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I have been reading alot of the posts and they are helpful. In regarding about the infidelity I started wondering if my A has been unfaithful to me. Although I have never found anything to lead me in the direction I have often felt he was having flings which would be hard for me to prove because he is a truck driver and often gone for a couple of days at a time. But in the past few months I have noticed a definite change in his behavior not coming home and stating he was just going to sleep in the truck on the company yard until time for him to leave later that night. He was suppose to be moving his things out but he has not done that and I haven't hard anything from him in 4 days. I started packing his things and moving them to the garage. I don't want to look at them. I am hoping the pain will stop. I am happy I have things that can keep me busy. I was just didn't realize or understand that being unfaithful was associated with this disease. Thanks for listening. LL
Having your significant other cheating is horrible. I must say from experience, it can be due to wanting to get out of the relationship so finding a way to make it be over. I was actually the person that had an affair when I was married the first time. I wanted out, but didn't know how to get out. I felt trapped. So, instead of throwing him out (again), or me leaving again, I decided to try something different so he wouldn't want me back. Actually it didn't work. He still wanted me back, but I finally was having a mental breakdown and left for the last and final time. I honestly just couldn't take it another day. I was so wore out, there was just nothing left. So, I can't say if or why he is doing this, but usually when you start seeing a different pattern, it could be an area for concern. Take care of YOU and the rest will fall into place. Remember, we are here for you!
Lady please don't worry about things that may not have happened . Yes infidelity is common in A's but not all . If it has happened trust me it will show up .but for now Just don't go there for your sake , you just dont need it . Louise
Thank you Louise for the good advise. You are right I have things to figure about me and I will try and not add the additional stress of wondering and worry if he stepped outside of our relationship.
