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Today's the big day. The attorney is serving my A/cocaine-addicted husband with divorce papers.
I'm a bit concerned about his reaction and possible retalliation. I just hope he doesn't come into the house when I'm not here and take things that he shouldn't... or break things. I don't know. I've taken some important stuff away from the house. Today I'm taking my 2 little dogs to my mom's house. He knows that they mean everything to me and I'm afraid he might try to take them away from me to hurt me.
I don't think it will be a complete surprise to him. He's not really spoken to me for about 3 days. He's mad because I'm keeping money in an account that he isn't able to access. I keep it there for paying the bills... not for my own personal use. I keep it there so he doesn't take it all and use it for drugs and alcohol. Most of the big bills we have to pay are due to his consumption of alcohol and drugs. I guess in his messed up mind he doesn't see it that way.
I did write him that letter and I'm planning on giving it to him when I see him again. Thanks for listening!
Artygirl
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Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.
It's always strange when we take big steps. It's like "I know I've needed to do this. I know it's well over due. But I'm....." Scared? Nervous? Anxious? I mean, for me, all these feelings run together and it's like I can't stop this niagra falls of feelings.
I want you to know that we're here for you. Keep us posted. Divorce is painful and sometimes ugly. But I'm proud of you for setting a line. For being honest with your needs. Keep up the great work.
Gee whiz!! I have had divorce papers hidden in my closet since this past May because I didn't have the courage that you did to give them to my "A"! Besides my car not being in running condition and taking a vacation to the Gulf Coast to see the hurricane damage, (my "A"'s idea)...I have to start all over again saving the money to leave next Spring. I have been going through my things for months getting rid of all the " don't need stuff any more" so it will all fit into my wagon when the time finally arrives! I don't want to have to come back to this place for anything once I shut the door behind me! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I wish the very best for you. I am so envious!! <LOL> Good Luck!!! Keep posting to lets us know how it goes, ok? I need the inspiration!! Hugs, Korinne
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Today, I am grateful to be on the path of dealing with my life and continuing to grow truly stronger.
My prayers and thoughts are with you. It is such a scary place to be.... you have all of our support and love with you, remember. I haven't known "for certain" whether to leave or not, but it is looking that way. I sympathize with your financial problems because of his disease(s).
I'm so glad you're here, and maybe try to hit some face to face meetings also while you're going through this change. They have been saving my life lately.
Good for you for taking your dogs, too!!!! Things will smooth out with your HP's guidance and your life will be full of peace.
