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I feel the sucking of getting sucked into drama all around me. My MIL called at 12:30am to tell me her lost baby called collect last night and then emailed me at 130am saying that he told her it would cost $900 to get the truck out of impound. I called last friday and it was $465. Today I called and it was 545 and it's +20 a day. Also he claims that they won't let him get his personal stuff out of the truck - the guy at the wrecking yard said he could come get personal effects out anytime. Now he is telling my MIL that I am lying and he is upset that she believes me over him. I have been trying to figure out why he would do that? he just got paid $1000 on Friday. IM NOT PAYING TO GET THE TRUCK OUT!!!!! I still need him to sign the papers for the house sale. most of the time we can't locate him. ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGG
Keep the focus on you. You will never be able to figure out why they lie they just do! I heard at an AA meeting once....How do you know when an A is lying? Their lips are moving!
The truck and the stuff in the truck are his problem. Stay strong and refuse to be sucked into that game!
Think of it this way: by making it sound like things are alot bigger and worse than they are, your husband makes for more drama. He gets more atttention by creating a crisis. If he were honest about how things went down and what was really going on, do you think your MIL would be so pitious?
Additionally, think seriously about setting some boundries with dear mommy. Your relationship with your husband is none of her business. If she wants to save him, let her. But this whole nonsense about "my poor baby" is nuts. "her poor baby" has been in jail, broken into your house, has a nasty cocaine addiction, and hasn't shown much of an interest in being actively accountable in his children's lives. Doesn't sound that impovershed to me. Sounds like a coward, really.
Why would he do that ? to have money to drink of course. A's will do and say anything to get what they need that is the disease talking not the man . I feel for both you and mom , perhaps suggest mom in law call the pound herself . This is a disease cunning baffling and powerful ; stay strong and trust your instincts . Louise
Obviously you are on the ceiling about this stuff. I switch my phone off at certain times.
I also have told the A in no uncertain terms that if he ever goes to jail don't call me or call me about getting out of any mess.
I would still of course hear about it though and I can choose some of my reactions some days.
I do know that the A is playing a bait game with you about the house. Presumably the A needs some money too and needs the house sale to go through. In the meantime I don't see that you have much choice but to deal with him and his dramarama. I do know the dramarama gets seriously old at some point. At the same time keep your eye on the prize...you are on your way out. It is a matter of time. This is not going to be your life for ever. Keep that in mind.
I really seriously these days try to keep a lid on resentments and have patience. Patience helps patience will get you through the time of selling this house, dealing with the truck whatever you have to deal with. Patience will get you to a place where you no longer require his signature for anything. Right now you do, but in time you won't.
