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I found out that I am pregnant and due March 05, 2007. I am a little excited, but mostly terrfied. I can't think of a more irresponsible thing to do. My oldest daughter lives with her dad, I can't afford the two that live with us. My husband is finally getting clean and working a wonderful program, but I don't know if he'll be able to keep a job. I'm resentful because everything is set up for me to go back to school full time in August and I may have to put that dream on hold again to go back to work. Plus, I'm 32 and entirely too old. My oldest two are half grown.
It sure doesn't seem like good timing, but I believe that you can still follow your dream. Believe it and you will Achieve it!!
I had my son when I was 35. He is 16 now, his sisters are 30 and 32..lol That child has been the light of my life in every way and I thank HP for him (and my daughters too) daily.
Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
You are never too old!! I'm 38 and raising my 3 year old son......and loving every minute of it!!! When I am overwhelmed, I try not to project and try to take it one day at a time. Also, I believe congratulations are in order!!!
congradulations!!! my best friend is 33 and just having her first. on purpose!! i don't think 32 is too old. in fact most of my friends have been in their 30ies having their first. i was one of the odd balls that started early (21). this baby must really want to be in this world otherwise you wouldn't be having her/him. how lucky you are to get another chance to love and be loved by a child. it is amazing how children change our world. good luck and lots of love!
I was 33, 35, and 38 when I had my sons. Never too old. Babies come when they want to come. I am a teacher and most of my students are parents. They keep motivated in school because of their kids.
I have had more than one friend have a baby in their late forties. One was fourty nine. dang i just cannot spell anymore.
Sure understand, but I sure hope you go back to school anyway. I guess I don't know how come ya have to go back to work. Is it becuz of insurance for the baby. You were going back to school, why stop now?
Day at a time. Things will work out. School is super important to you. There are jobs posted for students so maybe you can fit something in there. Also there are scholarships for women in circumstances like yours.
My daughter was in a rough situation, and I tell ya, I told her to keep the baby you won't be sorry. OMG she is the best mom. I just love it when she laughs at her tiny boy. I am so happy for her.
It will be ok, I promise it will. Allow this miracle to be part of your dream.
I could not have one and I really wanted one more when my kids were not in the house anymore and had not been for a few years.
But now I am loving being a grama...hugs and really it will be ok and believe me, most of us could not afford our kids, but what bigger blessing is there thank kids?? Even when they are teens.
It was meant to happen, and since it did hp will provide exactly what you need for you and your baby. I believe that every child born was meant to be born to the parents they have. God bless you. IF you were brought to it you will be brought through it. Take care, Congradulations, enjoy this pregnancy if its your last. A blessing in disguise.
kerry
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Life can only be understood backwards, But it must be lived forwards
Things happen for a reason. HP has a plan and this baby is part of it. A new beginning? I was 34 when my youngest was born. She is 19 now and keeps me young :). I also have a new g-son. He is awesome. We can learn so much from babies. Take care of yourself powerless and congrats.
My Mom and Dad had me at 40, my older brother was 13. Yes they were doing it when it wasn't quite as accepted, but I think it kept them young and still is wanting to see the grandchildren grow up.
There are always two ways to look at things. Don't put blinders on and get tunnel vision. You have been trusting your HP for months now, don't give up on that now.
As the child of older parents, just don't withhold the legos and lincoln logs cause you don't want to pick them up, kids never foget. I was crushed when they bought them for my boys! They claim they don't remember me asking for them. I said they were on my Christmas list for 10 years!!! LOL
Josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
(((powerless))))) well, look at it this way, THIS child will have a mommy and daddy who are in programs, and learning, and can teach them so much, from birth. That is so cool. A little Ala-babe!
When I found out I was expecting my daughter, I was 21, married to a nut case, who wouldn't work, who just had totaled our car the week before and had a nervous breakdown and was in a mental hospital. We owed so much money cos he wrote bad checks, wouldn't work, etc. It was awful. After he got out of the hospital, I put him on a bus out of Wichita back to Ohio where his family was. I was living with my mom, no job, no car, no insurance, etc. The day after he left, I went to my family Dr. who had treated me since I was 7. Told him about the bad breakup, etc. and told him my period had been kinda weird. He did a pregnancy test. Called 3 days later (these things took time way back then) and confirmed I WAS. OMG! Didn't know what to do. Told my mom when she came in from work, she tossed her purse across the living room, then stayed in her room and cried for the rest of the night.
I felt so bad. Hadn't even thought about a baby yet......but I didn't believe in abortion, I just couldn't do that, although several people offered that as a solution. People said to give it up. I knew I couldn't do that either....
Long story: he and I got back together, things got worse. I had the baby. Things got even worse. I moved to Ohio with him, and left him 6 months later. I stayed in Ohio, but all my family is in Kansas. Didn't want to go home "with my tail between my legs," since my whole family hated him. And they had been right all along. Eventually, I got friends, a job, with a little government help we got an apartment. I had the most beautiful little blonde baby girl who I loved with all my being, and we were just fine. She never did have to see that piece of crap I had been married to, either. She just turned 30, and is the light of my life, still. She's my only child and I shudder to think what my life would have been with if I had listened to some people. I would have denied the world of this talented, beautiful, loving woman who was once my little baby. I must also mention that I am an ACOA, and in spite of my often times chaotic life, my daughter was always on the top of my list, and she turned out fantastic, in spite of me!
Trust in yourself, trust HP. Let hubby work his program. Talk to your other kids, and keep them as close to you as you can. Teach them what you know, and they will be stronger, better people for it. There must be some reason this new little soul has been invited to join your family!
Congratulations !! I agree, your HP doesnt make mistakes.. He has a plan, trust ... !! I had my children very young and now that I am 38 I think i would be a much SMARTER Mom..
Enjoy this time, you may never experience this time again...
