The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Hey we agree you are an A, that means you are two or more differnet people in the same body. Put yourself in MY place. I can wake up, turn around, greet you when I see ya, and you are not you, but the monster side of you!
No wonder I found you in jail as you, I was so unnerved. I have not seen you in almost seven years! And you write and ask ME how come some letters are really loving and some are afraid and not sure??? duhhhhhhh
Geez ya see, I hope some of you relate. I know I am basically the same all the time. Very even tempered, a bit sensitive as far as feeling really strong feelings.
But it is no wonder we get so darn confused. I just read nachos husband went to the family get together as him, and when she got there it was the other guy.
Now see this is where I work on the turning around and going back home.
The leaving the room, the sleeping somewhere else. Or the "get out of here, now or I am calling the sheriff...."
Yea me, i am a puppy he loves and hugs and protects then next time kicks me across the room.
No wonder it is rare to be able to live with an A. That is why I have boundaries of, lithium for the bi polar, anti dep. for the depression, A meetings, 90 in 90.With out these boundaries, I cannot live with him.
Now i know why when he is him, he is protective, won't let anyone be mean to me or anything.But the other guy, the monster is mean to me.
I feel bad, I do. But crimany,how impossible is this?
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAA, this is the conversation I had with a dear friend today, who has been where I am, got rid of the A but has never really healed herself. I told her, the man I am married to is sweet spirited, loving, compassionate, protective (in a good way, not a jealous way) gentle hearted....and then there is the other man who only comes out when there is alcohol present. It was so amazing to read your words and know exactly what it's like. Thank you for sharing. Hugs Mary
