The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
…haven’t really been able to participate in MIP online meetings lately (couple months anway)…able to say welcome and thank you, but not able to share. Have always struggled with living in a shell, feelings of rejections, and I can spot someone who doesn’t like a mile away – even online. I grew up having to know who the “enemy” was for my survival – maybe we all did.
…for a few months I was able to share in online meetings, but I guess I’m letting some folks shut me down. When my kids were going to school, I wanted so much to get rid of the bullies - somehow make then go away, but one day the light went on. I realized that the good and bad would always be with us. We just have to learn to live with it.
…this is all probably just my problem, probably just the pity-pot. D*&@, why do I let the way other people treat me, completely shut me down? Why is it that the opinion of others is more important than my own – more important than Gods?
Welcome to MIP...I'm up past my bedtime..started a new job this week! I just wanted to say welcome and I'm glad you were brave enough to post. I truly believe that the bad people/things/times are in our lives for a reason. Life is about learning lessons...what kind of lessons could we learn if everyone/thing/time was just peachy? Take care of you and KEEP COMING BACK.
I grew up in an alcoholic family and even now as an adult have problems at times with knowing how to handle situations. I have a job and a car etc and....I believe even those closest to me wouldn't quite understand the insecurity I feel sometimes.
I found a book "Adult Children of Alcoholics" by Janet Geringer Woititz, and I'm reading it at the moment. It is really helping me understand my situation.
I don't know how you grew up Beblessed of course, but I can sense some distress in your post that is quite familiar to me.
Welcome to MIP...I have found great comfort and strength to grow from the people here. You will too.
Gotta Be, this is truly the greatest place for you to be. Open up, come out of that shell and let everyone here help you. We're all here for the same reason, looking for support, encouragement and even to vent. Continue to post and meet the wonderful people here.
This post is quite a contrast to your other post, dear. I hope you're not being too hard on yourself.
One of the things I've found that al anon is..."like a good book--I can pick it up at any time and know exactly what's going on." There are times when my program is more active than other times. And there are times when my program is in valleys. But what is important is that, well, keep open. Whenever you're feeling low, keep coming back. Whenever you're feeling high, keep coming back. Just hang in, and hang out. If you dont give up on the program, it won't give on you.
…haven’t really been able to participate in MIP online meetings lately (couple months anway)…able to say welcome and thank you, but not able to share. Have always struggled with living in a shell, feelings of rejections, and I can spot someone who doesn’t like a mile away – even online. I grew up having to know who the “enemy” was for my survival – maybe we all did.
Welcome to MIP...I'm up past my bedtime..started a new job this week! I just wanted to say welcome and I'm glad you were brave enough to post. I truly believe that the bad people/things/times are in our lives for a reason. Life is about learning lessons...what kind of lessons could we learn if everyone/thing/time was just peachy?
Take care of you 
and KEEP COMING BACK.