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I just got a call from AH who has been unemployed for a while now and our financial situation is going downhill. He says he has a temporary printing position and the guy said it would be for a while, like a month or so. It is the graveyard shift, (who cares, ANYTHING is needed at this point) and he called to tell me the good news. I told him congratulations and he said "I shouldn't have to have a congratulations, I should have never sunk so low to not have a job." I told him that I believed in him. He never has not worked for a long period of time before, in the 17 years I have known him.
Even though he is not pursuing help for his disease, we (I) need this help right now. Would you please say a prayer for him that he continues to be at least functional enough to work well at this job? I don't know what else to do at this point except pray. This is really good news because jobs are scarce out there, but I am scared as usual that something will happen and it won't last. It is possible it could turn into a permanent position for him....
It is also good that it is a graveyard shift, it should keep him out of the bars at night and I can continue with my detachment process - going to meetings and reaching out to others.
Thanks for listening and being here, hope everyone is having a good day...!
Maybe this is the fallen acorn in your husband's heart. I pray that in this new beginning, he finds a sense of renewal that will sustain him. I pray that he can turn his focus from the disappointment of having been without work, and reframe it to the blessing this new job may prove to be. And I pray that you find peace in your journey, in the newfound hope and grace, which you are bringing forth from your generous heart.
My A son just started a job yesterday. He has not worked steady since his separation in October. He did have some money to back him up but it would have been nice if he could have held on to that. Too late..."let it go Gail"
I'm afraid if he doesn't stick with this job that he will never keep a permanent job.
You have been an inspiration to me, because, at the moment, I am not having financial difficulties to deal with at the same time I am trying to deal with the AH! Things are a little tight, but not really bad. I try to not thing about how bad things could become as his disease progresses.
Good for you for realizing that if the graveyard shift works out, you can take that time for you, and YOUR recovery.
And, yeah, I think it was very kind of you to congratulate your AH on his job. I know my AH thinks so badly of himself sometimes is why he treats me badly. I try to stay kind, most of the time. I feel it is more empowering to take the high road.
So, congrats to both of you. Him for the job, and you for taking care of your needs.
