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>>i thought this was a pretty cool thing on step eleven....i took parts of it, and i gave MY esh in the colored type
It took me many years in Al-Anon to get to StepEleven, the "prayer and meditation" step. When Ifinally got there, after wrestling with Steps Fourthrough Ten, Step Eleven became my spiritual oasis.Working it made my life a kinder, gentler one.
>>>>>>>>>.wow, i should feel good, than cuz i am at the "surrender to the LIGHT stage" where i am giving over my **conditions** (what i feel is blocking / depriving me from feeling healthy/ abundent/ love/ self expression)..and i give them to the LIGHT AS i ask for the "divine right action in my life" that way i am not asking for something that is not attainable for me, or not good for me.......i am READY to give over my defects and my unhappy conditions for **divine right action".......
During my time in Al-Anon, I went through a divorce from my husband.. I feltlonely living alone. Although I did not miss myhusband's alcoholic behavior, I missed him. Throughthe prayer and meditation of Step Eleven, I becameless lonely, less uncomfortable being single. Living onmy own felt like less of a burden because I couldrelax and allow myself to be enveloped by thecomforting presence of a Power greater than myself.
>>>>>>>>>>and yeah, i too felt lonely living alone....i don't miss the abuse i suffered at the hands of parents, siblings, Ex's, but i DO miss hugs, healthy touching, COMPANIONSHIP....... being single i, am just "making friends" with it....accepting it......i mean the serenity prayer is the ONLY prayer that really makes any sense to me..........."peace to ACCEPT what i cannot change........................" so TODAY i am by myself with noone in my life, not even family near me, so TODAY i work to release me from the angst/ frustration of it and to accept it TODAY, becuz i don't know what tomorow may bring....maybe the situation will change, maybe only i will change........ the spiritualness is , of course, comforting, but even creator saw that adam living alone was "not good".....so who knows???? i am living for TODAY....making the best of TODAY........i can't do life more than one day at a time........
Through prayer and meditation, I developed awarm and comforting relationship with God as I understand Him. Sitting still gave me time to listento myself. I sat quietly and explored my mind andheart.
>>>>>>>>>>i don't know as yet my "relationship" with creator, but i feel spirit when i am alone and can manage to QUIET me down.....SLOW me down, and CLEAR my mind of the "junk" so i can receive the signals from the other side........... i need to / AM training me to SIT STILL......QUIET down......so i can **listen**.......
The prayer and meditation suggested in StepEleven helped me hear my Higher Power's voicewithin. Prayer and meditation helped me know myselfand in so doing helped me discern my Higher Power's will for my life.
>>>>>>>>>>>prayer and meditation for me is quieting down and letting the spirit within me communicate with me.....i just present my *conditions* or i "cast the burden of....................to the LIGHT and i go free to have/do............." and ask for divine action in my life........thats about it.........i call it "aligning me with the REAL plan for my life" i must get rid of the confusion that what happend to me had ANYthing to do with the divine plan of my life.....i mean really--- "HELLOOOO rosie.......NO creator is gonna want *that* for U"........i am slowly being able to separate the HP of good from the darkness i had in my past......also i am doing the visualizations of my aligning me with the LIGHT becuz the darkness ABSOLUTELY cannot withstand or stick around a spirit aligning itself with the LIGHT
I never, ever need to be alone. All I need to do ismake conscious contact with God as I understand Him. "When we turn to God, we find He has been.... ..... facing us all the time."
>>>>>>>>>>>> well, i am ALONE, but less LONELY....there is a diference.....humans NEED touching/ holding/ play/ cavorting and communication......i don't care WHO says otherwise.....we are social animals and do not thrive well w/out companionship, but as i am still having to live without it i am assuming it is becuz i need more work on me b4 i can get to the next step...so what do i do???? i have my pets, and i work on ME......sometimes i get tired of "working on me" and would rather share, but i am making the best of my current situation....trying to make "friends with it" rather than fight and resist it.....what else can i do???? except work on loving and accepting me so i CAN MAYBE and i say MAYBE draw companionship to me.....either way, if nothing changes i know one thing i CAN change and that is ME.........thank U, rosie
Thanks for this thread & what you wrote. I agree we aren't designed to be alone; we do need time to know/develop ourselves & we attract people where we are at our own level and in infinite intelligence, to help us grow & challenge us.
You sound like you're doing great! Hugs & kudos...
What do I think about st 11? If I were doing it more often, I'd be a lot happier.
Love, -Kitty of Light
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
learning to sit down, shut up and listen is a very hard thing to teach yourself to do if you a person in this program. We are fixers and screamers! But if we can get to step 11 we can do anything. Taking that time to ourselves is very hard and must be scheduled until it becomes second nature, and there will be slips there too in our program, we just have to get back on track.
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
