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Yesterday was our school's home coming dance....my daughter went and she looked lovely....she had no father there to tell her how beautiful she was...she did however have a mom..me...she cried a little she wanted her dad....my heart broke.....my son did not go..he just doesn't want to do anything...I can't get him to leave the house except for school....I am trying my best to work thru this mess...and what a mess it is....
Hub called last night, what do you want me to do he says..what a fen joke...he is now realizing a monthe later what is going on, that he is not living at home anymore...how crazy is that....I told him our life as we knew is is over, I am doing the very best I can to move forward with my life...he said, he misses the kids...well no shit, I would die without seeing my kids for a mounth.....I think he is just out of resources right now....so he is sober or getting sober and on the pitty pot...
Well he can keep the damn pitty pot all to himself...he chose to use it.....I will not sit on that darn pot one more minute....I am trying to get thru this the best I can....I will say I am having a hard time...but I am getting there....slowly...very slowly...don't miss understand me....I miss him....I just refuse to live the life I had anymore...anything has to be better than living with addiction.... I am going to do the best I can to maintain and keep moving forward thanks for being here...thanks for the compassion and understanding....
Dearest friend you sound very strong. The decisiosns you have made for you and your family were hard but were in their best interest. I am sure your daughter looked beautiful (after all look at her Mom). I hope your son will open up to you. Perhaps he is just protecting his heart again, or feels helpless (he's the man of the family now) like he should be doing more, but doesn't know how. (I'm just guessing here, I have a cat.) You are a brave and couragious lady with lots of love to give. I have no doubt you will see your family through this time. You're my hero. I am blessed to call you friend and honored by your friendship.
Sending you all the love,strength and prayers I can sweet lady.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Good for you for staying strong in your convictions. You have gotten much wisdom from this program and it shows! I too was like Karilynn, I was more lonley while he was active. It was like living with a ghost. He just wasn't really there.
I'll keep you and your children in my prayers Christy
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It was always so painful to me not to have a parent there to re assure me how pretty I looked on the night of those big dances. I'm learning today that it's okay to have those feelings.
I'm also learning that people DID reassure me that I was pretty--teachers, the school councelors, whatever. It was that the people that mattered the most didn't. I'm glad your daughter had you.
What a lot you have been through in the last year or so. I know how fiercely protective you are of your children.
For me going from standing on my head to just doing enough for me is so so key. Right now there is a huge crisis at work with one of my coworkers. I am not getting into it. They can deal with it. I am through compromising myself to help others. My days as savior are gone. I am not indifferent but I am in the picture now.
I think it is amazing that you can deal with the A with compassion and with your feelings in there too. I find that hard to hold the two.
Andrea iwould bet your son is doing what mine did when his dad left our home. He stopped going out with his friends , to stay home with me to make sure i was okay
I was going to several meetins a week then in the evning i finally convinced him to at least go out til 11 cause i was going for coffee after our meeting , He was always home when i got there. it will pass .When he is convinced that your ok things will return to normal for him.
Just reasure him that your all going to be okay . Love Louise
I can totally relate to you! I am lifting you and your family up in prayer! God is in the business of changing lives and hearts.....I do believe that! I know I can't rely on my own, but I have to depend on God. He is the only thing that can get me through this mess. I'm trusting God for you today Andrea and your family! God Bless you all!
