to keep it alive is draining. I think Im beginning to realise that Im no match, I cant keep one step ahead anymore and maybe I never ever was. Actually I...	el-cee	6	523	Feb 27, 2014 by Nightingale
	Not good at relying on other people..... (Preview) You know that addicts and alcoholics let you down, so I learned to take care of myself and not rely on them. I got on the system in order to work only part time so I can go back to school full time in order to get a career and be totally self supporting in my future. Now I am slowing school down to part time th...	Breakingfree	11	524	Feb 27, 2014 by bud
	First Time Sponsorship? (Preview) Hello. I was recently asked to sponsor someone. This would be my first experience as a sponsor. I am thrilled and at the same time, a bit nervous. I have read the 2014-2017 Service Manual, Courage to Change and Hope For Today regarding sponsorship. Also, I have the "What Sponsorship Is and W...	Dee F	4	536	Feb 26, 2014 by Dee F
	Gay or Lesbian's out there? (closed) (Preview) My wife is my A. We married last July after it became legal for us. I was just wondering if there were any others on here other than me. :) Would be happy to chat to just share experiences.	jodiee34	8	2040	Feb 26, 2014 by John
	good news! (Preview) good news! my daughter starts her job today.....first "real" job in the field she used to be in (as in, not working in our family biz) since she changed her life after she unsuccessfully tried to take it 6 months ago. there is a lot to be thankful for....i'm going to quit worrying about what i...	barbaralewis	7	404	Feb 26, 2014 by Jerry F
	Dear A (Preview) Dear Alcoholism You are a thief, a taker of good and a giver of bad. You are a monster and are in nightmares. You are toxic and pollute families with fumes that poison the minds of everyone you touch. You steal peace of mind and in its place put fear. You take hold with an iron grip and don't let go. You are bl...	el-cee	4	365	Feb 26, 2014 by Jerry F
	Help with online mtgs (Preview) I'm new to typing. I was in the chatroom this morn at 9:00 and then all of a sudden it comes up that the MIP site is currently unavailable an I can't get in anymore. Do I have to do something that I'm unaware of or what???	Inrecovery	3	303	Feb 26, 2014 by mercedes1959
	Light of compassion (Preview) I started reading AA life stories. Why? I wanted to understand and I sort of have a better picture. I see how they think --unbelievable. They do not want to be alcoholics and I wish there were not either. My heart breaks to see their struggle yo overcome the urge to drink. It is insane to do something th...	hopes314	5	350	Feb 26, 2014 by OT71
	I'm new (Preview) Hi I've attended 2 Al-Anon meetings and I finally feel I've made the right decission. My situation isn't easy. My ex-partner and I split up 2 weeks ago, he's an alcoholic. He admitted cheating and I asked him to leave our home. It's very tough and I'm very confused. I miss him, I love him, he was the love o...	CKCS	11	389	Feb 26, 2014 by CKCS
	New to MIP (Preview) I'm never posted here before, but I've been reading here the last month or so. Have been getting so much from keeping up on this board since I can't do as many f2f mtgs as I'd like. Have been going to Alanon mtgs 4 about 4.5 yrs but during these cold winter mon it's been a challenge to get to mtgs more then one...	Inrecovery	6	350	Feb 26, 2014 by Debilyn
	My son's father, and my children's dad (not the same person) (Preview) I have 3 children. My oldest is almost 18, and has gone a long time without contact with his father, because his father thought our son deserved a dad. So my husband (now ex) took over. You never think the last time would be the last time. We spoke just a couple months ago. I can still hear his voice. We buri...	kickstart77	2	274	Feb 26, 2014 by Tracy
	Labels and the damage they can do .. (Preview) So my daughter and I have been having a lot of dialog over the past few years about labels. There is something about this generation that is bleeding over into other generations, however I see it most prevalent in the younger kids. Some of the catalyst was because my son came home from a sleepover and h...	SerenityRUS	12	682	Feb 26, 2014 by Mari1978
	Praying !! (Preview) I'm praying for strength .. I dislike this feeling of waking up feeling depressed over some one else's choices and decisions that I allow it to consume my life. I can only pray for my son.. I know gods with us all. Have a blessed day..	Gaby	9	358	Feb 26, 2014 by ilovedogs
	Its coming soon! (Preview)	el-cee	13	784	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	Healing (Preview) I have been sifting through so much lately. Hold on, let go, it's hard to put into words but it's different, I feel like I have had a breakthrough in my relationship with HP. I am healing, it's through the absolute grace of HP and I could not be more grateful. It's almost on a cellular level, this is maybe cr...	mm830	3	344	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	Becareful what you ask HP For :) (Preview) Hello Family.... I have been Going thru Some Major Hurdles Here of Late, and tho I'm still Making My Meetings, and Doing My Work, there are still Times of Great SINKING & back sliding! Thank Goodness for HP, HOPE, FAITH, & The Love of this Program... I Do ask if you have a Second this Thurs. that y...	Jozie	2	353	Feb 25, 2014 by hotrod
	Texting (Preview) My son texted me about stolen property. It's OK not to say anything. It's OK....... I don't want to get into anything with him now. Let go let God.....	Cathyinaz	13	495	Feb 25, 2014 by Debilyn
	I have to work on me !! (Preview) Hello all.. I have not been on here for a while.. I have been a bit lost.. I have been attending cross roads and celebrating recovery. I go to church reach out to many people. I am tired of being tired. And I believe my A son just caught his second wind. I know I can not do nothing no more. It's all up to him!! I pr...	Gaby	6	568	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	New and confused (Preview) Without writing a book - Here's where I'm at My husband is an alcoholic. On January 20th, he was drunk and tried to smother me with a pillow. I put him in jail. My husband has NEVER layed a hand on me before (very verbal abusive when drinking though). He has not had a drink since that day. We went to court wher...	BassetHoundMommy	9	517	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Under age drinking next door, fighting bf and gf all hours and apartment living oh my...... (Preview) You know sometimes I really miss living in a house out in the country away from the dysfunction of other people!!!!! A place that illegal things are not a normal occurrence that police have to be regular visitors around my neighboring apartments for. Just makes me want to work harder to get my dreams ac...	Breakingfree	7	564	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Spring (Preview) As I drove - okay call it slid - out of my icy neighborhood yesterday and onto the main thoroughfare edged on each side by huge piles of plowed dirty snow and ice, I saw a blue jay flying from tree to tree. Although the weather predictions for this week call for extreme cold and more snow, the winging blue j...	grateful2be	16	382	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Very conflicted... (Preview) I will do my best to condense this "novel". My spouse (wife) of 30+ years has been addicted to alcohol for 15+ years, and prescription pain meds and sedatives for 5+ years. I started attending Al-Anon 15 years ago and did so for several years, but never really "got it". I am an admi...	Turricane	11	709	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Seeking suggestions (Preview) My mother (~65 years old) is suffering from severe alcoholism and doesn't have any intentions of quitting. She is drinking vodka at all hours and recently finished a fifth in under 24 hours, extremely dangerous for someone that is 95 pounds. I am working to understand the concept of detachment, and t...	eddieunger	13	417	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	He tried to attack me- I'm shaken, but ok (Preview) Thank you all for support today! First, I met with my Aunt and had an opportunity to make amends, which I did. I'm sure there is more to the dynamics than what's on the surface, but my Aunt said she felt terribly offended. What was the cause? My isolation. I guess while I was trying to survive, she too...	bud	23	683	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	I'm Healthy (Preview) Spent the day testing at the COPD clinic and saw the doctor about all the tests I took. I'm at healthy as a horse ( BIG horse ) ...just can't breath that well. He said for me to ask my doctor to send me to ??? a breathing therapist, a lung clinic?? I don't know but a place where they exercise your lungs and...	Cathyinaz	13	1862	Feb 24, 2014 by Tasha
	working at it....in neutral (Preview) I keep getting so stuck in the grief junk. I realized I have never had time from one death to another to heal. NO wonder I am mostly not happy. I kept looking back, not at today. So I changed the thought in my head, when I start to get shakey, feel off balance, my head says,"This is your life." So I l...	Debilyn	7	526	Feb 24, 2014 by el-cee
	Sick is easy (Preview) I heard that in a meeting last night. Sick is easy Yep, it sure it!	ilovedogs	35	870	Feb 24, 2014 by grateful2be
	Much less than the afterthought :-( (Preview) My Aunt said that my parents have been relocated to an end stage facility. They're now in separate rooms. My Aunt and Uncle are emptying their assisted living facility apartment, as my parents will not be returning. My Aunt said that my sister is there today with a truck taking things and asked me wh...	bud	25	656	Feb 24, 2014 by bud
	At a complete loss (Preview) I'm at a complete, total loss. Had given up hope AH would show a glimmer of changing, was preparing to move at end of school year (had baby in fall and under teacher contract is why the wait). We've been married 13years, the last 6 he's been drinking heavily. Things came to yet another head late November a...	Kerrymom	7	483	Feb 24, 2014 by Breakingfree
	The FIVE C's (Preview) I was talking to my sponsor last night about a few issues I'm having: namely the fact that my AH signed up for a dating website and how I snooped to find out about it. We talked about ME and MY behavior obviously and my responsibilities to myself, etc. She said that many years ago her sponsor had all sponse...	ilovedogs	6	2930	Feb 23, 2014 by Lyne
	Living with alcoholic spouse vs leaving (Preview) I am new to the Al-Anon community. My wife is an alcoholic. For the past several years her drinking, while consistent and excessive, has been open and not life altering. I am not a fan of the "High Functioning Alcoholic" label, but for lack of a better description, that was my wife. She o...	kwas911	12	4779	Feb 23, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Open Heart Surgery (Preview) Hello Friends, Sorry I haven't been around in meetings lately however, I had to have a double bypass last Monday. Things are going as well as can be expected. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life. So my message to you all is do not let the stress get to you. Stress is a killer. Take it...	Andrea12	7	365	Feb 23, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Okay that was one CRAZY week (Preview) Hiya guys and gals, I am coming off a crazy week of chaos (courtesy my AH). 1. Suicide attempt w/ booze and pills----went to ER 2. released from ER zonked out on meds (sent home in cab and then he drove----crashed his car) 3.DWI 4.released from DWI hold, threatened suicide---went to crisis center 5....	jillybean1	7	416	Feb 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
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