The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I know that I have been just posting chaotic stuff going with me and my A, this is where I am at right now. I hope that it doesn't offend anyone. You have the power to delete the message when you see mine come in, but I hope you all care for me more than that.
Also, I have found many friends here and I know they say "take what you like and leave the rest." I thank God for the ones who have reached out to me by replying to my post or PM. IT means the world to me to know that someone out there cares
Just want you to know that I really feel for what you are going through. I don't have any answers but send my positive vibrations your way. You are strong so now believe it.
We all have had those times. I think the neatest part of the program is that people love me even when I am unlovable. I came in pretty crazy. I felt that way. I burned up the phone lines, cornered people in the program and held them hostage, and they loved me through it. The more I talked, the more I got out...the better I felt. Not one person told me I was crazy or told me to stop because they had been there once themselves. That is this program. We have been there. We all share a common problem. We are not that different. Today, I give that back to people. I listen and get held hostage (I still hold people hostage too). I do for others, the same that was done for me when I came in. I cannot keep what I have gained if I do not give it away.
Read your literature, post about things, talk about things with people in the program, go to f2f meetings, get a sponsor, and work those steps. Little by little.....things will get easier, there will be more clarity, and for me a new way of life. You are worth it and deserve it as well as everybody else.
Here is part of the closing to some of the meetings I go to....and I take it to heart!
"The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest.
A few special words to those of you who haven't been with us long; Whatever your problems, there are those among us who have had them too. If you try to keep and open mind, you will find help. You will come to realize that there is no situation too difficult to be bettered and no unhappiness too great to be lessened.
We are not perfect. The welcome we give you may not show the warmth we have in our hearts for you. After a while, you'll discover that though you may not like all of us, you'll love us in a very special way-the same way we already love you.
Talk to eachother, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding , love, and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time."
hippielove we are all here for such similar reasona and we all have gone through times that we wish we could have handled differently.
be gentle with yourself please, you are a dear person worthy of compassion, patience and love. we will give that to you. try to give it to yourself too - tho i sure know how hard it can be!
read some inspirational words that make YOU feel good about YOU. look at the sun - look at the rain - look at some positive things to help balance all the hurt we feel.
WE all do this, we all understand and want you to share with us. When one person lets out their stuff others feel comfy to do so also.
I was sharing the good stuff for a long time. then needed to share I was having trouble. I felt so stupid. But I was so mixed up. the simplest reminders helped me soooo much.
the disease can pull us down quickly. love,debilyn
I have used this board to vent, cry, morn, and heal.....Please keep your post true to yourself.....I imagine when this page was designed, it was designed for this fact....so we have a place to come and not be judge.
