Lifes terms are hitting me pretty brutally right now.  All mostly minor BS but a lot of it all at once. One major issue came up concerning my husband.  I found out yesterday afternoon quite by accident that he lied about seeing a Dr for what was potentially a major medical issue.  He did this so he could get a day off of work and not get into trouble for it.  When this happened I believed him that there was a problem and was worried about him.  And the stink of it all - he was stone cold sober when he did it.  Needless to say I felt very betrayed and a whole host of other feelings.  I let him know that I knew about it, I didnt rage, scold or chastise.  He denied it despite the overwhelming evidence that proved otherwise.  I told him I could no longer talk to him about it and ended the conversation.  He kept calling me on the house phone or cell phone.  I would have taken the phones off the hook except I have a family member in the hospital and need to keep one open.  Each time I told him to stop calling and I didnt want to talk about it.  Each time I detached he got angrier and the remarks got nastier.  Again all this behavior he is stone cold sober.

 Lost my internet connection at home due to storms that hit 2 nights ago.  Really needed to hit the chatroom or meeting last night and couldn't get there.  It was to late to call anyone so I just threw my hands in the air and said I surrender.  It was enough to get me through the moment.  I see my husband's behavior for what it is - desperation.  The more I detach from him and dont engage in his BS the more stops he will pull until one of us breaks.  I accept it for what it is - the disease doing what the disease does.  It does not make it any easier to watch someone I love resort to these levels.  But it is what it is.  It is dealing with life on lifes terms.

Karen