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Well, yesterday was a very difficult day for my husband it was the 2nd anniversary of his mothers death. As you know he is living in a camper after I kicked him out nearly 4 weeks ago.
Last night he went to his fathers and then the grave site and said he would call me later. I said okay and went on .. I took my mother to BINGO :) at about 9:30 I hadnt heard from him so I called his cell to check in.. Well, he was very drunk.. I said that I was just checking in and I would talk with him later. He called about 10 more times wondering where I was... Each time I told him i was at BINGO with my Mom. Then he called my house another 10 times looking for me and each time my daughter told him I was not home i was at BINGO .. I told him I would call him when I got home which I did. He was crying, telling me how much he loves me etc..... I told him I love him too and to go to bed... I am sure that he is feeling very guilty right now but I havent called. I hope he is okay that is what I worry about. He is on medication too and I am hoping that he didnt take too many while drunk..
I am dissapointed but not suprised.
Today is a NEW day... I am trying so hard to live ODAT ...
That must have been really hard on both of you. Tramatic life triggers must be a real tough compulsion to overcome, but he can start over any time he wants. If he and his HP work together his sobriety won't end, just take a quick break. So hang in there.
As you said... today is a new day for all of us. Thank goodness!
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
You handled that well. I'm sorry it had to end. Those days are hard to handle no matter how long they've been gone. Let's hope it was just a hiccup. We get to start all over today. Perhaps he will too. Stay strong. Keep doing what you've been doing. It's working for you.
Love and blessings to you.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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I am sorry. It is such a let down. I'm glad you weren't surprised. Too many times this year I was just devastated, after a couple of weeks of sobriety and then drunk again. Just couldn't believe it. It sounded like a bad day for him. You sound strong though and you sound compassionate towards him. His HP has him in his hands and is doing his work with him.
I will pray for you always and your husband and kids. Try not to worry about him and acting unafraid.... HP has a plan for him, too... and will carry you through this tough time. Good for you to begin this day anew, and he will too....
I just spoke with my husband and he is okay but is beating himself up pretty badly.. I told him it is a new day and he is in control of what he does with it.. For now I will just say a prayer..
God I hate it when that happens! Yep, today is a new day, and you have the right attitude. I could learn from you. Take it easy and be good to yourself.
With caring, Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I am so sorry Tammy! ! My A is in a controlled drinking stage, I wish it were easier for all of those affected by this horrible disease....I'm here if you need to talk. Hugs Mary
I know how hard this is for you, but at least he has had some sobriety, so that's :) #1. As my A was getting more sober, sure he slipped, and I freaked, but ya know, it gets less and less often now, and he is learning new habits.( like handling things without getting plastered). He had never done that before, that was :) #2 for me, with more and more :) s, and less and less :( s.
Hang in there! ODAT, sometimes one second is all we can handle, but, hey, that was a special second! You handled that very well, keep up the good work, and prayers for more and more :) s, Love, TLC
