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My husband and I have been separated for six months now and for the most part, I'm doing well. It's the times that he plays with the money that get to me. He hasn't paid any of the temporary alimony or child support he agreed to since April. I get so upset when I fall into the old traps.... believing him when he says he's going to pay me, feeling disappointed and duped when he doesn't. I've become very good about not putting up with his verbal abuse and protect myself from a lot of his tricks, but I guess this is my weak spot.
I'm believing more and more that associating with an alcoholic is a sure-fire way to set yourself up for disappointment. Are they ever capable of being honest? I have a friend who is a recovering A and have slowly realized he's not a lot different than my soon to be ex. Broken promises, games.... I still believe that they say things with the best intentions, but for whatever reason, can't seem to follow through. Just wears me out. I'm just thankful that I have a lot of other people in my life I know I can count on.
Thanks for letting me vent. Feeling a little down today....
I totally understand and am actually going through the exact same thing with childsupport from my ex-A. He hasn't been in his daughters life since she was 2...she's 13 now. He has paid 100 bucks since then.....Attorney General finally has an address on him and we went to court. He told me at court that he would do anything to make it better and be a part of our little girls life so that was back in October. We have recieved a few child support checks for under 40 bucks a week and that is it! So, I know how it feels to be fooled. I was fooled into believing that he would follow thru..I even went to my husband and had all of these high hopes to have him back in our lives for my daughter's sake. Unfortunately sick people think they can do the right thing but fall short because they are sick...bottom line. I will never trust him again unless he has some sobriety under his belt but for now I am going back to court to see if I can get back child support that I so genorously waived because I he promised me he would make a new start...Right! He owes 30 thousand.
I have learned to depend on my own income and his as extra cash if it ever swings back my way....sorry you are going through this..
Hello finding , well ugot a few things figured out anyway , lower your expectations and you will be just fine, u say your doing ok with out him hold that thought . Instead of dealing with him once court order I believe the court will pursue him for you . try contacting them and find out what u can. Here they take the money from his pay and send it directly to mom . good luck
