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talked to a sober husband last night and this morning.He has joined AA and has a sponser.He sounds better than he has in a long time.I know better than to get my hopes up too high but I hope for his sake,my sake,and our childrens sake this helps.I miss the man I married and want him home again.But I know I cant go back to the old way of life. thank you for listening.
Great news Allison - not only is he choosing to pursue HIS recovery, at least at this time, but it also gives you the opportunity to pursue yours!! Your ultimate serenity does not have to be 100% tied to whether or not he drinks again - and that isn't always clear to us....
"He's either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do""
Take care of you...
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
That's excellent advice! It's hard to actually do the work to take care of ourselves! It's so true what you said! I've struggled with my own recovery for years, but I am hopeful that I'll come to be able to live more for myself and children and get myself out of living in the past. My Ex is still struggling with his addictions and I'm now doubtful that he will ever recover. He has lost everything..... He continues to live for his alcohol and drugs. It's the only thing that numbs his pain.
I'm trying to move on, but I still think about everything that happened (over the years) every day... I still struggle with depression. I want my life back! I am going to start taking better care of myself. That's the best gift I can give myself and my children. They hurt too. The only thing I can do is show them that life can get better and we can all move on no matter what their father chooses to do with his life. It's hard because they love him no matter what, no matter how much he has hurt me or them.... they love him. It's unfortunate though because I can't talk to them at all about anything. They are still way too sensitive about what has happened to our little family. It's been broken up due to the drugs, the alcohol, the lies, deception, what an ugly mess.
I'm trying to move on. You all have such good advice. Thank you!
