Any info on DUI's? - Al-Anon Family Group

sdisnie · Senior Member

Any info on DUI's?

greta · Senior Member

Hi sdisnie,

Sorry to hear about his Dui. My only thought is the laws for dui differ from state to state. So what would happen here is Washington could be very different from what happens where you live. Take care of u. This too shall pass, and hopefully something good will come out of it.

Greta

Tiger2006 · ~*Service Worker*~

First off, I wouldn't judge him necessarily on how many times it takes him to re start his life. You're not his mother. As ideal as it is that he would be able to say "OMG! I can't believe I did that!" it doesn't happen. Secondly, as nice as it was that he made a year, there are people in AA who relapse after 25 years. The disease of alcholism is described as "cunning, baffling, powerful" simply because it keeps the person hostage until their passing.

Secondly, as was mentioned, DUI statutes vary jurisdiction to jurisdiction. Whatever the District Atty decides to do is not up to you and the fact that you're trying to get so much information tells me you're trying to prep for the worst. What if, instead, you started going to Al Anon meetngs? That way, no matter what happens to your husband, you don't have to worry about micromanaging everything. I can re assure you that at the al anon meetings in your area people understand the feeling of "I don't know if I can cope with my husband going to jail (Actually some of our members do have spouses in jail right now and for DUI too!, no I will not break their anonymoty). " Lastly, I think it might be behoove you to make sure you understand that your husband is being taken to task before the courts, not you. You and your husband are not the same person.

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lmt123 · Senior Member

sdisnie,

I can so relate to your situation! The laws are different in each state, so I can't tell you what to expect. I think Tiger and Greta gave you great info. Take care of yourself, and do what you have to do for yourself.

((((hugs))))

Kathi

jonibaloni · Veteran Member

...last I heard, a DUI in Canada is a felony...

is this correct?? I am a Yank..

Anyone here from Canada??

Jonibaloni

Shadow · Member

I don’t mean to be negative but brace your self for the worst thing ever. My A 2nd one in 10 years we are still going through litigation 9 months later. Get a good Lawyer and try to get it reduced to reckless driving it won’t be easy it is very expensive. My A is stupid enough to do it again I’m sure. I have a friend her A had 3 he went to Jail. Good luck I know how hard it is.

serenity62 · Veteran Member

Hi, Sorry to hear about your husbands dui charge, i dont know where you live but my husband is going through same thing he goes to court in sept for his 2nd dui in 2 yrs, 1st time he got $1000.00 fine and 1 yr loss of licence, 2nd time you can get anywhere from 2-5 yrs loss of licence and alot bigger fine, geezzzzz some people never learn eh, and yes we all pay for their mistakes, btw he lives in montreal canada....

hope4 · Newbie

-- Edited by hope4 at 17:15, 2006-08-05

shadow1 · Senior Member

Yep Joni your right it is a felony in Canada. It all depends on the judge if you get jail time or not. I know that the fines are steep.

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