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Just wanted to post a little update.......my transmission went in my car, motor is blown up in the jeep....how lovely is this....sigh.....I have a co-worker who is out to get me...long story goes way back...boss asked me today, what is the bad blood, I said, I have no idea...I have known her hub for 30 yrs and I love him dearly and she has always hated me...let's just leave it at that........he just looked at me...lol
The good news is, I am feeling a little better about things, hub is finally off the streets, he is in a mental word right now..trying to find a rehab...who knows....I wish him well...and I hope for his sake he can do it....we are finished.....but I do have some releif in knowing where he is...crazy.
I have been having some really really bad days lately.........I have cried alot...I am hoping that is over with for awhile.....today was a better day.....I am feeling a small calming come over me and I will take it.......All I can hope for is tomorrow to be a little better.....this is a slow painful process....now, instead of minute to minute maybe I can look at one day at a time.....
I am so greatful for all the wonderful comments to my posts....thank you all so very much....
I am sorry, it sounds as though you have hit a few bumps. You are handling it wonderfully from what I can see. Thank you for posting, this helps me today.
Hello Andrea , a little rough huh? Regardless of how determined u are to end this relationship . Your still going to grieve what could have been should have been. I too am glad he is off the streets .
As to the co worker , kill her wilth kindness drives em nuts , never talk to her alone always have someone else with in ear shot or better yet confront her and ask her what her problem is . Wanna bet she is jealous ?? especially now that u are basically a single lady . Louise
Sorry to hear about your car troubles, and the work problems. I think it is good though that your boss has appoached you about it, seems he is being fair and see's this is not a work related problem but a personal one.
It's ok to grieve for a lost relationship, it's natural and it does get better. Slowly, sometimes too slowly but you eventually start to feel better. As far as feeling crazy for having relief in knowing where he is...no you are not crazy, you are just a caring person. It's a matter of compassion for another human being.
Bit by bit you will find your way out of the darkness. Know that you are not alone, and we are holding the light at the end of the tunnel with open arms. Love you dearly. We are always here for you. Keeping you and your family in our prayers as always.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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I am sorry for your work problems and car problems, and your grief for what you are going through with your A. Your post helped so much though, and gives us hope that life does go on, this is not the end of your world. I am so glad you have had a little calm in the sad days. I know how it is to feel up and down, up and down.
I hope things calm down for you, gracious lady, and stay strong and keep us posted on you!
I sure can relate to your post and a big strong warm hello from the other side of hell.
I too lived with an active A. My transmission died and he would not agree to get it fixed. He would not let me use his vehicle said it was in his name and he would call the cops on me. I bought a second hand bike and rode the 7 miles to work and the store etc for a year and a half.
Of course my marital problems did not help me at work and I got in a tiff with a co-worker who eventually was laid off for his bad reactions but in hindsight I had a part.
I know of the darkness and the despair of leaving the man you love.
For me, it was the hardest thing I did in my life.
I will always love him..but... in the end I love myself and my sanity more.
The other side is filled with life and hope and love...keep walking....
in support
megan
PS I am glad that your husband is getting the help he needs
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
I am always amazed at how your love for the A shines through. There are times with the A I live with where I don't believe I have any love at all anymore and that sadden mes.
I have to remind myself it is life on life's terms. I am grateful right now I do not have to deal with health issues. I have had them before. The A, of course, was no help then either. He never has been of help to me only a burden.
I am so sorry you have issues at work. I have had those too.
I am so so grateful the economy has started to look better. I am also grateful I am willing.
I am looking right now for another job so I can give up the two jobs I currently have. I pray it will not be long. I also pray I can get to the place you are at, beyond him.
I hope to be at a place like that soon in the next year where he is no longer a thorn i my side.
Right now I have the holidays to contend with. No doubt the A will have issues bout the holidays he is used to going to his mothers. I am not taking that on for him.
I hope you and your children have a safe and happy holiday a brief respite in this life of difficulty.
I also hope that as the divorce progresses you find some more relief.
So sorry about your car, and co-worker. I agree with abbyal.....go out of your way to be nice, no matter what. I believe that is how God would want us to react as well. Keep your eyes on God, and even though hard things continue to happen, you won't be handling them alone, God will get you through! You continue to be in my prayers, as do your kids and your husband. It's all about baby steps and moving forward. I pray that God will bless you beyond imagination!
