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My A has been out of the house for 6 days now and although I am keeping busy.. I have feelings of being alone....is it unusual to feel this way...although I feel better by not having to deal with his insulting drunk behavior
He seems to be doing fine away from the house and for the most part I am too...except for the moments of feeling so alone...his belongings are still here....will it get better after he moves them out? I just don't know what I am suppose to be feeling.....
I know I don't like the way I feel now... my first face to face meeting will be Tuesday and I am hoping it will help.
Just wanted you to know you are not alone. (((((((LadyLibra)))))))
My bf travels a lot (usually home weekends) but has taken a new position and will be gone more. When I'm feeling toooo lonely I usually go to the chat room, read posts here, or catch an online meeting.
Remember you have a whole new family out here to keep you company!
You are really not alone. I know your feelings, but the face to face will definitely help. I took a trip by myself recently because my alcoholic husband canceled, and you know what? I rejoiced in being alone, and I was so afraid. It was heavenly, I did what I wanted to do.
I don't know if you pray, but I ended up praying, meditating and just relaxing. It is just fear, all it boils down to is fear of being alone. We come into this world alone, and leave alone. We should learn to become our own best friends. It is a process, really. I know where you are, I thought I would lose my mind living alone or being without someone with me at home, but it does feel so much better now. I have gotten to the point that I know that I could live alone fine. I'm sure there would be some lonely times, but for the most part, I like my own company!!
Also, there are so many volunteer things you can do to keep yourself busy and socialize with people. You can talk to elderly people in a home, or do something with disabled people. There are SO many people in this world that need love and compassion and sometimes just someone to talk to. Getting out there and making even a little difference in this world can make you feel tons better, and you will be around people and forgetting about the loneliness!!! Just a suggestion....
God luck and love to you, oh yes and this board is amazing. SO many caring, lovely people here.
I too put my A out of the house while he was drinking. I could not live that life any more.
Soon you will learn the difference between being alone and being lonely. It doesn't sound like there's any difference, but there is. Relish in the quiet and serenity. It's easier to be extra good to yourself.
Live strong,
Karilynn
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
When I'm feeling toooo lonely I usually go to the chat room, read posts here, or catch an online meeting. 
