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A came back to the house we were suppose to be talking but I was so emotional out of it because of a death in the family I was not up to talking to him about "our" situation. Of course we end up having sex which never solves anything and today it seems to be back to the same old stuff, him drinking and saying he can do what he wants and that being out of the house last week was peaceful for him. When he came to house he said he was not here to stay and I said ok but he ended up staying. There is a big thing going on with his son and he seems to only care about that and drinking. But you know what... I am not surprised about him drinking only after one day. Maybe I shouldn't even deal with him until I get through all the stuff associated with the death in my family
Sorry to hear about the death of your family member. And sorry to hear your A hasn't changed (remember we can't change them) But we can change ourselves. Please take care of YOU especially while you are going thru this.
My prayers go out to you for your death in the family, much love and support at this time. I know it is extremely hard to then deal with an alcoholic also when you are having a crisis time.
Try not to be hard on yourself, and remove yourself from chaotic situations as hard as it is to continue to want to be in the drama somehow. I found that the drama will go on with or without me, and it is better for me to be gone for ME. Then I miss it all and it is better.
