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Hi everyone...more crap for me to vent about.quick history...my active A husband has been gone 7 months.we have 4 children and he gives me no money..infact he has cost me money...credit card bills..income tax debts etc. he has been living with his brother and he finally had enough and left the apt. and moved in with his girl friend.my husband stayed in the apt. but hasn`t paid any rent or utilities(his bro was footing the bill) he has been getting eviction notices for awhile.he has been coming over to visit us while sober (my rules) but always seems to pick a fight with me so he can leave...I`m sure so he can drink.
He calls me at work today and gives me a sob story about how they are putting all his belongings on the front lawn of the apt. complex.and he will have to go to a shelter.I feel sorry for him like I always do and tell him to put what he can in his truck and bring it to my house so no one steals it..I also tell him he can stay with us if he doesn`t drink..either until he finds a place or he stays sober and we work things out.he says ok...i`ll call u right back,this was about 9 am.2pm rolls around so i call him to see whats going on.he says he is watching people take his belongings...blah blah blah i said how come you didn`t bring them to my house? he said the only reason i`m letting him come home is because of my own selfish reasons!! I said no it`s because I do love you and dont want to see u homeless...hes like okay..let me grab my stuff and I`ll call u when I`m on my way.that was 6 hours ago. I`m angry but also worried about him but I will not break down and call him...I`m even wondering if he made the whole thing up to get my sympathy...he lies all the time
thanks for listening..u guys always make me feel better
Hello alison , games people play and nothing changes until someone changes. If we keep doing for them what they should be doing for themselves why should they change.
Allowing them the dignity to live thier lives the way they choose is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. Everyone has a bottom and when we keep rescuing them they loose the gift of finding it. I knew that but was so hard to not rescue.
I understand your dilema but don't set yourself up for dissapointment drinking is what A's do . aking him to not drink while living in yor home is almost impossible for him to keep a promise like that. Accept him the way he is or not. good luck Louise
