The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I had a great holiday with my sons. Two home from college and my soldier home on leave. They are amazing people. I have felt so full of love for 3 weeks. Someone in the house, someone to help with the chores, someone to hug. I talked to them about their father and me and our separation. I think it bothers them more then they let on. One said do your own thing mom, one said dad is losing it so find someone else, and one said maybe you should move. Well, that surprises me coming from my own sons.
Two have already gone back to school. My soldier leaves in two days. So I want them to soar with the eagles. I know we are connected even tho they won't be here. I will go to my f2f meeting tomorrow. I have a void inside of myself that must have come from my childhood. I know that I have to fill it up myself and with the help of my HP. Dealing with my A is not easy so I am working on better boundaries. I am truly grateful all the gifts that I have.
"I think it bothers them more then they let on..."
Maybe... but to me they sound like young men who are very proud and supportive of thier Mom, and have confidence that she will be ok no matter what she decides to do to make her life complete.
What a gift you have given them by your example at this important time in thier lives. Just as they are making huge decissions about careers and school. It is a great time to learn that you have a right to live happy joyous and free (as Rita loves to say) and they are learning that from you.
We all are. I wish you and your boys enough.... and thank your soldier for me, and tell him that others in the world appreciate what he is doing for us and his country.
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
