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Well to many this may seem a small step but to me it is a big one. Today I was out the back sweeping up the patio having a general clean up and then looking around the backyard for mesh to cover the holes our dogs have dug. Started off enjoying it then looked around me at things that have been neglected for many years and could feel my anger building up. So I let go of it. Rang my husband said I have a lot of resentment here that I need to get rid of. Why do I have to be the one who does this all on my own? If I could pull down the old lattice on my own I would. If I could take out the old spa which is an eyesore and is the first thing I see when I walk out the back I would. He is at our business premises and goes there every weekend. Today he is fixing one of the cars. Normally I would think to myself well that is his CAVE time but today was different. Al-anon is teaching me to not accept things I don't like and even if nothing is achieved from today he is aware of my feelings. Feel great now. Hope you all have a lovely weekend. Luv Leo xxx
good for you. that is taking care of you. When we hold in the poison, it makes us sick. that took courage to tell him how you felt.
By the way, how come he can take the lattice out and the old hot tub, but you cannot?
You may have limitations I don't know about, but you might surprise yourself as to what you can do.
I have learned to just, "do it." Wish I was there, I'd do it for you, or bug you until ya did...
Just start with a hammer and take it down. Little bit at a time.
I remember when my washer died. I turned it around, took the back off and looked at stuff, saw what was broken, took it off, went to a parts place and put it back together. It worked!
After that I was building fences, fixing our jeeps, now out here I have to do everying. I even do plumbing. But gotta redo this one part. It leaks a tiny bit. Well I hate to fix it as the tiny frogs love it Leo. I go into my pump house and they are hopping all over the place. lol
So maybe next post you will tell me you got out there and did it??? hugs, love,debilyn
I agree with Debilyn, I found that doing things that seemed to be eye sores to me was a kind of therapy.
I do have limitaitons, fibromyalgia. And you too may have limitations, if so, it may not be possible for you to do these things.
But if you are able to, just pick up a hammer and start with one peice at a time. Before you know it the lattice will be gone and you can look back and see the acomplishment you have made and it will make you feel so good. And you can say, Hey I did that, and I am proud of myself.
When I moved here on my land, it was raw, there were vines choking out the trees, I took a garden rake and just started pulling them down. It is amazing how just doing that provided so much therapy for me. And I did it for me and my HP. Now the trees that he created are huge and flourshing.
If you are able, take that resentment and put it into the things that are making you angry. Then step back and say I did this and it looks good. No one can take that away from you. Hope you have a wonderful day. Hugs Jade
Leo, call a person who comes and cleans up...take the lattice down; haul off the spa. Have him do whatever needs to be done around the outside of the place. Help him with what you can handle. As long as it is there, it will annoy you, whether you "take care of yourself and work your program" or not. Unlike some say, we cannot close our eyes to everything around us and depend on AlAnon to make it all acceptable. Yes. Glad I said that. Now...where's that yellow page directory?
With great caring, Diva
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I agreee with Diva. If you can't do it because of some limitation, then have someone else do it. When I was single I called a friend or someone else (rent-a-husbands are what my single friends call them ). I like to take that anger and frustration and tear things apart, be it the closet or digging in the dirt. Not only do I get the anger and frustration out, I get really tired and so well that night. Make your enviroment a beautiful one. Make it serene and about you. If hubby can use his business to escape to, then by all means surround yourself with a peaceful environment. You can do it.
Love and blessings to you.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
P.S. Send us a plane ticket and we'll come do it!
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). I like to take that anger and frustration and tear things apart, be it the closet or digging in the dirt. Not only do I get the anger and frustration out, I get really tired and 
so well that night. Make your enviroment a beautiful one. Make it serene and about you. If hubby can use his business to escape to, then by all means surround yourself with a peaceful environment. 
You can do it.