The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I want to share something with everyone and I don't really even want any replies. I promise I will not ever provide another post on this board that is not a cry for help or ESH.
I participate in several very high volume boards for one of my hobbies. It was a wonderful place where you could get true expert advise from all over the world. Many times if you ask a question about something there the person who invented/manufactures it will answer you.
Out of the 30,000 registered users, there are 10 or less people who have credit for 50% of the posts these days. They are stirring up sh*t and griping at each other with threads that are 200 posts long.
People read their posts because it is controversial. But the only reason they post is because they know someone will jump in and argue with them. It is hard to even find any meaningful information by searching that board anymore.
In my opionion, if someone posts something on the board for the sole purpose of stiring the pot, I will not reply to it. You can call it detatchment if that fits. Or simple read it as "If you want to fight with yourself, go ahead .... but I am not going to play."
I am here because I am having issues dealing with a disease and I am trying not to let it destroy my family and my life. This board and it's members have made a profound difference in my life.
This is what I am going to do to try and keep it that way.
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
i can see where i need MORE step work and MORE "keep focus on me" work, cuz i did, for a while, get sucked into the "bs" drama.......
the good news is, i am aware and i accept and i am making amends to me by talking with my co-sponser about it and working MY program and being watchful that i "keep the focus on me"...........
Yep... all you have to do is look at the number of reads that controversial posts get, and it is obvious that human nature is fully in place here... As good Al-Anons, we are sometimes drawn to controversy and roller-coaster types of 'excitement'. It has been my experience, in all the boards I have ever participated in, that things go along calmly for weeks or months at a time - then we get a blip of controversy - then back to "normal" once again...
I like it when we get back to why we are here - learning, growth, and recovery.
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
I have noticed a change on the boards as well. I have made a few posts myself that I did in the beginning of the program when I was angry, hurt, and didn't fully understand the program. For me the program brings out the good in me I had lost. For that I will forever be grateful to the program and all those that have been kind to me, and helped me over the first few rough months I had. I have also enjoyed your posts. I hope that you continue to post. I love looking threw my "eyes" for the first time. I am finding an honest and happy heart is the only way I want to live my life. My HP is a very personal journey for me only one I can take. I love everyone here. I see everyone with the same kind of love. So I too have detached.
I sure do hate the game-playing too, rtexas. After so many wasted years of fighting with A's, I am finally on my road of recovery.
Guess it must be human nature to be so interested in the "trainwreck" posts. Sometimes, I find myself doing that (reading them first), also. Sometimes, I just hope to be able to offer those people some ESH. But I need to be careful, cos some of them can make me start to think "well, my life isn't as bad as THEIR'S is!", which in turn can make me slack off on my own issues, which are many.
I also have looked back thru a few of my old ones. I have progressed, but am not perfect, and never will be. But I am enjoying every minute of the journey with all of you. I am truly blessed to have this fellowship right at my fingertips 24 hours a day.
Thanks for posting RT! Your words brought home a saying I have been trying to get my mind to accept lately ... Do not mistake intensity for intimacy ... kind of like having a word of the day, this gave me a place to put it to use
