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searching4peace · searching4peace

Things are all over the place right now and I am really struggling. One thing that I can't seem to get past is the idea that alcohlism is a disease. I feel like if I could grasp that concept I would be better able to see my AH with compassion and acceptance. And I think that would play a big role in detachin...

serenity47 · serenity47

Things appear to be, getting worse with my AD. Losing one job after the other, continued lies, etc. I don't know why I keep expecting everything to just suddenly turn around when she is doing nothing to have that happen. I keep trying to work step one over and over again but honestly feel very overwh...

jwall729 · jwall729

Hello all. So brand new to this and going to try to find an Al-anon meeting around my house. We have been in financial chaos and so focused on my AH's recovery that I've barely had time to take care of myself. Be warned I'm in the beginning steps here. AH is about 40 days clean and I'm still holding onto a...

Nailsxtacks · Nailsxtacks

My boyfriend a recovering opiate addict has been in rehab for 2 weeks now. He called me every morning and every night. Well Saturday we talked and everything was fine and he told me he loved me and he would call me in the morning. Well I never heard from him and I still haven't. It's been 2 days and it's very u...

missmeliss · missmeliss

And maybe that's OK. It has been years since I spent any length of time with my mother, you might recall I spent 3 days at her holiday house a year ago and almost lost my mind. The thing is a year later and with what I think are more refined and defined boundaries, I have no tolerance for it, and am finding any k...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Today, I submitted the first of what I wanted to write on according to the Al-Anon guides for our new reader and/or the Forum magazine. I learned about this opportunity and shared with all of you last week. It took me about a week to actually sit down and write what will be the first of several submissio...

hotrod · hotrod

Welcome Back Mark You have been missed.

andromeda · andromeda

I can't find anyone, except for one house, where someone will rent to me without me having a monthly job sourced income. They all want my AH on the lease and that's the last thing I want. I went to see the one property who said she would work with me and I liked it a lot. So, at least this is a positive. My lawy...

glad · glad

I often can't sleep, I've long left my alcoholic relationship but my own issues remain.. I was letting a situation regarding my mother wanting me to attend/ work at an event I have turned down a million times and her "talking to" my bf and asking him to "talk to me" to get me to p...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Today at work I had an interaction with a co worker that left me wondering if I was crazy. Why do I always end up pointing the finger at myself? Since I started Al anon, I have been more direct with co workers. Basically, the coworker asked me if I needed help. I am a nurse. at first I said no...but then she me...

bud · bud

Today I received a call from the people I sublease my office from. They're expanding and already brought someone on board, are financially backing the new person's rent. The new person is already certified in what I am in the process of achieving for certification. I'll be certified by next year t...

DavidG · DavidG

Living at peace with ourselves and others... ...that seems revolutionary and radical to me... after all aren't we supposed to work hard for others... ? wouldn't being at peace with myself be selfish, self gratifying? The old rip-cord idea... don't try to save others until you have pulled your own r...

John · John

This time of year is when everything comes due on the web sites annual expenses, so if you have the ability please consider making a 5-10 dollar donation to help offset the cost of this site. It is important that the site remains self supporting through its member contributions, and the burden of expe...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

Ive been separated from my husband for 4 mos and am having a hard time detaching because we have 2 kids who love and want to spend regular time with their dad. I'll be honest, I am still in love with him and miss him terribly and am having a hard time with the idea that our marriage may be beyond reconcilliati...

andromeda · andromeda

Most of you know that my son plays tennis at tournaments that take weekends to finish. I spend my days sitting around watching tennis matches and all of the other parents have been my friends for many years now. One of my son's best friends has a dad who is a dentist and who is, quite frankly, a very stran...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

i have little serenity just sad frustration today. my AH has a sleeping problem but just like his drinking problem,he ejects all help,advice from me and also from people outside. So every weekend he drinks and takes pills,the monday comes and he tells work he didnt get any sleep..well if being in a dea...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C January 19 speaks about acceptance of ourselves. It points out that we are all imperfect humans and that we are all still children of God who are committed to growing spiritually and changing. Since we are committed to seeing our limitations and flaws, this page urges us to discard our nega...

grateful2be · grateful2be

There is an interesting study that might be of help to parents feeling guilty because their children/adult children are/were often depressed - with or without alcohol. Scientists have discovered a link between brain function and excessive guilt in children that can develop into depression in l...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Tonight my sister called me and asked me if I had a particular movie she wants to watch (I keep an extensive library of movies as well as books, it's a "thing" of mine) and could I set up a computer with the television so she can watch it when she gets here. (The technology in this house is kind of....

Katrina324 · Katrina324

So here I am working on Step one, and I get angry at my ABF on the phone and lash out, again, I am such an idiot. I haven't seen him since Christmas Day when I walked out after finding him drunk again. Then he started AA, and he keeps telling me how much fun he has there, and hasn't drank a drop since. The onl...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I spoke on the phone to my mother today. She is still away and due to return tomorrow. She asked what I am planning for daughter's birthday next Sunday. I remind her that I have said several times it would be nice if we could join her at her beach house for the birthday weekend, as daughter loves it there or o...

neshema2 · neshema2

the bio sister appeared on my text again...no worries, i am keeping my distance and i knew she would re-contact me which , again, no worries b/c i am keeping my distance, being nice...not putting myself out there re: hot topics for her to push any buttons...not going anywhere with her but our mutual lo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife and I contacted a virus suspecting that we got it from a member in our home group. Anyhow I don't often get sick and this time I've never been so sick. My wife got some OTC meds from the drug store which I dutifully took yesterday afternoon and night and then wasn't able to sleep and ended up hal...

bud · bud

Hi Dear MIP family! I'm working so hard for my baby photos! The drama, the chaos, the insanity- all of which I am choosing to walk through just to have my childhood memories returned to me. For those that didn't see earlier posts, my sister took the entire contents of my parent's estate last year witho...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

I have been really tired lately. I have missed three weeks of my f2f meetings and I feel like I'm floundering for my life preserver. Confusion seems to be clouding my judgment. I've been still so that I could hear God speaking to me. He has given me direction, but then I feel doubt and confusion creeping b...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Darn it I had something typed out and it got erased as I'm having connection issues. I wanted to share some experience that I had over the past weekend, that really tells me how far I've come in the last 3 years and I'm hoping I'm not repeating myself. Sometimes I have a lot to say and sometimes not so much...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T January 17 speaks about the destructive tools that we, who live with the disease develop over the course of time while living in the insanity. Here is an example of the weapons that most of us use: indignation irresponsible accusations, nagging, tears, hysteria and self-righteousne...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I posted on something that rippled me a little and instead of stopping and thinking I reacted and posted. I now am of course rethinking the whole thing, but you can never take it back, so my learning lesson in it all is to calm the waters and not to further add ripples or waves. We come here broken and batter...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

Well its been a nice month without chaos in my living space. Seperation has been the best thing for me all round though not as clear cut as it "should" be. Although we are not living together, some aspects of our lives remain entwined. Coming from a small island, there's no chance of forgett...

AinWisconsin · AinWisconsin

Hello all , I am new here. My loved one recently went to jail last week due to his addictions. I have been through 2 years of him being in and out of rehab several times. The last rehab he was in I wrote a letter to him and laid out my boundaries. In that letter I said that I would end the relationship if he crosse...

Hullibee · Hullibee

I haven't posted in a while. I still read posts daily and I appreciate everyone's advice. I am bogged down with his alcoholic behaviors. I try and try to stay out of it then he goes off drinking and doesn't come home til 4:30 am. I just don't understand how he can be out drinking for over 12 hours. He's o...

drywit44 · drywit44

I'm a civilian and my wife has 30 years in Al-Anon. We are newly married (things are really good, I'm so glad that I married her) and are beginning to try to integrate our prayer lives. She is a devout Roman Catholic and I was raised an Evangelical Protestant, now attending Episcopalian. Most of her p...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I just want to share that I am truly filled with happiness right now. Just two years ago, my AH had passed away suddenly right in the midst of our divorce proceedings, I was living in a very small small apartment by myself, my AD was not speaking to me and did not want to see me, I didn't have a dime to my name an...

flagbabe83 · flagbabe83

So my husband decided to throw out all of the alcohol in our house, including his hidden alcohol (I knew about it but never told him) on Monday. He told me that he had it hidden, which gives me hope that he's trying to move forward since he didn't realize that I knew about it. He is stopping for 30 days to prov...

ssilver · ssilver

So, when my husband was actively drinking and continuously intoxicated, I locked up the guns in their cabinet and took the keys as I moved out. He never noticed the two weeks before he collapsed and went by ambulance to the hospital for two weeks then to rehab for 30 days. However, now sober and home, he h...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I signed a lease yesterday. And paid some rent and generally secured a house for myself and my girl. Let's start with the important stuff. Here's where we will be walking the dog each evening (a 2 minute drive away or maybe 20 minute walk)

So it's in town, which will take some getting used to, but it is...

grateful2be · grateful2be

The writer refers to her early Al-Anon days. It was difficult for her to understand humility and how to develop it. Being teachable was a concept that she could grasp. She decided to look at how she could change herself so that she could become more open and willing to learn. She decided that skippi...

DavidG · DavidG

I was an artistic kid in the sporty frontier style community... ...drinking was 'a way of life' for quite a body of people. An alcoholic was someone who 'drank with the flies' in a corner of the bar.... My rural community is no longer really rural- so many changes! I am still finding my family and my com...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I carpool with a younger woman who lives at home with her parents. To save money, because we travel one hour each way to college Monday-Friday we carpool. It is no longer worth it for me, nobody else frustrates me the way she does and I walk away most days wondering if she is trying to undermine me on purpos...

mjferg · mjferg

I have a long weekend,no school today or Monday.My daughter and I are going to have some fun.Thrift store shopping and eating out.It feels so good to be able to have fun and not worry about coming home to chaos!!!Have a great weekend.

missmeliss · missmeliss

I don't laugh so much at A these days unless he makes a joke; I guess now that I don't live with him, I don't live in a constant state of desperation where I have to choose between laughing or losing my mind. But this made me giggle. I was telling him about my new place. It's small, only 2 bedrooms, no spare sp...

neshema2 · neshema2

I get a call from my beloved daughter #1 just now, she says "mama , are you working???" and she had "that tone" like I could feel myself bracing for something terrible her SIL went to doctor after doctor, complaining of pain in her stomache, and they tested her and tested her and...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 12 has been posted to the Step Board. Please join in Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59419276/alanon-step-1...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

I was told years ago it takes 28 days to form a habit. (A reason for rehabs and 28 days). I never tested it out with active commitment. But I am going to try now. When I miss a day I'll start again. So I'm one day in (again, lol). The 28 day habit I'm trying to form is self care by going to bed before 10.30 pm and ris...

ladee · ladee

Suicidal texts from my A son tonight..... this has been coming for a long time..... I am scared.... but I will not rescue him.... I am a recovering A myself... 30 yrs sober this last Dec...... and I KNOW where he is right now..... I have been there myself.... been there a time or two sober...... only a High...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Sometimes people post things that don't particularly sit well with me, so I hit the back button and step away from that particular table. Sometimes a post will get me thinking and I have to take time to process what the post means to me and if I want to do anything about it. Sometimes I will pm a friend for th...

hotrod · hotrod

The C 2 C 1-14 reading for today speaks about being powerless over alcohol and letting go of the battle that we are bound to lose. By letting go we become free and in taking the path to personal freedom and serenity that begins when we surrender--- our spiritual growth and rewards are unlimited- .esp...

mjferg · mjferg

The last couple of weeks have been quite a challenge,starting college,icy roads,car problems,landlord problems a difficult instructor,etc.Well I have learned a lot about myself.Number one I am stronger than I thought, with all of these things hitting when I start something new,I am getting rea...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Speaks about how we pray for sobriety for the alcoholic because we believe this will solve all our problems. It points out that sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. Unless we both work to overcome the emotional conflicts within ourselves, we remain at a standstill. Our troubles st...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

My new job is exhausting and demanding. I suppose I'm doing better than I was in the past. I can make decisions without trying to people please. I'm up against a lot right now. This is a hit the ground running kind of job with no down time. In fact, I have a mandatory sixty hours a week right now and they'd li...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I have been trying to find guidelines to posting on this forum and I cant find them. can a moderator help with this? thanks

hotrod · hotrod

Dear Catherine ( aka G2B) I pray that you have a very memorable day and that you enjoy a little of the comfort and love that you bring to others on this your special day.

Flower49 · Flower49

My AH has found out he will be coming home probably within 2 weeks from the 3/4 way house. I don't know how to feel about it really. I had hoped the transition from sober living to home would have been done a lot differently such as building up time and days of being home rather than every other weekend, but i...

Bostonpugwoman · Bostonpugwoman

This is a bit of a long story and all very new to me just a heads up... I'm just trying to understand everything. I began dating this guy about 3 months ago. I really fell for him in the beginning because we have similar careers and passions. We both work with children with special needs and I loved talkin...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

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expertatdenial · expertatdenial

Im following the steps of AlAnon for my own healing with regard to my A husband of 20 years. 10 years ago he quit drinking And hasn't had a drink since. Little did I know that that was only half the battle. I grew to be a sicker co-dependent as the years went on, even though there was no drinking. His person...

Fairlee · Fairlee

hi strangers! I am missing this board and really need to get back to being more active! The holidays were fast and furious and now life is getting back to our "normal". Hope the New Year has been good for ya'll! i have 3 teenagers. My middle teen is really struggling and last night she and I had a...

MooseWork · MooseWork

My wife has spent 6 of the last 9 weeks in rehab. During the family program visit she told me that she had removed her wedding band the day she got there and it was "freeing". One week later she was home. She stayed with us for two nights. However, each day she would drive back to the treatment c...

Dean P · Dean P

Greetings, My girlfriend of almost 3 years entered a womens retreat last Thursday after a almost tragic single vehicle accident on Tuesday. She went willingly and says she is ready to get sober and deal with her painful past. There is no communication allowed during the first week, and very little i...

mjferg · mjferg

Well I went to class today, I was ten minutes late because of car problems and I apologized to the instructor, this class has been laid back with people cross talking and interrupting, so the girl in front of me was showing me where we were at and all of a sudden he got upset and told us he didn't like talking...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	How is alcoholism a disease? (Preview) Things are all over the place right now and I am really struggling. One thing that I can't seem to get past is the idea that alcohlism is a disease. I feel like if I could grasp that concept I would be better able to see my AH with compassion and acceptance. And I think that would play a big role in detachin...	searching4peace	27	4812	Jan 20, 2015 by John
	Struggling alot today (Preview) Things appear to be, getting worse with my AD. Losing one job after the other, continued lies, etc. I don't know why I keep expecting everything to just suddenly turn around when she is doing nothing to have that happen. I keep trying to work step one over and over again but honestly feel very overwh...	serenity47	13	760	Jan 20, 2015 by cloudyskies
	Brand New (Preview) Hello all. So brand new to this and going to try to find an Al-anon meeting around my house. We have been in financial chaos and so focused on my AH's recovery that I've barely had time to take care of myself. Be warned I'm in the beginning steps here. AH is about 40 days clean and I'm still holding onto a...	jwall729	5	582	Jan 20, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Needing some advice. ( 1 2 ) (Preview) My boyfriend a recovering opiate addict has been in rehab for 2 weeks now. He called me every morning and every night. Well Saturday we talked and everything was fine and he told me he loved me and he would call me in the morning. Well I never heard from him and I still haven't. It's been 2 days and it's very u...	Nailsxtacks	43	1138	Jan 20, 2015 by neshema2
	This just isn't going to go the way I want. (Preview) And maybe that's OK. It has been years since I spent any length of time with my mother, you might recall I spent 3 days at her holiday house a year ago and almost lost my mind. The thing is a year later and with what I think are more refined and defined boundaries, I have no tolerance for it, and am finding any k...	missmeliss	9	659	Jan 20, 2015 by hotrod
	Submission to WSO Al-Anon for our 4th Reader and/or the Forum (Preview) Today, I submitted the first of what I wanted to write on according to the Al-Anon guides for our new reader and/or the Forum magazine. I learned about this opportunity and shared with all of you last week. It took me about a week to actually sit down and write what will be the first of several submissio...	grateful2be	6	430	Jan 20, 2015 by hotrod
	Pink Chip (Preview) Welcome Back Mark You have been missed.	hotrod	21	826	Jan 20, 2015 by pinkchip
	Hitting walls and confused (Preview) I can't find anyone, except for one house, where someone will rent to me without me having a monthly job sourced income. They all want my AH on the lease and that's the last thing I want. I went to see the one property who said she would work with me and I liked it a lot. So, at least this is a positive. My lawy...	andromeda	8	481	Jan 20, 2015 by andromeda
	Higher Power is faithful in small and large things (Preview) I often can't sleep, I've long left my alcoholic relationship but my own issues remain.. I was letting a situation regarding my mother wanting me to attend/ work at an event I have turned down a million times and her "talking to" my bf and asking him to "talk to me" to get me to p...	glad	3	572	Jan 20, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Dealing with passive-aggressive co-workers. i have had enough (Preview) Today at work I had an interaction with a co worker that left me wondering if I was crazy. Why do I always end up pointing the finger at myself? Since I started Al anon, I have been more direct with co workers. Basically, the coworker asked me if I needed help. I am a nurse. at first I said no...but then she me...	Newlife girl	7	2291	Jan 20, 2015 by Breakingfree
	bad things keep happening and I have no traction (Preview) Today I received a call from the people I sublease my office from. They're expanding and already brought someone on board, are financially backing the new person's rent. The new person is already certified in what I am in the process of achieving for certification. I'll be certified by next year t...	bud	13	685	Jan 20, 2015 by bud
	Hope for Today... 18th Jan. (Preview) Living at peace with ourselves and others... ...that seems revolutionary and radical to me... after all aren't we supposed to work hard for others... ? wouldn't being at peace with myself be selfish, self gratifying? The old rip-cord idea... don't try to save others until you have pulled your own r...	DavidG	6	626	Jan 20, 2015 by DavidG
	Board Moderators Needed and Donations for site funding (closed) (Preview) This time of year is when everything comes due on the web sites annual expenses, so if you have the ability please consider making a 5-10 dollar donation to help offset the cost of this site. It is important that the site remains self supporting through its member contributions, and the burden of expe...	John	2	721	Jan 20, 2015 by hotrod
	Detachment with AH when kids are involved...HOW?? (Preview) Ive been separated from my husband for 4 mos and am having a hard time detaching because we have 2 kids who love and want to spend regular time with their dad. I'll be honest, I am still in love with him and miss him terribly and am having a hard time with the idea that our marriage may be beyond reconcilliati...	Hopefull15	10	586	Jan 20, 2015 by grateful2be
	Not program related, need advice (Preview) Most of you know that my son plays tennis at tournaments that take weekends to finish. I spend my days sitting around watching tennis matches and all of the other parents have been my friends for many years now. One of my son's best friends has a dad who is a dentist and who is, quite frankly, a very stran...	andromeda	19	835	Jan 20, 2015 by grateful2be
	Need Serenity/dopey ah (Preview) i have little serenity just sad frustration today. my AH has a sleeping problem but just like his drinking problem,he ejects all help,advice from me and also from people outside. So every weekend he drinks and takes pills,the monday comes and he tells work he didnt get any sleep..well if being in a dea...	YARNCRAZY	4	583	Jan 20, 2015 by el-cee
	Today's alanon reading (Preview) C2C January 19 speaks about acceptance of ourselves. It points out that we are all imperfect humans and that we are all still children of God who are committed to growing spiritually and changing. Since we are committed to seeing our limitations and flaws, this page urges us to discard our nega...	hotrod	6	3680	Jan 19, 2015 by hotrod
	Childhood guilt, depression, the brain and science (Preview) There is an interesting study that might be of help to parents feeling guilty because their children/adult children are/were often depressed - with or without alcohol. Scientists have discovered a link between brain function and excessive guilt in children that can develop into depression in l...	grateful2be	13	889	Jan 19, 2015 by grateful2be
	Seeing it in myself. (Preview) Tonight my sister called me and asked me if I had a particular movie she wants to watch (I keep an extensive library of movies as well as books, it's a "thing" of mine) and could I set up a computer with the television so she can watch it when she gets here. (The technology in this house is kind of....	missmeliss	6	547	Jan 19, 2015 by likemyheart
	Lashed out at my ABF over the phone, beating myself up for getting angry at him. (Preview) So here I am working on Step one, and I get angry at my ABF on the phone and lash out, again, I am such an idiot. I haven't seen him since Christmas Day when I walked out after finding him drunk again. Then he started AA, and he keeps telling me how much fun he has there, and hasn't drank a drop since. The onl...	Katrina324	14	767	Jan 19, 2015 by mjferg
	Tree houses and muddy dogs. (Preview) I spoke on the phone to my mother today. She is still away and due to return tomorrow. She asked what I am planning for daughter's birthday next Sunday. I remind her that I have said several times it would be nice if we could join her at her beach house for the birthday weekend, as daughter loves it there or o...	missmeliss	16	895	Jan 18, 2015 by aquamom23
	avoided some quick sand and did it ala Al-anon (Preview) the bio sister appeared on my text again...no worries, i am keeping my distance and i knew she would re-contact me which , again, no worries b/c i am keeping my distance, being nice...not putting myself out there re: hot topics for her to push any buttons...not going anywhere with her but our mutual lo...	neshema2	10	650	Jan 18, 2015 by grateful2be
	Weird!!! (Preview) My wife and I contacted a virus suspecting that we got it from a member in our home group. Anyhow I don't often get sick and this time I've never been so sick. My wife got some OTC meds from the drug store which I dutifully took yesterday afternoon and night and then wasn't able to sleep and ended up hal...	Jerry F	14	704	Jan 18, 2015 by PP
	So hard! So frustrated! (Preview) Hi Dear MIP family! I'm working so hard for my baby photos! The drama, the chaos, the insanity- all of which I am choosing to walk through just to have my childhood memories returned to me. For those that didn't see earlier posts, my sister took the entire contents of my parent's estate last year witho...	bud	15	728	Jan 18, 2015 by Jerry F
	I'm tired... (Preview) I have been really tired lately. I have missed three weeks of my f2f meetings and I feel like I'm floundering for my life preserver. Confusion seems to be clouding my judgment. I've been still so that I could hear God speaking to me. He has given me direction, but then I feel doubt and confusion creeping b...	cloudyskies	11	700	Jan 18, 2015 by grateful2be
	Working on some things .. (Preview) Darn it I had something typed out and it got erased as I'm having connection issues. I wanted to share some experience that I had over the past weekend, that really tells me how far I've come in the last 3 years and I'm hoping I'm not repeating myself. Sometimes I have a lot to say and sometimes not so much...	SerenityRUS	3	797	Jan 18, 2015 by hotrod
	Summary of Today's C2C and ODAT Reading (Preview) The ODA T January 17 speaks about the destructive tools that we, who live with the disease develop over the course of time while living in the insanity. Here is an example of the weapons that most of us use: indignation irresponsible accusations, nagging, tears, hysteria and self-righteousne...	hotrod	4	758	Jan 18, 2015 by grateful2be
	Many of us come here already stirred up like a lady bug in a tornado the last thing we need is more drama (Preview) I posted on something that rippled me a little and instead of stopping and thinking I reacted and posted. I now am of course rethinking the whole thing, but you can never take it back, so my learning lesson in it all is to calm the waters and not to further add ripples or waves. We come here broken and batter...	Breakingfree	15	1065	Jan 18, 2015 by PP
	blindsided by revengeful feelings. (Preview) Well its been a nice month without chaos in my living space. Seperation has been the best thing for me all round though not as clear cut as it "should" be. Although we are not living together, some aspects of our lives remain entwined. Coming from a small island, there's no chance of forgett...	aquamom23	20	993	Jan 18, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Trying to stick to boundaries-much support needed (Preview) Hello all , I am new here. My loved one recently went to jail last week due to his addictions. I have been through 2 years of him being in and out of rehab several times. The last rehab he was in I wrote a letter to him and laid out my boundaries. In that letter I said that I would end the relationship if he crosse...	AinWisconsin	4	558	Jan 18, 2015 by Lyne
	Bogged Down ... (Preview) I haven't posted in a while. I still read posts daily and I appreciate everyone's advice. I am bogged down with his alcoholic behaviors. I try and try to stay out of it then he goes off drinking and doesn't come home til 4:30 am. I just don't understand how he can be out drinking for over 12 hours. He's o...	Hullibee	22	779	Jan 18, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	a challenge to joint prayer time prayer Higher Power religion fear (Preview) I'm a civilian and my wife has 30 years in Al-Anon. We are newly married (things are really good, I'm so glad that I married her) and are beginning to try to integrate our prayer lives. She is a devout Roman Catholic and I was raised an Evangelical Protestant, now attending Episcopalian. Most of her p...	drywit44	10	8469	Jan 18, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Gratitude (Preview) I just want to share that I am truly filled with happiness right now. Just two years ago, my AH had passed away suddenly right in the midst of our divorce proceedings, I was living in a very small small apartment by myself, my AD was not speaking to me and did not want to see me, I didn't have a dime to my name an...	Green Eyes	3	851	Jan 17, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Needing Info (Preview) So my husband decided to throw out all of the alcohol in our house, including his hidden alcohol (I knew about it but never told him) on Monday. He told me that he had it hidden, which gives me hope that he's trying to move forward since he didn't realize that I knew about it. He is stopping for 30 days to prov...	flagbabe83	8	757	Jan 17, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	guns (Preview) So, when my husband was actively drinking and continuously intoxicated, I locked up the guns in their cabinet and took the keys as I moved out. He never noticed the two weeks before he collapsed and went by ambulance to the hospital for two weeks then to rehab for 30 days. However, now sober and home, he h...	ssilver	17	903	Jan 17, 2015 by Jerry F
	Tears of relief!!!!! (Preview) I signed a lease yesterday. And paid some rent and generally secured a house for myself and my girl. Let's start with the important stuff. Here's where we will be walking the dog each evening (a 2 minute drive away or maybe 20 minute walk) So it's in town, which will take some getting used to, but it is...	missmeliss	18	712	Jan 16, 2015 by Sweet Stanley
	Hope for Today - January 16 (Preview) The writer refers to her early Al-Anon days. It was difficult for her to understand humility and how to develop it. Being teachable was a concept that she could grasp. She decided to look at how she could change herself so that she could become more open and willing to learn. She decided that skippi...	grateful2be	9	897	Jan 16, 2015 by grateful2be
	He~art and she~art... (Preview) I was an artistic kid in the sporty frontier style community... ...drinking was 'a way of life' for quite a body of people. An alcoholic was someone who 'drank with the flies' in a corner of the bar.... My rural community is no longer really rural- so many changes! I am still finding my family and my com...	DavidG	10	616	Jan 16, 2015 by tiredtonite
	I'm so over one of my so called school friends (Preview) I carpool with a younger woman who lives at home with her parents. To save money, because we travel one hour each way to college Monday-Friday we carpool. It is no longer worth it for me, nobody else frustrates me the way she does and I walk away most days wondering if she is trying to undermine me on purpos...	Breakingfree	9	750	Jan 16, 2015 by neshema2
	Sweet Freedom (Preview) I have a long weekend,no school today or Monday.My daughter and I are going to have some fun.Thrift store shopping and eating out.It feels so good to be able to have fun and not worry about coming home to chaos!!!Have a great weekend.	mjferg	3	440	Jan 16, 2015 by mjferg
	lol (Preview) I don't laugh so much at A these days unless he makes a joke; I guess now that I don't live with him, I don't live in a constant state of desperation where I have to choose between laughing or losing my mind. But this made me giggle. I was telling him about my new place. It's small, only 2 bedrooms, no spare sp...	missmeliss	5	790	Jan 16, 2015 by DavidG
	the Disease got another one!!!! My darling daughter's SIL KILLED HERSELF LAST NIGHT (Preview) I get a call from my beloved daughter #1 just now, she says "mama , are you working???" and she had "that tone" like I could feel myself bracing for something terrible her SIL went to doctor after doctor, complaining of pain in her stomache, and they tested her and tested her and...	neshema2	21	841	Jan 16, 2015 by Katy
	Step 12 (Preview) Step 12 has been posted to the Step Board. Please join in Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59419276/alanon-step-1...	hotrod	1	484	Jan 16, 2015 by grateful2be
	28 days to form a habit. (Preview) I was told years ago it takes 28 days to form a habit. (A reason for rehabs and 28 days). I never tested it out with active commitment. But I am going to try now. When I miss a day I'll start again. So I'm one day in (again, lol). The 28 day habit I'm trying to form is self care by going to bed before 10.30 pm and ris...	aquamom23	9	3284	Jan 15, 2015 by missmeliss
	Suicidal texts (Preview) Suicidal texts from my A son tonight..... this has been coming for a long time..... I am scared.... but I will not rescue him.... I am a recovering A myself... 30 yrs sober this last Dec...... and I KNOW where he is right now..... I have been there myself.... been there a time or two sober...... only a High...	ladee	11	685	Jan 15, 2015 by hotrod
	Continually Practicing Detachment (Preview) Sometimes people post things that don't particularly sit well with me, so I hit the back button and step away from that particular table. Sometimes a post will get me thinking and I have to take time to process what the post means to me and if I want to do anything about it. Sometimes I will pm a friend for th...	likemyheart	3	1869	Jan 15, 2015 by unique
	Today's Reading and need prayers (Preview) The C 2 C 1-14 reading for today speaks about being powerless over alcohol and letting go of the battle that we are bound to lose. By letting go we become free and in taking the path to personal freedom and serenity that begins when we surrender--- our spiritual growth and rewards are unlimited- .esp...	hotrod	25	890	Jan 15, 2015 by Jackie11
	just call me Annie Oakley (Preview) The last couple of weeks have been quite a challenge,starting college,icy roads,car problems,landlord problems a difficult instructor,etc.Well I have learned a lot about myself.Number one I am stronger than I thought, with all of these things hitting when I start something new,I am getting rea...	mjferg	4	654	Jan 15, 2015 by andromeda
	One Day At a Time January 15 (Preview) Speaks about how we pray for sobriety for the alcoholic because we believe this will solve all our problems. It points out that sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. Unless we both work to overcome the emotional conflicts within ourselves, we remain at a standstill. Our troubles st...	Breakingfree	4	799	Jan 15, 2015 by neshema2
	It's a tough job (Preview) My new job is exhausting and demanding. I suppose I'm doing better than I was in the past. I can make decisions without trying to people please. I'm up against a lot right now. This is a hit the ground running kind of job with no down time. In fact, I have a mandatory sixty hours a week right now and they'd li...	tiredtonite	19	853	Jan 15, 2015 by PP
	Forum guidelines/rules...where are they?? (Preview) I have been trying to find guidelines to posting on this forum and I cant find them. can a moderator help with this? thanks	Newlife girl	2	629	Jan 15, 2015 by Debilyn
	Happy Birthday G2B (Preview) Dear Catherine ( aka G2B) I pray that you have a very memorable day and that you enjoy a little of the comfort and love that you bring to others on this your special day.	hotrod	27	962	Jan 14, 2015 by grateful2be
	Coming Home (Preview) My AH has found out he will be coming home probably within 2 weeks from the 3/4 way house. I don't know how to feel about it really. I had hoped the transition from sober living to home would have been done a lot differently such as building up time and days of being home rather than every other weekend, but i...	Flower49	13	682	Jan 14, 2015 by Helpangel
	Started dating newly recovering alcoholic (Preview) This is a bit of a long story and all very new to me just a heads up... I'm just trying to understand everything. I began dating this guy about 3 months ago. I really fell for him in the beginning because we have similar careers and passions. We both work with children with special needs and I loved talkin...	Bostonpugwoman	33	1320	Jan 14, 2015 by Jerry F
	PP heres the look LOL (Preview) JK	Cathyinaz	5	613	Jan 14, 2015 by neshema2
	A little guidance... (Preview) Im following the steps of AlAnon for my own healing with regard to my A husband of 20 years. 10 years ago he quit drinking And hasn't had a drink since. Little did I know that that was only half the battle. I grew to be a sicker co-dependent as the years went on, even though there was no drinking. His person...	expertatdenial	6	558	Jan 14, 2015 by Debilyn
	Alateen ? (Preview) hi strangers! I am missing this board and really need to get back to being more active! The holidays were fast and furious and now life is getting back to our "normal". Hope the New Year has been good for ya'll! i have 3 teenagers. My middle teen is really struggling and last night she and I had a...	Fairlee	3	482	Jan 14, 2015 by DavidG
	Alcoholic Wife Disaster (Preview) My wife has spent 6 of the last 9 weeks in rehab. During the family program visit she told me that she had removed her wedding band the day she got there and it was "freeing". One week later she was home. She stayed with us for two nights. However, each day she would drive back to the treatment c...	MooseWork	11	962	Jan 14, 2015 by Newlife girl
	Newbie seeking advice (Preview) Greetings, My girlfriend of almost 3 years entered a womens retreat last Thursday after a almost tragic single vehicle accident on Tuesday. She went willingly and says she is ready to get sober and deal with her painful past. There is no communication allowed during the first week, and very little i...	Dean P	8	758	Jan 14, 2015 by Newlife girl
	feeling 12 years old (Preview) Well I went to class today, I was ten minutes late because of car problems and I apologized to the instructor, this class has been laid back with people cross talking and interrupting, so the girl in front of me was showing me where we were at and all of a sudden he got upset and told us he didn't like talking...	mjferg	28	707	Jan 14, 2015 by Jerry F
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