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rtexas


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(((Everyone)))


I posted earlier about a delima I was having about helping my in-laws move.  Well you offered me some wonderful words, which I didn't read until it was too late.  <sigh>


I did what I thought was right.  Called my in-laws and asked if they wanted my help and asked directions.  They seemed a little taken off guard, but gave me the directions.


Then the mistake... Saw my AW at lunch and when she said bye, I said see you later.  She said "I don't know when I will be home", and I told her I was going to meet them over there to help with the heavy stuff.  Well she got preturbed, and I ... kept talking.  Turned into a little mini-fight.


Dang I am mad at myself.  I could have just shut up and let her deal with it one way or the other, but no....


After cussing and screaming at myself, I pictured what this was like.  Imagine someone putting their hands on your shoulders and pushing on you.  To keep from falling over you push back.  I can see these conversations going this way.  That's when she puts her hands on my shoulders.  Then she starts to push....


If I would just step aside.... she would either stand up on her own or fall the F down...  Boy I am flustered today.


Thanks for all your support, sorry I didn't live up to all the "... you are strong and doing well at detatching" you offered me in the other post.  I do pretty good most of the time, then I just step all over myself. 


She's not likely to do anything different any time soon, so I guess I will have more chances to practice... LOL


Take care of you!



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DoN4me


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(((((((((rtexas))))))))), 


Sorry you are going threw such a hard time right now! 


One thing I have learned in recovery. I have all the time in the world to learn and grow and discover who I am inside. So starting over doesn't bother me because I learn something more about me.


ONE DAY AT A TIME!


DO


 



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Karilynn


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((((((((((((Rtexas)))))))))),


To heck with the minifight.  You did what you wanted to do: help your in-laws.  Good for you!  Cut yourself some slack. 


Live strong,


Karilynn & Pipers Kitty



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abbyal


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Hello RT - progress not perfection . None of us does this right all of the time . Your human cut yourself a little slack.   Al-Anon responses must be habitual for tht serene life we seek and alas after 20 yrs i am still not there. EASY DOES IT  and try again . you only fail when u quit trying


 



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((((((((((((RTexas)))))))))))))))),

If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.

keep coming,
Maria123

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