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Something to think about.........something to explore just for yourself!!! I think us alanoners take so much time and energy worrying about the A's in our lives, we tend to put ourselves on the back burner of life. We take care, worry, try to fix, try to control everyone else around us, and yet let the most important person (yourself) fall short of self care. Think about the areas where you feel neglected, weak, vulnerable.? Think about what actions or activities would make you feel better?. Think about what feeds you intellectually? What can you do to get more relaxation and quiet time? Ask your soul what is your spiritual anchor?
We all want to feel happy and whole in this life. What we dont do is make it happen. When we get alcoholism tossed into the alreadyhustle and bustle of everyday life, we tend to overlook our own needs. Perhaps by asking these questions to you , you can clearly see "hey I havent thought about that in a very long time" or hey I havent gotten my pedicure in years, or taken that painting course, or sat and watched a good movie or what have you etc. The time is now, what do you need to get the forces within you to go to work?
Great topic! Something I have been reflecting on much lately. For me it is just improving my self image has helped me alot with my internal self. The way I see myself now is different than the way I used to I never had much of self-esteem. But since I have joined the program. I have noticed I have more convidence in me as a person. Since I have this new found convidence I have also noticed my attitude is changing about things. For me the Pampering myself and doing the things I like to do really helps me. I still notice I get angry from time to time about things. But not near as often as I used to. Alot of mine was to do with stress. Financial, emotional, physical, especially on the days there wasn't enough of me to go around. But now I have learned it is ok to say no if I don't agree with something or if I am spread to thin. I am learning to take care of me first.
I need to get my A son out of my home (even though he is not causing me any problem and lives in a separate apartment from me) so that I do not have to be reminded about his disease every day of my life. I have to start getting myself in recovery for my own addiction. I think I know what I have to do...it is just making myself do it.
what helps me the most is to take a nice, long nap. meaning, a nap separate from my 2-yr-old's, a nap with no one kicking me in my lower back one of those "darken the windows, turn on the fan for white noise, turn off the phone, and curl up with a zillion pillows and blankets" kinda naps. i always feel totally recharged after that, like i can take on anything.
am i going to get one of those anytime soon? prolly not *lol* but at least i know what i need
thank for the thought provoking post. It took me ages to decide what I enjoyed doing in the early stages of recovery. I have art materials and I dabble a bit. I love reading, but struggle to find the time....all the usual stuff....
lately I've discovered exercise....just walking in the fresh air....best medicine and therapy for me at the moment....
one of those "darken the windows, turn on the fan for white noise, turn off the phone, and curl up with a zillion pillows and blankets" kinda naps. i always feel totally recharged after that, like i can take on anything.