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jelous A


My A while I was online stated to be that my sponsor was past her bed time. My A doesnt like me talking to my sponsor. Is actually really jelous of me talking to my sponsor.  Any suggestions.

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Only one suggestion , keep talking to your sponsor , going to meetings and keep the focus on your own needs . A's don't like change period  and I believe that they need us alot more than we need them and a part of them knows that and it scares em half to death. 


His own insecurities are his biggest problem, I finally told my husb that the only reason we were still married was because of this program and a good sponsor who listened and never gave advice . He simply said  OH !


Louise



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butterfly,

I can only absolutely agree with what abbyal said. She is so wise.

Keep strong, and keep going.

We are all here for you
AM

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Aloha butterfly!!


It's okay for your alcoholic to have feelings so allow him the dignity of having them.  It's very okay to talk with your sponsor.  You will get more recovery from working with your sponsor than your alcoholic.  Most likely what your alcoholic is saying is, "What you're doing is making me FEARFUL."  Tell him, "I understand you are fearful.  Talking it out with YOUR sponsor may help."  


Just a few of 40 gazillion possible suggestions.   I like them all....(((((hugs)))))



-- Edited by Jerry F at 04:55, 2006-10-12

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My A told me an a's worst nightmare is alanon.


they know we get information and the disease does not like it. It likes anonimity. spell? You know what a liar they become, they hide things, secretive....


The disease knows, with knowledge we are a bigger enemy.


take care of you, don't let anything stop you.


remember that is a disease talking, not the A. love,debilyn



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Keep doing what you are doing. Your recovery is about you, not your A. Jealousy is their problem not ours.

Live strong,
Karilynn

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Thanks all. Yes my recovery is very important. My A being jelous is my A;s issue



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