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I was thought I would share something positive with you, some of my experience, strength and *hope that I am now reflecting on.
I feel this it is part of my healing by being able to do so after my last vent update here. My son turned 17 December 4th. I will gloat a bit too with this – I admit I have a knack for giving gifts from the heart. Yes, he is my only child and as I’ve admitted before I have *way over compensated -Being the single parent and doing what his other family (A side) did not. I am by no means well off to spoil him in ways you think. Yet there is nothing he needs for (another thing to give thanks to my Hp for) – the things he *wants for is a different story.
This is one gift I am quite proud of and in no way did I feel like I *had to do any of it.
Son is 17, if he goes away to college my time will be limited to share such things as this.
An important Al-Anon note: I was able to put aside my hurt and disappointment with him (again so grateful)
As I get older I reflect on the missed opportunities I could have had with my mother – Ah ha, live, love and grow. I can learn and pass it on -Thank you Al-Anon!
Some time ago we discussed one particular play and he mentioned wishing to see a real museum in the City. For his B’day I had cooked his favorite meal and got his fav cake and a card. Inside I wrote, “Leave Saturday open and be prepared to take a bite out of the Big Apple *wink”
The only thing I filled him in was he could choose where to eat. He decided on The Hard Rock Café. He asked hints – is it big, can I carry it with me, hold it? I replied with, (I am so bad, lolol) well, it’s huge and I am sure you can carry it with you and No, you can not hold it in your hands *now, (in all honesty the tix had to be p/u at the show) He said, ‘I know, it’s a Broadway Show’ I said we may *see one while going to The Hard Rock. And no, we are not going to a Broadway Show (I so had him, the show was Off Broadway)
The day mapped out, started with a full meal before we headed into the City and then onto the MET (his 1st surprise) then onto St. Patrick’s, the Tree, Times Square (all surprises, he just followed along) Hard Rock (for dinner), Macy’s Windows (Herald Square) and then onto the grand finale he still was clueless n tired, having about an hour to fill before the show, I broke it to him why we were in that part of town -We were ending the day to see “The Blue Man Group”. Yup, he woke up! I will share a bit about this show; it’s very unique music, its art, full of life meanings – And SO funny! To watch my cool 17 yr old laugh n smile was priceless!
Then – lol, love how this works, driving home he said “Mom, you got me real good, this was the best birthday gift! -What will you do to top this next year?”
Well, smiling so he can not see, “You will be 18, this was it!”
I know, I know <uh –huh>
Here is my hope part of this share. I hope that I was able to pass on that even tho times may be rough rt now, those moments were set aside and possibly a seed of being able to live, love and perhaps grow is possible. I love my son. I may have needed this day more then he did. I have been blessed in so many ways (this day was an example) and in that I must continue to focus on the good and know that there is always hope and *please let it begin with me

http://www.kodakgallery.com/Slideshow.jsp?Uc=y9w2ink.alsjiee4&Uy=-u9gimj&Upost_signin=Slideshow.jsp%3Fmode%3Dfromshare&Ux=0&mode=fromshare&conn_speed=1

-- Edited by tea2 at 04:43, 2006-12-30

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Tea,


Your post made having insomnia worth the lost sleep. Wonderful pics and memories that will last a lifetime. I've always wanted to go to the Guggenheim (sp? geez it's been that long since I thought of it) ... you've given me inspiration. Thank you for sharing.


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(((((((((((Tea)))))))))),


What an awsome post!  I love the Blue Man Group, they are sooo cool!  You've had a tough time lately.  Glad you and son were able to have a wonderful time.  I've forgotten how much I miss the museums.  Hubby and I are aquarium and zoo buffs and they were showing pictures of the Shedd in Chicago and Boston.  Brings back many happy memories.  This is one memory you and son will be sharing with your grandchildren.


Happy New Year to you and your son sweet lady.  Much love and blessings for the coming year. 


Live strong,


Karilynn, Hubby & Pipers Kitty


P.S. Hubby thinks you're pretty sexy! No argument there!



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Nice (((((tea))))))

You can file that trip away to the God Box that lives in your heart. I bet son will too. *Even if he never admits it :)*

Love ya
Christy

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Oh (((((((((Tea!!))))))))))))))

What a wonderful experience you and your son had.

That is a day the both of you will remember and cherish forever!

I am so happy for you. What a wonderful example of not letting the past mess with the present! (a little pun there )

Love ya!

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Tracey,

Brings tears to my eyes!!! You go MOM!!!!

Love ya,
Maria

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 Tea, what a GREAT story. It looks like your son had SO MUCH FUN. What play did you see?

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((((((((((((((tea)))))))))))))))))


sounds and looks like a fantastic day... talk about  being in the moment.  Thank you for the reminder to appreciate the good... it does get easy to get wrapped up in the negatives sometimes. You have given a gift that will last forever.. way to go Mom!


Good looking family, you and your son! who knew our Tea was so beautiful?!


Thanks for sharing


 



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(((((tea))))


Great share! Beautiful son. I can live vicariously thru your pixs being in Arizona. Enjoy your moments because he will be gone soon. Mine are all out of the house.


In support,


Nancy



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(((tea)))

what an awesome gift to give your son. Sounds like you had an aswesome day together...what you gave is a gift that keeps on giving...you made a memory that he can hold dear to his heart. Thanks for sharing that day with us.

your friend in recovery,
rosie

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(((((( Rosie, Nancy, Raven, Tiger, Maria, David (*the Porsche Man), Christy, Karilynn (and Pipers Kitty) and Jennifer )))))),


Thank you all so very much for your words of encouragement and understanding with this share /post


I am so grateful I am now able to share with you all, the bad as well as the good. I was not telling much for awhile because I was on some dang ride known as the merry-go-round  


As I said I really need to *see the good in life as well. Not just for son - but for me.


Jennifer I thought the MET was a good place for Son's 1st real museum experience


http://www.metmuseum.org/home.asp
I agree, next time I am aiming for the Guggenheim Museum


Here is a link incase you need it: http://www.ny.com/museums/guggenheim.museum.soho.html


Kari, I am so happy to hear you were reminded of happy memories


Nancy, although you are in Arizona I know that is quite the beautiful state (I had family there, I have heard and seen pictures, someday I hope to go west). We just happen to live 20 or so miles from NYC.


Tiger the show we went to is an Off Broadway one: The Blue Man Group
Here are two links: http://www.blueman.com/landing/ny/ and http://www.blueman.com/ 


You may recognize them, (I think they did Intel commercials (?))They started in NYC and now have shows all over.


Raven and Kari, you sure have me blushing  (lol!) and are way too kind!


Hey Porsche Man - loved the little pun!


I see that my motto is rather fitting for this post ~


“the love you take is equal to the love you make” (Lennon/McCartney)


Tracey


 



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